#it's not a confidence issue

[theambitiouswoman]

Emotionally healthy people are quitters ✨

Emotionally healthy people are quitters. They make choices that align with their well being. Quitting a relationship, partnership or job that makes you unhappy is a sign of self awareness. If someone stays in something bad for too long, it's not because they're strong, but because they're afraid or have low self esteem. Being emotionally healthy means having awareness, setting boundaries, and knowing when it's time to move on from situations that no longer serve you. It's about prioritizing your mental and emotional health over sticking with something that's causing you harm or making you unhappy.

Emotionally healthy people also tend to have good communication skills. They express their feelings and needs calmly, openly and honestly. They also look for guidance and enlightenment because they understand that seeking help is a sign of strength not weakness.

They make decisions out of self love rather than attachment or fear. When you prioritize loving yourself, you make choices that align with your happiness and growth, rather than staying in situations out of comfort or insecurity.

Recognizing when you have an unhealthy attachment or that your feelings may not be conducive to your well being is important. It allows you to take a step back, evaluate the situation objectively, and make choices that are in line with your best interests.

Sometimes holding on can lead to more pain and struggle than necessary. It's a sign of emotional maturity to recognize when a situation is no longer good for you and to have the strength to let it go.

Things that are genuinely right for you should not cause you harm or emotional pain. Choosing pain is a sign of a lack of self love. Recognizing the need for change, prioritizing self love, and making healthier choices is how you begin to change your life.

Reframe your mindset from “this is hurting me because I love it” to “this is hurting me because I do not love me.”

#emotional attachment #emotional intelligence #attachment issues #self love #self healing #self development #self help #self improvement #self awareness #self care #self esteem #personal growth #personal development #personal improvement #levelupjourney #girlblogging #dream girl journey #dream girl tips #dream girl guide #self confidence #advice #relationships #healthy relationships #toxic relationship

[autisticlassiedog]

I love how God granted me a break from debilitating anxiety today :)

Lately it's been bad. And today, New Year's Eve, would have been one of the worst days of the year to be dealing with extreme anxiety. God knows what He's doing y'all :D

#christianity #collie speaks #also it really does go to show how my anxiety is almost entirely physical #it's not a confidence issue #at least not in relation to having the job I do #I can do my job and when I'm not literally freaking ill I'm a fricken badass #I can handle multiple things thrown at me at once. #I can priortize important tasks even when people are calling for me in multiple directions #I am good with customers #I'm confident in these abilities #this is probably why I'm still able to keep working even during panic attacks #people can tell I don't feel good during those #but I am still able to function on enough of a level to get the job done #I mean #YOU try having amazing customer service skills during a panic attack #but I still manage even if the quality of my work perfomance is deinitely affected #but anyways #yeah #I'm a freakin badass and you can't tell me otherwise #it takes a lot to work during debilitating levels of anxiety #and 99 times out of 100 I manage #but I am so happy and thankful for the break God gave me today #I needed a reminder that without a freakin anxiety disorder I am even better at my job

[spindlewoed]

Look, listen. The smoker on the balcony is obsessed with beauty and the fine arts while Cindy the skull is a contemporary artist all about activism and I need them to interact so badly because they would have THEE most heated art debate of the century. Cindy would eat him alive but that's not the point their back and forth would be legendary you don't even know. Lesbian on gay man violence.

#disco elysium #smoker on the balcony #cindy the skull #also if I can allow myself a bit of indulgence. they both have some issues with the concept of home #cindy with her emphaty check and the smoker with the whole being an immigrant. I could elaborate if anyone cares #THIS close to writing fic except I'm not confident with my prose so if anyone out there wants to take this concept and run #please you have my blessing

[bowenoke]

edit: btw it is not safe to wear contacts in the shower! the option is included for accuracy, but please consider throwing on an old pair of glasses or just going blind into that wet box instead.

