#victim empowerment

[neuroticboyfriend]

im starting to learn to enjoy things again. i would avoid everything i truly enjoy because i thought it was pointless. i conflated productivity with worth, and thought i wouldn't make anything good anyway. i'd listen to the echoes of my father in me, the sneers of my bullies, the criticisms of my teachers, and the judgements of society.

and i still do. but this time, i'm trying to go against them anyway. i'm playing videogames. i'm making art. i'm writing. i'm listening to music. i'm learning about things i enjoy. at least, sometimes i am. i'm trying. i want to enjoy things again. i'm tired of sitting around doing nothing but think and scroll, frozen by fear and doubt.

this is my life. my joy is not worthless, no matter how i obtain it.

#softspoonie #healing #empowerment #trauma #trauma recovery #trauma survivor #trauma victim #mental health #depression #ptsd #cptsd #c-ptsd #artist #writer #poet

[ophelia-dk]

Supporting and Empowering Survivors within Erotic Hypnosis Communities

Sharing the handout from this brilliantly articulate class given by Kat and Lilith last night. There's so much I could comment on; better to just let them say it. :)

#abuse #safety #empowerment #victim blaming #howwetalkabouthypnosis #language matters #bustmyths

[hecatesdelights]

She's not dressed like a slut, you just think like a grapist.

#womens rights #womans history month #womans power #tiktok #social equality #social equity #victim blaming #feminism #feminist #feminist is not a dirty word #empowerment #sexist ideologies #fuck the patriarchy #witches vs patriarchy #smash the patriarchy #toxic masculinity #bro code

[jasontoddenthusiastt]

Since when did shitting on male characters (who are victims, in whatever form they may come in) to promote female characters (who typically aren’t actively angry about what happened to them, as the “ideal” victim) become the defining feature of being a feminist comic fan

#believe it or not being a misandrist is not cool #kelseethe #not to make general statements but so far #every person I’ve seen claiming that 1. Jason is obvs wrong and we shouldn’t think he’s right or #or 2. this female character is a better trauma victim than Jason because xyz #seems to be at least somewhat enthusiastic about female empowerment and promoting female characters/stories #but only at the cost of putting down male characters #their reasoning for why this female character is better is almost always that they've undergone redemption aka ‘bettered’ themselves #by realizing it’s wrong to stay angry and have demands #by conforming to the ideals that the patriarchal systems and the men who enforce this system project onto them #not only is this rhetoric of ‘you should like x character instead of y’ just plain stupid on it’s own #but saying if you’re a woman or feminist you should like x character INSTEAD of y is even stupider #on top of how this is bordering on terf ideology #implying that cis women should only relate to and enjoy stories about other women also implies cis men should only care about men’s pov #regressive and divisive and damaging all around #why do people think Jason fans (whether they be male female or anything else) need to justify liking him #this type of shit leads to the stupidest waste of time discussions #every person who has this opinion also feels the burning desire to tag it with Jason’s name which is just. wonderful #real thoughtful of you to assume we cared or wanted to see that

[mindsetshift]

MINDSET FLAWS...WHAT ARE THEY?

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There are several common mindset flaws that can affect people, including:

Negative self-talk: Negative self-talk involves the tendency to focus on negative aspects of oneself and one's life, leading to feelings of anxiety, stress, and low self-esteem.

Fixed mindset: A fixed mindset is the belief that abilities and traits are fixed and cannot be developed or improved. This can lead to a lack of motivation and a fear of failure.

Confirmation bias: Confirmation bias is the tendency to seek out and interpret information in a way that confirms one's existing beliefs or opinions, while ignoring evidence that contradicts them.

Black and white thinking: Black and white thinking involves seeing situations in terms of absolute, either/or categories, without considering shades of gray or complexity.

Catastrophizing: Catastrophizing involves overestimating the likelihood of negative outcomes and imagining worst-case scenarios, which can lead to anxiety and fear.

Victim mentality: A victim mentality involves believing that one is powerless and that outside factors are responsible for one's problems and failures, rather than taking responsibility for one's own actions.

Procrastination: Procrastination is the tendency to put off tasks and responsibilities, leading to stress, anxiety, and missed opportunities.

It's important to recognize these mindset flaws and work to overcome them. By developing a growth mindset, focusing on positive self-talk, seeking out diverse perspectives, and taking responsibility for one's own actions, individuals can cultivate a more resilient, positive, and productive mindset

#self growth #self accountability #self healing #self empowerment #self improvement #mindset #negative self talk #trending #popular #victim mentality #i keep procrastinating #catastrophizing #fixed mindset #growth strategies #health and wellness #peace #love #joy

[string-cheese-cake]

Nobody asked but white supremacy is the reason why white women are obsessed with true crime.

So when chattel slavery was becoming cemented in the United States and other European areas, the idea of biological race and racial hierarchy emerged to justify the generational enslavement of Africans and the genocide of indigenous people. Africans and other non-whites were labeled as less developed, more susceptible to their "primal urges" and committing sex crimes and therefore needed to be controlled by white men. Specifically to protect white women.

