#becoming better

[agirlwithglam]

creating a new identity:

aka; how to build an alter ego / how to create the new you / creating your higher self / create a new version of yourself

this is a guide for people who want to change their life around, and most importantly, change themselves (because obvi to change your life, you must first change yourself first). oki lets get started!!

3 reasons why you want to change:

first of all name at least 3 reasons WHY you want to create a new identity. some reasons could include:

wanting to get better at school/ higher grades

becoming more social

more stronger

more disciplined

becoming better at something (ex a language, instrument)

if you don't have your 3 reasons on why you want to create a new you, then your desire is probably not strong enough and you won't be able to stay consistent in it.

create the new you:

give it a name! (you can do this at any point tbh so not really important atm)

choose and decide the aspects of your new identity: (how they think, act, behave, feel. what their hobbies are, their habits, what type of person they are, how they treat others and themselves, etc etc)

write down these aspects in your notes app, notion, blog, docs, (wherever you want to). you don't have to go in full detail but just write everything that you need for this new identity so that if you forget or need to be reminded, you can just check that.* *reminder that you can create more than 1 identity/ alter ego! so for example you may have one thats for workouts/ sports, one thats for studying, one thats for socialising, etc. this means that you don't necessarily need to write other hobbies for an alter ego that is made for working out. you just need to write whats important to that specific identity.

once you've done all this, theres nothing left but to just BECOME. stop over planning and procrastinating, step into the energy of this new version of yourself. channel the energy and enjoy your life!

tips:

take inspiration from people in real life! this can be celebrities, anyone you've met and admired, movie/ tv show characters (for me; rory gilmore, elle woods, gina linetti), book characters, etc. you don't have to create a new alter ego from scratch, you can just adopt energy of a person that has already been created/ exists.

a signature something. give this new identity a signature scent, outfit, accessory, etc. anything just to give it a bit of a touch/ cherry on top <3

Xoxo, Vanilla

#agirlwithglam🎀✨ #vanilla self improvement⭐️ #it girl tips💗💋 #self improvement #self development #becoming that girl #it girl energy #self love #girlboss #it girl #creating a new identity #how to create an alter ego #alter egos #being your higher self #creating your higher self #becoming better

[lorveings]

Let people say and think whatever they want about you, Even if they're wrong, Even if it upsets you and makes you want to chase them just to confront them and fix the way they think or talk about you. Never do that to yourself, just find peace in knowing that the past belongs in the past and we're not in it anymore. You're evolving and becoming a better person than you were in the past, even if they don't want to see it. Some people are willing to stay blinded forever in their own circle just to make themselves feel good about whatever happened in the past. If that gives them peace let them. Let them feel at ease away from you. No matter how much you're hurt by them and their actions, you have to move forward with your life. You'll be okay, I promise.

What's important is that you know you're a good person who was brave enough to try and put an effort into fixing things and even sincerely apologized for your past behavior that caused others pain, that's the only thing that matters. You were strong enough to face the consequences of your actions no matter how unbearable the pain felt while doing it. You became honest with yourself by holding yourself accountable, acknowledging all of your past mistakes, truly forgiving yourself for what happened and finally starting your healing journey to fix and improve yourself and be the best version of yourself for YOU. That's enough.

That. is. enough.

#healing #self growth #accountability #honesty #self improvement #self healing #mental health #self love #past mistakes #the past #becoming the best version of yourself #heal yourself #self accountability #positivity #comfort #love #forgiveness #becoming better #no more excuses #healing yourself

[becomingpoet]

And one day,

this will all be a dream:

a nightmare stamped into the horizon

of a night long since past.

One day, when the sun reigns again,

all of this bitterness will mellow into the

sweetest vanilla.

Harsh words will soften into murmurs

and everything wrong

will be set right once more.

One day,

this will all be behind us- medicine swallowed,

and all that’s left

a spoonful of sugar

#becoming better #becomingpoet #poetry #spilled ink #out of order

[hill-y]

All things are possible to those who believe Do not be a wish-washy person in your decisions Everyday in Christ you are renewed

#christ #christian #Christianity #jesus #faith #bible #teachings #words to live by #bible study #devotional #daily devotionals #becoming better #growth #love #humanity

[isilrina]

"Space Ballet"

This wallpaper, created with love for my sister @valkblue, who adores whales and their songs, invites you to witness a surreal dance of humpback whales among the stars. In this celestial symphony, three majestic beings gracefully navigate the cosmic ocean, their powerful tails propelling them through the shimmering expanse of space.

It was a very unusual experience for me, as I deviated from my usual artistic process in several ways.

First, I had a vague idea of what I wanted: "I want to draw her a whale." That was the only clear direction I had. However, I had never drawn whales before, making this a first for me. I spent a long time searching for reference pictures before finding the first whale - the one on the left (as originally, I had planned to include only one in the image).

Once I was satisfied with the first whale, I added a white border to make it look like a sticker, so she could place it anywhere. But then, that whale felt a bit too lonely, so I sought out other references and chose a different pose for the second one.

That's when I realized I didn't even know her screen resolution. When she told me, it was much larger than I had initially intended, causing those two whales to appear somewhat lost in the image. So, I found more references and drew a third whale (I also turned the second and third ones into stickers).

As the three of them appeared on the screen, I recalled an old high school art lesson about triangular composition. That's why I arranged them in a triangular formation, creating a more visually pleasing composition.

In the end, creating the line art, as you see it now, was a more methodical process compared to my usual approach, which relies more on quick intuition. Nevertheless, I'm quite pleased with the result.

(As a side note, drawing this while listening to a Dark Academia playlist on Spotify added an extra layer of strangeness. I almost expected the whales to start dancing on my screen with each stroke—it was a surreal experience!)

