#difficult relationship

[katimorton]

Mother's Day is coming up and I know for some, this can be a challenging time. We may come from a household with parents or a mother that is toxic or narcissistic or a codependent - and having a day specific to celebrating mom can bring up a lot of feelings. For many of us, we will likely always have a relationship with mom - whether that is good or bad. And your mom may always be narcissistic (or have narcissistic personality disorder) or codependent with you or toxic or whatever gripe you have with her or both of your parents, but you may still have to navigate that relationship with her. I'm talking through the 7 ways & tips to improve your relationship with your mother (or father or dad too) so that days like mother's day are not as challenging for both of you. 

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7 essential tips for navigating a difficult relationship with your mom: 1. Assess the relationship with your mother. 2. Acknowledge your role in your relationship with your mom. 3. Try seeing things from your mom's perspective. 4. Try practicing forgiveness with your parents. 5. Assess your own needs and capabilities with the relationship. 6. Avoid trying to change your mom. 7. Set healthy boundaries with your family. Improving our relationships with our parents can be challenging, especially when complicated by abuse, addiction, or differing beliefs. However, by implementing these 7 steps, we can foster growth and find resolution. Remember, meaningful change requires effort. 

#mothers day #toxic mother #toxic mom #family #therapy #mental health #kati morton #psycholo #difficult mom #difficult relationship #bad relationships #relationship advice #relationships #bad mom

[polyampanbyautywaffle]

thanks mum

Had a conversation with my mum last September and challenged a thing she said the next day when I had had some time to process it.

I had been saying that I was surprised that my sister hadn't picked up on any of the issues I had at school at all, acknowledging that she was super pre-occupied at the time.

She responded by saying that I had to put it in the context of the things my sister was dealing with, and that she was dealing with, and my little brother who had 'REAL problems'.

My little brother who was 2 at the time.

Had real problems.

My mum has no idea what problems I had at the time, not really. She never bothered to find out beyond me being a bit moody at times because I was working so hard to suppress how miserable and alone I felt. Because I knew she was dealing with a lot as my sister was unwell.

And the second the topic even comes around she does her best to squish it like a bug and tell me that a 2 year old had bigger problems than I did.

It's been playing in my mind for over 6 months. I've been getting flashbacks to what things were like at school. To not fitting in at all, to spending so much time alone, to the awful stomach aches I'd get in the afternoons because I hadn't eaten lunch (that way I didn't have to sit alone so publicly), to the time it turned out her then husband had been spying on me and how she laughed and said it was stupid that I had self-harmed.

I think she expects me to be normal with her.

I guess at least she doesn't have real problems

#late diagnosis #autistic #actually autistic #cptsd #school #lonely #mummy issues #difficult relationship

[bird-of-eternia]

Persephone Anne- Parent Visit

Perry sat across the table from her mother. It was the obligatory parent visit of the week and she had driven 45 minutes to visit for hopefully only an hour.

As her mother talked about the same things she had talked about the last visit, Perry stared at the yellowed paint on the ceiling. The years of chain-smoking by her grandparents had congealed on the walls. In some spots you could see the accumulated cigarette smoke dripping like old molasses.

Perry's parents had tried remodeling but had only gotten half way done in the ten years since the grandparents passed.

"...I'm making her a baby basket. You know the ones made of diapers? I thought it'd be cute." Her mother sat back in her chair, hands folded around a coffee cup, smiling.

"Yeah, I think that's really nice of you." Perry tried. She really tried.

"Yup, I thought so....I love her so much," she chuckled. "Even though she's, you know....with a another girl. She was with a man but then she left him and got back with her ex girlfriend. Even though she's abusive...Liz knows I don't agree with that kinda stuff but she loves me." She took a sip of her coffee. "But oh well, I suppose. I almost made a joke the other day, because they both have the same name, you know Liz and Liz, she walked in and I wanted to say 'oh heres Lizzie the Lezzie.'"

Perry took a sip from the sprite, mildly uncomfortable with the conversation. She imagined the reason why her mother got so excited about her younger friends or employees having babies was because her youngest daughter Persephone Anne was still childless at 28.

She was searching for something to say or a subject to change to when her father interrupted. His most defined talent.

"Look at this for a minute." He tapped around on his tablet for what seemed like forever, then turned it to face Perry.

