#allosexuality

[starsthewitch]

“you can’t be asexual.. relationships like that are basically friendships, you need to have sex in one”

a REAL quote from my mother

it was said after i explained asexuality and just as i was about to tell her that i was ace myself, she said this

and somehow, shes okay with me being a lesbian, but somehow draws the line at me being an asexual one

literally how do i tell her a relationship can still be romantic just without all the sexual aspects

like YES i want to kiss a girl a lot so very very bad and we cuddle on the couch watching our favorite movies

YES i want to be cooking with my future girlfriend and she comes up to me hugging me from the back and kissing me

relationships without sex just sounds so peaceful? like no pressure to one day have sex with that person or to not expect anything like it

allosexual people just dont get it and it sucks

#asexuality #asexual #asexuel #lgbtq #lgbtqia #ace #acespec #lesbian #ace lesbian #normalize relations without sex #PLEASE #oh my god i beg #aphobia #allosexuality #are the straights okay

[super-sootica]

I'm so fascinated (respectfully) by people who experience sexual attraction.

That's wild, you were just going about your business one day and what? The puberty fairy gave you an intense desire to kiss some thighs? You looked around and saw a bum and were like 'nothing would bring me greater pleasure than to grab that bum' It sounds made up.

#allosexuality #i literally thought you were all just drama queens about aesthetic attraction for years #asexual #asexuality

[arrowheadedbitch]

Oh, I'm actually a sex-repulsed ALLOsexual, sorry for the confusion. No, yeah, yeah, no ,it's its Christian guilt, yeah...

#allosexuality #ace flux #asexual #sex repulsed #grosssss #sex joke #christian guilt

[fun-k-boards]

EDIT : Sorry if your identity isn't on here, I can't edit the poll after it's been published. If I make another poll like this I'll be sure to add more so more aspec people can be included in the vote, apologies.

EDIT 2 : You guys do know that you can just say no, right? There's no need to backpedal and run around in circles, it is honestly not a nuanced question. Do you think there's too much romance that commonly comes across as forced, or not? If it's a no, then answer no.

#aromanticism #aromantic #aro #asexuality #asexual #ace #aroace #acearo #aspec #arospec #acespec #allosexuality #allosexual #allo #alloromantic #alloaromanticism #aroallo #aceallo #alloace #alloaro

[aromanticunt]

when I say I’m going to marry a celebrity and some miserable person has to respond with “that’s not aromantic” I hope everyone knows I mean marriage in the most sexual non-romantic way possible, there will be zero love in our hypothetical marriage only vibes and sex and money

#mfs always be in my business #allo aro #aromantic #loveless aromantic #aro allo #heartless aro #aromantic allosexual #allosexuality #lgbt memes #shitpost #queer #aspec #arospec #aro memes #actually aromantic #actually aro #loveless aro #lgbtq #aromanticism #text post #tum

[islayhawkin]

Ace rambles

Guys I need answers. Because how do you define sexual attraction? Do allo people just think "damn I want to have sex with them" if they like someone?

I as a ace (this is a spectrum and different for everyone) like to touch and kiss and cuddle or whatever but NOT in a sexual way. And as far as I know all these things CAN be seen as sexual. But how is that different? Does feeling sexual feelings mean that they want to have sex?

Ughh I literally made a whole biological study out of this but still don't know what's the difference.

#asexual #aroace #aspec #ask #need answers #allosexuality #help #sex repulsed #ace pride #heartstopper #lgbtq community

[that-bisexual]

The A in LGBTQIA is not for ally.

Although allies are great, don't get me wrong, it's great people support us but they are not part of this community.

The a stands for asexual/aroace/aromantic/agender/allosexual/etc.

Please, putting ally in the acronym is like putting white people in BIPOC (black, indigenous, people of color)

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Note: I got comments saying aphobia because I listed allosexual and I do understand what it means. Not to make an excuse but I listed it in a three am frenzy an didnt bother rereading it. I'm actually sorry for that and it was my bad. (I'm leaving allo on there only so this note makes sense) We're only human so I hope someone will learn from this mistake. Sorry again, I hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings

#agender #asexual #aromantic #aroace #lgbtq #allosexuality #lgbtqia #lgbtqia pride

[zzzora]

#asexual #asexuality #asexual memes #ace memes #allosexuality #asexual romance #asexual crushes #funny memes #memes #queer memes

[galaxygolfergirl]

What does Elsa want?

