#i HEARD the line

[tadfools]

The most important NPC in Baldur’s Gate btw

#avatar the last airbender #baldur’s gate 3 #bg3 #bg3 easter eggs #baldur’s gate iii #bg3 memes #when i say i yelled when i heard this line....

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[epicfirestormer]

Go watch Nimona, it's really good

#nimona #i had to stop the movie to make this meme #i like to think I'm funny #when i heard that line I was instantly reminded of this post #but I mean #ballister would absolutely say this #the fire burns #the fire crackles with joy #low quality shitpost #low quality memes #also I think it was hilarious that Ambrosius had beef with a kid for being Ballister's new best friend #miguel o'hara 🤝 ambrosius goldenloin: having beef with a child #memes #ballister blackheart #ambrosius goldenloin

[beebundt]

thinking a little too much abt durge/orin sibling relationship rn. 🩸ft. my durge (briar, they/them)

#not me referencing an arcane quote ‼️ #i love that line from arcane i think abt it all the time. couldn't help but draw some similarities to orin here. im unwell #I HAVEN'T DONE THE ORIN FIGHT YET !!!!!!!!!! but im being emotional abt it even though i HEARD it was lackluster #im rlly enjoying these mspaint doodles lately they're actually so so fun. very nice vacation from csp rn it's so therapeutic #my art #art #illustration #drawing #artists on tumblr #digital art #my ocs #oc #ocs #original character #bg3 #baldurs gate 3 #blood cw #blood tw #orin #orin the red #durge #the dark urge #briar

[grabyoursaintsandpray]

How it started Vs How it's going

X-Men: The Animated Series

X-Men '97

#I realised I heard that line before #It was not fun to make that second GIF #x men the animated series #gambit #remy lebeau #X-Men #X-Men 97 #xmen 97 #x men 97 #x men spoilers #xmen #x men 97 spoilers #I've avoided posting anything spoilery til now #Gave a few days just in case

[theplatypusblue]

buddy, I think you're doing just fine.

(this post is NOT an invitation to start bashing on Wu btw ☝️ he's trying his best I just think his season 9 antics are. kinda funny.)

#ninjago spoilers #ninjago dr spoilers #the instant i heard that line come outta his mouth i was like lol. lmao even. also i dont remember what their suits look like dont judge me #ninjago #lego ninjago #ninjago dragons rising #ninjago fanart #lloyd garmadon #kai ninjago #ninjago dr s2 #master wu

[p4nishers]

crowley, drunk off his ass: and i was yk just some fucked up soul born in cold and rain but he was my fucking sunlight or whatever

hozier, frantically writing on a napkin: HHHMMMM TELL ME MORE

#hozier is INSANELY azicrow coded and i am going feral over the implications that crowley heard the lines 'if the heavens ever did speak she #the last true mouthpiece' LIKE EXCUSE ME????????? #'u called me angel for the first time my heart leapt from me' and crowley cries himself to sleep #'heaven is not fit to house a love like u and i' and crowley projectile vomits onto the floor #'it cant be unlearned i have known the warmth of your doorways' 'i slithered here from eden just to hide outside ur door' 'though i burn how #could i fall when i am lifted by every word u say to me' and his ass is GONE he has EXPLODED #good omens #inefabble husbands #good omens s2 #good omens season 2 #azicrow #hozier #crowley #aziraphale

[waveoftheocean]

"i can see it in his eyes" 🥰

#trigun #trigun stampede #vashwood #vash the stampede #nicholas d wolfwood #wolfwood #vash #my art #mine #deep in my trigun feels rn help #also sad commentary on my life and drawing speed that i'm actually amazed that this took me “only” 3ish weeks to finish #insert shrug emoji #anyways this line has been bouncing around in my head since i heard it #WHAT CAN U SEE IN HIS EYES VASH #HIS EYES THAT ARE COVERED BY DARK SUNGLASSES #honestly idk if this line or ww's “oh so you can smile like that” make me more head in hands #WHO SAYS THINGS LIKE THAT WITHIN LIKE HOURS OF MEETING SOMEONE #no matter which version they r soulmates fr...