White supremacy is typically framed as necessary to 'protect' (read: control) white women, the mothers of the next generation of whites. They must be protected from "sexually voracious black men" (read: miscegenation and mixed race children). So white supremacy operates on the myth that white women are constantly under threat of sexual violence and must be protected by white men.

That myth becomes baked into the public consciousness, many unaware of the origin or even that the idea is there. It even becomes less racially based, but there is still a common belief that white women are inherently vulnerable to violent crime. Especially among white women. To be fair, it's difficult to not internalize an idea that you are not exactly aware of but is still seeped in every interaction and bit of advice. Don't wander off, don't talk to strangers, don't go out alone or late at night, cover your body, hold your keys between your fingers, take self defense, watch your drink, don't be under the influence. Your body is soft and valuable and delicate and you must protect it.

This idea of vulnerability is reinforced in the news media, which chooses to focus on stories which fit this particular narrative of white women's vulnerability. Missing white women syndrome. This subconscious belief has saturated society. White women develop an outsized fear of death by violent crime. So what do they do? They embrace it. They eat up stories of families like theirs and the deaths of women like them.

It's been suggested that experiencing that fear of violence in the controlled environment true crime provides can be cathartic, somewhat like watching a horror film. There is also a sense of justice and closure felt when the perpetrator of that crime is punished.

In conclusion; White women love true crime because it's a coping mechanism for their deeply embedded fear of violence which was established and is upheld by white supremacy.

#statistically white women are the least likely to be victims of violent crime. they can be and all victims need support but white women are #just not as vulnerable as society makes them out to be. and it becomes the standard of behavior and treatment for women of all races #women don't need control and protection they need empowerment and for men to treat them like goddamn human beings. #i kno im using binary language but u tell me how to better word this. the binary is fake tho. all the little stranger danger things got to #me. walk away from the street don't walk too close to unknown men I'm not afraid of my community!!! no one should be!!!! #we should not fear each other. i understand that violence and assault are real things that happen to people all the time but it's much more #likely to happen to men and women of color. they deserve love and support and real effective change. and white women shouldn't have to #be afraid and feel vulnerable. we need legitimate efforts to address and prevent random violence #not fearmongering and the offloading of responsibility onto potential victims. anyway thank you for coming to my ted talk #why am i talking #maybe I'll use this one day #i wrote this at 2am don't @me. i am right tho. i also like me some ethically filmed #true crime content. it needs to be tasteful though. and people need to be normal about it.

[neptunejheart]

I really used to let insecure people get to me when standing in my power. I forgive myself for that. If you're intimidated by my energy, I don't really care. That ain't got anything to do with me. Imma stand 100% in who I am.

I mean, I get it. I used to be insecure too and I definitely used to be a hater when I was insecure as fuck. I healed and built myself up. It's not impossible. It just takes time & effort. It's about dedicating to yourself. I am not always perfect either. I fuck up sometimes too. It's part of life. Do you know how many times I gave up and had to get over victim mentality?!? A lot. Shit, I still struggle.

I was a victim for a huge period of my life so I know how hard it is to pull yourself out of that bc I was actually a victim to fucked up shit. I had to empower myself or else I would've continued on the same path over and over. I got tired of suffering & had no choice but to get over the victim lifestyle.

Again, it takes patience, time, effort, & commitment. I still sometimes bitch about things however I always bring myself back to constantly empowering myself. It is possible to free yourself. It's a practice. Ya just gotta start and keep going.

Don't give up on yourself.

#my life #about me #growth mindset #victim mentality #progress #healing #recovery #self help #love #self love #self reflection #loassumption #loa #self confidence #confidence #spirituality #motivation #encouragement #empowerment #self empowerment #cptsd recovery #actually cptsd

[bluerambling]

There’s a post I could make about the identity politics of Renfield (2023) but I think I’d gut myself at the pretension so instead I want to be grateful that the romantic subplot of this movie didn’t happen and we got a buddy cop dynamic instead (insert ACAB disclaimer here).

#renfield 2023 #blue rambling #spoilers #listen im sorry but I can’t stress enough how on point the depiction of abuse was #and the victim didn’t need a romantic fulfillment- he needed self respect and empowerment!!!! #that’s cool!!!!!! #also ik i said i wouldnt but it must be said #they did this with a male abuse victim. #they played with themes of weakness and strength and power #while managing to preserve the agency and dignity of the victim #and didnt make a bad joke out of it!!!! in a GORE SLAPSTICK COMEDY

[templeofshame]

I know the point of Barbie is don't be someone who listens to Push by Matchbox20 but I woke up with it stuck in my head and this makes the point of why any press is good press

#fun fact running with scissors was my first weird al exposure #and definitely my first push exposure #it does also work well on two levels in the movie for the ken victim narrative and their ~empowerment~ via domination #although i still don't get how they brainwashed the barbies

[ophelia-dk]

Sharing the handout from this brilliantly articulate class given by Kat and Lilith last night on supporting and empowering survivors in hypnokink. There's so much I could say, but I'll just let them say it. :)

#abuse #safety #empowerment #victim blaming #howwetalkabouthypnosis

[monochrome-delirious]

I just want to remind everyone that no matter what side you’re on, the exact same things people are doing to Amber (cancel culture, hating her, verbal abuse)? We did those to Johnny, too. We gave him intense grief when the allegations first came out, and automatically assumed Amber was the victim without any evidence.

