#social advice

[slfcare]

When I was younger, I was in love with the idea of moving out to a lone island and never speaking to anyone again. I wasn’t good at talking, physically, nor did conversations come easy to me, so I kept quiet and I was totally fine with that. But while the people closest to me rolled their eyes at my wishes (again, lone island), nobody told me how talking to people was fun. Nobody told me how nice of a feeling it was to feel a new friendship blossom, to have inside jokes with people, to hand out compliments and get them back, to ask questions to people who are excited about having the answers, to remember something that someone mentioned last time and make them feel heard, to flatter people, to share slightly embarrassing facts and be able to laugh about them, to have people to say hi and bye to. It took me years and years and years to gather the courage to speak, but it was so worth it. It’s so much fun.

#little story #self care #self love #positivity #positive #positive suggestions #positive thinking #suggestions #suggestion #comfort kindness family #growth in the self #self validation #learning to be a social being #social advice #social tips

[noncompliantcyborg]

Social/Professional Question:

Is there a succinct & (at least semi-)professional way to address the following situation:

You know Person A and Person B.

Person A feels warmly towards you, whether you've known each other briefly or for a while.

You and Person B know each other, but Person B has conveyed they dislike you or would simply prefer not to interact with you. You respect this and do not engage with them, while at the same time feeling Person B is a lovely person.

Person A and Person B do not know each other.

Person A expresses an interest in getting to know Person B professionally and/or socially.

How do you convey to Person A that you are (1) not the right person to provide that introduction, (2) that you abstain from interacting with Person B because they don't like you and you do not want to make them uncomfortable (3) but that from what you know you endorse them developing a connection with Person B?

This isn't a common situation but I want some kind of script for it that conveys neutrally to positively because past attempts at bluntly stating something like "oh so & so doesn't like me, but they are great you should go talk to them, they do really cool work with *thing*" seems to come across like a judgement when I really don't mean it that way.

#advice welcome #social advice

[arcanehackist]

You’re allowed to interact with people in life you don’t necessarily love. Social interaction has value.

You can’t stay in a nailed shut box.

I’m not saying spend time constantly with people you hate— but spend time with people different than you. Do something they like that you have no interest in.

You can have friends that don’t roost in the same nests as you.

It’ll help you branch out— and keep you from going viral for yelling at someone because they enjoy a show with a bad guy in it and that’s like, totally encouraging that behavior or whatever.

Or like, yelling at someone who’s being supportive but uses the “wrong and offensive name” for a community.

I think a lot of crazy shit online could be solved if people just talked more often to others, and jumped out that little safe circle they’ve made.

Yeah basically this is a long winded way of me saying touch grass socially.

Especially if you’re young, jesus fuck. I can’t imagine being on here all the time, insulating myself so much that I don’t see anything but what I want to 99% of the time, and voraciously attacking people for seeing that 1% I don’t like.

Just… interact with the world. Not everyone’s gonna fit into this perfect little box. Shit will go better if you educate rather than immediately getting defensive. Hear people out. Learn shit.

I’m done now because I’m 22 typing like I’m an old man but

#This is also inspired by an internet safety thing that may or may not happen #which i will not share my opinions on. #two cents #advice #social advice #rambling

[xomgkawaiiangelx]

Nerd Talk #1 :3

Hello everyone! Today I have some of my more nerdy hobbies on my mind - and since you're nerds too, it's the perfect thing to talk about! You know that feeling when someone asks you a question and you just have no idea how to answer? Like suddenly everything you know about yourself just poofed into thin air? That even happens to me sometimes! After all, the internet angel just descended -w-; For some reason, it really helps to imagine conversations like dialogue trees in games, though! I learned a lot about how people interpret things through RPGs and visual novels when i first descended. When I think of what i say as a dialogue tree, suddenly it's way easier to think about what the other person wants to hear, and then my conversations go well! Maybe it's not the best if you want to be authentic, but it's great to learn more about people when you're just starting out, or answering questions for something important like a job interview or an application. See! being a gamer IS good for something! XD I hope this helps y'all out there. Bless <3

#gamers of tumblr #gamer #conversation starters #conversation advice #social advice #social life #social awkwardness #talking to people #kangel blogs #kangel #omgkawaiiangel #needy girl overdose #needy streamer overload

[uselessbiscuitsoul]

Hey I don't have any social skills so I've come to you all with this question, If I got a chatting request on reddit after I posted stuff about my mental health and they said stuff that implied they were interested in talking to me for a relationship(asking me how I looked, asking for my number), and then I blocked them, did I do the right thing? Also if another person started chatting with me saying they wanted to help me but said that they find girls of my ethnicity cute and also they were over 18 and I'm a minor and I stopped the chat with them just to be safe did I do the right thing?