Since I’ve been on a bit of a Frozen binge recently, I was having some thoughts:

If anyone’s been in the Frozen fandom for as long as I have, we’ve all wondered whether Elsa would ever become attached to someone. The early Jelsa shippers, Helsa (which I do ship, I have my reasons, don’t @ me), #giveelsaagirlfriend trending on twitter, the newer Elsamaren shippers, and so on. Ever since Disney realized the franchise potential of this story, that's been the big question brought up for the past decade.

I will say I can definitely understand the perception of Elsa being aromantic/asexual because honestly, think about it: considering her past struggles with controlling her powers and her fear of hurting those she loves, it’s probably very difficult for her to be vulnerable with other people, even platonically with her own family. If she was that uncomfortable being around others and trying to manage her issues, how uncomfortable is she with being in love? Being desired? Wanting to be with someone?

No matter what options they go with for her in the 3rd sequel, it might be an interesting perspective to see this more vulnerable side of Elsa, if they choose to give her a romantic partner, because for the past two movies we’ve only gotten the perspective of her focusing on herself. She wanted to learn the truth of who she was and to make her peace with it, no longer denying her magical abilities or trying to shove them down out of fear. She wanted to reconnect with her sister and try to have a family again. But what does Elsa want for herself beyond that? Who can really stand on her level and approach her?

In spite of her connections with her sister and the rest of her family, there is still a level of unapproachability to her because of the dissonance between her humanity and the almost mythic nature of her powers. Even though Anna loves her sister, we can observe that even she struggles sometimes to understand Elsa’s powers, especially her role as the Snow Queen/the 5th Spirit, and Anna falls back in awe of her like everyone else. It’s like this quote from the movie The Philadelphia Story (which is a great movie btw, highly recommend):

“You're like some marvelous, distant, well, queen, I guess. You're so cool and fine and always so much your own. There's a kind of beautiful purity about you, Tracy, like a statue.”

To which Katharine Hepburn’s character replies:

“I don't want to be worshipped. I want to be loved.”

Does Elsa want that kind of love? So far, the answer’s been a tentative “no,” at least from the writers and cast. Whether it's because of the potential conservative outcry or disappointing the lgbtq community yet again is anyone's guess, but for now I can only assume that leaving her unattached has been the safest option for Disney so far.

But since we’ve already crossed the threshold of Elsa’s self-acceptance and self-realization of her powers, where do we go beyond that in terms of her character? It’s only natural to wonder what she wants beyond understanding herself, being comfortable with her powers, and being accepted. She has a supportive family, is making friendships with the Northuldra, and has a kingdom that loves her, but does she stand alone or can someone meet her at her level? Romantically or otherwise? Who can challenge her, really?

Tracy Lord: "I don't seem to you made of bronze?"

Macaulay Connor: "No, you're made out of flesh and blood. That's the blank, unholy surprise of it. You're the golden girl, Tracy. Full of life and warmth and delight.”

Does she have to remain this mythic goddess that everyone admires, who has to have a dress transformation/inspiration anthem about self-actualization every movie? What if she had a moment where she was grounded and had to focus on something besides her powers? What if she lost them? How would that affect her character then?

Those are questions I hope might be answered in Frozen 3. I'm fine with whatever choices they make in terms of her sexuality, as precarious at that may be, but I just think it would be an interesting aspect of her character to explore whether or not she could have an equal, or whether or not she can finally come down to earth.

Tracy Lord: "How do I look?"

Seth Lord: "Like a queen. Like a goddess."

Tracy Lord: "And do you know how I feel?"

Seth Lord: "How?"

Tracy Lord: "Like a human. Like a human being.”

