#i don't want to be loveless

[nebulaofchaosandwoe]

this baby is love proof 😎🔥

but also

this baby is love proof 😭😞

#me saying this while crying cuz my girl bi friend is pretty much already in a relationship #and i'm confused #what am i feeling??? #am i sad because i secretly have a crush on her??? (please don't) #or is it because i know i can't have a relationship like that? #OR is it because i feel unlovable??? #i hate u deeply conan gray (i love u) #aaaaaaaaghhggdfshgs #me thingy #i don't want to be loveless #music

[privateolives]

This is probably because I grew up watching 24/7 animal planet, but what finally made the allo/aplatonic thing click for me were the nature's of big cats.

Lions are powerful, regal creatures who are uniquely adapted to pack life. They need these connections to live a healthy life; A lonely lion is a miserable creature indeed.

Jaguars are solitary, beautiful creatures who live happily solitary. They prowl their lush world with self-sufficient majesty. A jaguar is not lonely without a pack. In fact, forcing jaguars to share space with others they do not enjoy is just as damaging as forcing a lion to live alone.

A lion may choose to head out on it's own for the most part, but in the end must return to the pack to thrive. A jaguar can choose to trust and enjoy the company of others, but they never feel the need to form a pack.

Is a jaguar selfish for this? A psychopath, a narcissist or any other such horrid assumptions? Is it a less moral creature than a lion, who seeks others like it to thrive?

Is a lion pathetic, or needy, or selfish for wanting community? For requiring contact with others like they require water? For their inherent need to string complicated webs of relationships that may seem silly or dramatic to others?

Of course not. These are ridiculous questions to even ask.

They are simply lions and jaguars.

In fact, is a jaguar that chooses to spend time with you not as magical as a lion's love? For a creature that needs no bond to thrive to still enjoy your presence enough to share it a time? Is a lion who can prowl the night alone not impressive in its strength and resilience? Is it not awe-inspiring in its ability to conquer a life it was never wired for and reign still?

Are they not both beautiful and awe-inspiring in their own ways, without being wrong?

Alloplatonics. Aplatonics. Are we not both special and beautiful in both our bonds and self-confident happiness equal, in each our ways? Is there not unique beauty in lifelong bonded packs and magical encounters that need no perpetuity to carry life forward?

Are we not but lions and jaguars? Neither wrong, neither selfish, but just different and beautiful creatures in each our ways?

That's how I've come to see it, anyway.

#lgbt #aspec #lgbtqa+ #asexual #aromantic #aroace #loveless #aplatonic #alloplatonic #animals #I woke up at like 3 in themmorning to write this so I apologise for weird wording #I'm not awake enough to go hunting for the videos but if you want to see more about the equal majesty and difference in cats bonding #I suggest looking up Kevin Richardson's work with lions and panthers #I love animals. I hope I didn’t come off as degrading to anyone by using them as comparison #I can assure you the association only carries the deepest respect from me. #anyway all the aro discourse floating about made me think of this issue again #and how explaining allo/a-platonic needs has been a difficult task in the past #you're all valid no matter your labels or shapes or spots or manes #remember that when an orientation you don't understand comes to the lgbtable your job isn't to test them #it's to make room

[cowboylikeghost]

NO PLEASE NO

#I DON'T WANT TO #I WANT THE LESS ROMANTIC WINTER EVER #I WANT A LOVELESS WINTER #LEAVE ME ALONE #asexual #aroace #aromantic #ace #aro #asexuality #aromantism #queer #lgbt #lgbtqia #actually ace #actually aro #actually aroace #romance-repulsed #loveless aro #loveless aromantic #non partnering

[moss-opossum]

I am aroace, and my partner is a huge part of my life and I couldn't live without them. These are not contradictory statements. Do relationships in a way that makes you happy.

#not everyone needs to be aspec in the same way #i don't want to say this in a way that bothers loveless or romance-repulsed people #aroace #aromantic #arospec #acespec #asexual #ace #aro #aspec #aroacespec #greyromantic #grayromantic #moss-opossum

[dearlyread]

Alice Fucking Oseman made me know pain and joy lol

Tab system:

Orange: "Wait, That's Me." (Relating too hard to Georgia)

Yellow: "Ace Pain." (i.e. "Being asexual, I felt that, ouch")

Green: "Ace Joy." (i.e. "Being asexual, I felt that, thank you Alice :)")

Light Pink: "RAGE" (Getting angry at the scenario or characters)

Dark Pink: "Outlier" (Moments I will probably quote or wish happened to me, like having a Pip, Rooney, Jason, Sunil, Jess or Ellis)

+ page 5: Alice, when I catch you, Alice.

