#this doesn't even really have to be an aro statement like i think it could fit most queer experiences

[shmaroace]

don't get me wrong, i love all the positivity around being aro, like "be proud of being aro!! love who you are!!", but we never talk about how hard it is to reach that spot. so here's to the aros who are still trying to understand themselves, who aren't proud of who they are yet, who are still coming to terms with their new identity.

#i was in serious denial about being aro for a long time like i knew the label and knew it fit but i refused to use it for several months #even after that point it took a while for me to be comfortable with the label or saying it #and this is not a bad thing!! being aro basically requires you to undo all the societal brainwashing you grew up with #and there is so much arophobia that it's hard to find positivity #i got lucky w/ this blog and the people i follow but i know i had a hard time being as proud of myself and my queerness as i am now #this doesn't even really have to be an aro statement like i think it could fit most queer experiences #sorry for the long tags haha #aro #aromantic #arospec #aromanticism #aro pride #aro positivity #aroace #aspec #1k #5k #6k #7k

[ilovedthestars]

and also just. the way ambiguity in relationships is assumed to be romantic, too. see, i wrote that whole post a while back about how I loved ambiguous fictional relationships, with deep devotion but no clear label as to the type of relationship. i called it love as in significance--that's where my tag comes from. love as in being important to someone, in whatever form that takes.

and what I said then about how this applies to romance still applies--when I'm reading about a fictional romance, I'll be much more engaged with one that feels built on that foundation of significance than one that isn't. flirting, the trappings of modern courtship, those feel empty to me without the feeling that these characters already matter to each other. (this is why in real life I'm so perplexed by things like dating apps, or people who actively seek out romance with strangers--I just personally can't fathom the idea of wanting that kind of closeness with someone you don't already know and care for.)

but in regards to ambiguity....I feel like I've been burned a little. I loved ambiguity because it meant you could take many things away from it. other people could see romance, but I could see the kind of deeply devoted platonic relationship that, let's be honest, is incredibly rare in fiction. but I'm starting to feel frustrated by the way ambiguity is assumed to be romance, without an explicit statement that it's not. (I've joked about the obligatory "no hetero" moments that have to be inserted into the start of a piece of media that has a male and a female protagonist with any kind of relationship other than romance--the "not with those lips" moment in the D&D movie, for example. It's funny, and i appreciate it being made very clear, but it's kind of sad that it has to be.)

and...okay, there's an elephant in the room that i really should acknowledge. I was talking about it in that first post, but I made a point of never mentioning it, although i'm sure plenty of people guessed.

I haven't watched Good Omens season two. I'm not sure if I'm ever going to. When I first wrote about my love for ambiguous relationships back in February of 2023, Aziraphale and Crowley were at the top of my list. When I wrote about how ambiguity left room for anyone to see themselves represented, and how i wished that a little more space was left for aro voices, I was talking about them. I was frustrated by people who saw that ambiguity as "queerbaiting"--didn't they see that the story was already queer, that Aziraphale and Crowley cared so deeply for each other, and whether they kissed or not wouldn't change anything?

But they did kiss. And it did change something. I don't feel like there's a place left for me anymore. And there's social pressure to celebrate, to be happy for another canon queer love story on TV, and god I'd love to celebrate that, but I can't help but feel a little betrayed by a story that I thought would leave space for me.

(and yes, a kiss doesn't have to mean romance--but in this, in hollywood, it's assumed to. the creators and the audience both understand it as such, unless someone stops to say no, we're friends who kiss each other the mouth, we're subverting your expectations. because the expectations are inescapable.)

I've been trying to give myself the space to feel upset about this. To remember that aro stories are queer stories too. And I think I'm raising my standards. I'll take ambiguity--I'll take any carved-out space I can find. But I'm not sure I trust it anymore. I want explicitly platonic relationships with the level of love and devotion and care usually reserved for romance. I want to read and watch and listen to stories about people who are significant to each other without romance even being in the picture. I want love that isn't synonymous with romance. I'm going to stop feeling like I have to settle for anything less.

#stars has thoughts #aro thoughts #love as in significance #platonic love #amatonormativity #aphobia #sorry for not tagging this go2 spoilers but it's been a while and i think everyone's either seen it or given up avoiding spoilers #and i frankly don't want to put this anywhere near a good omens tag #also: as usual this is a complaint about broader media trends that can't be solved by a few counter examples #BUT i will still take media recs especially from fellow aspecs #i need more platonic love stories in my life

[platonically-loving-alastor]

Aroace Alastor

Hoo boy here we go- This one might make some people mad at me, so I'll preface by saying I do not want to start a fight and as long as you respect my business, I'll respect yours. But let's get this over with-

First off, I genuinely don't understand how some people can see the Ace-In-The-Hole quote and still believe that Alastor is only intended to be asexual and not also aromantic. Yes, the term Rosie used for purpose of the pun was 'ace', but can we look at the context of that moment before jumping to conclusions?

Rosie, motioning to Charlie: "Oh, who's this you brought with you? Come now, Alastor, she's much too young for you! Oh, I'm just kidding. I know you're an ace in the hole!"

Her original statement implies nothing sexual, only that he's involved in a relationship with Charlie, and she follows it up with why she knows that couldn't be because he's an 'ace in the hole'. I don't think you have to read too far between the lines to see that.

I would also like to say that when Vivienne has spoken about his orientation before, I recall her saying that she didn't want to confirm him being aromantic so that she wouldn't 'ruin anyone's fun', which I just feel like is an odd thing to say if she wasn't already explicitly picturing him as aroace. If she thought he had romantic attraction, why wouldn't she just say that? What fun would that ruin? I also feel like keeping things like this ambiguous just to appease the shippers is a little weird, but I digress-

And to those of you who I know are saying "But aromantic people can be in relationships too!!" *deep inhale* yeah I know. I'm not gonna pretend you're not right about that, but there are also aroace people who have exactly 0 interest in romance or sex at all. This is the part of the post that really is based on how I interpret certain moments, but to me he is absolutely one of those people. I don't really know where people get any vibes of him being interested in that stuff. I have never once looked at him and thought "Yeah I could see him in a romantic relationship with *insert character here*". Even aside from attraction in general, since that's what we'd be talking about at this point anyway, he just seems like the kind of guy who'd rather work and live independently instead of relying on anyone, whether practically or emotionally (which is also probably part of the reason he never joined the Vees, but that's another topic entirely). Hell, I'm pretty sure he's in heavy denial about even developing any kind of care or friendship with the people at the hotel (ie. the episode 8 scene with him and Niffty).

The only ships I see him involved in with people he doesn't hate (so ignoring RadioApple, RadioHusk, and StaticRadio. But to be real, maybe the fact all his main ships are enemies to lovers coded says something about the whole situation, but that's just me-) are Charlastor - which I will not even try to discuss here, people aren't gonna like this post as it is - and RadioRose. Rosie and him would at least be fair, if it weren't for one thing (which is also personal opinion on my end), and I don't know exactly how to word it. I'm tempted to say she has wingwoman vibes? But she knows he's aro, so that's not the right word, but there's vibes of like, she probably did act as a wingwoman before she realized that about him or something.. There's also something about her joking around like "Oh this is the girl? You have a girlfriend and I'm only now meeting her?" is almost giving motherly behavior. Idk man they're just besties to me, I could see them in a QPR though (not that they'd probably label it that way, considering the word queerplatonic is likely just complete gibberish to Alastor lmao).

So to summarize: It feels incredibly likely, if not practically canon, that Alastor was written with aromanticism in mind, even if Vivienne refuses to explicitly state it. Subtext and not-that-subtle implications can say just as much about a character as word of God, especially when that God has explicitly told us why she won't confirm or deny this information. Do I think any of this will stop people from shipping him romantically with literally any other character? No ofc it won't, and that's okay, that's just what fandoms do. I do think there's something to say for the fact the one aroace (or even at the very least asexual) character gets constantly shipped with everyone else in the cast, but this post is long enough I think. The only point of posting this is that I wanted to get information out there in one post to say "Hey, let's look a little bit past the surface for a second before saying there's no proof of him being aromantic"

Anyway, thanks for reading, I hope you at least took something away from this

#*prepares to be metaphorically burned at the stake* #i will also say i have a complicated relationship with staticradio #if its one sided thats fantastic but the moment alastor reciprocates feelings im out #will probably make a post on that too at some point #hazbin hotel #alastor #aroace alastor #rosie hazbin hotel #platonic radiorose

[modelbus]

Ayup! I saw that your requests are open so I was wondering...if you have time, could you possibly write something about CC!platonic!Wilbur x GN!aromantic!teen!reader and they have a cute sibling relationship? Maybe after reader comes out to the public, they get hate for "ruining" romantic ships that fans created with reader and someone else (can't think of any specific person so it could be reader's best friend they've had on stream a couple times) and Wilbur stands up for them?? As an aromantic who craves and adores this type of content, it kinda bums me out that I can't seem to find it anywhere. (sorry if this is too long or too specific, i just really like the way you write). Could be headcannons or a oneshot, whichever is comfy and easiest for you. Whether you'd like to ignore or write, it's up to you, feel free to do with this what you will. Have an amazing day/night! :]

Happy Pride month!! Here's some headcannon things! I used "Alex" as the best friend's name because it's pretty androgynous and can be used for any gender.

