Truly experiencing the opposite of a gay panic, the aro/ace dread, when I think somebody has a crush on me
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based on the stories you’ve all been sending, this seemed appropriate lol
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ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story
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I think i just need to express that the culture surrounding QPRs right now made me think that i couldn't have strong bonds with my friends. Society told me i cant have strong bonds with friends because that was only for romantic relationships. Then i went into aro spaces and this idea was reinforced using QPRs instead of romantic relationships. it was "You can still have strong bonds with people without romance! It can just be a QPR instead!" "QPRs are MORE than friendship so you can have STRONGER BONDS than you would with friends."
it made me think that the relationships i wanted with my friends HAD to be something other than friendship for it to be as strong as i wanted. If i wanted to be the first person in someones life i had to enter some sort of committed relationship. if I wanted someone to care about me as strongly as i did them then it would have to be a relationship that was "more" than friendship.
I thought I wanted a QPR because i was told the only way to get that care and security that I wanted was to enter into a relationship that was "more" than friendship. because friends didn't care that much. because friends didn't live together their entire lives. because friends were never the priority relationship wise. and it took me years to realize that i didn't want any partnership and i shouldn't have to be in one to want these things from a friend. these things CAN be something friends can do. but i found that out on my own. because the aro community kept saying "you want a QPR" when i just wanted a friend who finally saw me as a priority in their life.
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my polyamorous experience is being aroace but having three queer platonic partners
I'll let you in on a little secret, anon: I'm also on the aroace spectrum but ive got a partner, three friends with benefits, and one queerplatonic partner.
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living with your queerplatonic girlfriend is like a ✨forever sleepover✨
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hey! :D
I'm Kit (he/him), and I'm an oriented aroace transmasc minor. This is my first blog that isn't just incessantly reblogging everything that's on my dash, so I guess I'll learn how to manage this as I go (wooooooooo) (I have no idea what I'm doing😭)
This blog is primarily for oriented aroace folks, but everyone is welcome here. Feel free to send in asks or tag me in anything aspec related! Just don't be a bigot. Hate/exclusion is cringe and not welcome here :)
Inspired by @our-queer-experience, @our-queerplatonic-experience and @our-aroace-experience!
Edit 2024-02-08: I have found out that mobile is terrible for reblogging things on the correct blog 😭 if anyone sees any reblogs that aren't related to this blog (and NAWT tagged with #not an experience) please tell me
Also here are some tags! Feel free to DM me or send in an ask if you want clarification
#our oriented aroace experience - any experiences
#my oriented aroace experience - my experiences
#oriented aroace ask - asks on this blog! (will most likely be the majority of posts)
#reblogs - reblogs. I think this one's pretty self-explanatory
#[name] ask - asks from specific people. For continuity!
#anon ask - asks from anons
#not an experience - anything that I post here that isn't an experience
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Hi it's Hampter and I got questions for aroace indivdials or aro and ace peoplle.
I am doing research project for school about rep for aroace people in the film industry but I would like some of everyone's opinions.
I can't use our aroace experience blog as a source because I didn't actually "interview" them. All quotes will be anonymous unless you give me a fake name that I can put down.
What do you identify as?
When did you figure out your sexuality?
What representation do you see in today's world concerning aroace individuals?
Did you struggle with coming to terms with your sexuality?
Did coming to terms with your sexuality hurt any aspects of your life? (Friends, family, relationships etc)
Do you think you would have benefited seeing characters in tv shows/movies growing up if they had aroace characters?
Is there anything you would like people to know about what being aroace means to you, or anything you would like to say about it?
You can answer all of them or some of them. You can DM me or reply in the comments.
Hugs!<3
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Hello! I’ve just noticed that on a lot of my asks people seem to be confusing asexual and aromantic! So, here’s a reminder.
Asexual: A lack of sexual attraction
Aromantic: A lack of romantic attraction
Of course there are exceptions to this you can identify however you want!
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This blog was inspired by @our-queer-experience @our-sapphic-experience and @our-aroace-experience . I couldn't find a genderfluid one, so I made one. Even if you aren't specifically genderfluid, you can share your stories here if you want. There will be no hating people because of gender, sexuality, religion, or race on this blog.
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hey, aro and/or ace people
garlic bread!!!
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I'm aroace, but I'm also aplatonic, and it breaks my heart a little every time someone says that aspec only includes aromanticism and asexuality
same :( aspec includes aplatonics/aplspecs, and not just acespec and arospec, and i very rarely see people including them in aspec stuff!
i have seen many say that aspec also includes agenderspec folks, and i agree, but this blog is only focused on aspec attraction :3
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listen when we say we need aroace rep - we MEAN we need AROACE REP. becuze shock of all shocks, a character being just ACE is not aroace rep! same with a character being just aro is not aroace rep. not all aroace ppl see their aro and ace identities as separate.
I for one, find it difficult to separate my aro and ace identities from each other which is why i am AROACE and not aro and ace. A character being only ace is not representing me. I do not feel represented by only an ace character. they are not even half representing me because my asexuality goes hand in hand with my aromantisism. and Ace character is not half representing aroace people. I'm sorry but i do not relate to the alloace experience because i am not alloace. so a character being only ace is not relatable to me because they are not aroace. the same goes for if a character was only aro or aroallo.
Now before anyone decides to misinterpret this post to hell and back I'm not saying that aroallo or alloace rep is bad or shouldn't exist. I'm saying stop throwing aroace rep under the bus because "Actually we need more just aro/just ace rep" as if that somehow solves the issue of aroace rep being nonexistent.
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hey sorry i wanted to ask a question that would reach sapphics and figured this was a good way to do it
if a non-man is aroace but qpps with non-men, would they be considered sapphic?
it really just depends on what the person considers themself!!
also this is not a personal attack on you but i’ve never been a fan of the man/non-man dichotomy. there are sapphics who are both women and men (bigender) there are trans male sapphics who still feel a connection to the label, there are butches who identify partially or fully as men and still lesbian, the whole thing is just a really flawed way of defining queerness. sorry
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HAPPY ACE DAYYYY!!
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tumblr is the best aroace dating app
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