#my aromanticism

[i-dreamed-i-had-a-son]

OOOOOOKAY SO I finally started binging Elementary again (having previously stopped due to frustration with the subplot that involved Sherlock being romantically interested in someone) and they have VINDICATED ME

He asks Watson about his relationship and relationships in general. He asks if romantic relationships involve talking about work with your partner, and realizes he doesn't share anything about his work with Fiona. Not only that, he doesn't even feel compelled to. He wonders why, since his work isn't just work, it's "who he is." This was already great bc I totally understand the discomfort and overthinking and worry about not knowing why you can't do relationships how everyone else can.

And then Sherlock says, "I have had exactly one relationship in my life that I would classify as a romance. This is also a...romance...and yet it doesn't compare.

It's disappointing."

And just. Yes.

Especially now that I have had a romantic relationship, this hits particularly well, but I'm also thinking of my QPP...I'm not sure if I'll ever have a relationship like that again, or if I'll be able to develop romantic feelings for someone again. It's disappointing, in the deepest sense.

I'd stopped watching bc I thought they were making Sherlock not aro anymore, but now I can see they were actually just making him more aro--fleshing out his experience and analyzing exactly why he's different, but not erasing the fact that he is.

Which means I can think of myself that way too.

#elementary #aromantic sherlock #sherlock holmes #aromantic #my aromanticism #aro #kay can i just catch my breath for a second

[killingmyselfbutnotdying]

"Friends dont look at friends that way" COWARD. I look at my friends with awe in my eyes, my chest is filled with love, im glowing because i get to be near my friends. I look at my friends and i would give them my everything. SO SKILL ISSUE, look at your friends with all the love that you have

#i hate this phrase with burning passion #platonic love #platonic #platonic relationships #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #amatonormativity my beloathed #there are multiple songs i dont listen to bc they have this phrase in it

[pokimoko]

It's Aro-Spec Awareness Week again my friends, and that means it's time for more silly little critters! (You can find last year's here.) ✨Keep up the amazing work, fellow aros✨

#aro #aro week #aromantic #aro week 2024 #aromantic awareness week #art #aromantic awareness week 2024 #aro spec #digital art #my art #snake #snake art #tw snakes #pigeon #bird #bird art #aromanticism #critter series #aromantic artist #aro-spec friendly #vector art #lgbtqia+ #lgbtq+ #decided to do two of my favourite types of animals this time round. love me a snake. i have since i was young #held a python as a kid (via a professional zookeeper) and was hooked. also doesn't hurt that i was born in the year of the snake #and pigeons are my favourite little street-wise bird guy. bopping their lil heads. making prrrr noises. love em #(may there have also been some other outside fandom-related factors that led me doing a snake and a dorky bird? perhaps) #i think these might be my favourite critters yet :3 shh don't tell the others #same deal as always: blanket permission to use as icons so long as you credit me please :) #id in alt text

[siriusly-remu]

the aromantic agenda

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@makelimeade @kiwimuichiro @fallenrain40 @redysetdare @canonically47 @arodabi @drakenhert @pinnakoladda @thisvegetabledoesntfallinlove @midnightcrisisstuff @the-nefarious-vampire

#aka my favorite aro and aroace posts #aromantic #aroace #aro #arospec #aro pride #aromantism #aspec #aromanticism #lgbtq #queer #pride #lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #lgbt pride #lgbtqiia+ #queer community #aromantic spectrum #asexual aromantic #acearo #aromantic asexual #aro ace #lgbtq+ #lgbtqplus #aroallo #actually aromantic #alloaro

[bloggingboutburgers]

Happy aromantic awareness week fellas

#no one can know i don't like sex #aromantic #aromanticism #aro #my art #nonburger

[peach-pot]

(if you don’t mind reblogging this post, that would be groovy ^_^)

#first and last time I ask people to reblog a post on the post lol #hannah talks sometimes #this will be my ‘general tumblr population poll’ #and then I can compare it to my blog one #it’ll still definitely be like. my side of tumblr because it’s starting on my blog but. eh you get it #asexual #aromantic #polls #aspec #arospec #acespec #asexuality #aromanticism #lgbt

[knifearo]

being aromantic is like. hey btw you're going to live a life that is the culmination of most of society's worst nightmares. sorry lol ✌️ but then you turn around and take a really good hard look at it and it turns out that living in that nightmare is fucking awesome and you get to wake up every day and take that fear that other people have and laugh and hold it close until it's a great joy for you instead. and being happy is a radical act that you define instead of someone else. and you're sexy as fuck that's just a fact of life i don't make the rules on that one