I've been crazy busy recently, and so caught up with other things, but hopefully this offers you the content you wanted <3

Pairing: CC!Wilbur x Gn!Aro!Reader (Platonic)

Abashed Aromantic

Wilbur is absolutely pissed when he sees the sheer amount of hate you're getting on Twitter.

He wants to make a statement right then, but you convince him it's fine and that the love you're getting from the community greatly outweighs the hate.

It takes a lot of convincing to get him to stand down though, he's just so upset that people would dare be mad at you for who you are.

"Are you sure you don't want me to say anything? You know I'd gladly tear into them. It's not right-"

"I know, Wilbur. I'm sure." You say softly.

Wilbur nods, then pauses and starts again, unable to help himself it seems.

"They're all full of shit anyways-"

No matter how much hate you get, you keep telling him it's okay, so he respects your boundaries and doesn't say anything.

Even as your dm's flood with threats and messages about how you're ruining "ships" for your fandom, you stay quiet, hoping it'll just go away.

That is, until the hate goes too far, to the point where not even your Moderators can manage all the hateful messages on streams. Some slip by, and, of course, those are the ones you manage to read.

It's meant to be a peaceful "just chatting" stream when the donation comes through, somehow making it past all of your mods.

The stream donation sound sounds out over your headphones, and you perk up, waiting for text-to-speech to read the message aloud.

"I can't believe you're ruining all of our ships by being aromantic. You really would've been perfect with Alex. Fuck you." The robotic voice reads out. For a voice that's usually so comforting, ice-cold hurt races through your veins at the message.

It's just too much. You were trying so hard to ignore all the hate, ignore how the ship name for you and your best friend trended for days after you came out, but you can't anymore. And all because of something you couldn't even control.

Silence falls in the stream. That is, until Wilbur speaks up. You had almost forgotten he was in a call with you, so swept away in the donation.

"Who said that? Who was that?" He asks. Wilbur didn't get truly mad often, but in this moment you're glad you're not the one he's pissed at. "To that person and anyone else who thinks that message is okay, fuck you. That's not okay."

"Wil-"

"No. It's not okay." You snap your mouth shut, realizing that there's no stopping Wilbur. Even though you tried to stop him, a part of you can't help but rejoice at him speaking up for you, protecting you. "You aren't ruining anything by being yourself. Hear that, chat? Get that through your heads."

You scan chat, waiting anxiously to see their reactions. For the first time since you came out, it's overwhelmingly positive. True relief comes rushing through you, like a breath of fresh air.

"Now. Where were we?" Wilbur asks, nudging you along. "We were talking about bees, right?"

Later, you thank him, but Wilbur won't even let you thank him. He just keeps saying that it was "his job to protect you" and to "fuck the haters."

He makes sure to post a Tweet about it too, once you give him the okay to.

...and he makes an Instagram post with just photos of you two. Just to make it very clear.

In order to make sure you're entirely okay, he insists on having a movie night and binge-watching all of the Marvel movies in order. Popcorn, snacks, blankets, and all.

(Wilbur is upset at himself for a while after because he felt like he should've done something sooner, but eventually he's just glad to have put an end to the overwhelming hateful messages you were getting.)

And, of course, he makes sure to not let anyone give you shit after that. Even the slightest hint of hate towards you has him loudly proclaiming how amazing you are.

"You're aromantic, right?"

You pause at the question from the other streamer before answering carefully. It's your first time talking to them, and it's in a MCC no less. "Yeah."

"Oh. That's... interesting."

Maybe it's the tone of their voice, but something about the statement rubs you the wrong way. You shake your head, planning to move on, but Wilbur jumps into the conversation.

"Damn right it's interesting. And only in the best of ways." He proclaims.

You smile to yourself, thankful for Wilbur every goddamn day.

"What's your Ace Race time again?" He asks you. "Isn't it ridiculously fast? You're just so good at MCC, you'll have to carry this team. You'll get us the points there for sure, probably single-handedly get us to victory-"

#mcyt imagine #mcyt #dsmp #wilbur soot x reader #wilbur soot #wilbur soot x you #wilbur imagine #wilbur x reader #wilbur #wilbur x you #aromantic reader

[chupacabraatemybrother]

I think a major bug in human interaction and misunderstanding (which leads to hostility) is due to black and white or binary thinking. I also think that this type of thinking is a very human trait that comes to us inherently, and if we're not careful enough we can find ourselves slipping into it at any time.

I was thinking about that scene in Star Wars Revenge of the Sith when Obi-Wan says to Anakin "only a Sith deals in absolutes." It's really funny because in that moment Obi-Wan is also using an absolute, thus negating his statement: Obi-Wan is definitely not a Sith.

Humans do this all the time in so many places, especially places like Tumblr in which discourse is high. People pick and choose which binaries they will reject and which ones they will embrace and enforce. On Tumblr for example, which is a primarily liberal space, we're pretty much in agreement that things such as disability, autism, gender, etc, are not black and white binaries and there is so much nuance, not even among a gradient but among a matrix.

These same people will then turn around and use other binaries such as rich versus poor, Democrat versus Republican, urban versus rural, etc. (I could write a whole post on how liberal culture both places rural living and being "one with nature" on a pedestal, while also vilifying the people that already live here and our established practices of living in nature, including [especially] hunting).

An example of this selective thinking I've witnessed is the whole discourse seen in some lgbtqa+ spaces surrounding the inclusion of Ace/aro individuals: people that don't neatly fit the binary (ex: aro but het) are considered with suspicion.

I've also heard stories of masc non-binary people not fitting in in various genderqueer spaces because they come across as too masculine to be perceived as gender non-conforming, but oddly enough I've minimally encountered the same issue when it's someone being femme.

TL:DR; everyone falls into the binary thinking trap sometimes because it is a inherently human trait. However there will always be someone who doesn't fit neatly into any of the binaries that you have assigned to the world, and people need to be prepared to face and challenge these assumptions as they become a exposed to different ways of thinking and existing in this world. There is no one right way to be a human, and people on the internet need to stop acting like there is.

#binary thinking #discourse #social justice #spectrums #lgbtqia #Tumblr culture

[thetooclevermartian]

need to get on my a-spec soapbox for a bit

something that's been on my mind and bothering me is the fact that people are, in a way, gatekeeping characters from being headcanoned as aro/ace. most often i see it manifesting as "this character can't be aro/ace/aroace because they did x!" and it really really bothers me because we a-spec people have such little representation, and when we try to find some for ourselves, even through headcanons, that's taken away from us too.

for example, i saw a post about how katniss everdeen can't be aroace because she married peeta and had kids. (no hate to op btw, i'm just explaining why i disagree strongly). but that statement negates several things. 1) sexual and romantic attraction are spectrums. meaning that some people are going to be on them and still experience sexual and romantic attraction to a degree. they're still a-spec. personally, i headcanon katniss as demiromantic demisexual, meaning she'd need a close emotional bond with someone before she could be attracted to someone in either way. which fits with canon that she is attracted to peeta and also doesn't acknowledge experiencing attraction to anyone else (except maybe platonic attraction with gale but that's another thing). anyway. 2) ATTRACTION IS NOT REQUIRED FOR A RELATIONSHIP. or marriage. or kids. or sex. or kissing. or anything, really. to say katniss can't be a-spec because she does these things erases the experiences of aroaces that do do these things. plus, for younger me, an aroace kid who didn't know he was aroace, seeing a character that wasn't focused on romance at all was important to me. even now, it's still important to me! i'll stand by a-spec katniss because of that!

one that also bothers me, though i see where people are coming from, is kaz brekker and inej ghafa. and though i completely understand not headcanoning them as a-spec, i have seen people shaming the fact that others would interpret them as such. (not to mention i have a-spec headcanons for them both that are supported by canon, but that's a post for another time). in a world where a-spec people have such little representation, why would you try and make us feel bad for looking for it? who does it harm if we headcanon characters as such? i've also seen other people say, "you have tolya and harshaw [other grishaverse characters if you don't know], who are either confirmed or heavily implied, why would you headcanon kaz and inej?" and again, no hate to these people, but have you ever considered that a) i want a wide variety of aro/ace spectrum characters. this includes characters that experience sexual/romantic attraction to some degree, or not at all but still engage in sexual or romantic actions. b) aro and ace people are never the main characters. (and in the case of tolya and harshaw, i'd like there to be more than just two minor characters who are in only 4/9 books combined). because in typical literature and media, main characters have to have romance. they have to have sex, or sexiness, at least. and behind that, they have to have attraction. if they have these things without attraction, they're a slut or a whore or an emotionless robot. c) so often, i am looking for myself in characters, because i know if i don't search, i will almost never explicitly find them.

all this big long stuff to say that i cannot put into words the exact, deep, acute ache i feel when i think about aroace representation and about how little we have. who does it benefit to keep us from finding ourselves and our unique experiences in characters we like? i'm just so exhausted of having my identities' representations stolen from me just because people don't understand what it means to be aromantic or asexual. so for the love of all things, please just let me find happiness in my favorite characters, cause god knows we aren't getting good, varied, common representation anytime soon.

