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Written tidbits for some weird dwarf OCs under the cut so as to not spam the feed; maybe someday they'll get actual drawings and ref sheets :,)
Engineer (Beetle)
- Makes every solution to every problem Far too complex. Much to R&D's displeasure, he doesn't carry turret packages on the job. Rather, he's created his own RC drones with their own set of close combat melee weapons. The drone is able to project a hologram of a dwarf around itself so as to warn teammates where the drone is in the dark; Engie uses a headset to control the drone, at the cost of losing mobility. Yes I want a melee class how could you tell. No I don't care how impractical it is
- Doesn't know what to think of Hoxxes anymore, due to current events brought up below
- Is gay for Scout. His absolutely bonkers takes amused him
Scout (Dragonfly)
- A conspiracy theorist to the max, avoided by anyone beyond his crew; slightly comparable to a constantly shaking yet vicious chihuahua. He swears to core and back that DRG is only setting themselves up for a major disaster on Hoxxes, that the disruption of local life and food chains is going to come back to bite them in the ass, quite literally. This guy harbors all my little headcanons and love for Hoxxes' biosphere
-...And in this timeline, he turns out to be correct! He and Engie found out in a very unfun way, and barely made it back alive.
- Is gay for Engie. Someone finally believed him
Gunner (Spider)
- Will vehemently claim he's the Normal One of the group, and in the same breath will furiously defend his Oops! All Ziplines loadout (BFG, zipline, zipline, zipline, pickaxe). Always some level of grumpy until he has alcohol in hand, acts as if he's team leader (and everyone lets him), teases Scout as a hobby, yet still manages to be the most optimistic of the bunch in even the most dire of situations. He insists that the main reason he stays on this team is because they won't let him take such an R&D unapproved loadout with any "reasonable" team. While true, the amount of shit the team had gone through together forged a bond not even he can deny.
- While they had been through plenty else, Gunner had been with Engie and Scout when the Conspiracy Fuckening occurred, but was in a separate part of the cave. While he could hear and feel what the other two were experiencing from so far away, he finds it difficult to believe what he was told went down
Driller (Cricket)
- Until recently, this position was frequently rotated. The vibes of the team were incredibly hard to match, much to Mission Control's torment.
- In short, not long after The Incident: Scout would come across a crater in a cave harboring a starving grunt eating at very wounded yet still alive grabber. His bug-sympathizing ass deletes the grunt and successfully convinces the team to help the grabber. By some miracle they sneak it back on board, patch it up, and once they're off duty, Engie cyborgs the hell out of it. ..Only after enough time passes of them getting it to Not immediately attack them with the promise of food. It was first given general limb prosthetics, then experimented on with brain chips, all the way to building the now artificially enlightened beast a dwarf shaped mech suit. It remembered how it was found, now gladly and violently working alongside its team. Mission Control has been gaslit to high hell into believing all the weird shit this thing does is normal dwarf behavior.
- As its ability to communicate and understand advances, Scout hopes they can get some insight into the ecology of Hoxxes that goes unnoticed by dwarfkind. For now though, drill go bzzzz and gun go pewpew
#procrastinates and does this instead of chores#drg#deep rock galactic#literally making shit up as we go but aint that just the way#if u ask me questions abt them/headcanons i will send u 3 cakes of ur choosing and 100000 money#im still not totally sold on gunner....need to solidify his personality more in my brainhole#also. yes driller is my dwarfsona. dont look at me
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My life functions by "if it looks stupid but it works, it's not stupid." My brain does not like routines, and if something's not enjoyable to do, wrangling myself to do it takes up so much energy that it's usually not cost-effectice. Wrangling is a limited resource preserved for things that only need to be done Just This Once. I cannot run routines by wrangling. There has to be another way.
I have, however, figured out that I can turn things that should be done regularly but not necessarily exactly at the right time every time into "filler activities", things that my eyes land on when I got up to do something and forgot what it was, or when I get that vague feeling of "hmm, I should be doing something" and can't remember what. My eyes land on the dishes in the sink or the pile of cardboard boxes that I should tear up for recycling. I could never stick to a Clean The House Once A Week routine on a certain day, but I get the random urge to shred cardboard or fix something often enough that I can manage by just setting myself loose to wander around the house in a completely disorganised manner, starting something, fixing it, and wandering off to a random direction to do something else like a chore-completing roomba.
