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What do you think about the ISTP x INFJ pairing?? How do you think their dynamic could be?? Thank you! 💕

Hi Anon!!

Well lucky for you, I am an INFJ who had a 2 year relationship with an ISTP. I've reflected on our time as partners in these posts:

How ISTPs can do better when paired with INFJs

How INFJs can do better when paired with ISTPs

My (INFJ) relationship story with an ISTP

and for fun, a meme.

I hope these provide some insight! However, I suspect you were looking for less of a personal reflection and moreso a socionics analysis, so here's that:

Each the reverse inverse of the other's ego, ISTPs and INFJs are partners and playmates. In the expanded theory of Myers-Briggs, this pairing is known as "Supplement", and in Socionics its denominated "Activation".

This pairing can resemble complements; however, these relations are somewhat less fulfilling (hence "supplementary" rather than "complementary"). Activation relationships are often romantic if both partners find each other attractive. These relationships are often very easy to start, as both partners share either extraversion or introversion. Introvert activation relationships appear reserved.(a)

When presented with the same scenario, Supplement pairs will begin reasoning from different angles but ultimately follow the same logic. It's like racing the same track but starting from opposite sides of the loop; they arrive at the same conclusion by retracing each other's path, ending up in agreement but for different reasons.

For ISTPs and INFJs, this is likely to lead to both mutual appreciation and fascination. They find each other's perspectives useful for connecting the dots. Their constructive rapport and unique affinity makes them good partners in both work and play; while they don't quite balance each other like yin and yang, they do fit together and finish each other, like yin and upsidedown yin.

While INFJs seek external harmony, ISTPs value internal consistency. The INFJ will be intrigued by the ISTP's mental frameworks, and the ISTP will be compelled by the INFJ's holistic analyses.

As a couple, the ISTP and INFJ will remain somewhat mysterious to each other, yet one will always meet the other where they are at. As two developed individuals, they will naturally have each other's backs. Where the INFJ struggles to structure their world the ISTP will step in to help, and where the ISTP lacks insight into their choices the INFJ will offer wisdom.

However, as two undeveloped individuals, the ISTP and INFJ will easily slide into codependency and contempt. The INFJ will resent the ISTP for their unwillingness to engage in emotional labor, and the ISTP will feel burdened by the INFJ's avoidance of technical labor.

To avoid these pitfalls, the INFJ will have to get their shit together, and the ISTP will have to face their wounds. The INFJ may benefit from a coach, and the ISTP needs a therapist, rather than each asking the other to fulfill that role for them. Once they address these personal liabilities, they can flourish into a fruitful interdependence where they find safety, stability, and deep trust in each other.

Thanks for the request, feel free to send more asks in the future!

(a) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Socionics

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Anon wrote: Hello, 24M ISTP here hoping to help my 25F INFJ girlfriend, or at least understand her. It’s a persisting problem that’s taking a noticeable toll on her mental health and I’m a little lost on what to do.

We live in the UK, and drinking culture is HUGE here, particularly regarding an almost obsession with pubs. They’re seen as a community hub in a way for a lot of people. I personally only have one or two drinks on special occasions and my girlfriend is teetotal, so neither of us feel the need to go to these places ourselves. The problem, for my girlfriend, is how this interferes with the rest of her social life. She has a lot of online friends, but aside from myself and her sister, she only really hangs out with her work colleagues. Most of these outings involve drinking to an extent.

My girlfriend said herself, several times, that she doesn’t like the pub crowd. It’s not her scene, it’s noisy and cramped a lot of the time and she just finds it boring. Honestly I agree with her. She’s even had some people grilling her about why she doesn’t drink, which obviously won’t help. When it’s just the two of us, we usually go to some sort of cafe, or an actual activity like arcades or museums, because that’s what we both enjoy. Whenever she goes out with her colleagues, though, she comes home miserable and deflated. I suggested offering to go someplace else with them, but she’s apparently asked a few of them around the weekend time and they always say they’re busy.

I’ll see her obsessively scrolling on Reddit or Twitter at sometimes 4AM, looking into why people love drinking/pubs so much and to see if anyone feels the same way that she does. It seems to start this vicious cycle of guilt if she can’t find the answers she wants because she’ll see people praising pubs and what they mean to them. She tells me how she feels like she doesn’t fit in here, and it’s warping her view of the world generally, because so many people love and revolve their leisure time around an activity that she hates. Basically she thinks that there’s something wrong with her.

She’s tried to branch out a little over the last few weeks by taking music classes and volunteering, but she’s really shy and hasn’t formed any friendships so far, which is making her feel even worse. So she falls back into her usual routine of going to places that she hates because people want her to. I take her out to do what she likes as often as I can, but honestly I think there’s a deeper problem at play here.

I asked her if she feels lonely, and she said no. She doesn’t miss the connection of an actual friendship, she actually enjoys having lots of alone time. She told me it comes from a need to feel socially competent, and this does line up with her behaviour. The way she talks, acts, dresses, is all done so she can be perceived a certain way. She wants people to see her as someone that has friends and a fulfilling social life. But like I say to her - she’s not a public figure, she’s not a fictional character. There’s no audience here aside from the people she chooses to be around. Why is she sabotaging herself?

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Consult the article about Caring for Emotional Needs for tips about how to offer comfort to people in distress. Questions about how to help are always complicated because there are so many factors that could influence the outcome. The most important factors to consider are: 1) how open the person is to receiving help, 2) whether they possess enough inner and outer resources to carry out good advice, and 3) whether your presence has the potential to hinder them. From your description, it is unclear how these factors will play out.

Have you read the study guides and do you understand functional stacks and type development? It sounds like she is having difficulty with auxiliary development and reaching a point of auxiliary resistance, which can potentially trigger a gradual descent into tertiary loop. It is a common issue across all types.

It's possible there's something awry with her intentions. Approaching function development with the wrong intention often leads to negative results. She works very hard, perhaps too hard, to fit in, which indicates Fe overindulgence, but then also claims that she does not need the Fe things she's working for. She claims to want "social competence", which is ostensibly about healthy Fe, but then rejects vital opportunities to develop genuine social competence. Denial and ambivalence are major factors behind why people get stuck in developmental ruts. In essence, people want auxiliary development but also want to avoid the difficulties of it, which can lead them to choose dead ends and overlook viable opportunities.

Yes, it is self-sabotage, but it's important to remember that these "choices" are generally made unconsciously from a deep and dark place of pain, suffering, ignorance, or desperation. Although it might seem irrational to onlookers, it is rational to do what is necessary to alleviate short-term pain, in an effort to regain enough mental capacity to tackle long-term problems. However, when pain cannot be adequately alleviated (usually due to not having learned the right tools for coping), it starts to wreak havoc psychologically.

I often say that the easy path isn't usually the right path when it comes to personal growth. Ideally, she should go through the arduous process of making new friends with people who are better suited to her personal preferences and needs. Branching out is the better choice but also the more difficult choice because it involves facing up to painful truths about herself, i.e., to nakedly expose the shyness and deep insecurities that lie at the heart of the struggle. She has yet to realize that it is precisely through facing up to those vulnerabilities that genuine social competence is eventually achieved.

