#graysexuality

[scretladyspider]

#lgbtqia #queer #asexual #asexuality #demisexuality #graysexual #gray ace #graysexuality #aromantic #aromanticism #demiromantic #grayromantic #greyromantic #aroace #Twitter #text

[goalieprotectionsquad]

happy pride month from your neighborhood gray!! I forget that asexuality has been severely misrepresented and that a lot of people don’t actually know what it is as a result so here is an overview of what asexuality is, what it’s not, and how acephobic is represented. there is so much more to asexuality than just this. I didn’t even mention the medicalization of asexuality! 

I highly rec scretspiderlady on Twitter because she writes a lot about the ace experience and has many comprehensive threads. I also rec Yasmin Benoit, a Black aroace lingerie model who is fighting misinformation about asexuality and shedding light on racism within the asexual community. if you’re interested in more resources feel free to dm me!

EDIT: I updated the slide that refers to asexuality as “aspec” to “acespec.” The term aspec refers to the a community as a whole -- both asexuals and aromantics -- while acespec refers to the asexual spectrum and arospec referes to the aromantic spectrum. You can see this mirrored in the terms acephobia (experienced by aces), arophobia (experienced by aros), and aphobia (experienced by both aces and aros). Thank you to those of you who tagged this post with their correction!

EDIT 2: now with a text-only option!

#asexuality #graysexuality #demisexuality #asexual #graysexual #demisexual #happy pride #pride month #if you are being a jerk i will block you #I have better things to do than pay attention to your hateful rhetoric #ace people are queer get over it #it won't let me add alt text #I am REALLY sorry

[sol9221]

Being graysexual is cool and all until you find an exception to your general-asexual-ness™ and you do not know what to do with yourself so you just ✨️panic✨️

#help #what do i do #graysexual #graysexuality #asexual #asexuality #ace spec #ace struggles #lgbtq

[the-kingshound]

I am looking forward to that conversation with Yniol so much. You know it's going to be the catalyst required for Yniol/Hound to begin their relationship.

I can see Yniol pouring their heart out. This is who I am, this is how I am. And when they stop speaking they'll wait. For the pin to drop. For history to repeat itself.

But all my Hound will say/sign is, "Okay."

Now obviously that's not all they'll say. They'll want to know what Yniol is comfortable with. Their boundaries. Dos and Donts.

But Yniol doesn't register that. Everything after, "Okay," is lost on them because... this isn't how it usually goes? They're... being accepted for who they are? They're stunned. Speechless.

Perhaps it won't be the starting point for their romance, but after some tentative flirting, Yniol will talk about it if something has them anxious or in need to bring it up.

While Yniol will be put at ease, they also have some lingering anxiety still. Because a partner they had also said they'd be alright with it and wait, but then got increasingly frustrated by Yniol when they just couldn't give them what they wanted.

#yniol #graysexuality

[aroaceineveryplace]

“I’m just saying, you might be into dudes but also demisexual, which means you need emotional connection to feel sexual attraction. Or you might be demiromantic or graysexual or-" He cringes. “I don’t know if the specific label is important to me.” “It doesn’t have to be,” she says, “and you’re not obligated to figure it out, or come out, or explain yourself to anyone, ever. But also” – she drops her hands from their spectrum and tucks an arm around his shoulder – “labels can be nice sometimes. They can give us a language to understand ourselves and our hearts better. And they can help us find a community and develop a sense of belonging. I mean, if you didn’t have the correct label for your OCD, you wouldn’t be able to get the treatment you need, right?

From "The Charm Offensive" by Alison Cochrun

#quotes #The Charm Offensive #charlie winshaw #canon aspec #books #asexual aspectrum #aromantic spectrum #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #aromanticism #demisexuality #demisexual #graysexual #graysexuality

[hoofibou]

#art #digital art #pride #pride month #pride 2023 #lgbt #pride month 2023 #day 22 #graysexual #graysexuality #nexo knights #lego nexo knights #lego #ava prentis #ava nexo knights #nexo knights ava

[misplaced-misfit-in-the-void]

Can I even be acespec if i have this random hypersexuality out of nowhere?

Can i even be graysexual?

I don't think so.

#acespec #graysexual #graysexuality #hypersexuality #venting

[ichayalovesyou]

Gray-Ace/Sex Repulsed SNW Spock: Feeling Seen as a Graysexual Man 💜🖤🤍

Spock being gray-asexual and sex repulsed/neutral is basically 100% canon at this point thanks to Strange New Worlds, there’s very little denying it. And! I am SO happy!!

We never get talked about, especially not us ace dudes, and certainly not on-screen! I feel so goddamn seen by SNW Spock in this regard it’s kinda crazy.

Spock is out here RUNNING away from T’Pring, his own goddamn fiancé, because he’s not emotionally attracted to her enough and/or hasn’t known her long enough to be comfortable having sex with her for the most part. That absolutely tracks!

