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prideful-palace · 1 year

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Shoutout to my fellow aroflux peeps

Who are in romantic relationships.

Who don't know how to explain that they can't always love their partner(s).

Who are romance-repulsed some days and super touchy-feely others.

Who constantly question if they really know what love is.

Who feel like they don't fit in anywhere in the community.

Who are also aceflux or asexual.

Who are allosexual.

Who think something must be wrong with them.

Who are scared to enter relationships because of their identity.

Who just aren't represented.

You're all valid. There's nothing wrong with you. ❤

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piratedog64 · 5 months

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dude having a platonic crush on someone is so weird, cause you wanna be around them and talk to them all the time, you always think about them, and you constantly wanna hug them and hold hands (if you like physical touch) with them but the thought of being romantic in any way with them is just extremely uncomfortable

#arospec #aspec #asexual #aromantic #lgbtq #lgbtqia #demiromantic #aroflux #arofluid #aroace #aromantism #asexuality #platonic crush #queer #lgbt pride #lgbtq community #lgbtq positivity

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bizarreaizen · 10 months

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"can i still be aro if i'm ____?"

"can i still be aro if i'm dating someone?"

"can i still be aro if i said _____ to someone?"

"can i still be aro if i feel ____?"

there's no "wrong" or "right" way to be aromantic, aromantic is a spectrum and it goes beyond by a lot so yes if your aromantic, it doesn't matter how you feel/act or do, if you know your aromantic. you are aromantic.

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artsyaech · 1 year

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shoutout to aspec folks!

shoutout to asexuals

shoutout to aromantics

shoutout to aplatonics

shoutout to asensuals

shoutout to analterous folks

shoutout to anaesthetics

shoutout to demisexuals

shoutout to demiromantics

shoutout to demiplatonics

shoutout to demisensuals

shoutout to demialterous folks

shoutout to demiaesthetics

shoutout to gray-aces

shoutout to gray-aros

shoutout to gray-any-other-attraction

shoutout to aceflux folks

shoutout to aroflux folks

shoutout to any-other-attraction-flux folks

shoutout to aroaces

shoutout to aroacespecs

shoutout to aegosexuals

shoutout to aegoromantics

shoutout to aego-any-other-attraction

shoutout to cupiosexuals

shoutout to cupioromantics

shoutout to cupio-any-other-attraction

shoutout to acespikes

shoutout to arospikes

shoutout to any-other-attraction-spikes

shoutout to reciprosexuals

shoutout to reciproromantics

shoutout to reciproaroaces

shoutout to recipro-any-other-attraction

shoutout to alloaces

shoutout to alloaros

shoutout to omniaspecs

shoutout to eclectio aroaces

shoutout to sex-favorable aces

shoutout to sex-indifferent aces

shoutout to sex-repulsed aces

shoutout to aces who enjoy sex as an activity

shoutout to aces who enjoy erotic media

shoutout to romance-favorable aros

shoutout to romance-indifferent aros

shoutout to romance-repulsed aros

shoutout to aros who enjoy romantic media

shoutout to aros whose favorite type of media is romance

shoutout to autosexuals

shoutout to autoromantics

shoutout to auto-any-other-attraction

shoutout to autospecs

shoutout to bellussexuals

shoutout to bellusromantics

shoutout to bellus-any-other-attraction

shoutout to quoisexuals

shoutout to quoiromantics

shoutout to quoi-any-other-attraction

shoutout to fraysexuals

shoutout to frayromantics

shoutout to fray-any-other-attraction

shoutout to apothisexuals

shoutout to apothiromantics

shoutout to apothi-any-other-attraction

shoutout to orchidsexuals

shoutout to orchidromantics

shoutout to orchid-any-other-attraction

shoutout to loveless folks

shoutout to lovequeer folks

shoutout to acespec folks who don't specifically label themselves

shoutout to arospec folks who don't specifically label themselves

shoutout to acespecs who experience sexual attraction

shoutout to arospecs who experience romantic attraction

shoutout to acespecs who experience romantic attraction

shoutout to arospecs who experience sexual attraction

all of y'all are valid as hell

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taking-thyme · 2 years

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Lesser-known signs that you may be Arospec

This applies to all Arospec identities like Demiromantic, Cupioromantic, Lithromantic, etc... I tried to include as many as possible

You might want a romantic relationship but know you couldn’t be truly happy in one

You strongly identify with terms like Spinster, Bachelor or characters who notably do not have love interests. The idea of living as a spinster/bachelor and not having romantic connections appeals to you

You still want to be desired but in a distinctly non-romantic way, such as in an unrequited or platonic scenario

You find yourself primarily attracted to those you cannot have, like fictional characters

You have had crushes, but they fade away as soon as it is reciprocated or even just with time. All romantic feelings leave you and you suddenly find yourself totally uninterested and uncomfortable

You have tried romance before, especially multiple times, but it never seems to be for you, even for multiple different reasons

