#vanilla’s opinion

[agirlwithglam]

✨Time for Vanilla’s Opinion 🍰

Edition #1: thoughts on hate & caring about what others think of you.

Regardless of what people think of you, you need to understand that it only matters/ means something if you decide it to. What i mean is that i know lots of people say “you should only care about your opinion. Others opinion of you dont matter” but that’s only true if YOU DECIDE IT TO BE TRUE. I will say this again: this is your life!!!!!

If you choose to accept and believe the nonsense that others will think/ say of you, then you are saying “i dont have the confidence and self love in myself to only accept my opinion, so im going to give you the power over my emotions and how i act :)” do you really want to do that? Because that’s what you’re doing when you start acting based on how you think others are gonna think of you and what their perception is.

Remember: what other people think of you is just THEIR PERCEPTION. Stop making your personality & yourself dependent on what another person thinks of you!!

And also, some people will literally just hate on anything because of how sad their life is. I mentioned this before, and im gonna mention it again: there could be a video of CATS PLAYING on YouTube and you’ll find someone criticising and hating on that. That’s how sad some of these people in life are. So stop trying to or thinking that since you love yourself and you’re “perfect” that everyone should/ would like you because THATS NOT TRUE.

I read this quote once: “you could be the most juiciest, yummiest apple in the world, yet there would still be someone out there who doesn’t like apples.”

“So then.. what do i do if I receive hate? It’s still mean and hurtful.”

WHY does it still hurt??? WHY are you giving that person ANY control over how you feel???? If this person is someone who’s your friend or close to you, when they do it, TELL THEM THAT YOU DONT LIKE IT!!! Without communication and understanding, you will only start to build resentment for the other person, creating a toxic relationship. Comunícate your boundaries clearly by telling them that firmly, NOT in a joking manner, that you don’t like it. Now ofc if they do it once more, remind them again. Most of the time, if this person really cares about you, they will respect your feelings and stop doing that. But if it happens more times, you’ve gotta stop giving your energy to them. Reserve that for something that actually matters.

You may or may not have noticed that i did not write “just cut them out” because i know how difficult that can be, especially if you’re a kid still living with your parents. Because at some times, you’re stuck in the situation you’re in for a while (for example: a workplace, living at home, in 1 class at school) so its not as easy to just “cut them out”. And that’s why i wrote “stop giving your energy to them”. Because THATS what the parasites are feeding on! Your energy and attention! Take that away from them and see what happens.

BUT….;

know that what I’m NOT saying is to be a stone-cold bitch who doesn’t care at all about others or their happiness. (Because honestly, doing that shows me that you’re a lot more insecure) A lot of people now would be like “but it’s not my responsibility to ensure they’re happy. They are their own person in charge of their own actions and feelings!” Sure, ok. But then don’t come whining to me about how you have no friends and how you feel so lonely and sad. ‘You’re your own person and in charge of your own feelings’, remember? So if someone decides to leave a relationship (whether it’s a friendship, or with romance) with you because you don’t make them feel happy, then don’t be surprised about that because ‘they are their own person.’

But look, i completely agree with the fact that you and every individual indeed are in charge of their own feelings and actions, but just stop and think about it for a sec; would YOU want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t give a hoot about your happiness? Yuck, no!!

So to put it in more simple/ plain terms: be KIND to people, bring smiles to peoples faces when you can (give them a compliment, help them out, listen to them, offer advice, etc.) but don’t something that compromises your own wellbeing and happiness. Cus like, how is complimenting someone’s hair or eyes gonna hurt you? If anything it would just make you happier. But also don’t live your life constantly on the edge, afraid of what he’s gonna think of you, what shes gonna say about you, etc. etc.

I guess that’s pretty much it. <3 anyyywayys i hope you enjoyed the 1st edition of the series! If you have requests, comment on this post of send an ask using the ‘tea’ button ☕️

Xoxo, Vanilla

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[ninawolv3rina]

My spouse when I asked if he's been on tumblr recently:

#my shit #vanilla extract #im like have u been on tumblr recently they're like no #then i said well u know polls are a thing now #and they immediately go oh vanilla extract #he does not think it is as funny as i think it is tbh but thats fine #we're all entitled to our (wrong) opinion

[thatmightyheart]

hello! I see you're an fma fan. Welcome to the club we have snacks. now the important question.

ling yao?

