#the way people become so beautiful to us

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

The girls are plottinggggg

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wen chao #wang lingjiao #Realizing she was supposed to have an upper lip mole was a cold slap in the face. So sorry ma'am. I won't forget again. #They are evil dumbass 4 evil dumbass and I think we are all missing out on the sheer potential of the comedy between these two. #They have way too much power and are using it for the wrong reasons - which makes them truly great villains. #And when things don't go their way they become piles of whining sludge. #Wang Lingjiao is forever fascinating to me even though we only get crumbs about her. #She's a servant girl who's greatest asset is her beauty and her attractiveness. #Meaning she's had a life being in the gaze of people with significant positions of power over her. #I can't help but read her childishness and petty tantrums as someone who has finally been given the chance to not feel powerless. #If she was a more virtuous type we might 'like' her more but honestly...I don't think she would have survived to this point. #WLJ has only known power hierarchies her whole life. Probably accused of seduction before she even understood what that meant. #I love contrasting her with mianmian because they have similar(ish) backgrounds but different approaches to moving forwards #But WLJ's story is about flying too close to the sun and mianmian's is about going too close to the water. #Like the sea mist dragging her down into complacency - all the sect powerplays are mandatory to 'go along with' if she wants to climb- #-the social ladder. Yet she is the cautionary tale (and a foil to JGY as well) she leaves before sacrificing her own morals. #Mianmian flies away with her wings only slightly plucked while those who sacrificed everything to reach for the top crash and burn.

[einaudis]

ALL OF US STRANGERS (2023) dir. ANDREW HAIGH

#filmedit #filmgifs #movieedit #moviegifs #All of Us Strangers #aousedit #filmtvdaily #filmtvcentral #cinemapix #fyeahmovies #dailyflicks #mine* #mygifs #movies* #I can't believe this is done. and you won't believe how long it took me to make it. insane... because it's just a scene #I didn't even use different fonts. or a cool template. or transitions... it was a single scene... but look... I made captures for 10 gifs #and things kept happening and I kept finding little gestures and beautiful things and I just couldn't keep them out the gifs #I mean look at Harry and that slow realization. please look at the glow around his shoulders at the beginning #and how ethereal and out of this world he already is AND THEN when Adam says 'I found you' he becomes more... real and present! #and those eyes and the intensity of that 'you're here' and their eyes and faces and smiles and how Harry's desperate but Adam calms him dow #and his voice when he asks 'how come no one found me?' the realization that people didn't care to check on him. it screamed to my soul #I haven't stopped thinking about that scene since the moment I first watched it #honestly... I wish I could live in this scene forever #now this is a super long post and I know it won't get many notes and it was surely made before... but I needed to make this for myself... #so here it is :) I'm tired but I love it #GOD the way Harry goes full baby when Adam caresses his cheek and he SMILES LIKE THAT! AHHHHHHH! #*runs down the hill screaming*

[resident-gay-bitch]

little rich boy sirius who gets disowned and can barely survive without his expensive brands and the basic human need to eat at least once a day meeting the entirely too generous james potter who just falls for the vanity and sincerity of the reformed rich boy and decides that once sirius stops caring about brands and status and rich boy things and just cares about what matters in life he decides to spoil his boyfriend to pieces because he’s secretly sitting on a fucking fortune

#idk i just think it’s funny #like james would find sirius when he’s struggling with money because he’s so bad at saving and prioritising his spendings because he’s never #had too before and so james would teach him how to do all that stuff and emotionally support sirius through it all and sirius just falls in #love with this beautiful guy who’s just so generous and who teaches him so many things and finds value in kindness and sincerity and #compassion and all that jazz and james falls in love with sirius helplessly because he might be stuck up and vein and kind of selfish and #is stuck up and cares all too much about status but he’s trying so hard to be better and he finds empathy because sirius got kicked out for #the worst reasons because he’s always been the black sheep of his highly cultist christian family or whatver and he’s also outwardly queer #and james decides that he wants to give sirius everything and loves the way he looks in expensive makeup and designer faux fur coats and #heels and divine jewellery and all that jazz but makes sirius sell it all and learn what it means to be human and not rely on money and #status and brands and stuff and sirius learns what it’s like to be decent and in touch with humanity and only then does james take sirius on #a surprise luxury holiday for his birthday or something and then just buys him thousands of dollars worth of all these glamorous looking #things and sirius is like omg what the fuck jamie and then he just becomes sirius’ sugar daddy because he can’t help himself but they’re #also in love and much better people because of it and when sirius buys things now it’s not because of brands or because they have big price #tags like he used too. he now buys things with james’ credit card he keeps in his own wallet because he thinks he’ll feel pretty in them or #because he thinks james will loose it if he sees sirius walking around in it or if he sees a really cute toaster that sends him into a #frenzy that has him spending all way too much on an impromptu kitchen renovation but james doesn’t care because as long as his boyfriend is #happy and actually paying attention to the price of things and calculating the best value and taking james’ opinion as well and just being #happy and safe and accepted in his new home and family here with his jamie #please i think they’d be so cute ugh!!! #prongsfoot #bambibelle #drabble #fic idea #marauders #james potter #sirius black #jay talks