I mean, he’d rather cut his shore leave short to go help space dad than have obligatory highly logically commemorative engagement sex after T’Pring proposed to him! Even though he said yes! (Because he’s An Idiot 💕)

The one time they did do the deed was because they hit an emotional breakthrough understanding each other, or at least felt like they did. *cue Looking For Love (In All The Wrong Places)*

And even AFTER that, Spock NOPES the fuck out (complete with a tea spit take) when T’Pring brings up human sex stuff in Serene Squall. And they’re not even in person it’s a fucking Zoom call! 😂😂😂 They are SO not at all on the same page! Poor guy!! Chapel, Christine honey please help a guy out and tell him what asexuality is! Please! It’ll make things so much less painful for him for the love of gods!

If y’all think SNW’s Spock arc changed the fact that he canonically has an extreme aversion to sex (at the very least sex with T’Pring) I really don’t think we’ve been watching the same show??

The fundamental thing wrong with their relationship is Spock straight up doesn’t wanna have sex with her. But he has NO idea how to articulate it! That’s a BIG deal! And super relatable!! He’s doing literally everything else other than tell her he doesn’t like sex. He’s avoiding her through work, he has sex with her because it feels like he should, he cuts the most casual conversation about sex short because he’s uncomfortable!

Like, I have BEEN where Spock is right now, with so many relationships!! Some partners understood, some of them really, r e a l l y did not. And I didn’t know how to label it until a while after I started having serious adult relationships.

I also definitely know what it’s like to feel compelled by the expectations of your culture or partner or family to be more intimate with somebody than your ever going to be comfortable with. No matter how much you love or feel emotionally/physically/aesthetically attracted to them.

None of that is gonna change the fact that you Do Not Like Sex, you can experience sexual thoughts/desires and still dislike having sex! Spock is struggling the way a lot of people who fall on the ace spectrum do, myself included!

Anyway, Spock is and always has been ace and I am HERE for the queer representation, even if they aren’t saying it out loud 🖖🏻 (yet?)

#the sheer amount of aphobia Spock has received from even the aro/ace community has been fucking INSANE actually #the amount of aphobia I HAVE RECEIVED regarding my opinions on Ace Spock has been crazy #there’s not one universal kind of ace #Spock has always been sex repulsed #SNW has not changed that at all! #he’s just not completely unwilling to have sex if he feels attracted to a person (or feels like he should be attracted to them) #anyway #representation matters #queer representation #ace representation #ace spectrum #ace spectrum representation #asexual #graysexual #asexuality #graysexuality #sex repulsed #sex neutral #cw sex mention #star trek #spock #t’pring #nurse chapel #snw spock #strange new worlds #Star Trek strange new worlds #snw #Star Trek snw #spock amok #the serene squall

[actuallyasexuality]

A quick rundown on greysexuality

Greysexuality is a sexuality under the asexual umbrella. People who identify as greysexual will occasionally feel sexual attraction, or will only feel sexual attraction under certain circumstances.

The term can refer to anyone who isn't fully allosexual (someone who experiences sexual attraction), but does experience a level of sexual attraction. Most labels under the asexual umbrella fall under greysexuality, such as demisexuality.

The important thing to remember is that sexuality is a spectrum. Someone could experience sexual attraction 90% of the time and still identify as greysexual or ace. Someone could experience sexual attraction 10% of the time and still identify as greysexual or ace.

It is also important to remember that some people don't identify with the label and consider themselves allosexual, even if they fit "the guidelines" (for a lack of better terms) of being greysexual. This is just as valid!

#ace #ace pride #asexual #asexual pride #lgbtq #lgbtq pride #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #acespec #greysexuality #greysexual #graysexuality #graysexual

[scretladyspider]

the ideas that “libido and attraction can be separate and for many aces they are”, “aces who have and enjoy sex are still ace” and “aces who do not have sex and don’t want to shouldn’t be pressured” and “you should accept aces regardless of their sexual behavior” can and should coexist

#asexual #asexuality #demisexual #demisexuality #graysexual #graysexuality #ace #lgbtqia #lgbt #lgbtq #queer

[traceyshortfilm]

What is graysexuality? Learn quick facts here! ✨ We need your help to make our asexual short film! Our crowdfunding campaign link is here 💖 Consider supporting ace stories in honor of Pride Month! 🏳️‍🌈

#asexual #asexuality #ace #acememes #acepride #acespec #lgbt #acespectrum #allies #ally #pride month #pride 2023 #pride month 2023 #grayace #greyace #graysexual #graysexuality #greysexual #greysexuality

[peaceandlovepanda]

Me last night at 3 am: I'm definitely allo. yeah I'm just like. a weak flavor of allo. but I'm allo. I'm allo-ing it up in here. I'm attracted to one person, my boyfriend who I knew for years before I started falling in love with him because he is my literal soulmate, and I feel happy and fond when I see a boy who reminds me of my boyfriend, which must be sexual attraction. I am 100% allo-ing it up here. This is definitely too allo to be ace.

