aroacearchangel

[aroacearchangel]

psa: the way i express my identity has no intent to force others to express their identity in a similar manner. do whatever you want. that’s what i do. who do you think i am, a cop?

#queer #aroace #aro #aromantic #aromance #arospec #aromanticism #aspec #aspec community #aspec stuff #aro pride #aro spectrum #oriented aroace #angled aroace #aroacespec #grey aroace #ace #acespec

[aroacearchangel]

yknow. i’m actually not romance repulsed. i just think i was so uncomfortable with the idea of someone wanting something i can’t give. i want to love someone forever with undying devotion and engrave their likeness into marble. and i will. have. often. is it romantic? probably not. not based on what i’ve heard about what it’s supposed to feel like, physically and emotionally.

i think as long as whoever was into me in that way knew that my feelings were adjacent but not exactly matching, and they were cool with that, that i would be alright with being romantically or sexually desired.

i still have complicated feelings about sex, but that’s less about identity. i do think i’m not sex repulsed, either. it’s weird realizing these things, using other aroace experiences to try to understand my own and understanding that my story of self understanding is my own.

#and thus i rewrite the understandings of my inner world manual once more #aro #aromantic #aroace #aromance #aromanticism #arospec #aspec #aspec community #aspec stuff #aro pride #angled aroace #oriented aroace #aroacespec #grey aroace #ace #acespec #aro spectrum #grey aro #aromantic pride #grey aromantic #asexuality #asexual #aromantism #greyromantic #greyaro #cupioromantic #bellusromantic #cupiosexual #bellussexual

[aroacearchangel]

hey. do whatever you want btw. it’s your identity. kiss people for fun. enjoy sex. nobody’s stopping you. being aro and/or ace doesn’t mean you have to be repulsed by romantic or sexual activities if you don’t want to.

and also! things only mean what you meant them to mean. you can have platonic sex and platonically make out with your friends. it’s true. just be sure to communicate so that everyone involved understands and you’re good.

#if this is considered a hot take. okay. don’t care. #aroace #aromantic asexual #angled aroace #oriented aroace #aroacespec #grey aroace #aro #aromantic #arospec #aspec #aspec community #aspec stuff #aro pride #asexuality #asexual #grey aromantic #ace #aro spectrum #grey aro #aromantic pride #aspec culture #acespec #cupioaroace #cupioromantic #cupiosexual #bellusromantic #bellussexual #qpr #queerplatonic

[aroacearchangel]

feeling real strong queerplatonic feelings in the studio tonight

#qpr #qpr positivity #qpr pride #queerplatonic #aro #aroace #aromantic #aromance #aromanticism #arospec #aspec #aspec community #aspec stuff #aro pride #queer platonic relationship #queer platonic #queer platonic attraction #queer platonic love #queer platonic yearning #qpr yearning

[aroacearchangel]

hey girl are you a romantic confession because. i do not want to listen to you

#/j i don’t actually mind but ik people who do #aromantic #aromance #aro #aro spectrum #aromantic pride #aro pride #aromanticism #grey aro #bellusromantic #cupioromantic #aroace #grey aroace #aroacespec #greyaro #grey aromantic #greyromantic #arospec #squish aro #aroflux #romance repulsed #romance indifferent #romance abivalent #romance averse #queerplatonic #queer platonic #arospike

[aroacearchangel]

do people genuinely feel a …. need? for romantic attraction? It isn’t something they feel that they can opt in or out of?

#aro #aromantic #aromance #aromanticism #aro spectrum #grey aromantic #arospec #aro pride #aroace #aroallo #bellusromantic #cupioromantic #arospike #grey aroace #aroacespec #angled aroace #oriented aroace #greyromantic

[aroacearchangel]

i feel so alone. it’s hard to form deep connections with people once they know i can’t feel romantic attraction. i still want love, just not like that. why do i have to have romantic relationships with people to be worthy of their attention.

#aro #aromantic #aromance #aro spectrum #arospec #aroallo #aro pride #grey aromantic #aromanticism #squish aro #bellusromantic #cupioromantic #arospike #aroace #grey aroace #aromantic asexual #aroacespec

[aroacearchangel]

Aromanticism & Companionship

Anyone else who is aro/aro-spec crave companionship without romantic attraction? Someone to take on dates, buy cute gifts for and send good morning/good night texts to. Someone who's there for you and you are there for them. Someone to take care of you when you're sick. Someone to share your interests, hobbies and life ambitions with. Someone to adopt a pet and share a house with. Someone to plan a future with. Someone who, to everyone else, would appear to be your romantic partner, but you both know there's no romantic attraction between you. Someone I can love in a way no one else would understand but the person involved. I don't want romance, I just want companionship. But in a society so focused on romance and finding "the one", how do I find someone who shares the same principles towards a relationship that I do? How do I find someone who understands my aromantic identity in a world so focused on romance?