#frozen #frozen 2 #frozen 3 #queen elsa #disney #disneys frozen #frozen theory #queen anna #princess anna #prince hans #honeymaren #helsa #elsamaren #asexual #aromantic #queer #lesbian #lgbtq #allosexuality #heterosexual #literary analysis #film analysis #character analysis

[a-cosmic-elf]

I’ve seen people moaning about how Starfield is sexless, and it makes me wonder how many Bethesda games they’ve seen that feature visual sex. Sex you don’t just hear or read about in-game.

Sex has never played a front-and-centre role in most Elder Scrolls or Fallout games, so I’m not sure what some were expecting from Starfield. Mass Effect levels of sexy time, I guess, which is in my view unreasonable in this context.

Sex is there in the lore of Bethesda games, but never shoved in your face. It’s more cerebral than that. They give you the suggestion, and then you roleplay the rest if that’s your thing. And that is a breath of fresh air. Considering the world we live in, that’s something to be celebrated.

True RPGs must be careful to be as inclusive as impossible. I have found many allosexual folks expect sex to be there, as it is in most media we are exposed to, and they don’t give one thought to those who would prefer to go about their day without sex being ever-present.

In Starfield, the first time I landed in Neon, I adored it. Why? Because it’s the antithesis of what you would expect from a ‘pleasure city’ in the sci-fi genre.

It was almost like they were saying, ‘Hey, remember the dancers in Mass Effect? Yeah, let’s take the piss out of that. Let’s make a club without sexy female dancers shoving their asses and titties in your face. Let’s put dancers of all genders and sizes on this podium, fully clothed in the silliest outfits, and make them dance like Shepard. Let’s make it feel like a child’s birthday party on drugs.

For the record, I’m allosexual, but that kind of satarical social commentary will always be funny to me.

Well done, Bethesda. Thank you for constantly pushing back on the ‘sex sells’ marketing mantra and just saying ‘no. If you want sex on your Starfield journey, imagine it. We haven’t ruled it out, but it’s up to the player how far they take it in their heads.’

That’s what a Role Playing Game should be. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

#starfield #cosmic chats #bethesda #acespec #ace representation #allosexuality #social norms #challening social norms #game development #rpg #role playing games #thank you bethesda #supra et ultra

[deepermadness]

The amount of times I've described myself as an allosaurus instead of an allosaurus is frustrating

#Allosexual #Allosexuality #Allosaurus

[iosagol]

episode #9 of ace problems

Tumblr hookup ladies using the asexual tag on their thirst traps and butt pictures because the ace tag is popular TvT

The allosexuals need to make their tag more popular so they can draw that line of fire for us that's just the rules

#asexuality #asexual #allosexuality #Allosexual #acespec

[super-sootica]

Hey, hey, allosexuals! Do perfume/aftershave commercials actually do anything for you? Is that why the perfume ads are like THAT? They are trying to appeal to your heathenism?

#allosexuality #asexual questions

[zonatcannibalism]

This poll is intended for people who are both allosexual and alloromo

Reblog for bigger sample size

#im just curious as someone very into relationship anarchy #relationship anarchy #aromantic #asexual #allosexuality

[xxemxlxserxx]

For the first time in my life I’m seeing real aroallo representation and I’m going wild. For some time recently I gave up on labeling myself as aro because everyone would just call me aroace. Aromantisism is a separate feeling(?) then asexuality and I’m happy that people are beginning to understand that.

#aromantic #aroallo? #aroallo! #aroallo #allosexuality #aromantic allosexual #Yay #my posts

[bee-enthusiast2]

I want more ace rep that isn't just like, "idk what sensual or aesthetic attraction" is alongside the not having sexual attraction part cuz like all the memes and stuff i see seems mainly all aro ace rep and aroaces deserve represent but we can a l s o have alloromantic ace rep. Because i need representation thats like, i didn't know i was an ace because i thought someone was aesthetically attractive and i thought that was normal until i realized people looked at someone and genuinely wanted to have sex with that person. Or that plus later developing sensual attraction and still not knowing that its different from what allosexuals felt.

#ace #asexual #ace representation #ace rep #allosexuality #asexuality #lgbtq #it seems like no one else talks about this and i want it to be more known about how much asexuality is a spectrum #ace discourse