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radical feminists will talk like “i will only accept trans men into my feminism so long as they’re willing to detransition or feminize themselves, if not i dont care if they live or die and actively joke about transsexual male’s difficulties in ‘female’ spaces they need access too” and people will log online and go “wow. can you believe how radical feminists will accept trans men into their feminism? 🤔 suspicious”

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yall do realize just because something has been a target of misogynistic criticism, that doesn't make stanning it completely uncritically in response some kind of revolutionary feminist praxis. right.

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hate to be that person but siwas rebrand is a deliberate thing to cover up the shit she put the children on her show through. aside from a kid with medical conditions being forced to continue practice even though she was bleeding from her belly button (she was told to just put a pad on her clothes to hide it and continue) she also ripped them off for a lot of money.

i wouldn't be surprised at all if it is deliberate. but that also doesn't really change my point. every single thing i've been recommended about this situation has been framed around her being Weird and Cringe. because people have been mocking his girl for her entire life & it just so happens that she has also done harmful shit which they can use to justify their obsession with mocking her. however genuine her feelings are wrt the new aesthetic, people are still more concerned with hating this girl they find annoying and weird instead of making a substantive criticism of her as an equal.

& i also think its important to point out that like. her mother seems to be the one dictating her business decisions? & i feel like its pretty easy to draw a line from her growing up on a famously heinous dance competition show to her acting heinous alongside her mom on her own show. this is not to say she's not responsible for her actions, but i also think its telling that she is the one who gets 100% of the blame while her mom isn't brought up?

like other child stars have also acted like assholes once they hit adulthood. with various motivations. and they aren't excused from their moral responsibility, but its also important to understand where they are coming from. i've seen people bring up that's she's perpetuating the cycle of abuse- which is true!- but like. has she even really had a chance to escape her own (potential, i dont want to put words to experiences i don't know about) abuse? why isn't more negative press directed at her mother, who set her up for this shit and is financially benefiting from it?

we can and should criticize former child stars but i think its vital we do so while understanding the kinds of vulnerable situations they can be in. & we should do so because we want them to grow as a person, not because we think they are Cringe and their harmful behavior is just a convenient excuse so we don't have to feel bad when we cyberbully them. i just don't see much compassion here, and i have never seen much genuine sympathy for jojo. if it is a coverup than all anyone is doing is helping them cover it up and being needlessly cruel.

#m. #ask box #jojo siwa #<- in case yall arent interested in this

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If you are trans block @/gendiebrainrotreceipts. that account has reblogged multiple of my posts about trans men’s issues and lead to me getting harassed.

And of course everytime they reblog my post they only reblog the radfem additions that have no sources and not my response linking sources proving my point. Because once again TERFs prove that despite them going “we include TIFs in our feminism 🥺” they don’t care about trans men dying bc they care more about cis women’s comfort.

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I hate how people talk about testosterone and transmascs. Even if someone slightly hints they don't really want one of the changes (like hair loss or something) someone's gotta bring up "You can't pick and choose the changes! A real transmasc wouldn't be saying this. You know T isn't going to turn you into an UWU anime boy, right?"

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hey so i know video essays are getting popular and this website is Painfully White, and i wanted to use this as an opportunity to uplift one of my favorite video essayists, lil bill.

his most recent video ^ is about the wage gap and the wnba, actually debunking bullshit excuses with statistics. he’s also done some of my favorite videos on black history, such as the commodification of the hood and the very black history of punk rock. he’s also working on a project that gives kids in the neighborhood he grew up in backpacks and school supplies, so go give that some support if you can!

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Transphobes make being trans sound so cool. Like trans men sound like they are possessed by the devil? That sounds AWSOME .

#FULLY did not realize this eas transphobic at first #had it read it twice bc at first I thought they were saying that FTMs have better voices for horror narration? #like they were suggesting a job lmao #anyways. who up with they voice spooky and every

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sorry for the celebrity drama but i just do not care about jojo siwas rebrand. i didn't even know she had (supposedly) stolen a song until my friend explained it to me because all i saw were people going like "omg look at her CRINGE makeup!!!!!!!!!!!!"

like man. how many times does a child star have to go through this before we just learn to let them be cringe for a while. i do not care if this young queer girl, who has been screamed at by adults on television since she was like 7, then was the target of so much public mockery throughout her teens specifically focused on her being seen as annoying and stupid, is being cringe in public. becoming an adult is already hellish & having to do that when your entire identity has been a child friendly brand for your whole life? the only criticisms of her ive found at all interesting are like, how she is seemingly disconnected to past and present queer culture, how she and her mother treated their girl group dancers. but god if she wants to wear sparkly pseudogoth outfits and hump girls in a music video fucking Who Cares. "cringe culture is dead" was a fucking joke literally nothing has changed wrt how we as a society treat weirdness esp of queers, kids, and girls. "cringe" is not and will never be a good critique of anyone's behavior!!!!!!

#m. #jojo siwa

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“Focusing on fixing sexism instead of worrying about transandrophobia is going to benefit trans men more. Also, worrying about transandrophobia instead of sexism is like discarding women and instead trying to put trans men into male privilege to fix the problem instead of fixing sexism.”

I mean.

First of all, sure, fighting sexism will help many people. Absolutely. Cis women. Trans women. Trans men.

But would you tell a trans woman to stop fighting transmisogyny because it’s only helping her and other trans women? Would you tell her that fighting for transmisogyny is counterproductive and just putting trans women in a better position instead of fixing sexism? I sure hope not! Typically people who think that way are radfems. But it’s what you’re doing to trans men in conversations about transandrophobia right now, so I’ve gotta point this out.

And also, fixing sexism doesn’t magically fix transmisogyny or transandrophobia. Discarding either conversation to “just focus on sexism” will not be beneficial overall. Just a couple quick examples: even in places where abortion is fully legal trans men will still struggle to access it, even in places where cis women have full access to a space trans women will still struggle to access it.

We don’t need to have only one conversation. Conversations about sexism, transmisogyny, and transandrophobia have to exist in tandem with one another.

And I’m definitely bringing this back around to the fact that discarding other conversations to focus on “the only actual real problem” when that “only actual real problem” is sexism also rings a lot of radfem alarm bells in my head.

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Because I circulated a call to action about it here that got some traction: to those of you who contacted Maine legislators when it counted, thank you— it worked. Maine just passed sanctuary-state-level protection for trans rights.

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as far as starting T (as someone who's finally a legal adult), is it something you can just bring up to your doctor? i still go to a family dr, so i'd also be forced to come out to my mom first,,,but is it something youre allowed to ask outright for?

Its allowed, yes. How well it will go ofc depends on the specific doctor & your circumstances. But your primary isn't going to yell at you for asking to be prescribed a specific medicine, unless they are a huge dick to their patients (which unfortunately isn't as rare as it should be).

#m. #ask box

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#tied between deep voice + bottom growth #honestly breast volume is one of the reasons I stopped

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all the women saying "im no better than a man" seeing monster fallin's huge bouncing naturals, refusing to be horny is NOT feminist now go JERK OFF to her tits NOW

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The thing about people talking about how much they hate children is that I've never seen any correlation between "openly expressed loathing of children" and "support for policies that actively harm children."

In contrast, when people go out of their way to tell you how much they love children and want to protect children, it's at least a 50/50 chance that you are about to hear support for the most actively evil assault on children's rights and dignity that you can possibly imagine.

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Well you see minors under 25 years old should not be allowed to get gender reassignment surgery because what if they go to the clinic but instead of giving them a normal penis the nurses mess up and give them the evil penis. That's irreversible