[its-stayville-forever]

@astraystayyh

#she's the reason i think twice when i say “I've lost all faith in humanity” #there are so many ways to define her #but the best one is 'beautiful' #bevause the word 'beautiful' sums up everything #the way she thinks is beautiful #the way she believes is beautiful #her soul is beautiful #her opinions are beautiful #being an angel #her wings are beautiful #her name is beautiful #her writing is beautiful #her hands are beautiful #beautiful #so so beautiful #she is beautiful #why is an angel here among us vile humans #actaully #she needs to be here #so that she can help other people become 'beautiful' #so that she can purify souls #the reason i believe i might have a chance with love #thank you. #so much. #you have no idea sahar #how much i love you

[technicallyaminecraftsimp]

Guys how the hell am I supposed to explain to other people why I love the Antenna Galaxies so fucking much without the “this too is yuri” meme

#I tried to say something like ‘it’s poetic in my mind’ but it just doesn’t hit the same as #this too is yuri #look man #billions upon billions of years we spent alone in an endless universe #surrounded yet completely isolated #slowly and unknowingly being drawn to one another #and now that we are not alone #we can do nothing but destory each other completely in the hope of becoming something new something better #I have spent so many years alone but now I get to spend many more knowing and loving you #until I ultimately destory you and you me #we will kill each other we will die in each others arms and throughout it all it will be painstakingly beautiful #HOW?????? AM I SUPPOSE TO EXPLAIN THAT TO PEOPLE #or at least people who aren’t on tumblr #like my astronomy teacher #how can I possibly grasp the emotion I feel about. some fuckin galaxies 45 million light years from us #also can I mention #no one else I’ve told this too can see it #but the antenna galaxies look like two ppl holding each other’s face #im not kidding guys I think about this way to often in life #god I hope someone here gets it #The Crab Speaks

[docileandlazy]

God created every single one of us in his image. God also created many of us to become one flesh - to lust after and love one another. To lust after and love the image of God himself. To desire, to yearn, to lust and to love are holy and divine acts. There is no sin in loving one another. To love, to desire after, your fellow man is to love and desire God himself. To lust after one another is to lust after His image - His eternal and undying beauty. All people are crafted by his hands, altered or not, and he loves us all so dearly. He looks in the mirror as he creates - self portraits so tenderly and dearly made. You are not wrong for your desires and urges - they are part of what makes us holy and divine and wonderful and beautiful.

#religion #i say he created many of us and not all of us to become one flesh because aro/ace people are also holy and divine and beautiful even if the #do not lust after and yearn for that love in that way. they are still wonderful and God still loves them and he has just crafted them with #a different purpose in mind. #Some theistic scholars have stated that the first “school” of religion is that of sex and eroticism and that is a belief i wholeheartedly #follow. Eroticism is beautiful and lovely and it is part of what makes my relationship with God so beautiful. #anyways !!! #pryn

[impossible-rat-babies]

I’m so normal about pandaemonium I can be trusted to be normal about it I say shoving drywall into my mouth

#owen plays ffxiv #snsjdjdjd NGL fave raid series #I’m just!! #it’s about eyrie and themis and they aren’t at all the people they used to be #and yet! And Yet the Soul Does Remember! #banging my fists in charon and themis dearly beloved friends #and I mean friends in every soft and beautiful way friendship can be #they’re both just like. I cannot remember you but so part of me looks at you with such Fondness that there has to be something #sjdjdjdjd GOD THE MEME #the bro bro don’t put our foreheads together are souls are gonna become intertwined #im also painting pretty pictures in my head of Charon spending time in pandaemonium #rotating her relationship with Lahabrea in my mind palace #endwalker spoilers