#ok i'm off the soapbox #for now #LET US HEADCANON CHARACTERS AS A-SPEC WITHOUT BACKLASH PLEASE I'M BEGGING #you can pry my a-spec headcanons out of my cold dead hands #aromantic #asexual #katniss everdeen #the hunger games #kaz brekker #inej ghafa #tolya yul bataar #harshaw #six of crows #shadow and bone #king of scars #grishaverse

[askanaroace]

Ask An Aro Ace ASAW Day 2: Being a Non-Favorable Aromantic

Today is another day where I kinda talk about something that's treated as different within and without the community. Today I want to talk about being romance-indifferent or romance-averse or romance-repulsed.

A quick primer for those who might need:

Romance-favorable: generally likes and is open to romance.

Romance-indifferent: generally unbothered by and doesn't think about romance. Doesn't really want it but isn't strongly turned away from it.

Romance-averse: generally uninterested in romance but not especially upset or uncomfortable with it.

Romance-repulsed: generally experiencing discomfort and upset surrounding romance.

This may be in the realm of romantic content to personal outlook on romance and the desire or lack thereof to be in a romantic relationship. And not everyone has to use these or may even feel the scale is useful to them, for example because someone might be favorable to romantic media but repulsed by the idea of personally participating in romance or their feelings may fluctuate over time and be different at different times.

I would say I fall along the lines of being romance-indifferent. In the past, I have been touch-repulsed and sex-repulsed (and now probably lay somewhere along indifferent to averse), so I have general experience with how intense and upsetting repulsion can be and how it can impact your life, though I can't speak specifically to romance-repulsion.

What I want to talk about is the extremely different perspective that comes out about romance depending on if you're looking at things from within or without the community.

When your general allo hears about aromanticism, they are most likely to assume someone completely uninterested in romance and potentially even repulsed by it. You may get gross comments about being picky or immature or afraid of commitment and have it said or implied that the "right person" will "fix" you (as if romance-favorable aros aren't still aro!). Dehumanization is especially common with aros with claims of "love is what makes us human".

But within the community, this treatment by allos has led to a sense of shame surrounding aversion and repulsion, as well as aplatonicism, heartlessness, and lovelessness. There is a tendency to try and defend aros from such judgements by using amatonormative claims like "aros can still want to date!" and "aros can love in other ways!" which leaves out aros for whom these statements aren't true and sets up the prospect that the only acceptable way to be aromantic is to be romance-favorable and partnering (whether that be a romantic or queerplatonic or platonic partnership).

I know very well that romance-favorable aros face their own struggles and often feel invalid and fake due to their favorability. That's a real and valid feeling and struggle. But truth is that I see a lot of validation, positivity, and encouragement for favorability.

And if you run in the right circles, you'll see that same energy given towards indifference, aversion, and repulsion. But overall, it can be very difficult to talk about being repulsed in particular. People treat you like your discomfort is difficult to accommodate, like your feelings are a burden to them. And it's an especially terrible burden for a repulsed person to have to carry because we're the ones dealing with literal repulsion over these subjects. Accommodating us takes a little conscious, thought yes, but when I was repulsed, that could manifest as:

Being unable to stomach watching certain shows/movies

Getting very easily embarrassed and flustered and uncomfortable with such material

An actual, physical sensation of freezing up and my body shutting down

Dissociation

Involuntary flinching

Anxiety and fear over having to face certain situations

People can also experience things like nausea, dysphoria, depression, etc.

I get that accommodating us does take some mindfulness and effort, but I promise that it is easier on you than it is on the repulsed person to go through the above.

And acceptance for this definitely has improved over time. But making room for non-favorable folk means more than us being an after-thought. It means including these experiences in your definition of aromanticism. It means updating your content warnings. It means changing the way we defend our identity.

Humans are defined based off of general biology and society building defined by traits like bipedalism, language, tool-making, foresight, and opposable thumbs. Nothing at all to do with love, which is something we can observe throughout the animal kingdom. All aros are humans because that's the scientific classification we're born into. You don't need love to be compassionate or kind towards other people. Every living creature is worthy of basic respect. Aromanticism doesn't harm people (anti-aro bias and amatonormativity do). Whatever our feelings, those deserve to be respected and considered.

By breaking down these barriers and stereotypes, we help everyone. Because there's a lot of different ways to feel and live, and we deserve to get to explore those options.

#asaw #asaw 2023 #aromantic #aro #aro spectrum #romance indifferent #romance averse #romance repulsed #amatonormativity #arophobia #love #arospec awareness week #aromantic spectrum awareness week #asaw day 2 #loveless aro #heartless aro #aplatonic

[drearydisastress]

i. initium

Wednesday x fem reader

Word count: 3k+

Multiple parts

You're the new student Wednesday finds herself forced to show around your first day. You claim to live a life of normalcy, but Wednesday quickly learns that much more lurks beneath the surface of your mundane facade.

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Being called into Principal Weems office came as no surprise to Wednesday Addams, there were a plethora of things she could've been in trouble for; sneaking out to sleuth, sneaking people in to help her sleuth, attempted homicide, anything was possible really. What did come as a surprise to her was the presence of Ms. Thornhill, who held a pot containing a Middlemist Red Camellia (Camellia species) in her hands.  

"Miss Addams, please have a seat," the principal motioned towards one of the chairs in her office, but the gloomy teen preferred to stand.  

"Why have I been called here?" she inquired, not wanting to spend any more time than she had to with the pair of women. 

"Straight to the point as always," Thornhill hummed. "Wednesday, as you might have heard, we have a new student joining us and after reading her personal statement I thought that you were the best person to show her around-" 

"No," Wednesday deadpanned, she'd heard rumors of a new student, but figured it was nothing more. "I think we all know that I'm never the best person to show anyone around, why didn't you just ask Enid? She was sufficient in showing me around my first day."  

"We didn't think Enid was the best suited to show this particular student aro-"  

"Yet you thought her and I would make the perfect pairing," she turned her attention to the principal. "I thought this school didn't accept people mid-term." 

A quiet knock at the door killed the conversation in the air and the principal looked to the stoic girl once more. 

"You are living proof that all rules have exceptions. This is not a request Miss Addams, you will be showing Miss Salvatore around today," she spoke before plastering on a welcoming smile and inviting whoever was on the other side of the door in.  

Whatever the eldest Addams was thinking before you walked in went out the window when you entered, you were striking, but not in the way she could say she liked. You looked between the unfamiliar faces in the room with piercing, cherry red eyes, even in a school full of outcasts she'd never seen anyone with eyes quite like yours. Your hair fell just past your shoulders in waves and your lips were painted a burgundy red that almost matched her own perfectly. Surely, they'd have no problem finding someone who would take much more pleasure in doting on you, you were pretty, and she could already feel all the eyes that would inevitably be on the pair of you if she walked you around the school. As Ms. Thornhill surged forward to greet you, Wednesday took the opportunity to speak privately with Weems, her usual blank expression dark with irritation. 

"I'm not doing this." 

"If you'd only give this a try, I think you'd find that you and Miss Salvatore may have a lot in common." 

"I'd rather you rip my tongue out and force me to eat it. Principal Weems, this-" she stopped as you approached. 

"Y/n Salvatore, this is Wednesday Addams, Wednesday this is Y/n Salvatore. She'll be showing around today," Ms. Thornhill introduced you. 

"Nice to meet you," you spoke, extending your hand to the gloomy girl, but recoiling once you were met with nothing more than a cold stare. "The pleasure is all mine, I'm sure."  

You shifted uncomfortably under her stare, and she stared for a while, trying to gauge the energy you brought into the room. You seemed harmless, but so did pandas, and they could rip you to shreds if you crossed them. She couldn't determine what kind of outcast you were; she hadn't noticed any fangs when you spoke and you weren't wearing any headgear so you couldn't have been a vampire or gorgon, perhaps you were a werewolf like Enid or-  

"Y/n do excuse her rudeness, Wednesday doesn't like," she stopped, tearing the Addam's from her thoughts. "Anything." 

"Isn't it more logical that her roommate shows her around? Why me?" 

"If you must know, she does not have a roommate Miss Addams. Now, we are not requesting you show her around, we're requiring it," Principal Weems finally interjected. "Now if your time is that precious to you, I recommend you not waste any more of it arguing. Miss Salvatore is to be taken around to each of her classes, then to collect her uniform, and lastly to her dorm in Ophelia Hall." 

Wednesday glared at the pair of women once more and understanding that she wasn't going to get her way this time, she begrudgingly turned to face you once more, speaking not a single word as she led you out the office and through the quad. The world didn't stop the second the two of you stepped foot in the buzzing center, people took sight of you slowly, whispering to their friends and starting a chain reaction that resulted in all eyes on the two of you. The whispers buzzed in your ears and although you wanted to cave in on yourself, you opted to put on a confident smile, everyone was clearly curious but cautious as you followed behind the grey girl, and it would be stupid of you to not take advantage of the power being the new girl would bring you for a few days. 

