#aro-spec friendly

[pokimoko]

It's Aro-Spec Awareness Week again my friends, and that means it's time for more silly little critters! (You can find last year's here.) ✨Keep up the amazing work, fellow aros✨

#aro #aro week #aromantic #aro week 2024 #aromantic awareness week #art #aromantic awareness week 2024 #aro spec #digital art #my art #snake #snake art #tw snakes #pigeon #bird #bird art #aromanticism #critter series #aromantic artist #aro-spec friendly #vector art #lgbtqia+ #lgbtq+ #decided to do two of my favourite types of animals this time round. love me a snake. i have since i was young #held a python as a kid (via a professional zookeeper) and was hooked. also doesn't hurt that i was born in the year of the snake #and pigeons are my favourite little street-wise bird guy. bopping their lil heads. making prrrr noises. love em #(may there have also been some other outside fandom-related factors that led me doing a snake and a dorky bird? perhaps) #i think these might be my favourite critters yet :3 shh don't tell the others #same deal as always: blanket permission to use as icons so long as you credit me please :) #id in alt text

[genderstarbucks]

hey michael! i wanna request a flirty aromantic flag, for when you often perform romantic acts towards others without romantic intent because you’re aromantic (writing this w a sleepy brain you can fix the desc if u want lol)

also i want the flag to have the green part of the original aro flag with bright pink and purple.

tysm if u get to this!! <33

(i didn’t really check if there was already a flag so just let me know if there is one)

Flirty Aromantic!!

Flirty Aromantic - a term for when you often perform romantic acts towards others without any actual romantic intent

ME REAL

#xenogender #xenogenders #mogai #pro mogai #xenogender coining #xenogender community #mogai safe #mogai terms #mogai friendly #aromantic flag #actually aromantic #aromantic pride #aromantic #aromantism #arospec #aro #aro positivity #aro pride #aro spec #aro spectrum #aroallo #aroflux #aromance #aromantic positivity #aromantic spectrum #aromanticism

[isobug]

Self-partnering / Self-partnered Aro

An Aro-spec committed to oneself; being partner of themself or their own significant other; not looking for a relationship other than you as opposed to singledom; or happy & content while single.

An alternative term/relationship style to Non-partnered and Partnered. An Auto- Spectrum/Auto-spec term.

Coined for Anon

If this was accidentally double-coined, apologies.

#self-partnering aro #self-partnered aro #arospec #aromantic #aro #self-partnering #self-partnered #autospec #auto spectrum #auto spec #mogai flag #liom flag #mogai coining #liom coining #mogai community #liom community #mogai safe #liom safe #mogai friendly #liom friendly #mogaireal #liomreal

[luigis-mogai-mansion]

Lazy flag combos pt.11

Ft. Aloeian/nullic/xlnone with...

Demigender × aroace × aspec

Nebularomantic × oriented aroace × greyace

Qpr × MLM × alloace

No credit needed

#mogai community #mogai friendly #pro mogai #mogaireal #clover speaks #lazy flag combos #flag combo #aloeian #nullic #xlnone #x loving none #demigender #aroace #aromantic asexual #aspec #arospec #acespec #aroacespec #aro ace spec #nebularomantic #oriented aroace #greyace #greyasexual #greysexual #qpr #queerplatonic #tw queer #tw q word #mlm #alloace

[green-enby]

Heyo! Have you watched Koisenu Futari (恋せぬふたり, Two people who can't fall in love) yet? It's a great series, just 8 episodes long! I binged it in one day :) [smiley]

It focuses on two aromantic asexual people living together. This is a little appreciation post, containing some thoughts that it evoked in me as an aroace.

If you don't want spoilers, please don't read!

It's so relatable how Sakuko keeps blaming herself all throughout the show… Insecurity stemming from societal expectations that dictate romance is for everyone, and that people who don't date are somehow "failing" in life; I think this affects allos as well.

When I broke off my romantic relationship, I too felt like it had been my fault, for not having been a good enough partner, for not being able to love them in the same way they loved me.

To finally learn that you are not "defective", that there's other people like you…! I love how the two MCs don't grieve their lack of attraction; Sakuko is perfectly happy discovering she's aroace. She and Takahashi are living their "best life" together.