[cherrysnax]

I think i sound very uh flat n monotone normally, but a lot of ppl disagree.. my perception of my self is sooo skewed

#talked to cjs sister for the first time and she went on abt my voice and it’s weird because to me #I sound like a teenaged boh #*boy mixed with pinkie pie on a good day #either that or it’s giving like. weird seductress rouge the bat grown man #very gender if I say so myself #I’ve been drawing myself a lot more so the way I perceive my self is literally changing by the second #do people notice i deepen my voice the first time we talk #do they notice how I balance on one foot #do they notice the accidental like. ci #*vocal mimicry I do? ch was telling me abt the things they love abt my body because I was being silly and self hating #and it’s weird that the things we r both insecure abt are just things that like. make us us? idk #bad wording. cj could totally change everything new aesthetic new clothes new body type idk they would become my standard for beauty because #they already r. my type is her #I worry if I lose or gain weight if I change my hair again if I change aesthetics or go father into grad goth shit if they’ll find me ugly #but. I don’t think they will #I’ve gained lost changed done all the big changes looks perocnaliyy wise #and I consistinely feel loved and wanted #sorry rambling abt my gf over #ppl sometimes tell me I’m intimidating or rlly nice #strangers call me lovely #loved ones call me everything in between #I see myself as a wretched ugly creature that won’t chnage no matter how much I pull my body around #but maybe that’s not entirely true #but also I like pretending to be a nonhuman creature because it’s fun and dehumanization is okay when I do it

[oatbugs]

trying to find a suitable translation of the poem from which my name primarily comes from is actually impossible . persian is untranslatable.

#the way me and the person i was staying w in sweden talked abt this ..made my heart hurt a little but also made me glad that i understand #such a special language. persian is made for song and poetry and so the etymology and layers of each word are carried in their meanings #to a far stronger extent than other languages ive seen including english. this makes communicating in a straightforward way #much more difficult. it makes ambiguities more common and one could easily commit some horrid #epistemic crimes against another person by warping the meaning of their words. but it makes lyricism and poetry and anything which is #supposed to have depth and meaning so much more beautiful. which is why translating a good persian poem is so so difficult. yeah you could #use the word beloved but you could also use heart you could also use soul you could also use breath you could also use stomach you could #also use life etc etc . even with more common words.. its just. the only way to get it is to translate each word to a sentence/multiple #words but then the work would lose its impact . idk #thinking abt نقطهٔ عشق دل گوشه نشینان خون کرد #this is seemingly a simple line from the poems sixth verse found in only 3 of its manuscripts. gooshe neshinan is maybe literally #translated as corner-sitters or corner-dwellers but really it means more intellectuals/contemplators/academics but it could also mean #the isolated or lonely or the people who are waiting for something. now combine all the possible meanings into one english word. you just #cant carry the same meaning and depth even for such a simple phrase. the entire line would be #the point of love made the contemplators heart bleed. except heart is also love/stomach/life/soul/etc etc. point is also dot and the sharp #point of a blade. to make bleed could also be to be bloodied or to become blood. its not that #آتش آن است که در خرمن پروانه زدند #fire is that which burns the harvest of the moth. except it has the implication that the moth is also burned whole and #that love is a form of annihilation. moth is also butterfly. khorman means harvest but it also means crop and mass and product and shock #and halo around the moon and the aura of something bright and unseperation. now combine all of that into one english word. #it is also what made me mildly frustrated with non-persian scholars writing on hafez and persian poetry arguing about what translation is #correct when the point of persian lyricism is that the beauty of the verses stems largely from the layers and layers of meaning. love is #annihilation but inherently it is also an unseperation. love is all consuming in the way the halo of a moon is and the way laughter #that wraps you in light is. you are destroyed unwillingly. you are both the butterfly unravelling and the moth burning. #all one short line. i want you to understand why i chose this name and also to understand the poetry i was born from #and why it rests on the table in our new years table and why it is used to cast fortunes and why poetry is pilgrimage and a point of #worship for us and the sheer weight this language carries!!! #(خرمن) #(beside every definition given above it also means thrill and fruits of labours and Time and panic and damage) #my brain was built around a poetic construct from the moment i was born im so happy about that