It was a challenge, but I embraced it wholeheartedly because I wanted to gift my sister a piece of art that she would cherish. It's a testament to the power of love and generosity, which can drive us to acquire new skills and embrace fresh challenges, ultimately helping us become better versions of ourselves.

Software used: Clip Studio Paint.

#isilrinart #whales #humpback whale #nebula #space whales #gift #wallpaper #valkblue #scifi #animals #sister love #power of love #generosity #learning new skills #becoming better #creative journey #becoming a better version of yourself through positivity #clip studio paint #digital art #woooooooooooooooo

[iamabhi27]

The weights do not get any lighter,

The minutes do not get any shorter,

The Reps do not get easier,

The opponent does not get any weaker,

You just get stronger.

#becoming better

[jayjay-barnes]

#becoming better #daily routine #thoughts #my post #thoughts of the day #love #self care #goals #positive affirmations #loving your best life #things to do #checklist

[lenatheedon]

shadow work is chefs kiss i've been doing it the last hour or two and it's helped me drastically, i feel peaceful, i feel like a whole better person, where it did come with tears and realization, opening my eyes wider to the bigger picture, the peace im feeling i don't think i'd ever feel before, personally if you want to manifest better, not saying you have to, do shadow work it opens opportunities open like a egg shell if you do shadow work in my opinion

#shadow work #peaceofmind #high maintenance #luxury lifestyle #becoming better #a better you #dream girl #manifesting #law of assumption #affimations #black luxury

[chachamaru-sama]

Just wanted to post it here to show myself that I can do more. Two or three years ago I wouldn’t dream that I was the one to paint it, so yeah… I’m showing off a little 🙈

#art study #my progress #eyes #becoming better

[bloodybellycomb]

One massive, legitimate way to improve as a writer or artist or in any creative endeavor really, is to become absolutely obsessed with something and to allow yourself to be weird about it. Genuinely mean this btw.

#dc comics #disco elysium #shakespeare #hamlet #scott pilgrim #<- all this things have made me a better #writer and artist for both fan creation #and for my own original work #literal life hack #allow yourself to become obsessive and cringe to a certain degree #birdy chirps

[bananonbinary]

also worth noting that "abusive" doesn't actually mean "irredeemable" either.

there's a lot of people that have done things in the past that were bad, because they weren't taught any better, or they were in an overall toxic situation where EVERYONE was shitty (like a cult), or they were just at an especially low point and hurt others for it.

you don't have to forgive them. you don't have to ever speak to them again. you can be angry with them until you die if you want.

but society cannot function if we don't allow them to move on. to change their behavior and fuck off somewhere else and build meaningful relationships without bothering you again. we need a path for people to change, or nothing ever will.

#like re: the last post #npd SHOULDNT mean 'youre an abusive person' #but also people who have abused people in the past can still become better people in the present #you know? #and as i metioned vaguely in that post. the way we currently treat people with NPD probably CAUSES THEM to lash out at and abuse others #if u abuse someone they lash back out at you and suddenly theres fun mutual abuse happening #so they need a way out of that cycle

[someonesdeaddaughterr]

Hate; feel intense dislike for.

A word we were all told was too strong, too cruel. Our family members hoping we’d listen and discard that word from our vocabulary.

Truth is, I never did. That word has stuck with me. One person is at fault for that. Your striking hands, striking words is what kept that word sitting at the back of my brain each day.

The way you looked at me, the way you had little to no sympathy as I cried and asked you to love me.

You told me you did, because I was your family. Then I heard this saying that a person that loves you, would never hurt you on purpose.

A person that loves you, wouldn’t give you trauma that would never end.

Instead, they would pick you up when you had fallen rather than laughing in your face. They wouldn’t raise their voice, nor their hand to you. But you did, so how can you love me?

How can you look me in the eyes and lie?

I’m not sorry when I say that I hate you, because I hate you with every fibre of my being. Never have I ever, wished bad on anyone, except you.

-murda

#messy post #poem? idk #awareness #toxic siblings #domesticviolenceawareness #writers on tumblr #writerscommunity #female writers #becoming better #hatred #artists on tumblr #its okay

[wisedreamerreview]

What I Seek To Share

The one thing I do not in any way wish to do, in anything I write, is sound arrogant or holier than thou. The things I share, are from the heart. Even those like today’s were I discussed that time in the nursery.  The thing is, I know me, and I see the me I am growing into. The me who only wishes to share that as difficult as life can be, there is good to find.  My now late husband and I were…

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#becoming better #finding hope #gaining strength #growing better #growth #life #living #seeking better #struggling

[putridandmindless]

I haven’t had this much willpower to truly change in my entire life. Not allowing my emotions to control my life has truly changed me this past month. I guess getting my heartbroken wasn’t such a bad thing. It definitely does suck though but i got this(:

#heartbreak #heartbroken #lovers #im too tired for this #im too much #issue #changeling #becoming better #ex boyfriend #thoughts #life altering #who knows #the one that got away #i miss you #i’m over it #i got out #accepted #recovery #ron weasley

[nimixo]

When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too. -Paulo Coelho

By endeavouring to enhance our own selves, we actively participate in a shared surge of positive transformation that uplifts not just our individual lives but also the entirety of our world. #beatyesterday #becomingbetter #RippleOfChange #BetterMeBetterWorld #Nimixo #motivational #motivationalquote #MotivationBlowByBlow

#becoming better #beat yesterday #motivating quotes #personal development #success

[inotherland]

3 Attempts at Becoming a Better Person

Daily: Gratitude List (can be 1 or 10 listings/it doesn't matter)

Weekly: Kind Gesture to a Stranger

Monthly: Mail a Handwritten Letter to a Friend

#becoming better #finding self #reflections