#this is NORMAL BEHAVIOR . its IMPORTANT to SEE in there. what if there are clowns or killers. #to be clear. all my soaps and liquids are very different shapes and identifying them is not a concern. its the terror of the unknown #edit: btw im not trying to convert anyone. but i am gonna shotgun more concerns: #facewashing: you hold the glasses in your hands (the arm between your fingers.) or you set them down for a little bit #the fog: this is a non issue /srs. i rinse them down before i do the rest so they don't fog up #the water: my lenses might be water repellent? idk. the drops that remain are small and unobtrusive #the hard water damage: again this is a non issue. the water where i live is not that hard. id be washing them in the water anyways #drying droplets: i wipe them with a glasses cloth after i get out of the shower #i do not care that you guys dont wear your glasses but i DO think you should google how to clean glasses before #telling everyone very confidently that getting them wet is?? bad for them??? clean your glasses dude

[thegreatyin]

Same spouse!!!

my personal headcanon is that every player with this item is married to every other player with it

that's hilarious. accepted

#personally i just mentally lump in every npc the scoundrel WOULD marry that isnt properly marriageable #the blind pianist is part of the procession. in my heart. #ask #fallen london #tbh the scoundrel has a lot of attachment and... shall we say. commitment issues. dedication issues. #they're probably a very hard to get along with spouse and im not entirely confident half of the procession arent like #random interactions they had one night and then drunk way too much absinthe and suddenly woke up married to them. #as you do. #but also there maybe is a speck of the capacity for love SOMEWHERE in their little heart. MAYBE. if you squint #rrrrrrrreeeeaaaallllyyyy hard. and pull out a microscope. and tune it all the way up. and use a second additional microscope. #there just might be a speck in there. it's like the grinch but they just get worse instead #also i think caeru is part of the procession probably solely for tax reasons or something and they're Both petty and squabbling over it

[rondoel]

Looked into my folder and there was so much of them! 😭

#gta v #gta 5 #trevor #michael #franklin #trikey #doodle #rondos #2021 rly was the year that my fandom confidence started evaporating huh #I mean gta rly got me out of my comfort zone with more adult themes #wasn't ready to share my dive into it yet tho #partially bc being an adult on internet started to be a crime #(2019) #but really there were so many things that were super interesting for me to explore #like Trevor's mommy issues #had one comic about that #very emotional #or the casual internalized homophobia #was so fun to write for me #dude it was such important milestone for me <3 #GTAV's writing rly opened my eyes to mature world for real #kinda miss the server if you guys still follow me hii 👋

[only-one-brain-cell]

Spencer spending all of 4x7 trying to pin the murder on his dad.

#criminal minds #criminal minds 4x7 #spencer reid #Spencer your daddy issues are really showing here #I shouldn’t be proud of this post #it’s the memes #man has never been so confident and determined yet so wrong in his life #I strive to be this level of petty

[wormspoodle]

all 03 fans are required to read this fic if you haven’t (under the cut)

https://archiveofourown.org/works/12594564

#I love angst driven character analysis fics #I literally think abt Mikey’s self confidence issues sm #well a normal amount #yeah #tmnt 2003 #tmnt 2003 mikey #tmnt 2003 raph #tmnt 2003 leo #tmnt 2003 donnie

[ladycrimsonandblack]

So I’ve been trying to get into a new anime and had to force myself to go through the first three episodes because the protagonist did not sit well with me. Nothing bad about him, he’s just not the kind of intelligent bastard character I prefer.

And that got me thinking. I’ve been obsessed with Luffy for two years now. He’s my favorite One Piece character. He’s one of my favorite characters in all media, period. I adore him.

But, and I think we can all agree, he is very much not the sharpest crayon in the box.

Usually, I would hate this type of character. In fact, it was one of the reasons it took me so long to watch One Piece – I was one hundred percent sure Luffy would bore me. I saw the fandom joking around about his idiocy, and didn’t really look more into it before deciding that 900+ episodes is too long of an investment when I knew the main character is exactly the kind of protagonist I hate. The fact that I actually started One Piece was a total fluke, and I did it despite everything I saw and read about Luffy.

Here’s the thing. I still hate the stock shōnen characters. But I love Luffy, and I think that the main difference here is that Luffy is, before anything else, competent.