[somethingserious]

Beyoncé - AMERIICAN REQUIEM

#beyonce #cowboy carter #ameriican requiem #When I tell you my heart stopped when I heard this line #What a beautiful song

[knifearo]

i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as a binary i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as a sliding scale of "less" to "more" i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as the only two options i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as significantly different things i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as all encompassing i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as the two halves of a shallow concept of love that doesn't actually encompass anything at all i think we need to overhaul every popular conception about "types" of love so we can talk about things that are real and true for once

#in conclusion. alloromantics stfu up about love challenge #hate using the term platonic so much actually. cause even if it has a definition that is what it Should mean #you know that people don't actually think about it that way. #you say 'platonic' and you might Mean an all-encompassing love. but how it's interpreted is shorthand for 'just friends' #so like. the word platonic isn't Really for me is it :| #platonic gets presented like a consolation prize for aro people no matter where you turn #but fundamentally rn it comes from a concept of platonic and romantic as the two kinds of love #where platonic is for family and friends and nothing More. #and romantic is for the relationships that overhaul all else #so 'aros can still feel platonic love!' ok. what if it's not platonic as you know it though. #'oh then it's romantic!' k but it's not romantic either. will your framework explode if i say that #'aros can still feel platonic love!' why do you say that like it's a second-best option and expect me to identify with it... #again. platonic might Actually mean smth i experience. but it won't be Heard that way. do you get what i'm saying #i don't experience 'platonic blurring into romantic' cause i will never feel romantic love actually. those lines are still blurring though #ummmmm in conclusion. killing and biting #aromantic #aromanticism #aroace #arospec #talking

[rocktheholygrail]

Hannibal 2x10 deleted scene

will graham IS a lesbian

#i still wish we could've heard him say the line though xD #hannibal #hannibal lecter #margot verger #will graham #hannigram #nbc hannibal #hannibal nbc #murder husbands

[thankstothe]

One liners the sequel

#acontextual house #house md #gregory house #james wilson #thirteen #remy hadley #robert chase #“irene adler” fucking killed me first time I heard it #Wilson you're fucking asshole lmao #now did he made up a name or the Sherlock series existence is canon #but ducklings didn't seem to catch on to the reference so its prob random #or was it losely based on someone real who house knew and who did “win” like irene in sherlock did #the fact that this is wilson (watson) telling (making up) us the story of irene is very neat adaptation move to me #is it even adaptation lol. just a reference I guess #anyway #still i laughed at that line #and whats in the porntitle is “Making room for Daddy's hot bisexual with boyfriend problems.” #ridiculous #applies to them both #long post #longpost

[e-turn]

there was his angel, wrapped tightly around him.

from chapter 2 of death wish by @remedyturtles

Ben Harper - Waiting On An Angel

я завершила перевод «Я может, и не видим...»! вау. вау. я очень хочу радоваться сильнее, но слишком устала.

плю�� вот вам еще парочка фиков из серии «желания умереть».

#rottmnt #rise of the tmnt #riseofthetmnt #rottmnt leo #rise leo #rottmnt mikey #rise mikey #soundtrack in house md be damned #i heard this song and was like well that's a sign from above #because that little line clenched my heart and didn't let go #too tired #my art #my animation #my translations #перевод на русский

[trans-androgyne]

It is honestly starting to feel like y'all using transandrophobia are actually just girls that wanted to feel extra special. Stopped experiencing misogyny so now you need a new problem. Get a life.

This is such low-grade anon hate, I was just making fun of another anon for doing the whole worn-out “you’re just girls who want to feel special” thing in my inbox. I’ll still post this for documenting purposes as well as because it’s really funny you’re saying I don’t still experience misogyny while being misogynistic to me. Thanks for the example of transandrophobic rhetoric, but be more creative next time.

#‘you’re actually just a little girl seeking attention’ woooow where have I heard that before. only literally everywhere get better lines #this is such nothing anon hate it’s almost suspicious. is someone trying to make me look better /hj #transandrophobia #transphobia #misogyny #as

[anderwater]

You have a beautiful spirit. Thank you for sharing your time with me. ATLANTA S4.10 “it was all a dream”

#atlanta #atlanta fx #atlanta spoilers #atlantaedit #lakeith stanfield #cree summer #i got so excited when i heard her voice #beautiful last minute homage #these lines! real #tvedit #tvarchive #my #1K

[just-posting-kalone]

Finished Dual Destinies!! Simon Blackquill and some other stuff

#apollo justice #dual destinies #ace attorney #ace attorney fanart #athena cykes #simon blackquill #GOD I LOVE ATHENA (AND SIMON!) #I heard a lot of bad about DD so I was skeptical #but in the end I had a lot of fun with it! #even though I'm a big aa4 fan #still kind of mad that they decided to just ignore most of the stuff from it and never mention them again #beanix you will be missed #you were too powerful for this world #the kristoph line was... something #ALSO I FORGOT TO MENTION THE PHANTOM STUFF??????????? DUDE #ace attorney spoilers