#romance favorable aromantic

[that-ikea-alien-plush]

welcome to my own wheel of shitshow

#aroace #asexual #aromantic #why is this day so weird #vent ish #romance favorable aromantic

[ace-sher-bi-john]

Just wanted to reaffirm to myself and the world that romance-favorable aros are valid. Greyromantics, demiromantics and any other aro-spec identities that experience occasional romantic attraction are valid. Aromantics who for whatever reason still desire and take part in romantic relationships are valid.

It's been a bit of a rough ride to get to where I know this to be true. When I first found out I was aroace, I felt broken for identifying as aroace and still wanting to get married someday. It felt like I was lying in some way, or that I was betraying the aromantic community by wanting what by definition of being aromantic, I should never want. I felt guilty knowing my future partners would feel things towards me that I would never be able to feel in return.

I know that most of the aromantic affirmations are themed around wanting to make sure that aromantics in general know they are valid in an amatonormative world. Most aromantics experience the exact opposite problem as me, not feeling valid in having zero desire for romantic relationships (which is of course valid, romance-indifferent, romance-averse and romance-repulsed aros are very much valid). But there is next to nothing on the internet that I've been able to find saying that it's okay to be aromantic and romance favorable. You're not betraying the community in some way. You're valid too.

So here's that post. If you are romance-favorable and aro-spec, you're valid too. Don't feel as though your identity forces you into a box. The label that fits you best isn't tailor made specifically for you and you can do whatever you want to make it your own.

#aromantic #aromanticism #romance favorable #romance favorable aroace #romance favorable aromantic #romance favorable aroallo #greyromantic #demiromantic #aro spec #been feeling like im not quite doing anything right recently #some of it is in regards to my aro-spec identity and desiring a romantic relationship someday #it once again feels like im doing something very wrong #so i wanted to remind myself #and everyone who finds this #that im valid #you're valid #we're all valid

[bewitched-bullet]

And done!

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[mutigcupid]

What's up gang? Let's play the game of "Is my partner going to break up with me because I'm not romantically attracted to them."

#aromantic #aromantic pride #romance favorable aromantic #cupioromantic

[aro-culture-is]

hi! a question:

i'm not sure if i might be aro?

i'm obsessed with romance, i constantly daydream about having a partner and i wish i could date somebody (i never have).

but i recently realised that i've never actually met anyone i would genuinely feel romantic feelings for. i've had crushes, but those were only based on looks and usually disappeared once i got to know the person better and realised i didn't even want to be friends with them. but i never felt attracted to any of my actual friends either.

all of the romance i feel is for imaginary lovers. i know that being fictoromantic is a thing, but i actually really want to be in love with a real person, in real life.

maybe i just haven't met the right person yet? but then again i'm almost eighteen and at this age, almost everyone has at least tried to date somebody, even if for a short time.

i'm also kind of introverted and socially awkward, so maybe that could play a role?

i'm just wondering whether this could mean that i can't feel romantically towards anyone and that i will never get the love i've always so desperately wanted. i honestly don't want to be aro. but the more i learn about aro people the more i seem to relate to some of them. i never thought i could be aro so this confuses me. i hope i'm wrong. but i wanted a second opinion. i know you don't know me but what do you think, could i be aro?

sorry for the long post. and thank you if you choose to answer. :)

this definitely sounds like a possible aro experience. you may want to look into cupioromantic, romo aro, romance favorable aromantic, and/or lovequeer aro as terms that could help you to better conceptualize your experience. you can find definitions for all of those here, at AUREA, with the exception of lovequeer.

i'd like to invite others to post their definitions of lovequeer in the reblogs/comments for this post, since I am not lovequeer and due to disability lost track of what definitions ended up being decided on. further, one of y'all should see if AUREA's terms can be updated to include lovequeer :)

#Anonymous #not aro culture #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod kee #cupioromantic #romo aro #romance favorable aro #romance favorable aromantic #romo favorable aro #lovequeer #lovequeer aro

[romo-aro-culture-is]

Romance favorable culture is not knowing if you can use the mlm flag if you don’t feel romantically/sexually attracted to men, but would still like some form of relationship with them. (Does alterous attraction count?)

of course you can!

#romance favorable aro culture #romo aro culture #romance favorable culture #romance favorable aromantic #romance favorable aro #romance favorable #romoaro culture #romoaro culture is #romo aro culture is

[weirdmixofweirdness]

Me, a romance-favorable AroAce, seeing couples being cheesy with each other: 🎵Go little rockstars.🎵

#arden speaks #lgbt #lgbt+ #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #aromantic #asexual #aroace #romance favorable aromantic

[asphyxiatedredherring]

Hey, just so you know, it's ok for your feelings to fluctuate. It's ok to be sex or romance repulsed one day and not the next. It's ok to be indifferent one day and favorable the next. It's ok it you think you're sex repulsed and then realize maybe you're sex adverse. It's ok to be romance indifferent one moment and adverse the next. It's ok. Your experiences are valid.