Did you know that you don't need to brush your teeth at a specific time of the day? You can just randomly do it at some random time of the day, which is what I do. I'll procrastinate going to the bathroom for an unreasonable amount of time until I simply have to drop everything I'm doing to just pop in real quick, 3 minutes max, and when I'm washing my hands and get the urge to linger to pick on my face for 15 minutes, I may remember "ah right, might as well brush my teeth now that I'm here", and do that instead.
And once that's done I suddenly remember that I left my ink jar open, my ink nib has probably already dried up to all fuck, I was in the middle of a business call with my accountant and I can't remember if I left something on the stove. I didn't, but I manage.
If your brain's a constant storming sea, the best you can do is buy a surfboard.
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I have a habit that I learned from my mother where if anyone’s lounging next to me with their bare legs, I’ll instinctually start massaging it.
Of course, it only happens with my friends and family. If I ever did it to a stranger I would die @.@
Anyways, acolytes’ reaction xD
Hey hey! I chose a few characters I personally liked to write about, but feel free to send in another ask if I missed the characters you wanted! I also changed the prompt here and there; it’s basically ‘’an unexpected massage’’, hope it’s still alright :)
Note: not proofread, wanted to post it tho
It had been a while since you first arrived on Teyvat. Everything is a lot more peaceful and you're able to enjoy your days with relatively little stress.
One of the only chores you needed to do included paperwork. You have an office of your own where you do most of your work, usually with the help of some acolytes. Generally, you'd be at your desk, but today was a couch day. So as one does, you plopped down and patted the seat next to you
Venti is constantly testing how far you'd let him go. He'd hug you, attempt to cuddle up to you, he even tried to sneak in a kiss! So when he'd lounge himself onto the couch it's no surprise that he'd move his legs into your lap. Venti thought you were too occupied with your 'stupid paperwork', so he assumed something like this would bring your attention back to him. He'd be surprised when you'd continue to read the paperwork while your free hand starts to gently massage his leg. His shock passes quickly, and suddenly he doesn’t seem to hate the paperwork as much as before. When you notice that his constant nagging stopped, you look up; Venti isn't usually silent. When he throws a cheeky smile your way, you realise the situation you brought yourself in and get flustered real quick. 'Don't worry your Grace! I'll return the favor any time, ehe!'
Zhongli has no trouble helping you. He liked spending his time with you and felt happy whenever he could aid you in these tasks. His voice was a bonus for you as well, and you always listen carefully when he points out the important parts on the papers. His figure is close to yours and you’d been leaning closer to get a good look at the papers in his hand. Unknowingly to you, you had grasped his free hand in yours and had started to gently massage it. Believe me, he didn’t want you to stop but it was hard to point out things on the paper without a hand. He'd bring the situation to your attention and would give a deep chuckle when he'd see you get flustered. After he further explained the paperwork, he decided to massage your shoulders instead. Perhaps some closer contact would help your focus? 'Do you wish to remove my gloves, Your Grace?'
You were in Mondstadt for the upcoming weeks and decided to visit Diluc at the Dawn Winery. There had been enough time for you to visit the city and other places, but the endless workload still chased you. After procrastinating for a good while, you decided that Diluc could be your motivator! If he’s working, you might feel obligated to work as well! At least, that was the idea. At one point during your stay in his office you invited him to sit on the couch with you. Unfortunately, from that moment forward it’s Diluc that’s unable to work. The moment you moved closer to his figure,- his brain stopped working. He could feel his leg touching yours, -and why did you have to place your hand on his leg to massage him? He was certain you could hear his heartbeat. Are you doing this on purpose? It’s only when you remove your hand after finishing your paperwork that he regains the ability to think. ‘Hey Diluc, you’re not procrastinating right?’ You tease him. He huffs in response and returns his focus on his work, hopefully then you wouldn’t see his face. ‘I’d never.’
