#blameshifting

[traumatizedjaguar]

Abusers will force you into a position to have to defend and explain yourself because they thrive on arguing with others. The best way to stay away from their abuse is to not engage with them...But when it comes to abusers they will automatically assume you're guilty for something if you don't defend yourself and argue, they will assume you're guilty and justify bullying you over it. They put you into a position where it is double edged. Either way, they win so if you defend yourself they get a rise out of you and if you don't defend yourself they assume you're guilty and come after you. Abusers thrive off of twisting and manipulating the meaning of your body language, tone, subtleties, whether you engage or don't engage, or literally anything else.

#my text #abusers always think they're right and never wrong #they thrive off of manipulation #manipulative #manipulation tactics #decetifulness #gaslighting #emotional abuse #psychological abuse #child abuse #family abuse #actually cptsd #actually abused #actually traumatized #actuallyabused #actually traumatised #blameshifting #blame shift

[blackgirlslivingwell]

Blame Shifting | Psychological Manipulation Terms Women Should Know

#blackwomen #blackwoman #trending #viral #BlameShifting #fyp #psychology #bglw

[tmarshconnors]

Signs Of Evil Manipulation

Signs of evil manipulation can vary depending on the context, but here are some general indicators that may suggest someone is engaging in manipulative and harmful behavior:

Deception: Manipulative individuals often employ deceit and lies to achieve their goals. They may present false information, twist the truth, or engage in gaslighting, making you doubt your own perceptions and reality.

Emotional manipulation: They use tactics to exploit your emotions and vulnerabilities. This could include guilt-tripping, emotional blackmail, or playing with your feelings to control your actions or decisions.

Isolation: Manipulative individuals may try to isolate you from your support network, such as friends and family. They want to limit your access to alternative perspectives and support systems that could expose their manipulative behavior.

Blame-shifting: Manipulators often deflect responsibility for their actions and blame others for their own mistakes or negative consequences. They may make you feel guilty or responsible for things that are not your fault.

Lack of empathy: Manipulative individuals often display a lack of genuine empathy or concern for others' feelings. They may exploit your emotions for their own benefit without regard for the harm they cause.

Control and power dynamics: Manipulators seek to exert control over others and establish a power imbalance in relationships. They may use tactics like intimidation, threats, or undermining your self-confidence to assert dominance.

Constant criticism: Manipulative individuals frequently criticize and belittle their targets to undermine their self-esteem and create dependency. They may focus on your weaknesses and insecurities, making you doubt your own worth.

Gaslighting: Gaslighting is a manipulative technique where the person denies, distorts, or trivializes your experiences, feelings, or memories to make you question your sanity or perception of reality.

Conditional affection and love: Manipulators often use affection, love, or approval as a reward for compliance or punishment for resistance. They may withhold affection, support, or attention to control your behavior.

Manipulative tactics: Manipulators employ various tactics to control others, such as manipulation through fear, charm, flattery, or excessive generosity. They may use these tactics to exploit your weaknesses and gain an advantage.

#Manipulation #ToxicRelationships #Deception #EmotionalManipulation #IsolationTactics #BlameShifting #LackOfEmpathy #PowerDynamics #Criticism #Gaslighting #ControlTactics #ConditionalLove #ManipulativeBehavior #PsychologicalAbuse #MindGames #TrustIssues #UnhealthyRelationships #SelfEsteem #Boundaries #SeekingSupport #deep thinking #today on tumblr

[miadvi]

“Blame shifting” . . . Created in @procreate (#procreate) on the #ipadair with #applepencil2 . . . #illustrations #illustrator #illustrationart #instaart #digitalart #procreateart #digitalartist #digitalillustration #conceptualart #creative #illustratorsoninstagram #illustratorsofinstagram #conceptualillustration #conceptualartist #creativity #mikevillustration #blameshifting https://www.instagram.com/p/CnzY2f1LDBa/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#procreate #ipadair #applepencil2 #illustrations #illustrator #illustrationart #instaart #digitalart #procreateart #digitalartist #digitalillustration #conceptualart #creative #illustratorsoninstagram #illustratorsofinstagram #conceptualillustration #conceptualartist #creativity #mikevillustration #blameshifting

[esoteric-aesthetic-lyrics]