My demiromanticism and gray-asexuality, leaning against a wall tiredly together: Wow it's almost like there's a word for this haha

#every time #memes #asexual memes #asexual culture #asexuality #allosexuality #questioning culture #graysexuality #demiromantic #asexual #asexual stuff

[lilacbestpurple]

“If we get rid of greysexuality, then what can people call themselves when questioning if they’re asexual or not?”

💜🖤💜QUESTIONING💜🖤💜

#my words #ace #asexual #asexuality #ace discourse #asexual discourse #greysexual #greysexuality #the spelling of questioning looks weird when you focus on it #although i guess that’s true of any word #update: oh glad this was (relatively) popular!! #graysexual #graysexuality

[the-kingshound]

Yes! Yniol is getting the spotlight for a bit, and I thrive on it.

I do have some concerns tho as my MC is highly touchy (touchstarved in this case lmao) and has a high libido, plus I'm interested in her romancing Yniol.

On to the questions: What level of physical touch is Yniol comfortable with? Are toys a thing in this setting?

I mean, there probably are no Bad Dragon level toys but yk. She's perfectly fine with taking care of her libido by herself, she's used to it (no shade to the soldiers she bedded)

Yess Yniol deserves it🥺

Yniol is someone who, outside of caring gestures or to help someone, doesn't tend to initiate touch that much. However, it doesn't mean they don't enjoy it. They are more than fine with touchy people (Evaine) or flirty people (Gwyar). It's just that the way they get back the affection in those gestures is through words or acts of service (which is they way to show love).

In fact, the Hound can get flirt options in which they will have physical touch with Yniol and some of them in particular can get Yniol very flustered and/or soft.

Yniol is also ok with cuddles and intimate touch. They just feel the need for sexual intimacy very very rarely. But they aren't sex repulsed, and in fact thry are completely fine with their partner taking care of their sexual needs by themself. Gwyar/Yniol isn't a poly that will be featured in game, but it can easily work even if Yniol is graysexual and Gwyar has a high libido because, just as your MC, Gwyar is comfortable in taking care of their needs by themself while on the other side enjoying the tender intimate moments with Yniol.

Edit: yes, toys are a thing in this game!

#ask #yniol #graysexuality

[rainbowqueernation]

Drapeau Graysexuel. L'Asexualité est un spectre dans lequel on retrouve ce qu'on appelle "greysexuality" ou "graysexuality". C'est un aspect de L'asexualité où la personne qui ne s'identifie pas totalement à L'Asexualité telle qu'elle est définie. Une personne greysexuelle peut être sex repulsed, neutre ou sex positive. Ces personnes peuvent experimenter une expérience, une attirance sexuelle de manière occasionnelle dans leur vie et donc ne pas vouloir s'identifier complètement à L'asexualité. Description photo: Photo 1 : bracelet tressé, motif de rayures qui reprennent les couleurs du drapeau graysexuel plusieurs fois de suite. Photo 2 : drapeau graysexual, 5 bandes horizontales, couleurs allant de haut en bas : violet, gris, blanc, gris, violet. #LGBTQIA #asexual #asexuality #asexuel #asexualité #greysexual #graysexual #graysexuel #graysexuality #graysexualité https://www.instagram.com/p/ClTrNSXDKAQ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#lgbtqia #asexual #asexuality #asexuel #asexualité #greysexual #graysexual #graysexuel #graysexuality #graysexualité

[whotfishazel]

Mirrorasexual

Mirrorasexual (shortened to mirror-ace or otherwise known as reflectoasexual/reflecto-ace) is a term on the asexual spectrum used to describe those whose sexual orientation mirrors someone around them. Examples of those people could be:

-a romantic/alterous/platonic crush

-an idol e.g. a singer or actor

For instance, if the crush identifies as allosexual, the mirror-ace person will also identify as allosexual. However, if the person was asexual, the mirror-ace person would also identify as asexual. If the mirror-ace individual decides to stop mirroring someone, they may revert to another identity on the spectrum, such as demisexual or graysexual.

It is similar to but should not be confused with reciprosexual.

The romantic counterpart is mirroraromantic.

If someone is both mirrorasexual and mirroraromantic, they may wish to identify as mirrorarose.

#flag coining #coining terms #coining post #lgbtq+ #asexual #a spec #coined by me #coining #mirror #mirrorasexual #Asexuality #Demisexuality #Graysexuality #ace spectrum #ace #new flag #new identity #new sexuality #rose #sexuality #mirroring #Lgbt #lgbtq #queer