#Genshin#genshin x reader#genshin impact x reader#genshin isekai#genshin impact#sagau#sagau isekai#venti#venti x reader#venti x y/n#genshin venti#sagau venti#zhongli#zhongli x reader#zhongli x y/n#genshin zhongli#sagau zhongli#diluc#genshin diluc#diluc ragnvindr#diluc x reader#diluc ragnivindr x reader#sagau diluc
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Grocery Shopping
Pretty sure Carmy goes grocery shopping...pretty sure...
Pairing: Carmen “Carmy” Berzatto x bookstore!reader
Notes: Pretty much fluff. I’m hyped up on one cup of iced vanilla latte so my mind is in a bit of a weird spot right now. It’s making me doubt whether or not Carmy goes outside...because I KNOW he does. Why is it also making me doubt that Carmy does basic chores and tasks like grocery shopping? Anywhos, there was another blurb that was meant to be part 2 but decided on a whim to write this instead. If I make any mistakes, please let me know so I can correct them. Enjoy! Sorry for the paragraph.
✅ Part 1
Part 2 -> Part 3
You are strolling down a narrow aisle in a convenient store near Marin’s apartment. She wanted to make some Filipino spaghetti with hot dogs, except she forgot the hot dogs.
So here you are, at the far back of the store where the refrigerated goods are. You adjust the earphones’ buds in your ears as the wire is hanging out and stretching down to your hoodie’s front pocket where your phone is.
“So what were they called again?” You ask Marin over the phone.
“Didn’t I send you a picture?” Marin asks back as she is waiting for her pot of salted water to boil.
You pull out your phone to reveal a snapshot of the Marin’s thumb.
“Of your finger,” You replied back with faux admiration.
You could hear Marin groan on the other end of the call. “Not again.”
“It’s all right, Marin. Just tell me what to look for.”
“Okay,” she said after sighing. “Look for Martin Pure Foods Bite Size Franks.”
You walked to the right until you reach the shelf with the hot dogs lined up.
“Umm... Marin, you got a preference?” You press your right hand against the glass screen door as you scanned the row of hot doggos.
“No, not really.” She replied. You could hear her shrug thanks to her crinkly jacket.
“Are you sure?” You answered.
“Yeah, but get like two or three.”
“Okay.”
“Okay, see you in a bit! Keep the receipt! I’ll pay you back!” And then she hung up.
You pulled the earphone buds out of your ears before shoving it all in your hoodie pocket.
Just when you were about to grab the door handle, you feel your phone vibrate. You pull out your phone to unlock it and read the text.
Hey everyone! Reminder that the meeting’s tomorrow at noon to discuss planning for the Children’s Day event next month, hopefully. If anyone has any ideas or suggestions for food, activities, etc., let me know so we can talk about it. See you then. And yes, there will be food and drinks for the meeting. - Jo
You shove your phone back in your hoodie as you quickly open the door, unleashing a rush of cool air. Your face was heating up, reminding you of the text and the building thoughts of worry for the upcoming meeting. You remember a while back where your boss asked you if you could find any places that’ll do catering. You said yes immediately as you were occupied with opening boxes of delivered books.
The text basically reminded you of such procrastination.
“What do I do?” You thought to yourself as you grabbed two of each kind of bite size frank, leaving your arms full and your body staggering away from the door slamming into you. Unfortunately, the staggering gathering of goodies caused a pack to leap overboard.
The sound of encased hot dogs dropping against the tiled floor alarmed a man a few inches away from you who was grabbing a can of Red Bull from the refrigerated drinks door.
The man turned to the right of him to grab a beige tote bag hanging from a rack of bags for sell. He drops the escaped hot dog pack inside and walks toward you with the tote bag.
“Oh thank you!” You smile at the sight and dump the rest of the hot dogs in the tote bag and glide the bag off of his hands.
“You’re welcome.” He said.
“Oh!” You point at his shirt that has The Beef on it and said to him. “I ate at that place.”
The guy turns his head towards you, a can of Red Bull still in his hand. He looks down at where you were pointed out before looking back up at you. “Oh yeah?”
“Yeah,” you answered with a meek grin. “The risotto was bomb.”
“Oh, thank you. I’ll let our chef know.” He replied back with a matching meek smile. He then blinked down at his shirt for a bit as if pondering on why he was wearing the shirt or how he managed to wear it.
