#women nonbinary genderqueer everyone

[fandomsandfeminism]

As we move towards the summer months, this is a healthy reminder that:

BMI is misapplied at best and pseudoscience at worst.

That genetics have far more affect on body type than any other factor.

That a "healthy weight" varies wildly from person to person.

That your body's actual healthy weight shouldn't require constant dieting to maintain.

That some studies have shown that being slightly "overweight" based on BMI actually makes you more resilient against injury and illness.

That unless your weight is actually directly causing you mobility issues or pain, it isn't a problem.

That movement and food should be a source of joy, not self discipline and stress.

That everyone looks better in clothes that fit properly.

That being hydrated and well fed is far more important to your health than you realize.

That fed is best.

That chiseled abs are only really visible if you are dehydrated.

That feeling the sun on your skin and bird song can heal the parts of you that years of dieting and weight watching and self criticism has injured.

That you have no obligation to be sexy or beautiful.

That you should never say things about your own body that you wouldn't say about a friend's or a partner's.

That it is not a moral imperative to be healthy or mobile or skinny.

That the people who judge you for your weight are fighting their own demons.

That People are absolutely terrible at guessing a person's weight. How you dress and carry yourself has far more impact on perception.

That You don't have to be beautiful to enjoy a beautiful day.

Better happy than skinny.

Feeling good is better than looking good.

#anti diet culture #dont hide in baggy clothes #our cultures aversion to nonsexual nudity has really warped our perception of bodies #bodies are weird #feeling good is better than looking good #feminism #this is for men too #women nonbinary genderqueer everyone #please drink water and eat food #food is so good #food is a gift

[carlyraejepsans]

for real WHERE does the idea that [utdr humans] are nongendered so that "you can project on them" come from. their literal character arcs are about NOT being a blank slate to be filled in by the audience

i think i understand the assumption on some level for undertale, because there is a very intentional effort to make you identify with the "player character" in order to make your choices feel like your own (the beating heart of undertale's metanarrative lies in giving you an alternative path to violence against its enemies after all, and whether you're still willing to persue it for your own selfish reasons. YOUR agency is crucial).

of course, the cardinal plot twist of the main ending sweeps the rug from under your feet on that in every way, and frisk's individuality becomes, in turn, a tool to further UT's OTHER main theme: completionism as a form of diegetic violence within the story. replaying the game would steal frisk's life and happy ending from them for our own perverse sentimentality, emotionally forcing our hand away from the reset button.

i think their neutrality absolutely aids in that immersion. but also, there's this weird attitude by (mostly) cis fans where it being functional within the story makes it... somehow "editable" and "up to the player" as well? which is gross and shows their ass on how they approach gender neutrality in general lol.

but also like. there's plenty of neutral, non PCharacters in undertale and deltarune. even when undertale was just an earthbound fangame and the player immersion metanarrative was completely absent, toby still described frisk as a "young, androgynous person". sometimes characters are just neutral by design. it's not that hard to understand lol.

anyone who makes this argument for kris deltarune is braindead. nothing else to say about it.

#this is a very difficult topic to discuss imo because on Some level I don't completely disagree with people who make that argument for chara #in SPIRIT. if not in action. like my point still stands characters can just Be neutral. and if that level of customization had been intended #well Pokemon's been doing the ''are you a boy or a girl'' shtick for ages. no reason why that couldn't have been included as well #but i do feel that we're supposed to identify with chara within the story. not as in chara is us but as in we are chara #and i think someone playing the game without outside interferences and (wrongly) coming to the conclusion that chara IS literally #themselves in the story. and thus call them by their own name (the one they likely inputted at the start) and pronouns #will be someone who grasped undertale's metanarrative more than someone who went in already spoiled on the NM route who thinks of chara #(and on some level frisk as well) as completely separate from us with independent wills and personhoods at any time #who treats them as nonbinary. even if their approach is more ''appropriate'' to a gender neutral person #systematic error vs manually changing every measure to fit what you already think is going to be the correct result. ykwim? #of course this opens a whole new parentheses while discussing the game outside of your personal experience #because even if you DO see chara as a self insert then they are a self insert for EVERYONE. women men genderqueer people #i don't call chara ''biscia'' even though that's what i named the fallen human in my playthrough. neither do i use they because i also do #if you're describing the character/story objectively in how they are executed then you're going to talk about them neutrally #because you ain't the only sunovabitch who played the darn game sonny #so like. either way you turn it. even in the most self insert reading you'd STILL logically use they/them so ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯ git gud #answered asks

