#avoid imposter syndrome

[aos-presents]

If you are exhausted and feel that you are experiencing growing pains, you may need to rework your plan, so that you will have the time, energy and mental capacity to keep going

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[intersex-idiots]

am i fake or do i actually have this trauma and all of these weird disabilities that have completely changed my life

#npd #bpd #aspd #schizophrenia #dyslexic #autism #adhd #low vision #mute #bipolor #maladaptive daydreaming #schizoid #avoidant personality disorder #actually histrionic #sensory processing disorder #actually dyscalculic #personality disorder #physically disabled #imposter syndrome #spoonie #osdd #actually osdd #actually antisocial #actually aspd #actually borderline #actually bpd #actually npd #actually narcissistic #actually bipolar #actually neurodivergent

[awkwardgoddesss]

Neurotypicals be like: Just use a planner broooo

Sir, you don't get it. If I got a planner 1 out of 4 things is going to happen.

1. My demand avoidance will kick in and I would rather rip out every single strand of hair on my body one by one than fill out a to-do list.

Or

2. I actually get everything done from my planner, but my imposter syndrome kicks in and since I set those goals for myself even though I accomplished them, they mean nothing and are therefore not worthy of acknowledgement.

Or

3. I will fill out the planner and then forget it exists. So like who is going to remind me to check my planner or use my planner to begin with?

Or

4. The worst of them all, I will end up with a planner filled with things I gotta do, remember it, not get anything done but with the extra guilt of not getting anything done.

#adhd problems #neurodivergent #actually adhd #adhd diagnosis #things ill never say #audhd things #rsd #imposter syndrome #demand avoidance #shit neurotypicals say

[thejolteonmastertj]

BOTW Link was always a crossdresser confirmed. 😂

#BOTW #Breath Of The Wild #I love messing with the order of doing things in this game #This from my latest playthrough where I roleplayed as Link having extreme imposter syndrome and avoided Impa until the very late game #All it did was kinda almost break the game lol… #I went back after this to continue the regaining memories plot but instead Impa literally yelled at me to go fight Ganon 😭 #I don’t have screenshots but a few years ago I did a playthrough where the first thing I did was grab the Gerudo girl disguise #and I played through the entire story with it on #Outside of Gerudo desert I only got like one different reaction based on my outfit and it was from a random creep NPC iirc #I was mildly disappointed at the time #But it’s grown on me how nobody even reacts to Link dressing fem #Legend Of Zelda #Link #hero of the wild #loz botw #loz breath of the wild #botw purah #BOTW Link #Crossdressing Link #gerudo outfit #Gerudo vai outfit

[zzzzzestforlife]

what to do when someone compliments me, seemingly genuinely, but then someone else points out that they're probably only/also saying it because they want x. so now instead of feeling happy/grateful, i just feel used.

#bumpy #workblr #this person is literally just speaking the negative automatic thoughts that are already so hard for me to avoid in my own head #the voice in my head sounds a lot like them #imposter syndrome #software engineering #psychology student #studyblr #student life #seventeen #junhui #idk this gif set seems to fit #seventeen carat #caratblr #kpop #lifeblr #complicated

[girl4music]

This is why Willow Rosenberg is such an important character in ‘Buffy the Vampire Slayer’ and why she’s so relatable and resonatable. Imposter syndrome may not be the only mental condition she has but it is arguably the first one she has - which means that every other stems from it and is manifested because of it. Power corruption, addiction, repressed sadism, consent issues, OCD, anxiety disorders,… the lot.

All of it is informed by her simply believing like she doesn’t belong and doesn’t deserve and isn’t worthy. This condition is a problem for her right from the start of the show. In her very first interaction with Buffy she is already in that state of mind where her extremely poor self esteem is informing everything she does and says about herself, about other people, about the world and her involvement in it. She doesn’t have any friends besides Xander and the soon-to-be-dead Jesse. Xander is also someone who is viewed as a geek and a loser and so she feels comfortable with him. She knows that she belongs in his friend group. But as soon as Buffy comes along - it’s a different story because she comes along with Cordelia. The most popular girl at Sunnydale High and her bully. Before Willow knows anything about Buffy being the Slayer she already automatically understands that Buffy is off-limits and she has no right to be around her. Internalizing her geek and loser status as “wrong” for her. And so when Buffy comes up to her and asks her for help later, Willow just thinks she wants her to move. That she wants her to disappear so she can sit in her space. She already and immediately thinks that Buffy is “someone” and she isn’t. She is just nothing.