“Are you a chef too?”
He looks back at you with amusement. “Yeah, why?”
You fiddled the plastic corners of the hot dog packaging. “By any chance, do you do catering?”
He raised an eyebrow in interest as he turned his body to face you. “Yeah, you got an event coming up?”
“Yes... and... no.” You answered hesitantly.
He crossed his arms, Red Bull still in hand. “So you do or you don’t?”
“Well,” you paused for a moment as you pulled the tote bag strap to your shoulder with a tight grip. “We’ll put a pin in that.”
He chuckled. “Okay.”
You continued. “The bookstore I work at wants to host a little outdoor book fair for the kids and we were hoping for a place that can do some catering for that day.”
“Well, our place is going through some changes at the moment but we’re hoping for a soft launch next month or so.”
Your eyes widen with an excited twinkle. “That sounds perfect!”
“Oh?” He said with amuse but held back another chuckle.
“Are you guys still at the same spot?” You asked as you take a step forward.
“Yeah. Same spot, just a different name.”
“Perfect!” You pull out your phone, peeling off its case to drag out a card tucked inside. “Here’s the bookstore’s business card. It’s got the phone number, address, hours, everything.”
He takes the card from your hand.
“I didn’t catch your name.”
“Carmen, but people call me Carmy.” He said with his blue eyes in clear view as he tucks the card in his back pants pocket.
“Nice to meet you, Carmy. I’m --”
You jump from the sudden sound of death metal music. Carmy holds back his laugh with the Red Bull can.
You answer the call. “Hello?”
“Hey, where are you? This spaghetti and hotdogs aren’t gonna cook themselves.” Marin said with concern as her voice drowns out from people chattering in the background.
“Umm... could you hold a second?” You ask almost in a whisper before looking forward at Carmy.
“Feel free to call the number on the card.”
Carmy nods his head before you rush off to the cash register. As you ran, the Ditto keychain jingles in the wind.
“Huh, Ditto.” He mutters under his breath.
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this is part two of unlearning the bad things i unconsciously learnt from last year.
part one was the negative default pessimism i fall in to, which i keep calling it me being emo which means i dwell in my “misery” for far too long, instead of trying to think of something positive to get myself moving out of the bad zone i am in. as we are often told, sadness and negativity gets comforting, it feels like you are protecting yourself. but one cannot see beauty in life and find joy for oneself if one does not make oneself vulnerable.
and so making myself vulnerable is what ive been doing. trying to romanticise this state that im in, a liminal space, at crossroads. its not the most ideal, too many things are unknown and for the first time in my life im dealing with having barely any structure to my days, with nothing to do yet so much i should do.
it took me quite a while to stop lamenting this unknown and start returning to the foundations i built this blog and my entire philosophy off, the whole concept of “lest we die unbloomed” of making sure i dont realise one day ive wasted my time. and in small parts i like to think ive made progress on that
the focus now is the second part. i lost a lot of my attention span and impulse control, and today i reached a horrible point where i am sitting on the kitchen floor at 9 with no dinner, having ruined my microwave dinner out of a lack of common sense. i am not sure if all this recent muddling is because of covid brain fog or the horrifying amount of screen time i have had recently, but i was so sick of it. i have done a lot of things on impulse recently, and though today i had a really fulfilling day spending time with people i havent in a long time, when i got home and im back to reality of the things i havent done and been procrastinating for too long on, i felt horrible. this need to change, i realised.
so this is part two. it calls back to one of the values i set as something important to myself, being honest with myself. i know what im doing now is not working. i know that even though i use my planner im not sticking to it. i know my todo lists are not helping me. then why do i stubbornly stick to methods i know dont work? i told myself a year ago i would not change my system if it doesnt need to be changed. i have forgotten that i need to change it when it does. how silly! so im changing.
so in the last 2 hours in order to get myself up ive written todo lists on paper instead of in my journal. used a timer for every single step from shower to sweeping the floor to brushing my teeth. enough lazing around and letting simple things occupy too much time. its a parkinsons law thing.
enough doomscrolling and opening instagram when i have nothing to do. im setting a limit for a block of time in the day where i am not allowed to use social media, pwrhaps not any internet at all. i need to make drastic change, even if it seems inconsequential. it might not be academic but its personal. and my personal life and what i want to do with my time is worth taking big measures for, because it should be more important than all that revision for exams i used to do.
