#asexuals will date you

[bloodyraremedium]

#“but aroace people can still have sex/date!” #idk about the dating part but he's sex-repulsed #asexual #aromantic #aroace #hazbin alastor #hazbin hotel #check my comment \/ for more #ok i'm pretty sure he only canonically ace but still it's rlly weird you guys #just let a man be aroace by god

[knifearo]

ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story

#you know. the one with the pendulum #'hey. why are you as an allo person shipping this aspec character like this' #'oh aspec people can still date/have sex!' #'yeah. now can you answer the question that i actually asked you' #like goddamn just say you don't care they're aspec and you want to fulfill a sexual/romantic fantasy with them. that's Fine #it like. sucks. for sure. lotta aspec people will be unhappy with you. but everyone is entitled to their own wants and experiences. #but i'd prefer you just be honest with it rather than using our community's conversation points as retroactive justification #and ONCE AGAIN. you guys are real fucking cavalier with this shit and it shows a real fundamental lack of respect for aspecs #when most of you would NEVER ship a canonically gay character with the 'other' gender. cause again. it would suck. #you can do it. nobody's Stopping you. but it would suck. #and we understand that putting a queer character in situations that erase that queerness is shitty! until it comes to aspec characters! #and whoa... there it is again... people don't consider aspec identities to be queer... crazy how it always comes back to that #anyway. you all know what i'm talking about. have seen many posts about this lately #it is [ long sigh ] unfortunately a very hot button issue with the advent lately of alastor hazbinhotel #which. again. god i wish there were other canon aspec characters to be having this conversation about. #but we'll have to do our best with what we have #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aroace #talking #aspec #asexual #asexuality

[teaboot]

It's 2023 if you're not a monsterfucker I don't know what to tell you

#I mean #I'm asexual #But I'd date a Xenomorph #Or a Werewolf #You feel

[allthegaynamesaretaken]

It's an absolutely tragic experience when you're head over heels in love with someone and to them you're just their bestie. I love being in every moment of your life, but like could we do the same things with a romantic connotation?

#even worse when you're already dating and they're like “I actually see you more as a friend.” #lgbtq #trans #lgbt #transgender #nonbinary #genderqueer #asexual #queer #lesbian

[redysetdare]

"This fandom is so queer friendly!" This fandom literally hates, bisexual, trans, nonbinary, and aspec people but ok.

#text #fandom #fandom culture #“queer friendly” you mean gays an lesbians? because i sure as hell don't see the same friendlyness towards anyone else #bisexual character exists “noooo they were comphet” or “they're dating the opposite sex right now so it doesn't count!!!” #Trans character exists and their story still has to focus on them being gay or else it's not queer or interesting enough #not to mention the sexualization they will face solely based off their trans identity #and the debates on if they're “really” gay or not because of being trans #Nonbinary character or character with complex and nuanced gender exists #and it's all about what their ACTUAL gender is and “I'm just going to use [gendered pronouns] for X because i see X as a boy/girl” #Character uses a specific set of pronouns and everyone decides to toss those to the side in favor of other (gendered) pronouns #under the guise of “nonbinary people can use gendered pronouns too! they are still nonbinaryyyyyyy i prommy” #Aspec character exists and it's “nooo you can't prove their aspec” “I can still ship them because aros can still date” #“Aces can still have sex so I can sexualize this ace character” #“okay but i headcanon them as a different sexuality so it's fine!” #and if you headcanon ANY of these identities? “Nooo you can't PROVE that they are bi/trans/nonbinary/aspec!!!!!” #queer #lgbt+ #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia+ #bisexual #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aplatonic #aspec #acespec #arospec

[a-matter-of-yeet]

“They’re canonically x you can’t ship them with characters they’re not attracted to”

Vs

“I know they’re canonically aroace but I like the ship and x character is hot”

Shit like this brings the movement down.

Everyone validates queer representation until the character is aroace.

#taking into account of course that aroace people can date #but it is NOT! HOWEVER! A back door to disregard aroace characters. #get creative people. indulging in fantasies abt characters within the respectful bounds of their identity can be done! #hazbin hotel #I’m looking at you lot #hazbin alastor #aroace #aroace character #asexual #aromantic #aspec #aro pride #ace pride #hot take #shouldn’t be a hot take but whatever #ACKNOWLEDGING AND RESPECTING A CHARACTER’S CANONICAL IDENTITY SHOULDN’T BE OPTIONAL #oops was that too hot? #I don’t care #yeah it’s a Bo Burnham reference

[canichangemyblogname]

Hot take? A show with queer people in it from the beginning was never queerbaiting and— very literally and technically— never could. In the first episode, a gay man comes out to his family. And he doesn’t stop being gay after that; it’s a major plot point and part of his character going forward. You’ve had a married lesbian couple from the jump who are proud and unapologetic about their love for each other. The story has also portrayed several queer couples and stories in episodic plots, including featuring queer weddings.