Since she isn't ready to face up to the real underlying problem, she's leaning on her colleagues at the pub. As you said, pub culture is huge in the UK, so enjoying it would allow one to quickly fit in with a significant swath of the population. However, as huge as pub culture is, there are also huge numbers of people with other interests, but it might be difficult to meet them without making a big change to one's immediate social environment. From my observations, spending too much time with people at work can really limit one's perspective, like putting all your eggs in one basket. I generally don't recommend seeking out personal relationships in the workplace unless you just happen to meet someone you really, really click with.

If she lacks the wherewithal to change her social environment, she might be feeling out of options and that might be why she's trying to force the pub situation, as it helps maintain some illusion of control. The misery she feels as a result is an extremely important warning sign but she's ignoring it, which indicates poor self-care and a need to improve emotional intelligence. Chasing these existing relationships is the golden path of least resistance, but it only seems easy on the surface. In the end, it's also an incredibly difficult path because she must deny herself and sacrifice her integrity for the pretense of fitting in, which basically amounts to self-violence.

In short, both paths are difficult, but only one will lead to proper function development and personal growth. In cases of auxiliary overindulgence, the dominant function doesn't work optimally. Without healthy Ni, it's difficult for her to understand the longer term implications of her choices. All FJs need a strong sense of belonging and community in order to flourish in life. Fe-related needs are legitimate and she must learn to fully embrace them as an integral part of her identity. Ideally, she should be encouraged to fulfill her Fe needs and be offered support as needed/requested. However, though it's hard to watch someone you care for struggle, you can't compel or force them to develop a function when they are not psychologically ready for it. It's something she ultimately has to decide to do on her own, for her own good.

Since her auxiliary function is your inferior function, you are in a dangerous position. You could inadvertently be a negative influence if your inferior Fe distorts her view of auxiliary Fe. It's important that you are mindful about your own relationship to Fe. You have to understand that auxiliary and inferior functions are very different animals that require very different approaches in type development. You should avoid expressing inferior Fe in a way that gives her a convenient excuse to withdraw from auxiliary Fe development entirely. This would be the worst case scenario from the perspective of type development.

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About MBTI romantic compatibility

In this post I want to talk about my personal thoughts based on what I observe about MBTI romantic compatibility or romantic compatibility in general.

Because remember, MBTI isn't enough when looking for a partner; there can be:

Very different people of the same type

Similar people of very different types

It also depends on what similitarities and differences mean for you.

MBTI: COMPATIBLE, SIMILIAR, DIFFERENT

Think at colors: there are colours which matches armonically to you but maybe you still preferer a "very similar" colour that accompany you or "very different" one that make you natural color stands up

1) COMPATIBLE if you look for an armonical balance between your differences (dichotomies) and similarities (same primary function but inverted and same process thoughts of the other two functions)

E/I + P/J difference or also F/T or N/S depending on what is the primary function (change the other). F/T or N/S lead to apparently more differences but deeply same way to process some thoughts (exactly same middle cognitive functions)

Example: INTJ x ENFP or ENTP

Example: ISFP x ESFJ or ENFJ

2) SIMILIAR: same type or similiar in many things (but not having the same primary function and thinking process can still lead to a not so small difference): you prefer having more similitarities with your partner (e.g. both introverted)

Change just a letter (be conscious that usually the S/N difference alone could still lead to a strong difference)

Example: INTJ x INTJ or ENTJ or INFJ or INTP (or also ISTJ)

ABOUT changing only the last 2 dichotomies: it will lead to a more complex mix between similarities and differences, usually it can be great at times but can also lead to many misunderstandings, for this reason I see more friendships than romantic partners on these.

Example: INTJ x INFP

Example: ESTP x ESFJ

3) DIFFERENT: very different type or opposite type: you feel safe with a companion that can do the things you can't do.

Example: INTJ x ESFP, ESTP, ESTJ, ISFJ,...

Is it immature?

If all you look for is just a personality type yes, but if you consider many things among which a specifically personality type... no. People choose their partner based on physical appearance, interests, sympathy, familiarity, style of life... and choosing based on the way a person perceive and process reality that affect every part of their daily life is nothing but deep.

"BUT if you both are willing to make it work..."

I will be honest here on my opinion. We are not talking about getting along with colleagues or in family or something forced, but with romantic relationships. It's so natural to look for a "compatible" friendship, why not with romance? Friends can be many while a romantic partner is hopefully just one and for every day of our life; and every relationship is already difficult by itself without us making it more complicated. We will live and share everything with our partner, make decisions with them, see and talk to them everyday: for this reason I personally don't see why we can't be selective.

So... is MBTI compatibility important? Depends

My personal opinion is that compatibility in general is very important, but not each couple needs MBTI compatibility to work well.

Your perfect match depends on who you are and what you look for in a partner.

-> Some thoughts to consider for wishing to have MBTI compatibility or not:

If your MBTI type is a huge part of who you are and your mental process - choose YES

Passions, interests, character and other things have a huge impact of who or your partner are more than MBTI - choose NO

You are selective and look for deep understanding of who you are to feel completely gotten - choose YES

You get along easily with others and feeling get is not your primary need (or not by a partner), you enjoy and look for other things - choose NO

Your process thoughts deeply, analyse others and observe a lot - choose YES

You are in tune with the ambience more than focusing too deeply on the others, you are more practical and a doer - choose NO

IMPORTANT CONSIDERATIONS

Your answer can be different of the one of your partner. For example an INFJ chooses her ENFP for MBTI compatibility because she wants to have long conversations and feel mentally connected with him while ENFP chooses her for the way she treats him and prefers spending time doing some hobbies together. So their relationship's will won't match.

If you wish for MBTI compatibility:

I will repeat it another time: MBTI isn't enough! There are always other things that defines us as values, humour, interests, style of life, mentality. So your life partner will be one of the personalities you get along with: not all will work perfectly with you!

MBTI isn't a guarantee! There is no perfect balance and every couple needs work.

If you wish for other kind of compatibilities:

Still be conscious about your personalities! Sometimes feelings cover our differences and you are ok with how are some things now but maybe in the future you or your partner will look for other things.

Be aware! Not thinking about it doesn't remove their type and your similarities/differences, the best is knowing your MBTI types and still be sure it's the best for you! MBTI knowledge in any case could always help in your journey.

Some example of couples I know:

MBTI compatible couples:

ISFP x ENFJ: natural match and they also share the same way to see life - worked

ESFP x ISFJ: compatible but the mental disorders of one destroyed their relationships and also their interests didn't match - didn't work

Not MBTI compatible couples:

INFP x ISTJ: they have the same values of family and both looked for a companion that can do what they couldn't, and feel safe in the differences of the other - worked

INFP x ESTJ: they loved the differences because they made them feel safe, during life they realized they needed to feel understood by the other and suffered for the lack of similitarities - didn't work

FINAL THOUGHTS

Be careful and choose what is best for YOU depending on what you and your partner look for in a relationship. Because at the end knowing what you want in your love life and waiting until you find it is the most important thing! If you want read this last part by thinking at different characteristics other than MBTI.