so the point f this ramble is to clear things out with myself. make some sense of whats goijg on. have a direction. tomorrow i have an interview. ill come home and do the chores i have to. prepare for my afternoon activity. go for lunch and my afternoon appointment. go for a run. buy dinner. write my applications. research on uni stuff. read a book. and all the other tint things i need to give more importance to even though they seem inconsequential. it sa new mantra ive gotten into ever since part one of this. that “this is the way” this is the new way. enough lazing. its time to go hard and be rurhless. take things up a notch because when else can i do it? go big from experiences to measures i have to take to discipline myself. this is the way.
04.04.2023
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Doing things you don’t want to do (a useful stoic approach).
Here's a stoicism picture I created with Midjourney (pretty awesome imo).
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Intro.
Stoicism has a lot of useful information and practices to do daily or often, there are many great habits to take from that philosophy, I’ll share just this one idea that can be very useful for doing things you must do in daily life and find exhausting, stressful or tedious to do.
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Explanation and examples.
These responsibilities or things we must do sometimes can be wearing or even traumatic if we have an approach of resistance to doing them. Here are some examples:
Having to go to work at the office some days instead of always doing home office.
Dentist or doctor appointments.
Cleaning and chores.
Exercise.
Legal obligations.
Studying or continuing education.
Home repairs or maintenance.
Etc.
If we think these activities as awful, we will have stressful experiences when doing them and take longer time to do them because of procrastination, if in our mind things are a lot worse than they really are, the end result might not be the best, and we will always be stressed and anxious when we need to do this stuff.
What’s a good mindset and approach to doing these?
The best way I’ve found to approach any activity you don’t want to do but must or should do is to first try and think of what are the positive outcomes from doing it, then, think how you can somehow take advantage or take something out of doing that activity. You should also always see it as an opportunity to become better at doing it, so that it’s easier to do in the future.
Usually when an activity is stressful, but we keep doing it over and over again, and have the correct mindset, it eventually stops being stressful because we get used to it, here are a few examples:
Public speaking. First time anyone does this, they feel anxious and stressed, they forget what they have to say, but with preparation and doing it over and over, it becomes piece of cake.
Driving. First few times driving can be really stressful. Then it becomes like walking.
Taking exams or interviews. We’ve all been there; it becomes very easy overtime (if we’re prepared of course).
Learning how to use new technology. It can be really tough and stressful to learn how to use new technology for many people, but with patience and practice, we can just get used to having to learn many new technologies all the time.
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Examples for using this approach.
I’ll give 2 examples to clarify how we can apply this in real situations.
I’ll mention the situation or activity, then, again, we must see everything as an opportunity for getting better at it, we must find positive outcomes, what we can learn, and how to take advantage of it.
When you find having to go work at an office stressful or weary (instead of doing home office daily).
How could we take advantage of this? Perhaps by doing the following:
A lot of people usually prepare breakfast and lunch, we might find it tedious, but we can take this as an opportunity to make healthy meals for every day we go to the office, there are many advantages of eating healthy, feeling better in general, living longer with greater health, etc. There are many resources online that teach to do easy and healthy meals.
Working on our soft/ social skills, and networking.
It’s always good to have the best possible soft and social skills when interacting with other people, when we go to our workplace, we must interact with other people, we can practice talking and dealing with others, and try to become a bit better every time. We can take that skill we are using at work for any time we have to talk or deal with other people, if we believe we’re not good at it, we can see some online videos about having better interactions and practice a bit at a time. We could transfer that skill to, for example, if someone wants to start dating people, they will have a lot of social interaction practice from work that they can use when talking to someone they are dating (and for example, avoiding having too many awkward moments, and avoiding saying something the other person could take the wrong way). We can also create a good network of acquaintances and perhaps a couple friends, it’s always good to know people, sometimes they can help us get promotions at work, or perhaps they can help meet someone we could date, or they can give you the phone of a good plumber.
Fulfilling our social interaction needs.