"Man, this would freak me the fuck out boy!" He pushed his glasses up his nose, readjusting the oxygen tube.

They sat there in silence, except the occasional commentary from her father, and watched a six minute video of a hiker backing away from a cougar.

"....just imagine."

"Suckin, right there man! I woulda freaked out!"

"That's crazy, wow."

Perry tried smiling and attempted to blink the fuzziness from her eyes. "Wow, that's pretty scary...cool though."

"Yeah it is!" He chuckled and brought the tablet back in front of himself.

.

On the drive back home Perry blasted the stuff she listened to in highschool. Bands like My Chemical Romance, Simple Plan, Red Jumpsuit Apparatus, and some newer stuff like Yungblud. She yelled along to each song until she started to get a mild headache. The rest of the drive past corn fields, through small towns, and finally back into the city, she thought of Kristen Stewart in the Rolling Stones music video. The one where they danced around at a gas station. She thought about the music video and how crazy attracted to Kristen Stewart she was. What would she say if she met them? Probably choke and embarrass herself. There was no way someone like Kristen Stewart would date someone like Perry. What would her parents think?

'Oh hey, I like women and have a girlfriend now but don't worry she's rich!' Maybe that would ease their minds.

It was okay for Liz, her mother's coworker and 'adopted' daughter, to be gay but it would be a whole different story if Perry came out. An old anger rose up in her chest along with the resentment of Liz. It wasn't the girls fault but the fact Perry's mother gushed about her and her pregnancy made Perry jealous. Especially since she knew that if she came out as pansexual to her folks they would preach the Bible to her, pray for her, tell her she was going to hell...cry probably, but Liz got a free pass because she was kind and had a baby on the way.

She pulled into her usual parking spot in front of her apartment. The ending of Helena by MCR finishing up as she mentally prepared to hoist herself from the car.

Man...Kristen Stewart was fucking hot.

#writer #storiesfromtheprophet #author #comedy #stories #writing #kristen stewart #she is gorgeous #id let kristen stewart throttle me #slice of life #parents #difficult relationship #estranged #parents aren't always right

[molinaesque]

You know why these boys brought you in? 'Cause I f*cked up a poor, defenseless gang-affiliated organ dealership? Yep. Mm.

#cooper howard #lucy maclean #fallout #fallout prime #walton goggins #ella purnell #there's so many layers to this ahhhhhhhhh #this also parallels maximus wholeheartedly believing cooper was the one who chopped off wilzig's head off... not lucy #cooper himself believed it... he just found it absolutely fascinating #and in the end the difficult lesson she learned from cooper helped saved her life #but she still held on to her own rule and did it her way... by saving his life instead of killing him #this damn relationship is so FASCINATING im rattling my cage #fallouttvgifs #ghoulcy

[brainmaelstrom]

I'm have a platonic crush on my best friend.

Sky is my everything she is a reason to keep going she keeps me sane and I keep her sane and we would rule the world together and stick it to everyone who's ever wronged us.

My best friend has a platonic crush on me.

Im Sky's anchor, I calm her down, I share her joy, I bounce off her hyperactivity and we find so much happiness in each other.

Sky wants a qpp

I do too

My fiance and I are poly

But they don't like Skye.

#vent tw #Difficult relationship #qpp yearning #platonic love

[zaana]

Hunter chatting up Crosshair during a break, one of his dumb jokes even gets the man to smile for a second

#the bad batch #crosshair #hunter #tbb #fanart #star wars #hunter and crosshair #their relationship is so complex #they obviously deeply care for each other #crosshair is difficult to draw btw #tbb crosshair #tbb hunter

[canisalbus]

Hey so sorry if this somehow feels uncomfortable, but I'd really like to thank you for being like, very compassionate in how you portray Machete. I don't know why I feel so strongly about this but as someone who has been dealing with the fallout of religious trauma and other such problems, it really affected my ability to deal with sexuality and the overwhelming almost instinctual self-hating shame that comes with that. It's something I'm so absolutely ashamed of talking about even with close friends, it actually makes me a bit emotional to see that someone, who might or might have not been through the same, understands how it's like. It's one of the great things about art. Anyway sorry for the long ask, you're great, keep being so strong.

