#confused--queer

[queer-is-future]

so when straight people ask me why I say I’m “queer” or “gay” instead of sharing my actual identity as a panromantic demisexual non-binary sapphic queer I just tell them “ok look, when you’re talking to someone who isn’t local and they ask you where you’re from and you either say the name of the largest city nearby or ‘town name, suburb of large nearby city’ so they can get some geographical context of where you’re located right, bc they’re probably not going to know the name of the little town you actually live in.”

but if you’re talking to a local you can say the name of your actual town bc they have a greater chance of knowing where/what that is.

ok well when I’m talking to a straight person I start with queer bc chances are they aren’t as familiar with the context of all the little towns in that big queer city and need gps (gay positioning system) to find me.

if I’m talking to another queer person and I say I live in a suburb of gay city in a town called panromantic on the demisexual side of the tracks which is in the county of queer and I live off the intersection of non-binary and sapphic, they’d probably be able to find me with little to no problems, make sense?

#personal rant lol #like saying queer or gay is so much easier sometimes #if I say anything else sometimes I get the confused dog head tilt and I’m just like ok ok I’m gay #lgbtq community #lgbtqia #demisexual #non binary #sapphic #lgbtqia+ #queer #panromantic

[oysters-aint-for-me]

my (very queer) friend is pregnant for the first time and she’s been on all the baby message boards (eg tiktok, facebook) and she found this tag that was like “ftm pregnancy” and she was like “oh cool! there’s whole tag for pregnant transmen!” and then was extremely confused as to why the tag was full of what appeared to be cisgender women. she was like “i mean i don’t wanna judge, maybe they are transmen but they don’t look how i expected them to, that’s okay, if they say they’re trans then they are” except she kept looking through the tag and literally NONE of them were transmen, ALL of them appeared to be ciswomen. she was VERY confused, seriously questioning what she knew about trans people (and not to be like “she has trans friends!” but literally her partner is trans, her sibling in law is trans, many of her friends are trans/nb, hell i think she’s a bit nonbinary herself, idk, we haven’t actually talked about that recently lol) and doubting reality in general.

and then she found out that, amongst a huge section of the internet to which she had never been exposed before, “ftm” stands for First Time Mom.

there’s no moral to this story i just thought it was funny

#she has a few other examples #of confusing ‘mommy group’ terms w terms commonly #used by the queer community #i don’t think it’s intentional like the mommy groups are trying to take the terms from us by force #i just think it’s funny

[mishoru]

#added the reference so that ppl don't get confused #yeehaw #illustration #art #procreate #lgbtq #lgbt art #queer cowboy #cowboy art #gay cowboy #trans masc #trans cowboy

[qcomicsy]

Alfred comes home and there's a whole noise from the kitchen.

Alfred: Is everything okay?

Damian: Dumbass is coming out.

Alfred: Oh.

Alfred (to Dick): ...I figured this day would come sooner or later...

Dick:

Alfred: Don't think I didn't saw it my boy, and pardon me if I should said something before...

Dick: No, no, no it's not

Alfred:... I mean It was obvious from the start but I figured I shouldn't press-

Dick: Alfie It's not

Jason: No, no let him finish.

----

Batman: Yes, my kid also came out to me recently.

Superman (to Dick): Oh wow, that's great! I'm proud of you buddy.

Dick:

Dick: What

Tim: It's me.

Superman: Oh

Superman: Oh wow, thats great! I'm proud of you buddy.

Dick: No, wait you can't just-

----

Jon: I'm just glad in not being alone in this, you know.

Titans:

Dick: It's not me.

Titans: "Oh, right. Sure." " Yeah we knew it" "Totally"

#I've been thinking about this since Tim came out beaceus that was pretty much every reaction from everyone I know #And i find fucking hilarious #Tim had more in lore logic but Grayson just screams queer energy and there's no way people around him didn't caught up onto that #jason todd #tim drake #dick grayson #batfam #incorrect quotes #batfamily incorrect quotes #the funniest part is that if gotham knights is cannon he might actually be and this is just him being confused #on how people think he'll need to come out #but if he's not he's the talk Valentina of the family and we love him anyway

[sixty-silver-wishes]

my dad, trying to understand the concept of being non-binary today:

- “so there’s chocolate and vanilla ice cream, but there’s also butterscotch… wow”

- “but if you’re non-binary, does that make you straight or gay? … wait, they can be ANYTHING?”

- “but there are some straight guys who occasionally do homosexual acts. are there gay guys who do the same thing but with women?

…no way”

- “people have all these labels these days and I feel like a ball of dough. can I identify as a ball of dough”

- “gay guys are usually feminine… but wait, what about the BEARS”

- “so if they’re not a man and they’re not a woman…they’re… bisexual?”

#he’s trying #lgbt #lgbtq #queer #hilarious to me how he was confused by the idea of non binary people but also somehow knew what bears were?