[doctorweebmd]

Yo I ran into the dude that I thirsted for so hard 2.5 years ago that I started writing Intersecting Lines in the work cafeteria this morning and I pretended not to see him

#………. #I am still #so hopelessly enamored with him #he’s #so smart and handsome and funny and kind #everything I wish I was #I just get very embarrassed and blush a ton when he’s around which is…. #(I am 30 and married so that’s….. not cute) #anyway oh god he’s still so beautiful #anyways don’t ever be nice to weird girls #because they might fall in love a little and use that weird affection #to write like 700000 words of anime fanfiction #this isn’t like a realistic crush so it doesn’t count by the way #he’s like a celebrity and I’m like a normal person #this little crush is pervasive #anyway sometimes people become important to you against your permission #he elbowed me and said hi #and I pretended I was zoning out and said hi back like way later #totally cool and normal person behavior #I shared a 28 hour shift on my 28th birthday with him and my heart couldn’t handle it #week later I saw heroes rising #two days later I went insane and here we are #he’s so out of every league that exists #like Anna would you ever date him? what? and embarrass myself? no thanks #I’m not ugly by any means but perfect handsome successful funny sweet people like him need to stay in his lane #I have no idea why I haven’t moved past this crush in like……… over 4 years #hold on let me find other blog posts about him

[peapod20001]

*looks at some of my ocs*

What if I just...redid your face?

#random post #look look. ok #I KNOW we’re used to seeing them look a certain way BUT #some guys just...need smth better #not even like. societal beauty standards better #I’m just talking like. fits them better #May even rework some personalities #a lot of my ocs have like. very basic personalities #of course I can’t pump out fully formed people at the drop of a hat! character creation takes a hot minute!! #BUT!! I could do them better is all I’m sayin #it would do them some good #I wouldn’t be the first time I’ve done this lol like I’ve changed Meghan and Logan’s faces a few times lmao same with Sébastien and Daniel #like! they look WAY different than how they started! that’s just how I roll baby #shit. even Shirley and Eliana are different! Thomas too! and I’ve had him for WAY les time than his partners #just ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ tastes change. guys change. people become different people #anyways this post is about Beauty and Kyle specifically. I can’t draw them which means I don’t like how they look #which means I don’t talk about them or draw them to practice. so they must!!! CHANGE #giv em different vibes. anyways what sparked me wanting to change them specifically is 1. I want to draw them more but see the point about #not drawing them cus I don’t like how they look and 2. I saw drawings I liked and was inspired to change them lol SO! yeas :) #if you read thru all this I love you and also I’m sorry </3

[thedevotionaltour]

in terms of art alone im sorry. im a jrjr defender to my last breath you be fucking nice to him. i dont wanna hear shit❗️❗️❗️