"How surprising to see the psychopath leading around the fresh meat?" a taunting, unfamiliar voice rang in your ears. "I liked this place more before they started making exceptions for any tragic misfit that stumbled through the gates, does the integrity of this school mean nothing to Weems anymore?" 

"Y/n, this is Bianca Barclay she's every bit as sad and desperate for the acceptance of her peers as she seems."  

You'd met many Bianca's in the past, they'd made your formative school years hell, but you didn't let them get the best of you and you weren't about to let her.  

"The bitchy mean girl act is awfully tacky don't you think?" you challenged, earning a shocked look from the woman. "I honestly don't think you could be more cliche if you tried and I can see that you are, a little too hard if you ask me."  

The siren rose from her seat at the edge of the fountain, stalking towards you until she invaded your personal bubble. She towered over you, but you wouldn't be shaken, unwavering you glared up at her; behind you Wednesday's eyebrow cocked upwards, interested as she watched you pair. 

"I read about you on wolfies blog, a trouble making normie who couldn't play her own role amongst her own kind becomes so terribly ostracized that she's forced to come to school with the rest of the rejects? I'm not buying it, we've had plenty of normies transfer here under the guise of not fitting in when they really just wanted to destroy this place from this inside out," she spat, stepping impossibly closer to you, observing your features closely. "Although...I've never met a human with eyes quite like yours, but mark my words newbie, you may be front page fodder now, but you'll fall back into obscurity where you belong within a few days. I'm keeping my eye on you nuisance and if I catch you even an inch out of line, there will be hell to pay, got it?"  

"Someone has a hero complex," you looked back to the Addams behind you. "Is she always this intense or only on days when she feels threatened?"  

Wednesday was intrigued by you, not very, but certainly more than she was by the rest of her class; she would have never guessed you were a normie with your appearance. Besides, anyone who stood up to Bianca like that couldn't be that bad and something she said made the gloomy girl's ears prick up, it wouldn't hurt to have a little fun in a bad situation. 

"Her desperate need to be on top means she's always on edge and had a lonely childhood, don't take it personal. We really must be continuing the tour, I don't want to waste more time than I have already," she deadpanned, turning to walk away from the two of you. 

You chuckled at her answer, glaring up at Bianca once more before following after your woeful tour guide, walking much closer to her than you had been earlier.  

"Is everyone here that intens-" you started, taking notice of the way she looked at you, with much more intensity than before, like she was trying to see through you. "Never mind. You know, I figured my first day at Nevermore would be weird, but this is a lot even for me. Also, why isn't your uniform blue like everyone else's? Are you valedictorian or something?" 

"I'm allergic to color."  

You chuckled, "Is that all I have to say? I already wasn't thrilled with the vertical stripes, but blue really isn't my color."  

"I'm not lying," she deadpanned, not even glancing your way as she spoke. "I'll break out in hives and the skin will fall off my bones." 

"Is that even possible? If so, aren't black and white colors?"  

"You're in a school full of vampires and gorgons, do you really doubt anything anymore? Black and white aren't colors, they're shades, I thought that was common knowledge. Your plan is flawed anyway, how can you possibly expect anyone to believe you're allergic to color when you're wearing a yellow shirt."  

You shrugged, "Fair. I guess it still isn't a great uniform, but definitely better than the blue one." 

You reached to touch the fabric as you spoke and despite her going out of the way to avoid you, your fingers grazed her arm. 

Upon first contact with you, her body involuntarily stiffened, and her neck snapped upwards, electricity coursed through her body as she was plagued with a vision. A couple images flooded her mind; men whose faces were obscured by the large hoods of their black robes surrounding a table decorated with candles and symbols she didn't recognize, your photo sat at its center. The next was of you, bound to the ground of the woods and screaming in abject agony as you desperately tried to surge forward, reaching for something she couldn't see; then your heart was ripped from your chest. 

"Wednesday?!" she heard as she came to, your face coming into focus as blinked. "Thank goodness, I thought I killed you or something."   

Her heart pounded so violently that she worried it would come out of her chest, and after seeing it happen firsthand, it no longer seemed as fun as she previously thought. The smell of lavender and rose eased her out of discombobulation as she took in her surroundings, it was only then that she noticed the crowd that formed around the two of you and the position you were in. You were sitting on your knees, cradling her head in your lap, your face mere inches from her own; cherry red eyes scanning the Addams' features frantically for injuries. Wednesday stared back at you for a second, finally expressing an emotion other than indifference, she was perplexed. Her head spun as she shot up, glaring at the crowd until they dispersed and putting distance between the two of you.  

"Are you okay? Do you need to go to the nurse?"  

"I'm fine."  

"Hey what's going on?" a voice you didn't recognize, but that was all too familiar to the girl beside you rung out through the thinning crowd. "Woah, I never thought I'd see Wednesday Addams playing welcoming committee," the bubbly blonde spoke, staring between the two of you. 

"I'm not playing anything; I was forced into this role. Enid this is-" 

"Y/n Salvatore, the normie newbie who got kicked out of every school in her town, earning herself a reputation so bad that only Nevermore would take her? I'm almost offended that you thought I didn't know, her info has been up on my blog for like 3 days now, you’d know that if you kept up with it," she looked at you once more. "I thought the red eyes were just editing, are they contacts? Would you be willing to answer some questions my readers have been just dying to know?" 

You were slightly disturbed by the information Enid just relayed to you but considering the fact that she had been the friendliest person you'd met thus far, you figured there'd be no harm in answering her questions; she'd find out on her own soon enough anyway.   

"They aren't contacts and sure I guess, yours must be the blog Bianca mentioned earlier," you pulled a cell phone from your pocket and extended it to the girl. "Follow it on my phone, I'd love to see what else you've dug up about my mundane life."  

Enid practically bounced as she typed the information into your phone before placing it back in your hands.  

"Wednesday will bring you back to our room when she's done showing you around, I have to go prepare!"  

The eldest Addams opened her mouth to protest, but closed it promptly, the vision showed her that much more lurked beneath surface of your mundane facade; you were in danger. She had no choice now but to keep an eye on you now and it annoyed her deeply, but if her clairvoyance followed any sort of rule, she would only have to make sure you didn't die until the next morning. 

"She seemed nice, I was starting to worry that everyone here was a bitter Bianca or woeful Wednesday-" you stopped, realizing how rude that sounded. "No offense."  

She walked ahead of you before responding, 

"I take it as a compliment, nothing you could possibly come up with could insult me, let's get the rest of the day over with." 

The remainder of the tour went relatively smoothly compared to the first half; you tried (and failed) to get your hands on a black uniform, walked through each of your classes, and saw your room for the first time. It was big and bare and for some reason sent a sick feeling into the pit of your stomach, you had really hoped for a roommate, but you could manage being alone. Despite your attempts at starting a conversation, Wednesday hardly spoke to you, it wasn't until the two of you made it to her door that she broke the silence. 

"Give me a few to tidy some things up before you come in."  

She didn't wait for a response before entering her room and closing the door in your face. 

"Howdy roomie," Enid greeted the gloomy girl fondly. "Where's Y/n? I thought you were bringing her." 

Wednesday didn't respond, moving swiftly to her desk she loaded her typewriter, quickly typing and scribbling on a document, before handing it to her roommate.  

"These are some questions I would appreciate you asking Y/n, she doesn't get to know they're my own," She deadpanned before opening the door once more and allowing you entrance to the room.  

"Wow," you mused, looking around their half-pastel, half-gothic room. "You two are a cute pair of besties, I love the opposites attract theme going on in here." 

"We aren't 'besties'."  

"Oh em gee, I know right!" The pair spoke over each other. "I could totally help you decorate you room when you get to it, but let's get down business."  

You watched Enid plop onto her been and open a laptop that's top panel was adorned with cute stickers, the blonde looked up at you once more, patting the spot in front of her. 

"Come sit, I don't bite, well not anymore."  

You obeyed, sitting crisscross in front of her as she began prodding you with questions, Wednesday watched the two of you from her side of the room.  

"Okay, let's start by addressing some of the most popular rumors going around the school about you. Some people have started wondering whether you left your town in order to escape a stalker that was coming after you, what do you have to say about that?"  

You laughed, shaking your head before speaking,  

"So not true, you had it right the first time; I came here after getting kicked out of every school in town, my parents sent me here as some sort of punishment. If I couldn't behave myself in human school then they'd throw me to the freaks and see how I fared, their words, not mine."  

The tick of keys as Enid typed was impossibly fast and you watched her stunned before she moved on to the next question. Wednesday was unsure of how many ridiculous questions her roommate had asked you before finally moving onto the important ones, hers.  

"There's been buzz around the school that you aren't really a normie, I mean they famously don't tend to have naturally occurring red eyes, what are your thoughts on this?" 