#dearlyread #blog #diary #blogger #loveless #alice oseman #loveless alice oseman #georgia warr #I love them all but I really don't want to tag so many names my phone just crashed trying #to upload the last photo my word #lgbtq #lgbtqia #aroace #asexual #aromantic

[marinsawakening]

Weighing in on the debate “Are you allowed to ship aromantic characters?” As an aromantic person, this is a difficult subject. On the one hand, we have characters who clearly and repeatedly state that they hate romance, do not feel romantic attraction, and don’t want to be in a relationship. On the other hand, we have your personal inability to engage with deep relationships without making them romantic. As a compromise, I say people are allowed to ship canon aromantic characters, provided they pay me at least $100 in cash for the license.

#my posts #aromantic #this is about the murderbot diaries fandom. btw. #me: you know the murderbot fics on ao3 are actually pretty good. most of them seem to understand the themes of the books #and most people seem to have gotten the hint and don't ship murderbot romantically. maybe I'm safe to check the tumblr tag #the tumblr tag: no you're not #me: ok noted #people will see a character repeatedly and consistently being romance-repulsed #and go 'is anyone gonna ship them' and not wait for an answer #it's rlly funny how quick seeing blatant shipping made me go from #'while in terms of human western labels murderbot obviously fits the definition of aromantic asexual and some flavour of nonbinary/agender' #'I do not feel like it's useful or desired to ascribe these labels to it as it consistently avoids labelling its gender' #'and in general seems unlikely to be the kind of person who'd want to use human western labels perhaps even if it was human' #to 'murderbot is not just aromantic it's a loveless nonpartnering aromantic suck my dick'

[gender-luster]

does this mean that i can add godless to my title of loveless aro?🤔

#screencap bc i don't actually want to touch that account with a 9½ft pole #aro #aromantic #loveless #loveless aro #loveless godless aromantic #cw religion #cw christianity

[poulpemou]

Happy Valentine's Day! It's the perfect day to proselytise aroace Kiran from Fire Emblem Heroes!

As the "protagonist" of a gacha game, AKA a soft harem game, it only makes sense for the self-insert character to be aroace! Got folks of all genders throwing themselves at you for no understandable reason? Got people taking your lack of interest as a personal challenge? Why, that sounds like the perfect setting for a character to realise and/or profess their aroace-ness!

Here are some satisfied testimonies from our existing representatives!

"Wow I had no idea Fjorm felt this way? Why? Since when? I thought she and Laegjarn were dating?"

"Uhhhhh Gunnthrá said what?????????"

"Do people know I have a job and responsibilities? I have a lot going on, I don't have time for this kind of stuff, do people realize we're at war like 24/7 and I'm literally the only person keeping this place from falling apart and—"

"How come it's always the girls confessing their love to me but not the guys? I mean I'm not into dudes but that doesn't mean I can't be. Actually, who says I'm not? Oriented aroaces exist and—"

"Hey Alfonse. Bro. Are we or aren't we partners. Are we or aren't we the perfect unit if we could be combined into one. Have you ever heard of Steven Universe by the way? Or of this thing called QPR?"

"How come Plumeria is always shit-talking me about lewdness when I literally didn't do anything? Like ok yeah I poked her, but I literally poke everyone? Also what's up with my dreams? Has she heard of this thing called intrusive sexuality that literally doesn't mean anything—"

"Hey, so, I don't know how to say this, Seiðr, but I don't want a baby and I also don't want to be a deadbeat parent, and also Gullveig and Kvasir keep saying things about feelings but I have no idea where that's coming from. Don't even get me started on Heiðr."

"Why are girls weird around me? Am I actually just a cat and never noticed? Is that why they keep petting me and cooing at me? I was just a cat this whole time and no one had the heart to tell me I'm not human?"

"You love me? Aw, thanks, I love you too! I love all of my friends!"

"What is love? Baby don't hurt me. Oh wait this song doesn't exist in Askr..."

"What do you mean they think I'm flirting!!!!!!!! What the heck is a flirting!!!!!! I'm literally just being a good friend what!!!!!!!!"

"I love Day of Devotion! It's a day where you're devoted to your loved ones! Yeah of course all my friends are my loved ones, what do you mean?"

