#spoons for pronouns

[atticollateral]

every day I wake up is another day I suffer at the hands of self-care tasks.

#self care #textpost #atti speaks #atti screams at the top of his lungs in painful anguish because he can't take it #he'll be fine #probably. #i don't even use he/him pronouns what am I on about? #guess i do now #shrugs #grumbling #shuffling around the house with tea in-hand #like a grumpy old curmudgeon. #may i reiterate that i am 18 #i am in no way shape or form an old man #but i fucking feel like it #okay? #disability #disabled #spoon theory #chronic fatigue #invisible disability #chronic pain #funny #offering you an egg in this trying time

[queersrus]

i need names, pronouns, and titles for a wolf loverboy

names:

wolf, wolfe, wulf, wolfram cannon, cathwulf, connor, conchobhar, conri, cuan randy, rolf lupe, lupeta, lykos ingo, ingolf howl, howle, howler ulfr fenrir, freki, feilan, faelan, fael geri, grey/gray beowulf

more here

prns: - 3rd p

wo/wolf, wolf/wolfs, wo/olf, wolf/wolfing, wolf/wolves, wolf/raven, wolf/lover, wolf/loverboy pack/packs hunt/hunts, hunt/hunter, hunt/hunting, how/howl, howl/howls full/moon moon/moons grr/grrs, grr/growl, growl/growls, grey/wolf claw/claws bite/bites arctic/wolf raven/wolf lover/boy, loverboy/loverboys

titles:

the lover of wolves, the wolf lover, the wolf, the wolf loverboy, the loverboy, the boy who loves wolves

(prn) who loves wolves

wolf lover, lover of wolves, loverboy of/for wolves, wolf boy

#sorry these arent great #very low on spoons #wolf names #wolf prns #request #names #name list #name searching #name blog #title list #names list #list of names #pronoun list #name request #requested pronouns #requested #request answered #requested titles #baby names #requested names #requested list #first names #name ideas #name help #pronouns #neopronoun blog #neopronouns #3rd person pronouns #wolf theme #loverboy theme

[silversupremacy]

Me holding filth: it’s ok, we love you bby <3

text on image: 1st image: Filth be upon ye! 2nd image: >lazy eye >rough houses and gets hurt a lot >massive overbite >uses short arm-wings to get around

#silver does love them he jsut also has a lot of internal issues that cause him to project <3 #fuck you I'm he/she pronoun-ing the guy #she's so good #my art #maow #image #text #ii silver spoon #???? #kind of????? #its his monster so #filth is good she's trying her best #my sketchbook is messy

[mordcore]

I would love to hear more about your experience in coming to find that "it" pronouns were right for you, if it's something you feel comfortable talking about. I think it's lovely and I would love to hear your insights.

M they/them

not sure how in-depth i am comfortable going.

basically i tried a bunch of pronouns and none were right until these.

there's also some stuff about voidpunk but i don't wanna explain what that is you can look it up

#ask #people aru super weird about my pronouns sometimes so im a tad defensive. you understand. #also the -5 spoons i havu

[abimee]

everyone meet peter and feeney. theyre me and moosh' DND chaarcter (singular) thats just a dwarf on top of an elf pretending to be an elf two kids in a trenchcoat style. the elf is nonverbal and doesnt help the dwarf besides being stacked and the dwarf entirely guesses everything about elves. theyre married and yes they stay stacked all their lives

#feeney is a she/her dwarf and peter is a he/no pronouns i think elf. #and they only unstack to sleep and feeney big spoons peter #dnd

[thebewilderer]

petition for people to stop talking to me about their self-diagnosing with random shit based on stereotypes and the pathologization of normal behaviors that's being spread around on ticktocks as if I'll care or support them in any way whatsoever

#this FUCKING girl at work who equates ''forgetting to autism mask'' with ''resting bitch face'' #''oh you know the autistic thing with spoons'' i hate to break this to you casey but youre the single most annoying person #she saw i have blue hair and pronoun and immediately assumed id be supportive of the pathologizing of normal behavior #at least thats my theory #''lol im so adhd; i always forget theres a pizza in the oven'' #wow thats so cutesy and nonharmful i wonder how people who actually have adhd and SUFFER would feel about you making fun of them like that #the answer is angry btw im angry #im just dealing with her bullshit for now but if she starts up using ocd as an adjective im putting my fucking foot down #make fun of disabled people on your own time in private mkay #ugh the more i think about it the more frustrated i get #imagine going up to someone in a cast and going ''LOL yeah i have arm problems too haha them broken boney probs amiright'' #like i will beat you with a fucking stick #ih #pers #self diagnosis #uhhhh #ableism #oh yeah almost forgot this tag #me being problematic probably

