#aroace takes

[total-aroace-island]

Kitty is so aroace to me. Girl who gets super invested in other people's and fictional romances but doesn't want to experience it herself!

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#td kitty #rr kitty #total drama #she is so me fr #aroace takes

[strawby-jelli]

Okay so I just watched a video of a boy who once identified as trans still got bottom surgery after he realized he was cis and people were so fucking rude? Like just because this cis dude has a vagina people were calling him transphobic and wishing death upon him.

So this is a reminder that when we as a community advocate for bodily autonomy and gender surgeries that means everyone regardless of gender can do whatever they want with their bodies.

If someone who is cisgender wants top/bottom surgery THEY CAN GET IT. If someone wants facial plastic surgeries that we usually find creepy like buccal fat removal or eye lifts THEY CAN GET IT. And here’s the really controversial one but if someone wants to do things that harm their body like hard drugs or diy mods THEY CAN DO IT!

Because body autonomy isn’t just “I can get bottom surgery to pass” or “I can get an abortion” it’s also all the wild stuff that makes us uncomfortable and that’s okay.

#hot take that should be lukewarm #body autonomy #gay rights #trans rights #lgbt #lgbtqia #queer #queer punk #madpunk #bisexual #lesbian #gay #pansexual #asexual #aroace #aromantic #genderqueer #gender nonconforming #agender #bodily rights

[aroacearchangel]

hey. do whatever you want btw. it’s your identity. kiss people for fun. enjoy sex. nobody’s stopping you. being aro and/or ace doesn’t mean you have to be repulsed by romantic or sexual activities if you don’t want to.

and also! things only mean what you meant them to mean. you can have platonic sex and platonically make out with your friends. it’s true. just be sure to communicate so that everyone involved understands and you’re good.

#if this is considered a hot take. okay. don’t care. #aroace #aromantic asexual #angled aroace #oriented aroace #aroacespec #grey aroace #aro #aromantic #arospec #aspec #aspec community #aspec stuff #aro pride #asexuality #asexual #grey aromantic #ace #aro spectrum #grey aro #aromantic pride #aspec culture #acespec #cupioaroace #cupioromantic #cupiosexual #bellusromantic #bellussexual #qpr #queerplatonic

[notbrucewayne48]

"aphobia doesn't exist"

bitch literally not that long ago an aroace youtuber animator was insulted by almost half of its community for being it

#i did some research about it and found out that the problem was principally that she had previous experience in the romantic area #so people just didn't take her seriously and said she was lying #even though she stated multiple times that she wasn't comfortable in those situations #now things are more calmed but damn #mind your own bussiness #i believe she knows more about herself than you #sorry if i offended you with this comment but i hate how aro/ace/aroace people are always left behind #insulted and rejected because they “dont know what they are talking about” #or because they “just have to wait for the right person” #or because they are “psychopaths and they are missing something” #i love that animator and she helped me realise a lot about myself #and now that i know the context i think i will start making a list and killing aphobes one by one #aromantic #arospec #asexual #aroace #acespec

[artsymeeshee]

Another aroace Ford idea that came up. I just really like the idea of Ford going to Mabel for these types of things :’)

#gravity falls #stanford pines #mabel pines #ford pines #grunkle ford #sea grunks #my art #comic #aroace #asexual #aromantic #ford & mabel bonding #sketches #long post #i just find it really endearing that ford takes notes about aroace #oooough I love aroace ford so much TwT #artsy’s attempt to write dialogue

[sunny-rants]

Queerness is not just about sex and romance. Since the concept of queer has been around, so have asexual and aromantic people. Lavender marriages, voluntary spinsters, vows of chastity used to cover a disinterest in sex. “Monosexuals”, “anesthesia sexual”, “anaphrodites”, category "X". Queer-platonic relationships, asexuality and aromanticism are an undeniable part of lgbtq+ history. Before there were any terms, any flags or acronyms, choosing to not conform to society’s romantic and sexual guidelines has been the very essence of queerness. The inherent queer experience of feeling alienated because you don’t love the “right” way or feel the right feelings for the right people, of trying to meet the expectations set for you while trying to build a life that doesn’t feel like a lie. These are all part of the aspec experience. We aren’t “invading” a space we don’t belong because it’s a trend, or an internet identity. We’re not “spicy straight”. We’re making ourselves known in a community we have always been a part of.

#take a shot every time i say queer #lgbtq+ #lgbtq #queer #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #queer history #queer community #lgbtq community #lgbtq+ history #lgbtq history #aroace #asexual aromantic #aspec #acespec #arospec #ace spec #aro spec #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum #asexual history #ace history #acephobia #arophobia #amatonormativity #fuck amatonormativity #queer platonic partner #queer platonic relationship #queerplatonic

[knifearo]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things. #people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time. #but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized. #sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement. #this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex. #and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things #especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love. #our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!! #it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild.... #anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that. #silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff. #love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another #same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take #anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that. #kiss kiss (<— lovelessly) #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #talking #aroace #aspec #sex positivity

[redysetdare]

Y'all ever think about how children's media is the only media to really put priority to friendship (ex: the power of friendship) and how once you grow up media starts to shift towards a focus on romantic love and sexual relationships and how that kind of puts out this idea that valuing friendship is a childish thing you need to grow out of and replace with romance and sex cause I do.

