#yes this is an aromantic take

[scarlct-vvitch]

fictional romance: ✨💓💘💗♥️💖✨💖💓⭐

real romance: 🤢😰😵‍💫👎😵😩🤢😱👎

#yes this is an aromantic take #i could write about other people's romances for an eternity #but real life isnt the same and never will be lmao #it will just never hit right #the closeness and intimacy fictional couples have is enviable #and sometimes i catch myself wanting thag #*that #and i like the idea of having someone in my corner #but i dont want a romantic relationship #and sometimes that sucks #oh shush #aromanticism #asexuality #aromantic #asexual #aroace

[redysetdare]

Got hit in the face with amatonormativity today when my coworker was talking abt romance with a customer and said "Life is not meant to be spent alone" and in my head I was like... maybe YOU can't be happy alone but I sure am!

And b4 anyone goes commenting this, this was in explicit reference to having a romantic partner. don't come on here being like "but she's right because friendship and family!" you know that's not what this is about.

#text #aro #aromantic #asexual #ace #aroace #aspec #amatonormativity #not only that but maybe... ppl can live full and happy lives without having friends or family? #maybe ppl can be happy truely being alone #not everyone enjoys being around people they shouldn't be shamed for that #also say that to the billions of ppl who live in unhappy marraiges because being alone is treated like the worse option #amatonormativity literally says stay in your toxic/unhappy marraige because being alone is worse LIKE #dont be aphobic on this post or I'll bite you yes even if ur aspec i'll take ur knees #and probably block ur stupid ass lmao #that or I'll put u on blast depends on how i feel

[hyffae]

i HATE how much people police the shipping of aro and/or ace characters. like stfu. i will ship them as i fucking please. there are so so many ways to be aro and/or ace and not all of them completely exclude sex and romance from their lives.

#and don't come after me for this take #i'm aroace #yes this is about mcyt #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #discourse

[random-human-being2311]

there is just something so beautiful about songs about the joy you get from such mundane things.

like singing about how the weather's sunny or the weather's rainy but in a way so heartfelt and uplifting the song stays with you, close to your heart for years to come even if you don't know its name

like singing about how much you love your best friends. not because they recently did something that particularly amazes you but just appreciating them being there for you and just generally genuinely making you happy

the most mundane everyday things can become the most meaningful and heartfelt and it's probably just because I'm aroace but I feel that they're so much more genuine than songs about how happy you are because you and your romantic partner got back together or something

i remember seeing a youtube comment a short while back that was along the lines of "I know that usually it's only love songs that are meaningful but this song is the exception" and just thinking dear god how sad must this person's life be if they can't find beauty in anything other than something to do with love. Have you never just stared at a bird perched in a tree singing? Never seen a painting so full of colours that compliment each other in such a way that they each make the others look brighter but it never becomes a clashing over-the-top mess but a harmony of rainbows? Never just eaten a really good meal?

I would trade a thousand shallow, boring, generic songs about romance or heartbreak in exchange for one song about the beauty in the mundane things we take for granted.

#aroace #ace #aro #aromantic #asexual #yes this was originally about the beatles how could you tell #but don't think this was ever intended to be EXCLUSIVELY about them #I just first had this thought when listening to Here Comes The Sun and Mr Blue Sky and Friends Will Be Friends #that one commenter ALONE drove me to make this how the heck could you think that love songs are automatically the most meaningful like tf?? #I just don't understand it at all in any way #my whole life I've thought they're the most shallow and meaningless and repetitive #honestly though for my whole life I've been very obviously aroace even if I didn't know it so take that with a grain of salt #oh also shoutout to the beatles song Rain #it's a personal favourite of mine because I'm a weirdo (/affectionate) who likes rainy weather #so just hearing a song about rain where it's happy and the rain is a positive thing is just like damn this song was designed for me #I mean even if it weren't for that I'd probably still love Rain because it's a bop #dear god I need to stop putting so many tags on everything #the beatles #queen band #electric light orchestra #yes i know the irony of making a post about how there are things much better than love songs and then tagging the beatles #I may be autistic but I'm not THAT bad at picking up on social cues #ok that was a lie I AM that bad #but this one specific time I'm not #that one's ramblings

[whale-in-that-case]

I did promise to post all of my pride stuff once the weather got cold enough that I could wear it so. There it is!

I guess you could say those clothes are out of the closet \o/

Here's a better picture of the actual pieces. They were all knitted by my mum :)

The picture doesn't really do it justice, but know that this scarf easily touches the ground at both ends when not wrapped around my neck (and I'm not short). The purple of the hat isn't quite right for the ace flag, but it was what we already had at home so it's what we used.

