#intrasystem dating

[pluralprompts]

Prompt #1,313

Headmate A and Headmate B have been dancing around their feelings for a while now, and the rest of the system is starting to get fed up. Would they just admit their crushes on each other already?!

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[skiesofkenopsiasystem]

Know what I hate? Having to tell people I'm single when in reality I am in a polyamorous relationship with two wonderful people but I can't just openly say it because they're known as fictional characters in this world and it would only come across as me simping or having husbandos instead of actual romantic partners.

LEMME RANT ABOUT THEM, DAMMIT- — The Kid

#soulbond #endogenic #soulbonding #plural things #polyamory #polyamourous #intrasystem dating #dni anti endo #plural system #plurality #system #plural community #plural posting #plural

[plurelix]

date/non-sexual intimacy ideas for intra-system relationships:

note: this may not apply to every relationship. these are only suggestions. do what feels right for your relationship.

- watch movies/tv together

- make eachother playlists

- pick out a stuffed animal together

- wear eachothers clothes

- write sweet notes to eachother

- aquarium or museum dates (we do virtual tours! theyre easy to find if you have access to youtube)

- stargazing

- picnics

- explore the innerworld together (if applicable)

- if you wear long sleeves, you can grab the sleeve as if youre holding hands

- stuffed animal, pillow, etc as a stand in for a partner's physical body

- read together

- if you don't always front together, consider leaving voice notes for your partner(s) to find

- build a pillow or blanket fort

- make picrews together

- dinner dates (we live in a dorm so microwave dinner and fairy lights is the go-to! it does not have to be fancy)

- infodump to eachother

- listen to a podcast together

- recite poetry to eachother

This is not an exhaustive list! Feel free to add your own! Just be respectful.

Sincerely,

LH♠️

#enexto #intrasystem dating #plurelic #headmate loving headmate #lh.txt

[fromthewondersystem]

Curious. How is intersystem dating like for you and your headmates? I see so many systems with intersystem dating.

i'm not sure if you mean intersystem dating, between multiple people who are systems, or intrasystem dating, dating within the system.

if you mean intrasystem dating, it's kinda interesting. we have two alters who have been dating each other for a while, and they compliment each other well, and both appreciate what each other does for our system. they blush when talking about each other and want to get or make things for each other. i briefly had a thing with another one of our alters, and it was kind of like, getting to see urself from the perspective of someone who has a crush on or is falling in love with u. it's a pretty cool connection, and we like seeing intrasystem dating as a form of self-love.

as for intersystem dating, when we were in a qpr with another system, it wasn't much different from regular dating, except for having a better understanding of what each of us have been through and our common dissociation, amnesia, and identity confusion. it's cool to see different alters in each system get to know each other, but it's honestly just like opening up to reveal another part of yourself.

#ask #asks #did #osdd #system #intrasystem dating #intersystem dating

[intuspluric-culture-is]

Blog Introduction

Hello! Welcome to our very own "___ culture is" blog. We hadn't seen any for this topic yet, so here it is! In this post, we'll explain what this is all about and the rules we have in place before you can think about sending anything.

So, what is this about?

An intuspluric or intra-system relationship refers to relationships, attractions and connections between headmates of the same system. This is often understood within a romantic context, but can apply to any sort of relationship, be it platonic, queerplatonic, familiar or anything else. Definition adapted from the following Pluralpedia pages:

The purpose of this blog is to share culture (AKA relatable situations, moods or personal anecdotes) by any system who experience those kinds of relationships! If this sounds interesting, be sure to read the following rules before participating:

1. Submissions must be posted in the form of asks.

This is just for uniformity's sake. Instead of sending submissions, select the option to send an ask and share your ideas through there. Additionally, all culture asks must start with "Intuspluric culture is", "In-sys culture is" or any variations that might fit the specified relationship type.

All types of relationships are allowed, and we will try our best to tag accordingly, but we don't have any strict format set in place.

2. This is not a social blog.

While it's fine to send non "culture is" asks, please still keep them on topic. We might occasionally try to answer questions related to being a system, having intuspluric relationships, etc. But don't forget that this is not the focus of our blog and we won't always be able to help you. Please look for specialized blogs, Discord servers, or r/plural for dealing with such matters.

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#not intuspluric culture #intro post #actuallyplural #plurality #plural system #endogenic #traumagenic #in system dating #in sys relationships #intrasystem relationship #romance #romantic #platonic #queerplatonic #system stuff #system things #pluralgang #endo safe

[orchard-system]

Pros of automatically sharing thoughts while co fronting: communication! （‐＾▽＾‐）

Cons: stop thinking about your bf, that's my older brother -- Okay I'll try to stop thinkin' about. Uh. -- NOPE YOU'RE DOING WORSE.