#can someone also get him better inkers rn i am begging. pleading even. HE MAKES GOOD STUFF THEY JUST GIVE HIM SHIT INKERS WHO DONT GET IT. #MY FIRM BELIEF. im sorry. i like his stuff. there are certain things not quite my taste but i think he does good overall im a fan. BE NICE #static.soundz #sorry that last post was so directly inspired by seeing someone go can u guys be nice he is on a fucking nutbag schedule. which he is. #i dont think some people understand the insanity of comic production. and how much it takes a toll on you. #many have said and i will say it too: comics is a killing industry. it is a beautiful fun job. it is fulfilling. it will also destroy you. #the most common and easiest to use example is in fact the manga industry. they want chapters in a week. 20 page type chapters in a week. #A WEEK!!! and currently look at things like webtoon as well which also expect the same amount of pages. in a week. an issue in a week #is an insane demand. it is an unreasonable demand. it is scheduling that leads you to a crash and burnout and health issues #because it is fully finished polished pages. as much as i poke and complain about how some things look there #i am also highly aware of production schedules. even if some styles are not my taste that still doesnt mean it isnt insane work #and it's the same in american big industry comics too. it isnt weekly demand the way those are. but it's still an intense schedule #you are working on pages and can get behind years before those comics even hit shelves. #and as it becomes more individualized too as we lose the team element and work becomes more one person doing all pencils and inks #that schedule is a lot. it just is. it doesnt matter if theres more time in comparison to other parts of the industry #the point is that it is all very demanding and exploitative. there is a drive yourself to your grave mentality here and i've had ppl try #to shove that mindset onto my and my peers which is the worst thing possible to encourage. highly alarming and disheartening to encourage #impressionable students already so worried about making it to drive themselves to an early grave. abuse substances to get through work. #work excessive hours while you still can because when you hit your 30s youre gonna lose that ability #become bitter and prepared for rejection as opposed to success because this industry sucks! #it's just such an unhealthy depressing mindset. i've had more artists preach the exact opposite as that and more ppl have been trying to #shift over to valuing your time and health. but still a lot of people are in that other mentality. and it's very very very sad. #i am only a student doing very low stakes homework for classes. i have no industry experience. and i still get it taken out of me #to do fully fledged out pages in my style in one week. this is also just a thing for me bc certain personal factors just make it hard #but still. comics are fun. they are fun. they are fulfilling. they will lead you to so many fucking issues if you are not highly careful #there is a reason why so so so many fucking comic artists have very well known issues. why you hear about so many ppl with substance issues #artists with very poor mental health. when you are in comics this is how it is. #i am glad there has been a big shift in recent years towards taking care of yourself as an artist. and that more ppl try to value it so tha #things can hopefully change at large in a broader sense. but please remember. we are an exploited chew up spit out industry too.

[the-joy-of-knowledge]

25 Laws of power for women

Conceal your goals especially the ones that are appealing. Losing weight, reinventing yourself, marrying wealthy. Instead talk about your altruistic goals - to help children, invest in education, this will chase insecure people with vile intentions.

Do not give anyone your source of power: Was is a book that changed your life? a mentor? a movie? Never give up your secret to success. If forced to do say allude to God, the universe, the a random phenomenon

Use the patriarchy to your favor; we live in a world that is, only associate with men who have power, use that power for good.

Never appear too perfect but be selectively vulnerable when needed. Only share something that you will be comfortable saying. You might say “I forget my keys all the time,” “I don’t know how to perfectly park a car “. But never disclose something you are not comfortable with just because you are afraid of being perfect.

Maintain distance in relationships. Friends are the best and you need them. But if you feel that they are becoming too dependent, see them at your own will. But also the reverse could be the case. Your friend may keep a distance, and that is the way of life. You have got to move on from it.

Develop your own style that makes you unique, beautiful, and elegant. Avoid trying to fit in the crowd of people who claim to care less about their style yet have too many opinions about other women’s style

Avoid male friends at all cost, you will have male colleagues, male bosses, male acquaintances, business partners. Keep it that way. You do not want a Truman Capote divulging your secrets to the world. Do not keep a man who does not fit your standard.

You do not have to win at every game. Pick and choose what is best for you and leave room for others. And step down if you have attained that level of success, do not let the society do it for you.

Trust people but remember that we are all humans. So trust with discretion!

Confuse people with kindness; people are not always comfortable with beautiful and intelligent women. That power is too intimidating so confuse them by being genuinely generous, curious, kind, and passionate.

Keep your strong opinions to yourself.. if you support a movement, a way of life, do so silently.

We all have dirty laundry, wash them privately, don’t expose yourself. Remain silent when people try to attack you or shame you. Whatever is not confirmed is not true. You are the only one who knows all the truth about you.

Don’t attract pity or praise: People who pity you do not help you, in fact they might think that you are weak and could mock you at their annual gossipping meeting. And if you are doing things for the sake of praise you are wasting your time.

Choose yourself all the time; never put any one’s feelings above yours.

Trust your own intuition if you feel someone is being malicious towards you, giving you back handed compliments then you should let them go

Never speak bad of another woman. Do not lazy around gossipping. Keep your hands clean and your conscience clear.

Avoid women with low self esteem they will bring you down. For some reason they do not like seeing other women who are doing better than them

Be careful who you seek validation from. Not everyone needs to be pleased. If they are in no way capable of contributing to your life in the ways you prefer, then don’t ask them for their opinions or please them.

Do not compete with other women, if you do you are only putting them on a pedestal. You are making the the standard by which you measure your progress. If you do compete, begin digging your grave.

