#Mental health definition

[uncanny-tranny]

I think so many people are so deeply alienated from themselves that they have no clue how to exercise their free will and autonomy. For some, this alienation runs so deep that they are afraid of their own autonomy and humanity. It is completely understandable why one would have those feelings, but it can be worrisome.

I want to help others who feel this way, so here are small things I have done to exercise my free will:

Add "guilty pleasure" songs to playlists and actually listen to them (I have a ton of late 1990s-early 2000s music I listen to now proudly that I never listened to in the past out of shame)

Getting the décor item, bath set, bed spread, ect. in the patterns you like, even if it's "childish" (I got a dinosaur-themed wastebasket from the kids' décor section and I adore it)

Taking a new route to get to a place you go to often

Eat dessert first

Celebrate well, and often

Collect things that are "odd" or don't seem like an "acceptable" thing to collect (somebody on my "for you" page collects dandelion crayola crayons and it was so cool!!!!!!)

Incorporate one new piece in an outfit you wear frequently (e.g., a new chain, a necklace, ribbons, bracelets, ect.). Challenge yourself to add onto the outfits if you feel up for it.

Sing along to songs without worrying that you sound "good" or your intonation is completely accurate

Read a book from a genre you weren't allowed to read as a kid (comics, thrillers, mysteries, anything!)

Walk without having a specific destination or goal

Pick up a new craft without expecting yourself to master it or to ever be "good" enough. Get your hands messy.

I don't want to shame anybody for not feeling as though they have free will or that they are exempt from exercising it. However, I wanted to give ideas so that you might read this list and find your own ways to express your intrinsic autonomy and will. You deserve to be a person, to feel alive, not just living. That is what our lives are for.

#mental health #mental health support #positivity #if anybody has ideas of their own definitely include them! #i just think being stuck with this feeling that you don't have autonomy and that you ultimately aren't an equal person or a person at all.. #...in comparison to other people can be a really troubling and dangerous place to be in... #...and that isn't the person's fault for feeling that way. they didn't pluck those thoughts out of thin air... #...like i have felt that exact way all my LIFE because i have been abused for. probably 2/3s of my life... #...only within these past few years have i even FELT alive. frankly it's going to take a while to repair what i have been left with... #...so i know the feeling and i want to help others feel even a LITTLE bit alive. you deserve it... #...you deserve to take in a deep breath before slowly realizing 'oh my gd this is what it feels like to be alive' and SMILE about it #i want that for you even if it is brief. even if it is small. even if it is a whisper. i want you to feel alive #unironically getting rid of the idea of 'guilty pleasures' has made my life SO much better

[oysters-aint-for-me]

tips on refrigerator ownership for the mentally ill

1.) letting food go bad does NOT make you a Bad Person.

2.) it is okay to throw out only one thing at a time. even especially if there are a lot of expired things in there.

3.) give yourself permission to throw out tupperware once in a while.

#mental health #adhd #mental illness #notes to self #idk if anyone else will find this helpful or relatable lmaoo i don’t know if these are universal or common problems…. #like maybe most people don’t develop a guilt complex about their tupperware. #but i definitely did. so

[rayshaunbeamon]

#Mental health #Importance of mental health #Mental well-being #Mental health definition #Prioritizing mental health

[willthespy]

HUYS WHY DID THIS DK WELL I HATE IT GET IT OFF MY TOP POSTS THE RVIEVDLBEBDH

a birthday gift from a certain god…

#definitely way different from the dead rat for christmas #i took a mental health day today so i def had to rush this lmao #nico di angelo #solangelo #will solace #nico di angelo pjo #nico di angelo fanart #nico pjo #pjo #percy jackson #pjoverse #pjo fandom #pjo hoo toa tsats #rrverse #my art #pjo hoo toa #pjo hades #riordan verse #percy jackon and the olympians #pjo fanart #solangelo fanart #will solace fanart

[knifearo]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things. #people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time. #but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized. #sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement. #this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex. #and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things #especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love. #our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!! #it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild.... #anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that. #silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff. #love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another #same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take #anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that. #kiss kiss (<— lovelessly) #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #talking #aroace #aspec #sex positivity