When they become friends at the end of the episode and she is now following her around and being her “Slayerette” she makes herself useful to her however way she can. But the feelings of doubt that she actually cares about her and wants to be her friend still linger. And they linger all the way up until we get a proper look-in to her mind in Season 4 with ‘Restless’. In her dream we are privy to things we wouldn’t ever be otherwise. The way she truly thinks and feels about herself and everyone else. The way she perceives of herself and everyone else. She’s not the heroine that saves the day. She’s the damsel in distress. She’s the helpless victim. She’s not the one everybody relies on. She’s the one everybody stares and laughs at. She’s the one exposed for being nothing at all. She’s just a sham, a fraud, an imposter. She’s just playing a role.

This condition is never resolved in her arc in the show even though it’s an on-going condition right up until the very end of it. Willow’s arc is never fully concluded. She has a good endgame. Don’t get me wrong. I really did like what they did with it. Had her settle with being the “BIG GUN” only by activating all the Potentials. I thought it was good. But it wasn’t enough. That big gaping hole of where and why her insecurities and anxieties started was never addressed properly and therefore not explored to make her endgame earned. Willow’s initial and foundational condition was imposter syndrome and because they didn’t address and explore this, then ‘Light Willow’ or whatever THAT Willow was was just a symbol and not an evolution.

The thing about the condition of imposter syndrome is that the person is never an actual imposter. It’s just that they believe that they are and it only affects their whole life because they believe it. It’s a self-corruption and self-sabotage. It is a mental condition. It doesn’t exist in external and objective reality. It’s made up. And it’s true, people can become the worst of people because of that of which they believe of themselves. They can destroy their whole life - their relationships, their environment, their well being - because of it. But the honest truth of it is that it is not real. And if it is not real than it is not you… Because you are real. You exist. You are an external and objective existence. You can only do the best you can in the moment. Let go of control and let somebody else carry you for a change. There’s nothing wrong with you other than what you let be wrong with you. Other than what you believe is.

#buffy the vampire slayer #willow rosenberg #alyson hannigan #imposter syndrome #how to avoid imposter syndrome #dr franceska jones #Youtube

[hauntedselves]

i was wondering, i struggle with the same issues you’re experiencing rn with the trauma episode, ive always wondered why i wished my trauma was worse (if you’re open to explaining)? you mentioned you’re aware of why

ironically, it's actually one of the core symptoms of C/PTSD - avoidance of trauma.

it's a combination of a coping mechanism and denial (if you're thinking about how bad it wasn't, you're not thinking about how bad it was). this article refers to it as "trauma imposter syndrome".

it's why people with PTSD wish they had Complex PTSD and people with CPTSD wish they had DID and people with DID wish they were polyfragmented... because then it would finally be recognised as Trauma, as Bad Enough.

it doesn't work that way, btw. even if you only have "simple" PTSD, or don't meet the criteria for PTSD at all. no matter what you went through, it was Bad Enough.

#easy to read. easy to write. not easy to internalise! #dogasks #ptsd #cptsd #trauma avoidance #trauma #trauma imposter syndrome #cant be fucked to look for sources other than that article sorry #also probably part of survivors guilt & the cptsd negative self concept stuff too

[awkward-fallen-angel]

I never thought I'd make a fan art that predicted the future of a show.

#one i didn't think my art was good enough to even gain attention of staff writers #two usually they avoid stuff like anyways #and three im like a nobody so its wild #the fact that my art is up there with all the amazing art of mermaid stede blows my mind #my imposter syndrome is firing on cylinders right now #and the only reason i am not like nahhh about it is that people keep reblogging the art with spoiler tags #it's wild

[toruvi]

Doing cons has made me realize I could never be a creative as a career dncjvjdjdjcjfjf

#i dont want to say its made me hate drawing but ive def had a lot more imposters syndrome compared to when i was drawing more casually #sorry i keep complaining dhdhxjvjv but drawing needs to be fun for me or im going to avoid it 😭 #and i think i started equating my value to how much feedback/sales i get from it and #its not fun anymore aaaaaaa #im glad my next one isnt until November sskskskdicfieisisiwo xnsnsjvj #just gonna draw what i like instead of drawing what i think will sell 🥲 then i wont be disappointed or stressed out #fjfjchchdjdjf #like ive REALLY wanted to make a levi sticker sheet and some other aot things #so im just.. gonna do that djfhsbshfhchdh