Almost all of us have social interaction needs, when we are alone for too long, we can feel stressed, sometimes this is not the ideal social interaction that people want to have, but we can try and using it to cover that need, then we can go and be alone at our homes and enjoy that moment of being alone more than we usually do.
Walking more.
Moving or exercising in any possible way daily is essential for having a good health in the long term, when we go to our workplace, we can walk more than we do when we work from home. We not only have to walk to get to our work spot, but we can take a few breaks to take extra steps, we could even take 15 minutes from our lunch to take a short walk and cover a bit more of that need that we have to exercise.
Getting more sunlight.
A lot of people don’t get enough sunlight exposure, even if the sun doesn’t hit us directly for long, seeing the sunlight early is great because it boosts our mood, it helps regulate our circadian rhythm (daily cycle of biological processes like sleep-wake patterns), taking some sun provides us with vitamin D and we also produce serotonin (which is good). When we go to our workplace we can try to take more advantage of being outside for seeing and taking some sun.
These are a few things I can think about; perhaps you can think of more.
2. Procrastination and stress from avoiding dentist/doctor appointments.
Here, we can think of the most obvious, if we go to the dentist when we need to, we can have better dental health and longer lasting teeth, if we avoid going, we might end up losing our teeth at a younger age, or dealing with pain that we could heal by visiting the dentist. If we simply think about this and realize it’s the best we can do by far, we can convince ourselves of going when we need to, if we don’t, we might end up having to invest more money in teeth prosthesis/ implants and other expensive treatments.
Many medical conditions and injuries can worsen overtime if we don’t treat them, this is non-negotiable. If we understand this and understand that if we don’t treat ourselves the way we should, we can end up having to spend a lot of money in urgency treatments, or we could even die at a young age for not treating some medical conditions early. Here, perhaps we can try and think that we should take care of ourselves as if we were someone else that we cared for, we can try and take a look at ourselves from the outside, or as if we were our own children, or perhaps, our own pets that we care so much about, we should treat ourselves with that perspective if it helps.
We can think of many more advantages like, overall feeling better daily, enhanced quality of life, better mental health, better sleep, less stress, improved longevity, etc. There’s nothing better in life than having all these.
We could also think about new useful information we’re learning from our doctors or dentists. In my case, I learned a lot of useful information about physical rehabilitation and a bunch of useful exercises from my physiotherapist; I even improved my posture a lot with some exercises thanks to taking that time to do the therapy to rehab my shoulder.
We could think of many more examples like how we can take advantage of going to therapy (with a psychologist) to learn more from ourselves and improve many aspects of our daily lives, how we can take advantage of exercising for a greater well-being, why eating healthy meals we don’t like is good for our dopamine system (our reward-energy-motivation system), how we can get some physical activity and a mind relaxing activity when doing cleaning and chores, and so on.
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Conclusion.
Keep thinking about seeing opportunities where you didn’t see them before (always when there’s something you don’t want to do!), about getting better at things, and about how to take advantage of everything you have to do.
If all that’s good not enough, just think about how doing an activity more and more with the correct mindset will eventually make it be a lot less stressful, it will eventually be a piece of cake (or pie).
#stoicism#stoic#phylosophy#health#mental health#job#work#experience#exercise#nutrition#healthy#healthy living#doctor#therapy#therapist#dentist#marcus aurelius#seneca#epictetus#britney is free
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I absolutely love your fics, and I was curious about if you had any writing tips you could share?
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To be extremely predictable, practice is the very best possible thing-- that, and reading attentively-- pay attention to how other writers technically format their sentences-- especially if you like what you're reading. Like, when you're writing, say you have trouble describing how someone gets from Point A to Point B. Next time you're reading a book or fic you enjoy, take note of how that author does it. Write write write and the process will get easier and more freeing.
Other than that, my biggest advice is just to let go of your reservations. Like, I used to hold back on the sentimentality on my writing because I was worried about purple prose. But I'm a foolishly sentimental person. I was reading a novel a few years back and it hit me that the writer was just going there with the emotions and that I was being ridiculous holding myself back from writing those powerful and uncomfortable emotions just because I had this mask, both on myself as the one I show in public to others but then also in my writing. Try to let down your shields as much as possible (it's really hard) and write with your heart.