[thief-of-eggs]

*points at a very straight media with literally no queer characters* Now this… this is the greatest queer love story ever told

#they make the story SO queer coded and then act all confused when queer folk see it for what it is #mha #fandoms #bnha #death note #stucky #bakudeku #bkdk #ships #queer ships #johnlock #sherlock #bbc sherlock #harry potter #wolfstar #drarry

[genderpink]

#I JUST LOGGED ON FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MONTHS YALL WHAT IS HAPPENIN???? #vanilla extract #polls #vanilla poll #tumblr polls #meme #internet culture #im too fucking old and im only 24 #tumblr lore #rabbit hole #late 19th century #vanilla #help im confused #queer #nightmare before christmas #jack skellington

[meowzet]

hearing [heteronormative] people talk about romantic relationships will never not be confusing

#huh??? #so many rules… and for what?? #beyond confusing #queer #going to tag my lovely aspecs because y’all understand what i mean :3 #aspec #ace #asexual #aroace #aro #aromantic #<2 to you all #i’ll also throw in a #queerplatonic #my meows

[acowardinmordor]

Everyone knows that Wayne knows about and supports his nephew in his various flavors of queer across all fics and headcanons. But I especially enjoy it when Wayne knows and supports him, while Eddie is completely oblivious to the fact that he's not straight.

#not in the closet #not confused and questioning #out of the closet but entirely unaware of it #this is also why Wayne went gray #his beloved idiot nephew is accidentally visibly queer in small town america #and even when Wayne has tried to bring it up #Eddie talks about how he also thinks Reagan sucks #he's so close to getting it #but he never does #man now im picturing Wayne being Scary(tm) around town #so everyone knows not to mess with Eddie #and Eddie thinks he's the scary one #wrong kid #you are a goofball made of marshmallows

[d4jamso]

Bylers your Heartstopper

#HEHEHEBS IM SO EXCITED FOR SEASON 2 OF HEARTSTOPPER #also mike wheeler and nick Nelson are the same ppl sorry!!! diff people same font!!! #blue coded confused queers and yellow coded sad queers #also mike has looked at Will the way nick looks at charlie before mhmm #byler #byler fanart #mike wheeler #will byers #mike wheeler fanart #will byers fanart #stranger things #stranger things fanart #heartstopper

[the-aaaaa-battery]

Being aroace but also feeling a tertiary form of attraction (alterous attraction) was one of the most confusing parts of my identity to figure out. Before I knew what alterous attraction was, I only knew sexual, romantic, platonic, sensual, and aesthetic attraction.

I had a crush on one of my friends (and I still do). It made me kind of scared because at that point, I was 99% certain I was aroace, and I couldn't tell if I was experiencing romantic attraction or not. I didn't like the idea of dating and I didn't like the word "romance," and yet I also felt like I wanted to be more than friends with that person.

It wasn't until months after discovering I had a crush that I learned about alterous attraction. I liked the definition and I thought that if fit me best, so I started to use it to describe my crush. I felt way more confident using aroace again, because it felt right! And I had a way of explaining my feelings for my crush.

But oh my God, it was so hard to figure out.

Shoutout to people who are confused about their identity right now! Gender and sexuality is tough to figure out, but it's okay to question.

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq+ #sexuality #aroace #aromantic #asexual #romantic attraction #aromanticism #asexuality #alterous attraction #demialterous #questioning #queer #unsure #confused

[posycore]

neurotypical people watch community and think troy and abed are funny, gay people watch community and ship/think troy and abed would be cute together, neurodivergent gay people watch community and Know what they Are. 'aw i wish trobed was canon' well actually they are u just havent unlocked the Vision.

#like i genuinely view it as canon and i dont think im alone in that #and the main reason is: oh the lines between platonic and romantic are blurry? #oh they think and feel together in a way literally no one else gets? #oh they have moments that dont read as conventionally romantic but still seem way too intimate? #oh they actually never deny or shy away from their love for each other? oh its just the rest of the world that is confused? #are those really signs of not being canon or is that just true to how queer/queerplatonic/neurodivergent partnerships get perceived #esp in their time period lol #like maybe trobed isnt canon to someone watching the show from the rest of the study groups pov or the worlds pov #but if u watch from troy and abeds pov.. of course its canon i mean just look at them #community #trobed #abed nadir #troy barnes

[defiantcripple]

Non-hypermobile people will never know the pure joy that is being able to scratch literally anywhere on your back when it itches.

#thats it #thats the whole post #i got confused as a kid #that other people couldnt itch their whole back #it must be so irritating #cripple punk #cripplepunk #cripple #queer cripple #angry cripple #cpunk #c punk #cpunk blog #c punk blog #cripple shit #cripple posting #hypermobile spectrum disorder #heds #probably heds #hypermobile ehlers danlos #ehlers danlos #ehlers danlos syndrome #hypermobility #hypermobile eds

[bodhrancomedy]

I HAVE QUESTIONS ABOUT THE MYTHOLOGY OF SEDUCTIVE SPIRITS IN FORESTS.

#deaf #tiktok #queer #funny #video #actor #mythology #why?? #I was watching a play through of bramble the mountain king #and I was so confused

[harbinger-of-existential-dread]

This is my official request to the Good Omens fandom to adopt me pretty please.

#Good Omens #Yours Faithfully a Confused Queer #Thank You in Advance #gomens

[wanderlust-in-my-soul]

Is this hug from a brother or a boyfriend?

#unknown #unknown the series #unknown ep 11 #qianyuan #chris chiu #kurt huang #chris x kurt #qian x yuan #bl drama #bl series #myedit #asianlgbtqdrama #taiwanese bl #taiwanese drama #taiwanese series #queer drama #lgbtq+ #such a confused puppy