Wednesday listened closely as you pondered your answer for a second, 

"I'm not sure of the science behind how my eyes got to be this color, but I can assure that I'm as normal as they come, both of my parents are normies and sadly closed minded to those who are different." 

Something about your response piqued Wednesday's interest, most people embellished their lives, desperate to come off as the exact opposite dull and ordinary; you openly painted a picture of and welcomed mundanity when describing your own. Enid looked down at the page resting on her laptop and shot her roomie a strange look from across the room before asking, 

"Some strange students speculate that you have a cult pursuing you, any comment?" 

"Are these the same students that think I was being stalked? Unless these students are the cult, I have no idea what that's all about, people come up with some weird theories to fill the void."  

Wednesday earned yet another look from Enid as she asked her final question,  

"Do you recognize these symbols?"  

Your eyes widened slightly for a split second that went unnoticed by the blonde as you took in the symbols doodled on the page, you certainly recognized them, but snapped out of it pretty quickly.  

"I don't recognize them," you lied, handing the page back. "Your readers wanted to you to ask me that?" 

Enid looked past you as she spoke, 

"Someone did."  

You decided to leave shortly after she finished interviewing you and was surprised when Wednesday stood, telling more than offering to walk with you, lying that she was going that way anyway. The brisk walk was just as awkward as the tour had been, she walked beside you, never once glancing in your direction or attempting to make small talk until you got to your door.  

"Will you be staying here for the rest of the night?" the gloomy girl questioned, shocking you once more. "Or will you be wondering around the school?"  

"I'll probably stay in here, why? Are you the stalker people speculate is following me?"  

Your joke fell on the deaf ears of Wednesday Addams and she wasn't laughing, your cheeks warmed slightly in embarrassment; you coughed uncomfortably, thanking the stoic teen for showing you around before disappearing into your room. Wednesday was happy for that to be over with, she could stop babysitting and start sleuthing. She may not have been looking at your face when Enid showed you those symbols, but your body language told her everything you needed to know, you stiffened sharply the second they came into view. Clearly you were lying, but about what was for her to figure out. Perhaps Bianca wasn't far off in thinking that you came to Nevermore with ulterior motives, but she'd have to do a lot more investigation before she was willing to admit that the siren was correct.

She was in her head about you well into the late hours of the night when something concerning caught her eye, you were sneaking around campus, clearly headed towards the woods. That wasn't what concerned her though, what concerned her was the hooded figure that followed swiftly behind as you disappeared into the forest.

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I posted this before on a different account, but got burned very badly by a blaze and wanted to start again lmao. This is a personal writing that I've been working on for a short while, it ended up being much longer than originally intended, but I am happy with it and hope you were too. I'd love to hear whether or not you all think I should continue with it, but I probably will reguardless. I hope the mystery lurking beneath Y/n's surface was enough to intrigue you into staying, but even if it didn't, thank you for your time <3

#wednesday #wednsday addams #wednesday netflix #wednesday 2022 #wednesday series #wednesday x reader #enid sinclair #bianca barclay #xavier thorpe #wednesday fanfic #wednesday imagine #wednesday x you #wednesday x fem!reader

[snek-eyes]

Hi Vee! How are you? I hope you had a great start into the new year 🥳

I have a meta question! I'm not very good at comprehending stuff sometimes, so it might be a dumb question but alas. I'm ace, so it really bothers me not to know which is why I think you could help.

When Shax dresses up as hitchhiker and talks to Aziraphale on the way from Scottland, she says she's bemused as to why Crowley would risk destruction for him because "you don't seem his type at all". Does she mean judging by Crowley's looks and coolness and so on or does she mean Crowley had other lovers before and Azi doesn't fit in with them? The latter would bug me ngl, I'm the kind of romantic who even wants that kiss we saw to be the first kiss for both of them 😅 And then again Neil said that they can still be ace because the kiss was romantic but there is "no evidence for sexual relations" between Crow and Azi which then must include that of course there are also no hints that they've ever been involved with others...right? (I'm ace and I'm aware aces can have sexual relations if we want to but I think since Neil says they can be ace because there's no evidence of that, it means he includes those of our community repulsed by sex, too.)

I'd love if you could shed some light on the matter 😄

Cheers!

- 💫

Hey, happy new year! ✨🎉

So first, to actually answer your question, I think Shax in the car is just trying to rattle Aziraphale, like she does later in the bookshop by calling him Crowley's emotional support angel—except the one in the car doesn't work because Aziraphale's not going to be made to feel too lame to be Crowley's type, pfft. He's confident by this point that he very much *is* Crowley's type, even if they haven't acknowledged it.

Secondly: IMO, one of the funnest things about shipping Aziraphale and Crowley is how versatile they are. The only thing for certain is they, against all odds, have become each other's most important person. What exactly that means is pretty open to interpretation. All that to say, if you think they're Ace or even Aro, absolutely rock on!

I have a great appreciation for how Neil keeps emphasizing that canon is only whatever's "on the page," (or on the screen, in this case), and whatever he or anyone else might say outside of that technically doesn't count. He and Terry wrote these characters, but ultimately, they aren't real people with a real tangible history. The gaps in canon are free real estate for the viewers to respond to and mentally fill in.

There seems to be nothing in canon that says either of them have kissed anyone before—or that they haven't. Sex is always going to be part of shipping culture in one way or another, but just because someone might interpret Shax's statement to mean that Crowley's had lovers before doesn't mean you're not just as free to believe that was their first kiss with anyone ever. Even if interpretations contradict, both are technically headcanon and can be equally valid until something in the show itself says otherwise. Have fun!

[Personally: I love Ace AC! It's actually my interpretation of canon. I'm also on team "neither had ever kissed anyone" because that just feels like it makes sense, both for their characters and frankly that's how it feels like David and Michael acted it (those two men know how to kiss, if they wanted it to feel like something other than 'desperately attempting something both of them had only seen before' they would have).

But reading fics where they're *not* that can be fun too, even if I personally don't think they were actually making out just offscreen this whole time. I've read and enjoyed fics I thought were blatantly out of character, but still told me a good story. And man, I will never forget feeling like an absolute king on AO3 in the months after I watched s1, putting in whatever combination of tags I was in the mood for and finding piles of gold.]

#A lot of my other pairs I read fic for are small enough that I have read the entire tag. The Gomens bounty is overwhelming. #If this queued right some relevant pride art should have popped out right before this #This sure went somewhere from the original question #V replies #V watches Good Omens #💫 Anon

[thecarnivorousmuffinmeta]

"Everything inside me came undone as I stared at the tiny porcelain face of the half-vampire, half-human baby. All the lines that held me to my life were sliced apart in swift cuts, like clipping the strings to a bunch of balloons. Everything that made me who I was—my love for the dead girl upstairs, my love for my father, my loyalty to my new pack, the love for my other brothers, my hatred for my enemies, my home, my name, my self—disconnected from me in that second—snip, snip, snip—and floated up into space.

I was not left drifting. A new string held me where I was.

Not one string, but a million. Not strings, but steel cables. A million steel cables all tying me to one thing—to the very center of the universe.

I could see that now—how the universe swirled around this one point. I’d never seen the symmetry of the universe before, but now it was plain. 

The gravity of the earth no longer tied me to the place where I stood."

(Breaking Dawn, page 237)

How the fuck do you read that, or better yet WRITE IT, and not think imprinting is a horrifying brainwashing?? Just HOW!?!?! I was sick to my stomach when I read it and was about to fucking cry. Is the fandom just that delusional?

I wouldn't blame the Twilight fandom on this one as this is most fandoms I've seen.

Soulmates are Big, Yo

People really really really really like soulmate AUs or the idea of soulmates and people destined to be together/made for each other in a way no one else is.

You see media with in-universe soulmates and many times in fandom you'll see AUs of the same tropes (soulmates in general, soulmate tattoos, the red thread, etc.) if there wasn't a soulmate idea already there. And we'll get conflict in that two people who hate each other discover they were soulmates the whole time, they rage against it for a bit, then discover destiny was right and get laid.

Imprinting is the spicier (not quite ABO but on the track of it) version of that where your soulmate is not only made for you/destined for you but will be whatever you need them to be, you will be their only priority in the entire world, they will be your wolfy wolf protector, etc.

Where the Meyer insanity comes in that sets her apart from your typical Ao3 author is that she sets imprinters up with babies. Multiple times.

Bella Also Doesn't Question It

It also helps that Bella our narrator specifically does not question it much. She gets a few questions out of the way with Jake where she gets the "they're whatever people need them to be" but ultimately finds the idea very romantic.

Bella is also quite gullible in her own way. She tends to believe what people tell her immediately and rarely believes they have hidden agendas. She questions Aro but has no idea which of his statements are true and which are lies and why he’d be lying. Edward she takes at face value, Alice, Jacob, there’s not even a question of if they’re lying to her or telling her something that they believe is true but might not be.

Bella just kind of accepts whatever she’s told.