As for everything else, it's somewhat minor. Find the time of day that you write best-- it's different for everyone, but writing at the right time is something which I guarantee will improve your flow. Like, I have the most free time at night, but I am too tired to do much of use in the evening hours. I write best first thing in the morning during my first cup of coffee. I don't get to do that a lot because I have almost always had either a job or now a toddler who preoccupies me during those hours, but when I can sit down to write during the right time it's magical. I know lots of people feel this way in the pre-dawn hours before work, or in the evening once their responsibilities for the day are over with. Find what works for you and it will be a lot easier. Also, location can be so key. I procrastinate A LOT more at home than I do, say, at a coffee shop. I don't know why, but I can write reams in a coffee shop and at home I am busy like, browsing tumblr and fetching snacks and unloading the dishes and on and on and on. So the right setting can make a world of difference.
And the last thing, something I am very fond of-- is something I call gentle writing. What this means is that I do not set a goal for the amount of words I write in any given session. Simply opening up the document, rereading some passages, and maybe tinkering with a sentence structure counts as writing. Anything counts, because having that flexibility with yourself makes it so much less a chore and so much more an engaging activity. Sometimes I am in a flow and I write a few thousand words. Sometimes I am not in the right mood but I laboriously bang out three or four sentences over the course of a half hour.
(Actually, I do have a few technical pieces of advice for how I write which you might find useful:
I outline everything. Everything. These are extremely free-flowing, like, run on sentences with lots of --> arrows drawn to show how a leads to b. I start with a general outline for the whole story, and then for multi-chaptered stories I then break down into arcs, and then further outline what scenes I think will be in each chapter. I personally need a general roadmap in order to write, and it really helps propel me along. Random scenes and dialogue that comes to me can be pasted into the outline around the time I think it will be good for the fic, and instead of deleting scenes that don't work I just past them into the end of the outline in case some of it can be recycled later. Obviously it's important to deviate from the outline whenever the story leads you away from it, and there are tons of scenes in my fics that were spontaneously added in, but sort of knowing where the story is going really helps. And also for fics where you update in installments it can really help with laying down foreshadowing and things.
Character motivation maps are super helpful. Every now and then I list all of the main characters, and then I list what they want and what their goals are. Often, this makes obvious to me certain tensions and potentials for drama when I realize two characters are in conflict, that maybe I hadn't realized, and it also clarifies how everyone should be acting.
Reread what you have already written. You may surprise yourself how many hidden gems you find in your old writing/previous chapters. I get lots of ideas for plot points from things I published already that were just throwaway lines originally but will now come off as intentional and foreshadowing. It's a great writing hack.)
Writing is hard and it takes some bravery to publish. But so long as you are as honest as you can be, then there are going to be readers who love your work. You've got this.
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“One who smiles rather than rages is always the stronger.”
Timeline
Age 0:
Born the only son to Shunrai Tomoharu and Yayoi Tomoharu.
Age 12:
Soon after taking up an interest from watching his grandparents run their wagashi store everyday, he decides to help with some errands.
Learns to do handicrafts in leisure time.
Age 14:
Other classmates make fun of his feminine likings and hobbies more intensely. Whether it’s oddly or luckily, the bullying never develops into physical level; nevertheless, their verbal abuse is still devastating to him.
Age 15:
His father refuses to take over his parent’s business, causing Asahi to yell at both his father and mother for having a low opinion on inheriting the store.
Father and mother then move to a bigger town in pursuit of work, leaving him in their grandparents’ care.
Starts helping his grandparents run the store after school.
Age 18:
His grandfather suffers an acute ischemic stroke and becomes a bedridden patient.
Graduates from high school
Decides to take on a full-time job at his grandparents’ store instead of attending the university.
His spartan training to become a “full-fledged” wagashi maker begins, coached by his grandma.
Age 19:
Participates in many confectionery contests even if never gains a trophy at one.
Becomes depressed after receiving some harsh critique.
Age 20:
Meets Yuuya who works part-time at his store during the holidays and somehow gets motivated by him.
Regains some of his confidence to keep on facing hardships.
Finally makes a name at the National Confectionery Exposition, using this chance to promote his shop.
