#asexual media

[acesincomics]

If you only look to “mainstream” media for ace representation, you’ll miss out on a lot of fantastic stories. Let’s support creators already making the media we want to see more of!

Indie and self-published works are no less valuable or important. And a lot of folks, including acespecs, find it’s the best way to get their stories out there.

It’s great to want and push for visibility in mainstream media. But that shouldn’t be everything. There are so many creators making the kinds of ace stories we want, here and now. They need support too.

#asexual #ace #ace representation #asexual representation #asexuality in media #asexual media #ace media #reposting this here!

[caspianthegeek]

Let's talk about cake...

Sometimes people tell me that you can't make a cake without eggs and milk. But I can't eat either of those, and I happen to like cake. I've had some really absolutely delicious cakes without dairy and eggs! And let me tell you, I am absolutely excited when I get to have cake I can eat. You see, it's very hard to find vegan cakes, so when I get the chance to have some it's wonderful.

My friend, @seedsofwinter, can't have almonds. So when he has cake, it can't include nuts or ingredients like almond flour.

I have friends who can't have gluten though, too. And for them? That almond flour may do the spot absolutely perfectly. It's what they need so that they can have cake!

And of course, none of this is easy cake to find. There are so many cakes that one or all of us can't enjoy because of their ingredients.

The experience of getting a perfect cake, and one that you can share with your friends, too? It's genuinely really special. It's an experience you can take joy in together.

If the cake is made correctly and with care, people who do not have allergies and intolerances can enjoy it too! (It's not cake, but there's a particular popsicle brand I pick up for me that my teen—who has no allergies—absolutely adores. I get those popsicles for myself since I can't have other goodies, but part of the fun is in sharing and I'm glad my teen loves them. And more people buying those popsicles encourages the company to make more vegan items, too, which is a win!)

Sometimes people complain because they don't want to eat the gluten-free cake, even though someone at the office is allergic to gluten (no, they aren't just making it up).

The push forward continues.

Except what if this wasn't about cakes?

What if it's about representation in media.

There are lots of allo cis hetero relationships portrayed in media. It's everywhere you look. It's a bit harder to find a gay couple in media. More like needing to go to the gluten-free section of the grocery store or a specialty bakery, right? And ace and nonbinary representation? Well, guess we need to also leave out the eggs and milk, and that gets a bit more challenging yet.

Luckily for all of these, it's becoming easier to find. It's hard, and you still sometimes have to go looking for it.

What I'm asking is that those of you especially looking to eat the gluten-free cakes not insist that every cake must be made with milk and eggs (those who want to consume queer media to not insist it be allo cis homosexual). Because that's going to leave someone out. Some people are going to seek a gluten-free, nut-free, egg-free, and milk-free cake (what are we at? Queer, asexual, aromantic, trans, nonbinary, take your pick; we’re not even going to get into racial rep and disability in queer media right now). And that's okay. They should get to have nice things, too. And in the meantime, there's some great gluten-free cake (queer media) for you to enjoy!

Is this clear enough? I rather like this analogy. Because everyone deserves nice things. And it may be stereotypical for an ace person to like cake, but I do think it's rather yummy.

All my thanks to @seedsofwinter for helping build this analogy over a delightful dessert, where we both had the foods we could eat that were yummy to us.

#good omens #queer representation #queer media #our flag means death #asexuality #nonbinary #transgender #nonbinary media #trans media #asexual media #cake #analogy #queer analogy

[carli-in-the-morning]

HIHIHI

Sorry for not posting much recently, mans been busy (I got a job!!! :D), BUT THIS ISNT ABOUT THAT

THIS IS ABOUT WELCOME TO CELIBACY CLUB

(WARNING: this is going to be a long, emotional post, but I beg of you, if you have the mental space for it, please read what I have to say)

For those of you who likely do not know, Welcome to Celibacy Club is a short film that is currently getting funds raised for it. Now, you might be saying, "Carleigh, that's cool and all, but why should I care?" And I wouldn't blame you for saying that because you don't know the most important thing about it. This short film is going to be about an asexual main character who learns how to be confident in her asexuality.

