#PLATONIC PARTNERSHIPS

[starfish-spencer]

Jules and Lassie's friendship has me feeling soft y'all. Shawn and Gus have their own traditions and inside jokes and I bet that Jules and Lassie start to develop the same things. They go out to eat together and have movie nights at each other's places every week. Jules lets Lassie infodump about US history and guns as long as he wants and Lassie (begrudgingly) lets Jules paint his nails. They chat about all the latest gossip in the SBPD and gush over their crushes together. They tell each other (almost) all their secrets. Lassie stays with Jules 24/7 after the clock tower and comforts her when she and Shawn temporarily break up. Jules is one of the only people to see Lassie truly break down and cry and she holds him for as long as he needs and tells him that they're going to be okay. They have their own jokes that nobody else gets that they whisper to each other and giggle at. They laugh until neither of them can breathe. They hug each other every morning when they arrive at the station and when they leave, and casually hold hands. They started out as just coworkers but by the last few seasons they are basically platonic soulmates, parallel to Shawn and Gus. And I love that. I love them.

#im chill with pretty much all psych ships but the FRIENDSHIPS #PLATONIC PARTNERSHIPS #thats where its at babey #i wish the show dedicated more time to jules and lassies bond #shawn and gus' relationship was so wonderfully explored and i feel like the two didnt get the same treatment #i love them sm #*vibrating* im so normal about them really #normal is code for autistic here #they occupy my brain 24/7 #carlton lassiter #juliet o'hara #shawn spencer #burton guster #psych #psych usa

[kiwimuichiro]

#i want to be the wall #platonic partnerships

[ace-seeks-besties]

Aces don't use dating sites...

...or at least, I think that would be weird. Sure, there might be a specific one just for us buuuut... why not take the search to the place with the best ace rep that I've found online... tumblr!

So yeah. I want some besties. Just because we're ace should NOT mean we have to be alone, even if our best life doesn't fall neatly into the patterns almost everyone expects.

I'm an introvert but still like hanging out. Life can be better together, maybe. Even for a Gen X fangirl who's never kissed anyone and doesn't intend to start.

This blog will be for ace-related thoughts and reblogs, and if it helps us meet each other, then yay!

#ace dating #asexual #platonic partnerships #qpp #ace #actually ace #asexual spectrum #acespec #aroace #aspec

[lilyginnyblackv2]

Now that Buddy Daddies is finished, I’m gonna say it: SPOILERS!

Buddy Daddies really is for the aces, aros, queerplatonic partners, and platonic life partners out there. 

I know, 100%  that there are going to be some people out there that are going to say, “See! It really was just queerbait all along” or some who are going to bemoan the fact that there were no declarations of romantic love or kiss or whatever. I’m sure this part right here:

Miri: “Didn’t you slip out yesterday to go drinking with a girl again?” 

Caused some frowns and I do get it. Because of this, the queerbait and Kazuki and Rei are just friends dialogue will continue and follow the series around. But, this episode has made it clear that Kazuki and Rei love not only Miri, but each other as well.

They are a work partners (相棒 - aibou)

They are partners raising a child together. (相方 - aikata).

They’ve moved (I’m pretty sure their diner is in Okinawa for reasons I’ll get to in another post), they’ve opened a business together, one which has a part of Kazuki’s last name in it (来栖 - Kurusu is his last name, the 栖 (su) part of his name means “nest.”), and Rei’s words to his father: Miri, Kazuki, and I share a bond stronger than blood. 

They are a family. They love each other.

Of course, friends can be a part of a family. Friends can love each other, but there are also reasons why people who are in situations like co-parenting, queerplatonic relationships, platonic life partnerships, and etc. don’t refer to their bonds as friendships and the people they are co-parenting or in a partnership with as their friends, but as words that give some space for those grey areas in-between.

Friendships are strong, deep, and beautiful. Platonic love is love and is powerful.

But, there are definitely still different sets of expectations and boundaries that come with friendships vs. other relationship dynamics. 

Kazuki and Rei’s situation falls outside of the usual friendship expectations and boundaries and sits somewhere between that, family and partnership.

I know this topic has been talked to death about. But, I felt like I needed to write about and address it one final time since Buddy Daddies has come to an end (though, who knows about a potential Daughter Daddies!) Especially after Miri’s line to Kazuki. (I feel I could also go into open relationship dynamics, polyamorous relationships, and etc. but that feels like it would be derailing). 

Basically, I just wanted to get one final post out on this. I was very pleased with this ending episode. It made my heart so happy and warm, and I know I’ve said it before, but this series really speaks to me as someone who is aroace. Aroace characters and our relationship dynamics have basically no rep, so even if this series wasn’t intended to be written with a queerplatonic relationship dynamic in mind, they ended up writing a beautiful depiction of one that makes me and what I would want from a relationship of some kind, finally feel seen.