So don’t act like people are siding with Johnny because he is male or because he has a lot of fans—because I haven’t forgotten how brutal everyone (his fans included) was to him before, and how everyone wanted his career ruined.

#it’s the same thing you guys #and I know our court system is fucked and unfair #but they went based on the evidence that was given #and hey maybe they were wrong and maybe we were right to hate Johnny from the beginning #but don’t act like we’re not being a bunch of hypocrites with one shared brain cell #a lot of the people siding with Johnny aren’t doing it because they’re fans or men #they’re doing it because evidence points toward Amber lying and possibly even being the abuser #regardless of your opinion #you have to admit that we have a mob mentality and hate people without context #we hated johnny #we hated Amber #and now we’re back to hating johnny #this is not the end of feminism or female empowerment #and maybe not even the beginning of male victims rights #it’s just a Hollywood court case that made a decision based on the evidence they had #that’s all there is to it #amber heard #amber #Johnny depp #Johnny #also I’m not naive #I know there are rabid Johnny fans who support him because they think he’s hot #those are an outlier and I am not counting them #and who knows #maybe they both abused each other and are both terrible lying scum

[cctumbledhere]

Dear Reader,

I am feeling empowered in this moment to share with you that I am a victim of domestic violence and abuse - and every time, a survivor.

As I write this, I have just come from a good spiralling down due to the experience. I am calmer now, but not quite recovered. And it is in this state that I realize the ownership I still retain over my own life, self and story. Being on the receiving end of abuse and violence can cause one to feel shameful, deeply pained and ever so cowardly. These are what I feel for "allowing" people to do sad things to me, which in turn greatly diminishes my feeling of self-worth. The pain I feel is so excruciating, all my other senses become dull. It all just makes me feel so small and troubled, I might as well never exist. It is as if I am entangled in all the filth and terror of things said and done; it is as if I am all that filth and terror. And when there is no one to turn to in these times, I find I can only turn inward. Within you and I lie the wholeness and strength that we need to carry on, no matter what others inflict upon us. We need to know we are separate from all of it. We owe it to ourselves to stand tall, knowing that we would never inflict the same on anyone. And that, to me, is where I begin, and where all the noise ends.

May all good things come to you.

C.C.

#mental health #self help #life #reality #abuse survivor #abuse victim #domestic violent relationships #empowerment #truth #dignity #self healing

[newshubnaija]

'Victims Of Drug Abuse For Training, Empowerment'  — Northern Governors' Wives

‘Victims Of Drug Abuse For Training, Empowerment’  — Northern Governors’ Wives

A pledge has been made by wives of Northern Governors to train and empower drug abuse victims. The move is part of efforts aimed at curbing the menace of substance abuse. The gesture is part of the resolutions reached at the end of their quarterly meeting under the auspices of the Northern Governors Wives’ Forum. According to the communiqué issued on Saturday in Birnin Kebbi, and read by Hajiya…

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#Drug Abuse #empowerment #Northern Governors&039; Wives #Training #Victims

[thisgodwontforgiveyou]

the fact that theyre deliberately designed to have a stupid sibling dynamic and ashley does the spit take trumpet womp womp thing of fucking up the writing by hitting on him at the end and then hes like heh. dont worry audience. i wouldnt fuclk that up and then instantly calls ingrid to get curved

#the joke of leon eating shit every time he tries to hit on a woman and coming back to ashley with his tail between his legs #and shes like falling into an industrial grinder or driving a monster truck or something #like i dont know im not putting ashley on my top 10 female empowerment lists but she was one of the first big victims #of people going well this video game character doesnt say enough Strong Things she doesnt have enough Strong Gameplay #despite the latter being in the most literal sense incorrect them making her juts as strong as leon kills me #literally just doing that shit at drops to be annoying

[lishoyte]

The decision to report and pursue a case of coercive and controlling behaviour is an exceptionally challenging choice. This challenge is further intensified by prolonged court proceedings.

#victim support #empowerment

[aceyanaheim]

why does every psych evaluation need me to like Know people its so stressful honestly.

#my sisters in orlando my brothers in GA and my parents arent an option #...yes im a extrovert no i dont have an emergency contact inthe city we exist #bleeeeeeeeh #it makes me feel like...annoyingly self concious about my social skills tbh and like..i dont need that lmao #more expresso less depresso #yayy victim empowerment tho /gen #added: wait i need a Proffesional contact?? can that be my pcd imma make it my pcd