He is not a stupidly naive, bleeding-heart hero trying to see the best in everybody and having no actual connection to the real world. He does not bumble around, being tossed around by forces bigger than him and only resolving an impossible situation thanks to luck or being able to throw a bigger punch (though the punching bit does play a significant part). Luffy is always the instigator, the one in charge of the plot, the one driving the whole thing forward – the plot does not happen to Luffy, Luffy happens to the plot.

He’s not the smartest. Often, he’s not the strongest even. But when something needs to be done, when someone needs to step up and resolve the problem, he knows what to do. And he does not hesitate to do it, often in the most surprising of ways. He is a very simple thinker, but that simple thinking lets him see a clear line from a problem to a solution, without taking any detours a more intelligent character might have taken. It’s not just about who punches the strongest. It’s about pulling the right emotional lever (Robin in Enies Lobby), or finding a hidden weakness (Crocodile), or even about concocting the most outrageous solution that would resolve the situation immediately (destroying the Baratie, anyone?)

Also, he might not be the cleverest person around, but his insane emotional intelligence ensures that he does not have to be. He has friends for that. He surrounds himself with people who are smart and strong and just as competent as he is. His nakama do what he cannot, and so even this personal drawback is eliminated.

Luffy is just straight-up competent, in every way and situation possible. He does what needs to be done, always and without hesitation. And he does it well.

In his own way, he is just as effective as my personal favorite intelligent bastard characters. He’s just so much simpler about it.

#one piece #so this rambling character study actually made me realise #that maybe it's not the intelligent characters that are my favorite #but the competent ones #it's just that usually those characters are also the clever ones too #but then luffy here made me realize that i just like seeing characters actually doing something about their issues #and doing it well #and not just bumbling around and coming upon the solution thanks to luck or strength #and to be fair #luffy does use both #but he is so confident in his skills that you can never really doubt the final outcome #luffy knows exactly what he can do in any possible situation #and then does it #i love him

[pepperpixel]

Some inside job art! Mostly just trying to figure out how to draw these two

#inside job #brett hand #reagan ridley #doodles #these aren’t rlly anything special yet just me figuring out there designs but! there will be more…. I promise hhgh #I need to figure out how to draw Brett doing diff expressions ghgh. cuz so far I can only confidently draw him w his mouth gaping open #his mouth is so interesting tho! I love. how they draw it in the show. it’s cute. it’s one of his many cute qualities. #this is a man constructed out of mostly just cute qualities honestly ghgh #but so yeah! I wanna figure out. how to properly and confidently draw. him making diff expressions #cuz! even if usually smilingly vacantly is his default expression. he still has others! and. I wanna be able to depict them ghghg #I’m talking a lot about Brett here but I fucking love Reagan too.. she’s fucking… uGHG #WE LOVE TSUNDERES IN THIS HOUSE!!! #I kinda relate to both Brett and Reagan lol. but to be fair they both have a lot of issues so I guess it makes sense #like. me looking at Brett’s desperate need for approval: omg… he’s just like me fr fr #ghGH OK ANYWAY #yeah. have some inside job art #hopefully there will be more soon! #I fucked up one of the tags in there but I don’t feel like fixing it lol. it’s the one about ‘smiling vacantly’ #just pretend it’s not fucked up ghgh

[chitsangenthusiast]

will never stop finding it funny that aunt wu's headpiece is an inverted mark of the wise

#smth smth tarot card moment #man...how sokka immediately proved himself as a good wise leader in the very next episode after constantly being shot down in her village! #love when sokka gets to prove himself to be so much more and not underestimated <3 love that guy <33 #(sokka's confidence issues dni)

[theambitiouswoman]

Being attached to the idea of someone or something hurts more because we put even more effort to make it real. We aren't hurt about the outcome of the situation, but how much of ourselves we gave to make that situation work.

The more we invest in something, the higher the stakes become. As a result, if things don't turn out the way we hoped or expected, it can lead to a deep sense of disappointment, hurt, or even grief.

This is because we not only mourn the loss of the situation but also the parts of ourselves that we invested in it. Attachment is a natural human tendency, and it's okay to care deeply about people, goals, or dreams. However, it's also essential to strike a balance and avoid becoming excessively attached to specific outcomes.