Because Bella doesn't question it, the readers have to be actively questioning Bella or even Jacob in the above bit you have, to really have a "wait a minute" moment. That's not how most people read books, usually a person can take what the narrator says for granted in that "this is what I'm supposed to know and how I'm supposed to think about the universe these characters are in". Remember, that unreliable narrators for most people need to be explicitly pointed out.

So, you get this soulmate idea that people really like and combine it with Bella viewing it in a very rose-colored romantic view and you don't get people questioning it as much as they would otherwise.

#twilight #twilight meta #twilight headcanon #twilight renaissance #bella swan #meta #headcanon #opinion

[aro-culture-is]

hey im looking for advice here, dont feel obligated to answer this :)

im already in a romantic relationship and recently came out as ace to my gf and she was cool with it. but now im questioning if im aro aswell.

i dont think i want a romantic relationship with her anymore, but i still definatly want a close platonic one. my problem is that i cant tell if im aro or just dont love *her* romantically anymore. she's the only person ive really ever wanted a romantic relationship with, and even then im not sure if i was even romanticly attracted towards her. i already knew she had a "crush" on me, and looking back my feelings towards her and any past "crushes" felt fabricated or... dull? like i was *suposed* to feel something, or when i did im wondering now if it couldve just been craving close platonic affection.

im nd and out relationship has been extremely draining in the past, and also makes it hard to tell platonic vs romantic feelings in the past because i have a hard time describing past feelings

thank you for read :) i hope this isnt a bother to answer

hi,

i've been in a similar though different situation (same for everything except i also knew i was aro going into it and... thought we were on the same page on that too), and i'm mostly going to lean on my communication agenda and that experience to respond to you.

putting the facts into an order i think is important, based on your explicit statements: this relationship is draining for you. you don't think you want a romantic relationship with her, though you do want to maintain a close platonic relationship with her. you're nd and can have a hard time describing past feelings - and i wouldn't be surprised if that also occurs with current feelings.

(big mood, but 3 years ago)

I found that this ultimately meant I had to work on finding a way to safely express my feelings - that we should break up, and that I would like to remain close friends with my now-ex gf. for me, this was hard - I was balancing mental health for both of us, plus academic lives, and a long-distance situation. I ultimately decided that I had to initiate this conversation, and spent some time trying to take a step back and think of how she'd likely respond. Be cautious if you're prone to anxious thoughts - try to check in on what reactions you've seen them have and if this is actually similar. from there... honestly, you have to talk.

physical safety comes first: there is no universally wrong way to break up, imo. I don't know anything about your gf, so please don't be mad if i'm assuming the worst - my ex, while generally sweet, had severe problems with emotional regulation in situations like this, and in a disabled with trauma way. i recognized that she could, in a physical meeting where we were too close, respond with physical violence before she had time to process that urge. I chose to break up with her while at a physical distance, and near my car. For some people, physical safety is a necessary concern for their own self. i've also known a breakup where my concern was the physical safety of the other individual - in that case, follow a similar plan as to below, but for that individual.

emotional safety is next. if you can, let supportive others know beforehand that you're breaking up. friends, family, therapists, etc. it doesn't have to be the whole crowd, just whoever feels important and available. make sure you have some kind of set up that allows you to go to a safe place to feel your emotions, take a deep breath, and begin to move forwards afterwards. even if it's mutual, you probably will have some feelings to work through, and that's normal.

finally... I want to have a real moment. My ex and I talked so many times, for so long, about how we were going to remain friends if we broke up, and nothing would stop us from ensuring that happened. We haven't talked since I broke up with her. It happens sometimes. Try to have realistic expectations, and recognize that it might take a few weeks for emotions to return to a more baseline level between you - and if you haven't heard back, but haven't explicitly been told to fuck off, I'd say 2-3 weeks is an appropriate time to reach back out.

this is.... long. but i hope it helps to provide some perspective, address some scenarios that can be important to consider, and ultimately, provide a broad guideline for the process of breaking up with hopes of continuing friendship.

i hope this helps. more posts like this exist in the #advice tag.

mod kee

#Anonymous #not aro culture #not aro #like we're both aro or questioning #but honestly i don't think that's important to your immediate situation here #so i'm primarily filing this under #advice

[mdhwrites]

I heard Dana gave toh fans the freedom to consider their headcanons canon, or smth like that. There's probably more info on twitter but I don't use the app. What do you think?

So what I've heard is that it's not entirely this. It is just saying that whatever Dana says outside of the show, like in livestreams, panels, etc. don't count as canon. The only things that are explicitly canon is that which is in the show. Otherwise, everything else is her personal headcanons which are just as valid as any fans'. I was introduced to this a few days ago by someone sharing it with me (this was apparently said in a livestream btw so will almost certainly get lost to time) a tweet with me about someone being happy about their fan children being 'canon' It was cute and I didn't check what the ships were. I mostly responded to that person being happy that they could headcanon Lumischa as having eventually happened because that was more fun for me especially with my hands being bad. Besides, I think the statement is dumb on multiple levels that I'll get to eventually. Reading this question, I spent more than a single second thinking about it and went "Wait, but Amity is only a lesbian because Dana says so. This is absolutely going to make 70% of the fandom choose to make her bi because then they can ship her with whoever they want." AND GUESS WHAT SHIP THE TWEET WAS ABOUT!? FUCKING AMITER! It has always been a problem for the show that Amity's sexuality is not stated in it. It creates a similar excuse to what people who have to defend stuff like SasuNaru (my introduction to shipping through my older sister btw) of "They don't have a canon sexuality." Well... No longer does Amity. We do know she's interested in girls but that doesn't mean she isn't pan or bi.

I personally do not agree with this interpretation. For me, changing characters who appear to commonly be straight to gay is fine... Because there's close to zero gay characters in most genres, let alone mainstream popular shows. How many are in Shounen anime in general? Okay now remove the villains who are queer coded and tell me again. If the LGBTQIA+ (which I want to remind you I'm not a part of so I don't benefit from this interpretation) want to tell their stories within the media they like, they HAVE to change sexualities. They have no other choice. Meanwhile, Amity is not a particularly special archtype so if you're a straight dude wanting to ship her with yourself, you can find that elsewhere. Even within the same show, just use Lilith who in S1 was similar to Amity. Though yes, Lilith is technically aro/ace but only by decree from Dana and the show never actually sways one way or another on her feelings on relationships because... Why the fuck would it? It's a comedy adventure. Which brings us to the complicated question of what is right to include in a story or not (which I could go into a LOT more in a different blog). It's not like everyone is constantly stating their sexualities in real life after all. It's a rough place for a lot of creators, just like saying if a character is nuerodivergent. A lot of stories just don't have a place for that sort of exposition and honestly the author letting us know outside of the work IS useful for that. Would it be better if it were stated in the show? In TOH's case, because of how much it stakes its reputation on representation, YES. For most? Not really but most don't court the romance genre, where saying those sexualities is more reasonable, like TOH does.

So that's one reason why I don't like the statement. Dana sticking to her guns on her ideas is one of the few saving graces I could give her and just saying "Fuck it, you all decide what you want to be canon so long as it isn't in the show" is just... not that. Not unless she was going to go whole hog and say that the IP was in the public domain so LITERALLY MAKE THE CANON YOU WANT! Which would have been novel but is also NEVER going to happen. Instead, her statement amounts to "I officially give you permission to make fanworks." Which... Lady, you don't get to decide that. No creative does. If people want to make work off of your story, they're gonna do that regardless of what you say. The creator of Calvin and Hobbes is FAMOUS for how anti-commercial he was of his work and spent much of his career making sure that his strips, panels, characters etc. didn't appear on t-shirts. And he still failed mostly because stopping EVERY avenue was simply impossible.

Also Dana has not really put much authoritatively on the scales besides the sexualities, making the statement even more pointless. If she's dropped giant lore dumps, I haven't heard about them and I've been in this fandom long enough that I feel like I should have heard about them. Instead we got small things like Amity dying her hair because her mom forced her to. That isn't going to break anyone's story and I even personally used it as a bonding moment between the two because I made Odalia neurotic about stuff like that.

So I guess my big question is... Who cares? Unless you actively don't like the few answers we've been given by the crew. And if that's the case... That's what fanworks are for. For when you don't like canon and want to change it. You don't need permission for that. You never have. =========

I have a public Discord for any and all who want to join!

I also have an Amazon page for all of my original works in various forms of character focused romances from cute, teenage romance to erotica series of my past. I have an Ao3 for my fanfiction projects as well if that catches your fancy instead, If you want to hang out with me, I stream from time to time and love to chat with chat.

And finally a Twitter you can follow too!

[aroace-cat-lady]

A lot of things had been on my mind for a while, so I started to write them, and this end up being a lot longer that I thought it would. Is mostly things I've learn about myself, and that are important to me. I don't use to feel comfortable talking too much about me, but idk. Post like this actually helped me in the past, and i thought that this might help someone??? And there is not such a thing as too much aroace content so, here we go:

I'm happy on my own.

I don't want to belong to anyone and I don't want anyone to belong to me. I've feel like this since I was a kid.