[big thumbs up] i love ling! i think he might have been the first fma character i doodled lol

#i have a clip saved of just him saying ''sou da ne ¦3'' bc the way his VA says it is so fun LOL #other peak ling yao moments include ed calling him slurs and then he bounces. while pretending not to know the language #ling (+lan fan) vs bradley was also very good #also him and ed in gluttony's false portal #thewitchqueen281 #postcards #i actually somewhat prefer vanilla ling yao to greedling.. which i think is not a very popular opinion lol

[whetstonefires]

my arabic teacher was very serious about religious dietary restrictions which meant at the end of term potluck nobody could bring anything vanilla-flavored because even though the alcohol all cooks off in every recipe of which i am aware, vanilla extract is alcohol, and that permanently contaminated the food

thinking about him today

#hoc est meum #vanilla extract #shoutout to souhaib #awkward string bean of a young dad #with strong opinions about how weird americans are #about race

[kgthesillyclown]

LOOK AT THE SILLIES

I'm so happy they have matching costumes and I hope they do the same thing for all 5 ancients :33

#cookie run kingdom #Crk #White lily cookie #Pure vanilla cookie #Dark cacao cookie #Hollyberry cookie #Golden cheese cookie #Ancients #IN MY OPINION IT WOULD BE AMAZING IF ALL THE ANCIENTS WERE MATCHED :33

[pinkvaquita]

Sooooo, if Pure Vanilla is the Jesús christ of Crk... Shadow Milk would be satan or the anti-christ????

#Give me your opinions and ideas #I'm hearing you out #cookie run kingdom #cookie run #crk #shadow milk cookie #cr kingdom #pure vanilla cookie

[kyouka-supremacy]

Tangentially related to the last Beast sskk post, just something that has been going through my mind A LOT in the last period:

There's this tendency I see of characterizing post-Beast sskk as being on very bad terms with each other, keeping on hating each other even after Dazai's death, and I personally can't relate with that interpretation. To me the canon Beast sskk development is, more or less, a warming up to each other speedrun. All the issues they used to have, about being on opposites sides, about having contrasting ethics, were already sorted up in canon, violently and unmercifully, but most importantly thoroughly and definitely. I find it very easy to believe they'd get along post canon, because everything they had to sort out between them, they already did fully.

When I say that Beast sskk is more or less a warming up to each other speedrun, it's also in the perspective of Beast sskk being a general speedrun to what sskk are in the canon timeline: because I do believe sskk's is a progression towards warming up to each other¹, and in a lot of ways it's already visible in canon, through Atsushi helping Akutagawa in the cannibalism arc despite allegedly hating to work with him, through Akutagawa dying so that Atsushi could escape, through Atsushi wearing Rashomon and Akutagawa letting him wear it and everything that entails. The thing is, when it comes to them, Beast sskk have already seen each other bare; they HAVE seen each other at their lowest point already. If there ever was a peak of hate between them, they've already reached it, and that means the tension is only going to plummet from there. There's nothing left for hate anymore, only for understanding and compassion and love.

“More or less” of a speedrun, that is, because honestly? Beast sskk never needed to warm up to each other, because they didn't start from hating, wholly and sincerely, each other like their canon counterparts did. Beast sskk started from a place of common ground, of genuine sympathy and liking for each other. When they started fighting, I think they were both pained from having to fight each other, who shortly beforehand they had found so easy to relate to and most importantly who they felt understood from. If they hated each other at some point - which, everything accounted, is still realistic, especially given the threat they both posed to their little sisters and more generally to their weaknesses and insecurities -, all accounted it was still brief (literally. didn't last more than half a day), and likely easy to leave behind. In the end I just think for Beast sskk it's going to be easy - spontaneous, even -, to go back to the warm acceptance and understanding they shared on their first meeting; because, differently from their canon counterparts, they know that in normal circumstances they get along, and that's something they can't lie about to themselves and pretend it's not true. They can't lie to themselves about hating each other like canon sskk do; so really, Beast sskk is left no other choice than to get along.

As a final note, I think it would also be easier for Beast sskk to get along because Beast Atsushi doesn't feel to be on an higher moral pedestal like his canon counterpart does, so a lot of moral conflict between Atsushi and Akutagawa simply doesn't happen in Beast.