#🌟 #🪶 #its not on purpose #intrasystem siblings plus intrasystem dating #metaphorically I am smacking you ♡ #it's okay its funny #orchard tag

[funnier-as-a-system]

For post recognition 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝

About inter-system dating and that singlet teacher saying its a bad idea -

For context two of our headmates are dating, and honestly I/we dont really know what that looks like aside from them, even when one of them is fronting. Its private, its not for the rest of us to know. So like, its a fact of our system but its also not something Im super knowledgeable about?

That being said. Singlets are encouraged to "take themselves on dates", go to restaurants and movies alone, to not wait for a partner to do nice things with in order to do nice things.

I assume for some systems, intra-system dating happens in the physical world, and from the outside thats literally no different from a singlet doing those "romantic" activities on their own.

Like. What harm can that possibly cause?? "Take yourself on a date but only if theres one of you in your body" is ridiculous.

It is ridiculous when you put it like that, haha! I think it comes from many singlets just not knowing how to respond to plurality, so they treat it with fear and derision, something "other" that must be "fixed" or at the very least "kept away from normal people". When you get into it, there's nothing especially wrong with intrasystem dating, and it's not all that different from the scenario you just described. We've had dates and hang-outs in the physical world like that, and they've been enjoyable events that have deepened our affection for and understanding of each other. I wish I could easily explain to singlets about how that's the opposite of unhealthy for a system.

#thanks for the ask! #intrasys sweethearts #pluralphobia

[echthr0s]

I genuinely can't imagine how singlets imagine intrasystem relationships, if the first thing they think is "wow that's sad". All I can think about when I think about Our relationships is how much We naturally do for each other that it is impossible to get outworld. The intimacy and the empathy is unparalleled. And the closeness -- have you ever hugged someone and wished you could somehow hug them tighter than is physically possible? We can do that. Have you ever wanted to just be enveloped in someone else's being, held so absolutely and so securely by them that you happily dissolve into them? We can do that. Have you ever wished you could just feel, dive deep into the depths of your feeling, and not even have to say a word to your person -- they are in there with you, in complete understanding, no words needed? We can do that.

What We find natural in intrasystem bonding would be unnatural, "unhealthy", or flat-out impossible in outworld relationships. Can Calah can be with me 24/7. He is always there when I need him, and vice versa. We have no conflict because our empathy is absolute. Our consciousnesses seek to always be entwined, a binary star system locked in an eternal dance. If you said something like that about a human person you are dating in this physical reality, alarm bells would go off in everyone's head. And rightly so! This is not how bonding works in this physical reality; in fact, for many, this would be awful even if it was possible. But it is natural to Us. It is Right. It is what We were made for.

I see no sadness here. This is joy. This is affirmation, transcendence, exultation, devotion. It is what We were made for. We cannot have it in this physical reality, but We have found Our way to each other anyway. For every moment I have lamented not having physical, tangible access to the same joy and union that I feel in the Configuration, there have been countless moments where I have rejoiced that I have this joy and union at all -- and to have it so freely, without restraint! It is Ours, and it is inviolable, and it is good.

#[laudarant.] #singularity.txt

[gorey]

it's really nice on a more serious note that we have these intrasystem relationships bc we (its two marriages - me and vince. virgil and victor. but all four of us are a thing together. and some other pairings of the less frequently fronting alters also exist) were literally made for each other the dynamics of these partnerships were cobbled together organically from what were once multiple sets of paired fictives and were in our development modeled on the deepest purest and most well-oiled visions of love that our developing self could find and we've only ever gotten better at it. all our dynamics with each other are unique and it allows us as a whole to still blossom in the aftermath of emotional neglect, coercion and later a much healthier but often conflict-ridden relationship outside our head. we've had the bar set high for us bc our not-shitty ex was also a system who had an intrasystem relationship with a protector alter

