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[aroplatonic]

dnd is so much better than amatonormativity

it's true it is

[aroplatonic]

wdym an average platonic bond cant be deep and meaningful do none of you remember the power of friendship

[aroplatonic]

I just wanted to say I love your blog. There was a long time when I knew I was aro but I kept on seeing only aroace content, never separate, so this blog really helped me to figure out that it is in fact completely normal to not be into romance but still have sexual attraction.

yay!!!

#ask

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if I wasn't in the rp community, one of the most cringe things you can do on the Internet, I wouldn't be living the aro dream rn. much to think about

#maybe the point is having a really interesting and social hobby helps LMAO

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hi. i made some images.

feel free to take them and use for whatever you may need them for. no credit required

#IRELAND INCLUDED!!!

[aroplatonic]

people: if you so much as TOUCH your friend, that means you are DATING

me, laying in my friend's lap to watch them draw: oh is that true. lol

#aromantic #aspec #aro #lovequeer #platonic aro #aro memes #platonic lovecore

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Hey, Tumblr. Guess what. Relationships are defined by the people involved in them, and that's that. If people say they're friends, then they're friends. If people say they're dating, then they're dating. If they say it's a secret third thing, then that's what it is. Someone else's relationship isn't for you to decide.

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Things friends can't do according to allos!

(these are all things I have been told with 100% sincerity, and not stuff that I myself believe.)

Give each other meaningful gifts

Pay attention to the others likes and dislikes

Look at one another in a 'certain way' (???)

Match clothes or accessories

Hold hands for 'too long' (???)

Hug for 'too long' or hug 'too close' (???)

Cuddle because it's 'too intimate'

Not want to pull away during a hug or holding hands

Lean onto the other emotionally and physically

Smile in one another's presence

Laugh at each others jokes

Give genuine advice

Text each other 'good morning' 'good evening' 'good night' 'happy birthday' 'happy new years' 'merry Christmas' etc, etc

Ask how the others doing

I'll add more once I think of things I've forgotten

#GOOD LORD!

[aroplatonic]

being aro is the best. it’s like Oh. I Literally Do Not Need To Put Myself Thru All That

[aroplatonic]

Did I unexpectedly tear up when reading this? Yes, yes I did.

From Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin

[aroplatonic]

Ngl i think theres something to be said for sex with people who actually know you - maybe this is a woman moment but wow are men bad at making you cum unless theyre personally invested in your relationship - but why the difference between friendship and romance I dont get it. Like both of them are people who care about you the context is just a little different. Allos are weirdos

I mean that's still your own personal preference. there's nothing wrong with that it's just that there's literally no universal Best Sex for everyone. and plenty of people are bad at sex in other ways for other reasons too lmao

#ask

[aroplatonic]

Hello! 

Would I be able to use your posts on aromantic identity for a sociology undergraduate dissertation project?

Its aim is to better represent what both aromanticism is, and what it means to us within academic literature within sociology, as there is a jarring deficit, particularly in comparison to the rising literature on asexuality that often conflate the two.

As an aroace researcher this is an important issue to me, particularly as throughout working on this dissertation I have faced conflict born from ignorance from my academic staff, and I want more people to know and understand what ‘aromantic’ is, so that we are not afterthoughts or footnotes in discussions of queerness and identity.

What I would like to do is to be able to use your posts as examples of how being aromantic is discussed and shared in online aro communities.

If you are willing and interested, I can provide links to an information sheet (explaining the project in more detail) and a consent form for you to sign.

The consent form so that my university knows that I am doing this with explicit permission. If you choose to consent and sign the form, please send the signed form to my university email: [email protected] 

Any questions please feel free to message me back here, or via my email! <3

sure I guess. as long as it's not one of the bitchy drama posts where I'm responding to some idiot online lmao

#ask

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one of the main reasons I sought out a romantic relationship when I didn't actually have an interest in one myself, years ago, was because there's a sort of link in the queer community between being in a relationship and maturity, it seems. if you're gay/bi/etc and you want to be a real gay, you'd better be dating someone, otherwise you're seen as a loser virgin who doesn't actually know what the community is like. regardless if you have had relationships in the past, mature, grown-up gays are in relationships. mature gays get married. et cetera.

here's the thing, though. if you're gay and aspec in some way, or if you otherwise just don't want a relationship for your own reasons, that... doesn't actually make you any less gay. it doesn't mean you're waiting to find out what being gay is really like. it sounds silly to say but people need to be reminded of this. you're not less mature, you're not waiting to graduate to being a real gay. you're gay, dude.

#aromantic #aspec #aro #asexual

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I think that platonic cuddling should be allowed.

no, wanting to hug someone and have them fall asleep in your lap is not breaching PDA (public displays of affection) rules. I just want a hug.

#*whispers* it is allowed #you can do whatever you want forever

[aroplatonic]

it's time for me to share this cake I decorated for valentine's day

#WOW

[aroplatonic]

Romantic sex is the best you can get. I was just like you until I tried it. you should too

LMFAO WHAT?

#sorry but that is the biggest turn off in the world to me #and this is coming from someone who does have a partner #lmaooooo #ask

[aroplatonic]

me, aroallo 🤝 my friend, sex repulsed ace:

getting the ick from people having romantic sex

#aromantic #aro #aspec #aroallo #asexual #aro memes