#superficial

[howifeltabouthim]

I hate solitude but I am afraid of intimacy. The substance of my life is a private conversation with myself and to turn it into a dialogue would be equivalent to self-destruction. The company I need is the company which a pub or café will provide. I have never wanted a communion of souls. It's already hard enough to tell the truth to oneself.

Iris Murdoch, from Under the Net

#fear of intimacy #scared of being alone #communion of souls #baring your soul #kept at a distance #closed off #surface level #superficial #relationships #loner #self destruction #pub #café #the truth #the struggle is real #quotes #lit #words #excerpts #quote #literature #iris murdoch #under the net

[heidimontagdaily]

BAD BOY is the new music from the Superficial vault!!! 🩷🖤

#heidi montag #heidi+montag #heidimontag #spotify #bad boy #superficial

[youseemsurprised]

Im feeling very fat

#me #superficial

[infinitolaranja]

#Me faltam palavras para descrever o quanto eu sou apaixonado por você! #paixao #namoro a distancia #superficial #sonhos #ciumes #carencia #atenção #dedicación #amor no correspondido

[magneticovitalblog]

"NOS ENGAÑARON"

Nos hicieron creer que el lujo era lo raro, lo caro, lo exclusivo, todo aquello que nos parecía inalcanzable…

Ahora nos damos cuenta que el lujo era esas pequeñas cosas que no sabíamos valorar cuando las teníamos y ahora que ya no están, las echamos tanto de menos…

Lujo es estar sano, no pisar un hospital, poder pasear, charlar con amigos, los abrazos, los besos, lujo es tomar un café en el campo junto al fuego. Pero sobre todo... lujo es el privilegio de estar vivos!

Autor: Desconocido

#crecimientopersonal #superacionpersonal #reflexiones #autoconciencia #serloquequierover #serloquequieroser #reinventarse #salud #lujo #exclusividad #inalcanzable #valorar #superficial #aparentar #pequeñas cosas

[soulinkpoetry]

Sometimes you can be fooled into thinking it’s a soul bond, when in fact it was held together with a cheap adhesive that wore off.

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#superficial #soul bonds #misinterpretation #soulinkpoetry #poetry #thoughts #she writes #feelings #poets on tumblr

[cat-eye-nebula]

There's an unresolved hunger for meaning thats rooted deep in the soul. Many don't feel this hunger because they are distracted with immediate gratification. (x)

#rat race #superficial #social media #instant gratification #meaningful #lifestyle #philosophy #psychology #self destructive #money worship #productivity #economy #emotional #isolation #depression #consumerism #emotional neglect #millenials #gen z #disconnection #nihilism #self awareness #self care #values #connection

[fashionlandscapeblog]

Debunking the dream: Who is allowed to succeed in fashion?

BY BELLA WEBB AND MALIHA SHOAIB

This story is based on an exclusive survey of over 600 fashion professionals, which sought to answer two key questions: what does it take to reach a certain level of success in fashion, and what does it take to stay happy at that level?

“The employees who are happy in fashion and reach a good position are the ones who have enough economic capital to work for free or for very little during their first several years in the industry,” says anthropologist Giulia Mensitier. Paradoxically, precariousness is a luxury that not everyone can afford, and talent has very little to do with long-term fashion careers.”

Survey respondents painted a picture of an industry obsessed with appearance — even in behind-the-scenes roles — where social connections and socioeconomic status are a form of currency few can succeed without. The idea that fashion has become more diverse and inclusive is misleading, survey respondents say. In fact, barriers to inclusion have become more sophisticated and covert. Many people from marginalised groups now feel disillusioned with an industry that promised to change but didn’t and are seeking opportunities elsewhere.

For marginalised people, trying to build a career in an industry that wasn’t created by or for people like them can be confusing and frustrating. Instead of community, many find that fashion is a clique.

In many cases, achieving success in fashion isn’t about what you know but who you know. Nearly half (47 per cent) of survey respondents with family in fashion said their socioeconomic status had a positive impact on their careers.

Personal connections count for a lot in an industry with notoriously opaque hiring practices, a penchant for nepotism, and a heavy emphasis on being seen at the right events.

“There is a strong beauty bias,” says one sustainability consultant who responded to the survey. “If I look around my organisation, everyone is conventionally attractive. No one has visible disabilities, and most are white.” A strategic consultant was told they didn’t have the “right look” for their career, which typically centres youth, Eurocentric features and a slim, visibly able body.