#aromantic people are just sexy i'm not making the decisions here it's just facts #course ur hot as fuck. it came free with the aromanticism #being sexy is just default settings for aromantic people 👍 #hope this all helps. anyway i'm on my 'i hope i die alone <3 i can't wait to die alone <3' kick rn #i think the existential fear that people have of Not Partnering specifically is so. well. #obviously that shit is strong and it is SO awesome to be free of it. #realizing you're aro and you don't Want a partner can be such a hit to the solar plexus #cause society says that's the only thing that'll make you happy. so either you go without that thing or you force yourself #into doing something you don't want which would make you unhappy anyway. #so you think it's a lose lose situation and you have to come to terms with what amatonormativity presents as the worst possible situation #but then! whoa! turns out personhood is inherently valuable in and of itself and romantic partnering is just a construct! #and that nightmare is now your life to do with as you please... define as you will... structure as you want... #best case scenario. is what i'm saying. #every day i wake up ready to spit all that amatonormative rhetoric back in life's teeth by being alone and being happy #and it's so fucking satisfying. every day. #fucking JUBILANT being by myself. and i love being a living breathing 'fuck you' to the romantic system #you need a partner to be happy? oh that's sooo fucking crazy guess i'll go be miserable then. in my perfect fucking dream life lmao #yeah obviously it's the worst possible outcome on earth to die without a partner. so terrible. can't wait for it :) #aromantic #aromanticism #aro positivity #aroace #arospec #sorry to bitches who are sad about not having a partner. i could not give a fuck though get better soon #you couldn't EVER pay me enough to go back to a mindset in which my inherent value wasn't enough by myself. #FUCK that shit. absolutely miserable and a bad life outlook in general. like genuinely do the work w/ amatonormativity and get better #life is something that can be so fulfilling whether someone wants to kiss you or whatever or not #i'm on antidepressants and i have people i care deeply about. what the fuck would i need a partner for lmao

[uncanny-tranny]

Amatonormativity has destroyed so many people's understanding and acceptance of themselves, and it's heartbreaking.

Yes, it is normal to be in your 20s, 30s, or older and not have lost your virginity, had a first kiss, or a partner. It is normal to say that you aren't ready for those things, too! It is normal if your life doesn't follow the "college graduate -> engagement -> buying a home -> 2.5 kids and a dog" trajectory that so many people have idealized.

So many people associate maturity with losing your virginity, or having a first kiss, or a serious relationship, and I think that's a dangerous association. Maturity isn't gained through those things, and you don't have to have those experiences to be considered "mature" or "grown." It is not a bad thing to go at your pace. Nobody else can live your life but you. If you end up having those experiences, that's great! But it should be done because you want to experience them, not because you feel "broken" and "immature" without them.

#amatonormativity #ask to tag (genuine) #i honestly *wish* conversations like this were things i was exposed to when i was younger... #...maybe then i'd've felt less of a need to surpress my aromanticism and asexuality... #...the feeling of brokenness still trails behind me sometimes because so many of us are taught that this all WILL happen... #...we WILL fall in love. we WILL have a nuclear family. we WILL be satisfied with this... #...and that this is the IDEAL for cishet patriarchal structures... #...and that /any/ deviation to the SLIGHTEST degree is that fault of the *individual*. who WOULDN'T want this life? #there's this idea like i said that maturity is gained as you almost... adhere to expectations... #...and that's genuinely dangerous to associate maturity with that and i hope you can fill in those gaps because it can get dark fast

[jupiter-nwn]

yeag

#aromantic #aro #actually aromantic #aromantic spectrum #aromanticism #aro pride #arospec #idk more tags to add idk brother #I'm just a gray-aro wannabe polyglot #I added the little '(and catalan)' text cause like. That's my first language like I can't just not lmao; plus it's also a romance lang

[shmaroace]

don't get me wrong, i love all the positivity around being aro, like "be proud of being aro!! love who you are!!", but we never talk about how hard it is to reach that spot. so here's to the aros who are still trying to understand themselves, who aren't proud of who they are yet, who are still coming to terms with their new identity.

#i was in serious denial about being aro for a long time like i knew the label and knew it fit but i refused to use it for several months #even after that point it took a while for me to be comfortable with the label or saying it #and this is not a bad thing!! being aro basically requires you to undo all the societal brainwashing you grew up with #and there is so much arophobia that it's hard to find positivity #i got lucky w/ this blog and the people i follow but i know i had a hard time being as proud of myself and my queerness as i am now #this doesn't even really have to be an aro statement like i think it could fit most queer experiences #sorry for the long tags haha #aro #aromantic #arospec #aromanticism #aro pride #aro positivity #aroace #aspec #1k #5k #6k #7k

[i-dreamed-i-had-a-son]

Ok so I already projected onto John MORE than enough but good golly, I'm finally getting around to finishing Season 3 and I'm projecting even more because like ohhH my gosh. When Yeshua asks him to stay and wait for Simon, and he clearly is desperate to go with Him, and doesn't understand why it's Simon that Yeshua depends on, and just so palpably wants Yeshua to want him, and love him, and to be enough and he just doesn't feel it--and he takes that out on Simon--and it's just a great representation of John's struggles with pride and insecurity and the competitive nature of the relationship between him and Simon (the tomb, Simon's question at the end of John's Gospel, etc.)...and how Yeshua says, "John, I love you," and corrects him so gently, and takes his face in His hands because He knows it hurts, and has such compassion for John even in his shortsightedness...