#text #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #even then more childrens media is starting to focus on romance now to so itss like only toddler shows have friendship be important #and when shows for older audiences do leave out romance and sex the fandom focuses on solely that instead #idk makes it hard to fully enjoy things when i know romance subplots will at somepoint take over

[bacchuschucklefuck]

while teen while goblin while aroace while injured while doing your best

#fantasy high junior year #fhjy #riz gukgak #figueroth faeth #sklonda gukgak #dimension 20 #this. mmmmhhh this is so. I did Not know how to draw this really. #I am very normal about riz (<- lying) #it's a brennan-dm d20 campaign the bad guy is always capitalism (I am saying this with clenched teeth) #riz out of all of them being aroace fucks with me SO bad. bc its also established that elmsville specifically and probably the #majority of solace is not. made for goblins. and that becomes sklonda being worked to the bone and pok dying on the job #and riz spending all his time trying to keep his friends together. maybe to the point of it being injurous #like. do u get what I mean. its an economy of time it takes your time it eats up your time #not just the gukgaks but everyone you have to spend time to get to live and you don't have a lot of time left in a day #and you have to spend it carefully. you have to prioritize #you're somewhere without an established community and companionship is bought with your time spent working #this place doesn't take care of you. at the end of the day who do you have who'd prioritize you. do you understand me #the evolved aroace loathing where if your friends and family are granted more time nobody would have to choose. we live in a society #holds ur hand we live in a society. idk if Im making any sense #anyway . uhhh riz is my favourite that's my statement thank you for listening. au revoir

[shmaroace]

"you can't be aromantic if-" actually labels are inherently personal, you aren't entitled to know why i picked a label, and also i can do whatever the fuck i want

#this might be a hot take but i do not care what kinds of people identify as aromantic unless they are doing it in a harmful way #it is your identity you know yourself better than i will #i will be welcoming and if you eventually decide you no longer identify as arospec that's okay #aro #aromantic #arospec #aroace #aspec #asaw2023 #1k #2k #3k #4k

[fizpup]

valentine, you're a horse ❤️

#my little pony #mlp g3 #wish-I-may #wish-I-might #ok so. I'm gonna ramble for a sec #normally when I post on valentine's day I complain in the tags about being single. but I won't this year! #I've recently realized I'm definitely somewhere on the aromantic spectrum. and that I'm perfectly content without a partner #in the past I've described myself as 'emotionally unavailable' or having 'commitment issues' but neither of those things were ever true #I'm a very loving and loyal person! #I've always been extremely affectionate with friends and family but unable to have the same level of love for potential partners #unsure if I'm just demisexual/demiromantic or actually aroace but I'm definitely not the default settings type of gay lol #I'm a big fan of romance and sex in fiction! but irl? 😅😬 idk about that fam! idk! #hypothetically I would like to have a gf one day and maybe fall in love but now I understand why that may not happen #or atleast is gonna take a while. and that's fine :) #tldr; if your top song on spotify last year was Cupid by Fifty Fifty it's time to do some soul searching lol #happy valentine's day!! 💕

[total-aroace-island]

I love how we all agree Zee is either aroace or pan. He's either attracted to anyone or nobody. There's no in-between.

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#to me he’s actually both #and also non-binary #he has made a single decision in his life and that was “yeah sure whatever” #td zee #total drama #aroace takes

[aroace-menace]

Hot take: the majority of queer coding relies on the assumption that platonic relationships cannot be as deep or caring as romantic ones. I recognize that queer coding is important to many people, but I think it can and should be done in a less amatonormative way. We as a society need to get better at facing the hard truth that many things that bring comfort, joy, and belonging also perpetuate truly harmful ideals.

#aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aromanticism #asexuality #arospec #acespec #aspec #aroace #queer #lgbtqia #amatonormativity #queer coding #hot take #the menace is yapping

[monarch-of-jack]

What's that? People can't stop being thirsty for Alastor?

Well sucks to be them. He's well hydrated it seems~

#hazbin hotel #alastor #asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #aroace #take a sip fellow aspecs #it's delicious

[bloggingboutburgers]

...Maybe queerbaiting can only ever mean homobaiting or transspecbaiting

Idk don't kill me those are just cans of worms

#no one can know i don't like sex #queerbaiting #asexual #aromantic #aroace #not 100% a hot take but i doubt aro ace bait actually exists tbh #because i don't think writers and audiences care about aro or ace people enough to even think of writing them as bait #it's in THAT sad a state #my art #nonburger

[naberriesamidala]

aspec people are queer. aspec people deserve to be in queer spaces. aspec people are welcome to pride. aspec people are queer even if they're cis. aspec people are queer even if they're heterosexual. aspec people are amazing and deserve the world.

#aspec #asexual #aromantic #aroace #demisexual #graysexual #demiromantic #grayromantic #aspec friends you're incredible and anyone who says otherwise can take a long walk off a short pier