#Buddy Daddies #BD #Kazurei #Kazuki Kurusu #Rei Suwa #ace #aro #queer #queerplatonic #platonic life partnerships #Miri Unasaka #BD spoilers #Buddy Daddies spoilers #long post #image heavy post

[aroplatonic]

having a purely platonic life partnership slaps. friends but I hope we grow old together and have a garden

#obligatory this is not about qprs #aromantic #aro #aspec #lovequeer #platonic aro #platonic lovecore #life partnership

[posycore]

neurotypical people watch community and think troy and abed are funny, gay people watch community and ship/think troy and abed would be cute together, neurodivergent gay people watch community and Know what they Are. 'aw i wish trobed was canon' well actually they are u just havent unlocked the Vision.

#like i genuinely view it as canon and i dont think im alone in that #and the main reason is: oh the lines between platonic and romantic are blurry? #oh they think and feel together in a way literally no one else gets? #oh they have moments that dont read as conventionally romantic but still seem way too intimate? #oh they actually never deny or shy away from their love for each other? oh its just the rest of the world that is confused? #are those really signs of not being canon or is that just true to how queer/queerplatonic/neurodivergent partnerships get perceived #esp in their time period lol #like maybe trobed isnt canon to someone watching the show from the rest of the study groups pov or the worlds pov #but if u watch from troy and abeds pov.. of course its canon i mean just look at them #community #trobed #abed nadir #troy barnes

[thoughtfulchaos773]

Syd is his everything. The naysayers use the word platonic or mentor student to dismiss Syds role in his life. To downplay it.

BTW, Tina asked Carmy for a signature at the wrong time. I would have loved to see Carmys face as syd opens the gift.

#Im just trying to show people that this is not platonic #it's more than that #it's more than romance #it's family and a partnership #it's carmy creating a new version of family #through learning his roles in relationships #carmy loves to give gifts #syd is an important part of carmy's life #the bear spoilers #the bear fx #the bear #sydney adamu #chefs kiss #carmy x sydney #carmen berzatto #sydcarmy #carmy berzatto #sydney x carmy #mikey berzatto #thoughtful chaos gifs

[raethereptile]

Advocating for palm kissing to be recognised as the highest form of physical intimacy

#intimacy #kissing #palm kissing #palm kiss #queer platonic relationship #asexuel #aromantic #aspec #alloromantic #romance #partnership

[samanthamulder]

THE X-FILES (1993-2018)

SEASON EIGHT — I will go on record to say this: that I have seen things that I cannot explain. I have observed phenomena that I cannot deny. And that as a scientist and a serious person it is a badge of honor not to dismiss these things because someone thinks they're BS.

#I realised that if I wanna finish all this before the anniversary celebration I need to pick up the pace a bit jdfbskf so here we go :') #txf #tv #txf8 #txfedit #tvedit #the x files #scifiedit #.gif #thexfilesnet #*txfrewatch #this season is actually quite beloved to me. especially in light of what comes after...but also in its own right I'd say! #mulder abduction arc is a fabulous concept that sadly is underwhelmingly executed (and not just from my point of view of I KNOW he's #gonna be fine...) and at this point we are left thinking that william is a normal healthy msr love child so the pregnancy arc is ok too #the show ended here btw. nothing else happened after and they are still standing in scully's bedroom holding william the ??th and smooching #I swear #oh. also. I LOVE john doggett and I love his and scully's relationship; how they come to trust one another over the course of the season #THAT is the ideal PLATONIC partnership actually. professional trust and respect that grows very carefully and eventually #blossoms into a more personal friendship <3 #*saul queued

[relaxxattack]

every time someone calls moirallegience just an alien qpr i wilt a lil like YEAH thats more or less the CLOSEST human thing but its also Literally Not That. like a qpr is fundanmentally not romantic and thats not even going into moirails whole Actual Purpose of calming ppl down. its just. aughhhhh pisses me off i see the confusion but, as aformentioned, aughhhhh

OH MY GOD THIS HAS BEEN BOTHERING ME TOO.... but i don't want to get petty at the people in my notes always saying "moirails are QPRs!" because in some ways that is the closest human thing so it's hard to be mad...

i think there's definitely some overlap in some ways. but NOT because moirallegiance and qprs are the same at all really, but INSTEAD because both relationships have unconventional boundaries defined by the people within them.

you know... like every relationship.

like the only reason the two have overlap is because they are both partnerships that emotionally care for each other but can choose to not bang (which is true for any romance anyway, even if it's considered abnormal). they're both just romances* that are unconventional to human norms, which makes people view them as the same thing when they're not.

i think the REAL issue here is that humans insist on using human words to understand things that are just, fundamentally, alien. can't we just appreciate alien romance for being... alien romance?

no, it's not platonic, it's romantic. it's just romantic in a way you aren't quite wired to understand, is all.

*in generalization, most QPRs are not romantic, because they are made up of aroaces who are life partners in a non-romantic way. however i want to disagree with you that none of them are romantic, because that is up to the partners in question.