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#I thought about how personal I wanted to get here but suffice to say I'm familiar with the feeling #it means a lot to me to hear that there are people who relate with this stuff because like you said it's not something people are eager to #talk about #having a difficult relationship with something as natural and ordinary as sexuality can be such a humiliating experience #and it can take years to navigate your way out of the obstacle course of fear guilt and shame #answered #anonymous

[gazspookiebear]

Thinking about waiting for Ghost to be ready for a relationship (kind of continued from this post

(Kinda angsty, self doubt/depreciating thoughts)

When you ask 'What are we?', he panics. He doesn't know. He isn't ready to be a boyfriend, to meet your parents, to open up about his life-

His internal monolog is interrupted by your hand on top of his own. He hadn't realized how anxious he must have appeared- sweaty, hands trembling, shallow breaths, the works. He felt like he was being strangled, and all of this was over a simple question. Why did he ever think he could do this?

You tell him it's okay. You tell him you don't need an answer now if he's not ready. You say that you're fine with the way things are, and if he isn't ready to move forward yet, you'll wait for him.

You tell him you'll always love him regardless.

The world might as well have stopped spinning, because you love him?

He wants to tell you he loves you too, but he's scared. He's still waiting for you to leave. For him to lose feelings. For this to all have been a huge waste of time, or for you to realize you deserve better as soon as he confesses how he really feels.

For a split second, he thinks about leaving. About ghosting you. Maybe even breaking up with you- but that would require him to admit there was something there in the first place. It felt like you had snaked your way around his heart and were squeezing with all your might.

God, he couldn't imagine himself without you. He felt like a fool, naive and childish all over again. Why were you so patient with him? Couldn't you see there was something rotting inside of him?

Once again, he's dragged out of his mind by your presence. You look worried. He can't fathom why you would be worried about him. Nonetheless, he squeezes your hand in return. A simple gesture, but it means the world to you. You know he's trying. You know he's fighting with himself and losing half the battles.

You're determined to win the war.

#*sigh* #I think he'd accidentally be a little bit toxic at times #You won't get proper answers or communication for a long ass time #But he really does love you #He just doesn't know how to do all of *this* yet #He's a complicated guy #So much trauma fucking with the way he sees the world (and you) #And autism can make communication/understanding cues difficult sometimes #I think a relationship with him would be challenging and rocky at first #But you'll get there eventually #simon riley x reader #ghost x reader #ghost x gn reader #gn!reader #simon ghost riley x reader #Mmm this would be great as a fic but all my wips are still rotting in my notes app #Just wanna throw this out there ig

[tiya-minuscule]

Moving out...

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And this is the reason why my mother must never read this comic...

Relationship with parents can be really tricky especially at that age (oh how I loved finally moving out !)

We don't see much here,between Claire and her mother but I wanted to keep it subtle. I hope you felt the things I wanted you to fell (pain) haha

I hope you're all fine and safe, take care you all <3

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Very first chapter of this AU

#university au #professor layton #claire foley #hershel layton #clark triton #fan comic #comic #mother daughter relationship #and randomly I saw my mother this weekend #spoiler #it's still difficult #family stuff #ugh

[bigmeatpete69420]

Was talk8mg to my mom's today

She started the conversation :

"Did you see the news article today, they found one of the causes of autism!"

So I thinking it's either a set up for a joke or I'm about to hear the most batshit insane hot take ive every heard thus my response:

"OH well I already know the cause of autism, see I believe in reincarnation and we have more humans on this planet than ever before, and the jokers are the reincarnation store dont have that many souls. fuck it put a crow in this fragile mortal shell, or shove a fox in that one."

(This makes sense to me because ganders furries and autism in general)

Well so apperantly the "article" she read said ibuprofen causes autism so that's a new one lol

She still doesn't think I'm autstic btw

I brought up how some babies cry a lot and some babies don't cry at all she said, thats you you were my angel baby didn't make a noise until you wete 2 years old

THATS FUXKING AUTISM

#autism #i have autism #it is difficult to be in a good relationship with your parents in this life #reincarnation #what happens after we die

[revvethasmythh]

the thing about imogen saying that "if getting rid of delilah means getting rid of [launda] too, it's not worth it" is that it doesn't really change anything, does it? yes it provides laudna with reassurance that she is loved regardless of what lives in her head, but it doesn't mean that imogen doesn't still have negative feelings about delilah being there. "I love you more than I hate delilah" doesn't mean she isn't still disgusted by delilah. I get the sense that this is not an important distinction for imogen--she's said her piece, she's told laudna that she matters more, and that's the end of it for her. laudna matters more. her meaning is crystal clear: I love you and I'm choosing you.