[gjurri]

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[isot1ne]

i like to think goth is a gender in of itself

#goth #gothgoth #gothic #gender #gothgender #i usually just go by nonbinary but gothgender resonates quite a bit tbh #and there is something to be said about the overlap between the trans community and the goth community #and especially with how goth often rejects typical gender norms #idk there's definitely an essay to be written here but im not good at articulating my thoughts #but i dont really get dysphoria from looking more feminine or masculine the way i do if i feel like i look too preppy #and being able to be goth feels like its improved my mental health #idk tho im just someone on the internet throwing words at a wall

[flurry-of-beaus-pop-pop]

Matthew Mercer's video/announcement is exactly why the practice of fans demanding statements from "celebrities" is so problematic.

If people CAN make a statement and speak out and feel like they are in a place to do so, they should. And if people make statements on the wrong side of things they SHOULD be held accountable and called out for their bullshit.

But you never know what someone is going through, you never know what someone is struggling with and capable of emotionally, and you never know what people are doing privately. Just because it's not being screamed from the rooftops, doesn't mean it's not being done.

Personally, I have stayed largely quiet on social media regarding the Genocide occurring in Gaza and the humanitarian crisis occurring at the hands of Israel because I spend my days providing therapy to those who, like Matt, are just stuck and depressed with everything that's happening in the world and just don't have it in them to fight yet another thing that's happening, and like them, by the time I get home, I need to separate myself from that.

That doesn't mean that I haven't done what I can, that I haven't donated and called my representatives and signed petitions, it just means that what one person has the capacity to do, someone else might not have the capacity to do.

#critical role #matthew mercer #mental health #the world is fucked #and while some people are definitely not doing all they can #a lot of us are #ceasefire #ceasfire now #free gaza

[star-anise]

reading supercut: disability, body image, and trauma

A glimpse into the clothes thrashing around in the washing machine of my mind, with apologies that it is still a wet lump and not an actual synthesis of ideas.

From Easy Beauty: A Memoir by Chloé Cooper Jones:

[This event] embedded a damaging idea in me, one I’d recognize deeply when I read Scarry years later: beauty was a matter of particulars aligning correctly. My body put me in a bracketed, undercredited sense of beauty. But if I could get the particulars lined up just right, I could be re-seen, discovered like the palm tree is discovered. To be deserving of the whole range of human desires, I had to be extraordinary in all other aspects. In this new light, I started to see my work, my intellect, my skills, my moments of humor or goodness, not as valuable in themselves, but as ways of easing the impact of my ugliness. If only I could pile up enough good qualities, they could obscure my unacceptable body. [...] accepting the argument that beauty was malleable came, for me, with a cost. The Platonian view rejected me cleanly, but Hume and Scarry left a door ajar and I’ve spent a lifetime trying to contort my form to see if I could pass through it.

From Til We Have Faces: A Myth Retold by CS Lewis:

I now determined that I would go always veiled. I have kept this rule, within doors and without, ever since. It is a sort of treaty made with my ugliness. There had been a time in childhood when I didn't yet know I was ugly. Then there was a time (for in this book I must hide none of my shames or follies) when I believed, as girls do — and as Batta was always telling me — that I could make it more tolerable by this or that done to my clothes or my hair. Now, I chose to be veiled.

From Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy of Borderline Personality Disorder by Marsha Linehan:

Inhibited grieving is understandable among borderline patients. People can only stay with a very painful process or experience if they are confident that it will end some day, some time—that they can "work through it," so to speak. It is not uncommon to hear borderline patients say they feel that if they ever do cry, they will never stop Indeed, that is their common experience—the experience of not being able to control or modulate their own emotional experiences. [...] In the face of such helplessness and lack of control, inhibition and avoidance of cues associated with grieving are not only understandable, bur perhaps wise at times. Inhibition, however, has its costs. [...] Volkan (1983) describes an interesting phenomenon, "established pathological mourning", which is similar to the pattern I am describing. In established pathological mourning, the individual wishes to complete mourning, but at the same time persistently attempts to undo the reality of the loss.

