#a spec

[hope-and-a-dream]

shoutout to all the aromantics that fought to accept themselves, shout-out to all the aromantics that had to tear down their own biases, shout out to all the aromantics who still have a hard time accepting yourselves. You are all so incredible and amazing, and I am mentally hosting a tea party to give all of you tiny sandwiches.

#aromantic #aro #a spec #Aroace #1k #2k

[theacecouple]

It's official! We got the state of Kansas to formally recognize Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week this year!

February 18-24, 2024 DON'T YOU FORGET!

#aromantic #aromanticism #aro #aspec #a-spec #a spec #aro spec #arospec #ASAW #aromantic spectrum awareness week #asaw 2024 #aromantic spectrum awareness week 2024 #kansas #governor laura kelly #laura kelly #proclamation #ksleg #aromantic pride #aro pride #aro positivity #aromantic positivity #aro community #aromantic community #aroace #aromantic asexual

[batri-jopa]

I love my life highly satisfied just being myself

(Female version here)

#okey so as my 'I love myself' post is the most popular thing on my blog (500 notes already yet still growing and it's wild😆) #I decided to make a male version just in case anybody needed it😉 #anyone having more idea - pls go ahead and tell me I'd love to make it a happy queer series! it doesn't need to be aspec only😉 #aroace #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual #aromantism #asexuality #aspec #a spec #a spectrum #aroace positivity #aro ace #queer #queer positivity #(I'm most probably only shooting myself in the foot giving two similar pictures but who knows where it may lead) #2K

[the-great-kraken]

if you see a male character kiss a male character, you assume they are gay.

if you see a female character kiss a female character, you assume they are a lesbian.

if you hear a character say they don't feel like their gender, you assume they are trans.

so why do a-spec characters have to jump through so many loops?

a character saying they've never had a crush or don't want a relationship or that they don't understand romantic love is so often ignored or used as fodder for other queer or autistic headcanons (reinforcing stereotypes that aroace people are secretly gay or always autistic)

why is it that our stories are always "up to interpretation"? why do we have to wait for the words aromantic or asexual to be said to be taken seriously? why is it that even when characters say they don't want relationships, fans will scream and cry about sex/romance favourable aspecs and qprs?

when it comes to gay and trans characters, even the likes of bisexual lighting is often treated as though it canonises their sexuality. for aroace characters, even the most explicit coding possible is swept under the rug in favour of other "interpretations"

i'm so tired of fighting for representation just to have it ignored and minimised by fans. let characters be aroace. please.

#obviously there are a ton of circumstances where the qpr and sex/romance favourable is completely fine #but when characters explicity say they dont have sex or dont want relationships it feels so hollow #fandom is fandom and there is nothing i can do to stop you shipping or writing smut or headcanoning or whatever #but please just think it through. the characters aren't real but there are so many geniunely harmful ideas doing stuff like this reinforces #rhi rambles #aroace #aromantic #asexual #a-spec #a spec #aspec #aro #ace #aspec representation #asexual representation #aromantic representation #lgbtq+ #queer

[snakeskinass]

#asexual #asexuality #aspec community #aspec #aspec stuff #a spec #a spectrum #aroace #aromantic #arospec #aromantism #lgbtq #lgbtqa #lgbtqia #lgbt pride #lgbtq community #lgbtqplus #cupiosexual #demisexual #orchidsexual #garlic bread

[pet-shop-of-horror-fan]

Sure you're sex positive but are you normal about aroallos?

#queer #aromantic #aromisia #allosexual #allo #aro spec #sex positive #a spec #aroallo

[daybreaksys]

Aroace protagonist who is told only a true love kiss can revert the curse that is going to kill them and spend a myriad of adventures, never finding such true love kiss.

At the brink of their death, alone, they apologise for themself for always pushing themself so harshly, never caring for nor being gentle with themself and say to a mirror "I am sorry it took me this long to realise it, and I promise that for these last seconds, I finally love you"

They kiss themself on the arm and their learned self-love breaks the curse.

#writing prompts #writing prompt #writing #prompt #prompts #aroace #arospec #aromantic #aro #ace #asexual #asexuality #aromanticism #aspec #a spec #self love #self care

[aya-corolla]

#alloace #aroallo #alloaro #aceallo #ace #aro #aromantic #asexual #aroace #arospec #acespec #aro meme #aro memes #ace memes #ace meme #a spec #aspec #queer #lgbtq #lgbt

[acelor-acetaylorswift]

Sending love to all my aroaces who don't feel like they fit in anywhere. Who are tired of virgin jokes and "you'll never get laid" being used as a dig. Who feel inferior when friends and coworkers get engaged while knowing you don't want to. Who struggle between wanting the peace that comes with accepting oneself and feeling the pressure that comes from a world that seems to revolve around sex and relationship status.

Sending love and cake to all my aroaces who just wanna live their lives on their terms without harassment. Who are tired of seeing an autonormative narrative pushed on everyone. Stand strong. Listen to yourself. Protect yourself when you need to.

Sending cake to all my aroaces who have found non-traditional forms of love that others don't understand and invalidate. To those who have been swept up in a love not quite romantic that you can't explain to anyone...and that not even the person you love understands. So they shut you out.

The more we talk about a-spec, the more we help people who have found themselves stuck in a system they don't feel comfortable with. The more we validate all sorts of attraction and relationships so people can become more comfortable with and respectful of relationships beyond romantic ones, potentially adding health to each by not relying on romantic relationships to fulfill them.