"So when two people like each other very much, they perform this ceremony called ally-supporting, and for some reason people blush when they reach A-tier. I think it's because it's a very important milestone that happens to take place in what looks like a church, and they're afraid to look like they don't belong in a church. Something about Askran churches must seem very intimidating."

"Oh wow you have feelings for me for real? I thought people were just saying that for the bit."

"Oh wow you have feelings for me for real? Can you describe what what's like? I've never understood it and people take it really badly when I ask."

"So back in my world, we have this event called Asexuality Awareness Week taking place during the Harvest Festival, and this other event called Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week that takes place a week after the Day of Devotion."

"Hey does garlic bread exist here? Anyone got any cake?"

"I don't know any of these people. They keep wanting to talk to me and be friends. Well ok. I don't get it but I guess it's my job to ensure troupe morale. I thought that would be Sharena's job but I haven't seen her in forever. Sacrifices for the cause, I guess."

"What do you mean they think I'm flirting!!!!!!!! What the heck is a flirting!!!!!! I'm literally just being polite what!!!!!!!!"

Join today and headcanon your summoner as aroace! Add a layer of complexity to a silent character and off-the-rails writing! You may be entitled to emotional compensation!

#tofurambles #feh #fe kiran #acespec #arospec #so kiran canonically forms a strong bond and attachment to alfonse specifically so idk they qualify as aplatonic/loveless #(i am neither aplatonic nor loveless so i don't want to step on any toes) #buuuuut it would be hilarious if they ARE apl/loveless and alfonse is just like #their most competent and/or tolerable coworker #and that that is why they're so stuck on him #''i can't win this war without you. you are the only person here who actually does his job.''

[redysetdare]

Lovelessness and lack of any attraction making me realize that i don't understand any relationships in terms of love.

How do you know you're romantically interested in someone? how is that different than loving them in literally any other way? Hell, how do you know you love your friends? When do you even apply the label of friend? How do you decide you want to be someones friend even? What about family? we're just expected to love them from birth but why? How do you know you view someone as family? why are we expected to love people we just happen to be related to?

I dunno, I'm writing some friendships, found family, and just adopted family and biological family relationships and I'm realizing that I'm struggling with actually like...showing why characters "love" each other in these ways. What makes this character want to be a parental figure to another character? what makes this characters friends any more important than other people in their lives? I'm writing what society tells me but I don't actually think i understand any of it.

I can understand connection and characters enjoying each others company and caring about each other but when it gets to the love part? the part society demands there be for the relationship to be full and real and complete? I find myself lost every single time. shouldn't them caring for each other be enough? why do they need this confusing emotion for them to truely be friends or truely be family?

Why is the label of a "strong bond between people" locked behind the paywall that is the undefined idea of love? Why is love a requirement and not an option for these sorts of bonds? a bond without love doesn't mean you hate the person or dislike them even. it doesn't mean you're apathetic. it just means you don't love them. I don't get why this word is so important. I don't get why it's expected.

#text #loveless #loveless aro #idk maybe it's because i look at these sorts of things in terms of logic #which emotions don't always follow #people always use love as an answer but i always question it #“they did it because they love them” why do they love them though #why is their love for them seen as so important #why should other characters care about that love #why did love make them do that #what is so special about the bond between these two characters compared to the bond they have with other characters #why is it different #and i guess most people don't have answers. why would they? it's just how they feel #that's usually enough for others but for some reason not for my brain #and i think it's just because i cannot grasp the idea of love as an emotion #especially not as a pure and good emotion #idk it's confusing #and probably my own fault #im not really looking for answers here because i dont think there is any #not any that would satisfy me at least #just wanted to express this feeling ig

[aro-sora]

i want to stress how important it is that aspec people are not broken or incomplete or missing anything

but also. people aren't objects. maybe my heart is missing something. but really why should that matter. who gives a fuck

#i've seen people talk about how they don't want to define aromanticism as 'lacking' anything #which is fair and they should have those conversations #but also personally i don't know how else to define it #i lack romantic attraction. so what? a lack of something doesn't define my worth #maybe i like being heartless. what are you going to do about it #heartless aro #loveless aro #aro #aromantic #arospec #aspec

[ponderousorb]