[jimkirkachu]

I feel like an absolute bastard. (cw gender stuff, names, pronouns, family drama)

As a way to update my parents about Janelle Monae saying in an interview that their pronoun is "free-ass muthafucka" (because gender goals x infinity!!!), I casually led into it by mentioning that my new therapist wanted to know my preferred name/nickname and pronouns—all as a means of getting to my stupid punchline, "they/them seems so much easier now, doesn't it!" ha ha ha I thought we were cool, I've been making pronoun jokes since I came out to them last September because I know it's weird for them to go from having a daughter to having an adult child / offspring / neither daughter nor son. I get it. And I've really tried to be cool about them continuing to Female me while also trying to gradually/gently push them with things like... my Kirk haircut, sharing trivia or articles about NB stuff with them (e.g. the Janelle Monae news), etc. Anyway, I didn’t think any of that would come up again, but I’m clearly an idiot because I’ve spent 32 and a half years with one parent who Never Forgets Anything and Never Lets Any Little Detail Go Unnoticed.

Six hours later, my mother asks me what my answers had been when my therapist asked me to pin them down more concretely than "either way, whatever you prefer." ((Aside: apparently therapists want to know the Real You? and having other people decide who the Real Me is... is not what they mean by that??)) I knew I was trapped but I never want to lie to my mom, right? So I told her honestly that my therapist will be referring to me as “they/them” and “Jim” (aka Not my legal name/what my family calls me, as well as a name which traditionally is given to people who are the "opposite" of my agab). (I also reminded her that my previous therapist knew me as Jim, too, hoping that might soften the blow.) Again: I get it. I knew before I said it that it was going to hurt her because I’m choosing to have certain people call me by a name that’s not the one she and dad gave me when I was born. I understand that it’s hard for them. I understand why it’s hard for them.

(And this makes no never mind, but... it’s hard for me, too. 🙁 But I know, that’s beside the point.)

After a long, very uncomfortable silence, she said, “Is it okay if I keep saying she/her?” So I counted to five in my head and said it’s fine, because I honestly never expected her or my dad to be fully understanding of any of this. But now (and not for the first time) I’m very much wishing I’d just never come out to them at all, because at least that way I wouldn’t have gotten my hopes up when they responded by claiming that my being NB was fine and claiming that they would be totally supportive/accepting of it. My expectations were low before they knew because I assumed they would be honest with me about how it made them feel, which I assumed would be along the lines of “betrayed,” “inconvenienced,” “confused,” “disappointed,” “skeptical,” “disrespected,” and/or “we failed our child.“ It seems that when they were so chill about it up front, I forgot to keep expecting those reactions in delayed forms, and I guess I let myself believe that they would actually make the effort to shift some of their thinking about me, maybe even start using they/them for me, etc.

Turns out they were enthusiastic to declare their support (which I greatly appreciate, don't get me wrong) but putting that support into practice has proven to be harder than I think they realized. “Too much has changed too fast” is what I’ve been told now... even though I’m not transitioning to male, I’m not doing HRT or having surgeries, I’m still dressing the same on a daily basis (just changing my “fancy” wardrobe), and the only thing that’s physically different is that I've stopped shaving my legs (which neither of them has even noticed because I only wear long pants).

Anyway she just happened to ask me all this as she was on her way to bed. So there was another awkward silence before she said goodnight, and if 32 years’ experience has enabled me to read any of her moods correctly, then she started crying as soon as I was out of earshot. (I would have confirmed and/or tried to get her to talk to me about it but I’m running, like, a spoon deficit at this point.)

So is my lack of much visible change the problem, then? Is this breaking my mom’s heart because I’m not different enough from my “old” self? Would this be easier in some way if I was transitioning and she could, idk, genuinely mourn the daughter she no longer has? And despite losing a daughter at least she would have a “replacement” kid whose gender still Made Sense to someone entrenched in the gender binary for almost seven decades? Or would it just make things worse?

