#love is not a choice

[dustypinetree]

Panic! At The Disco at the O2 Arena London, 7th March 2023

Part 3 (final) - My favourite part of the show. Nowhere in the world have I ever felt as accepted and celebrated as I have during this song, in all three P!ATD concerts I’ve been to.

I don’t even want to consider the fact that I’ll never experience this again. </3

#panic! at the disco #Brendon urie #viva las vengeance tour #o2 arena #girls/girls/boys #love is not a choice #genderqueer #queer community #assistance dog #concert dog #gifset #stim gifs #rainbow stim #patd hearts #pre split patd #patd breakup

[heart-songs]

Love is a choice, they say, but what I know of this love has never felt like choice.

This love is as much a part of me as my fair skin tone, bloomed cocoa irises, and persistent inner voice. It’s vital as my need for water, breath, and light. It’s crimson, clotting open veins and thawing frozen heart. This love spills out from split lip and half-bitten tongue. It’s the untold work of trembling hands and thready whispers christening clean sheets in the name of consummating art. It’s white-knuckle cries and fingertips kissing fire lines. This love goes beyond reason, madness, and time. It’s the countless ways my soul appears to yours each day. This love is an evolution and an impulse, a blind spot, an unspoiled vision, an untold blessing and a genuine curse. It never rests. It sparked the beginning of my downfall and bows to the arc of my salvation. I choose it. I choose you—if choosing is the word for not having any choice at all.

- Cora Finch

#poetry #love #for love of writing #love poem #instinct #heart #life #choice #no choice #my writing #cora finch #heartsongs #poem #217 #Love is not a choice

[zeninsama-moved]

don’t tell naoya but i’m gonna kiss him on the mouth

#delete later #there’s this dude on tiktok that dresses very like y2k emo and it’s fun to project nao onto him a lil #like with his hair and fashion #ughhhh #love is not a choice #i’ve been married to him for 37 years

[ohfallingdisco]

i grew up christian and i would still call myself one, but oh man, what a shitshow is all the lgbt-panic people i know go through ten times a day. there are really people out there who genuinely believe people choose to be queer to spite god himself and because they just like manipulating others. what.

#religious trauma does still describe a big part of why i haven’t fully accepted myself yet i think #i already know if i ever. Ever. come out publicly then my family will have nothing to do with me until i “repent” but #love is not a choice #i never made a *decision* to get crushes on girls too as a kid #i’ve described myself with gender neutral terms when possible without realizing it for years #but still. don’t really feel like i’m not a girl. just don’t really like it when others try and make me act like i am #religious trauma

[eclecticelectriceccentric]

"love is a choice" is a sentiment that rings false for me, and possibly a fair amount of other people. I feel that many of us do not choose to love the people that we do; notably our families, but also our friends or partners.

"love is a choice" sort of implicitly states that you can choose not to love, or to stop loving, and for people in complicated or toxic relationships, sometimes they really would prefer to be able to not care about the other person, and they can't.

it's very possible that I'm misreading it, but that's my two cents.

#love is a choice #love is not a choice

[0neofthedrunks]

My recording of Girls/Girls/Boys by Panic at the Disco in Madison Square Garden NYC

Concert was best thing ever, great music, the greatest vocals. Couldn't ask for more :) well maybe be closer lol

But here it is :)

#Panic at the Disco #Madison Square Garden #NYC #patd #brendon urie #beebo #concert #vocals #girls girls boys #love is not a choice #Youtube

[theunknownexperiment]

The minute I let us go, is the minute we begin to grow.

But, Through it all, I love you

#love is not a choice #loveishard #love hurts #love yourself #lovequoteoftheday #i love you #love poetry

[kavaleyre]

• The Hanged Man •

“Compared to what Falin went through? This is nothing.”

#my art #laios touden #dungeon meshi #delicious in dungeon #dunmeshi laios #hanged man #falin touden #dungeon meshi spoilers #cw blood #walk it off kid walk it off #I really thought hanged man was a good choice for this moment #hanged man is all about sacrifice and introspection and intuition #and a moment of trials that lead to clarity #also when he was falling??? with the blood out of the dragons mouth??? #stunning #i love him so much #the line art for this was so fast and then I colored and revolted the flats for like. 20 hours #like how it turned out in the end tho #kavaleyre

[chimaeraonwards]

John Cusack, the voice actor for Dimitri in Anatasia (1997), shared his statement on Palestine 🇵🇸 🇵🇸 🇵🇸 🇵🇸