From How to Respond to Criticism by Danny Lavery:

Apologize, but don’t really mean it, and plant a seed of secret resentment so deep in your own heart that years later you can’t even remember that you’re the one who nurtured it and made it grow, it seems that much like a native part of you.

From Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed:

[After learning that state child protective services had made a budgetary decision to only intervene with children under 12, to one of the teenagers that regularly shared stories of abuse at home] I told her it was not okay, that it was unacceptable, that it was illegal and that I would call and report this latest, horrible thing. But I did not tell her it would stop. I did not promise that anyone would intervene. I told her it would likely go on and she’d have to survive it. That she’d have to find a way within herself to not only escape the shit, but to transcend it [...] I told her that escaping the shit would be hard, but that if she wanted to not make her mother’s life her destiny, she had to be the one to make it happen. She had to do more than hold on. She had to reach. She had to want it more than she’d ever wanted anything. She had to grab like a drowning girl for every good thing that came her way and she had to swim like fuck away from every bad thing. She had to count the years and let them roll by, to grow up and then run as far as she could in the direction of her best and happiest dreams across the bridge that was built by her own desire to heal.

From Essays in Aesthetics by Jean-Paul Sartre:

Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you.

From "I Know What You Think of Me" by Tim Kreider:

if we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known.

#mental health tw #trauma tw #child abuse tw #child neglect tw #staranise original #kinda #there's also a lot I've been reading about avoidant personality disorder that DEFINITELY needs a lot more baking #before it's ready to be unleashed onto the public

[mushramoo]

I hate that having ADHD is seen as “quirky”. Or one of the “lesser” mental disorders.

It is agonizing.

You are constantly forgetting everything, names, locations, tasks, items, everything. You misplace things subconsciously and have to spend half hours looking for them, only to find them in places you genuinely cannot recall at all. Your memory is nonexistent. You are constantly aware that you have things you need to do or need to be doing but you cannot remember what. You know you are forgetting something but it doesn’t come to you, so you spend all day anxious. You get awful moments of dysfunction where words become incomprehensible and you are incapable of completing a task, but people are quick to assume you are lazy no matter how hard you’re trying. And one of the worst parts is that you KNOW you’re letting people down. You know you can’t grasp time so you’re showing up late even though you left extremely early. You know someone expected something from you by a deadline but you genuinely couldn’t remember. And in academics, you know some of your teachers are trying hard to be accommodating but you can’t even do the most basic tasks by the given deadlines. Or! You get teachers that do not even understand what mental disorders are and accuse you of not trying. People think you are using your disorder as an excuse just because you know you have it and use it to explain some of your behaviors. If you mask well enough to never need help, you don’t get diagnosed even though it’s taking all of your strength just to get by. If you don’t mask well enough and you are fem presenting like I am you are told you aren’t acting out so you are fine. You can’t win. It’s not quirky to have ADHD, and we aren’t faking it.

It’s a constant struggle, and I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone.

#I’m gonna include here that I’m not saying I have it the worst #Im also not saying that you can’t feel validated by your diagnosis bc I definitely did! #I just hate that people act like it’s not that bad #because it is #with adhd #adhd problems #actually adhd #adhd #living with adhd #adhd struggles #vent post #but you can reblog #in fact maybe do #I don’t know if other people feel this way #mental disorder #mental health #mental illness #mentally exhausted

[underwhelmingalchemist]

Made this for a discord server I’m in, thought I’d put it here. Remember to be kind to yourself. Yes, even if it’s really funny

#there are a lot of ways to rephrase things to get the same sentiment across without putting yourself down #and a lot of times it can be a lot more creative or funny #'i'm going to kms'? #no #you're going to bare-knuckle box the god of fate in a denny's parking lot #'i'm trash'? #nope #you're just too iconic for most people to understand and that's a them problem #it may not fix the problem #but it definitely helps #source: personal experience #sh recovery #mental health #positivity #positive psychology

[canisalbus]

it occurred to me this morning that machete is a cardinal, so in some universe he could feasibly become pope. i can't imagine anyone more stressed out than Machete As Pope