Buck didn’t suddenly “become” bi. Queerness is not when straight people “turn” queer. He has been attracted to men the entire time; he has always been bi. Understanding yourself and your sexuality as a queer person is often so difficult under heteronormativity. Sometimes, it takes time.

Hell— Buck checking a guy out some time in season 3 or getting flustered by the idea he might like a guy, etc, etc, are not even examples “queerbaiting,” nevermind how the show already features queer stories.

I genuinely think some of y’all are just mad that he’s not sucking face with the man you want him to, and are being weirdly homophobic about it. “Buck kissing this man is kinda off-putting, lmao.” “Buck and his bf’s relationship is awkward. IDK, but it weirds me out.” “There’s something so cringe about Buck’s relationship—” “Who dates someone they haven’t been friends with for years first? It’s kinda creepy…” “I think their relationship is a weird mess. It’s not as meaningful as a slow burn.”

Life isn’t fanfiction and fanfiction tropes don’t make good writing. Most relationships start out with a “hey, I’m interested in you, let’s get to know each other.” You’re just transparently uncomfortable with two men expressing that interest in each other outside the arbitrary rules you’ve established to make a mlm relationship “legitimate” or “meaningful.”

[Fanfiction] tropes— from “there’s only one bed” to “we’re forced together, but fall in love anyway”— are responses to the sex-negativity and purity culture norms forced upon gender and sexual minorities. They provide a workaround for these norms but never a direct challenge. It’s like the Family Guy episode “Prick Up Your Ears,” where conservative Christian abstinence-only sex education leads to kids having ear sex. Ear sex is the workaround to the abstinence and purity rules they’d been taught, not the challenge. We still have stringent rules around who can touch whom and under what circumstances. Tropes reflect this. So, a trope like “there’s only one bed” provides the characters with a justification for their intimacy without directly challenging why it is taboo.

You’ve convinced yourself that shipping— and thus the tropes it employs— is more subversive than actual representation, and the people caught in the crossfire are actual queer people.

Also— for the love of fuck— stop comparing every mlm relationship to RW&RB.

#911 ABC #911 Fox #do you know how long it took me to understand #that my crushes on men were crushes #and not just ‘Wow. He’s neat. I really wanna be friends.’ #‘Wow. I like his vibe and style. I wanna… be friends? Be— hold up.’ #I thought I was asexual #‘Well. I have no interest in dating a girl. But I also just really wanna be really very good friends with guys. So I must be ace!’ #No. Wrong. I was very mistaken #I also very much hate what RW&RB has encouraged in cis het ppl #evan buckley #tommy kinard

[shmaroace]

your past does not determine what you can identify as

#''oh but i had sex or i liked dating'' ok you can still be ace or aro. ''oh i liked being a girl'' ok you can still be transmasc #this is for me as much as anyone else but like. yeah #aro #aromantic #arospec #ace #asexual #acespec #trans

[breaking-news-the-aroace-has]

As you can guess, the bill is not a good one.

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual #asexual aromantic #aspec #breaking news #brought to you by ^him #arospec #what has the aroace done today #aroacespec #aro #trans #transgender #trans rights #trans rights are human rights #the bill eliminates gender-affirming care for all minors #the AroAce is a newly discovered transmasc enby #so they are pissed and passionate about it #It virtually abolishes every sort of gender-affirming healthcare for minors #with an effective date of April 24th #2024.

[screamingdollxd]

As someone who’s aroace spec who does feel a bit of romantic attraction, here’s some older brother advice to any other aroace spec people who like romance but don’t feel the attraction a lot.

No butterflies in your stomach? That’s perfectly fine, yknow? At the end of the day, if your partner makes you feel at peace, safe, remembered, content, then your heart not racing when they’re around is not a big deal. If they kiss you and you don’t feel jittery, but you feel calm, happy, taken care of, then that’s love. Love doesn’t have to be ground breaking emotions and physical sensations, love can be wanting someone in your future forever, love can be falling asleep in someone’s arms, love can be many things, and the lack of typical physical sensations doesn’t mean you can’t love.