Different partner: more work to to but they can help you with doing the things you can't do. Always looking for an opposite partner can be sometimes linked to low self esteem, or positively to a strong adaptation ability.

Similiar partner: less work to do but you will have the same limits and face the same problems. Always looking for a very similar partner can be sometimes a sign of immaturity, or positively of a sensitive trait.

I'll say it again:

I talked about MBTI compatibility but remember that MBTI doesn't describe us totally so choose wisely considering that person completely!

And work with your defects and mental disorders, with them every relationship is destined to fail or be unhealthy or toxic.

Maybe you are thinking "love is blind"... to our mind maybe yes, but unconsciously is linked to how we see ourselves deeply.

Feelings may last some time but having a partner hopefully will last a life.

I wish you all the best love life :)

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MBTI INFP romantic pairings and couples:

Lol yes it’s back! A lot of people seemed to really like those posts, so I thought I'd do an update since I found a couple more examples recently. However this time I'm gonna compile them all into this one post instead doing individual all over again lol. I compiled a pretty good list so I hope you guys like it! Also Happy 69th post! Woohoo! 🥳 (Yes I’m childish like that lmao)

Carlos de Vil (INFP) and Jane (ISFJ) - Descendants

Ashlynn Ella (INFP) and Hunter Huntsman (ISFP) - Ever After High

Sybil Crawley (INFP) and Tom Branson (ENTP) - Downtown Abbey

Furukawa Nagisa (INFP) and Okazaki Tomoya (ISFP) - Clannad

Allison Cameron (INFP) and Gregory House (INTJ) - House M.D

(I was hesitant to put this one bc they technically weren't really ever a thing but they did have feelings for each other)

Allison Cameron (INFP) and Robert Chase (ISTP) - House M.D

Allen Ginsberg (INFP) and Lucien Carr (ENFP) - Kill Your Darlings

I was hesitant to include them as well because they have a complex relationship, but I don't wanna spoil lol. So for those of you who do know what I mean, I'd honestly just say it depends on your pov (like with house and cameron).

Agustin (INFP) and Julieta (ISFJ) Madrigal - Encanto

Cameron James (INFP) and Bianca Stratford (ESFJ) - 10 Things I Hate About You

Izumi Miyamura (INFP) and Kyouko Hori (ESFJ) - Horimiya

Kou Sakuragi (INFP) and Naoya Nifuji (ENFJ) - Wotaki

**Note, I think most of their screen time together as a couple is in the OVA

Dorthy Boyd (INFP) and Jerry Maguire (ESFJ/ENFJ)

It's been a while since I've seen the movie but ik he's def Fe dom.

Mia Thermopolis (INFP) and Michael Moscovitz (ISFP) - Princess Diaries

Mia Thermopolis (INFP) and Nicholas Devereaux (ESTP) - Princess Diaries 2

Alrighty that's it for now lol

Let me know what you think! :) Feel free to share any thoughts or recommendations!

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Example of an ISFJ-ISTP romantic relationship: Golden Garden

ISFJs (Willow) primarily look for authentic, emotional connections. As a result, they have a need to feel deeply connected to their partner, and they enjoy figuring out ISTPs (Hunter). 

ISFJs have a natural talent for reading people and noticing subtle changes in body language and ISTPs tend to find this emotional intelligence attractive, as ISTPs appreciate partners who can help them get in touch with their feelings because this doesn’t come naturally to people of this personality type.

Both personality types are practical and down to earth. 

ISTPs and ISFJs are both introverted, Sensing personalities, meaning they are reserved, pragmatic, and focused on the here and now. However, ISTPs are generally more logical and adaptable, while ISFJs are empathetic and organized.

#The owl house #hunter noceda #hunter wittebane #willow park #Toh #Willow toh #hunter toh #golden garden #Huntlow #winter #winter toh #Isfj #istp #mbti #mbti relationships

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If MBTI types were yandere dudes #4 (ISTP)

Note: The mbti types as Yanderes is done just for fun and I’m not an expert in MBTI. It’s all exaggerated so I hope this doesn’t offend anyone. Also, this is more of a ramble for me to de-stress. DNI if you’re a minor.

Content Warnings: You can interpret some things to imply as non-con or just unwanted physical affections, this includes something with an android, and the usual yandere kidnapping + obsession

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✨ISTP✨

Probably known as the “bad boy”. He’s the guy to call for when you need some repairs done around the house, or to have him work his magic on the car. But he’s a tinkerer when it comes to his relationship with you.

Keenly interested and charm by you, yet got no clue on how to express his romantic inclinations. He’s so clueless on how to go about it, that you’re taken back in surprise when he randomly and off handedly states that both of you are together now. Then even more confused (and alarmed) with how obsessed he is with you. For him, he thinks he has already confessed his love to you. But it’s most likely that it was worded poorly or maybe sounded like an attempt of a joke to you. Heck, maybe you thought his heart had already been taken by his car (Which probably got pimped out to the nines with all sort of crazy gizmos, all installed or even created by his own two hands).

He doesn’t see why he needs to verbalize that he loves you. Can’t you see it through his actions? Actions that lean more into the physical intimate side. (In fact, he will quickly resort to expressing his love for you through physical means, early on in the relationship) He’s just more of a guy who expresses what he wants through physical means rather than with words. 

He’s always working on some sort of project. Never seem to be phased or stressed out by anything that life throws at him. Including whatever you might try to pull and throw at him (literally and figuratively). He’ll just give you a lazy grin or an amused smile, much to your frustration. Great at handling mechanical tools/machinery to bring his creative ideas to life. Taking risks and getting hands on are no problems for this guy. In fact, he actually enjoys facing situations that requires a physical risk. Your aggressive fight to escape him might just get him more excited….  Wouldn’t mind sometimes giving you punishments either... 

A private guy who won’t really share his thoughts out of nowhere or about himself. So he would be evading whatever personal questions you might have for him (maybe like when you’re trying to dig up dirt on him/find his weakness), and just shoot questions back at you. 

Wants honesty, warmth, and loyalty from his life long partner. Someone who can see the humor in their everyday lives, and who also hates the repetitive grind of life. So a sweet traditional home life is not what he wants with you. If you have a dark secret, he would be curious about it and most likely take in with easy strides. 

Will take initial interest in someone who shows interest in his projects. (But if you don’t give him enough space for him to work in peace, he would lose interest in you. Or if he’s already too deep in his obsession with you, he will put you away ….and pull out the android version of you for the time being. Yeah, more on that later.)  If you got a project that requires hands-on practicality (like renovating your place), he would be happy to help you out. Just make sure to follow what he says. But he might also get too involved/controlling with your project. 

He likes being in the present moment, savoring the feeling of what’s happening at the time. Would easily and calmly adapt to any situation with a rational mindset. Trying to spite him (maybe due to getting ticked off by that smug grin of his), will be handled with ease by him. 

