#autistic love

[asharestupid]

Hey btw if you have an autistic person in your life pls know that they do care about you. They're bonding with you by sitting near you, by sending you memes, by liking your posts, by info dumping to you. We have weird ways of showing we care but trust me we do.

#autism #actually autistic #autistic community #autistic culture #autistic burnout #late diagnosed autistic #autistic spectrum #autistic women #autistic positivity #autistic characters #autistic people #autistic love

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Autistic Love

Neurodivergent_lou

#autism #actually autistic #autistic love #ways autistic people show love #tw abuse #cw abusive relationships #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #actually neurodivergent #feel free to share/reblog #Neurodivergent_lou (Facebook)

[autismcultureis]

Autism/adhd culture is having the urge to bite people you love

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#autism culture #autism #autism spectrum disorder #autistic #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #actually autistic #asd #autistic things #nd #autistic affection #autistic love #autistic love language #love language #atypical love language #neurodivergent community #neurodivergent love #neurodivergent love language

[edynsgardensnake]

Things I say to my loud family when I'm overstimulated:

Use your inside voices, please.

Can we make this an inner monologue?

Let's play the quiet game.

I am not a vampire, its ✨️ambient lighting✨️

Please stop talking to me.

I'm putting my headphones on.

Now is not a good time, please try again later.

#autism #neurodivergent #autistic #audhd #actually autistic #adhd #neurodiversity #asd #autistic love #Autistic family #Autistic minorities #black and autistic #neurodivergent community #im overstimulated #Sensory overload #overwhelmed #Sensory needs #autism struggles

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

A love that is way more than platonic but still not sexual or romantic but a secret fourth thing

#aroace #arospec #acespec #aroace spectrum #aromantic #asexual #greysexual #demisexual #demiromantic #greyromantic #romantic orientation #aroace pride #audhd #neurodiversity #adhd autistic #autistic relationships #autistic love #neurodiverse love

[snakeautistic]

I have this fear I’m not capable of handling emotional and romantic intimacy. I have really great friends but adding attraction and romance to all that sounds impossible. The entire dating ‘game’ is socializing on hard mode, and thats of course assuming you even have a chance to begin with. Not to mention my just absolutely minuscule dating pool, considering I’m a lesbian and I most likely would need my partner to be ND for it to ever work. It also just sounds like such a huge amount of work and time, especially becasye it’s very likely all of that investment and emotional openness will end in heartbreak.

It makes me sad because I do really want to experience that though. I do long for romantic connection. But I’m afraid if the opportunity were to present itself- and I suppose it sort of has, a few times, although it was never with anyone I really felt interested in- I wouldn’t be able to do it.

#autistic lesbian #actually autistic #neurodivergent love #autistic love #neurodivergent #autistic rant #autistic thoughts #lesbian #wlw #wlw yearning #actual lesbians #neurodiversity #autistic things #autistic experiences

[joyfullypinkinternet]

Having autism and adhd is so annoying. I never know if i’ve fallen for someone or if the attention I'm getting is giving me a dopamine rush and the amount of time I spend with this person makes me accidentally form them into my routine. I never know if I hyperfixate on this person or if I actually like them. It's really fucking annoying

#adhdlife #adhd stuff #adhd struggles #undiagnosed adhd #actually adhd #autistic experiences #autistic spectrum #autism #actually autistic #undiagnosed autistic #undiagnosed neurodivergent #love #autistic love

[do-angels-dream-of-starry-seas]

I just have to wax poetic about the beauty of gentlebeard, particularly why I, as an autistic person, love them so much and project onto them so badly

This might get a little long, so a read more will do

But first off, some fun brief history lesson on autistic relationships in media :). Which sucks most of the time :)))

Ok I'm really not gonna get too much into it cause most of its the same; white autistic man/white allistic woman (The Good Doctor, Adam, etc). There have been steps in more diversity when it comes to this (Jane Wants a Boyfriend and Extraordinary Attorney Woo, a flip on this trope, and Heartbreak High has an actually autistic actress as a main lesbian character) but some of these media aren't being continued anymore (Everything's Gonna Be Okay you will always be missed)

As of right now, the themes of these stories are usually about the disability, teaching allistics and just overall centers around autism itself, which considering how many of these projects aren't led by autistic people, it's shitty repetitive portrayals (The Good Doctor, Atypical, Extraordinary Attorney Woo, As They See Us, blah blah blah blah blah)

But then you got these two pirates.