If you love your partner but they don’t give you butterflies, that’s okay. Butterflies mean nothing when compared to feeling secure, understood, loved, acknowledged, etc.

Love’s about wanting the best for someone and walking hand in hand to make it happen for you both. It’s about having someone who cares about you to come home to at the end of the day.

Anyways yeah i need sleep hope this is semi comprehensible

#aroace #arospec #ace #aro #aromantic #asexual #queer pride #aroace spec #aro pride #aromantism #advice #romance #dating #romantic #hope youre all doing well #you matter #youre not alone

[workingchemistry]

Echo curls up in the window seat of the apartment Fox has somehow acquired for them. It’s laden with the ugliest throw pillows known to Coruscant and a few other worlds. It doesn’t matter, each one was carefully chosen by their commander and that makes them the best pillows Echo has ever seen. He’s got a real flimsy book held up with one hand but he hasn’t looked down at the pages since Fox’s arrival.

Fives sidles up to Fox with a happy hum before he takes over unbuckling armor. “Well aren’t you a pretty sight?”

Fox doesn’t rise to the bait or try to slap Five’s hands away. Visible emotions aren’t really their partner’s thing but something flickers across his expression. He looks between Fives and then Echo before looking back at Fives. “Are we dating?”

Of all the questions…

Fives’s immediate reassurance breaks off as he doubles over with the force of his coughing.

That leaves Echo to take over. He half stands before he realizes that maybe Fox wants the space—that their commander wasn’t on the same page after all. Instead he stays put and makes sure he catches Fox’s gaze. “We were under that impression, yes, but if it’s not what you want then nothing needs to change.”

“Oh.” Fox says.

He doesn’t jump to reassure them that he wants them in return but that’s alright. Any immediate answer Fox could give wouldn’t be true. It’s honestly a point of pride that Fox trusts them enough to tell the truth.

Meanwhile, Fives stops dramatically choking on his own spit long enough to go back to helping with Fox’s armor. He isn’t immediately pushed away, so that’s also a good sign.

Echo watches from his window seat and hopes.

There’s not much physical difference between Fox’s blacks and their own, but it still soothes a possessive nerve to see Fox replace his dirty blacks with Echo’s. It’s his favorite set, the one with a little tear down the side mended with a decorative stitch in blue.

Fives scoops up the dirty blacks and scuffed armor to do maintenance on in the other room, shooting Echo a sharp look as he does. That is where he deviates from routine, pausing this time before he kisses Fox’s cheek to give their commander time to pull away.

Fox does no such thing. He leans into the touch, tipping his forehead to rest against Five’s. Then he’s pulling away to drop onto the seat next to Echo. “So if you thought we were dating, I’m guessing you’ve already filed the paperwork?”

That draws Echo up short. Sure he doesn’t abide by the regs as strictly as he used to, but surely he would have known if there was paperwork. “For dating?”

“Mm.” Fox isn’t looking at Echo. “We’re in different battalions. I’m head over the military police force. That’s more than enough to be a conflict of interest.”

“Fuck. We can get it done tonight if you…” Echo breaks off when he catches a telltale amused twitch of Fox’s nose. He shoves their commander with a bright laugh. “You bastard! Who taught you a sense of humor?”

Fox’s lips tip up ever so slightly at the corners in the closest he ever comes to a genuine smile. “I found these parasites in the drunk tank. I think their bad habits are starting to rub off on me.”

#commander fox #arc trooper fives #arc trooper echo #fives/fox/echo #Fox really wasn’t sure they were dating #he’s not displeased by the news though #I’m picturing Rex asking Fox about his boyfriends #and Fox being like ?? you mean the guys who I stole an apartment for and who #feed me while I lay in bed between them and sometimes we kiss? #I’m pretty sure it’s just a fling #Fox is a very raunchy asexual with limited romantic experience #it’s okay #Fives and Echo are prepared to fix that.

[givemeuniversalcrossovers]

Luigi taking care of a Yoshi egg and Bowser walks past seeing him holding an egg cradling it like his own baby clearly warming it with his own body heat and it makes Bowser slightly feral. Accidentally turns on the baby brain. Absolutely needs to go make a nest and put his nest mate in there and have a healthy brood right now this very second. Higher thinking pft gone, only snuggle in nest and egg.