AND THEN. ON THE ROAD WITH SIMON. Oh my goodness. The aro Christian in me is losing my mind because the final thing John says to Simon, after a string of adjectives describing virtues he sees in Simon but not himself--"Simon the exceptional. Simon the distinct"--is, "And yeah, maybe He calls me 'beloved' sometimes, but that's only because you have Eden! I don't know what you're whining about when you have found someone like her."

Like oh my gosh. I feel so seen here. Because John (and I) are all about love. We care about people so much. But it's commonly thought that John never married, despite it being expected in that society and most of the other disciples doing so. And what's being represented here is this painfully personal ache because yes, Jesus loves us; yes, we can have a special and close relationship with Him--but it feels like it's a substitute because it isn't what everyone else has: it isn't the love of a partner. John wants to be loved and needed SO MUCH and he feels lesser because he doesn't have that, so he admits himself that he resents Simon for having a wife. And that's exactly how I feel. I want my relationship with Jesus to be special, I want to be closer to Him than anyone and to be His beloved, and while part of that is genuine and holy, part of it is because I don't think I'll have or be worthy of anyone else's love. His love is treated as replacement for something "more." So we cling onto that because at least someone chooses us first. "At least" we have Jesus. But we still feel emptier than those who have other people choose to love them. We need to be exceptional and distinct because otherwise we'll be forgotten. Left behind.

And then John sees what his words have done to Simon and the pain his friend is carrying, and the change is instant. He runs to him and holds him and grieves with him and calls him brother, and tries (in his own imperfect way) to offer comfort and encourage Simon to turn to Yeshua for support. John has so much empathy and compassion; it's not that he doesn't care about Simon, and when he realizes what's going on, he immediately is there to support him. But he clearly feels less than Simon--less loved, and less important to Yeshua. And if not even Yeshua would choose him first...who does he have?

So yeah. I feel seen. And I hope that someday I can have the kind of relationship with Jesus that John had.

#the chosen #the chosen tv series #yochanan bar zavdi #kay can i just catch my breath for a second #meta #my meta posts #quality meta seal of approval #not to hype my own post up i just put that on all meta posts so that i can find them #christianity #my christianity #john #simon peter #aro #aromantic #aromanticism #my aromanticism

[anotherqueersnailowner]

hey here's a friendly warning

If I hear anyone of you claim that the A in LGBTQIA+ is for allies and you don't mention the Actual Fucking Queer Identities it actually stands for I will teleport into your room and beat the shit out of you

#just a reminder this isn't a threat but a warning #so really it's not my fault if you don't heed it and thus pay the consequences #arospec #acespec #aromantic #asexual #agender #aromanticism #aroace #aro #lgbtqia #queer #ace #aroflux #a is for aspec

[labcoated-lunacy]

eroticism of the machine this, eroticism of the machine that. what about the AROMANTICISM of the machine. what about the electric comfort of looking at a beautiful turbine engine and knowing that it is just like you. what about the urge to cut open your chest to prove your heart is made of wires and your ribs are made of steel. what about that

#but ily eroticism of the machine people I’m glad you are enjoying your machines #anyways. sure ALL aro(/ace) rep shouldn't be robots #but i personally LOVE the trope #my love for robot characters and machinery imagery is intrinsically linked with aromanticism #(asexuality too in my case) #(but ‘aromanticism’ flowed better in the post) #robotposting #machineposting #aromantic

[aroace-menace]

Aphobia is actually so wild though. I’m literally just chilling. Just going about my silly little life. And billions of people decide that my existence challenges their worldview and they’re not okay with that. That’s so funny. We have too much power.

#like fr what are aphobes on #I’m one minor annoyance away from deciding lettuce doesn’t exist #not that I have any beef with lettuce #it’s a lovely vegetable imo #it just challenges my worldview yk #aro #aromantic #aromanticism #ace #asexual #asexuality #aroace #queer #lgbtqia #aspec #arospec #acespec #amatonormativity #the menace is yapping

[carterthefrog]

fuck romance, have you ever had a friendship where you both agree that you are the single most important person to each other? one where you feel like you are kindred souls and that you can talk to each other about literally anything because you both just get it? one where there's nothing you can say or do around them that would embarrass you even a little bit? cuz that shit is so much more powerful than romance just trust me dude

#so many people assume that being aromantic means i hate affection but like. no im so passionately affectionate about my friends #you guys simply underestimate how much love and joy my best friend provides for me on a daily basis #aromantic #aspec #asexuality #asexual #aroace #aromanticism

[knifearo]

“do you like girls or boys?” i don’t actually! thank you for asking :D

#aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aroace #aspec #aro positivity #asexual #ace positivity #throws seven thousand positivity tags on a post. look at my silly happy jokes everybody #yes this has been done a thousand times before. but never with my silly little emoticon and i think it’s important #talking