Destroy Your Masquerade - Blameshift feat. Paul McCoy

#aesthetic #blue aesthetic #blue #song aesthetic #song lyrics #lyrics #lyrics aesthetics #blameshift #paul mccoy #everything is queue #masks

[shamballalin]

Let Them

“Let them” is a concept that has taken me a long time to learn, and sometimes it’s still difficult to put into practice. I used to tolerate too much because I didn’t want to lose people. But I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that. Don’t make the mistake of being so understanding that you overlook the fact that you���re being repeatedly…

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#accountability #anger #blameshift #boundaries #closure #countless tears #difficult people #disrespect #empathy #forgiveness #gossip #hateful #hurt #ignore them #insults #Joy #judgment #Let Them #Let them be upset #lies #Light #mean #meaness #misunderstanding #Peace #reconciliation #respect #right #rude #self awaerness

[getinthefuckingcarkitten]

Avery is so good bc she's the perfect mix of Alpha Bitch and Unloved Freak

#yeah she has money charisma some connections and loves bullying the weak #but also her parents don't like her. her dog bit her. no one really loves her beyond her money and the ones who do are at least mildly crazy #she's powerful and has everything she wants when she wants it but everyone laughs at her behind her back and she doesn't belong anywhere #she has so many unaddressed issues but instead of thinking abt them she takes it out on others and when possible blameshifts into oblivion #anyway: babygirl disgnosis. it's terminal #dol avery

[dis--mayed]

My brother knows everything that other people should do, but he's a poor, helpless little victim.

He claims he can't get a job because of his tier two sex offender status and his heart problems, but he can abuse drugs and he DID HAVE A JOB with those "heart problems" and despite his status, but he quit because his wrist hurt and he couldn't make money busking anymore……….. (He legit said this.)

He can't move out because of his tier two sex offender status, but my mom was able to find him places for the ten years that he, legally, couldn't live with us.... what happened to those places? There aren't any places like that now? Where are other people on the registry living? I doubt they're all fucking homeless. (He's on SSI, btw.)

WTF is going on here????

#Dysfunctional family #Toxic people #toxic family #He blameshifts everything onto my mom #He doesn't take responsibility for shit #He's not on meds

[mimosaflowerthings]

I like the implication that is doesnt matter if this noclue idunno harassed and harasses me or tries to deal trauma to me and gaslit me ...according to this forgery comitting creep.

I asked people for help desperately due to this and that.

This creep is using a picture from a gofundme and lying about my age to try and attack my privacy and hold up my life. An unsafe misogynistic individual who has been lying and threatening to give me aids.

Then being abusive towards a person recovering from health issues with adhd. And threatebing to slander and dox me for sayinf "I hope my stalker is dead" in the tags of a post. After years of stalking. After months of harass8ng me in chats at a vulenrable time.

That I "led him on" because he saw I was nice and vulemrable and he thought that would never be able to refuse him if he gaslit me enough. Which he is still trying. Because I drew art for a fic once

Because he forced me to tell him personal things then blamed me for being emotionally vulenrable after, although I tried to nicely leave the conversation and things many times.

Given the four years... this man should be g0ne by the law back home for his violations and harassing a strange girl. Instead he eve teases and plays victim and says I must have liked him.

#Drarry #Noclue idunno #And he will try to use my genuine desperation to keep blameshifting.

[waltzofcloths]

Why is management always so quick to jump to calling their employees lazy? Why do they never actually look at what’s changed as of late to find an actual explanation for the decrease in work achieved?

#julspeaks #obvious answer: it being anything other than employees laziness would require some self-reflection and admittance of fault #feels better to just blameshift and say that they aren’t doing good enough than to admit maybe you aren’t doing good managing #also? the fact ‘management’ never came to tell us directly that we’re doing a shit job tells. #if they have such a problem with how apparently shit of a job we’re doing - they can come tell us directly #not that anything’s going to change anyway. I know I’m doing literally everything I can already anyway. #there physically isn’t anything more I could be doing. #I do (at the very least) 6 hours of work in 3 hours. I take every call - phone or in-store. #I assist others/cover people’s breaks (even though I am incredibly short on time) #I don’t take any breaks unless my coworkers are INSISTENT that I do #and you’re going to look me in the eye. stare at me for 90% of this ‘meeting’ - as if I’m stupid or the reason behind it #and tell me that management is disappointed in us and we aren’t doing enough #and that we should be doing detailed work #I don’t know WHAT problem you have with me. I don’t know WHY you seem to think I’m so stupid #so much so that even after the ‘meeting’ concludes #you WALK with me back to where I was working CONTINUING on the topic #I know I’m the second-youngest in the department I’m in but you seem to think I am Severely lacking in intellect #don’t get me wrong - I’m by no means smart; but you seem to talk to me like I have no idea. You talk Down to me #Oh! I went on a bit of a ramble down here. Ignore It I am still Emotional it seems.