[mars-ipan]

i’ve been trying to get more comfortable with calling myself disabled

#marzivents #<- not really a vent but i still want it to go somewhere #i’m not nervous about it in a prideful way #i’m nervous about it in an imposter syndrome way #i went so long being undiagnosed that i still kinda forget that yeah i’m not making it up #and even though my anxiety does get so bad that it actively impedes on my life sometimes #from perfectionism to difficulty setting boundaries to sometimes even an inability to leave the house #(thank you covid for the agoraphobia. i will murder you with my bare hands) #i still feel. weird calling myself disabled #i feel almost like i’m ‘not disabled enough’ #which. obviously is internalized ableism #anxiety especially is one of those mental illnesses that people say are ‘just normal emotions’ #because they cannot fathom someone feeling an emption stronger or differently or more frequently than them apparently #so ig that’s why i tend to feel more ‘normal’ (big air quotes) and like i don’t deserve to call myself disabled #but uh. yeah no The Symptoms are definitely disabling #like i have to avoid certain things (usually tic or migraine triggers) or take things a lot slower bc of it #and that’s. disability accomodation #but idk. i’m not actively dying so i feel like i’m being dramatic or smth #i’m getting better at understanding that i am disabled and not faking it though #which is. good #i imagine it’ll just take some practice and time

[aylaaescar]

...just realized that since I'm now working a bona fide, 8 hours a day 5 days a week job with my own desk and company email and everything like Average American Joe, I am finally an adult working at a place that does like. holiday parties. water cooler talk. all that corporate stuff on TV and not retail, where there is no such blue collar domesticity.

friggin weird

#personal tag #work tag #me @ me: let's avoid imposter syndrome pls lol you are a logistics clerk and you're doing fine

[evilneo]

hey uh i know we barely talk directly and i don't want to just dump emotional labor on you or anything but. is it possible for a system to have low... dissociative borders ig? Is it possible for alters to like, switch on a dime instead needing a trigger? Imposter syndrome is hitting me again even if I know I can't be faking.

mhm yeah!! some systems have lower barriers and also and easier time switching :) (ease of switching also can vary from alter to alter, eg some of us suck at switching while others can go as far as yanking someone else out of front and taking their place (side eyeing at Rez and Azazel and Benrey....))

#imposter syndrome is a bitch </3 its like yhe common system experience.... holding you ok? #asks #gendertrash yakko #also DW anyone can talk to me anytime :) 💛 #but YEAH there is a wide variety of system experiences when it comes to switching n stuff #(usually molded on what is most helpful in your specific situation #like my situation required me to be as covert as I could to avoid ridicule so im fucking stuck at front most of the time </3 #that kinda stuff yk? its not a rule ofc but its commonly the case) #(if taht makes sense?)

[faithisland]

autism really does link and connect allllllll of my various random, previously-thought-to-be unconnected issues .....

it's all just autism.

it's autism all the way down

#ive been avoiding this realization my whole life bc i knew it would like #make my life hard and id have imposters syndrom FOREVER #but this is SO GOOD FOR ME #im sure denial and IS will hit eventually but rn all i feel is relief #like i can finally figure out how to prevent and heal these problems #ALL. of my issues #sensitivity to sound #extreme motion sickness triggered easily #disassociative episodes (these are shutdowns apparently) #inability to find words and translate ideas into words #extreme passion on the edge of obsession for what i love #desire to collect facts #desire to learn everything there is to know #like everything that made my life suck #AND be wonderful and beautiful #and special #ITS ALL JUST AUTISM #holy shit......... #rowan talks

[a-place-to-exist]

when i'm on dissociatumblr i'm fine with talking about DID with people and stuff but when i'm like in the wild and someone with DID appears i get like. Irrational anxiety and I don't even know why. There's this person who I'm pretty sure has C-DID and everytime I see them my body goes WUUUUH WUUUUUH we are in danger and it's a shame bc we could be friends

#is it bc i have imposter syndrome #is it bc i don't have did #is it bc i have did #is it bc i feel weird about having did or not #is it bc my natural reflex is to avoid did #is it bc i have bad experiences related to people w did #is it bc i don't know how to react without saying oh yeah i know like way more than the average person #about this “rare” and stigmatized disorder #HHHHHHHHHHHHHH #system tag #talk

[angeltism]

it seems I have no other choice now but to pick up another language to learn

#➳ the fool speaks #totally unrelated but does literally anyone have resources on learning chero.kee/tsa.lagi (don't want this to be found by strangers . scary #n I'm still dealing w imposter syndrome n agh.) #i also might pick up bal.kan rom.ani (again avoiding peoole knowing of my existence) but i don't know which dialect my family would #theoretically speak #so it . could be bal.kan . or one of the other 6 . agh why is this so complicated

[dignityofapotato]

Entry 18

It was a pretty hectic week. This week I was basically preparing myself for my future. One of the guest speakers I had talked about financial literacy. She handed out a paper about paying off student loans, talking about the salaries we could be making and how difficult it is to support yourself in this economy. During that presentation I felt so many things being thrown at me at once. I only…

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#adulthood #anxiety #avoidant #counseling #depression #emotions #failure #fear of failing #fear of future #future #graduation #hope #identity #imposter syndrome #internship #life #mental health #persona #twenties #University