[neverendingford]

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#tag talk #I would have realized I was trans a lot sooner if media portrayal of women wasn't so... *that* #I have pretty much exclusively picked men during character creation except for a few more indie titles with relatively gender neutral stuff #and even then I usually just put the feminine hair on the male body when it was an option. #I always thought I understood why trans men wanted to be guys. if I'd been afab I would still be trans in the opposite direction. #which is I guess where the whole genderqueer nonbinary genderfluid bigender ????? soup comes into play here #anyway. I went back to make a new character in skyrim and the overly feminine restrictions make me foam at the mouth #I always pick the khajiit mohawk hair and on women it's not an option. which is bullshit. I want an unhinged butch murderer with problems #the maximum body thickness (which is just arm bulk tbh) for the female is equal to the minimum body thickness of the male. #WHICH IS A SCAM SCAM SCAM SCAM SCAM #literally what do studios lose by giving equal avatar customization to everyone. WHAT DO THEY LOSE #this is the shit that culturally conservative people never even think about. a world that does not allow anyone outside of your concept #and they don't even realize because the idea simply never occurred to them #the idea that a woman would want to look any different. the idea that a man would want the same. #ughhhhhhhh I want to kill and maim and destroy and chew to bits

[genderkoolaid]

I hate how sometimes as a transmasc guy I feel like I'm betraying the cause kind of. Like I end up feeling awkward about stuff that's supposed to be great for women because it's not for me anymore.

Most recent time came when I stumbled upon some reddit drama over women only parking spaces which are in better lit areas close to the exit. I don't want to side with the "I guess I'll identify as a woman for ten minutes while I park" types but sometimes I feel like I'm forced to shove myself back into the woman box if I want that safety.

Also the many "girls in STEM" opportunities. Like it's good that they're there, but I hate having to either feel really uncomfortable but still get the opportunity or try and navigate that world how a man would while I still look and sound like a cis woman.

Also this one orchestra I'm in, where a while ago we were trying to pick a composer to commission, and the director noted that he decided not to put any white male composers on the recommended shortlist. Again, I get where he's coming from, but then I worry that once I transition I'll be just another white male. Maybe that would net me some opportunities if I pass well, but it hurts a bit knowing that in some people's eyes I'll fade into the boring grey amalgamation of suits and ties oppressing everyone else.

I think this is a pretty common experience.

This is what happens when feminism fails trans men & other gender-oppressed people who are not women. Cisfeminism in general forces trans people to fight over who gets to count as a woman & therefore be deserving of feminist support, because the feminist framework being used was never made for us. The fact that trans people who aren't women- or aren't exclusively women, or are read as cis men- are vulnerable and under-represented goes ignored & we struggle to have our voices heard.

Its also part of the harmful ways trans men are expected to act in order to have our identities respected. We are expected to pass, go stealth (or at least not bring up being trans "too much"), and never talk about how our experiences differ from those of cis men. Nonbinary & genderqueer transmascs are expected to either dissociate themselves from men or never talk about being NB/GQ. We are told we are othering ourselves when we point out that groups in which cis men are heavily represented have never featured trans men to any remotely similar extent. It sucks and its part of "affirming" transmasc erasure: instead of being erased through misgendering, we are erased by having our transness ignored so no one actually has to confront societal & individual bigotry against trans-men.

#m. #ask box #experiences with transandrophobia

[our-transmasculine-experience]

Saw an anon questioning whether they were nonbinary or transmasc, and in my opinion it can be really helpful to view transmasculinity as something that isn't just an identity, but also something that covers presentation and transition and personal life experience too. You can be nonbinary and transmasc, and you can be transmasc without having a masculine gender identity at all, and you can be transmasc no matter your desire to transition. Transmasc can include everyone from he/him butches who relate to us but still identify as cis women to binary trans men, all as long as they personally choose the label transmasc. Basically if anyone is questioning if they're transmasc, it's a lot better to ask "do I relate to the community and want to call myself that" rather than "is my gender identity technically masculine/male". Signed, your friendly local genderqueer/genderfluid transmasc

this!

