#greyace

[genderqueerdykes]

asexuality is not an inconvenience. it isn't a burden to change your conversation topics to avoid making a sex repulsed asexual feel uncomfortable or unsafe. it isn't about you if an asexual romantic or life partner does not want to have sex. it's none of your business if an asexual person has frequent sex, or makes money off of their body or sexuality. it's not an attempt to manipulate you when an asexual/aceflux person has fluctuating levels of sex favorability, neutrality and/or repulsion.

someone else's asexuality isn't about you, it is not inherently overstepping your boundaries. forcing the asexual person to cope or deal with things that make them uncomfortable or go against the way they want to live their lives is overstepping their boundaries, and people need to accept this.

#asexual #ace #lgbtqia #queer #lgbt #asexual spectrum #acespectrum #acespec #greyace #greysexual #grey asexual #demisexual #cupiosexual #aroace #aspec #aspectrum #our writing #aceflux

[ace-exploring]

PSA

Feeling sexual attraction for someone and wanting to have sex with someone are actually two completely different but very similar feelings, and don't let any allosexuals (for whom this feeling is largely the same and very difficult for them to differentiate) tell you any different.

As an asexual (I identify as greysexual), I rarely feel sexual attraction even to my husband, but I want to have sex with him because he is awesome 🥰.

I'm still ace and it's still completely valid.

#asexual #asexuality #ace #asexual pride #lgbtqia+ #acepride #greyace #grayace #exploring asexuality #pride #asexual heteroromantic #married asexual #asexual post #asexual positivity #sex favourable asexual

[weirdly-specific-but-ok]

*breaks door open with a loaf of garlic bread*

GOOD DAY MAGGOTS OF MINE, BABYGIRLS, BITCHBOYS AND BOYCOTTERS OF THE BINARY! IT IS INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY! EVERYONE FEAR FOR YOUR KNEECAPS FOR WE THE ACES ARE OUT ON THE PROWL!

HAPPY ASEXUALITY DAY!

YOU KNOW WHO I'M GREATFUL TO TODAY? THE PEOPLE WHO GATHERED AROUND ME BACK WHEN I WAS NEW TO TUMBLR AT THE END OF DECEMBER, BARELY A WEEK OR SO IN, AND WHEN I ASKED THEM IF I WAS ACE BECAUSING I DIDN'T FEEL LIKE I WAS VALID, THEY ALL REACHED OUT AND TOLD ME ABOUT THEIR EXPERIENCES AND HELPED ME.

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU SO FUCKING MUCH.

I'M PROUDLY GREY ASEXUAL, AND I ALWAYS HAVE BEEN, AND YOU MADE ME SEE THAT.

THANK YOU FOR HELPING A STRANGER REALISE WHO HE WAS. I LOVE YOU.

NOW BACK AT THAT TIME, THERE WAS SOME NASTY DISCOURSE AROUND THE ACE COMMUNITY. SO HERE YOU GO, HAVE THE SAME POLL I MADE THEN, BUT WITH MORE OPTIONS NOW:

FUCK YEAH!

#asexuality #ace #aroace #greyace #international asexuality day #asexual spectrum #asexual pride #aspec #aroace pride #good omens mascot #weirdly specific but ok #asmi #maggots

[lottafandoms]

Before pride month ends, I'm bringing out the A Team!

#acearo #greyace #demiace #asexual #aromantic #demiaro #greyaro #agender #pride #pride2023 #lgbtqa #kawaii4eva

[pyxehastoomanyinterests]

The Boy!!!!

happy pride y’all!! planning to make more pride art for pnf after this, dw

check below the cut for my pride hcs for these three!!

Doof - trans, bi

Phin - genderfluid, greyace/aro, pan

Perry - intersex, trans, aroace

@cantdanceflynn

#pnf #phineas and ferb #phineas flynn #heinz doofenshmirtz #perry the platypus #pride #pride headcanons #genderfluid #asexual #aromantic #aroace #pansexual #greyace #greyaro #bisexual #transgender #intersex

[rotten-rodentia]

dad: Any man who claims he's not attracted to anyone is a liar and a predator

me his aroace man son child:

#aphobia #aro #greyace

[bentonthegay]

I hope that every aspec enjoys their Valentine's day this year! If possible, treat yourself and/or do some self care ((ofc this post only applies to people who want it to apply!))

Maybe that looks like watching a show, binge watch a YouTube series, a movie in a dimly lit room with some snacks

Maybe it looks like a nice relaxing bath/shower

Maybe it looks like taking yourself out for dinner

Maybe it looks like taking a nap, or drawing, or a craft project you've been putting off or haven't been able to finish..

