#older sibling trauma

[orangesand-lemons-234]

Buttons was 16 years old. He'd been a Newsie for ten of those years, therefore being around to see some of the younger kids grow with him.

When he saw Elmer, he still saw the three year old Spot brought to visit Manhattan four years ago.

When he saw Splasher, he saw the five year old he and Tommy Boy found sat alone on a bench outside the church three years ago.

When he saw Mike and Ike, he saw the babies left in a basket outside the Lodge House five years ago.

So, seeing each of them beaten up and bloody hurt all the more.

The Lodge was absolute chaos after the fight. Not the usual Lodge chaos, however, it was a scary and fearful chaos. The one that made your heart pound and brain blurry.

Kids were wailing and crying, teenagers were yelling and shouting. There wasn't a quiet place in the house.

Everybody realised quite quickly that nobody had walked out without a few battle scars to show afterwards, and the little kids were no exception.

Elmer had a shard of glass thrown at his forehead, and it was bleeding badly. Despite the bandages now wrapped around the injury, the injury had bled through, creating crimson dots splattered around it.

Splasher had broken his ankle after being shoved to the ground by one of the bulls. Buttons had a pole tied to his leg to keep it as straight as possible and had it elevated on the other bed. He was still weeping silently with the pain shooting up his leg every few minutes.

Mike and Ike were sat on his lap and were crying harder than any of the Newsies had ever seen, despite knowing them their whole lives.

Mike had been struck in the back with a baton multiple times, his back now scattered with bruises and blood. He didn't understand what was happening or why he was in so much pain, he just wanted it to stop.

Ike was hit in the face with one of the Delancey's brass knuckles, leaving him with a black eye and scarred nose. He was practically inconsolable, not allowing anybody to touch him for a very long time after the fight, only relaxing enough for Button's to check him out when Mike was brought in with Albert and Finch.

Buttons, with no help from the others got to work helping the kids in any way he could. The kids needed a shoulder to cry on and a helping hand to wrap up their injuries while some of the older newsies tried to sort out where Jack was and if they could try to save Crutchie.

They didn't understand what any of this meant. They just wanted somebody to hold them and tell them they were okay. Someone to sing one of Meddas songs while they wrapped up their scars and cuts.

Buttons was okay. He was fine and could help with the little ones with their injuries. Yeah, sure, he was struggling to breathe properly, and his knees were throbbing with pain, but the little kids needed help more than he did. He could handle it.

Buttons was 16, but sometimes he wishes he was still 6, when there was always an older kid around to help him out.

#oooo older sibling trauma fic #oooo #buttons angst #it was gonna happen eventually #i was gonna write an angsty oneshot for him eventually #but uhhh #yay #older sibling trauma #most of us have been there #yknow? #newsies #uksies #newsies headcanons #newsies fanfic #newsies fanfiction #buttons newsies #elmer newsies #splasher newsies #mike and ike newsies

[ohmisterpitiful]

older sibling trauma is just like I tried to take the brunt of the abuse of our parents but they were the ones who raised me so when I took care of you I flipped that abuse back on you. I was a savior and a comforter and a perpetuator. we're grown now and we don't talk about the serious things because I'm scared you don't forgive me. I don't know if I deserve it yet. I'm sorry I'm always fighting with our parents. I'm doing it so you don't have to. when I tell them they're mistreating me I hope they realize it applies to you too. we're leaving at the same time and I don't know if we'll be closer or even further apart when we're away. I miss playing with our toys together as kids. I never want to go back to that age because I hate how I took my rage out on you. I hope you unlearn what our parents taught you. I can't look at you knowing I didn't help you how I should have. I can't look away from you when I notice how much you've grown. you are and always will be the most important thing in the world to me. I love you more than life itself. you are my little sibling and you are my world

#if you like this post you'll LOVE the song atlas by megan shumway #older sibling #older sibling trauma #eldest sibling #eldest child #eldest sibling trauma #kinda a vent kinda prose #dedicated to you. you know who you are. #my writing

[andreainlove]

there's this single line which always got me sobbing and then got me to overthink...

the parents grow up with the first child, they learn how to be a parent while trying to be a parent for the eldest one.

sometimes the child becomes a "project" that needs to be dealt with, and the parents feel that having the most impressive things highlighted on the "project" would get them an award from the world.