Life is unpredictable, and not everything is within our control. Learning to let go, adapt, and find meaning and growth in the process can help mitigate the pain of attachment. Mindfulness practices and self-awareness can be valuable when navigating attachment and its associated emotions. By being aware of our feelings and motivations, we can better understand why we are so invested and whether that level of attachment is healthy.

#emotional attachment #anxious attachment #attachment issues #healthy relationship #toxic relationship #relationship advice #health and wellness #personal improvement #personal development #personal growth #self confidence #self love journey #self development #self help #self improvement

[ryllen]

i always know how gorgeous u are, but i don’t want u to think u already win just by that, cause i know u know you are gorgeous

#sdv #stardew valley #sdv alex #stardew alex #stardew valley alex #sdv farmer #stardew farmer #stardew valley farmer #fanart #i'm glad we agree on coat tux him #i made his hair just right there #but his legs are all wonky i'm sorry for that #it's scary how some people know how gorgeous they are #and it feels like they will make use of u if u just admit they are gorgeous right from the beginning #it's like they know if they just get a little bit closer u will die #if they give just a lil' affection u will be on ur knees #i have trust issue on beautiful people #it's the lack of confidence in myself that makes me suspecting their intention #like ' i'm sure in normal circumtances this person wouldn't like me ' #i'm sorry beautiful people for my stereotype that u're all secretly evil #sdv dusty #stardew dusty #stardew valley dusty #stardew dog

[jasontoddenthusiastt]

Batman Annual #25

Before Talia took him in, before he was dunked in the pit to have his memories restored, even when operating purely on survival instinct, he always split a meal with the other homeless people. It may not have been essential to his survival, but caring about and helping other people when he couldn’t even help himself was just always such an intrinsic part of Jason’s core.

#so much so that it prevailed over basic self-preservation #my guy lost 90% of his cognitive function and he’s still out here helping people in any way he can #my post #new headcanon: that’s why he stole all 4 tires. because he wasn’t just feeding himself in crime alley. #or at least he was planning to expand his work now that he had more confidence in his ability to feed and care for himself #I mean he also isn’t the type to brag about his good deeds yk? we all know he was putting up a tough guy façade when Bruce found him #a mutual asked abt Jason’s white streak so I directed them to hush which ofc reminded me of this book #rather than it being exclusively a pit thing imo it makes more sense for it to be a combination of actual health related issues #like the chronic prolonged mental and physical stress he had to endure coupled with the fact that superboy’s punch kickstarted his body #in ways that are unknown to modern science #and then the pit also had a hand in it (probably??) #(imo). like Talia doesn’t have it. neither do Damian or Ra’s or anyone else who’s been in the pit. #jason todd #dc #batman annual 25 #comic panels

[apotelesmaa]

I don’t think ppl give enough credit to rui for his dedication to fucking with people (outside of tsukasa of course) like. Knowing & acknowledging that nene wants nothing to do with him and Tsukasa on her first day of second year and deliberately following tsukasa to loudly ask if she’s getting along with people (just to be a jackass)? Implying his gift to akito will explode even though it won’t bc he wants to bug akito? Like I think rui at his core is full of love and a desire to make ppl smile but I also think he’s 200% committed to the bit first and foremost. If something will be funny he’s going to do it regardless of the consequences. Guy filled with zero social anxiety & a never ending desire to embarrass his friends.

#‘he’s insecure’ is very fanon. like I think he has hang ups over that obviously as one does when one is excluded from their peers for being #odd. but he’s never had that issue w the general public. w friends? a little. but he’s kinda moved past that #gestures towards the Halloween wxs story and (heavy sigh) rmd. #project sekai #in general I will die on the hill of rui and Tsukasa having so much more self assurance and confidence than ppl give them credit for #if u want a fail girl nene is right there. open ur eyes. #consequences of ppl only viewing him thru a shipping lense… #*nene* is socially anxious #rui canonically trespassed on ppls property to put on solo shows for several years. #i could go on a rant abt tsukasa & the portrayal of him w social anxiety despite the ample evidence against it but I don’t feel like doing #it in the tags bc it is entirely unrelated. rui and Tsukasa (handshake emoji) horrifically misrepresented by fanon. #2 end on a more positive note: everyone think abt the comic where rui is perfectly capable of understanding emu #and he has the ‘all perfect’ text after comprehending her fascinating vocabulary. beautiful. perfect wxs relationship moment. #read curtain call again. & the other rui focuses. main story in general. etc.