Maybe you have a partner (of any kind. I.e. platonic, queerplatonic, romantic, etc.) and have plans with them!

Maybe you have multiple partners and have plans with one, multiple, or all of them!

Maybe you have a friend or a group of friends you have plans with

Maybe even a family member or multiple

Whatever those plans may be, you deserve it. Whether they're "traditional" V-day plans or something different entirely, this is a day for everyone if you want to celebrate it. Doesn't matter what is pushed as the "norm" or not, and it doesn't matter what other people think.

Maybe you have your own version of the day that you call a completely different name that's unrelated to the concepts behind Valentine's Day! That's sick too,and I hope you have a good time.

#aspec #lgbtqia #lgbtq+ #lgbt #demiromantic #demisexual #asexual #aromantic #aplatonic #aroace #greyace #greyromantic #alloaro #alloace

[fun-gay-stuff]

I love being Greyace!!

I love it because, (even though there is a more defined definition for it), it describes my attraction perfectly: a confusing grey blob of attraction lol.

I contain acespec multitudes!! I can relate to so many acespec labels!! Aceflux? For sure! Demi? Indeed! Allo? Oh yeah i occasionally feel like it! Aego? Definitely for some things! Sex repulsed? Yup yup!

Anyways shout out to my follow acespecs! I love you! You are amazing!! <3

#ace #asexual #aspec #acespec #grayace #greyace #lgbtqia+ #positivity #favorite #thaddeus chats

[pride-flag-planets]

Bisexual, Demigirl, Greyace

#bisexual #demigirl #greyace #grayace #bi #demigender #queer koi #subtle pride #greysexual #graysexual #aspec #grey ace #grey asexual #gray ace #gray asexual #lgbtq #lgbt #pride #queer #lgbtq+ #pride flag #queer koi pond

[thebirchtreesmightbewatchingme]

 Aromantic | Demisexual | Greyromantic

Asexual | Demiromantic | Greysexual

Originally I wanted to do just the ace one to give to a friend but then I remembered @internet-ghost did a thingy where fae drew a bunch of different prideflag ghosts which was a pretty fun project apparently so this is a collab now. There might be more pride flag cake slices in the making i don’t know yet we’ll see.

If there’s any specific flags you’d like to see as cake slices let me know and I’ll pass it on

Because this is a sideblog I can’t respond to your comment directly but yes @castiel-holmeshasthephonebox you can totally use one of these as your icon if you want to

#digital drawing #stickers #ace #asexual #aro #aromantic #grey asexual #grey aromantic #greyaro #greyace #grayace #grayaro #demisexual #demiromantic #aspec pride #pride art #cake stickers

[aroaceconfessions]

What the fuck even is sexual attraction. Like what am i even trying to parce here. Has the one singular event of ‘wow i might be attracted to this person actually’ ive experienced been genuine sexual attraction or am i just being emotionally attached to my close friends again. Like how many times do i have to think that about this person before it starts tipping into probably being true

I understand that human experience does not fit into neatly divided boxes and i get that its a good thing but it would be soooo much fucking easier if i could just read a checklist and get told if im ace or gray or demi or whatever the fuck is going on with this whole mess

Its been literal years. The entirety of figuring out where i am in regards of gender and romantic shit took mere months, and its been over three FUCKING years. Simply is not fair

The worst part is im not comfortable with just slapping an ‘acespec’ on there and going, no, because i dont care about the actual label, i just want to understand how my own fucking emotions work >:/

Catch me desperately clinging to ‘non-sam aro’ like a lifeline so i dont have to figure out how my sexuality works ever

Submitted June 18, 2023

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #aro #ace #arospec #acespec #arose #demisexual #greysexual #graysexual #grey-sexual #gray-sexual #greyasexual #grayasexual #gray-asexual #grey-asexual #greyace #grayace #grey-ace #gray-ace #questioning

[genderqueerdykes]

is bullying, abusing and chasing aromantic and asexual people out of the community actually helping anyone? is it helping trans people get binders or breastforms, or find surgeons, or connect with other trans people? is it helping mspec people figure out that being attracted to multiple genders is normal and okay? is it helping lesbians and gays find each other? is it helping intersex people learn more about their conditions?

it's not. it's not helping anyone else get the resources, support and help they need. all it's doing is denying a huge chunk of the community their right to have the same things we have and want. it's not helping a single soul. it's not making it easier for anyone else to get what they need by removing these groups of people, because as queers, we all have different needs. we are here to help each other. the point of community is to help.

if you refuse to help one or two specific types of members of your own community, you are prejudiced and you are the one being disruptive to the unity and functionality of the queer community. you are the one causing problems- not the aromantics, asexuals and other aspectrum people.

#asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #aspectrum #arospec #arospectrum #acespectrum #acespec #aroace #oriented aroace #alloaro #greyasexual #greyace #grey asexual #greyromantic #greyro #grey romantic #demisexual #demiromantic #quoiromantic #quoisexual #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbt #queer #gay #lesbian #bisexual #pansexual

[ace-exploring]

"You just have to find the right person."

I FOUND my person. I moved heaven and earth to marry him. We're still together after 17 years.

I'm still ace.

#asexual #asexuality #ace #asexual pride #lgbtqia+ #acepride #greyace #grayace #exploring asexuality #pride #asexual heteroromantic #married asexual #asexual post #asexual positivity #sex favourable asexual

[spiltcandycoatedpunkblood]

i can relate to the phrases 'i'm too gay for this' and 'i'm too asexual for this' and it drives me insane just how i feel pulled in two by both of these at the same time

#i'm also aromantic so that's a nightmare too #just less so compared to how in conflict my gayness and asexuality are #but that's just my free trauma getting involved too #vent #/hj #personal #mlm #gay #asexuality #asexual #greysexual #greysexuality #ace #greyace #queer #LGBTQIA+

[traceyshortfilm]

LITERALLY SAME

Credit: mumastsi

#me #asexual #jokes #asexual memes #meme #memes #ace memes #asexuality #asexual pride #asexual problems #asexual awareness #lgbtqia #ace #acespec #asexual spectrum #demisexual #demi #gray #graysexual #greyace #grayace #asexual spec

[isobug]

Greypunk / Graypunk ( or Greyqueer / Grayqueer )

Greypunk / Greyqueer is a punk / queer term (similar to Genderpunk/Genderfuck, Voidpunk, and many other queer terms) which focuses on those in the "Grey area(s)" of identity- including but not limited to Greygender/Grey agender people, Greyromantics/Greyaros, Greysexuals/Greyaces, Greyplatonics/Greyapls, and anyone else who feels nebulous/"in-between"/vague/undefinable or similar (especially Neurodivergent, Intersex, Androgynous, and GNC folk).

I use "Grey Area" here with the definition of "not readily conforming to a single category or to an existing set of rules" so I don't have to type that out every time. (You don’t have to use that exact wording for your own identity btw)

This concept is intentionally broad and... grey! I will not gatekeep this term to any specific group(s) or label(s) and I think doing so would be antithetical to it's purpose. So please don't do that and if you want to use it go ahead.

Greypunk / Greyqueer is about community, solidarity, and defending your (and others) right to exist in the "Grey area" while also labeling your gender/attraction/etc. in a way that is the most comfortable/true to yourself/your experiences.

It's about rejecting those who try to draw strict lines around your identity and going "fuck you" when they tell you should (or make assumptions about you).

It's about finding joy and comfort your in your identity, respecting that everything isn't "black and white" (or binary/trinary, however you want to phrase it).

Greypunk / Greyqueer was inspired by my anger at many things, but mainly by the attempted exclusion of Greyaros/Greyaces from the terms Aro/Ace/Aroace or even from calling themselves "bi/gay/[insert orientation] aroace" (on the basis that they aren't "strictly"/"pure" Aros/Aces/Aroaces).

See this blog post on "umbrella crunching" here, this summary post with links, this post, this post, this post, this Arocalypse comment, this post, and this other blogpost (with even more links!) for discussion by people more eloquent than me on the above issues.

It was also inspired by the pushback against that exclusionism that I've seen (shoutout to the r/orientedaroaces subreddit!) as well as my experiences as an Aroace Androgynous Intersex person who's fed up with people defining my experiences for me.

The flag uses the same layout as Genderpunk and a few other -punk terms. I choose it for unity and also I think it just looks good. The colors are taken from the different "Grey-" flags. The dark grey to light grey stands for the "grey area", green is for Greyaros as well as Greyapls, the blue is for Greygender people as well as Greyaroaces, and the purple is for Greyaces as well as GNC, Intersex, and androgynous folks.

( Editing this to include Greyqueer as an alternative term for those who prefer it to the -punk suffix. )

Taglist - @revenant-coining

#greypunk #graypunk #grayqueer #greyqueer #punk terms #greyace #greyaro #greygender #greyaroace #greyagender #greyplatonic #greyapl #ok i have. too many tags for this term and if i put them all here it's going to get flagged as spam so forgive me #thank you to everyone who helped me proofread this! (input still welcome)