#i really have nothing to add to this #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #transmasc #queer #trans #ftm #trans guy #trans man #trans boy

[tricky-pockets]

💖🌈💖 my choir director, everyone 💖🌈💖

[image ID: (screenshotted text) Not only is our chorus increasing in numbers, we are also increasing in diversity. We will be wearing name tags for the next several weeks so we can get to know each other better and better. Who doesn't like being called the right name, see our name spelled correctly in print, and being referred to with the preferred pronoun? it's a matter of respect. if you know me, you know I am an accepting person. However, this pronoun issue is new to me and I need to work at showing this kind of respect to everyone. So, let's work together by filling out the nametags completely - and then reading them completely so we can speak to each other - and refer to each other with accuracy, inclusion, and respect. // end ID]

For context, this group started as a gay men's chorus but has expanded to include queer and queer-friendly people of any gender who can sing tenor or lower. It's still mostly cis gay men, but there's also genderqueer and nonbinary people, a trans guy or two (hi!), and at least one butch whose voice is just too low for the women's chorus.

I'm struck by the sincerity in the message above - I feel like it hits the right notes without coming off as hyper-sanitized, and that makes me so goddamn happy. That's a trans ally right there.

#trans #queer pride #trans men #genderqueer #nonbinary #sam tag 🌌

[tr3ns-d3ath-d3ity]

"LGBTQA+ is one of the most accepting communities, you're not being targeted by other queer people!! 😤​😡​"

Aight, time for the list of things related to my queer identity I've been yelled at for by other LGBTQA+ people (for context: I am an oriented aroace, trans, queer, and polyamorous dude):

・Being a trans man.

・Identifying as queer/calling myself queer.

・Saying that gay And mlm are two different things, just like wlw and lesbian are two different things

・Saying that trans women are women.

・Being attracted to men.

・Not being attracted to women and people on the genderqueer/nonbinary spectrum.

・Being oriented aroace.

・Not being monogamous.

・Talking about genuinely loving men.

・Being aspec and having npd (quote the girl who yelled at me for that: "your npd made you aroace, you're just to selfish to commit to genuine love lol.").

・Not being lesbian.

・Not being pan.

・Saying that I support mspec gays/lesbians because it’s not my place to judge other people’s identities just because I may not fully understand them.

・Saying mspec, the multi spectrum, or multiromantic/multisexual (to include ply, pan, omni, bi, neptunic, uranic, and every other pluralian sexuality) instead of just bi.

・Saying that nonbinary people can present themselves as masculine, androgynous, neutral, or feminine as they want, and still be nonbinary.

・Literally just. wearing green eyeshadow????? (quote the person who yelled at me for that: “t hat's a lesbian color, bro, you're literally appropriating lesbian culture by that.")

・Presenting masculine.

・Using he/him pronouns.

・Referring to the D-Slur as tThe D-Slur (y'all want me to say a slur I can't reclaim?????).

・Saying that the og polyamory flag (the blue-red-black one with the yellow pi symbol in the middle) looks neat.

・Not using any of the new polyamory flags because I prefer the blue-red-black + pi symbol one.

・Asking if there’s a word for nonbinary people who are exclusively/only attracted to other nonbinary people.

・Hating non-men who fetishize achillean relationships.

・Being specifically Half-Asian and queer.

・Writing books about exclusively queer men/non-women, mostly to cope with trauma stuff (apparently if your writing doesn't consist of a trillion sapphics, two gay fathers that get three seconds of screentime, and the occasionally non-human nonbinary person, it's automatically bad writing???? Okay damn. Sorry for focusing on my own experiences, I guess?).

・Not necessarily wanting to get married or have a romantic/sexual relationship.

・Shipping two characters in a queerplatonic way instead of a sexual/romantic one.