He never plans. For the longest time, a romantic relationship was the furthest thing from what he was looking for in life. From his past experiences, it just never works out in the long run. So he had always just shrug it off and moved on, going from project to project to fill his days, awhile experiencing whatever thrills he can find in life to fill in between those projects. But if he got you in his grasp, he would want to experience those thrilling moments with you. Just you, no crowds. Get use to him changing plans at a moment’s notice. All for the sake of excitement. 

Even kidnapping you is on the spur of the moment. Which will probably happen after he starts to get obsessed with you. Then kidnapping you for him is like taking home an interesting piece of gadget. Excited to find out everything about you, and how you would react to whatever he does to you. 

What’s interesting is that the only times that you might see him lose his cool, is if in the early stages of the relationship, you want to have a deep discussion with him on transitioning into a long term relationship with him. He’ll start panicking. Or when he’s stressed out, his mindset can turn cynical and negative. Then he gets snappy. His spontaneous energy gets muted and is less likely to enjoy what’s going on at the moment. Starts harshly criticizing you here and there. If it gets really bad and he feels that you’re somehow going to backstab him or attempt to escape, he will start having emotional outbursts. Which afterwards, he will regret with showing such a display.

Strangely, although he never quite prioritize finding romance and rather live in the moment without planning for the future, he probably always had wanted a long term relationship. Because such an appealing idea does offer deep physical intimacy, and he doesn’t want any drama from short lived relationships, after his interest completely disappears for that person. Plus if it’s someone that he’s really interested in, he would be excited to explore/tinker a relationship with them. This appeals to his nature. Yet, he doesn’t realize this, thus thinks a long term commitment is a bore or a confusing pain. That is until he meets you. Probably met you through mutual company or overlapping interests. 

When being physically intimate with you, he would very much want all his senses to be entice. Such as playing slow sensual music in the background, or you wearing clothes that reveal parts of your body/accentuate and flatter your figure. 

He really doesn’t make any plans for the future. If marriage ever cross his mind, it would spontaneously happen, like the subject being casually bought up by a friend. So the idea has a chance entering his mind…but when will he propose? Whenever he feels like it. It may be as random as waking you up in the middle of the night to do so, to even proposing during the time you’re using the bathroom. Just a wtf moment. To him, the idea of marriage is just so exciting at that exact moment, that he wants to get on it right away.

Although very much living in the moment and going with the flow kind of guy, he will refuse to budge when someone tries to change his lifestyle or go against his ideas. He wouldn’t even hesitate to go the other way from the change that the other person might want from him, just for the sake of being stubborn. Then bluntly express his annoyance to their face. 

If something is bothering you and you need words of comfort, forget about telling this to him. His words would mostly be rooted in logic with awkward sprinkling of empathy. It’s that or silence with awkward patting/hugging. But if he has really fallen in love with you and the relationship is going on longer than he would had expected, then he wouldn’t comfort you with words but with physical intimate touches. Might not like it if you try to stop him. 

Got several projects laying around. Some of them abandoned due to his fleeting interest. Sort of an addict for new excitement.  For whatever reason, he doesn’t want to let you go. Might put you through different situations out of curiosity and for his own entertainment. Unfortunately, that means sometimes he will push your boundaries. Yet he will force you to relax and actually enjoy it.

If you shout out your displeasure or anger at him on how he’s treating you, he’ll just shrug it off. Sort of casually dismissing you. Snide remarks or jokes on his expense does not bother him. He might throw it back at you, probably even thinking it’s funny. 

Be aware that his house is rigged with all his mechanical creations. So… in other words, be careful. Don’t be surprise if he rigged some contraptions to trap or test you for fun. Definitely got a workshop in his house. Depending on how you’re acting and how he’s feeling, he might give you a more personal intimate tour in his workshop….

Let’s say you were able to escape from him and whatever he got set up for you, he wouldn’t understand why this has happened. How did you escape? Why did you escape? So… what’s he going to do about it? He will make a replica of you. An android. Then he’s going to figure out what went wrong by putting that android version of you through a bunch of tests. Lots of taking the android you apart and putting back together again. Taking notes on the results from those tests. And because he’s obsessed with you, he’s going to have the android you as a temporarily replacement for getting his much needed physical intimacy…. Then if he gets you back, he’ll want to try out what he has learned from those tests, on you. The android isn’t completely replacing you. Nothing can beat the real deal…

Fantasy or isekai whatever: might be the guy who engineered the secret passages and traps in the castle, the whole damn town, or whatever place you’re staying at. Once you step inside, you’re at the mercy of his whims.

More of a horror touch (based on popular media): Your paramedic or ER doctor. Could be the guy who made your car (For a more goofy/campy touch, the car would eat anyone who tries to put the moves on you). Could be the pilot, who kidnaps you to an island where he has built a playground for the both of you. Maybe he’s the dude who creates traps and throw in a bunch of people for punishment or fun. Or could simply be the guy who you hire to repair some stuff in your house. Which he’ll then secretly place cameras or whatever in your house.

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@__@ I did not think that this post would be this long. Also, didn’t think it was going to take this long to make…. ✨!!!Important updates!!!✨ I’m not sure when the next post will be done and up on the blog. But I started to wonder, after I had typed this post up, if anyone might be interested in like paying/tipping me to work more on these posts. So the posts will be up quicker and maybe if you want, I can do more editing on them too. Or I guess… is anyone interested in commissioning me for something?? (If there’s something you’re curious about me writing for, maybe I can post/send a free sample of it.)

The money can help alleviate some things for me. If not, then I will still post my writings for free, but I will be taking more of my time to do/edit them.

I would appreciate some input/suggestions about all this! If you can, reblogging this post would be great and helps me out ♥️ (I’ll also probably make a different post about it too). And now… I still got to type up rules for the blog….

#Yandere #yandere x reader #yandere x you #yandere imagines #yandere concepts #yandere x gender neutral reader #yandere male x reader #yandere x gn reader #mbti #yandere male #male yandere #ISTP #ramblings #my stuff #tw: toxic relationship

[cotton-candy-chaos]

ENFP X ISTP I love you

ENFP: do you love me?

ISTP: yesss

ENFP: say it

ISTP: (grumpily) love youuu

ENFP: can you say it not mad?

ISTP: nooo

#cottoncandychaos #enfp #mbti #mbti conversations #istp #istpxenfp #istp personality #enfp relationships #istp relationships #enfpxistp #myers briggs #16 personalities #mbti types

[gojygo]

You lie to yourself well enough

you can convince other people too

#subtitles #aesthetic #love #life #aesthetics #quotes #cap #film #isfj #istp #crazy ex girlfriend #relationships #lies #life quotes #depressing shit #depression #denial #hurt #sad #mental breakdown #breakup #asshole boyfriend #rachel bloom #i feel like crying #complex ptsd #ptsd #cptsd #actually bpd #bpd

[weepingtyrantblaze]

Didn’t sit down and talk to me. Nothing…just wish I had an explanation. Had things planned now I have to delete everything 😣

#he broke my heart #he broke it off like it was nothing #friends? I don’t think I can be after that #long distance boyfriend #long distance relationship #long distance romance #online dating #long distance couple #online relationship #online couple #uk boyfriend #interracial couple #long distance #relationship #interracial long distance couple #istp x infj

[thebeautifulfantastic]

this might be one of the most niche posts i’ve ever made, but Ruby Thompson is so Juliette Nichols from “Silo” coded

#they’re both traumatized ISTPs who like fixing things with their hands and are bad at relationships. and are both bisexual! #juliette nichols #silo #some girls do #belle speaks

[personabelle-mbti]

That ISTP tho!!!