[kevinvogrin]

Even greater and much larger than all of those in the past. -A Nation of Narcissism- The phrase, which conjured images of women being put on trial, became a staple of Trump’s defense against the Russia investigation and Ukraine-related impeachment. Casting himself as a perpetual victim, more than one tweet simply yelled: “Witch-Hunt!” #aiart #ai #aiartist #art #politicalart #trump #impeachment #witchhunt #blameshift #narcissist #narcassistawareness #republican #womensrights #survivorsofnarcissticabuse #comical #satire #fakenews https://www.instagram.com/p/CpihrkKPPRr/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#aiart #ai #aiartist #art #politicalart #trump #impeachment #witchhunt #blameshift #narcissist #narcassistawareness #republican #womensrights #survivorsofnarcissticabuse #comical #satire #fakenews

[wmiqaqueen]

#blameshift #sidestep #kalen dion #gaslight #repeat

[nekropsii]

adding to the Rufioh negativity: when trying to break up with Horuss didn't work, Rufioh started to try and cheat on him and asked out Aradiabot (who reminded him of Damara from being her beta counterpart and her wiring making her aggressive) right in front of Horuss who was oblivious (too many fans forget fanart is just fanart and canonically, his headgear covers his ears and "fills with sweat"- stating this because fans blamed Horuss for it???)

The idea of blaming Horuss for Rufioh hitting on a 13 year old girl is so fucking funny to me. Some people really do not want to acknowledge that Rufioh kind of just sucks. Way to blameshift! Totally not a weird thing to do. I've gotta correct something here, though: The thing about Horuss's headgear "filling with sweat" and therefore blocking his hearing is a deliberate act of dishonesty on Horuss's part. Rufioh's not the only person at fault for the relationship not ending, because Horuss is achingly aware that Rufioh wants to conclude it.

Horuss isn't stupid, he just really doesn't want it to be over. At least not on his own terms.

The context to the line about his ears filling with sweat... Is that it's right after Rufioh goes on this whole speech about the entire history of their relationship. It's incredibly long, and then it leads directly into Rufioh trying to break up with him.

He's deflected like this before. That's what that is. He knows what's happening, he's just denying it, because he's not very good at giving Rufioh much autonomy. This is why he immediately goes on to reasserting their status as "Romantic Afterlife Partners" right after that deflection. He doesn't even give Rufioh a chance to repeat himself, even though he asked... Because he wasn't ever going to give him the chance to do that. It sucks. This is undeniably a bad situation and undeniably a toxic relationship, but it doesn't excuse everything Rufioh has done. Like this!

Every square nanometer of this is just plain creepy.

The idea of approaching and hitting on a 13 year old girl who is related to your ex-girlfriend- which you do nothing but ridicule behind her back, calling her psycho, refusing to view her perspective with any level of compassion or validity, et cetera- purely because she reminds you so much of her is just... Downright predatory, in more ways than one. This is genuine sexual predator behavior. What he wants here is a repeat, but with a clean slate, and a new layer of vulnerability- because, again, Aradia is 6 years younger than him. She's 13. He is 19. That's a Middle Schooler and a College Student.

The way he's talking about her here sounds more like he's talking about a sex doll in Damara's image than a real, separate person, who is also 13 years old. It's completely and utterly vile. Attractive or not, and tragic or not- there's no excuse for this behavior. None! And not one part of this exchange is legitimately Horuss's fault. Yes, Horuss is a bad partner to Rufioh. He is responsible for that. But no, Horuss is not responsible for Rufioh being a predatory. That's all on Rufioh.