・Headcanoning a popular fandom character as aroace.

・Mentioning aroallo people.

・Saying that straight asexuals and straights aromantics are LGBTQA+ since that's what the A stands for.

・Not being T4T (I just wanna love men in peace fuck off with your "but cis men are horrible!! 🥺🤢😱 Limit yourself to trans men because I said so!! 😤🤬🤬"-Bullshit).

・Using someone’s neopronouns.

・Supporting xenogender people.

・Headcanoning a canonically lesbian character as trans female.

・Saying that I want more representation of achillean, aroace, trans, and asexual men in media.

・Asking asking someone who knew I used he/him pronouns to not refer to me with they/them (like, girlie, that’s called misgendering).

・Mentioning that women can be aroallo.

・Saying that people who don’t label their genders/sexualities can be LGBTQA+ too.

・Saying that two pan women I know in reallife dating each other aren’t lesbians because... they’re both pan?

・Mentioning that queer men should always be welcome in queer spaces.

・Saying that amab nonbinary folks can be lesbian.

・Wanting to go on T.

・Jokingly referring to my tiddies and my pussy as boys.

And last but not least,

・Saying "people", "y'all", "esteemed guests", or "everyone present" instead of "ladies and gentlemen".

I dunno, homie, I actually do feel a little targeted here.

#queer #lgbt #lgbt+ #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #lgbtqa #lgbtqa+ #gay #lesbian #mlm #wlw #achillean #sapphic #nonbinary #nblnb #aspec #aroace #aromantic #asexual #oriented aroace #acespec #arospec #mspec #pluralian #bi #ply #pan #omni #queerphobia #homophobia

[gayfertilitygoddess]

Okay but actually the transgender agenda is to encourage living happily in your own body in your own way and the freedom to explore what will make you the most happy, isn’t it?

One of the argument for including trans and gnc students at historically women’s colleges is that their presence gives everyone the freedom to question their gender, to choose or reject womanhood (or manhood!) on their own terms. Having trans friends has encouraged me to examine my relationship with gender to see what combinations of feminine, masculine and androgynous presentations make me feel happiest. Knowing trans people exist helps my students develop a healthier relationship to their genders as well. A world without trans people is a bleak one.

So yeah, to every trans/gnc person reading this, no matter how much you’re struggling or feel like you’re unwanted, your existence makes the world a happier, brighter place. You deserve to thrive as your most authentic self, and I will continue to fight for your right to do so. Not just because your existence makes the world a better place but because you, the trans/gnc/genderqueer/nonbinary/genderfucky/questioning/maybe-trans-but-not-quite-sure person reading this, YOU, deserve to be happy just because you’re you.

And yes, before you ask, this applies to intersex people whether you identify as trans or queer or not.

#trans positivity #sorry to be a sap the barbie headline got to me #queer stuff #w posting #the idea of calling yourself a feminist and thinking that a strict gender binary is good for *anyone* much less women is truly nonsensical #t3rfs just ~try~ touching this post and see what happens 😊

[cock-holliday]

"Does the parody of this gender make me NOT this gender?"

but... all gender IS a parody. that's why the patriarchy invented it. and why gender doesn't exist in any form outside of human society. gender is stereotypes and parody and an axis of oppression. everyone on earth should be genderqueer/nonbinary. socialisation is the thing that stops this. the end goal of gender rights is the complete abolition of gender, not whatever you're doing in that post. you seem like you're really rightwing and trying to hide it by mis-using leftwing terminology...

You sound like a deeply unpleasant person.

"everyone on earth should be genderqueer/nonbinary" As a genderqueer person...no they should not. People should be free to identify how they want, not have labels forced on them, and not have to be punished for falling into any particular category. The problem is not the existence of gender and identity labels but rather the power other axes of oppression have to influence it---namely white supremacy and colonial standards.

Gender is not uniform across different societies. It is wholeheartedly made up, sure, as is any other form of categorization! And like any other form of categorization there is shared history and community and the ability to shape it into what you want just as much as the ability to form a sense of nationalism tied to it. And what makes up men, women, and other is different across time and location. The problem is assigning roles and status along a hierarchy, not in putting labels on yourself.