I love three persons to the bones: my little sis, and my two best friends. And I love more people, but not with the same intensity.

The closest thing I had to a crush was Hiccup, because I wanted to be his friend so bad and learn to train dragons, because dragons were like cats but so much bigger, and I daydreamed about it.

Since I can remember I've thought that is kind of sad that people thinks that their life will be incomplete until they found someone else. Why can't I be complete by myself??

Being alone is peaceful for me. When there is no one around is when I'm more comfortable with myself. I only feel this way with two others persons in this world, and are the ones I love the most at this point.

If I didn't love anyone, that would be okay. Because I don't think that I need someone to be happy. Not one single person can give you the happiness that self-acceptance give to you, that have to come from inside.

I think that loveless aro are the coolest, tbh. I'll not elaborated, you know that I'm right. I admire them and respect them a lot.

The idea of people thinking I'm sexy really make me uncomfortable. I prefer looking like... cute?? Idk, I've never being really worried about my appereance, but this always disrupted me... the idea of being deseable is too much to me.

I've never had neither a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Doing something I'll regret for social pressure has been always something that scares me, so I never even tried it. I grew up thinking that attraction will show up when a get older, but it never happened, and I know it never will. That doesn't bother me.

I knew I was ace as soon as I heard about the term, but I refused to be aro for two years. I hold to the label heteroromantic as long as I could, until one day I read the extras from aftg and at some point the author said something like being an aroace author and I cried because something made click inside me. Before that, I'd read the wikipedia page a few times, but I still felt like a freak, a monster, something inhuman. This is why good representation is so important: you may know the label and see you reflected on it, but those words are meaningless until you see them turn into person that's anything but inhuman.

Friends had been the most important thing to me since always.

To love a person, I need to know them. Is not that I'm mistrustfull (actually, I'm very naive in that sense), is just how I work. I can care about them, and I'd be conserned if something happen to them, but love is so much more than a Oh, shit, I hope you get better.

I hated romance for a looooong time, because it didn't made sense to me. Everyone seemed to fall for each other just because. If romance was a main concern for the character, I hated that character inmediatly. At some point, I started to enjoying some ships, and at first I thought it was because the characters weren't straight, but then I realize that when a character was lgbtq+ used to have a deepest character development than a cishet (if it was a good rep, anyways). And, with time, I become more romo tolerable and now I enjoy it for real, as long as I care about the characters.

"Love can be an important part of your life" and "Love isn't everything" are two statements that can and should coexist.

I think that you can learn a lot at not loving as much you can do it at loving.

The discousions Love vs Sex bother me a lot, most of the times 'cause normally are exclusionist trying to hurt a part of the aspect and arospect community.

Alloace and alloaro people are incredible, and get a lot of unnecessary shit because amanormativity and allonormartivity are two bitches that are ruining our society and that are my biggest enemies, with misogony.

Aplatonics are my heroes, and if someone even try to deshumanizate them, I'm gonna fight them (side by side with my aplatonic fellas, 'cause they are such a badass community and I'm so honorated to have meet them).

I'm scare of hurting people for ignorance, so most of the times I try not to give big statements for fear at being exlusionist.

Microlabels exist for a reason, they may not seem like a big deal for most of the people, but it does to someone that need to name a part of themself. If it don't fit you or you don't need it, then stfu and stop criticizing something just because you've never need it.

Everytime I feel like I've learn the necessary to respect all the persons on the community, I discover that I was hella wrong.

Pronuns are weird to me. In spanish I feel fine with the femine, but in english I think about myself as a she/they and idk what to do with that or if I should do something.

There is not such a thing as not queer enough

Being part of the lgbtq+ community doesn't make us better than a cishet, but is a formative experiece. We have to grow fast, and we start to question things that society see as valid, normal and acceptable, and with that, we pass a lot of things and internalizated homophobia/trasphobia/aphobia/etc. We face ourself in a way that cishets will never understand.

We learn to be proud of ourself because we were born in a world that teach us that being different is somethind shameful, and it take a while to learn it.

I'm not sure if I should post this

#aroace #aro ace #aromantic experience #asexuality #aromantic asexual #aromantic #asexual #aromantism #actually aromantic #actually aroace #sorry for the typos #this is one of my longest post ever wtf

[knightxmoon]

Reactions to Episode 2

spoilers ahead.

MARC. I love how the paralleling is working; Marc wakes up and face plants on the floor like Steven did in episode one.

"You there? No? Didn't think so." Oh, mood.

"Are you crying?" "Yeah, a bit."

"That's not me," Oh? Okay, either this is Steven and I'm a dumbie, which I doubt. Or...oh, Marc is Khonshu's avatar, so was he referring to that being Khonshu? That would make sense. (Or he lost control to Mr Knight or Jake or another alter. Hm.)

Oh, they're getting him a shrink.

Oh. God, I just realised that when Steven wakes up, he no longer has a job. I know Marc is freaking out about it, I know it. Everything he was trying to keep away from Steven is making itself known to him and his life is falling apart. Fuck.

OH OKAY IT IS STEVEN. I'm a dumbie. My above statement remains true, though.

"It's under Steven...or Marc...I think." OH, MOOD. ("WHO made the account and WHAT is the email and username" vibes.)

Makeshift military bunker vibes.

Steven's aversion to guns is a survival instinct the others do not have—Oh, surname acquired.

Marc! There he is!

Oh gosh it's happening. It's happening. Nevermind. Marc, stop dancing around the subject.

I adore their banter so much.

No! Steven! It's okay. No, no no. Analysing that scene later, holy shit.

Oh, yay, is Khonshu mad now? ;-;

Okay, really quick, I am loving the headspace portrayals. Marc appears to be in mirrors, because he considers himself to be a mirror of Steven (or vice versa). Khonshu appears huge and scary and intimidating because a dramatic Egyptian god. Love that.

I also love how they made the point of 'Marc isn't going to be in every mirror and in his head at all times,' by having him ask for Marc at the beginning of the episode. Whether intentional or not, that points out that alters aren't always co-con, even after you discover them.

Layla! Oh!

Oh, yay. Romance.

Wife?!

Okay, how does the wife not know about the alters? The plot and drama thickens, I suppose. (I am too aro for this, I am so sorry.)

Oh, Marc misses her ;-;

I will be back once the romance stage is over.

Divorce papers?! Oh, Steven...

Insult your alter for their choices...mood.

Cops (derogatory).

"It's a paperweight. From the paperweight shop."

If these two were better at communicating, this could all be going a lot better. That's okay, though, they're both new at this and hopefully will get better at it. Marc wants full control whenever he wants and I feel like he needs to realise that's not going to happen in order for them to move forward successfully.

Let Marc have control. C'mon. Listen to him this time. C'mooon.

"I'm not broken. I just need some help."

...This is pretty cool, though.

Was Arthur his previous avatar? HA CALLED IT.

"The little American man living inside of me." That's the greatest thing I've ever heard. Sincerely, the British alter /hj.

"Eradicating the choice of evil," Haha, haha, that doesn't sound like it'll end well. Agency is important and growth is important and evil people existing sucks, but punishing people before they can make a choice is...a bad idea. I'm not formulating things properly, but Steven says it well. "Would she kill a child for something they might do in thirty years?"

Steven is a mood.

SHIT LET MARC FRONT STEVEN. AVATAR BATTLE PLEASE.

Layla, I adore you already, but you just took away my Avatar battle.

Let him in, Steven. Also, poor Layla thinking he has amnesia...which isn't wrong...but.

MR KNIGHT MR KNIGHT MR KNIGHT

The "What are we wearing?" banter...I love these two so much.

Layla is a badass. Steven is a dork. Marc is done with everything.

You know what would be fun? Layla being polyam and dating both of them.

YES GOOD JOB STEVEN. Marc and you better communicate after this, though.

New scene to analyse; Steven's reaction to the headspace. And this whole conversation. I really like this but I'll have to watch it a few times so I can put thoughts onto paper.

Plot!

They didn't communicate. </3

#spoilers #moon knight spoilers #moon knight #reactions #knight #txt #quinn

[headinthestaticsky]

NEW! The Fire of the Innocent Sun: Jasper Hale x Fleur Hale, Chapter 5

Authors note: Again some elements of the movie and book have been changed. Remember when this song was popular?

"I keep going to the river to pray 'Cause I need something that can wash out the pain And at most I'm sleeping all these demons away But your ghost, the ghost of you It keeps me awake."

Ghost by, Ella Henderson

I hadn't been down to the reservation in a while it's lush trees and plants were turning orange and yellow and its grass was still damp and slippery. It was as if it was frozen in time, being dormant in constant rain and coldness. Before I knew it I was at Billy Black's house, an uneasiness was nestled within my stomach. I didn't know how Jacob would react or how much he had changed. I knew he was still hurt after all the manipulation Bella had put him through and I didn't know how he would treat me. Would it be was cheerfulness and joy or would his heart freeze over and reject my plea immediately? I didn't have much time to ponder over my choices as the door had swung open. A smile greeted me at the door, Billy Black hadn't changed much... it gave me a sense of comfort.