#homestuck #homestuck meta #homestuck analysis #alpha trolls #beforan trolls #dancestors #beta trolls #rufioh nitram #horuss zahhak #aradia megido #aradiabot #cw abuse #cw child harm #mechanical_bull.ship #<== kinda evil to tag this as this but it goes so far into the subject that i might as well #rufioh.pdf #rufioh.prtsc #horuss.pdf #horuss.prtsc #aradiabot.pdf #aradiabot.prtsc #nekro.pdf #nekro.sms

[traumatizedjaguar]

Emotional terrorism

Simply put, emotional terrorism is domestic terrorism that uses human feelings for ammunition. They use emotions as weapons and try to make you go mad.

It can be a friend, a spouse, a partner, a boss, a coworker or anybody.

A bully using emotional terrorism finds comfort in making others uncomfortable; they have a sadistic twist to their personality and enjoy seeing others going off or losing themselves.

They will scream, rage, belittle, argue relentlessly, and put you in positions to look bad and be attacked further.

Manipulation: They will make you doubt yourself, gaslight you which makes you doubt your reality or perception of events, making you feel crazy, delusional, unstable mentally ill like there’s something wrong with you that you don’t know about, or wrong.

Public humiliation: They will publicly humiliate you. They will demean you, belittle you, criticize you, or humiliate you in front of others. It can be in the disguise of humor.

They will continuously blameshift, use verbal aggression and try to provoke fear out of you, terrorize and rage to cause you to become weak, small, frightened, and full of dread. Then use that to blame you or make you out to be the bad guy or abuser while continuously justifying what they like to label as “revenge” against you.

Walking on eggshells: The emotional terrorist will get upset and offended at every little thing, and anything possible you say or do or don’t say or don’t do to try to make you out to be bad or difficult in some way; they will be hypersensitive meaning they get offended at perceived slights that don’t exist, imaginary slights, or act like they were offended and twist and manipulate reasons why they are offended by you in order to justify causing you harm. They seek “revenge” in twisted and distorted ways that doesn’t make sense to majority of people. They use this as leverage to gaslight you into believing things about yourself that isn’t true.

This is a form of “weaponizing feelings” in order to harm you and make you believe you deserve to lay there and take the abuse. They weaponize their feelings in order to make you believe you caused them to abuse you for a reason.

You either notice the abuse and try to stand up for yourself, sometimes becoming defensive. Or you don’t notice it and fall for the gaslighting, repeatedly apologizing to your abuser for your mistakes and wrongs that don’t really exist, wondering why you’re always doing something wrong; you believe you’re broken. Your abuser will keep pushing the idea that “you’re pushing them too far” that you’re “pushing them over the edge and making them react” “making them say things they have to say because you pushed them” this is placing the blame on you for their behaviors. Abusers often claim the idea that “some people deserve abuse” to further gaslight their victims.

#my text #actually traumatized #actually cptsd #actually abused #actuallyabused #actuallytraumatized #psychological abuse #emotional abuse #emotional terrorism #domestic terrorism #blame shifting #blame shift #abuse

[leo--png]

It’s not ableism. We should be cautious with custard b people when they have a famous streak of getting vindictive with people (we often perceive as innocent where they see a guilty party is a hallmark of ASPD; yes getting revenge for strange reasons -without logic- or believing someone is guilty where majority of normal people would perceive that person as innocent is a HALLMARK of ASPD and psychopathy).

And the symptoms: manipulative, deceitful, rash, manipulate for self benefit and entertainment, blameshifting, argumentative/starting arguments, law breaking, perceiving self as better than everyone else, acting above the laws and rules, having a streak of poor and abusive relationships, exploitative behaviors.

Autism has to do with sensory issues and not understanding social ques, ADHD has to do with attention and focus problems, these disorders are NOT the same disorders. Pedophiliac disorder for example had to do with wanting to rape children. Some disorders CAN be dangerous and it’s not stigma to recognize that.

what

#npd awareness #npd safe #actually narcissistic #actually npd #npd #cluster b #cluster b personality disorder #cluster b acceptance #what

[aenslem]

the enemy you need by Blameshift... if it aint about young and rush

*fights the urge to make a gifset*

#text #honestly the song fits most of my ships #but right now im obsessed with those two idiots so...