"the end goal of gender rights is the complete abolition of gender, not whatever you're doing in that post" hmmmm can't tell if you're misinformed or gender crit, either way, what a presumptuous take. There are plenty who reject gender abolition in favor of gender liberation.

There needs to be an end to oppression based on gender, on restrictive pressures placed on various genders, on hierarchies (based in gender and others) and an end to the gender binary, but gender abolition is a pretty shit path, imo

Anarcha-genderism only requires, at minimum, non-participation in the legal and social enforcement of unjust hierarchies which revolve around the gender binary.

Gender should be a choice--yours and yours alone. And it should mean what you want it to mean. Forcing a new metric for gender and forbidding use of terms is just as reductive under an """abolitionist""' lol perspective as it is under patriarchy.

I'll give you some credit if you're coming from a nihilist perspective on gender abolition--their critiques of liberal feminism are super correct, but I think their conclusion is flawed, namely in thinking there is no value to identity words.

Abolition is for systems, not ways people describe themselves.

Also please for the love of god read Judith Butler, even the nihilists do

#ask #anon ask #charming to be accused of being rightwing for NOT being gender crit #gender liberation #gender anarchy #queer anarchism

[trans-enby-culture-is]

This is a culture blog for trans people!

Meaning everyone who is under the trans umbrella (or can be under the trans umbrella: trans men and women, nonbinary people, xenogenders, questioning people, anyone not cis or who think they aren't cis). Also cis people you are welcome to like, reblog, follow but please don't hijack posts. I don't gatekeep here, just everyone be respectful of each other.

So how does it work?

Send in an ask or submission that starts off with: "x culture is". x being trans, non-binary, gender queer, agender... Be as general or spasific as you want. Then add in anything you like having to do with being trans.

Then I'll post the submissions!

Please don't use "nb" when you mean non-binary (it originally meant non black, and shouldn't be used in this context)

Wait aren't there blogs like this already?

There are some general trans/enby culture blogs, but they haven't been active in years, so I'm stepping in to the void.

This blog is inspired by other culture blogs:

@aro-culture-is, @ace-culture-is, @ndcultureis, @depression-culture-is, @gnc-culture-is, @apl-culture-is, @nonamorous-culture-is, @demi-alterous-culture-is, @demigirl-culture-is, @demigender-culture-is, @queercutlureis, @questioning-aspec-culture-is, @autigender-culture-is, @neopronoun-user-culture-is, @genderqueer-culture-is, @genderqueercultureis, @aspec-culture, @no-empathy-culture-is, @disassociation-culture-is

Lists of culture blogs:

part 1: orientations and general queerness

part 2: gender identities + intersex

part 3: neurodivergency

My main blog: @it-is-only-a-novel

DNI: the usual, I don't hesitate to block.

Edited on 14/10/23

#trans enby culture #trans #transgender #nonbinary #enby #demigender #agender #gender queer #gender fluid #gender flux #xenogender #neurogender #intro post

[nonbaznary]

it's not just about love

throughout the month of june, but especially today, on international pride day, "love is love" is being slapped everywhere. and while thats an important part of pride and we do fight for equality, seeing the queer movement being boiled down to that always hurts me. as a trans person (and also as someone on the aromantic spectrum), every single "love brings us all together!" and "everyone has the right to love!" feels more and more like a slap in the face.

every day, there's more anti trans legislation. more transgender, especially trans women and transfeminine people of color, are murdered. more trans men commit suicide. this cant be solved with love by itself.

every day, the societal gender norms are shoved down the throats of nonbinary, genderqueer, and gender nonconforming people. these people constantly suffer with not only microaggressions that discredit and invalidate their identities, their non-traditional pronouns, their expressions, but also with actual violent acts just because they dare to exist. and i won't even go into talking about the violence that intersex children are subjected to and how these bodies are made invisible. what does all this have to do with the "right to love"?

if this kind of question has never crossed your mind, i hope you take this post as an invitation to re-evaluate your role as an ally to queer people whose identity is NOT just about their relationships and who they are attracted to, romantically or sexually. what do you do to help the fight this huge part of the community?

not everything can be solved with a rainbow flag emoji.