#not mine tag #god. yeah

[aroacearchangel]

why are romantic relationships / affection prioritized over other types of relationships / affection i hate it here

#aro #aromantic #aromance #arospec #aro spectrum #arospike #grey aromantic #aro pride #aroallo #aromanticism #squish aro #bellusromantic #cupioromantic #grey aro #freyaro #greyaro #aroace #grey aroace #aromantic pride

[aroacearchangel]

Attention All Arospecs

I was at a botanical garden today, and reading the signs with the names of the flowers, as one does, I was made aware of the fact that there exists a type of flower called the

AROMANCE

I love this information for many reasons.

First of all, I am arospec (Grayromantic) myself, and will gladly welcome something that even slightly suggests the concept of aromanticism.

Secondly, flowers are something that is seen as such a quintessential symbol of romance in our society. You give flowers to romantic partners and love interests to show romantic attraction. There could hardly be anything more textbook romance-y than a bouquet of flowers. If someone gives you flowers it’s basically assumed that romantic attraction is involved. But could you imagine giving someone a bouquet of aromances??? Specifically showing platonic love and attraction with a traditionally romantic gesture??? The possibilities??? Having a way to show love without romanticism being involved??? The way you could turn romantic stereotypes on their head???

I know it’s just a flower but please let a desperate arospec take what they can get. :)

(Also the opportunities for aro puns can never be overstated with something like this)

#WOW!!!! #SO COOL!!! #flower language

[aroacearchangel]

hey who wants to hold hands and play with my hair and be so gentle with me i might shatter into a million pieces

#might delete tomorrow #i am so touch starved #yearning #aro #aroace #aromantic #aromance #aspec #aspec community #aspec stuff #aromanticism #ace #a spectrum #aspec culture #queer yearning #lovequeer #lovequeer aro #aro pride #grey aroace #aro spectrum #arospec #grey aromantic #cupioromantic #touch starved #alterous #alterous attraction #alterous yearning #alterous relationship #queer platonic yearning #queerplatonic

[aroacearchangel]

…looks like this resonated with someone

at any point in time i become so overwhelmed with adoration for my friends that I wanna kiss them but if it’s read as romantic i will feel violently ill

#mine tag #reblog stuff #arospec #aro pride #aspec culture #aroace #aroallo #grey aromantic #aromance #aromanticism #aro spectrum #aro #aromantic

[aroacearchangel]

at any point in time i become so overwhelmed with adoration for my friends that I wanna kiss them but if it’s read as romantic i will feel violently ill

#aro #aromantic #aromance #aspec community #aspec #aspec stuff #aromanticism #aroace #grey aromantic #aroallo #aro spectrum #aro pride #arospec

[aroacearchangel]

being autistic with alexithymia (emotional blindness) is so much of a hinderance when navigating my aroace identity because. I know I feel affection. I know I feel closeness. I just don’t know How.

at some point it could be argued “but does it matter, really?” and yes it does, to me. sometimes it doesn’t, but sometimes it does. because I’ve told people I’ve dated what I thought was fascinating about them, what I adored about them, what I loved (yes, that word) about them. and they were all true. but there would be a look in their eye, searching for something that might not be there, a lilt in the question of “and what else” like they were waiting for something.

I enjoy the idea of a having someone who will like me forever and never leave, and it seemed like that’s what a romantic relationship was supposed to be. I still don’t know what I’m missing. How much of it is disingenuous if I love someone platonically, but I love them nonetheless?

I suppose what it comes down to is that I’m afraid having a platonic relationship with someone will never be enough, and that if I just play the part as something else then I won’t be alone.

#i’m so confused #allonormativity #aro #aroace #aromantic #aromance #aspec #aspec community #aspec stuff #aromantism #arospec #aromanticism #aro pride #grey aromantic #cupioromantic #greyromantic #autism #being autistic #autistic #autistic problems #autistic things #autistic experiences #autistic community #alexithymia #ND #neurodivergent

[aroacearchangel]

barbie is aroace no i will not be taking criticism

#aroace #aro #aromantic #aromance #aspec #aspec community #aspec stuff #ace #aromantism #asexual #barbie #the barbie movie #barbie movie #asexuality #acespec #arospec

[aroacearchangel]

All I want is someone to kiss and cuddle and banter with, without them wanting me romantically or sexually, is that such a hard ask?

[aroacearchangel]

finding another aro person in the wild is so !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am not alone in this world !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#aro #aromantic #aromance #aspec #aspec community #aspec stuff #aromantism #arospec #aro spectrum #aroace #greyaro #grey aroace #grey aromantic #cupioaroace #cupioromantic #recipromantic