Sure, many aroaces do wish they were allo, and that needs to be represented too, but this series to me really shined a light over why they want that: it's because amatonormativity is rampant in the world, not because lacking attraction is inherently sad. The main conflicts in the series stem from the clash between allo society and the aroace experience, after all. I think that's neat! It gave me a good dose of aroace joy—while still showing the hurts that come with it, realistically—and I really needed it.

I didn't expect her to come out to her family so soon, but whoa, that was intense. Her mother's negative reaction is what all people who exclude a-spec people from the LGBTQIA+ community should see, to understand that we face the same issues they do.

I haven't come out to my parents as aroace yet, and watching this made me realize how awful it actually feels to be in the closet. I somehow hadn't realized I am. I've always felt safe coming out to them as other things, as bisexual back in the day, and as trans non-binary.

It might be because my confidence disappeared when they reacted badly both times, but this coming out feels almost impossible.

Comparing it to coming out as bi, it's really not that different: if you're bi, you're promiscuous and date too many people; if you're aroace, you're a prude and cold-hearted. If you break away from the status quo, you're wrong either way.

But at least, most people do eventually understand the bi experience, if they understand same-gender attraction, and fuse it with straightness, even though it's a flawed method.

With aros and aces, instead, it's such an alien concept for an allo, which makes it way harder to come out and have to explain to them how to deconstruct allo-amatonormativity. It's exhausting. Thankfully, there's people like Kazu who are actually willing to learn about us. That gives me hope.

I feel like it's super eye-opening to find out the concept of romance didn't even exist in the past. Pretty sure that in Europe, it originated during the Middle Ages from the ideal of chivalry. So it's really just a social construct, and opting out of it shouldn't be so controversial!

It's just a set of pointless, annoying rules like having to kiss eachother, having to say "I love you", and doing it all a set amount of times, otherwise it's not good enough. What if we don't want to? What if it doesn't come natural to us? If it's just a social construct, fuck it, I'm not adhering to that! We do whatever makes us happy!

Even in the series itself, Sakuko too goes through a heartbreak, even if it's not the romantic kind: she valued her friendship and future cohabitation with Chizuru above all else, but Chizuru abandoned her, because of romantic love. It's not true that aroaces have it easy.

Like our MC, we have to deal with fear that we'll come off flirty when we're just being friendly, confusion over concepts that we feel we should understand, shame over the fact that we're different, fear of loneliness, frustration and pain that we'll always come second to our friends' romantic partners, or even trauma from a relationship or sexual encounter that we didn't really want. I could go on and on.

These last scenes really got to me. Especially the second one… I admit that I cried, when she had to turn her down, and it seemed like her aromanticism had ruined their relationship. It hurts that the way I am could seriously harm someone I care about. It hurts that most people work differently and that they can't help it, and that we can't help it either. I don't like being put in that position, to cause someone a heartbreak. I have with my ex, and had to watch them spiral down… It was horrible.

Still, I wouldn't change my orientation for the world. I'm confident in my identity, I love being aroace.

In the end, we can all reach our full potential, reach a point where we feel fulfilled and that we're living our best life, find ourselves a family if it's what we want, have our dream job and house. Being aroace doesn't condemn us to a life of unhappiness. That's what this series left me with by the end; it gave me so much hope for my future.

(I'm aware I'm coming off as a bit toxically positive here haha, sorry if I'm striking a bad chord; I'm just in a really good period right now, and riding this wave for as long as I can! Hopefully I can rub it off someone else as well.)

That said, I really loved this j-drama, it was funny and relatable and emotional, I wished it had lasted longer! It seems like the author isn't even aroace herself, so I'm amazed at how good the representation was! So much thought and research has gone into it, and it shows; the result is amazing.