but laudna has been obsessed with imogen saying she was disgusted by delilah watching them. she said herself she can't stop thinking about it, and marisha has said she can't stop thinking about it either, out of game. as far as they know currently, delilah's soul is twined in and around laudna's to the point where they are indistinguishable. the only way to get rid of delilah is to lose laudna. laudna doesn't know where she ends and delilah begins. imogen loves her, but imogen is disgusted by delilah. how does that work if they are one and the same? how does laudna cope with the fact that an inextinguishable part of herself is both genuinely evil and hated by the person she loves the most? at what point does being disgusted by delilah become being disgusted by a piece of laudna herself?

#it's WILD and fascinating and very difficult #I think it's a super interesting dynamic and I really want to see where this leads #because unless they find a way to get rid of delilah without killing laudna #how DO you have a long-term relationship with this hanging between you two? #and again I think it's a thing where Imogen just assumes they'll ''deal with it'' in some unspecified manner and it'll be fine #because love triumphs all right? that's how it has to be #but i'm not sure laudna thinks that #then again we'll see! who knows! it's interesting though! #cr spoilers #anyway i WILL maintag this one because i really like this one #critical role

[theyhadlightinsidetheireyes]

am i gonna be normal about glass onion? no i’m not

you don’t understand, benoit blanc movies are THE whodunit of our generation, the new original mystery movies that are not an adaptation! and i want them to have a very happy and long life!

#and that other start copying it #we need more detective mysteries in the cinema #not just on the tv #glass onion #i just love detective stories #but of a certain kind #agatha christie kind #not the police/csi kind #we need a charming detective #a large countryhouse full of people with difficult relationships #all the drama #it's the best if the detective is there even before the murder #i'm gonna suspend my disbelief for the fun of it

[imaybe5tupid]

Why bother? (Why bother?) It's gonna hurt me. (It's gonna hurt me.) It's gonna kill when- (Why bother!) -You desert me! (Gonna hurt me!)

Set after Nightmare. Laios is reminiscing and contemplating.

#laishuro #laios touden #i make a lot of jokes on here since part of the fun of this blog for me is limiting myself to only expressing ideas via drawings #as much as I can to try to see what I can try to convey in the limited time I have to draw each day which is sometimes like 15minutes #but laios idea of who shuro was to him and who he continues to be and how it ties into his own feelings of self worth and self hatred #not to mention being so thoroughly defined by having never been indulged before by the men in his life #are so compelling to me #and then of course you mix in toshiros own mind prisons #and their established dynamic of him begrudgingly putting up with him because he feels he has to and bc hes cursed with obedience #whilst laios genuinely thinks shuro does it because he likes it and likes laios because why else would anyone act like that #when everyone else in his life has not hesitated to Let Him Know #this is what is so fun about relationships like this…forever passing by each other’s true feelings like ships in the night #and on toshiros side umineko said it best People are riddles. They want someone else to solve their riddle #they live life wanting someone to solve the riddle that they are #the most difficult riddle in the world #without love the truth cannot be seen sighhhh many such cases #sometimes i get embarassed how deep i get for some of the characters in this series it really is that deep sometimes but not always #but WHATEVER #i never even engaged in or was interested in shipping the several years i read dunmeshi EXCEPT laishuro lol #which i sadistically wanted to stay one sided and miserable forever. I rarely get fed such genuinely fraught dynamics as their one in manga #so i became obsessed #and walked through the desert alone for 40 years and then checked in as anime started airing that other people ship this and gaf #and decided to unleash the jokes and ideas that my like 2 friend who like anime previously suffered alone as though they were jesus christ #now tho as much as I still enjoy tragedy and pain and emotional suffering I’ve let love and peace and requited fulfilled yaoi into my life #with laishuro. and its great! #my comics

[aurorangen]

On the weekend, Renee took Robbie out to take his mind off things. He felt more comfortable if Jayleen was there, so Renee came along with Vincent! Visiting the Bloom Garden & Cafe was a nice escape from the busy city and they enjoyed the splendid views! But Renee and Vincent started talking about their jobs; something Robbie didn't want to hear. He tried to block out their voices, but all he heard was their success, making him feel like even more of a failure...