#ISTP #mbti istp #istp memes #esfp #esfp mbti #istp and esfp #esfp memes #mbti funny #mbti #relationships #schizoidvision

[zeroeightzeroone]

my valentine - han jisung

love collection

genre: soft, fluff

synopsis: y/n and jisungs first valentine's day as a couple

pairings: fem!reader (infp) x idol!han jisung (istp)

notes: i made a pinterest! i'll be making mood boards for this collection and other things i write!

wc ~2.3k | moodboard

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february 14th, also known as valentine's day where lovers exchange gifts with one another to express their affection. but in korea, valentine's day is when the girls express their feelings for their lover or confess their feelings. however, the latter won't know if their feelings are reciprocated until march 14th, also known as white day, a month later. on this day, the men are expected to exchange gifts of equal extravagance to their lover or clarify their feelings to those who have confessed a month prior. 

you and jisung have been dating for a while. the topics of valentine's day and white day have come up, but those conversations are more focused on how those particular days were celebrated in your different upbringings. you are brought up in a more Westernized household where valentine's is expected to be a day where couples exchange gifts. with jisung's upbringing in a korean household, valentine's day being for the boys and white day for the girls. of course, learning about how holidays work and different cultures is always something interesting, another good seed of knowledge. 

regardless of the wisdom you receive from your boyfriend during your conversations, how you two would celebrate those days was never discussed. would you only celebrate valentine's day and exchange gifts on the 14th of february? or would you be giving him a gift on the 14th of february and he to you on the 14th of march? 

with both cases on hand, if jisung does exchange gifts on the same day, then it's just valentine's day, or he gives his gift to you a month later for the white day. you'd be happy with either outcome you just aren't sure which one you'll have, you're also too nervous to bring the topic up to him and make him feel like he has to give you something, where's the fun in receiving a gift that you had to convince them for? a week before valentine's day, you opt to find something for your boyfriend and see the result the day of instead of asking him about it.

…

todays the day.

your social media accounts are littered with couples posting about each other, whether these are on their feed or to their temporary stories. no matter where you turn on the internet, the sudden influx of couple content makes it clearly undeniable that today is the day, it's valentine's day.

it's not even a particularly special day in your relationship with jisung, it's not a birthday or an anniversary, just an international day to celebrate love, and you're still nervous. regardless of those facts, it's the first valentine's day you're celebrating with jisung since becoming a couple officially; that fact overrides the others. 

trying your best to calm your nerves, you're staring out the window as an attempt to distract yourself; reading the names of stores that pass by, the street signs or pondering on anything that catches your eye that passes by. but every single thing leads you back to jisung.

a cafe passes by and it reminds you of the first time you met, should you have gotten something better to pay homage to that?

then a record store. should you have gotten him his favorite records? 

everything that passes by leads you to overthink your valentine's day gift. wondering if you didn’t do enough for your first valentines day together? what if you give it to him, and when you look into his eyes, he hates it, but he's trying to cover it up by smiling like he loves it? what if he thinks your gift is too cheesy? 

the closer you get to the jyp entertainment building, the more thoughts run rampant in your head. when the driver slows down to a stop, going through the necessary security screening before the car park attendant opens the gate, you feel like your mind is going into overdrive. your thoughts are so scattered that you nearly forget to text him to let him know you're here.

you: we're pulling into the underground lot

your leg bounces anxiously as the car park attendant goes back into the kiosk to open the gates. your phone buzzes.

seungmoo: ok give me a second 

did you mention that jisung doesn't know you're coming? 

with the help of seungmin, you planned to surprise him at work today. seungmin helped with arranging for someone from the company to pick you up from your apartment, something jisung always tries to do when you come visit

to ensure your safety. it's also easier for you to enter the building without too much unwanted attention down in the underground lot. seungmin also helped keep an eye on your boyfriend so he could update you on where to go and surprise him.

seungmoo: jisung's in channie's room do you remember where it is or

you: i remember thank you so much again

seungmoo: yeah yeah you owe me

…

your hands are clammy, and your heart is racing as you stand outside chan's room, the faint sound of music muffled by the door that divides you and your boyfriend. you gulp, taking a deep breath before you slowly raise one hand, knocking on the door hard enough to be heard over the music. 

the music stops, and you hear jisung call, "come in!"

your hand moves to the knob, turning it slowly as you open the door just enough to peek your head inside with a sheepish smile. 

jisung jumps in his seat, he's shocked to see you but it's a good surprise–great even. he expected to see one of the company staff or one of the boys when the door opened. instead jisung was pleasantly surprised to see his beautiful girlfriend on the other side. the sight of you has his heart fluttering, unable to bite back the wide smile that pulls on his lips.

"baby! wh– how…"

your boyfriend is giddy as he rushes up onto his feet and out of the rolling chair he’s seated on. he swings the door open to pull you into the room and into his eager arms before shutting the door behind him; immediately, both of his arms are enveloped around you and swaying your bodies back and forth.

“did you miss me or something?” you giggle at how cuddly jisung is being. he doesn’t say anything but he nods his head vigorously.

with a big smile on his face, jisung pulls away to look at you, "you didn't tell me you were coming today!"

"i wanted to surprise you. are you surprised?"

“very! come sit baby,” jisung guides you with his hand wrapped around your wrist, leading you both to sit on the couch pressed up against the wall. 

you’re seated across each other, knees brushing when jisung reaches over to place the spotify pillow in your lap, covering your thighs as your skirt had ridden up the slightest bit when you sat down. his other hand is still wrapped around your wrist, caressing the skin gently as he notices something in the corner of his eye. jisung had been preoccupied with shock at the fact you came all the way to his work to surprise him; he had just noticed the bag you were holding in your free hand. the sight of jisung’s round, brown eyes locked on the bag has your own eyes blinking quickly, hands getting clammy in nervousness once again. 

"whatcha got there?" jisung gestures to the bag.

blinking quickly again, you shift in your seat and clear your throat awkwardly prompting your boyfriend’s attention to shift from the bag to your face. quietly observing you. you retract your hand from jisung’s hold, both of your hands now on the bag and bringing it up into your lap. 

you glance up at him but don’t meet his gaze. 

“i.. uh...” you stammer, “i got you a valentines day gift…”

jisung’s chocolate brown eyes light up. 

“i-it’s not much but… uh… since it's our first valentines together as a couple, i just wanted to get you something.”

you reach into the bag, still avoiding your boyfriend’s gaze, and your cheeks get progressively warmer as you hand him the first gift.