Thanks for reading my scattered thoughts about this! 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

#koisenu futari #aroace representation #aroace #aroace characters #aroace positivity #aphobia #amatonormativity #allonormativity #aspec #aspec character #aspec positivity #aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual #lgbtqia+ #lgbtqia #queer #queer shows #queer representation #spoilers #canon aroace #aroace character #qpr #found family #coming out #jdrama #japanese series #japan #short series #sa mention

[aro-sora]

Aro Writing Collection

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Visibility Day, I wanted to share some resources to find aromantic books/poetry/writing of any kind

A Carnival of Aros

Aro Worlds fiction

AZE Journal

The Aro Zine

Arospec Poetry Network (and their zine collection)

Aro & Ace books database

Queer Books database

Queer Fiction Book database

Aromantic stories recommended by Claudie Arseneault

AUREA's resources page

Aromantic books and no romance books on @aroaessidhe

Aromantic books on @aro-who-reads

Aro friendly media, Aggressively Arospectacular, and Aggressively Arospec Week on @aggressivelyarospec

@arospecfanworksweek for aro fanworks

Also I'm adding Commons Bonds as a book rec. It's a spec fic anthology of aromantic/platonic-focused works (you can find it in the aro books lists/databases linked above too)

If anyone has other things to add let me know!

(and thanks to @haveievermentioned for some of the recs)

#aro #aromantic #arospec #actually aromantic #aro writing #aro books #resource #aromantic spectrum #aromantic spectrum visibility day #to read

[aro-polls]

Have you encountered any aros in offline spaces?

- Yes, in a general space (I’m aro)

- Yes, in a queer friendly space (I’m aro)

- Yes, in a space intended for a-specs (I’m aro)

- No, I’ve only met aros online (I’m aro)

- Yes, in a general space (I’m not aro)

- Yes, in a queer friendly space (I’m not aro)

- Yes, in a space intended for a-specs (I’m not aro)

- No, I’ve only met aros online (I’m not aro)

#aromantic #aromanticism #aro #lgbtqia #queer #poll #pollblor

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

Hello there!

Mod team:

I'm Jamie and I use any pronouns but prefer masc (he/him) thank you! I'm on the A-spectrum, specifically aegosexual and aromantic!!

My name's Noah Oats and I use they/them pronouns! I'm aroace, specifically quoiromantic and aegosexual! I have diagnosed ADHD and am an INFP :D

We’re here for all your Questions, Rants, Vents and Confessions!

Ask box is always open and we’re always here for your asks!

We are here to educate, explain and help with anyone who needs it!

Stay safe, remember you are valid and its your box!

LOVE U ALL U ARE VALID

Link to my Aro-spec post

Link to a post containing most Ace Spec identities

Asexual Wiki, Aromantic Wiki,

the Asexual Visibility and Education Network -Asexual resource

AUREA - the Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy

List of Aroace Spectrum resources

Connect to the community - aces and aros The Battle of the Phobics Link to link post

The comments section link to a helpful article on how to educate/beat the acephobes

Ask box Days!

Sunday: sex stories Sunday, for aro and/or ace specs! Block the tag “aroace explicit” to avoid!

Mondays: free day

Tuesday: rant and vents! Everything goes but everything answered with a ‘.’ Thing

Wednesday: free day

Thursday: minor friendly Thursday! A day for just minors asks to be answered about their aspec ID and questions. Block “aroace minors” to avoid

Friday: free day

Saturday: free day

Recommend blogs

please feel free to ask me first, if I don’t provide a good answer or you want more you can ask again or go to one of these blogs! Please tag more blogs I should add to this list!!

@asexualadvice - asexual advice! (Read blog but helpful info!)

@aegosexual-moments - the aegosexual blog of all time (excluding myself /j)

@aromantic-diaries - Very cool aro person!

(Yes I know my profile pic is off center, suffer)

(It’s seperate because aroace is unfortunately usually viewed as one identity, ace and aro are separated spectrums)

(If I hear one more complaint about my icon I’ll change it to what ever random piece of art crosses my dash next and you wouldn’t like that would you??)

The Blogs blogs that are kinda fan accounts???? wtf????

@aroaceplaceforsome they’re the neutral party here, they use pronouns

@throwawaysoiwontgeteatenbyjamie a whore

THANK YOU SO MUCH TO @the-knowable-entity for drawing our profile pic!!!