Romantic tropes that turn everyone else on upset or confuse you, such as protectiveness, possessiveness and yandere dynamics

You just plain don't see the appeal of romance

Aspects of romance in general freak you out, such as kissing

You walk out or feel extreme discomfort during romantic scenes in movies

You don’t understand how anyone has the time to date, or other do things like thinking that your peers are all too young to think about dating, when really, it’s just you

You have been interested in others choosing your romantic partner for you, such as in matchmaking or arranged marriage, because you have a hard time choosing someone that you are attracted to yourself. It seems easier to have a trusted companion choose your partner because you don’t feel that way towards anyone in particular on your own

You have romantic feelings but are completely fine with not acting on them

You find it extremely easy to get over crushes. When someone you had a crush on rejects you, you’re like “oh okay” and just start not feeling that way towards them, like you just turned your attraction towards them off

You’d be “fine” with romance and go along with it, but do not have any desire to do it yourself

You want relationship perks without the attraction

You like romance in theory, but not in practice

You constantly doubt yourself in relationships in a way that is not directly or obviously linked to insecurity or something else

You don’t know why people spend so much money on weddings, despite knowing that they’re in love

You’re incredibly cynical about romance for no apparent reason (that is not immediately trauma-related or anything)

Romantic stories and gossip are unappealing, boring or upsetting

#aro #arospec #aroace #aromantic #cupioromantic #lithromantic #aroflux #demiromantic #aro positivity

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joestarkisser · 5 months

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Arospec selfshippers are amazing!

Aromantic selfshippers?

Aroflux selfshippers?

Arospike selfshippers?

Arofluid selfshippers?

Loveless Aro selfshippers?

Frayromantic selfshippers?

Lithromantic selfshippers?

Bellusromantic selfshippers?

Acoromantic selfshippers?

Acriromantic selfshippers?

Amoraromantic selfshippers?

Autiaro selfshippers?

Cupioromantic selfshippers?

Cassromantic selfshippers?

And any other selfshippers with an arospec identity?

Your F/Os all respect you and your identity regardless of what it is!

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thevoidlord · 4 months

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As an aroace, I love being in relationships with fellow aros/aces. QPRs? Gimme dat. Chef's kiss. Literal perfection. A gift from God and the heavens themselves. Soft romo? That's my limit; however, it's very pleasant, and bfyuowhbdjacbhdbchiud. Gimme.

I need to thank whoever invented these terms, because I love my queerplatonic partner and my soft romo partner sm, and I absolutely can't handle default society romance and relationships. Gimme dat aro-friendly one-on-one lifelong partnership, please. I've always wanted partnership growing up, but I never liked the idea of spicy things or romance (for the most part), since that's just the kind of aroace that I am and always have been. Makes me happy non-normative relationship types are a thing hehehehbheafheoabfvd Anyways Fictional romance is hot (because it ain't real)

#aspec pride #aroace community #aroace positivity #qpr positivity #soft romo #queerplatonic #aroflux #angled aroace #aromantic #aromantic asexual #asexual #aro #arospec #queerplatonic relationship #queerplatonic partner #soft romance #queer joy #aspec #greyromantic

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your-rutherfurr · 5 months

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Me: yeah I'm asexual

Me at the same time: *starts playing the most filthiest songs known to man*

#asexual #aroacespec #acespec #ace pride #ace positivity #asexual positivity #lgbtqiia+#aegosexual #aroflux #aceflux #nebulasexual #asexual pride

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thatlittlegendergremlin · 1 year

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Shoutout to a-specs that feel the definitions of attractions are confusing

Shoutout to a-specs that understand attractions that they don't feel

Shoutout to a-specs that feel attractions are to broad

Shoutout to a-specs that feel attractions are to narrow

Shoutout to a-specs that technically fit the definition of an attraction but don't label it that way

Shoutout to a-specs that can't find a label for what they feel and it makes them feel bad

Shoutout to a-specs that don't want any labels

Shoutout to a-specs that have fluctuating attraction

Shoutout to a-specs that have felt this way forever

Shoutout to a-specs that fit stereotypes

Shoutout to a-specs that don't fit stereotypes

(I just shouted myself out a lot /hj)

#aro #aroace #aspec #aromantic #aromantic asexual #aromantic positivity #angled aroace #oriented aroace #aromantic pride #loveless aro #lovequeer #aroflux #arofluid #fuck amatonormativity #amatopunk

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aroace-cat-lady · 2 years

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A romance story without amatonormativity.

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theasexualgoddess · 1 year

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♠️

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lakeofthesocknessmonster · 1 year

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It's valentine's day and I just wanted to remind all my fellow aros and arospec people (and even the allos who aren't into romance): you are valid, you are loved, you're identity and feelings do not make you weird or unnatural. You are you and that is beautiful. So for all the romance-repulsed, romance-neutral, romance-positive, to the aros who are in romantic relationships, to the ones who aren't but want to be, and to the ones who don't and are happy. Happy Valentine's day, remember today is about love, so love yourself and love your community. You are beautiful.