#I think this works for both established Bowuigi and they're not even dating bowuigi #Bowuigi #I think bowser can have a little feral as a treat #If in an established relationship Luigis mustache twitches and he knows bowsers up to something XD #Like hm. Husband stache senses tingling bowser is doing something daft #If not established and Luigi is just minding his business out somewhere he's probably gonna get snatched #Something about man holding egg makes Bowser stupid #Look the man has like 7 kids you KNOW he has baby brain #Also I like the idea of him reproducing asexually so he could easily get all broody cause of environmental stimulus and lay an egg #Sees hubby being a doting father to egg and it accidentally triggers ur reproductive cycle #And now I'm thinking of bowser being silly guarding Yoshi eggs and Luigi #The nest is just pillows blankets cushions half a sofa??? Mattress duvets anything soft #Luigi #Bowser

[aclownsclownery]

"Aroace people can still date"

Yeah and aroace people can also bash your skull in and thats what this aroace person is gonna do if you keep using this as an argument to ignore a characters identity

#this also goes for writing smut for ace characters #I will find where you live #like #yes you arent wrong but that does not mean thats sound reasoning #we can date but I guarantee you a creator would specify that they were on that part of the spectrum #see: the terms demisexual/romantic and greyromantic/sexual #and if they dont #THEY SHOULD #maybe its just because im aroace but I make those specifications with my OCs #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin alastor #this is directed at the hazbin fandom because if I see one more radioapple fanart im going to destory an island #aroace #aromantic #asexual #acespec #arospec #lgbtq community #tv shows #tv ships #fandom culture #fandom things #fandom problems

[greatalastoraltruist]

I feel like swinging a bat at a hornets nest so I'll say the quiet part out loud. A lot of y'all are bein aphobic as hell when it comes to Alastor. Alastor is seen to act repulsed multiple times in the show when other characters have suggested sexual acts with him and between that and his being confirmed ace, the fact that Alastors tag is still full of smutty fics just shows that you don't respect the character or folks on the ace spectrum at all. Yes, some ace folks aren't sex repulsed but Alastor clearly isn't one of those folks and y'all doing gymnastics to try to justify your constant objectification of our only confirmed ace character says a lot about y'all and how little y'all respect us.

Y'all are doing the exact thing to Alastor that so many of us on the ace spectrum fear from those around us every single day. You don't care about the character at all, you only care about how you wish he would fuck you and there's literally a whole show of other characters you can do that with that isn't the only confirmed ace character.

#like COME ON yall are no better than those kind of cishet men who see women as nothing but holes to fuck and its so blatant #let us have this one singular character thats supposed to be for us and stop disrespecting that important part of his character #and don't even get me started on the fics that have Alastor get hypnotized or smthn else that takes away his ability to give proper consent #those are essentially date-rape fics and its fucking disgusting #alastor the radio demon #alastor hazbin hotel #asexual alastor #Hazbin hotel #broadcasting across hell #alastor x reader #alastor x vox #alastor x lucifer #alastor x you

[angelwiththeblue-box]

me hitting fabriz shippers with my cane: LET!!!!! CHARACTERS!!!!!! BE!!!!!!! ARO!!!!!!!! ACE!!!!!!!!

#if i hear one #but aspec ppl can date and want romance #i don’t care #riz specifically does not want that shit!!!! #he says it canonically!!!!! #idc that u want to ship them together or that you think they’ll be cute #they’re best friends!!! #riz can have meaningful and important relationships with the bad kids!!!! #in fact that’s more important than any romantic storyline!!!!! #fabriz shippers dni #istg #eli rambles #aroace #aromantic #aromantic characters #asexual #aroace characters #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #riz gukgak #aroace riz gukgak

[redysetdare]

Oh so when repulsed ppl or non-partnering ppl bring up their experiences it's suddenly "not all aros/aces! Don't generalize the community!" But a choir of assholes crying out "Aros and aces can still date!" In response to ppl pointing out the erasure of those who don't is not generalizing and totally fine? Yeah, uh huh ok.

#text #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #idk its interesting how these people dont have to put qualifiers on their posts #stating aros and aces can still date in response to a character that has expressed otherwise #but yeah ok repulsed and non-partnering aspecs are the problem here #and them expressing opinions on their experience needs to have a million disclaimers #to even have the chance of being viewed as valid #uh huh ok. tell me again abt how much u support aro aces #and definitely arent bias towards the ones that you can pretend are “normal allos” #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #non-partnering