it has always been like my eldest daughter know how to sing, she knows how to dance, she is a debate champion, she is going to be the best artist one day, she is a "multitasker". blah blah blah.

along with that she gains the trust of the parents, they love her, she's shouldered to a lot of big responsibilities.

the parents actually act like proper "parents" for the second one. be it a girl or a boy, they get the attention, the support to choose anything they want to do, they are pampered more.

now, I'm not saying that I'm jealous of my sibling who got all the benefits of being the second child, but some tiny little bit of my heart just wants to look at the possibilities of what if i was the second one?

how lovely would that be?

or would that turn out even more difficult?

the constant reminder that they have to be like the eldest daughter. the mentality of being better than the eldest one is forced upon them somehow.

"look at your sister, she's so responsible, try to be like her. learn something from her."

"your sister is so good at maths, can't believe you failed in maths"

and the list never ends.

the grass is always greener on the other side.

#eldest daughter #hurts being the eldest one #older sibling trauma #overwhelmed thoughts

[your-older-brother-figure]

Remember you can vent in my replies or ask box.

It's a difficult thing leaving a toxic household.

Especially as an older sibling who has to leave their younger siblings behind.

And I see a lot of posts on social media lately talking about it. I don't know if it's the algorithm or what.

And from both sides too.

The younger siblings feels abandoned and guilty they want their siblings to be happy but are left to deal with the problems alone when most of the time those older siblings where their everything. Parents, role models ect.

But the older sibling likes in constant guilt, in my personal experience, I was banned from going to the house and seeing my younger siblings. And without a phone, I have no idea what they are being subject to. And if it's anything like I was then I worry they will hate me for leaving. I had to be strong. I prayed they didn't have to. And now I see the same anger that I had in them. I know they are good people and will be okay. And even if they hate me, they are strong enough to handle it. But it hurts.

I couldn't save them cause I had to save me.

It's been a while now and I miss them. I don't miss my dad. And I don't miss the fighting. But in a way a miss that bond I had where they knew I'd be that protector.

If my younger siblings ever see this. Which I doubt they will. They'll never know it was their older sibling making this post. I don't use my real name here so no one will know. But I hope they know that I'm still trying. And I know that they are strong enough to still be good. And kind. And one day I hope they get to leave too. Even if it's the toughest decision they make. And one day I hope you will forgive me.

This is a very different post than usual. But as I always say. Take your meds. Brush your teeth. Drink your water. Your important

#your older brother figure #older sibling trauma #younger sibling #oldest daughter #oldest son #youngest #oldest #trauma #toxic family #toxic home #toxic household #lgbtq #lgbtq community #lgbtqiia+ #adulting #stuff nobody tells you #this was alot but its been on my mind. i hope at least one person finds companionship in my experience with their own

[fictional2dcharacters]

Guess who thought of something and then had a hyper fixation!!

It was me :)

I thought of Ohn angst and IMMEDIATELY had to draw it because Ohn and Hong could NOT have been treated well while in the cat tribe

so I drew her waking up from nightmares in hysteria :D

Because don’t you love it when an incredibly abused and damaged person helps another incredibly abused and damaged person(I’m talking about Cale and Ohn)

This took like 4-5 hours or something.

(*ﾟ▽ﾟ*)

Huge shoutout to Saddist’s “Sunsprite Eulogy” passerine animation because looking for a reference on Pinterest to match the idea I had in my head, Wilbur having a breakdown ended up being my reference for these LMFAO

#tcf #lcf #lout of the count’s family #totcf #tcf novel #trash of the counts family #tcf cale #tcf ohn #tcf on #tcf fanart #tcf headcanon #I drew this instead of doing homework #don’t you just love how traumatized everyone is #Ohn is my traumatized little baby who hides it too often because she’s the older sibling and she can’t show weakness #oh look Ohn and Cale are bonding over trauma how adorable #art #digital art #tcf angst #angst #comics

[randombook4idk]

people will talk about how it is important to recognize abuse and how it comes in many shapes and forms, but the second sibling abuse gets brought up, you then have to shut up, because you clearly don't have a sibling if you don't think that bullying them, making them fear you, screaming at them, putting them down, beating up them up, emotionally/physically abusing them, giving them trauma, guilt tripping them and other abusive behavior is an ok thing to do.