#aspec #arospec #acespec #aromantic #asexual #ace #aro #aroace #sex repulsed #sex adverse #sex indifferent #sex favorable #romance repulsed #romance indifferent #romance favorable #romance adverse #aro positivity #ace positivity #lgbtq #pride #queerness

[redysetdare]

I need you guys to realize that "Favorable Aspecs tend to get ostracized from parts of the aspec community because of their favorability towards romance and sex making people claim that they are not really aspec." and "Repulsed Aspecs tend to get ostracised from parts of the aspec community because they are often conflated with being romance/sex negative and tend to get thrown under the bus when fighting against aphobic talking points" can COEXIST. one does NOT cancel out the other. both Favorable and Repulsed aspecs have their own troubles in and out of the community.

saying "nooo Favorable people can't be hurting repulsed people because it's actually repulsed people hurting favorable people" is just very black and white thinking and pretty naive. We can talk about how some Repulsed people attack favorable people and how some Favorable people attack repulsed people. like it's allowed for them both to be talked about. one existing doesn't mean the other magically doesn't exist. situations are more complex than there being one good side and one bad side. it's usually a mix of good and bad people on both sides and we need to understand that if we want any progress to be made. if we ignore one sides pain then we fix nothing.

#text #aspec #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #aroace #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #sex favorable #romance favorable #acespec #arospec

[thefrogginbullfish]

#ace #asexual #aro #aromantic #aroace #ace memes #aro memes #aroace memes #lgbt memes #lgbt #queer #lgbtqia #lgbt community #lgbt meme #sex favorable ace #romance favorable #cupiosexual #cupioromantic #aspec #ace spec #aro spec #graysexual #grayromantic #demisexual #demiromantic

[viviennevermillion]

Seeing people only use "but some asexuals have sex!!!" and "some aromantics are in romantic relationships!!!" so they can sexualize & ship the little representation we get makes me hope someone explicitly establishes a popular character as sex-repulsed so we can see the shippers get cooked online for it

#i'm not even complaining if someone specifically writes an asexual character as a sex-favorable ace #or puts the aros in qprs or writes a romantic relationship exploring how a character who doesn't experience romantic attraction navigates i #but if all you do is discard their asexuality & use the existence of sex-favorable and romance-favorable aces as a gotcha #to hide the fact that you're just portraying this character as allo anyway #we all know what you're doing #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aro #ace #aroace #sex repulsed

[that-ikea-alien-plush]

me when theres really no difference between platonic and romantic love for me because im autistic and aromantic but also alterous and im fuckin stupid or sth idk

#aroace #aromantic #romance favorable aromantic #asexual #autism #???what are tags #alterous attraction #shitpost

[michi-mystuff]

“I want to go on a date” and “I don’t want to date anyone” are two statements that can coexist

#does this sentence make sense #i hope someone gets what i mean #romance favorable #aromantic #aro #aromanticism #asexual #ace #asexuality #aroace #lgbtq #queer

[aromantic-diaries]

Yknow maybe I did genuinely want a romantic relationship back in the day and it's not contradictory of the fact that I've been stone cold aromantic since day one. Sometimes you want something you can't have and sometimes if you do get it it's not so great anymore. It's not that I have never wanted a romantic relationship in my entire life because at some point I very much did but there wasn't anyone I actually liked in that way

So like. When it comes to questioning whether you're aro or not the question you should ask yourself isn't "do I wanna be in a romantic relationship" but rather "is there anyone I'm actually attracted to"

#aro #aromantic #arospec #writing this down i now have better understanding of romance favorable aros #like i totally get it. sure i ended up feeling weird when i got into a romantic relationship but that's just me #at least ya can't say i never tried

[mutigcupid]

Anyways aside from relationships problems- Here's what my current identity revelation has presented me. Bigender bisexual cupioromantic/aromantic

#aromantic #aromantic pride #romance favorable aromantic #bigender #queergender #cupioromantic pride #cupioromantic #cupiosexual #bisexual

[yardsards]

(anyone who identifies themself as aromantic is allowed to answer this, regardless of sexual orientation or where exactly on the arospec you fall)

#eliot posts #polls #aromantic #aro #aroace #aroallo #romance repulsed #romance neutral #romance favourable #romance favorable #i'm just curious about community demographics