Sephiroth reading

#sephiroth #ff7r #final fantasy vii #the last unicorn #I imagine angeal trying to turn Genesis' infodumping about Loveless into a conversation #saying “what's your fav book sephiroth” #and he doesn't want to say “the Last Unicorn” bc he is aware Genesis will laugh that it is for children or smth #so he just says “I don't feel like telling you.” and walks off awkwardly like always #this is me drawing things I was too crappy at drawing to do when I was a kid lol

[infiniteorangethethird]

ok but consider: one of those "soulmate AU" stories except it's a dystopia written from the perspective of a loveless aro

#aromantic #loveless #heartless #writing ideas #queer stuff #you know the ones #“you don't see color till you meet your soulmate” #“your soulmate's name's written on your skin” #“a timer counts down till you meet your soulmate” etc #all of these are excellent sources of angst if used right #like idk. soulmates are a government-fabricated lie to keep #the ppl in check #and protag uncovers the truth #or if it's one of those “you aren't happy till you find The One” #protag sees black n white till they find their passion in some #niche thing and suddenly everything's in color #idk. i just want a story with a loveless aro as a protagonist #who is also like. not evil. yes villains are cool but i kinda had it with them for now

[insane-weasel]

I think as writers we should hold funerals for our WIPs more often.

Dearly beloved, gather us here today where this fic of some middle-aged man getting rawdogged and this other fanfic about the importance of friendship are laid to rest, because the author got really distracted playing that new video game.

We celebrate what could have been, cut-and-recycle those really good lines or ideas, because I swear I'm going to use them, I swear! And drag this poor document not to the great recycling bin or trash, but to the "graveyard" folder because sometimes I like to commune with the dead.

#fanfic #Writing #I just had to throw out 5k words of a one shot over something I can't change/control but I never delete old WIPs #I do just put them in a folder and still backup that folder with my other files #Yes some of my earlier ideas were horrendous but also there's a part of me still there in each of them #Sometimes it's less about the writing and more about who I was I want to sometimes revisit #Who was the teen girl writing gore at 15 and what would she think of today's writing #Who was the insecure fearful loveless boy who over expressed his masculinity online and wrote tough lonely guy characters #I don't want to be them anymore but when I hate myself sometimes it's nice to read what I've written #You hear the problems you never thought youd overcome in the author notes or in the subject and those fears and pain #You also see the first time you wrote a subject #I wish I hadn't deleted lots of my writing from when I was very young #Some I did because it legitimately could cause or encourage harm if left online #But I think I always smile when I see the old “this year is 8th grade” because by golly #Still think it's hilarious I got really into writing in middle school because I was jealous of someone else's writing ability in 6th grade #I can remember the exact moment I looked at my 2 page story and was filled with jealousy because they wrote 12 pages and my story felt so.. #I remember going home and going 'i know I can write something good!' and people will like it! #And then like while looking for some place to upload writing I found fanfic

[citnamora]

As a loveless aro who is unsure if she even feels love at all or if love is a conscious effort for her, it baffles me when someone tells me I'm a loving person. Often times when I am "loving" it's when I show compassion and patience towards others. I consider myself a fairly tolerant person. But I don't consider myself loving. And honestly, I don't want to be a loving person.

I will look after my friends, and fellow neighbor, and I will repeat the words when prompted if we've grown familiar enough to warrant it. But I really only use the word to get across the feeling to someone rather than a feeling for someone. When I tell someone that I love them, I know "love" is a word that means a great deal to them, and so by using the word I'm communicating through their language that I greatly care for them something akin to love. But this is a ritual I only practice with a handful of individuals whom I trust enough to express my gratitude.

"I appreciate you" is my absolute favorite way to convey my feelings accurately.

#hot aro shit #loveless aro #actually aromantic #loveless #(notthebookbyaliceoseman) #aplatonic #alloplatonic #(honestly I'm unsure which this qualifies for?) #just wanted to see if anyone else Gets This. because it's something I find difficult to articulate in a way that does the topic justice #but yeah I use the word love moreso for others rather than myself and I'm curious if this is a loveless aro experience? #I've been stewing on this for months now ever since I figured out why my brain is subconsciously drawn to the word despite- #my disconnect from it. like. I don't know if I want to be a nurturing person or not. but I do know that I want to have a comforting- #presence. if that makes sense?

