Question Time! Question Time! Did Cybertronians have weddings?
Cybertronians absolutely did! Though, there were no rings or vows like western weddings, instead traditions varied from city-state to city-state. And unlike weddings here in America (which are influenced by Christian culture), people were allowed to conjunx multiple bots at once, and not all had to be conjunxed to each other (for example, bot a and bot b could be conjunxed to bot c, but not each other, or they could all be conjunxed to each other).
Vosian weddings were private affairs, with usually only close family and friends present for the actual wedding, and a slightly larger group there for an afterparty. Couples would paint their faces in specific patterns meant to evoke Xal Maximo — also known as Liege Maximo, the founder of Vos and ‘the first Seeker’ — and his conjunx, Vigilem.
This was meant to both bring their blessing, and as a hope that the newlyweds’ love would be as great as the two lovers of legend. Wearing these paint patterns outside of a wedding setting is considered inappropriate, as is most face paint in Vos, as it’s usually reserved for important ceremonies or religious affairs, and wearing it outside of those contexts is frowned upon. One would also paint markings on themself in the colors of their conjunxes, usually in swirling patterns evoking airflow.
For Vosian weddings, lippaint is mandatory for both parties.
Polyhexian weddings were massive affairs, basically huge excuses to party. One would wear ribbons on their wings the day of the conjunx if ceremony, and things would be romantic and peaceful, but before? There was a celebration for the announcement, where everyone got drunk. There was a celebration the week before, where everyone, you guessed it— got drunk. And then the party after, which included even more drinking. Polyhexians are very, very fond of their engex, and it’s a national joke that they’ll take really any excuse to party.
(Yes, this includes funerals and national holidays, with the latter being an excuse to party nationwide)
In Kalis, one repaints themself grayscale in the month leading up to marriage, and on the day of, the newlyweds have paintballs thrown at them by their friends and family for good luck. The more colors gotten on them, the better. Ceremonies usually were big things, but only on the day of the wedding, there wasn’t much celebration before. This was considered good luck for the newlyweds, especially if the paintballs hit their spark chambers.
Helexic weddings feature extravagant frame paint, and particularly smudgy lippaint, as it’s expected for one to kiss their conjunx or conjunxes and leave a mark or two, usually on the top of the hand or face. Helexic weddings usually are community-wide affairs, and due to the overall religiousness of the city, the ceremonies do often feature prayer, though this is optional. After the wedding, the conjunxed parties are expected to stay together an entire day to celebrate and spend time with one another.
Queerplatonic couples also have their own weddings! Rituals vary, and can sometimes be wildly different— though it isn’t uncommon for one to have their amica ceremony be treated like a normal wedding, perhaps because they prefer the traditions, and the opposite happens as well.
And unlike human weddings, no Cybertronian wedding carries the expectation of Sparklings. Sparklings can be adopted by married bots, sure, but they’re just as often adopted by groups of friends living together, single parents, groups of siblings, and whatever other combination. Conjunxing and adopting Sparklings are not even considered correlated on Cybertron.
Cybertronians do not sexually reproduce either, so there’s no expectation of that, either. There is also no pressure to get married or find a partner, it just happens. It’s not culturally expected, and romance isn’t held up on a pedestal above other relationships. Most bots view all relationships as equal— none are more important or committed than others.
Once again, nonnie, thank you for your enthusiasm, and sorry if this post reads kinda weird because I’ve been editing it a lot and I’m very very aromantic and I don’t really understand the significance of wedding ceremonies from my own culture, so creating ones for an alien culture wildly different than our own has been an experience.
(Cybs in Mirror Mirror don’t know what being cisgender is, let alone what gender or reproductive roles are, and being polyam is the norm, so the standard human framework of weddings doesn’t really work for them, plus I’m not a fan of it)
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