Do not give unsolicited advice, do not share the inner workings of your mind, If your mouth is very charitable you better start journaling.

Be well-rounded and interesting. It attracts people. It also keeps you busy because you are continually improving and learning. An idle mind is an easily subdued one.

Avoid women who want to live vicariously through you; they want to know who you know, shop where you shop, befriend who you befriend, wear what you wear.

Pay attention to the source of your discomfort; get rid of them. You tell them your dreams and they remind you of all your hindrances. They ask why are you dressed so fancy as though fancy isn’t subjective. They undermine you interests and goals. They will also be quick to bring you down because they are afraid of your potential.

Do not fear power or please power. When we see powerful people we try to hard to befriend them, to be close to them but you need to be comfortable without them. Don’t push yourself in the name of friendship, do not try too hard to be in their inner circle. Your independence of mind is the most important. Instead become a powerful woman, aloof to the presence of power but aware of its importance. Be an ingenious and intelligent and use your creativity to uplift yourself. When you do so it will be hard to ignore you. Even the powerful will become an ally.

Enjoy moments of solitude. Use that time to develop yourself, improve your body, learn new skills, create with your mind, read widely, become more elegant, then launch yourself.

Remember the most powerful women are the most intelligent. Inspired by Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power. Use at your discretion.

#self improvement #self love #growth #mindfulness #self development #beauty #education #self care #classy #self help #power #new books #booklover #book review #book quotes #books #biography #self control #self discipline #self worth #students #smart #emotions #emotional intelligence #self growth #discipline #get motivated #life goals #gratitude #femininity journey

[aletterinthenameofsanity]

Y'know, there's this gripe I've had for years that really frustrates me, and it has to do with Love, Simon and people joking about it and calling it too-pg and designed-for-straight-people and all the like. (A similar thing has happened to Heartstopper, but that's another conversation.)

I saw Love, Simon in theaters when it came out my senior year in high school. I saw it three times, once with my friends/parents on opening night, once with my brother over spring break, and once with my grandparents.

On opening night, the air in the room was electric. It was palpable. Half the heads in there were dyed various colors. Queer kids were holding hands. We were all crying and laughing and cheering as a group. My friends grabbed my hands at the part where Simon was outed and didn't let go until his parents were saying that they accepted him. My friend came out to me as non-binary. Another person in our group admitted that she had feelings for girls. It was incredible. I left shaking. This was the first mainstream queer romance movie that had ever been produced by one of the main five studios, and I know that sounds like another "first queer character from Disney" bit but you have to understand that even in 2018 this was groundbreaking. Getting to have a sweet queer rom-com where the main character was told that he got "to breathe now" after coming out meant so much to me and my friends.

But also, from a designed-for-straight-people POV (which, to be frank, it was written by a bisexual author and directed by a gay man, this was not designed for straight audiences), why is it a bad thing that it appealed to the widest possible audience? That it could make my parents and grandparents see things in a new light? My stepdad wasn't at all interested in rom-coms but he saw it with me because it was something I cared about and he hugged me when we came out of the theater. My very Catholic grandparents watched it with me and though my grandpa said he still didn't quite understand the whole 'gay thing,' all he wanted was for me to be happy and to have a happy ending like Simon did. My Nana actually cried when Simon came out and squeeze my hand when his mother told him he could breathe.

And when Martin blackmailed Simon, my mom, badass ally that she is, literally hissed "Dropkick him. Dropkick him in the balls" leading to multiple queer kids in the audience to laugh or smile. Having my parents there- the only parents, by the way, out of my group of queer and questioning friends- made multiple people realize that supportive adults were out there. That parents like those in Love, Simon do exist in real life.

When people complain about Heartstopper not being realistic or Love, Simon being too cutesy, I remember seeing Love, Simon on opening night. I remember my friend coming out and my stepdad hugging me and my mom defending us through this character. I remember the cheers that went through the audience when Bram and Simon kissed and the chatter in the foyer after the movie was over and the way that this movie made me understand that happy endings do exist.

Queer kids need happy endings. Straight people need entry points to becoming allies. Both of these things can come together in beautiful ways. They can find out about more queer culture later, but for now, let them have this. Let them all have a glimpse at a better, happier world. Let them have queer joy.