And let me explain how they pressed all the right buttons for me:

1. Both neurodivergent coded

Stede Bonnet my autistic icon. Just, the way he goes about social interactions and his knowledge about things is so reminiscent of trying to understand social rules and masking and special interests. There's even the little things like his love of books and needing things spelled out to him and when he commented on the textures of the privateer clothing.

And there's definitely a reason loads of people love to read Ed as adhd: his brain thinking of plans ahead in the future, feeling stuck in life, collection of items in a "messy" room, and that fancy French party man. His reading is less overt and more nuanced to me, but I still feel connected to him like I do with Stede, like how I would feel when watching a show about autistic people.

2. Their neurodivergent relationship

I've said before that most relationships we see are with an autistic/allistic. It falls under the "teaching" category and makes me feel like its trying to make a point, like yes, autistic people can have relationships like anyone else and they are lovable enough to neurotypicals!!!1!!1!

So imagine my absolute glee at how when Stede and Ed have their first proper conversation, it goes like

Ed seemingly seeking a sensory touch from the softness of a fabric

Stede instead of judging him on doing something "weird" asks if he enjoys it

And because they find they both enjoy this certain thing

Stede shows him his safe space to Ed full of this same kind of thing Ed liked

Ed then expresses his personal feelings to Stede

And gets no judgment, in fact a show of agreement and sympathy

And then they do something that's like an inside joke that's really only funny to them

And then Ed encourages Stede to be confident by supporting him

This is thee meet-cute, nothing can ever top this cute and honest beginning of a medium-burn relationship, change my mind

Most of what autistics want more than anything, romantic or otherwise, is to feel listened to and accepted. And we get this almost immediately, with BOTH Stede and Ed feeling appreciated!!!!

3. No neurodivergent preaching

When autistic love is shown in media, it's usually never the focal point. The main thing is about the person having the disability - even shows I love and praise for its relationship representation like Extraordinary Attorney Woo and Everything's Gonna Be Okay do the same thing

Ofmd acknowledges issues existing like colonialism, racism and homophobia, yet this show is not about that. The characters are allowed to exist and be themselves and happy without having this fact shoved down their throat every waking second and the villains who keep up the systemic issues get their comeuppance, usually by that person they were hurting.

And I here what you're saying: that neurodivergency is not canon and so doesn't have the direct acknowledgement like the other issues I mentioned... well.

We don't see sexism in ofmd, yet we all understand how Mary wouldn't be able to make the same choices Stede could on leaving their family. We know that the French party were entertained by Ed, not just cause of his stories as Jeff The Accountant.

Stede was bullied in his childhood by his father and classmates for not fitting in, for standing out - yes this obviously reads as homophobia, but many neurodivergents can relate to feeling exactly like this, some i bet almost being in the same situation as Stede is when it comes to things like crying easily and liking to pick flowers

So a moment like Stede playing Stark Revelations, where he gets to make fun of people that were like those in his old life AND being able to defend his one and only friend? That felt pretty damn good to watch myself.