P.S. He has been a Palestinian supporter for years

#palestine #free palestine #gaza #free gaza #west bank #free west bank #“if you're there - what choice do you have?” #john cusack #anastasia 1997 #israel #israel occupation #israel apartheid #anastasia #update to tags: yes i know he didnt just do anastasia but thats the one that stood out to me i love anastasia #the way everyone is like ok this is super serious topic but ANASTASIA??? is so amusing to me pls keep them coming #also please continue sharing about palestine!!!! FREE PALESTINE

[thisismynamenowxpoetry]

If love is a choice

I’d choose not to love you

Over and over

And over again

Until I didn’t have to think about you

Until I didn’t have to write in a pink notebook

And ask people at my school what to send you

#poetry #love is not a choice #love poem #my poem #my poetry #short poem #original poem #poets on tumblr #writers and poets #young poets #writer #writeblr #spilled words #spilled ink #who reads hashtags #ThisIsMyNameNowPoetry

[chloesimaginationthings]

Michael still has beef with Ennard in FNAF…

#myart #chloesimagination #comic #fnaf #five nights at freddy's #michael afton #fnaf vanessa #fnaf vanny #ennard #security breach #fnaf fanart #ONCE AGAIN fazbear entertainment makes marketable characters out of Michael’s trauma #Ennard is so heavily featured in the VR games #and even has a cardboard cutout in the pizzaplex #I just know Michael would be so annoyed by this #literally the worst moment of his life and now kids can take pictures with em #Vanessa once again has to explain it to Michael #but truly she just works here none of this was her choice 💀 #love Vanessa and Michael talking they are such a funny duo

[ditzybat]

bernard: i just love true crime, don't you?

tim, trying to impress him: i may or may not be a war criminal with a hypothetical body count in the triple digits who's trained under multiple trained assassins as their apprentice

bernard: ???

#hypothetical because no one addresses the fact that blowing up all those LoA bases meant blowing up all those people inside too #tim: i'm non-lethal by choice don't worry #bernard: i love you but that doesn't sound like non-lethal babe #dc #tim drake #bernard dowd #timbern #robin #red robin #league of assassins

[tskva]

playing an evil character but u keep helping ppl anyway

#bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #baldurs gate 3 #i end up saving ppl then just being an asshole ab it #lolthsworn drow things #10k #later addition: i love all of u saying ur doing it for astarion #i romanced lae’zel 🥰❤️ #i was gonna do a whole evil thing w my drow but i think she’s accidentally turning good #or at LEAST neutral #decided to focus mostly on the betrayal aspect (encouraging others to turn against something or someone) #and after some choices… well….. she’s starting to wonder if she can betray lolth >:)

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[forzafinally]

No because, Art is a mediocre tennis player with 6 grand slams who knows that at some level he has only got them because Tashi has pushed him and coached him to that level of excellence. At the same time he feels responsible for living a career for both of them while knowing that if Patrick hadn't fucked things up he wouldn't have ever achieved what he did.Patrick has oodles of talent but has to deal with the fact that despite winning Tashi fairly he lost her due to his pride. You know he's thinking that 'if she was my coach I would have double the number of grand slams that Art does'. But if Tashi hadn't had that injury that day would either of them even have had the chance to have her as their coach? No. Both he and Art would have faded into mediocrity but probably remained friends despite it all. And don't get me started on Tashi. She knows that if it wasn't for her injury she would have probably won 15 grand slams by now and would never have considered stopping but she's reduced to just being the wife! Just being the coach! Just being content with being a hot girl who will be won by the guy who plays the best tennis!! And she has to somehow make herself feel okay with that. So no. She can't genuinely be okay with Art stopping but at the end of the day it's not her decision to make because he's the professional tennis player not her. It's not just about one of them winning or the sacrifice it takes. It's about disappointment, bitterness, the underlying inferiority complex, being manipulative enough to achieve your goals through different means and the inherent homoeroticism of having a best friend from the age of 12 who is the only one worth beating for you after playing 13 years of tennis. Anyway I'm chewing on glass rn. Challengers you'll always be famous

#challengers #challengers spoilers #tashi duncan #art donaldson #patrick zweig #no you don't understand #it's very very dear to me #it's about the disappointments and loss! #it's about the discomfort of the choices you've made #it's about the underlying bitterness and jealousy #the love that was there but didn't change anything because the only thing that matters is winning

[useyourtelescope]

Nicola Coughlan Interviewed by Entertainment Tonight + Colin & Penelope in Bridgerton Season One Episode Four

#tvedit #bridgertonedit #perioddramaedit #polinedit #dailybridgerton #bridgerton #polin #colin bridgerton #penelope featherington #colin x penelope #nicola coughlan #luke newton #dailygingerheads #dailynetflix #userbbelcher #chewieblog #tvgifs #useyourtelescopeedit #1k #this scene is my fave i love that nic and newts talk about it #but my god that extra walking past them when they're looking at each other is the bane of my life #why make that editing choice show