Why is that important? BECAUSE IT LIKE DOESN'T FUCKING EXIST IN MODERN MEDIA!!!! I'm serious!!! I literally wrote an essay on this exact topic for my senior year AP Composition class, the need for asexual representation in media. You know how many characters I can think of off the top of my head that are asexual? Like 5. Only 5. There's some character in like Shadow Hunters or Teen Wolf or smth, Lilith from The Owl House, the protagonist of Loveless by Alice Oseman, Issac from Heartstopper, and some like alien queen or something from a series that my creative writing teacher is obsessed with. That's it, that's all I've got. That's abysmal compared to the millions of characters who are straight in modern media, hell, that's abysmal compared to the amount of lesbian characters and gay characters in modern media. That's not me trying to diminish the importance of lesbian and gay characters because they are important, but for fucks sake, asexuality only just recently became officially recognized as something that doesn't belong in the DSM. To those of you who don't know, the DSM is basically the bible of mental illnesses and disorders.

Even more so, let me tell you two quick little personal stories.

First story is about me and my most recent ex boyfriend. We were, and still are, extremely close best friends who talk to each other about anything and everything. We broke up in March of 2020 because of the pandemic and parted ways for a year or so before we became chill again. Since we have been chill, he confessed to me that, had I not been asexual, he would have "Wifed [me] up immediately."

Story number two is one night my parents and I were driving home from basically my town wide GSA meeting. Naturally, being cishet parents with an aggressively queer kid, they decided it was safe to ask me questions about my queerness given the tone of the rest of the night. They were asking me all sorts of things, but only about my asexuality. They wanted to know if I had any sort of libido, if I had any interest in getting myself off, etc etc etc. Any time I would answer their questions, it'd then be IMMEDIATELY followed up with something along the lines of "Wow, that's so strange, I could never imagine living like that...like I love living with having had sex, I wouldn't want you missing out on that."

What do these stories have to do with anything? I'm glad you asked, I have never in my life felt more uncomfortable than in of these instances. I mean it. And the fucking miserable part of it is that I can think of oodles and oodles more of them because the unfortunate truth is that I have had to accept that my life, as an asexual person, places me in a fucking display case to be gawked at by allosexuals. I am always going to be made to feel uncomfortable by the allosexuals in my life because they just don't get it and they refuse to accept they dont get it and move the fuck on.

When I am the one genuinely asking what the appeal is in liking boobs or ass or a dick or anything sexual, the responses I am given are so "Uh....duh, they're boobs, how could you not like them?" But if I were ever to tell them "Uh....duh, it's sex, why would you ever like it?" They would just not fucking accept that as a valid answer to give. I get fucking interrogated by the allosexuals in my life relentlessly anytime my asexuality comes into conversation. And any time I'm the one to bring it up? I'm given eye rolls.

Now, what the hell does this have to do with Welcome to Celibacy Club? That's a fantastic question. I genuinely believe with my whole heart that Welcome to Celibacy Club has the power to help change the problems that I have faced being asexual. Maybe not for me, it might already be too late for that, but definitely for all of the younger asexual people out there in the world. Welcome to Celibacy Club will provide some long needed positive and proud asexual representation in media that will be able to show the baby asexuals out there that they are not alone. Even more than that, it has the power to show the allosexuals who interrogate, poke, and prod us that we are not here to gawk at. Welcome to Celibacy Club has the power to shatter the display case us asexuals get placed in and allow us to breathe and be recognized as the human beings we are.

But it can't do that alone.

As of writing this, Sunday August 28th 4:50 AM EST, Welcome to Celibacy Club is just under halfway to its funding goal and it has only two more weeks to get the money it needs to tell its story.

So I am asking, begging, you Tumblr; please, fund this short film. For all the asexuals who have been made to feel so alone because of feelings we can't control, fund this short film. Let our story be told with a happy ending for once.

Below you'll find the link to the Indiegogo donation page they have. Please, give anything you can comfortably spare. Pennies, dimes, dollars, anything.

TLDR; Welcome to Celibacy Club is the chance to tell a positive story about asexuality, but it doesnt have a lot more time for funds to be collected. Please donate to the production of this short film.