#doodles #i wont get too much into it but yeah #pride #art #queer art #trans art #queer pride #queer #lgbtq #lgbtqia+ #these rainbow tags make me laugh #trans artist #queer artist #nonbinary artist #gay #international pride day #lgbtqia pride #aromantic #arospec #aro art #aromantic art #genderqueer #nonbinary #gnc pride #transgender pride #transexual pride #amatonormativity

[soong-type-notinuse]

every single queer term relating to gender is turned into some binary bullshit and i'm tired. like why do you all hate people who don't fit the binary so much.

when transsexual was the term for trans men and trans women, transgender was coined mainly and mostly to describe people outside the binary.

then the aptobinaries decided they didn't like transsexual anymore and took over transgender. which, at this point, is almost as binary as transsexual used to be.

nonbinary people are constantly divided into transmascs and transfems, into amabs and afabs, into boy nonbinaries and girl nonbinaries.

genderqueerness suddenly needs to include aptobinaries despite it being an old term synonymous with nonbinary. genderqueerness suddenly needs to include aptobinaries in order to not alienate them, but instead alienate those the term was created by and for. despite "gender nonconforming" being right there.

just say you hate us and go. just say you want to centre the gender binary and aptobinary people in everything that was created by and for those of us outside of the binary. you all took over transgender, then nonbinary, then genderqueer, the last identity i have left and all because you think that "everyone is a little bit genderqueer" in the same way ableists say that "everyone is a little bit autistic", because you think "your gender doesn't need to be genderqueer to be genderqueer, you just need to dislike the gender binary", in the same way radfems say "you don't need to be attracted to women to be lesbian, it's enough to dislike men".

stop turning our identities into ideologies and stances. all of this was created by us out of marginalisation and taken over by those with aptobinary privilege over us.

genderqueer and gender nonconforming aren't the same thing. if you're always, fully and exclusively either male or female, this term was not made for you.

nothing has ever felt as much like home as a genderqueer identity and you all wanna centre the binary in it. stop.

#genderqueer #trans #nonbinary #genderfluid #genderflux #demigender #mogai #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #xenogender #bigender #multigender #agender #androgyne #aporagender #outherine #maverique #neutrois #pangender #demigirl #demiboy #demiflux #elsegender #transgender

[genderkoolaid]

I'm sorry but you people have demeaned the word lesbian so badly... the LITERAL definition of a lesbian is a NON-MAN who likes NON-MEN. How is that so fucking hard to understand? Not you specifically, but people like you have made it into something it's not; the whole "bi lesbian" and "straight lesbian" shit, saying trans men can date lesbians (which is literally just transphobic), straight up just saying lesbians can date men???? MEN???? DO YOU NOT HEAR YOURSELVES?

And now the whole butch discourse lmao. Sure, maybe in days long past it was a broader term, but today when someone hears the word butch, I can guarantee their minds will jump to a butch lesbian. If y'all want it to be the GBT community so bad then just say so

Also I can guarantee that you were one of the mfs laughing at lesbians who used he/him or he/they pronouns back in 2020 lmao performative ass bitch

Definitions of words do not descend from Heaven straight from the lips of God. We make them up! So I simply disagree with your definition of lesbian, as do many others. Personally, I enjoy the definition of "queer love/desire for women." For one, it centers lesbianism around women, instead of centering it around the exclusion of men. And two, "non-men loving non-men" is a definition which utterly erases nonbinary people. If an agender person is dating a neutrois person, they are not lesbians- or gay men- simply because y'all cannot get your head out of your binary asses for five seconds. "Non-men loving non-men" is a definition that attempts to be nonbinary-inclusive but only succeeds in making nonbinary & genderqueer identities palatable for radical feminism and political lesbianism. Honestly, I would prefer someone who defines lesbian as "woman loving woman" but understands that many people have complex relationships with womanhood while still feeling attached to the label of lesbian, than someone who uses this "NB-inclusive" definition and goes absolutely feral over genderqueers who are Doing It Wrong.