[uselessnbee]

i am tired of the way people act like aromantics feeling other kinds of love is some kind of redeeming quality

every time there's a post about aromanticism the comments are flooded with people saying how aromantic people can still feel love it's just not the romantic kind and like yes it is important to point that out because it is true that some aromantic people still feel other kinds of love but not all!! and that's okay!! some aromantic people don't feel love at all and it doesn't make them any less valid! and i'm not saying people need to stop with those comments there's nothing wrong with that but the moment someone tries to point out that loveless people exist and are valid others start acting so fucking weird about it

i have a really weird relationship with love i use the word "love" to describe how am i feeling about people or pets or other stuff because it's the closest thing to describe how i feel but at the same time i'm not 100% sure what i feel is actually "love"

it doesn't probably makes sense but i just feel like i don't feel love the same way others do, the same way this society deems normal and how i am supposed to feel it and so having people act like me feeling other types of love or attraction that are just not romantic and sexual is something that redeems me from not feeling romantic love just makes me really uncomfortable

i don't want people to keep pointing out how i can feel other types of love as if it's the only thing that makes me valid

like and what if i don't? what if i don't feel love at all? does that make me less valid? it should not. i should be valid for being me for being who i am not for being able to feel any kind of love.

i am tired of the way love is treated as something that makes us human. i'm tired of people acting like people who do not feel love are suddenly terrible and inhuman. it's just a fucking emotion and not everyone needs to feel it. if someone told you they can't feel hatred would you suddenly tell them they're terrible and inhuman because feeling hate is what makes us human? no because that's fucking stupid. how is it any different with love?

i could write whole essays about how fucking stupid it is that people act like feeling love and empathy is what makes us human and good people. there are some absolutely vile and cruel people in this world capable of doing monstrous things and some of them do feel love or empathy. does that suddenly make them good people? does that suddenly erase all the terrible things they've done just because they feel certain emotions? no it really doesn't. so why should it be any different if it's the other way around. good people are good because they choose to be kind. people can be the kindest souls on this earth and don't need to feel love and empathy.

i know i'm rambling and probably don't make sense but i'm just really tired. i'm tired of people acting like me being able to feel other kinds of love is what makes me valid. like me feeling love is that one good thing about me. i want to be able to say proudly that i am aromantic that i am aroace that i don't feel romantic love without needing to clarify that yes i do feel other types of love as if that's what makes me better. i am not better or more valid than loveless people just because i "can" feel love or whatever other bullshit

they're valid too and i want to be valid without needing to "feel love" i want to feel like i would be valid and accepted even if i wouldn't feel love at all

#i'm sorry guys i just needed to vent #vent post #aromantic #aromanticism #aroace #loveless #i am proud of being aro of being aroace and i want to stay proud even if one day i decide #that what i feel isn't actually love and i do not feel comfortable using that word #amd i don't want to feel like i'm seen as better or more valid in some peoples eyes #because i feel love #loveless people don't deserve to be treated this way #i needed to rant about this because i saw a post where people were only commenting how aros can still love #and i commented that not all of them that some people don't feel love at all and that's okay amd it #doesn't make them any less valid #and majority of yhe replies were other aros saying they still feel love #and like great good for you babes but that was so not the point of my comment #no need to take it personally that someone points out loveless aros exist like what's the point of that

[daz4i]

one thing they don't tell you about song writing is you WILL get hit with inspiration at 1 am and you WILL have to write down the whole thing before you forget and you WILL find a tune for it while typing and now you gotta actually finish it so you can record a draft so you don't forget it and- oh look it's 2:22 am

#:( #BUT the draft slaps. imo. the singing's Not Great it's purely to save the melody somehow #also some parts def need to be polished lol when i sing along on my phone in bed I'm too lazy to go back and do retakes #(in part bc it can delete stuff i don't want deleted so.) so if there's a line I'm not sure about well. i have to wing it lol #anyway. this one exists in the same cinematic universe as loveless. aka fun upbeat pop songs about how i can't feel love #i like it! i like how my brain immediately went to a fun pop tune while writing. it's perfect. i love the irony of it so so much ♡ #it's also kinda funny to call it pop when there isn't any music ajdkflglh but i can hear it clearly in my head so 🧐 yeah. #yknow I'm surprised by how naturally this sort of thing comes to me now #and i find myself writing to match the tune rather than forcing a tune to match the lyrics #it also just. makes them better. sound more natural imo. less pretentious too :P #idk I'm excited that i managed to create smth sorry for the ramble 🙏 #i need to wake up at around 9:45 so wish me luck with that 🥲 bc i doubt I'll be able to sleep soon lol