#aromantic #demiromantic #aspec #arospec #valentines day #aro positivity #greyromanic #cupioromantic #aegoromantic #aroflux #i cant fit all the arospec labels but jsyk I love you just as much #aro

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bizarreaizen · 10 months

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lawofcollage · 11 months

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Soo, I accidentally made 2 ace flux pride flags as well as the aro flux pride flag of one. Woops.

Ace Flux 1, Ace Flux 2, Aro Flux

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itsssjaeee · 2 years

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I WANT TO FLIRT WITH MY FRIENDS AND KISS THEM AND CUDDLE IN A PLATONIC WAY UUUGHHHH WHY IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK

#aro positivity #aroace pride #aromantic #aro #aro pride #aroflux #aromantic awareness #aromanticism #arospec #asexual #aro memes #aroace #aro problems

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thearomanticasexualexp · 1 year

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Decoding Romantic Attraction (Sort-Of)

Romantic attraction is a difficult concept to understand for aromantic people. It is mainly because the paradigm of a romantic relationship exhibits sensual attraction, aesthetic attraction, emotional attraction and sexual attraction without a proper distinction.

I think one thing to realize is that romantic relationships do not reflect romantic attraction. Since romantic relationships are practically a combination of at least three types of attraction, I think it's safe to say that aromantics should not look at it the way allos do.

By allos, I mean alloromantic allosexuals or people who do not necessarily need to use the split attraction model. That is because they look at romantic attraction as a whole, as a package that comes with freebies like the other attractions mentioned.

I, myself, are on the far end of the spectrum where I don't think I'll experience romantic attraction ever. However, I did have some experience with crush culture. It had the same manifestations as what allos describe romantic attraction to be (heart beating fast, butterflies, looking for them in the same room, blushing, thinking about them all the time). I'd even comfortably divulge it to my friends.

The only thing is that I had never wanted to date them. As I grew older, it also became uncomfortable feeling all those typical indications of romantic attraction. I didn't like that I was teased by my friends for liking those people. I didn't like that they push me to take pictures with them or they push me to get close to that person and touch them. I didn't like that they'd put the both of us in a single room just so we can talk and possibly 'cultivate feelings'. It was awkward. Uncomfortable. Weird. SO FAR from what I felt or what I wanted.

Those experiences lead me to make a personal definition for romantic attraction. If it fits to what you are experiencing right now or if you are willing to take this definition, then I'm really happy to help you realize or reassure you're aromantic.

Romantic Attraction is basically wanting to date someone because you feel that deeply towards them (not because you're pressured by others or by yourself, not because you just think that person would be a good companion, not because you think you have to have a companion, not because you just want a romantic relationship or any monogamous relationship).

Additionally, you also feel comfortable, hopeful, and excited to do strictly romantic acts with them like kissing (you do not feel indifferent or repulsed by this thought). You'd also feel good and comfortable being hugged tightly, stared at adoringly, holding hands, being touched in sensual areas (waist, hips, neck, hair, ears), etc. all the while receiving romantic signals from the other person. Basically all that awkward and cheesy romantic scenarios you see in media? You're okay with experiencing those.

Romantic signals is that intuitive feeling that you know that they like you based on the way they look at you, the atmosphere, the way they touch you, the way their voice sounds and the pitch of their voice, their body language, etc. This feeling will be really evident especially when the both of you are alone and are drowning in silence.

Also, if you are second-guessing whether what you feel is really romantic attraction, then chances are you are on the aromantic spectrum. It doesn't have to be deep plunge like an aromantic, but it can just be a simple dip into the waters like grayromantic. Then, if you think that grayromantic does not describe you, then you can find any other label.

I think romantic attraction feel closest to emotional attraction where you want to feel emotionally connected to somebody or be emotionally present with them like forming a bond with their soul. Maybe that's how I felt back then. Maybe that's how many of us felt back then.

Amatonormativity and compulsive heterosexuality/heteroromanticism play a big part in our lives. We don't even know if our thoughts and beliefs are still influenced by these concepts. However, I'm here to tell everyone that aromanticism is completely normal and valid. At the same time, it is not experienced in a singular manner. There are many ways to be aromantic.

You can have felt 'romantic attraction' back then but not feel anything now (maybe after finding out you're aromantic, you stopped focusing on romantic relationships and found out life isn't different with or without it. you stopped subconciously pressuring yourself to have 'crushes'). You can feel 'romantic attraction' but not all the time (aromanticism is a spectrum). Maybe you fall in love after a certain condition has been met (demiromantic, etc.). Maybe you would never have felt romantic attraction at all but still want a romantic relationship. Maybe you're still questioning. Maybe you're still exploring.

In conclusion, this is what my personal definition of romantic attraction is which I got from my own experiences and knowledge from passionate romance stories. I hope I am able to help anyone e who comes across this understand themselves more.

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

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