I think a-spec awareness is important, and that the concepts within the community can help people beyond the A-spec. And I see people who aren't attracted to others and don't get that asexuality and aromanticism are a thing. Or hate themselves for not being "normal". I want to help these people.

We may get pushed out of the LGBTQIA community and laughed at by the autonormative community, but let's keep spreading awareness and acceptance.

#asexuality #asexual #aroace #a spec #aromantic spectrum #aromantic #pride

[aroace-and-has-a-mace]

so tired of ”character has no shown romantic/sexual interest in anyone, so clearly they’re gay!”

if someone shows no romantic/sexual interest, maybe consider THE IDENTITY THAT MEANS THAT instead of this!

(no offense to people who headcannon characters as gay, i’m just annoyed at amatonormativity today)

#aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #aromantic asexual #i’m petty and aroace #a spec #a-spec

[sleepii-freddie]

Shoutout to all the a-specs who don't want or need friends (or contacts in general) 💚💜

#sleepyfred rambles #aromantic #pride #aroace #asexual #aro #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #ace #aspec #acespec #aromantic asexual #aromantism #a spec #asexuality #apl #aplatonic #loveless #loveless aro #loveless aromantic #aplspec

[treasureguardingdragon]

i wish there were more stories that used typically romantic tropes in a platonic manner

fake dating, but its just two mates who find it hilarious that everybody thinks they’re into each other

only one bed, and its two emotionally inept people who end up cuddling and get very embarrassed in the morning that they actually have human feelings

soulmates, because YES they can be soulmates without falling in love and getting married, but just be friends or queerplatonic partners instead??

love triangle but its just three aroace ppl pretending to have crushes, and they all end up mates instead

#this is not merlin based #what a miracle #but technically it’s because i ship queerplatonic merthur soooo #and just generally my thoughts around merthur #idk lmao #do ppl actually agree with this or am i just #a spec #aroace #ace spec #arospec #aromantic

[batri-jopa]

Growing up as aromantic / asexual:

In my childhood and adolescence

After 10 years of desensitization by watching popular media...

...and after few months on Tumblr

I did not even realize how much fed up I already was with all the cisheteronormative couples struggling with stereotypical "gender roles" dilemmas, "traditional family" conflicts and "social expectations" of patriarchal world...

I mean how many times can you watch the same issues over and over again when none of it ever was part of your own not-partnering single life in the first place?

#I needed disgusted-Miguel-reaction-meme but it turns out nobody did a meme out of this scene before??? so I did it myself #asexual #aromantic #arospec #acespec #aro ace #aroace #aspec #a spectrum #a spec #sex repulsed #sex positive #romance repulsed #romance positive #miguel coco #coco miguel #miguel reaction meme #reaction meme

[lyynpop]

once again here to appreciate the a-spec/polyamorous solidarity. absolutely adore our collective middle finger to amanormativity and toxic monogamy it's so sexy and cool of us

#me and my bestie living proof of this bond #aromantic #aro #asexual #aroace #ace #polyamory #polyamourous #aspec #a spec #relationship anarchy #nonmonogamy #non monogomous

[that-siege]

Dear younger a-spec folks,

I'm not ancient by any means, but I do see a lot of teens and twenty-somethings on here posting about being a-spec and not being sure they should have posted it. Or saying they'll probably delete it in the morning.

And I just want to say, as someone in their mid-thirties who had very little support in all of this, and finally feels comfortable for the first time in their life embracing being aroace - you give me so much life and hope.

When I was a kid, platforms like this were not a thing.

So when I had one now ex-friend literally tell me that I made him feel uncomfortable because "a lack of attraction is inhuman," I felt inhuman.

Or when my mother constantly prodded at me about relationships and sex, or called me a prude, I saw that as a failing on my part.

Or when my friends thought it was hilarious when I was obviously uncomfortable as they described things I did not want to think about, I thought they were in the right, I figured I must just be humorless.

Or when people suggested my lack of engagement with the concept of love made me a psychopath, I thought that must be true too.

I had no one who understood how I felt so I assumed I must be wrong, and I tried so hard to fit in and say the right things, and date and be in relationships that were all inevitably doomed to fail.

I spent too much of my life thinking I was some sort of monster.

And looking at all your posts now, I really wish that very lonely girl and eventually very lonely young woman had had access to all of your incredible posts about being a-spec.

So in conclusion, when you post and aren't sure you should speak up, please keep speaking up. There is nothing wrong with us, and I am so thankful every time your posts come across my dash.

They mean the world to me.

And you never know if your post is going to be the one that makes someone realize that they get to be human too.

#a-spec #a spec #aroace #aro #ace #asexual #aromantic #my text posts #this is a bit of a ramble #but I hope it’s coherent #aspec

[fandomsupremacist]

Part 3 of aegosexual memes

Also, I just want to say that I'm SO grateful honestly 😭😭 the support for the aegosexual posts has been crazy. Anyway, guys, this is part 3 of some lovely aegosexual memes for you bitchless fuckin bitches out there 💟💟💟 enjoy! 🥹

#aegosexual memes #aegoaroace #asexuality #asexual awareness week #aegosexual #ageosexuality #ha ha funny #memes #tumblr fyp #tumblr #a spec #asexual spectrum #asexual representation #fyp #fypシ #foryoupage #foryou #thank you