Should I have simply lied and said I’m going by my legal name with my therapist, because how will my mom ever know that anyway? Has this name thing crushed her so bad because not much else has changed about me otherwise, so she didn’t see it coming? Or am I genuinely the asshole for expecting her to be more supportive/validating too soon, and I just need to be more patient?

((Tangent: she witnessed a really bad impostor-syndrome meltdown of mine a few months ago. I was trying to figure out what to wear to a church function and eventually got so frustrated—and convinced that I’m not really NB, just a pathetic ugly female who hates herself/her body—that I told her to pick out a damn dress for me and take me to a wig shop so I could try and undo everything I’ve done to try and hate my biologically female body a little bit less. And she responded by telling me to wear the pants/button-down/sweater aka “masc-ish” outfit I’d started with. So... is it only if I’m in crisis/panic mode that she can get on board with my being NB? Did my meltdown help her put her own misgivings about this aside? Or was she only okay with my being NB before it included having new people in my life call me by a different name??))

I keep trying to pinpoint what I’ve done wrong, and every time I re-do the math I still can only come up with, “...I was born.” But that wasn’t even my fault. I just feel incredibly selfish for trying to get them to see me the way I see myself. I keep thinking that if I don’t feel female, that’s my problem and I should have kept it to my damn self. If my identity is, in fact, Jim + they/them + non-binary, fine, but I feel like I should have known better than to reveal—to the people who named me and raised me—that I don’t really feel, and never really have felt, like I actually am the person we all assumed I was for 31 years because there didn't seem to be an alternative.

And this is precisely why I started things off with my new therapist by trying to make her decide whether to call me she or they, Jim or my real name. More than anything—more than being sane, healthy, or alive—I want not to be a burden on others.

But that’s all I ever seem to be able to do without fail.

#not trek #personal log #gender identity #gender confusion #tw: gender dysphoria #non-binary #nonbinary #nb problems #family drama #tw: family problems #therapy #tw: therapy #identity crisis #tw: self deprecation #low self worth #no self worth #no spoons #pronouns #profanity #tw: profanity #swearing #tw: swearing #internalized queerphobia?? #idk if this counts #guess it's a good thing my next session is tomorrow #sorry i know this is a lot of posting for a mostly inactive tumblr account i just need to get this crap out of my head for a minute #long post #soul sick #jtkchu's brain #stfu jtkchu

[provider-of-pronoun-checks]

hello dearest friend! i am back with a name request, been a while. Can you name this oc for me? ++Some pronouns if you want :D just made them but the internet is failing me on names, but i can always count on you:D /nf /LH :)

i was thinking cotton (cus i wanna call them cot)

I need some that has ✨nickname opportunities✨ bc i love nicknames lol:D

Emerson (‘Em, Emmer)

Bailey (Bai, Bales)

Chervil (Cher)

sherry (sher)

Stinger (sting)

Marley (Marles, Mar.)

pronouns:

bee/bees/beeself

star/stars/starswlf

sky/sky’s/skyself

end/ender /enders/enders/enderself

bee/buzz/bees/buzzs/beeself

vae/vaem

fae/faer

#Not a pronoun check #BTW! I am not back off hiatus #Still low on spoons #Sorry everyone!

[bagofspoons]

el oh el shld probably actually post abt this in between dldnd. pronouns change <3 just she or he 4 me now pls and thanks

#eye dee kay yall they/them just wasn’t feelin tha same #im not gonna b like upset if some1 uses those pronouns 4 me just like. not my pref thanks #spoons speaks

[pommancy]

damn why is arknight so addicting im dreaming about map placement its bad (im Ren#5816 btw add me so i can use your support unit :)

#tower defense my love #the story is meh tho too many pronouns like the Disease 23 that the Corianders are dispatching in The Bowl so we can't unless The Spoons #are able to get to the Sinkhole 26/6 so our squad won't be Decimated #kinda wish theres more more personal story mode for the dispatchers thats easier to understand and go through

[thefunkyspoon]

Why do people use the phrase "I'm only human" as an excuse for treating others as less than the same thing?