¹ In a way that, for comparison, skk aren't, who remained more or less frozen on the stance of “hating you (that is also loving you)”. Regarding that, I agree with the interpretation of canon some people offered that the manga is the story of sskk's progression, while skk's relationship is already fully developed.

#This… Is for a good part referred to the Beast sskk fics labelled as hate sex lmao #And the thing with me is that I don't think Beast sskk would have sex at all. #But if they did in my opinion it'd be like. The most vanilla thing ever avdsjkuvbslkugvhblesubvk #Athough now that I'm writing this down I'm realizing people who write Beast sskk hate sex probably aren't interested– #in sskk characterization as their main concern and may simply find the scenario enjoyable. #Which is legit. Which also makes this whole ramble completely pointless. #Oh well #sskk #shin soukoku #bsd #bungou stray dogs #bsd beast #mine #16/12/23

[hyewka]

i feel like huening kai a dom more than a sub..he's so insanely hot and i want him to be inside me so bad

I’ve always liked seeing him in a more sub leaning light but dom kai is sexy 😂 especially with his physique, broad chests are sooo hot

he could definitely be a dom i’d imagine he’s up there in the pussy eating department too i dont know what it is but something about him makes me believe he gets pussy drunk sooo fast

#i think because his nose is so prominent #= good pussy eater #i also think hed be more vanilla as a dom #but thats entirely in my opinion lol

[they-bite]

something something sample size

#i was just enjoying this root beer float and thinking about how rb is vastly improved by vanilla ice cream #and then i thought about how i live in a divided household (sis likes vanilla bean i swear by french vanilla) #and then i was like wait does anyone else actually like. care about this matter or are we just adhd and opinionated #polls #they speak

[hot-take-tournament]

HOT TAKE TOURNAMENT!

PRE-PRELIMINARIES #8

okay let's rate a take 🎂

Submission 105

'Vanilla Extract' was never funny

[no justification given]

(Pre-preliminaries will be used to judge whether this submission qualifies as a hot take. Propaganda is encouraged!)

(Also, remember to reblog for exposure! Spread it like a virus!)

#tumblr poll #tumblr tournament #tournament poll #tumblr bracket #pre-preliminary #tumblr #vanilla extract #hot take tournament #hot take #unpopular opinion

[adinosaurnamedmittens]

Alright my 20 some followers. Thoughts. Mandatory 'reblog to increase data pool' bit at the end here

#ice cream #vanilla ice cream #poll #tumblr polls #vanilla #i bought some for root beer floats and didn't buy enough to finish off the bottle so i bought a different kind and realized i had Opinions

[da-birb-writes-sometimes]

Writing WIP Roulette!

Except only I know the true meanings behind the choices. Also, if you get the references, je t'aime.

Choose thy fate wisely, traveller.

#dove's polling station #pick! that! potential! wip! #one of these was started in may but i lost some gusto for it #all of these are all ancient greek references btw and i love all of them #the wips aren't actually named that; but I'll put in my author's note at the bottom for what their option was in the poll #this will be up for a week since i want a good crowd source opinion #even if you don't actually know what they mean #i was going to make one option vanilla extract but i know you damn gremlins would only choose that option [affectionate]

[bittersweetblasphemy]

oh my fucking god i finally have the next chapter of B&D's story plotted out.

it's already going to be pretty world-buildy and dialogue heavy. the question is, do yall want porn in it? it's not in the current plot but there's a couple different places i could fit it

#im interpreting vanilla extract as no opinion #fic polls #help a tired bitch out #lol i finally made a poll with a neutral option so i can see the results without actually voting

[kurosaaki]

tell me why the fuck do i have people in my inbox calling me vanilla as an insult for saying days ago that nanami would not be the type to call you a whore

#can people like things??? #not every fic is going to be everyone’s cup of tea #i myself read content that includes things like name calling sometimes but CAN I ALSO HAVE AN OPINION?? #an using vanilla as an insult is so childish man #grow up!!!

[breakfastwithbeb]

#ella's cool is the best song they can sing in ts4 i have a very strong opinion on this #sims 4 #sims 4 gameplay #vanilla

[vanilla-flavored-icecream]

spamvil makes me gay

#off topic but does imo mean “in my opinion”?? #spamvil #spamton x jevil #vanilla-flavored-icecream #whiteboard fox #edrfgtfgthryghtyjuretf4gddfescrg #my whole entire soul is 99% gay i think #shitpost #crackship #lmao