"Fleur, it is so nice to see you again...Sam told me the situation you're in... I hope you make it out okay." Billy said, moving aside for me to come in.

"Thank you, I hope we do too... Did dad show you pictures of Ezra?"

Billy chuckled before answering me.

"You know he did, he looks a lot like you two... same black hair and brown eyes."

"He doesn't have my personality that's for sure."

"What's he like?"

"He's a lot like Jasper... calm and collected the only thing he got from me was my love for the Earth. He is obsessed with plants, water, and he is absolutely fascinated by space it's adorable." I smiled at the thought of my son... I never knew how much love I could feel someone until I had him. I loved Jasper to death of course but having a child just opens your eyes that much more.

"Not that I'm complaining that you visited but, there is a reason you're here I'm sure."

I looked at him, guilt replaced my joy.

"Yeah, there is... I need to talk to Jacob, is he here?"

"He might be down at the beach, if he's not there he's in the barn house."

"Thank you, Billy. It's so nice seeing you again." I said, I bent down to hug him.

I then turned around walking toward the front door, I walked down to La Push. The nerves had set in again and if I could, my palms would probably be sweaty. The wet gravel crunched beneath my feet and the wind howled loudly. I had stopped and looked around, the ocean looked grey matching the sky perfectly.

"What are you doing here?" I sternly voiced asked from behind me.

I slowly turned around and saw Jacob staring at me. The disdain was riddled in his eyes.

"Hey, Jacob..."

"What are you doing here?" He asked again he sounded angrier.

"I wouldn't bother you if it wasn't important... I think you know everything that is going on right now."

"I know some of it but that's not my problem. I left Sam's pack."

My eyes widened, shock replaced my apprehensiveness.

"What? Why?"

"I didn't feel the need to be there anymore... and before you even ask you know why."

"It is Bella?"

"Ding ding ding."

"I'm sorry Jacob... I know my sister really hurt you."

"Not like you care."

I walked up to him looking him dead in the eye.

"Of course I do! Jake, I've known you since I was a little girl... you were one of my best friends. I know you can't stand what am I but I am always going to care about you."

His eyes filled with sadness but relief began to shine through. I took a chance and pulled him in for a hug, he reciprocated it. I could feel hot droplets of water fall onto my clothes.

"She really fucking hurt me."

Venom leaked from my eyes and my face scrunched up.

"She hurt me too."

I didn't know how long I was standing there with him but suddenly the sun filled my vision. It was like our walls built with coldness and ice were beginning to thaw. I hadn't really talked much about any of this with Jasper or the others. No matter how much she screwed me over she was still my sister. As much as I didn't want to I loved her and I always would. Jacob and I pulled apart, I could see the relief on his face. He must've been holding all of this in too, all of that pain stuffed into a bottle that was about ready to burst.

"So... what did you need?" He asked, a small smile was on his face.

"You know I had a son?"

"Yeah, I do... Billy tells me all the time about the photos your dad shows him."

"Well... Bella and Edward told the Volturi about him and now they're coming after all of us."

"Wow... So that's where she went."

"Yeah... Leah told me that a lot more people are turning because of the vampires we found to help us out."

"So you're asked me to help the wolves out."

"Damn didn't even have to finish my statement."

Jacob laughed before answering.

"I'm in... you're going to need all the help you can get."

"Thank you so much Jacob you do not know how much I appreciate this."

Timeskip: 2 hours later

Jacob and I drove back down to the Cullens' house, I wondered how they would react. When I pulled into the driveway I saw Jasper and Rosalie waiting for me.

"Oh boy..." I muttered to myself. Jacob and I got out of the car and approached them.

"Fleur where were you?" Jasper asked.

"I had to find a little bit more help," I said, gesturing toward Jacob.

"Jacob, nice to see you again." Jasper greeted, I could tell he was tense.

"Don't worry I'm not gonna try anything on you guys... even if blondie tries to poison me."

"Don't push your luck." Rosalie threatened, her eyes took on a deadly look and her finger was pointed at him.

"Okay you two settle down and get in the house," I said, trying to breaking the tension. Before we could however I could he the sound of two people running. Their speed wasn't one of a human Rosalie, Jasper, and Jacob would all hear it too.

"Rosalie get Carlisle now!" I said.

Rosalie quickly ran into the house.

Before I knew it two men were standing in front of me... both were unfamiliar.

"Who are you?"

The door behind me swung open and Carlisle called out toward the two people. Kate, Rosalie, and Emmett were right behind him.

"Vladimir, Stefan, you're a long way from home."

"What are they doing here?" I heard Kate inquire.

"We heard the Volturi were moving against you. But that you would not stand alone." Vladimir answered.

"We didn't do what we were accused of," I stated.

"We do not care what you did."

"We have been waiting a millennium for the Italian scum to be challenged," Stefan said in eagerness.

"It's not our plan to fight the Volturi," Carlisle said quickly.

"Shame. Aro's witnesses will be so disappointed."

"They enjoy a good fight."

"Aro's witnesses?" I asked.

"Aww. Still, hoping they'll listen?" Vladimir said to me mockingly.

"When Aro wants someone from a coven it's never long before evidence turns up proving that coven committed some crime."

"So he's done this before?" I said, anger leaked in my voice and I quickly whipped my head around to look at Carlisle.

"It happens so rarely, I never realized it was a pattern," Carlisle replied.

"How in the hell do you not remember that he's done this before you've lived for hundreds of years!"

"I can't really tell you Fleur... I just know he always pardons one person whose thoughts he claims are repentant. This person always has an ability. And they're always given a place with the Guard."

"It has to be about Alice. He has no one like her!" I started.

"Which is why she left." Jasper finished for me.

"Why does he need witnesses?" Emmett asked.

"To spread the word that justice has been served. After he slaughters an entire coven." Vladimir answered.

"Come on inside, we need to tell everyone else the news," Carlisle said.

You could imagine the faces of everyone when they revealed the pattern of the Volturi. Horror and shocked were all anyone could feel in the room.

"Benjamin, Tia, we're leaving. NOW!" Amun demanded.

I quickly jumped up blocking his way toward the exit.

"And where will you go? What makes you think they'll be satisfied with Alice? What's to stop them from going after Benjamin next? Or Zafrina or Kate, Bree, or anyone else with a gift?" I started, I looked toward Jasper for support.

"They will try to get anyone they want. Their goal isn't punishment, it's power. It's acquisition. Carlisle might not ask you to fight, but Fleur and I will. For the sake of my family. But also for yours. And for the way you want to live." Jasper added. Jacob and Leah looked at each other before nodding slightly toward one another.

"The pack will fight. We've never been afraid of vampires."

"We will fight," Kate said, Tanya, Elezar, and Carmen nodded in agreement.

"This won't be the first time I fought a king's rule." Garrett added.

"We'll join you." Benjamin said, smiling at me."

"No, we will not!"

"I will do the right thing, Amun. You may do as you please." Benjamin said dismissing Amun.

"We will stand with you."

"So will we."

I looked at everyone before thanking them.

"We're going to take down these bastards once and for all."

#twilight imagine #twilight saga #twilight #jasper whitlock x oc #jasper hale x reader #jasper hale x oc #jasper whitlock #jasper cullen #jasper hale #emmett cullen #esme cullen #edward cullen #carlisle cullen #alice cullen #rosalie hale #bella swan

[aro-culture-is]

Hi! How are you?

Recently a lot of my friends have started dating, and I feel somewhat unconfortable thinking that they are dating. Have you ever experienced something like that? Could it be it's me just projecting myself on to their realtionships even though I know I don't anything like that? I don't have any aro irl's I could talk about this, so I hope it's okay that I'm asking you.

Hope you have a great day :))

hi! this sounds pretty normal from what i've heard. aro folks especially tend to take their friends dating kinda hard, because it's... not uncommon for new partners to stop hanging out with us, and it's pretty normal to be worried about that.

if you're worried that you're in some way being uncomfy almost all the time around them, if they've commented on it, or if it just feels like a good idea, it isn't a bad plan to communicate with them. if you think you're worried that they haven't spent time with you, or you're worried that they'll eventually leave you or something like that, most friends will appreciate you reaching out. you can say something like "hey, so, since you and x began dating, i've been worried about being kinda... left behind. i'm really glad for the two of you, but I'm wondering if we could make sure to still spend time with just the two of us."

if it doesn't feel like that's what's up, it's a little harder for me to help. maybe it's romance repulsion - you could also talk to them about maybe not wanting to see much of pda, while making sure it's an ask and a negotiation, not a demand that they cease all activities you're uncomfy with. you may need to pick the things that are hardest on you.

when you have those types of convos though, please, please, please use "I statements". When you say "you two do this and that makes me feel this way", it comes across as aggressive, and often leads to an unproductive, hurtful argument that could have been a discussion. instead, try to phrase it as "I feel this way when you two do x, and I don't want to force you to stop something you enjoy, but I wanted to have a convo about it."

i hope things go well for you, and that you get some understanding if not resolution :)

- mod axel

#not aro culture #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod axel