#spoon post #so tired of it #why do ppl call me an it #i don't use those pronouns #no hate to ppl who do tho

[silversupremacy]

I call silver spoon my mans but he is not a man, his gender is a question mark to me, he’s a man in being a soggy poor little meow meow but he is not gendered and yet all genders.

#love when people fuck up his pronouns into whatever they want #she her spoon? yes! #I’ve oddly used they them for him on a number of occassions by reflex #maybe I should try it it’s pronouns with him that might be fun #maow #text #ii silver spoon

[luxlightly]

Larian studios really said "We are going to create a Baldur's Gate that is SO queer"

Everyone is romanceable, regardless of gender. You can have he/him, she/her, or they/them pronouns and none of those are tied to what body type or genitals you have (both of which you can pick, independently of each other). The daughter of a literal god who teams up with you is like "me and my girlfriend need to go kiss for 100 years now brb". Every other npc in Baldur's Gate will casually mention their same sex partners. The ringleader of the planes hopping circus is heavily implied to be a trans woman. One person who can join you gets captured multiple times and travels the world, all to save a man he loves.

It's everywhere and it just...is. There's no stopping the plot for the game devs to pat themselves on the back for including a "diverse" character. There's no dialogue option to have a character spoon feed you the idea that they could be interested in the same gender. There's no casual homophobia. No constant casual sexual harassment towards your character just because you chose the "female" option.

And it's so varied. One queer romance is about doing everything to save the other and the reunion is a beautiful kiss. Another is being completely shot down by someone they risked so much for. A man in the streets will say "Get a load of my husband. Such a piece of work. And I'm the one who fell for the blockhead". It doesn't feel cheap if a queer character dies or is a terrible person or if their romance story falls apart completely, because there are just so many. Honestly, that goes for a lot of things in the game, diversity-wise. It's just really nice.

#bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #baldur's gate 3 spoilers #spoilers #bg3 spoilers #baldur's gate #baldur's gate spoilers

[sweet-as-an-angel]

Miguel w/an Innocent S/O

Warnings: Protective Miguel, Slight Yandere Miguel (if you squint), Implications of Smut, Fluff, More Fluff, Spooning, Mentions/Implications of injuries, Insecurity, No Pronouns used for Reader Except 'You'.

Him being fiercely protective of you 24/7.

If someone even so much as looks at you wrong, he stares them down until they either break down and start apologising, or their heart gives out.

You’re the only person he shows any affection to. You’re also the only person allowed to touch him. Period.

He’s so touch starved; please hold him and tell him he’s your big guy :-(

Goes FERAL when you rake your fingers through his hair; his eyes roll into his skull and he can’t help but moan a little, even if the context isn’t sexual.

Don’t bring it up or he’ll punish you for it later 👀.

He finds your innocence both endearing and worrying.

On one hand, you believe in the good of everyone, which, considering how insecure Miguel can be, is what initially drew him to you; your ability to empathise and sympathise with others, to not judge them.

However, he knows people would take advantage of your kind and giving nature.

One time, he found out that one of the Spiders – a Victorian England era ‘gentleman superhero’ – had tossed you a used coffee cup and told you to dispose of it on his behalf. When you tried to say something, to tell him you were busy and had better things to do, he just dismissed you.

Of course, Miguel had seen this. He has eyes on you every second of the day.

You never saw that Spiderman again. Nor did anyone else. All that seemed to remain of him was his suit thrown haphazardly into the storage room, where a great big tear edged with blood was ripped into the chestpiece, the hero’s signature top hat abandoned and crumpled beneath it.

He also broke another Spider-Person’s arm when they tried to steal one of the fairy cakes you’d lovingly baked for him; poured your heart and soul into.

Miguel also growls at people he thinks are looking at you strangely. Full-on bares his fangs like a rabid dog and watches them cower.

He purposely grows his fangs out and lets you play with them.

He’s careful to make sure you don’t get hurt, though, guiding your hands away from the pointed tips.

His guilty pleasure is when you kiss his fangs and tell him he’s “The coolest, most handsome man in the world!”

“Just the world?” He says, smiling, raising an eyebrow. His heart melts in his chest as your smile widens, eclipsing your eyes into crescents.

“In ALL the worlds!” You say, throwing your arms around his neck and hugging him, laughing. He brings his arms, thick and muscular, around your waist and pulls you into him, pressing ticklish kisses into your neck, revelling in your laughter.