[queersouthasian]

I NEED PEOPLE, MORE PEOPLE TO APPRECIATE BABE'S OBSERVANT MODE BEING FULL ON SPIRALLING AROUND CHARLIE...THERE IS SO MUCH LOVE IN OBSERVING THE LITTLE DETAILS OF THE PERSON YPU LOVE WITH YOUR SOUL...

● BABE NOTICING CHARLIE WAS UNCOMFORTABLE TO DRINK A WHOLE GLASS AND TAKING IT AWAY FROM (EP 2), HIM GIVING CHARLIE A LIMITED AMOUNT OF DRINK AND ASKING HIM IF HE CAN HANDLE IT IN HIS SOFT VOICE (EP 6)

●BABE NOT DRINKING OR SMOKING DURING HIS MOURNING 'CAUSE CHARLIE WOULD WANT HIM TO BE HEALTHY (AS ALAN SAYS "what would Charlie think if he saw you being like this" IN EP 10)

●BABE KNOWING CHARLIE BLAMES HIMSELF SO HE WALKS UP TO HIM AND REASSURES HIM AND COMFORTS HIM BY PATING HIM AFTER HE LOST THE RACE IN EP 9, HE DOES THE SAME IN EP 5 AND 6 AS WELL.

● BABE TEACHING CHARLIE HOW TO RACE AND RECOMMENDING HIM TO THE TEAM (since he thought Charlie was there to get a race car, he teaches and believes in his racing even though he was a newbie)

● BABE IMMEDIATELY LOOKING AT CHARLIE AFTER HE FINDS BLOOD IN KIM'S ROOM, ALERTED, TELLS HIM TO STAY STILL AND HIMSELF GOES IN TO CHECK IN THE NEXT ROOM.

●CHARLIE MENTIONING DIEING, AS A JOKE OR NOT, AND BABE REFUSING TO LET THAT SLIDE EACH TIME

●BABE NOT DIRECTING COMMUNICATING DURING EP4-5 AND NOT LETTING CHARLIE EXPLAIN, TO CONFRONTING HIM ABD LETTING HIM EXPLAIN IN EP7, TO AGAIN CONFRONTING CHARLIE AND WAITING FOR AN EXPLANATION DURING EP 10 BEFORE THE RACE (even though it was a misunderstanding, it shows babe's growing confidence and trust in their relationship)

●BABE GOING FROM HAVING TRUST ISSUES TO HAVING BLIND FAITH AND TRUST IN CHARLIE

●BABE LOOKING OUT FOR CHARLIE AND CALMLY TALKING AND LISTENING TO HIM BEFORE THE RACE IN EP9, SUGGESTING SEX 'CAUSE IT HELPED HIM WHEN HE HAD THE POWERS.

●BABE SHIELDING CHARLIE, PUSHING CHARLIE AWAY FROM DANGER

●BABE IMMEDIATELY LOOKING OUT FOR CHARLIE AFTER EVERY ALTERCATION

●BABE BRINGING CHARLIE TO THREE PLACES (the restaurant, the stargazing road, his childhood home) WHICH ARE SOME INTIMATELY PART OF HIS LIFE

●BABE TOUCHING CHARLIE, BEING EXTREMELY INTIMATE WITH HIM DURING THE SEX SCENE IN EP 13, JUST TAKING HIS TIME TO STARE AT HIM, HOLD HIM AND KISS HIM.

●BABE IMMEDIATELY HOLDING CHARLIE WHEN BEING PUSHED IN EP 8

#lgbtq #bl drama #Charlie's self worth issues healed 'cause of his lover #Like it nor not #He is the reason charlie became s #*so #Confident in their relationship #pit babe the series #charliebabe