“i got you some chocolates that i know you like, ones you said you liked before, and then some others i thought you might like.”

jisung feels his cheeks flush, listening to you speak and watching you ruffle through the bag's contents. 

“i also got you some of the snacks you like, i’m not gonna take them all out cos i don’t wanna make a mess but…” your voice trails off as you ramble.

you glance up at jisung for a second, wanting to take a moment to gauge his expression before continuing. from that split-second observation, you denounce that jisung doesn’t seem to hate your gifts and give him the last couple of gifts with a lighter weight on your shoulders. 

you extend your arms towards jisung, a small card in your hands, and this time you exchange a small, meek smile. jisung’s eyes dart between the beige card in your hands and your face, your nervous eyes watching his every move when he reaches out with both hands to retrieve the card.

jisung’s eyes graze over the two words printed on the envelope; mon cœur.

“it's a gift card. just in case the jyp cafe goes under construction again and you need your iced americano fix, elsewhere.”

“i don’t care if the jyp cafe is up and running,” jisung declares, “i met the most beautiful girl there. if you’re there, i’m there.”

his words have you flustered, your next words coming out in a sputter, “y-you’re cheesy. b-but that’s it, i’m sorry that i couldn’t get you more–“

“this is amazing,” jisung is quick to cut you off, “the fact you got me anything–period–is so much more than enough.”

your boyfriend brings one hand up to cup your cheek, leaning forward and tilting your lips up to meet his own in a slow, gentle kiss.

“thank you,” he lands a quick peck on your lips, “but…”

when jisung leans back fully, he scratches the back of his neck awkwardly, and the gesture, coupled with the sudden ‘but’ makes your heart drop. 

“but?” you squeak. ‘oh no, he’s going to break it to me that he hates it…’ you think to yourself, bracing for the moment he tells you he indeed hates all the gifts.

“but you being here kinda ruined my surprise,” jisung laughs awkwardly. 

his words have your head cocked and brows knit in confusion. jisung moves your gifts off his lap and onto the couch before he rises to his feet, your eyes cautiously following his movements as he bends over behind the arm of the couch across from you. 

when jisung straightens his posture, your jaw drops in awe at the sight.

with a sheepish smile on his face, your boyfriend shifts awkwardly on his feet as he holds a bouquet of flowers in his hands. you can’t seem to tear your gaze away from the bouquet, a beautiful mix of a variety of red hues, along with the dark greens of the flower stems and leaves. 

“i was gonna come and surprise you after work.” 

jisung walks back over to the couch and sits down, outstretching his arms to bring the bouquet closer to you. slowly, your hands come up, brushing over his own as he transfers the flowers into your hands. 

“i wasn’t a hundred percent sure what flowers to get, i know roses are the go-to option, but i also wanted to get something to go along with them.”

your boyfriend explains as he watches the way you observe the bouquet with eyes sparkling in admiration. 

“one of the stylists has a friend that runs a flower shop, and i had some back and forth with the owner to determine what i wanted to get. when i did some research, red roses are popular on valentines day because it symbolizes passion and love–makes sense because its the day for lovers…” 

jisung’s voice is timid as the four-letter word leaves his lips, words that have yet to be exchanged between you two, and he’s apprehensive about saying them too soon, fearing he may scare you off. 

he clears his throat and continues, “the owner then showed me photos of the red flowers he had, and i chose those ones,” he points to the daisy-like flowers, the flowers are a darker red, bordering on a chocolate brown, “they’re chocolate cosmos, which also symbolize love… and the name has chocolate in it which i thought was cute.”

unbeknownst to you, jisung purposely omits a detail he learned when choosing which flowers he wanted in the bouquet. 

florist: [photo attachments] here are the red flowers we have

jisung scrolls through the photos, scanning the flowers through and through–hoping to find the perfect combination with the red roses. the boy stops at one of the last photos, he finds himself particularly drawn to the darker red of these flowers compared to the previous ones.

jisung: [photo attachment] what are these flowers called?

florist: cosmos; typically, they symbolize order, harmony and balance. in korea they are said to mean happiness, romance and youth the ones pictured are chocolate cosmos, chocolate cosmos in particular, means “i love you more than anyone can”

jisung: i’d like the red roses and chocolate cosmos then! i’ll be sure to give ms. choi the money, and we’ll be in touch again around white day! thank you very much! 

with your eyes closed, you take a whiff of the flower bouquet, your senses invaded with the deeply floral and sweet scent of the roses along with notes of vanilla and chocolate from the cosmos. lowering the bouquet down and away from your nose, you open your eyes with a smile, meeting your boyfriend’s warm gaze. 

you say fondly, “happy valentines day.”

jisung tucks a strand of hair behind your ear before responding, “happy valentines day, my y/n.”

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[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: I see you’ve only talked about a boss-employee relationship between ENTP/ISTP, but I am curious about this pair romantically. I have two guy friends in their twenties - one ENTP, one ISTP. They’ve been casual friends for almost eight years but only became very close during the latter half of that time.

About three years ago, myself and the rest of our friend group noticed a shift in their dynamic. As they started getting closer, ENTP developed somewhat of an obsession/fixation with ISTP. ISTP became the subject of every conversation with ENTP, if we wanted ENTP to show up we had to make sure ISTP was there, he memorized insignificant facts about him, was very clingy etc. ISTP was oddly receptive/accepting of this behavior from ENTP, his quiet compliance a noticeable contrast to his typical snarky independent attitude. As a result, we teased them for it and grew some suspicion, but mostly brushed it off as a ‘bromance’. During this time, though, ENTP did come out as bisexual, and though ISTP never came out, ISTP strategically avoided revealing his sexuality in any way (even in situations where it would’ve been easy to show he was straight).

Over the next year or so this dynamic only got more extreme and I became convinced they secretly liked each other. They spent all day every day together. ENTP was constantly flirtatiously pushing ISTP’s buttons, excessively teasing, and trying to get reactions from him (which he did), as well as being overly touchy and even sometimes even chivalrous to him. ISTP rolled his eyes, but continued to invite it to happen and if ENTP was paying attention to someone else in front of him, ISTP would do things to subtly get the attention back on him. In a room with them, everyone became the third wheel.

The pressure was building and last year they started acting in a way that made me think they were finally going to admit their feelings. They even kissed as a ‘joke’, went on dates as a ‘joke’, ENTP called ISTP his boyfriend as a ‘joke’. At a certain point, it becomes obvious that a joke is not just a joke right?

But a month went by, and suddenly things got really strange. When we hung out, there was a new awkward vibe between them. They avoided each other, and if they did talk, it was short and formal. They stopped hanging out one on one, and ENTP even started distancing himself from the whole friendgroup. Possibly unrelated, but ENTP started hooking up with more girls too. Naturally, one would assume something happened between them, that maybe it got too real somehow. But they won’t budge talking about it. They just say it was never a thing, it’s always been a joke, and ENTP in particular does not want the topic brought up anymore. I am also fairly certain they did not secretly date and break up, even though it may sound like that.

