How Social Media Impacts Connection + Friendships
Social media has caused friendships to get lazy.
Instead of checking in on a friend, we check their feed.
Instead of meeting up with a friend, we see their post and think, “Eh, I already know what’s going on in their life.”
Instead of reaching out to a friend individually, we post and check back for the likes and comments to see who REALLY is our friend.
We have more ways to connect than ever and yet feelings of loneliness and isolation are on the rise. Why?
Social media has brought us a wide breadth of connection, but it can lack the depth and intimacy of a face-to-face call or a coffee date chat.
It’s given our ego’s the great big boost to think we “KNOW” what’s going on in someone’s world.
It’s given our ego’ the great big boost to think everyone else “SHOULD KNOW” what’s going on in our world.
How arrogant are we to think that we “KNOW” what is going on in someone else and simultaneously expect others to “KNOW” everything that is going on in theirs?
When my dad passed away, I posted about his death a few times and got about 200+ comments on it out of over 1200 friends on FB and still had friends whom I am very close with not know, nor did I expect them to.
They were living their lives, doing their thing, head down in the grind.
Just like you are living yours.
Pick your head up out of your mindless scrolling and instead scroll through your contacts.
Who haven’t you talked to in a while who you would love to chat with?
Who would you love to reconnect with?
Don’t allow an algorithm (or frankly, laziness) to delude you from the reality of the REAL relationships you can cultivate at all times.
Even if you can’t (or don’t feel comfortable or ready to) get together in person, get together, have a Zoom chat, a FaceTime date, a Messenger call.
Pick up the phone.
Send a personal message.
Heck, I’m sure carrier pigeons still work too.
Stop being lazy with the relationships you say you care about.
And start actually caring instead of thinking “YOU KNOW.”
Thinking YOU KNOW is just the ego.
Real connection is from Soul.
It’s the interconnectedness and oneness of who we are as humans.
And frankly, we are STARVING for nourishment.
For the most part, social media is the sugar and fast food of connection - delicious in small doses, but damaging to your health if you eat it every day.
It’s sweet to consume everyone’s highlight reel.
It’s fast, cheap, and convenient to “catch up” with a friend's life through a quick scroll.
But the real nutrients of connection lie in the depth of courageous, open, raw, authentic intimacy, cultivated in the soil of conversation.
The question is…
How are you FEEDING your friendships?
Forward this to a friend...yeah, that one, the one that’s on your mind right now...or better yet, drop them a voice message and share that you read something that made you think of them.
Remember, your reign is now.
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