Even without the romance, you still have a show where the two main characters are encouraged to be themselves in every way. This is a far cry from other media where even though they aren't explicitly stated to be neurodivergent, they are generally unlikeable and/or characters around them scold and pressure them to change into something "better" (Sherlock, Big Bang Theory, etc etc). Doesn't change the fact they are read as neurodivergent and thus seen as harmful representation for people who are "similar" to them irl

Meanwhile, Ed and Stede love each other because of who the other is, no narrative about them having to fall in love with the other despite their differences... but because they found something in each other they always wanted to find, and to feel loved in return

And the narrative doesn't preach to you or tries to fix them. Instead it says "this is our main character who happens to be white and middle aged, and this is his love interest who happens to be middle-aged and a Māori man, and this is their love story". And it is so goddamn neurodivergent

#ofmd #our flag means death #ofmd meta #blackbonnet #gentlebeard #stede bonnet #edward teach #autism #actually autistic #autistic love #autistic relationship #let.me.dream.with.ofmd

[ariariari-freehounreal]

Pre resonance cascade freehoun

#half life #half life 1 #freehoun #barney calhoun #gordon freeman #silly silly silly #autistic love #TWO MEN

[themages-lantern]

turns out i don't hate romantic comedy??? i'm just??? queer???? and the reason i felt repulsed and could not relate to rom coms was cause they were cishet??

#queer #trans #t4t #neurodivergent #autistic love

[lifeonkylesfarm]

a reminder for this autism acceptance month:

fuck autism speaks

red instead

if you share this drawing other than reblogging, i did draw this myself so please credit!

#autism activism #autism blog #fuck autism speaks #autism pride #autism #autistic pride #autistic kids #autistic children #autistic people #autistic spectrum #autistic experiences #autistic rights #autistic representation #autistic tumblr #autistic thoughts #autistic unmasking #autistic acceptance #autistic and proud #autistic life #autistic love #autistic community #autistic culture #autistic communication #being autistic #autistic blogger #autism experiences #autism acceptance month #red instead #autism acceptance #autism appreciation

[forget-me-not-automaton]

Yea but would you also care about a sweet and yet mentally fucked little guy IRL too? Idk uhhhh asking for a friend,,

#this post is literally just me going #If I was a golden retriever type but also quite loud and often clingy would you tolerate me? #like the blorbos? #this is very autism of me I apologize #blorbo #fictional characters #autistic #autistic things #autism #actually autistic #autism moment #autistic love #Audhd #actually audhd #audhd things #trauma response #mental health #mental health awareness #attachment issues #anxious attachment #attachment styles #abandonment issues #mental illness

[autismcultureis]

Autism culture is loving your autistic girlfriend because she understands your quirks and routines and you understand hers, and you both frequently just stop in the middle of making out to randomly infodump about your current hyperfixation/discuss a random fact you thought of because that's normal to you. Also you can both agree that spreadsheets are sexy.

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#the last part especially lmaoo #autism culture #autism #autism spectrum disorder #autistic #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #actually autistic #asd #autistic things #nd #autistic love #autistic love language #nd4nd

[edynsgardensnake]

#started #lightworker #spirituality #spiritual community #spiritualjourney #spiritual awakening #ancient aliens #Alien #e.t. phone home #twin flame #neurodivergent community #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #autism #Adhd #Audhd #Love #autistic love #love language #Accommodation is love

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Being autistic does not mean what people think it means. It’s so exhausting having to explain that all the time

#actually autistic #neurodiversity #autistic stuff #autistic thoughts #autistic rage #autistic problems #autistic meltdown #autistic community #autistic love #autistic mental health #autistic masking #autistic communication #autistic relationships #autistic burnout #autistic stimming #autistic adult #autistic children #late diagnosed autistic #self diagnosed autistic #autism diagnosis #pathological demand avoidance #autistic experiences #autistic hyperfixation #autistic special interest #autistic joy #autistic life #autistic memes #autism memes #autism things #autistic things

[autisticdreamdrop]

♡ you are so special to me ♡

#our edits #love #autism love #autistic love #sanrio #sanrio edit #asd #autism #autistic #my melody #my sweet piano #actually autism #actually autistic #sanrio lover #sanriocore #sanrio my sweet piano #sanrio my melody #my melody sanrio #my sweet piano sanrio