#you cant say that abusive behavior isnt ok in romantic/platonic relationships #and then turn around and say that it's ok if it happens between siblings #because siblings hating each other is soooo nAtUrAl it's in their DNA/s #teasing your sibling isnt the same as laughing about how you nearly caused your siblings death or how you gave them trauma #yeah i saw those tiktok screenshots on instagram and as someone with an older sister i despise them same as those memes of olders siblings #(mostly older brothers) joking about beating their little brothers up #sibling abuse #toxic siblings #older sibling #older siblings #younger sibling #younger siblings #middle child #abusive sibling #abusive siblings #abusive sister #abusive sisters #abusive brother #abusive brothers

[yunmeng-jiang]

that man does NOT think of wei wuxian as his gege

#jiang cheng #wwx #twin prides #i have a whole post about how they both think of themselves as having an older-sibling role #but even if that wasn't true jc still always calls him by his full name and the one time wwx tried to call him shidi jc yelled at him #their relationship is not that simple! it's a huge thing that wwx occupies a weird in-between role in their family! #he's definitely not a servant but also definitely not a full member of their family and that's super important to the story! #even if jc WANTED to think of him as his older brother he would need to get past seven layers of trauma to even realize he wanted that #and then he would have to admit it to himself and then work up the courage to admit it to someone else #and even then he probably still wouldn't say it to wwx's face #sure yanli calls wwx her didi but things are much simpler from her point of view #plus she's one of those people - like lxc - that can hold an opinion deep inside herself and be at peace with it even if it conflicts + #+ with what the world says and what she's been brought up to believe #jc is not like that. he internalizes way more from the outside world and if he feels conflicted he just kind of implodes #he's spent his whole life being told that wwx is not his equal and is someone to compete against #and also secretly believing that wwx is eventually going to abandon him because he doesn't think anyone truly cares for him #plus wwx treats him like a bff who is also a liege lord rather than a beloved younger brother #he would Not form a secure attachment to wwx lmao #it also really annoys me that when people write/conceptualize him as someone who thinks of wwx as his real gege + #+ they tend to completely erase jyl and minimize her importance to jc. he HAS an older sibling who he trusts unconditionally and confides + #+ in and takes comfort from! that person already exists! and they ignore her in favor of the protagonist #it also really bugs me when they have him mourning wwx those whole 13-16 years but don't put in a single word about yanli #this kind of turned into a rant about jyl... i have a lot of feelings about her especially since i'm the oldest sibling in my family #anyway. that man does not think of wwx as his gege #haterade #(kind of)

[grimstrawberry]

Touya would have a heavy case of older brother syndrome if he stayed with his family

#I'm an older sister and the competition and mind games and liES + special oldest sibling trauma are real af #this is me ignoring what's going on in the manga #hnn there's too much to tag #BNHA #Boku No Hero Academia #MHA #My Hero Academia #Touya Todoroki #Todoroki Touya #Dabi #Shouto Todoroki #Todoroki Shouto #Fuyumi Todoroki #Todoroki Fuyumi #Natsuo Todoroki #Todoroki Natsuo #Keigo Takami #Hawks #DabiHawks #Todofam #My Art

[0lympian-c0uncil]

Poseidon, *gesturing to Demeter*: Hera, look what you did! You made Mom upset!

Hades: Mom, please don’t cry, we’re sorry!

Hera: I’m sorry Mom.....

Demeter, *near tears*: .....Wha- What....

#when you raise your younger siblings and they forget that you are their sister and not their mom #older sibling trauma be like #demeter #poseiden #hades #hera #greek gods #greek mythology #incorrect greek gods #incorrect greek god quotes #incorrect greek mythology #incorrect greek quotes

[parsimonius]

John Dory is me he’s me guys he’s me older sibling trauma omg he’s me I won’t be shutting up about this

#I also had to watch my siblings from a young age and had to cook and clean and watch them I want OLDER SIBLING TRAUMA FICS SEND THEM MY WAY #I watched the movie agesssss ago and then suddenly I got a fic rec and I was like whatever I guess I’ll try it out and then holy shit it’sme #he’s me guys he’s me memenemememe #this is nothing like my previous posts #also I may have drawn John Dory should I post the doodle? #older sibling #brozone #john dory trolls #trolls #trolls floyd #trolls branch #trolls brandi #trolls bruce #trolls spruce #trolls clay #trolls poppy #trolls viva #trolls veneer #trolls velvet #velvet and veneer #velvet trolls #venner #venner trolls