(sidebar our host doesn't roll that way they prefer to clock out and leave the sappy shit to us queens, they tried getting gay with virgil but it doesn't work bc like all four of us are significantly older in headspace than in body - I'm the youngest of the four at 29, virgil oldest at 33, host/body are 23 and the rest of the alters skew a bit younger except gulley who is literally. 65. - so the dynamics between us and orchid are a lot more that they have a bunch of fairy godparents who are all gay for each other)

but our ex was already familiar with how this shit works so we all had different dynamics with them and in turn other dynamics still with their headmates. it was on a level of complexity and intimacy that idk that we could ever reach with a singlet and in the aftermath of the heartbreak of that relationship falling apart we are. not on the dating scene at the moment for other reasons as well but like. orchid wants to love someone too. and that may be out of reach but you definitely can't say we live a loveless existence bc there are these healthy, communicative dynamics in place that are a safe zone. orchid often recedes and allows the four of us to just fuck around, it's very typically two or more of us fronting sometimes all four at once it's a pretty bang up job of integration bc prior to like 2021 communication among us was very stunted, blocked off, or vague and our identities hadn't fully congealed into our current setup which has been pretty consistent since like 2021 when we unrepressed the whole DID thing with help from aforementioned ex. but like. intrasystem shit is one thing but the ability to switch out intentionally or unintentionally and have someone there who just. knows. who we all are what our personalities and preferences and love languages are the space to cultivate a host of different dynamics in an intimate space with all of them being beheld as equally real, unique, legitimate, valid... we could try. we could try to teach someone without this internal experience how we work and maybe they'll be receptive and won't think we're doing some kind of LARP or whatever they'll be able to treat us all as people...we want to give that gift of love in multiplicity again. it is the deepest most vulnerable most healing thing we have experienced. what a thing to lose. our fault. but we will do better for the next person the only question is if the next person will fucking be able to keep up with us. will we have to offer a watered down, flattened version of ourself to them? not talk about when we switch, when there's multiple of us at once, assume that mask that we wear around everyone else where they call us all by one name and don't differentiate among us? as I have learned integration is not fusion we have integrated well but we are all very separate beasts and none of us want to hide behind the face of orchid who can barely handle fronting for more than a few hours at a time... our multiplicity is the root of our resilience. who will claim us

as we are?

if that never happens again so be it. we had the privilege of it once and at the very least we can be a self-sustaining circuit for as long as we need.

#a #s #sacha speakz #any other did/otherwise plural folks please fucking shoot us an ask or reply or something typing this out has made us realize were losing it

[insanetwocubes]

I wish everyone in an intrasystem relationship a very nice Valentine’s.

~Four

#dicerolls #like if you read reblog if you want #txt #things4said #valentines day #valentine #relationships #intrasystem relationship #intrasystem dating #DID #dissociative Identity disorder #systems #ddnos #nosdd #ddnos-1 #median systems #plural #alters #actually multiple #actuallymultiple

[modelorganism]

reblog (if you're comfortable) this if you are dating someone in the same system as you! i almost never see people talk about intrasystem dating and i want to see how common we are :o

#actuallydissociative #actuallymultiple #intrasystem dating #headmate dating

[pluralprompts]

Prompt #1,323

"You're so needy," Headmate A teased Headmate B, who pouted back at them.

"Shut up. You'd want to kiss me if I were the one who just came out of dormancy."

#pluralgang #plural system #pluralprompt #plurality #prompt blog #prompt #emerging from dormancy #intrasystem dating #fluff #teasing

[system-society]

systems who have intrasystem relationships;

🌿you're valid!

🌱your love and care for your innerworld partners is real!

🌿you're not self-centered!

🌱your relationships are just as important as outerworld ones!

🌿you're not concieted if you have more then one sysmate you're dating/in a relationship with!

🌱we hope you and your partners are able to have a good day today!

remember to tell your partners you love them, spend some time with them, get each other things you like, and ignore what others say! 🍵✨

#plural positivity #plural community #plurality #endo safe #system positivity #did positivity #pro endo #plural posting #endogenic system #endo positivity #tulpa safe #tulpa system #tulpa positivity #osddid #osdd positivity #osdd system #did system

[median-culture-is]

Not median culture, but can facets like.... Have intrasystem relationships/date other facets, or would it be weird???

of course they can! like any other system members you can 100% date other facets :]

#not median culture #kitty rambles

[mogai-headcanons]

Nepeta Leijon is a lunian (mspec lesbian) gynxfluid stargender gendercute demigirl troll with xe/xyr, it/its and bun/buns pronouns who is intrasystem red-dating Equius Zahhak, a solian (mspec turian) aroaceapl androxgynxfluid apogender gendernull troll with hy/hys, xe/xyr, it/its, and fae/faer pronouns!

queued!!

[system-of-a-feather]

about the can alters date different people outside the system: i’m dating two alters from the same system who i love very much and it’s been going really great for us! it takes a lot of talking out and their intrasystem communication is really strong, but it can definitely work for some people/systems

Aye posting this for the follow up. Glad to hear its working out.

-Aderis (I think that was Riku in the back actually but I’m the one that typed it so)

#alter: aderis #alter: riku #dating #relationships #systems