#reddit #advice #social advice #oh hi i posted something not related to webtoon for once

[weepingpussywillowtree]

So, looking for social advice. I didn't realize until my little sister graduated high school that people give gifts at graduation??? Like, expensive gifts or cash too.

My mother is insisting on having a college graduation party for me with my extended family. I am very uncomfortable with the idea of receiving expensive gifts from people I have not seen in years. Or the idea that they might feel socially obligated to bring a gift just by being invited. I've asked her to include something to the effect of 'no gifts please' on the invitation and she's saying I am being controlling/unreasonable. I know I cannot control if people choose to bring gifts anyways, and I will be gracious if they do, but is including that on the invitation being controlling?

Because I'm autistic, it is often difficult for me to distinguish when my mother is being unreasonable versus when I am being unreasonable, especially around social situations. So, I will ask here:

#actuallyautistic #actually autistic #shouting into the void #personal post #poll #polls #social advice

[transadvicecolumn]

#trans advice column #trans advice #Transgender Advice #trans #transgender #queer #lgbtq+ #social advice #Professional advice

[agonyaunties]

People have always approached me for advice on social situations, relationships and what's appropriate behaviour in any given situation, which is why I'm starting this advice column to answer those kind of questions in an old fashioned "agony aunt"-esque advice column. Ask away! Nothing is off-limits.

#ask #asks #advice #etiquette #manners #communication #relationship advice #social advice #socialising #networking #work #conversation

[leonoracy]

*reblogs a aro allosexual post* *tags it as aroace and asexual* 🙃

: O you're right i'm so sorry ugh. i was so caught up in people agreeing with my idea about her being on the aro-spectrum that i tagged her with my sexuality ('aroace'). i didn't realise that it would be taking attention away from aro-allosexuality, i usually just lump us all in together lol. i didnt realise it was that serious, thank you for telling me

#brawn #ask #social advice #SECOND ASK YAYYYYY HELLO 💕

[slfcare]

One thing that could make interactions easier for you is actively trying to change your perspective on the people you’re meeting. It’s okay if it’s still sort of your first instinct to think, ‘everyone in my new office will be older and more experienced’, but an alternative way to approach it is by highlighting your curiosity: ‘I wonder if anyone in the new office has seen my favorite show / I hope they have tips for lunchrooms nearby / I wonder what their music taste is’. Think about the things you want people to know about you that highlight your individuality, and give them the chance to show you theirs.

#growth in the self #learning to be a social being #the healing (starts here) #positivity #positive #positive thinking #socia settings #social #social anxiety #advice #social advice #tips #social tips

[underworld-cows]

When someone asks you how it's going as a causal greeting, but don't want to say "I'm fine" if it's not true, and don't want to expand upon your slump, reply:

"It's going!" "I can't complain!" "You know how it be! [chuckle]" "[insert activity you've been doing]" "Keepin' on!" "Still on the tracks!" "Same old!" "[if outside] Enjoying the weather!" "Just chillin'!" etc. Lie by omission if it sucks to lie by telling a falsehood, and then deflect with a "and you?"

---Sincerely, someone raised in a small town

#lying for the greater good #social advice #social anxiety #small town #kato speaks

[gemstarstarlight]

WORD OF ADVICE GIVEN BY MY ROOMMATE

If you need to fart in a car, ask if you can roll down the window to get some air. Imply that it's motion sickness. As this is a common thing (in my experience), the driver will oblige you.

Roll down the window and stick your head out to claim the asked for air. Cropdust as needed (try to do it as quietly as possible) and wait for 30 seconds. The wind coming into the car will clear the smell out. After 30 seconds, roll down the window and resume your drive. Not only will you not inflict a terrible smell on everyone in the car, but you will save everyone the awkward social situation of trying to guess who was responsible.

GO FORTH AND PROSPER

#awkward social situations #word of advice #the way I shouted when she came up with this #current status #my roommate is brilliant #I had never thought of it and I'm spreading this wisdom to all #social advice #life tips #good advice #note to self #reblog for posterity

[sapphireraeburn]

Looking for Conversation Advice

I'm a Neurodivergent, seeking advice from neurotypicals or neurodivergents who understand what to do in this situation. :D Anyway, the situation: You happen to be an expert on a topic. Somebody shows up and assumes you are a newb and are looking to explain the topic to somebody and have chosen you as their target. But, you already know everything they are talking about. What do you do? I usually end up playing naive and letting the person explain things, because there have been times I've joined in the conversation as a professional and apparently spoiled their fun and I get accused of trying to be better than them. Yet, some of the times I've played naive, some people have felt like I lied to them when they found out otherwise - and that hurt them. Is there a standard rule of thumb for this type of conversation, or do I continue to flounder and hope for the best?