#asexual #asexuality #asexual representation #asexuality in media #asexual character #asexual characters #asexual story #asexual spectrum #asexuality is valid #asexuality is beautiful #asexual love #asexual storytelling #asexual media #asexual inclusion #asexual inclusive #asexual inclusivity #asexual pride #asexual problems #asexual positivity #asexual flag #asexual film #asexual films #asexual stories #donate #fundrasier #fundraising #short flim #short films #movies #movie writing

[a-map-of-gays]

More queer media that doesn't focus on being bullied and harrassed. More queer media that doesn't centre around cis gay men. More queer media that features aros and aces. More queer media that isn't about suffering. More queer media that has genderqueer people. More queer media with characters who use multiple sets of pronouns. More queer media that has supportive parents (especially fathers). More queer media that isn't about wanting to be 'normal'. More queer media that represents all the facets of drag. More queer media that represents the whole queer community

#This is mostly just me getting upset at the representation in Jamie #All press is good press I know #But good lord representation could be better #In a LOT of ways #queer #queer community #queer media #gay #lesbian #asexual #aromantic #bisexual #pansexual #transgender #nonbinary #genderqueer

[ale-arro]

been going a little bit insane about this sentence from Ace by Angela Chen for the past week

#replace this with any other type of significant relationship too #also! this book actually rules btw i really recommend it #i didnt read it when it first cane out bc i was like. well i am already pretty familiar with asexuality and not rly interested in 101 stuff #but it turns out it doesnt feel 101-y at all its a super awesome piece of queer theory and also chen has Good opinions #and not weird watered down ones that i am sometimes wary of in aspec communities (frankly especially ace ones) #i think maybe if more people approached asexuality the way chen does (including and maybe even especially ace people) #i would be more inclined to still ID as ace #but anyways! #aro #aromantic #<- tag selections that reflect how i personally engage with this quote #also #described in alt text #also also #j tag #:/ #aro media

[thefairfeline]

I know it's kinda selfish, but can I have more asexual charactes that aren't aromantic? One who stands up and says that you can love without sex, and that they deserve love without having to engaging in something they prefer not to?

Also a aromantic character that isn't asexual? One who doesn't feel guilt about needing and wanting people, but not seeking a romantic relationship with them? One that is open and proud, and in no way ashamed for their lack of love and need of sex?

Please?

Edit: I realize some aroace people got frustrated at this post due to having next to no representation already, and I admit it was blind of me to phrase it how I did.

I was (unfairly) annoyed when I made this post because I kept seeing people write ace characters I really like to be aro as well. (Which is more then fine to do btw!)

This tumblr dwelling feline was a salty bean who didn't think anyone would see this.

Thank you to everyone who gave recommendations in the comments!

And please don't start arguments.

#asexual spectrum #asexual #ace #aromantic spectrum #aromantic #aro #My fellow As deserve to see themselves reflected in the media

[redysetdare]

enough stories about how someone learns to truely be happy through love. i want a story where someone is desperately seeking out love thinking it's the only way to be happy only for them to learn by the end that happiness is what they make of it and they don't need love at all to make it.

#aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #aroace #loveless aro #loveless #non-partnering #nonpartnering #non partnering #nonamorous #aplatonic #enough of amatonormative tropes in media!!! enough 'you're miserable without love' stories!!! #less “you're too focused on ambitions to make you happy that you dont let yourself fall in love” #more “you're too focused on finding love to make you happy that you wont let yourself live” #more “there is so much more to life than love and so much more that can bring your happiness if you just let yourself experience it.” #maybe I should write this story #and when i say love i mean all love. not just romantic love. #which is why i tagged aplatonic too #while i mostly see this trope in terms of romantic love i think there's something to be said about #telling stories where people are perfectly content alone too #it doesn't have to be sad or pathetic to not have friends by choice. they dont have to be a miserable person to not have friends #i think we need more variety in stories where it shows people just content in their lack of love or relationships in all shapes #not everyone wants a family not everyone wants friends not everyone wants a partner not everyone wants love #some of us are content without. that should be explored without the need to fix it.

[marisatomay]

every sex scene in a movie is necessary, actually. we called for a vote on it while you were in the bathroom. yeah, even the people who were on the fence voted in favor of it because you were being a whiny child. and we don’t like you.

#doooooont watch it if you don’t want to seeeeeeee it!!!!!! #and for the record: it’s weird and gross to use asexual people as a cudgel in your war to censor media!!!!!! #you sound like phyllis schlafly !!!!!!