#mine #asexual #aromantic #NOT my face #but yes this is me. hi everyone #I'm either really bad at taking pictures or my phone camera is worse than I thought. why is it this grainy. #aroace #the colours look awful i know it's because of the artificial lighting. it looks better in reality

[uncanny-tranny]

Maybe the weirdest good that has come out of my aromanticism is that I just... appreciate how alone I am. I've learned to really evaluate how I view my time and how I spend it with myself, and it has enabled me to slowly try more and more things out of a desire to enjoy my own company and myself even more <3

#aro #aromantic #lgbt #lgbtq #like this isn't unique to being aro but my aromanticism is what personally inspired this from me #and yes i do desire human connection but i also deeply crave to be solitary in a lot of ways #i recognized that i'm prone to going too far with this desire so i do reign it in sometimes but i don't think this is particularly unhealthy #there are plenty of things i haven't liked about being aro but this has never been one of them #and regardless of if you're alloromantic or not i think learning to be solitary and enjoy /your/ company can be very important #because you can't predict when you'll physically be alone but it's almost inevitable that it happens from time to time #and learning how to sit with yourself instead of distracting yourself from you can be very freeing #obviously take this advice if you want or don't or modify it to fit what you want/need because these are my own opinions about it

[magnus-rhymes-with-swagness]

while i’m truly genuinely happy there’s an aspec club at my university, some of the people there are very annoying

#aroallo #alloaro #aspec #aromantic #aro #non-sam aro #<- for tagging purposes bc i know y’all can likely relate #my words #‘allies are welcome’ like. okay. #i really wanted to reply with something like ‘i’ll take that as a no then’ or ‘not my question’ #but i didn’t want to come off as rude so i didn’t #i went to one single meeting last semester and 80% of the people there were nightmarish so i never went back lol #figured i’d try again this semester #but since it’s super extremely ace-centric i figured i should ask that #i will admit i meant it as a comment just as much as i meant it as a question and that person only proved my point! #luckily someone else said yes so i might give it another shot #but i don’t have high hopes #edit locking reblogs because the person said they misunderstood me #not sure whether to believe them or not but at any rate i don’t want anyone to get the wrong idea

[jeansyvesmoreau]

Me, a chaotic aroace genderfluid @ my chaotic cis acespec friend and my even more chaotic bi genderfluid friend: okay since we don't exist that means we can get that castle where we have secret tunnels for stabbing people and no one would pay attention because we don't fricking exist

#yes that's the plan. no we don't take criticism. yes my friend group is made of the chaotic queers so what #genderfluid #aroace #bisexual #acespec #lgbtq #lgbtq positivity #queer #aromantic #asexual #asexuality #bisexuality #genderqueer #they said speak now* #sweet sweet superstar*

[shouts-into-the-void]

Dear Endless Expanse of Space,

It is so difficult to explain the intricacies of my relationship with my fiance to allo people.

Like, yes we're getting married but no we aren't a couple. We want to spend the rest of our lives together but neither of us feels an ounce of attraction for the other. The thought of kissing them makes me want to vomit and I will get upset if they don't make heart fingers back at me. I love them more than anyone but I'm not in love with them.

It's such a complicated thing but really not at all and trying to make people understand is,,, so hard

#letters #blog #queerplatonic #aromantic #aromantism #asexual #asexuality #why yes #let me take the next 2 hours to explain my poly queerplatonic relationship #and our mutual desire to add people to it which will never happen because it's such a niche set of wants and needs

[genderfluid-druid]

like is there a word for "romance is NOT for me oh my GOD it's such a bad idea for the way my brain is built, BUT HOWEVER not every part of my brain has gotten the memo about this and nature still thinks it's funny to kneecap me with a crush every now and then."

#trying to find resources or stories about like. how to COPE when this happens #how to honor the way i feel without suppressing it but also without feeling the need to turn it into a romantic pursuit #also i know labels as strict boxes are only worth thinking about as long as they are helpful #and “im aromantic” is easier to say than “i have a complicated relationship with romance and a lot of emotional baggage and” #well i never feel justified using the word trauma especially because a lot of it was my own doing but #yes a lot of trauma i guess! #anyway #i still have this fear that calling myself aromantic is just a cheat to get away with not wanting to put in the work it would take to build #a real functioning romantic relationship #like is it cowardly of me to say “i am not gonna push my relationships past a certain point with people”. like am i depriving myself of #something i will miss? #sometimes it feels that way #but also #some of my strongest friendships are with people i actively chose not to romance #and i love those people and i am so glad to be friends with them #whereas the people i was most romantically involved with are now invariably bitter strangers #i don't want that. i don't want that with any more people i love #BUT. I DO WISH TO HOLD HANDS!!!!!!! #MY GOD A BITCH IS TOUCH STARVED

[i-dont-live-in-reality]

Just… Kai and Skylor have had such an on-off relationship over the years, and Crystallized in my mind just shows that it’s Kai with the commitment issues, not Skylor, but I love the idea of an aro-spec Kai so much.