Anyways, speaking of radical feminism: acknowledging male lesbians and mspec lesbians is not "making lesbianism something its not." It is just recognizing the beautiful complexity that has always existed within lesbianism.

The lesbian community- which I'm using to refer to all kinds of communities organized around queer relationships to women & womanhood- has always been a haven for a lot more people than cis women exclusively into other cis women. The idea of sexuality-as-identity is very recent, and the idea of drawing a hard line between people who only like people of the same gender and people who like the same gender and more is also extremely recent. Beyond that, trans men and nonbinary people have always taken shelter under lesbianism. "Butch" in the context of lesbianism has always been a trans* identity, a way for people with a queer gender to find community and safety.

The reason why we have this idea of lesbianism as a strict category with hard borders is..... you guessed it..... radical feminism! And specifically "political lesbianism," which essentially placed woman-only relationships as the only true feminist relationship you could have. "Lesbian" became a political identity because of its focus on woman-woman relationships. But that meant that, for political lesbianism to be acceptable to radical feminism, it needed to conform to radical feminist beliefs about what makes a good feminist. Which meant:

No trans women or fems (because they are too male and probably predators)

No trans men or mascs (because they are too male and also traitors)

No bisexuals (because they are too male by association and are also traitors)

No penetrative sex, or at least no strap ons (because it imitates men)

No kinky sex (see above but with bonus "kink is evil" flavoring)

No butch/femme roles (because they imitate heterosexuality; everyone has to be neutrally androgynous).

I believe that much of modern lesbian discourse comes from trying to marry lingering radfem beliefs with modern attempts at trans-inclusivity. So you adapt the blatant transphobia: now, trans women are allowed in (as long as they are palatable to cis women), because they're women! And nonbinary people can also be allowed in- at first they were woman-aligned, and then later as long as they weren't man-aligned. Being butch/femme is Back In Style, but we have to soothe the gender anxiety that butches cause by assuring everyone that only True Lesbians can be butch, and butches are always women, even if they kind of aren't, but regardless they're definitely not men, because butch has always been a lesbian term (except it hasn't.) The discourse is haunted by the ideas that lesbianism is constantly under attack, more than anyone else, and that lesbian culture is unique and special and must be guarded from (male/-aligned) invaders who are probably also sexual predators.

To say that this is all just "days long pasts" ignores both that, in physical queer spaces there very much still are male lesbians and bi lesbians who are accepted parts of their local communities, and that you only see those days as "long past" because of the impact of radical feminism on lesbianism. The only reason you see these changes as a good thing is because you've swallowed radical feminist ideas without realizing it.

Also, "if you say butch most people will think of butch lesbians" is an extremely silly argument. Literally who fucking cares. If you say "man" there are still a lot of people who will immediately think of exclusively cis men (see: every feminist who says shit like "if men could get pregnant). Does that mean that trans men should just give up their identities because other people don't understand them? You dork?

Anyways. The funniest part of this ask is how damn confident you are that I was apparently hating on he/him lesbians three years ago. Idk how to tell you this but I'm a boygirl gaylesbianbisexual and have identified this way for years. I have been personally terrorized by shitty lesbian identity politics, the same ones you are repeating now, which told me that if I was even 1% male then identifying as a lesbian made me a disgusting predator. Which caused me years of suffering because no matter how hard I tried, I could not ignore my multigenderedness and how that affected my sexuality. Sowwy but you look silly as hell and your argument is bad and you should feel bad </3

#this made me laugh out loud tho thanks for that ! #m. #ask box

[hadeantaiga]

Facts:

Trans women do not oppress trans men based on being male.

Trans men do not oppress trans women based on being men.

Afab trans people do not have privilege over amab trans people.

Amab trans people do not have privilege over afab trans people.

[This section edited for clarity 10/13/22]

This doesn't even get into the nuance of the fact that some trans people feel like they are trans with regards to both their gender and their sex. Some trans people feel that way, some don't. Being trans in both your sex and gender has nothing to do with whether or not you have medically transitioned.

Some trans people are reclaiming transsexual to represent how they feel trans in both their gender and their sex. Not everyone uses that word and it has nothing to do with medical transition. You can use the word transgender to mean the same thing. This is not a set of hard and fast rules.