[himejoshikaeya]

sometimes i forget that kaeya and diluc don't canonically have a 4 year age gap, bc I'll see a post that implies that they r the same age, and I'm like, "huh." 😭😭😭

#cacophony of kaliya #ragbros #the dawn winery siblings #diluc #kaeya #listen. my older brother and I have a 4 year age gap and we have a similar dynamic to them so thats why i usually go with #4 years specifically aksjsjdjdh #also i just think it would be sadder if kaeya was still a young teenager when diluc left tbh #mixing in that trauma with teenage hormones yk #very fun !

[mesenterydeimos]

minecraft hoes or whatever

#i love him so much #older sibling trauma characters make me puke and bawl my eyes out #“sherlocks an otter!” “johns a hedgehog!!” have you considered catcroft #bbc sherlock #bbc sherlock fanart #sherlock bbc #sherlock #sherlock fanart #mycroft holmes

[i-am-the-issue]

That feeling when your clothes are too tight, too itchy, don’t fit right, hair isn’t washed, scalp is sore and feels tight, back aches, head aches, too tired to do anything, too bored to do nothing, overstimulated or under stimulated so you just sit numbly typing your silly little posts to cope———- :(

#mental health humor #coping mechanism #mental health memes #mental health #mental illness #trauma #trauma memes #mummy issues #mommy issues #daddy issues #older sibling

[iamumbra195]

You know what I just realized? Jason Todd is the Dabi/Todoroki Touya of the Batman fandom

#batman #dc comics #my hero academia #mha #boku no hero academia #bnha #jason todd #red hood #todoroki touya #dabi #Canon: not a good person #does not care about/actively hurts his siblings to get back at his dad and teach him a lesson #a villain/anti-hero #Fanon: did bad things but he was traumatized so that makes it okay and everyone forgives and loves him #is a good older brother who secretly cares about his siblings even if they don't know it #has a good relationship with his dad #just needs someone to listen to him so he can erase all the effects of his trauma and turn into the perfect hero that everyone loves #this is very specifically about jason when he was in his villain arc not later DON'T ATTACK ME PLS #Am i comparing Bruce and Endeavour? #NO! #do i think that Dabi and Jason are a little similar? #kinda #do I think their respective fandoms treat them in very similar ways that are high key disrespectful to their character and erase a bunch of #what makes them a compelling character? #yes #do i love them anyways? #also yes #I'm still reading the comics #please don't attack me if my understanding of Jason's character is off #this is just how i feel about what I've seen so far

[irishgirl325]

#family #familial trauma #generational trauma #hurt/comfort #quotes #words #eldest sibling #eldest daughter #older sibling

[orngbanana]

rating if the agriche sibs would be good friends(may not be 100% accurate):

roxana: uh, yeah she would, did u see how she's like with sylvia?? you'd braid eachother's hair and have interesting and cute conversations. would show you how to poison people when they can't notice. could trust her with anything personal, though for all of that it would require for you two to be either extremely close or for you to make an elaborate plan on how to make her feel like you're someone she could be safe with. it'll take a lot of work. 9/10

jeremy: extreme trust issues aside--you would be rlly fun together. there would be lots of banter ofc, can't have a friendship with jeremy without dealing with his stubborn, bratty attitude. would be more than happy to show off to you, his chest puffing up with pride as he looks at you, searching for any hint of either awe or frustration. can't keep secrets for shit. will try tho, but he will probably either let it slip when he's chatting with roxie or when he's pissed. 7/10

dion: no. just. no....any hint of familiarity or affection would make his chest implode, not in a good way. and if it is in a good way--it would still be bad. would mock you constantly, either for something small or for nothing at all. you two would have to be both extremely unstable and codependent for your friendship to survive. on a lighter note, he would care, in the most horrifying way possible. giving you monster (or human) eyes in a jar as a gift kind of horrifying. would find it funny if you told him to kill himself. 2/10

#the way to protect the female lead's older brother #twtptflob #roxana #roxana agriche #jeremy agriche #dion agriche #shitpost ig?? #*slaps the agriche siblings* these bad boys can fit so much trauma in their tall