Thanks!

#advice #social advice #neurodivergent #neurodivergent advice #help #conversation

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: Game-Changing TED Talks Everyone Should Watch

"How Five Simple Words Can Get You What You Want" by Janine Driver

"Master your Mindset, Overcome Self-Deception, Change your Life" by  Shadé Zahrai

"How to talk to the worst parts of yourself" by Karen Faith

"Think before you speak, hacking the secret of communication" by Catherine Molloy

"The Hidden Code For Transforming Dreams Into Reality" by Mary Morrissey

"Don't Believe Everything You Think" by Lauren Weinstein

"The public speaking lesson you never had" by DK

"Programming your mind for success" by Carrie Green

"How to stop screwing yourself over" by Mel Robbins

"Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success" by Louise Evans

"The psychology of seduction" by Raj Persaud

"Why we're unhappy -- the expectation gap" by Nat Ware

"Think Fast. Talk Smart" by Matt Abrahams 

"Increase your self-awareness with one simple fix' by Tasha Eurich 

"5 steps to designing the life you want" by Bill Burnett

"Staying stuck or moving forward" by Dr. Lani Nelson Zlupko

"To reach beyond your limits by training your mind" by Marisa Peer

"Emotional laws are the answer for better relationships" by Diana Wais

"Feelings: Handle them before they handle you" by Mandy Saligari

"Cultivating Unconditional Self-Worth" by Adia Gooden 

#ted talks #youtube recommendations #self love #cult of personality #self awareness #self reflection #self improvement #communication skills #social skills #life advice #life skills #girl advice #dream girl #girl talk #femme fatale #dark femininity #dark feminine energy #it girl #high value woman #the feminine urge #female power #queen energy #female excellence #high value mindset #self esteem #level up journey #glow up #femmefatalevibe #success mindset #self talk

[hayatheauthor]

"Why do you care so much about accidentally leaving people out?" Because I've had friend groups where they were the planets and I was their Pluto.

I've had friend groups where our dynamics revolved around a Sun, with everyone vying for their attention if only to bask in their light for a mere moment. Where our thinly strung bonds collapsed the second our Sun left.

I've had friend groups where they bonded as Saturn's rings, finding solace in their shared shortcomings while isolating those more talented than them.

But I've also had friend groups where we bond as Neptune and Uranus—so similar we could be known as twins. Friend groups like Venus and Earth: so awfully different, yet it was those differences that kept us together.

And I would rather create a social system like the latter than the former.

#social system see what i did there (solar system) #idk man i'm sleep deprived this is so half-assed BYE #hayatheauthor #haya sameer #writing community #writer things #writing advice #writer community #haya: writes #friend group #friendship #toxic friends #toxic frienship #poetry #spilled poetry #words words words #short poetry #spilled ink #creative writing #writing stuff #writing inspiration #writeblr #writer stuff #writer

[fungi-maestro]

Happy tdov to fat trans people. 🏳️‍⚧️ Biggest thing that helped me as a trans kid was seeing older fat trans people. There were a lot of really irritating "advice" posts going around early in my time on the internet with a lot of misinformation in them, but one that I constantly saw (in addition to people claiming you should wear your pants rediculously low or only wear button ups) were posts saying you had to lose weight to transition. Can confidently confirm that is completely untrue. 👍

#seal.txt #tdov #that 'sky and mike' image of the two old trans dudes hugging was one that I had saved to my phone as a trans teen #and i would look at it sometimes and just wonder how they had made it #idk its just nice knowing we live that long and its not a requirement to be skinnyin order to be respected and loved and get old #some of the old 'advice' posts i saw were really completely bizarre and a lot of them stick with me to this day in insecurities #this would have been 2016 ish tumblr so i know not that long ago but i would have been around 13 for reference #weird that i remember so many of the things i read back then. i could probably fill a post with things i was misinformed on due to Tumblr #specifically tumblrs run by people that i didnt really have the knowledge or awareness to understand probably didnt have my best interests #like 'trans rights ' blogs i would follow and not notice until much later were quite the opposite #this is the consequence of viewing social media before i knew all the secret codewords and my brain was much less developed than it is now