#love simon #simon vs thsa #simon spier #spierfeld #bram greenfeld #my experiences #meta #the importance of queer joy #heartstopper #becky albertalli #my mom also watched rwrb with me last year when it premiered #and let me tell you that was interesting sitting in the room with her for an r-rated romance movie like that

[americascomic]

I talked to a trans femme teen yesterday who told me to not use slurs (faggot, tranny) and I think people like to blame social media for these kids being so tenderqueer-y, but this kid also told me that of the 1,400 kids in her art school, there is lots of out gay, trans masc and non-binary AFAB kids but only 10 t-femmes, and I saw in her and this other trans femme teen I know this harsh assimilationist streak (they want to go stealth, strive for conventional beauty standards, jealous of the cis het white blonde girls) because they barely have a community and so it becomes a place to survive.

The internet is this boogieman that distorts what is the consensus. It has a selection bias of hyper isolated, neurodivergent, and anxious people who are just looking to survive

I look at queer kids with annoying conservative opinions I don't see the solution being "internet stop sucking" - the assimilationist woodworking "Cross Dressing Quarterly" trannies of the 90's didn't need TikTok to get this way, it was the violence of the closet.

I see the problem being them being scared kids - what bell hooks calls "the most oppressed class" and I see the solution being a more porous, safe community between kids and adults (outside of the nonprofit industrial complex that uses queer youth spaces to condescend, infantalize, and give resources in a nondemocratic way)

We always say "protect trans kids" and it's worth queer adults of all types toughing through bigotry and accusatory stares to find these kids, build relationships, give resources and love them. All we have is each other. We protect us. Us tranny faggots

#slur discourse #protect trans kids #trans #trans femme #tenderqueer #no kink at pride

[comradekatara]

i know that a lot of people take issue with the fact that pakku only agrees to teach katara because he realizes that she’s the granddaughter of the woman he tried to get with a bajillion years ago, but i actually see that moment of him realizing that kanna left to escape their marriage as a moment of self-reflection from him. like, imagine having to contend with the fact that your rancid vibes drove the love of your life away after having just publicly humiliated her fourteen year old granddaughter who was begat on the literal other side of the earth because how that’s far she went to escape him. sokka gets the moment of realizing “oh, men and woman are ontologically equal in their capacities, and divisions between genders are socially assigned and arbitrary,” but that isn’t really pakku’s deal at all. pakku’s deal is more like, “oh, my unyielding insistence on adhering to and imposing unjust patriarchal traditions actually makes me deeply unpleasant to be around and drives my loved ones away. maybe I should take a fucking chill pill perhaps.”

like, the fact that katara ultimately loses the fight and nothing she actually says or does persuades him is interesting, because it means that his reflection is internal, his moment of revelation not brought about by didactic moralizing, but through taking a long, hard look in the mirror, and realizing that being kind is more important than being right. and that’s why he seems to make an effort to be friendlier and more helpful, more so than making any effort to become a male feminist and fight for women’s rights. sokka, for example, initially has a narrow view of gender because his worldview is limited and then it expands, but pakku, by contrast, is literally a member of the white lotus; he is old and worldly, so he clearly already understands that their tribe’s traditions are not ontologically necessitated, but he nonetheless supports them because they benefit him. it is only when he learns that the love of his love literally escaped their tribe and left behind everything she ever knew just to avoid him that he decides to reevaluate his staunch insistence on clinging to his patriarchal values. and who wouldn’t. i mean, that’s gotta fucking hurt!

i know that katara’s fight against him does feel like a grand feminist moment as she fights for her ideals and her rights as a girl, and to her (and to us as the audience) it certainly does feel that way, but to pakku, his change of heart is one of realizing that he should probably stop being an asshole to every woman he’s ever met while he still has a few good years left. a core motif of katara’s arc is that she cannot actually preach her ideals and simply enlighten every asshole she meets, as much as she’d certainly like to; enlightenment comes from within. and so it is pakku’s regrets that motivate him to be kinder, because it’s never too late to change for the better. and that’s kind of beautiful actually.

#pakku #katara #sokka #(ish) #kanna #I feel like ive never really given pakku enough attention #im always kind of just like ‘L+ ratio + bowling pin ass head’ #but he is interesting. he is #thinking abt the nwt in general. is fascinating #I love it sm