The strangest thing about it is the denial from both ends, throughout the entire time. At no point did either of them seriously talk about the elephant in the room, at least to any of us. I realize this could all be chalked up to the fear of dating a friend and/or internalized homophobia, but I find the vulnerability struggles of these types to play a factor as well. It always felt like they spoke to each other between the lines, the truth lying only under layers of irony and sarcasm. Like subconsciously they knew what each other meant, but still needed it spelled out (even in non-romantic scenarios). But both were too stubborn and scared. In my opinion, it’s entirely possible that they had a falling out without even communicating to each other any aspect of the problem at all. But not in an adversity to conflict way - neither were ever shy about that - rather, an adversity to vulnerability way.

I’m not looking for any advice regarding them, since I’m just a third party and there’s not much I can do (though I am sad to see it turn out this way). But my question to you is this:

Do you think, in the event that these types catch feelings for each other, it’s common that they would end up in these unspoken situationship scenarios rather than acting on their feelings, due to both being thinkers with a tendency for trust/commitment issues and adversity to vulnerability? Or, in general, do you have any additional thoughts about this relatively uncommon pair?

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Note: The relationship pair articles are generalized analyses that can be adapted and applied to any kind of relationship as needed. They are meant to be used by the people wanting to work on improving their relationship. They are not meant to be used by third parties who have no meaningful access to the relationship.

I'm afraid I don't understand the purpose of your question. What are you hoping to achieve exactly? It sounds like you want to know what happened between them, but it sounds like they're saying it's none of your business? Why not respect that? Don't you find it invasive to talk about them behind their backs like this?

I'm only going to make some general comments. I don't think ENTP-ISTP pairings are uncommon. ENTPs enjoy a challenge and ISTPs tend to be challenging to know. The two types also share key similarities that could enhance chemistry, such as:

easygoing attitude

experimental mindset

strategic mastery

openness to risk taking

boundary pushing

easily bored

commitment issues

vulnerability issues

low emotional awareness

Logically, no matter the type, people who are either unable or unwilling to take relationships as seriously as they should are more likely to end up in loose, casual, or poorly defined relationships. However, the reality of relationships is that they're complicated, and one cannot run from the complexities forever. This is especially true for queer relationships due to the added burden of having to confront stigma, bigotry, internalized -phobia, shame, etc.

Generally speaking, being unserious often means being careless, which can lead to serious hurt at some point, as feelings easily escalate beyond control and then get trampled upon. I'm not saying this is what happened between them. I don't like to make assumptions about people, so I'm going to ignore all the assumptions you were making throughout. I only want to deal in facts, and the fact is there was a lot of boundary pushing going on. Boundary pushing is considered unhealthy relationship behavior, so it's unsurprising that it met a less than happy end.

#entp #istp #relationships #boundaries #lgbtq #ask

[animehideout]

Your MBTI, Your Relationship With JJK Characters Part 2.

Read part 1

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a/n: Currently working on the other requested mbti types, they'll be included in the coming parts ✨.

Thank you @goofbye @wakatsukikanae @zoldyi for requesting INFP, and @lostmymarblesstuff for requesting ISTP. I really really hope you like them though. 😭🫶🏻💖.

INFP:

Choso Kamo = Fiancé

Both of you find solace in each other's arms, you don't need to vocalize your love since your energy alone is capable of conveying the love, admiration and respect you have for each other. He appreciates the idea of becoming a family and building a home together filled with familial warmth. He's also a good listener whenever you vent. You accept each other for who you truly are without faking anything. You are both authentic and genuine. You show your love through acts of service, so he enjoys cooking your cravings for you.

Toji Fushiguro = Enemy

You have no respect for people who lack empathy or compassion, and Toji is one of them. He's vile, hostile and manipulative. He is the complete opposite of you. You have a strong sense of justice, fairness and sensitivity so Toji's actions trigger a strong negative reaction out of you. He is a threat to your values and peace, so you can't help but develop an enmity. He sees you weak for including your emotions so he always tries to change you into his liking or simply provoke you.

Toge Inumaki = Bestfriend

Most of your Hangouts are at home where you sit comfortably enjoying the peaceful quietness. You understand each other's emotions and troubles. He provides a safe space for you to express yourself, he takes your feelings into account and never judges you. He enjoys sitting comfortably while you talk about your dreams and thoughts. You inspire him a lot and he appreciates that you trust him enough to share personal things with him. He makes you feel that it's okay to be different as long as you are true to yourself.

Megumi Fushiguro = roommate.

You respect each other's personal space and that what made you good roommates, living under the same roof peacefully without any obstacles. At first you found difficulty to get into conversations or just hang out together at home; given that both of you are introverts. So you just limited yourself to small chats, but you grew to enjoy each other's presence and chill together. Both of you share similar standards for cleanliness so you divide tasks to keep your shared space tidy. Despite growing closer and more comfortable, the boundaries that both of you had set are still sacred. It is easy to live with Megumi.

ISTP

Toji Fushiguro= Husband.

The powerful duo, a thrill-seekers. Toji is the perfect match for you. You have mutual qualities such as using the power of mind, pursuing financial success and enjoying the spontaneous adventures. You have a healthy marriage life, following a pragmatic and rational approach. He is attracted to your determination and mindset, even after being married for too long he still looks at you with the same admiration and love he has for you since the first time he had laid eyes on you. Flirts a lot with you and drowns you in compliments. Your honeymoon was a thrilling and exciting experience literally risking your lives but you enjoyed every bit of it. You are attracted to his straightforwardness and cleverness also to his teasing and playful side. At some levels he doesn't take life too seriously but instead he faces it with humor and mockery. He is the perfect husband for you.

Yuta Okkotsu = Has a crush on you.

He would find himself uncontrollably attracted and drawn to you. The way you reasonably handle things, issues and conflicts impresses him. He also admires your independence and self-sufficiency, you are mentally strong and intelligent. And despite being introvert and reserved he would be surprised by how quick you can adapt to different situations and how you enjoy the thrill of new experiences and adventures. It leaves him blown away and intrigued by you and without hesitation he would develop a powerful crush.

Nanami Kento = Colleague.

You equally share a mutual respect for each other's skills. Both of you hate working overtime so most of the time you blend your competences to get done early with the work. You have a formal and professional kind of relationship which is task-oriented. Your emotions are put aside while working together. What matters is that you succeed in reaching your goals or solve problems. You are an effective team and can work in harmony.

Maki Zenin = Bestfriend.

You feel comfortable enough around Maki to enjoy engaging with various activities with her. Most of the time you train together. Maki has a strategic planning so she always comes up with interesting plans for both of you to enjoy, on the other hand you are a spontaneous person, so you make life more fun and full of surprises. You make each other even more stronger; both emotionally and physically. You keep each other stable and on track, focusing on your goals. Both of you are independent so you only provide emotional support, words of encouragement and comfort.