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#it'd be extremely unlikely but not impossible! as a cardinal he's definitely eligible #he's nowhere near popular prestigious connected and wealthy enough to compete against his more influential and power-hungry peers #I don't think he'd want that either #despite his high status he's a very private and reserved person and being a Pope is all about the pomp and circumstance #and I don't think he'd survive for long #he'd get some kind of disastrous mental breakdown or his health would completely give in under the stress and pressure #he's good at being a ruler's competent right hand man or second-in-command #but as a sole leader it's more likely he'd quickly lose his sense of direction and collapse like a house of cards #answered #doomcountry

[oneheda]

*ೃ༄ if avatar characters had twitter ?!

characters : lo’ak, neteyam, ao’nung, tsireya, kiri (if you squint), roxto

overall genre — mini tropes : fluff — jealous!neteyam, pining!ao’unung, trolling!lo’ak x tsireya, natureluvr!kiri, beefy!roxto,

warnings : some swearing

a/n : i laughed SM making this LMFAOAOOA. unhinged. didn’t expect this to go the way it did at first. this is my first fanfic (?)/content post abt avatar and was really inspired by modern au of avatar like tweets or hcs. but this doesn’t rlly take place in a modern au? i kept it in atwow/awa’atlu context. anyway, hope you guys enjoy reading this as much as i did making it!!

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#tsireya would have the most aesthetic acc tbh #neteyam would have a large following and claim it to be his only acc until smth serious happens and he has to make a priv to rant #kiri would be inactive most of the time for the sake of her mental health but follow lots of nature accounts #lo’ak would be addicted to twitter and spend more time on his spam #aonung definitely kicks people out of his spam often #roxto just chills and starts beef among his friends #atwow tweets #avatar tweets #avatar modern au #if avatar had twitter #avatar #avatarwayofthewater #atwow #atwow fanfiction #avatar fanfiction #lo’ak sully #lo’ak sully x reader #neteyam sully x reader #neteyam sully #aonung x reader #aonung #tsireya #roxto avatar #lo’ak fanfiction #neteyam fanfiction #fluff #funny #meme

[poetry-protest-pornography]

What's with all the BLs suddenly being so pro-therapy and medication? I am 10000% on board, but I am also Confused.

Like, Asian countries talk about mental health even less than we do in the West, and yet here they are, with more positive representation in the month of April 2023 than I have seen maybe ever on American television?

Wild.

#happy merry ending #the eighth sense #bed friend #and I'm definitely forgetting at least one more but I'm honestly just so impressed? #mental health #representation matters #mental health in media #the eclipse #though that was last year (i miss them so) #between us #our dating sim #a boss and a babe

[sethdomain]

he is like... Scar but nicer and not actually evil

#my art #fanart #the lion guard #kion #tlg #the lion king #tlk #he will be VERY sketchy #but all around he is still a good feller that tries his best #how is he not evil? #well his friend is there to always keep his mental not detoriate into how scar does #and also scar and kion isnt the same when they were the lion guard #scar was arrogant and definitely still has fucked up moral #kion is not he is heroic and he has good moral fondation #if you look closely in when i led the guard lyric many of the lyric suggest that scar was up on his own ass and also planned to take over t #e prideland anyway #and most of the time i dont think the venom instantly make a character evil #it just make them have the worst anger issue #and fucked up the victim mental health by making them paranoid n shit #wow #i think the venom just give you mental illness i think #uncured kion

[wyrdle]

One small thing in the F&C finale that was very augh for me was just ... what Simon needed. I mean, yes, therapy good, but I dislike the line of thought that it's some cure all— where is Simon's entire support system??? Marceline, Finn...? Even the old wizards, Gunther etc would've been incredibly relevant to mesh into that final quick cut montage of him healing. Just one little scene of him talking to Marceline, tearing up and getting a hug/comforted, would have tied up that bit in Episode 2 where he feels like he doesn't have anyone/feel needed.

#simon petrikov #fiona and cake spoilers #fiona and cake #this is my peeve lol #not articulate enough to talk about how damaging reducing mental health care to just therapy is #meh #its not the biggest issue but uagh. Simon definitely needed a shoulder to cry on