Banner art by @pride-flag-planets

The forces:

A collection of multi member blogs dedicated to one country of aspecs… all against Denmark

@aussieaspecforces

@indianaspecforces

@americanaspecforces

@british-aspec-forces

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #aspec #intro post #finally #pride month #ace pride #aro pride #aroace pride #queer resources #resources #lgbtqiia+ #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #lgbtqplus

[godmodebeginswithlesbians-2]

friendly (/gen) reminder not to use a-spec when you specifically mean the asexual spectrum! the proper term would be ace-spec, and the proper term for specifically the aromantic spectrum would be aro-spec!

(source: https://aroworlds.com/allo-aro/allo-aro-friendly-a-spec-terminology/ )

#mia's mumblings #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #alloaro

[identitty-dickruption]

friendly reminder that aromantic is not on the ace spectrum, and that not all aromantic people are asexual. they are different identities, and as an allosexual aro-spec I am sick of seeing the two things treated as if they’re interchangeable

[crown-jay]

A (perhaps-not-so) Friendly Reminder!

Aspec does not mean: "Ace-spec and Aro-spec and that's it". And y'all need to stop saying it is. I know some of it may be unintentional, and that you might be uneducated, but here's the thing:

You can be Aspec with literally any and all forms of attraction.

That's right. If there is a form of attraction, there are people out there who don't experience it, or experience it differently from people who experience it in the "normal", Allo way. And those people are aspec. They might not identify as aspec. They might not even know what that is, but they are inherently aspec. Which means; by saying that aspec identities are just ones that fall under ace-spec and aro-spec, you are excluding a lot of people.

Let's take me for example:

Yes, I am aroace, but I am also:

Aplatonic

Asensual

Nonaesthetic

Analterous

Probably other aspec identities

I am aspec, but that's not just because of my aroace identity.

If you mean ace-spec, just say that. If you mean aro-spec, just say that. If you mean aroace-spec just say that. It is that easy. If you don't mean aspec, don't say aspec.

Edit (5/5/23): It has been brought to my attention that I forgot about Agender folks. My apologies, I had sort of tunnel visioned on attraction types. But yes, Agender people are also Aspec!

#aspec #asexual #aromantic #aroace #acespec #arospec #queer #lgbtq #a friendly reminder #aplatonic #nonaesthetic #asensual #analterous

[aethiriarts]

Pinned Post! ✨

OK I I feel it's about time I make a pinned post/intro since I been gaining a bit of a following and wanna put stuff upfront! Hi! I'm Thiri! I'm an artist of many things from my own OCs/Original content to some fandom stuff!

MY TAGS: Art tag - #my art Ask tag - #ask me Things to keep in mind while on my account/posts!:

🔞 I AM AN ADULT AND PREFER ONLY TO INTERACT WITH OTHER ADULTS IF I HAVE A CHOICE! My account has suggestive content. Keep that in mind. So I don't really wanna interact with minors if I don't have to. /nm I'm sure ya'll are lovely but I'm 25 and don't wanna try to make friends with random minors on the internet. Would just prefer to stay around people my own age. 🏳️‍🌈 This page is LGBTQIA+ friendly!!! (I am a bisexual(? For fictional characters at least...) demi-girl myself, pretty sure I'm aro-spec/ace-spec) We do NOT tolerate bigotry or unwarranted hate here! I will hit that block button so hard you feel that shit the rest of your life. Do better. Be better. Not just for other people but also for yourself. It's can't be easy being filled with so much hate to the point you hurt others to make yourself feel better or like you're superior. /gen /nm 🔄 I go through hyperfixation changes!!!!!! So if you're here and only expect a specific kind of content and nothing else, gonna have to tell you ahead of time that this may not be the account for you in the long run! 💚 I draw what I'm personally invested in at the time and don't force myself to draw content for others to consume if I am not interested. (At least I try... I'm a healing people pleaser. So don't push me please) 💫 I'm a tired lil mentally ill bitch 💚💙 I can go long periods without posting or drawing anything for a variety of reasons. So I am NOTTTT CONSISTENT BABES. 🛑 PLEASE DO NOT REPOST MY ART. At least make sure to credit me/link back to me if you do! HOWEVER. If I already post to the same site you're trying to post on. Just reblog/share my own posts I make. Thank you! 💚 ✅ You may use my fanart as pfps/banners with credit in bio! 💕 I am a MULTISHIPPER!!! I may have personal preferences but I am NOT exclusive to those preferences. Also polyamory is a thing so they should all hold hands and kiss. :) 💌 If you send an ASK with art requests Please keep in mind I may not get to all of them or do all of them. (I also prioritize interacting with close friends's asks if I have the energy cause I love making my friends happy they mean the world to me! Kiss kiss mwah!!!)