[mister-crow]

went to an ace zine workshop last week and made this :-) here's to all you late bloomers out there

#artists on tumblr #traditional art #zine #ace #asexuality #queer art #collage #mixed media #sketchbook #queer artwork

[aromantic-diaries]

Asexuals can just bring up the fact that there's very little authentic representation for us and that maybe we would like some more of it and someone in the notes will be like "omg why do you hate gay people huh why don't you want gay people to have sex why do you want to erase our sexuality" just say you hate asexuals and move on, jesus fucking christ

#ace #asexual #acespec #''we want more ace rep'' doesn't fucking translate to ''there shouldn't be sex in movies at all'' #we're not trying to ''sanitize'' queer media for crying out loud

[fnafs-ex-boyfriend]

It’s a little hard to describe how important Alastor being aroace is to me. He’s just this cool, suave, mysterious, petty guy with a silly voice that has the same attitudes as sex and romance as I do and I think that’s really cool and awesome.

Edit: There’s a follow-up

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #hazbin hotel hbo #hazbin hotel #hazbin alastor #alastor hazbin hotel #aroace alastor #aroace representation #lgbtqia #representation in media #my art #my oc #my ocs #this is just so important to me #yall have no idea #the number one asexual fandom guy posts

[acesincomics]

Happy International Asexuality Day from Aces in Comics!

Aces in Comics is a project to highlight the growing representation of asexual / ace spectrum characters, creators, and stories in all types of comics, including: comic books, webcomics, graphic novels, manga, minicomics, and more!

Also found on Twitter!

Since 2021, I've been sharing comics with canon ace characters. Every character posted here is confirmed acespec either in-text or by their creator. These Twitter threads list over 120 characters from 90+ comics. Please go to the last post in the thread to see more! Part 1 | Part 2

As more characters are also posted here on Tumblr, you can find these posts under Canon Ace Character List. There's only a few for now but more will be posted soon!

#Acespec Comic Share is a hashtag for ace spectrum (acespec) comic creators to share their comics. Twice a month, usually on the 1st and 3rd Sunday, Aces in Comics holds a comic share on Twitter and Tumblr. (More details and FAQ)

Today is a special comic share for International Asexuality Day. Check out the creators participating and support their work!

If you're on Twitter, you can also follow this list of acespec comic creators! Please DM @acesincomics if you'd like to be added.

#International Asexuality Day #IAD #IAD 2023 #asexual #ace #asexuality #ace media #asexual media #queer comics #ace creators #asexual creators #lgbtqia+ comics #lgbt+ comics #lgbtq+ comics

[reggieslocket]

society if we got more wlw, ace and aro representation in media:

#aroace #aroace community #aroace memes #aroace pride #asexual #aromantic #asexual aromantic #acespec #arospec #ace pride #aro pride #lesbian #wlw #lesbian community #lgbtq #lgbt pride #lgbt community #lgbt media #aromanticism #asexuality #pride month

[incognitopolls]

"Sexual media" meaning porn, smut, sex scenes, BDSM, etc.

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#polls #incognito polls #anonymous #tumblr polls #tumblr users #questions #ace #asexual #aspec #acespec #media #polls about lgbtq stuff #polls about sex #submitted nov 6

[cepheusgalaxy]

(You don't know for how long I've been thinking on doing this)

LGBTQIA+ representation on media be like:

(Edit: id by @aromanticsky)

#memes #lgbtqiaplus #queer #representation #queer representation #gay #lesbian #bisexual #intersex #transgender #gender #nonbinary #abrosexual #multisexual #pansexual #polysexual #asexual #aromantic #omnisexual #demisexual #demiromantic #graysexual #grayromantic #lgbt memes #lgbt media #queer community #i took too long to put this on (the id) but its here now #hope you dont mind #aspec #id in alt text

[bookcub]

i would like to celebrate a little because i have realized, back when i realized i was asexual, there was so little representation of ace people in literature, it was easy to read the vast majority of them. however now. . .. now we have significantly more rep, enough rep that i no longer have the time nor feel the obligation to read all the ones i encounter and i think that is beautiful! i am so excited to read the ones published and the ones to be written in the future and hope they find their target audience 🖤🩶🤍💜

#ace stuff #asexual #asexuality #lqbtqia #queer representation #lets hope we get ace rep in more mainstream media too!!