Intimacy-wise, Miguel is horrified at the prospect of hurting you.

He’s ever so careful, as if handling glass, holding back his strength.

It’s worth it, though. The strain.

Especially when he hears you mewl and try to hide your face in his chest.

“Oh no, Sweetheart,” he says, tangling a hand in your hair and pulling your head back. His pointed fangs flint as he gives a smile. “I want to watch you like this.”

Loves your gentle kisses – they give him life.

Nothing can get him down when you’re around; especially when you’re sitting in his lap.

Though, issues have arisen as a result of your oblivion to…compromising positions.

More often than not, Miguel’s had to bite his lip and tongue when you shift in his lap, catching him, making his heart start and his breath shutter, electric anticipation jolting through him.

He takes you aside in the bathroom to deal with the issue you’ve unknowingly caused, but you don’t complain. Not that you can with your mouth full.

He looks at you with eyes which have seen the deaths of countless individuals, yet when he finds yours, he sees love and light spanning infinite universes within them. And they give him hope that there is more to life than loss and grief; more to him than his failures.

He revels in the feeling of you hiding behind him whenever you’re scared.

Sometimes he takes you to areas of the facility where he knows you’ll be easily frightened – for example, where captive villains are held – so he can feel your hands tightening around his arm or gripping the back of his suit. It makes him feel useful, like he can take on the world.

And he gets off on being the only person who can truly protect you. But he’d never tell you that, of course.

Loves demonstrating his strength around you. He can pick you up single-handedly and carry you anywhere without so much as thinking of breaking a sweat.

He prefers to be the big spoon, curling around you like a shield and protecting you from the outside world, his warm, broad chest to your back.

Tells you how much he loves you through hushed post-intimacy whispers and soft touches. Shows it through acts of service and the insurmountable adoration that fills his eyes whenever you’re around.

He can’t imagine being with anybody else. He can’t even remember the last time he felt anything save for contempt before you showed up.

And he’ll do whatever it takes to protect you. No cost is too great for the love of his life <3.

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[areyoudoingthis]

i texted an artist friend to commission a few pronoun and general nonbinary pins but if that doesn't work I'll get elle tattooed on my knuckles and just start punching people, see if they stop misgendering me then

#i didn't foresee how my impatience and general inability to put up with shit would be an issue here #i am truly at my wits end and I've only been out everywhere for like a month #insert frenchie saying they're such dicks about spoons but it's pronouns instead of spoons #alex txt

[hedgehog-moss]

That viral video from last month of a giraffe pushing a tortoise was interesting to me because I saw it in French & Spanish corners of the internet and everyone was referring to the animals in the video as 'she' since giraffe & tortoise are feminine words, meanwhile on the English-speaking internet I saw a minority of people referring to them as 'it' or 'they', an overwhelming majority using masculine words, and almost no one use 'she'

Similarly romance language speakers humanised these animals using women's names while English speakers used men's names:

And of course it would have been different had the giraffe been an elephant (masculine word) but yeah I find it interesting that when it comes to personifying animals and things, speakers of gendered languages will go 50% masculine 50% feminine due to grammatical gender, while speakers of a non-gendered language with a neutral pronoun will go like 80% masculine 18% neutral 2% feminine.

It must feel weird to learn a gendered language and have to accept that a door is 'she', but it also feels weird to learn a non-gendered language like English and then scroll down hundreds of comments under an animal video and all the animals are 'he'. I'm reminded of a cartoon I saw on tumblr once with a speaking lightbulb, and all the comments referred to it as 'he' and a 'guy' (in french & spanish, people would call it she.) I wonder how it affects the way you frame the world in your mind? you ask a French kid to personify a spoon or a mouse or a raindrop, it's going to be a female character by default. I feel like that's something English speakers rarely consider—that compared to languages that are 'visibly', officially gendered in a 50/50 way, English is less neutral, and more masculine-gendered. When anglophones learn about grammatical gender they tend to react like "why is a chair a 'she' that's absurd?", but when the context calls for it they'll call a lightbulb 'he' without thinking about it

#language tag #the percentages in this post are not proven statistics they come from the Academy of Scrolling Down Tumblr Notes #(disclaimer)