Like this man does not even know the term ‘aromantic’ there’s just no way, but his experiences might fit ‘aroflux’, ‘greyromantic’ or even ‘frayromantic’ if he ever went to dig, and it would solve so many problems if he just had the words and he could just talk to Skylor about this instead of being weird and not committing to her.

#yes this is me taking apart the concept of romance with a scalpel and tweezers and leaving only my favourite parts in my headcanons #listen an aromantic shipper’s got to do something to make sense of their ships #Ninjago #Kai x Skylor

[monstrouscrew]

okay, tumblr is now the first place on www where we witnessed the fact of an aromantic user stating their post is not about romance being completely ignored, on purpose or just because of someone's worldview. from the author's point of view, it looks like an absurdist performance (therefore funny). from an average aro unit's point of view, ☀️ what the fuck is wrong with you people???

next week hell's coming with me~~~

(ID in the alt text)

#k's wave #how to human #angry aromantic #aromantic #hot fucking take #nail art #yes to lovecore no to amatonormativity #I'm lucky af we're all arospec aboard #and the witch comrade is too

[transingthoseformers]

I heavily HC that mtmte Rodimus typically has the worst taste in mecha. Like, he's had so many shitty exes and it shows. And I definitely think about his bad taste managing to bag someone on the LL who points this out (like, say, Megatron, Ultra Magnus / Minimus Ambus, both of them, Ratchet and Drift, yes, or someond else in a rarepair) or or he just... Doesn't do the relationship thing. I saw a "Aromantic!Roddie" take on here before and it definitely has some interesting possibilities to it.

#maccadam #transformers #is this inspired by me finally booting up that sg Optimus / rodimus fic? yes #yes it is #aromantic #or you can argue it's a combination of above because the Aromantic spectrum is indeed a spectrum #i also saw an ace roddie take somewhere and i had the idea of aroace Rodimus

[snowshinobi]

Kyojuro knows Mitsuri and Obanai are buddies bc Obanai waits outside the Rengoku residence every afternoon so he can walk Mitsuri home after training. What Kyojuro CAN'T figure out is why Obanai is usually cordial but sometimes really snippy??? Kyojuro decides he has to woo the snake so he starts greeting Kaburamaru by name which does make Obanai perk up, but he's still weirdly mean to Kyo every so often?? Literal months later it finally dawns on Kyo: Obanai is crankier the more (minor!! unintentional!!) injuries Mitsuri leaves with. That paired with how often Obanai reaches to take her hand only to shove his fists in his pockets instead ... it all makes sense now. The next time Obanai sneers at him, Kyo just flashes him a sympathetic grin and compliments Mitsuri on her persistence. "She tried the technique again and again til she got the hang of it, like the star pupil she is ✨!" Mitsuri beams and Obanai hits his internal panic alarm. Kyojuro knows. We gotta kill him

#demon slayer #kimetsu no yaiba #rengoku kyojuro #Rengoku #kanroji Mitsuri #Mitsuri #iguro Obanai #obanai #obamitsu #hello obamitsu nation i bring you Kyojuro's outside-looking-in perspective #and yeah my Kyojuro is aromantic on top of being kinda oblivious anyway so it takes him a WHILE to catch Obanai's blatant crush #Kyo is a bro tho. he's not gonna tell Mitsuri. that's for her to find out on her own #but OBANAI DOESN'T KNOW THAT KYOJURO'S GONNA BE COOL ABOUT IT #OBANAI IS PANICKING #all i do is put hashira in situations #and im having so much fun yes ty for asking (:

[sword-and-lance]

Matter of fact as an aro person Astarion's whole "I don't know what to do next I don't know what this is just that I like it and I want this to be real" thing fuckin got at me in a way I wasn't at all expecting

...matter of fact I'm vaguely leaning towards making him and Dae both somewhere on the aro spectrum but I gotta think about that a bit more lmao

#; ooc thingamabobs #aromantic #bg3 #astarionposting #no I will /not/ be taking commentary on it at this time thank you <3 #and yes I'm turning reblogs off I don't trust people to fuckin BEHAVE about this one. #hell maybe I'll go the QPR route for the both of 'em who knows at this point. I'M still trying to figure this out lmao

[omegawizardposting]

"You aren't aromantic, love is wired into us all!"

Quickly, tell me how this differs from homo/transphobic rhetoric in any way.

#love takes on many forms and just because someone is aromantic doesn't mean they don't fucking love #aro people love their friends and family #they love their pets #they love their fellow humans #they love the way the sun reflects off of early morning fog #the sound of train cars rattling in the distance #the wonder of life itself #yes every human loves #but there are so SO many ways to love