Colleagues from wealthy backgrounds openly mock what a [fashion assistant] from a lower socioeconomic class is wearing if they aren’t wearing emerging labels or trendy clothes. They look down on cheaper brands — but some of us can’t even afford Zara,” says the anonymous founder of Fashion Assistants.

Read the whole story here.

#vogue #vogue magazine #fashion industry #success #racism #ablism #superficial #industry survey #vogue business #marginalized groups #employees

[nobeerreviews]

We are forlorn like children, and experienced like old men, we are crude and sorrowful and superficial - I believe we are lost.

-- Erich Maria Remarque

(Castelmola, Italy)

#lost #superficial #streets #erich maria remarque #quote #travel photography #italy #castelmola

[michaelbogild]

Unless you are true to yourself, you will always be false to others.

#authentic #authenticity #true #real #realness #fake #fakeness #be your best you #be your own kind of beautiful #be your own person #be yourself #be your true self #individualism #individualist #individual #superficial #lie #lies #liar #lying #communication #language

[lachicadeallado]

A mí me gusta la experiencia del sexo como a la que más, pero estoy cansada de que la gente lo llame sexo.

Eso lo hace demasiado superficial.

Ojalá vuelva, eso de ....

-Quieres hacer el amor conmigo-

En vez de...

- No echas de menos el sexo -

💔@lachicadealladosworld 💔

#una chica escribiendo #una chica solitaria #una chica invisible #frases para adolescentes #una chica rota #frases de tumblr #una chica cualquiera #frases en español #notas #frases #cosas que duelen #superficial #una chica que escribe #una chica triste #cosasquenodigo #caos de pensamientos #cosas que escribo #hacer el amor

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

#fake #inauthentic #dishonest #deceitful #pretentious #misleading #untrustworthy #superficial #hypocritical #toxic #negativity #personalgrowth #selfawareness

[ikkimikki]

Many years ago, I bought myself a diamond. I didn't have one, no one ever liked me enough to give me one, and I really like shiny rocks.

I put it on layaway and visited it every week to make a payment until it was all mine.

I still love that rock and admire its sparkle and shine far more often than I'd like to admit (daily!).

Today I got my new rock. It's just a pretty as the one I bought myself and they balance nicely.

I hate that I am so enthralled with something so materialistic but boy am I loving playing with them in the light. 💍💍

#Personal #diamonds #jewelry #superficial #materialistic #I love shiny rocks #I also love my partner #Not in that order #but still grateful for my ring

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

#Eric's Electrons #representation #representation fallacy #representation matters #superficial #narcissism #malignant narcissism #religion is a mental illness

[itscrystql]

sad news i found from wikipedia:

on beauty, and outward beauty, and morality— our perception of it

The body was not so much a self-chosen expression of the self as an outward marker of inner morality, worthiness, and station.

Along with smell, a woman’s physical appearance was also indicative of her moral character. Outward physical beauty was a sign of high moral virtue, and physical ugliness was an indication of suspect morality.

#beauty #Looksmaxxing #makeup #gymming #wikipedia #philosophy #morality #suspect #suspicious #false #fake #appearances #outward #surface #superficial #looks #lookism #equity #women #genders #stereotypes biases #inferior #superiority #pride #honour #meaning #significance #role #girl #perform

[out-of-context-aro-ace]

You ever think of an allo thing you saw months ago but just couldn't get around?

I remember something I read where they're enemies and hate each other, but then the other one's mask comes off, maybe the first one took it off, and then suddenly !!! The first one doesn't hate the other anymore.

No, they didn't know each other.

A just liked how B looked and fell in love.

Is that how it works?

That sounds extremely superficial and not okay even by allo standards, doesn't it?

And, like, person B is just okay with it ??? And they decide to try dating.

What if B wasn't pretty, huh? That's not a good romance, right?

You know that writing advice "if your characters need to kiss for the audience to know it's a romance, then you haven't written a good romance."

It's the same here, right?

If it would have been a different story if they looked different, it can't be a romance, right? It's just superficiality

So uncomfortable

#aroace #aromantic #superficial #writing criticism #writing advice #writing romance #tw kissing mention #tw unhealthy relationship