This piece of writing is just for fun, also it is imo, so it's not necessarily accurate 🫶🏻

#jujutsu kaisen #jujutsu kaisen masterlist #jujutsu kaisen headcanons #jujutsu kaisen imagines #jujutsu kaisen x reader #jujutsu kaisen smut #toji headcanons #mbti personality types #mbti types #mbti #infp #istp #infp personality #istp personality #jjk toji #choso headcanons #choso x reader #jjk men #yuta okkotsu #sukuna headcanons #gojo smut #gojo x reader #choso x you #choso x y/n #jjk headcanons #jjk x reader #jjk fluff #gojo satoru headcanons #nanami kento headcanons #nanami x reader

[witchthewriter]

𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐑𝐮𝐡𝐧 𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐚𝐧'𝐬 𝐌𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐥𝐮𝐝𝐞

⤷ gender neutral and any size reader. Requests are open, thank you for reading!

ᴹᵃˢᵗᵉʳˡᶤˢᵗ | ᴹᵃˢᵗᵉʳˡᶤˢᵗ ᴵᴵ

ISTP/ISFP

Gryffindor

Chaotic Good

Scorpio Sun, Aries Moon, Aquarius Rising

𝑺𝑭𝑾🌿

・You know when you meet someone, and you don't have to force your personality to fit into some kind of shape?

・That's what happened with you and Ruhn

・Ever since you met, there was a spark. You were both curious about each other.

・You were drawn into the way he looked. Not many fae tattooed themselves from nearly head to toe, or had so many piercings

・It made your heart beat faster and faster

・You knew you were attracted to him

・And he made you laugh within minutes

・But you didn't want to give him the satisfaction

・So, the one thing that has stayed throughout your relationship is the goddamn bickering. Which really is just another form of banter.

・This has caused a lot of angst between the two of you.

・But you both knew it was pure play. Flirting. Humour. Banter.

・Everything changed when you had a panic attack in front of him. You were so embarrassed. But the way he held you, cupping your face, moving your hair behind your ears, wiping away the tears.

・His purple eyes bore into your own and you felt instantly calmer.

・From that day on you thanked The Maker. Because staring into his eyes - something clicked. Like a piece was perfectly placed; one you never knew you were missing.

・Making you blush is one of his favourite hobbies. Seeing you duck your head, cover your face or roll your eyes makes his day.

・Very protective; is able to stop himself from taking a swing at the asshole. He's more of a rip him to shreds verbally and then wrap an arm around your shoulder and walk away.

・But don't think he won't get physical over you. Because Ruhn definitely will.

・Would rather take your last name when you get married - his holds too many bad memories

・He knows his smirk makes you weak in the knees but when you brush over his bare skin, he nearly gets on his own knees to worship you

・Would walk to the ends of the earth to find you. There's nothing Ruhn would not do for you. Kill, maim, avenge, even die for you.

𝑹𝒆𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑 𝑻𝒓𝒐𝒑𝒆𝒔

Tough on the Outside, Soft on the Inside (Ruhn) x The Top (You)

Overly arrogant, flirty (Ruhn) x Pretends To Be Unfazed, But Is Dying On The Inside (You)

“Shut Up” x “Make Me”

𝑹𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒄 𝑷𝒍𝒐𝒕 𝑻𝒓𝒐𝒑𝒆

Intertwined Destinies

𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒎𝒆 𝑺𝒐𝒏𝒈

Fire In The Water by Feist

Blood Moon by John Lunn & Eivor

The Lure by The Weeknd

𝑁𝑆𝐹𝑊 🔞

・Every time with him is hot and heavy; it's hard to breathe when you're both in the mood. It's as if the world doesn't exist and all you can do is be in one another's arms

・You're both as dominant as each other, but when you tease him, gods help you. He'll have you bent over any flat surface, taking you from behind.

・Definitely an ass slapper.

・Growls in your ear both in the bedroom and in public

・Something turns primal in him whenever he's with you. Sometimes it feels like he's a hairs breath away from completely ravishing you

・Ruhn is definitely one to keep a naughty polaroid of you

・At times you think you're both insatiable; no matter how many times either of you cum, nothing is good enough.

・As Mates it's easy to explain. Your souls were made for one another, and so is your biology. Therefore, you both have high fucking sex drives.

・You're obsessed with Ruhn's hands and he knows it. Large, veiny and usually with a few rings. He rests his hand on your thigh, and will slowly move it closer and closer to your core - no matter who is around

・His cock is 8 inches when hard, veined, 3cm in girth. Circumcised; when he's horny the tip is a dark weepy red and when after orgasm it's slightly darker.

・As much as he can be serious and passionate, Ruhn also loves when you two can be silly while having sex. Talking about your day, or laughing when you two almost fall off the bed.

・The first time you had sex, Ruhn didn't last as long as he usually does. He was a whiny, whimpering mess, head in the crook of your neck, pumping in and out of you relentlessly.

・It was like fucking for the first time.

・Nothing compared to being with the person you were supposed to be with.

・Ruhn couldn't stop kissing you, and not just your lips. His favourite part was behind your ear. Trailing hot breathy kisses down to your neck.

・He apologised, but it didn't mean he was done. It just meant there was more natural lube for you.

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[windudemon]

attachment styles and 16 types

entp, entj, estp and estj are dismissing avoidants. they will basically won't need a deep connection more than a single person. they can have many, many "friends" though and they can absolutely enjoy their presence and have MORE fun/productivity with them but their relationship with these "friends" will be "emotionally superficial". they simply do not see the point of being "vulnerable" with people except that one person. in fact, they don't really want others to be vulnerable with them either. they will play with you and have fun with you in the moment but don't ask them their deepest darkest secrets or something. they won't tell you. they will change the subject. they will "dismiss" your deepening attempts of emotional connection. they don't need your emotional support. they deal with negative emotions not by sharing them but focusing on new positive experiences whether that's drinking or bungee-jumping or speeding or trolling others or working hard for their goals.

esfp, enfp, enfj and esfj are secure types. they won't avoid expressing their emotions. they LIKE expressing their emotions. if somebody make fun of that, it's them being assholes and evil and stuff so that will change nothing for exfxs. basically they got the biggest emotional balls and do not feel like they should protect themselves. naturally therefore their attachment style is secure. they are not guarded.

istp, intp, intj and istj are fearful avoidants. these types deep down need and like and want emotional support. all these types are duals of secure ones in socionics for that reason. but yeah, they are very afraid they will get the opposite of the support so their general attitude when it comes to emotional attachments is an avoidant one. secure types and their open and direct and emotionally/ethically-non-cryptic ways will encourage them to come out of their shells.

infp, infj, isfj and isfp gets preoccupied / anxious attachment style. like secure ones, they also want to create emotionally deep connections but their feelings are more fragile so any kind of rejection will make them take two steps back. but if you are nice, they will come closer and closer and closer. how to explain these types and dismissive avoidant ones are duals in socionics though? i think these types perceive dismissive avoidants even more anxious about feelings than themselves and in a way they are right too. so they empathize with them so they take their time so they use the best method to emotionally approach dismissive avoidants.

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