Then he heard enough. He made some snide remarks about their careers targeting Vincent's success and left to get some space. Renee should have known better about Robbie's work situation and went to check on him, "I'm sorry Robbie, we should've stopped." She let him vent his frustrations, listening and offering some big sister advice.

"There's one more thing...I'm a bit embarrassed to say this," Robbie admitted and talked about how he was intimidated by Vincent. "Oh, Robbie," Renee finally understood his perspective.

"Sorry, I shouldn't have said all that to you," Robbie apologised to Vincent. "Hey, it's ok. I get what you're going through, I've been there too," he managed a small smile, "You remind me of myself...when I was at the lowest point of my life." Robbie doesn't know much about Vincent or his past: all he thinks about is how he is now and how perfect his life seemed. His train of thought was interrupted by a gentle touch, "If you ever want to talk about it, I'll be here for you."

Lot used: Bloom Garden & Cafe by @rheya28 tysm for this magnificent build ❤️

#ts4 #sims 4 #ts4 gameplay #ts4 legacy #postcard legacy #postcard gen 3 #vincent kingsley #renee reichmann #robbie reichmann #jayleen chavez #they have a difficult dynamic #its likely their relationship will take a while to heal and not instantly #she didnt really consider robbies emotions while she talk bout work #remember robbie is mean and has low confidence so he lashed out #vincent is a good person and he will have robbies back too he relates to robbies current situation with life not going right... #he doesnt know what vincents gone through and judged him by his life now / success. that changed when he offered a shoulder to lean on

[thepeacefulgarden]

Promises you must make to yourself (and keep) when it's time to detach with love

I will stop trying to control anyone but myself.

I will set boundaries with this person, and I will not rescind those boundaries.

I will make those boundaries clear.

I will not give in to temper tantrums, threats, tears, bargaining, guilt trips, or other manipulative tactics. Instead, I will walk away.

I will stop doing things for them that they are capable of doing for themselves, and should be doing for themselves.

I will stop "loaning" them money I know I'm never going to get back.

I will let them be responsible for their own lives, and their own choices, and I will take responsibility for mine.

If it's necessary, I will remove myself and any children and/or pets from the household, and I will get us to safety.

I will prioritize my safety and well-being, and the safety and well-being of any children or pets.

I will not cover and lie for this person anymore.

I will no longer defend or make excuses for their unacceptable behavior.

I will prioritize my needs over their wants.

I will know that I am doing this because I love them and care about them, and I will absolve myself of guilt.

I will cultivate a support system of my own.

I will absolve myself of responsibility for their happiness, their life choices, their behavior, their words, and their responsibilities.

I will regulate my emotions when they try to dysregulate me. I will not lose my cool, no matter how much they agitate me.

If I cannot deescalate them, I will walk away.

I will absolve myself of responsibility for their feelings. I will let them be mad. Or sad. Or whatever else.

I will not bail them out of legal trouble.

I will not bail them out of any other kind of trouble or crisis.

I will no longer give this person second, third, fourth, fifth, hundredth chances they don't deserve.

I will accept that the situation is what it is, and I will stop trying to minimize or deny how bad it is.

I will accept that I cannot change or control them, and I will stop trying to do so.

I will find a sense of meaning, identity, and purpose outside of my relationship with them, or feeling "needed" or "wanted" by them, or anyone else.

I will let them face the consequences of their behavior, and I will absolve myself of responsibility for those consequences.

I will know and understand that I have done my best, and I cannot help someone who won't help themselves.

I will know that, no matter how much they may protest otherwise, I am not being selfish.

#stop enabling #boundaries #codependency #unhealthy relationships #toxic people #difficult people #detaching with love #detachment #letting go #self care #self care is not selfish #people pleasing #fawning #self respect #mental health #coping #addiction #healing #recovery #trauma bonding

[mintjeru]

happy lunar new year!! may all that you wish for come true 🐉

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#genshin impact #xinyan #genshin gaming #嘉明 #yun jin #chongyun #xiangling #xingqiu #fanart #myart #doodle #lunar new year #i love liyue so much... there's just smth about the characters' relationships that makes it feel very homey #the liyue friends are doing a little dragon dance bc it's also the year of the dragon ^^ #once again i am practicing my chibis hehe #it's difficult to stay consistent throughout but i'm sure i'll get better at it in time