#quadrants #homestuck #moirallegiance #BEEN THINKING ABOUT THIS FOR SO LONG OMG THANK YOU FOR THE ASK #its just i USED to think they were the same #and then recently i kept getting pissy when people said they were the same so i was like. okay let's unpack this #what's the overlap here and what's the differences? #and really people THINK theyre the same because they think theyre both like. 'im gonna platonically marry my friend!' ^w^ #(which is obviously not actually what either of them are like. lol) #when REALLY what they have in common is 'hey you're a person i want to have a committed partnership. but potentially not sex or tradition' #and it's not really fair to compare them because they come from totally different places and have totally different standards #QPR was created as an ALTERNATIVE to allonorms. its about saying 'hey lets make up our own rules. my life partner can be platonic if i want #whereas moirallegiance IS a norm and its not counter any culture. it's just 'trolls have biological romantic feelings/needs in This way.' #idk idk how to explain it any further because ive spent a fucking hour on this post and i have a massive headache so feel free to ask me-- #more specific questions if the shit i said here doesnt make any sense (；￣ー￣).. #<- wow haha the troll fictive autism really jumped out with this post huh. whoops #hsmeta #long post #op

[astraskylark]

No but the last time Ruby yelled at Weiss like that was back during initiation, the two of them have grown so much together but their partnership has obviously been on the fritz since V7, like when did the synchrony of V6 fade and get to this.

Ruby knows Weiss, knows she can be a little snippy and in V9 Weiss has- the come on's and people are counting on us hurry up etc etc. But but it's Ruby and Weiss yeah?

Weiss didn't notice that her words were weighing on Ruby bit by bit and Ruby has noticed Weiss' grief over Atlas but can't find the words to help her.

They mean so much to each other but they'll never blame each other and they won't talk about it either cause they have to be strong for each other and they're stuck in an endless loop of I'll pretend to be fine for you and you pretend to be fine for me while silently trying to reach out but always falling short before anything meaningful can come out of it and this was never going to last, it was never going to work, they've been walking towards the ledge for months now and Ruby finally had to jump.

#rwby #rwby spoilers #ruby rose #weiss schnee #whiterose #platonic #romantic #whatever #its the partnership #its the miscommunication #THE ANGST

[kiwimuichiro]

I dont get how lots of alloallos can't understand platonic partnerships. Like its just people who love eachother/others platonically, is that so hard to understand??

#platonic relationships #Platonic partnerships #aromantic

[biblicalhorror]

Aroace Riz real but also Fabian is SO clearly in love with him and Riz has no idea

#honestly fabian might not even fully know yet #a core part of fabians character is that he is so deeply afraid of rejection that he is never going to pursue the people he actually wants #i do think he likes Maezy a lot but i think he only knows how to pursue hot toxic women that will discard him at a moments notice #which in a way protects him from ever actually dealing with heartbreak #is he a gay man dealing with comphet? ehh maybe #i could see that #but I think the vibe i get is more about how he has these platonic friends he completely adores and is fully devoted to #and then in another category he has the people that he does not have any actual attachment to that he will allow himself to pursue #and crossing the boundaries in between those two categories or allowing himself to pursue someone he really cares for #would require a level of vulnerability he is in no way prepared for #in his home life he has an emotionally detached mother who is well liked but kind of floats through interactions on a surface level #and a father who is extremely concerned with fame and glory and attention but doesnt seem to have ever stopped moving in his life #genuinely fabian does not know what a safe loving partnership would look like #and we see him constantly oscillating between emulating his mother and his father in relationships #but just beneath the surface is a little boy who wants so badly to cling to his loved ones so tight and be squeezed right back #with no way of knowing how to even ask for that if he wanted #and riz is his best friend in the world and he knows on some level that riz is simply not interested in having that kind of relationship #not on the level fabian needs #but that also makes riz a safe target for these feelings of devotion #theyre just friends! just besties! fabian never has to reckon with his own loneliness or harmful patterns #if he channels all of his yearning for closeness onto his best friend #anyway! this boy needs therapy #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #fabriz

[allthebooksandcrannies]

Please reblog to increase my sample size! I've got a fic in the works where this is going to be very relevant and I need answers!

#i finally have polls and I've wanted to ask this forever #fandom #AO3 #fanfiction #fandom meta #lgbtq #asexuality #aromantic #qpp positivity #queer platonic partnerships

[secretiveambitions]

One of the best things about being in a QPR with an aro ace is that I can send them all the sexy pictures I want and never have to deal with uncomfortable jokes or situations

#lgbt #aroace #aromantic #ace #qpr #partnership #queer platonic relationship #QPR appreciation

[saffigon]

platonic partnerships and queerplatonic relationships don't have to be affectionate if you don't want them to be; long-term relationships don't have to be affectionate for them to be valid

#this isn't slander btw it's just taken me a lot longer to realize that i can indeed have platonic partnerships that aren't affectionate #aromantic #aro #arospec #aromanticism #aplatonic #apl #aplspec #asexual #ace #acespec #aspec #queerplatonic #qpr