I also am not nearly as likely to draw other people's OCs. (Again unless they're close friends) If you want that. You're welcome to inquire about commissioning me! Though my prices aren't exactly cheap. So I understand if not! BUT YEH That's about it for now :) Thank you for reading! And I hope you have a nice day!!!!

#pinned intro #pinned post

[genderstarbucks]

Can you please coin a term that is both fluid between the asexual and allosexual spectrum but is also fluid between the arromantic and romantic spectrum?

Alloarofluid!!

Alloarofluid - a term under the abroromantic and aroflux umbrella, where one is fluid between the alloromantic and aromantic spectrum

I already made alloacefluid that I just posted so I just made alloarofluid

#xenogender #xenogenders #mogai #pro mogai #xenogender coining #xenogender community #mogai safe #mogai terms #mogai friendly #aromantic #aromantic pride #arospec #aromantic flag #actually aromantic #aro positivity #aro pride #aro spec #aro spectrum #aromantic positivity #aromance #aromantic spectrum #aromanticism #aroflux #aroallo #aroflux flag #heartless aro #loveless aro #non sam aro #actually aro #aro

[aroacechillzone]

HEY

Are you an aro and/or ace-spec teen? Are you looking to find some community? Come join A-Spec Teens Hangout! We are a small but friendly server of less than 50 with lots of fun, memes, and lore! DM me if you're interested and I'll give you the invite link!

#aro #aromantic #ace #asexual

[yourfaveisliterallyaro]

How to request, DNI, and more!

Obligatory DNI:

>No bigots obviously (Homophobia, Transphobia, Xenophobia, Xenogenderphobia, Racists, Aphobia, etc.)

>No flag discourse please, I always ask the people who make requests what flag THEY want in the post and will use that flag regardless of who made the flag.

>MAPs, ZOOs, etc. (Unless you're in recovery of course)

How to Request:

>Message me what character you'd like me to post (Can be messages or asks)

>If you want specific, unique, or uncommon flags let me know (Though I'll probably double check anyways)

>Optional: Provide an image of the character you want

>MUST include an Aromantic or Aro-spec identity (For example "Lithromantic Edd, from Eddsworld" is fine but "Aegosexual Kermit, from The Muppets" isn't)

>You can request OCs! PLEASE request your OCs!! (But please provide me with an image of them)

Stuff About Me:

I use Tee/Tor/Tors/Tors/Torself pronouns. If you're confused on how to use them then it's the same way you'd use any standard pronoun, "Tee has a cat, and tor named him Spinal Cord! Tors cat is very friendly and tor adopted him all by torself!"

I'm also fine with He/Him pronouns!

Uhhhhh ok that's it bye

[genderqueerpositivity]

It is super telling that your messaging has never changed, but who you get shit for affirming sure does. Aces, Aros, briefly m-spec folks, then Poly and Micro-labels and MOGAIs, now, trans men. Fucking exhausting, but thanks so much for existing.

It literally is a cycle; six months from now it'll be something else. Honestly every aspect of my own identity has been up for debate at some point, and then other identities that I don't share too.

It is fucking exhausting.

This has been a really rough year for me, and reconnecting with my local queer and trans communities is a goal for me next year. In my experience, the kind of shit that happens online doesn't happen as frequently in actual queer spaces. My local community has inclusive spaces that are trans and nonbinary friendly, there are polyam and kink friendly events.

I miss the trans support group I used to go to. Nobody would've called me transphobic simply because they disagree with my opinions about my own oppression as a trans person because that would be a totally fucking rude and absurd thing to do to somebody.

Can you imagine doing that to someone face to face? The idea is ridiculous. But so many people in our community feel safe with behaving like total assclowns from behind a phone or computer screen and it isn't okay.

#ask box