Medical transition is not the only valid way to be trans, and neither "transgender" nor "transsexual" implies any level of medical transition.

[Edits over]

It doesn't get into the nuance nonbinary people, bigender people, agender people, or genderqueer people.

When there's trans people involved, the traditional gender and sex class structures do not work the same way. That's one of the reasons why trans people are such a challenge to traditional western patriarchy: we disrupt the binary sex and gender class system.

If you can't see that, and if you think any group of trans people oppress each other in any direction, you're missing a hell of a lot.

#trans #transgender #nonbinary #trans woman #trans man #agender #genderqueer #bigender

[sweaty-confetti]

i keep seeing people forget that lil uzi vert uses they/them and is nonbinary or whatever they identify as and i’m starting to think it’s because y’all forget black trans people exist. like apart from the occasional “black trans women fought for our rights” many people don’t actually take the time to remember and appreciate that black trans people are an essential part of queer culture and always have been - black trans women, black non-binary people, black trans men, black genderqueers, black boygirls, black drag queens, black butches, everyone in between. it’s like people think being trans is an experience only reserved for white people and people who “act white” and it’s so ingrained into us that we forget or ignore black trans people

#emo moss talks #transphobia #antiblackness #racism #transmisogynoir #I don’t know if there’s a term for transphobia against black people specifically #there probably is I just don’t know it #anyway this is just a thought

[ashtonisvibing]

egos normalcy au

everyone's just fucking normal, average people (but still queer as fuck, but that's a given)

anti and jackie both work in tech in some way. jackie has no powers, he doesn't save anyone. anti isn't some weird glitch goblin. they probably hate each other, though. anti is so xenogender, so "anti" isn't its birth name

chase is a video game streamer. still very depressed still very divorced, but no connections to IRIS (IRIS doesn't exist)

marvin is a clothing store retailer who does magic acts for kids on the side

henrik... well, still a doctor. just the stuff with sean doesn't happen.

jameson isn't a wacky guy from the 1920's. he's either a historian or plays violin, i can't decide on which. still mute and uses sign language, obviously. ooooooooo, or maybe he crafts puppets! actually yeah, i like that more, he makes puppets and marionettes ^^

robbie is henrik's adopted child but is actually fucking alive for once

general info (age, pronouns, sexuality, gender)

jackie: 34, he/him, pansexual greyasexual (prefers to just say asexual), trans man

anti: 32, it/its xe/xim, aromantic asexual, xenogender (something related to technology and glitching)/agender

chase: 35, he/him they/them bisexual, cisgender

marvin: 35, they/them, gay lesbian (i think the term is gaybian? they like men in a gay mlm way and like women in a lesbian way), genderqueer/nonbinary

henrik: 39, he/him, bisexual, cisgender

jameson: 38, he/him they/them, gay asexual, transmasc bear (like the term bear in reference to being fat and hairy and gay is his gender)

robbie: 17, they/them he/him it/its, unlabeled/queer, demigender

in terms of relationships:

jackie and chase are still childhood friends, you can pry this from my cold, dead hands

jackie and marvin are engaged

jackie and anti are step siblings and have a rocky relationship. jackie's trying to mend it a bit but anti is not having it (trauma from your parent's divorcing can be a bitch)

chase and marvin are twins, used to have a bad relationship but through some healing thanks to their childhoods they're okay now

debating on if i wanna have henrik and chase have a friends with benefits thing currently happening. depends on if i wanna bring the iplier egos in (if i do, the fwb will be a past thing, and chase and bing will be dating)

jameson and marvin are exes but on extremely good terms (it was a mutual breakup). now jameson and anti are dating

if i decide to draw stuff for this i'll include a full fledged relationship chart. despite this honestly starting out as a joke post... as you can see i have- many thoughts-

i'll probably bring a couple'a the ipliers in, i love the goobers too much lolol

#ashton is talking #jackieboy man #marvin the magnificent #jameson jackson #antisepticeye #robbie the zombie #henrik von schneeplestein #chase brody #jacksepticeye egos #jse egos au #normalcy au #< yeah that'll be the tag lololol