Age 22:
Present
Joins the Division Rap Battles alongside Yuuya Kanata and Saigo Fuyugami, as the 2nd member of Nara Division “Miraitabi”
Schedule
12 a.m. - 5 a.m.: Asleep
5 a.m. - 5:20 a.m.: Freshens up
5:20 a.m. - 6:30 a.m.: Does housework
6:30 a.m. - 7 a.m.: Breakfast time
7 a.m. - 9 a.m.: Prepares ingredients and gets the shop up
9 a.m. - 12 p.m.: Helps grandma run the store while also taking care of Ojou-chan
12 a.m. - 1 p.m.: Lunchtime
1 a.m. - 6 p.m.: Returns to his work
6 a.m. - 6:15 p.m.: Ends his shift and takes Ojou-chan to the Ajisai Residence
6:15 a.m. - 7:15 p.m.: At Saigo-san’s place
7:15 p.m. - 9 p.m.: Dinner and spends time with the rest of his team
9 p.m. - 9:30 p.m.: Walking back to his shop
9:30 p.m. - 10 p.m.: Freshens up
10 p.m. - 10:30 p.m.: Visits his grandpa
10:30 p.m. - 12 a.m.: Goes to bed
Character Hashtags
Regular Hashtags
#Wagashi Today
#Cuteness is power uwu
#Why do I get the youngest treatment
Trauma Hashtags
#Every dream matters
#The clock is ticking
#How to step out from comfort zone
Other Info
Hobbies: Doing chores, Searching for new inspirations
Weakness: Somewhat sensitive to criticism, procrastination
Trauma: “I said something unforgivable to my parents.”
Social Media: @asahidesu
Drinks: Believes in Green Tea Supremacy (he can drink a lot though)
Smokes: Absolutely no-no!
Special Skill: “Cooking, sewing, doing housework; I’m good at all of them! I can carry a lot of heavy sacks too! Grandma told me that I would make a perfect housewife, is it really a compliment?”
Intro Quote: “Welcome to Harumatsuya! Which kind of sweets are you looking for?”
Trauma Quote: “Grandpa, I promise! One day I’ll definitely not disappoint you! So, please… Please hang in there until then!”
Ending Quote: “Hopefully, the next spring will be a good time!”
#hypmic oc#hypnosis microphone oc#nara division#miraitabi#asahi tomoharu#get more info#trauma#timeline#pattern from paradox live#ganbatte hi-chan#let’s wait for spring
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I'm being lazy, listless and lifeless and lost and so irresponsible. Any tangible ways,tips i could take to be more independent, responsible ..
The choice is yours, as to how you spend your day. If you feel you are being lazy -- stop procrastinating and take action. If you feel like you are without passion and "lifeless," go to a therapist to help you work through your depression. If you feel lost, sit down and figure out what you want from life and what you want to bring to it, and write up your own personal manifesto (here is what I want to accomplish; here is how I want to interact with people, this is my mission). If you feel like you are irresponsible, start doing the opposite. What is being responsible? Getting up earlier so you are on time? Finishing a task instead of not doing it? Taking care of chores before pleasure?
Make it real, tangible. Nitty gritty. Get it written down, make a list, and start doing it. Abstractions will get you nowhere. Identify in writing what you don't like about yourself, and then write down what you intend to do about it... and do it.
and how do I find my sense of purpose, vision back as i feel nothing, nothing strong, just sadness.
This suggests a strong depression, for which you should seek professional guidance and help from a qualified therapist trained to help people through depressive episodes. But beyond that, you often need to create your sense of purpose based on what you want, rather than assuming it exists somewhere outside yourself. Who do you want to be? Look around. Look within. Deal with your sadness. What is causing it? A loss? a trauma? the shock of reality? Deal with those feelings. Journal through them. Read books on grief. Watch YouTube videos to see how others deal with it. Educate yourself. Engage with the world.
I'm not obsessed about anyone,just lost idealistic visions, hopes and dreams and came in terms with reality and practical life goals which seem too small and confined and not parallel to really helping the world be a better place, just seeming like a small life, profession.
I can relate to this, it's the bane of being an NF. We assume our lives need to be enormous to have any kind of impact, but in reality... life is cleaning the cat box, and grocery shopping, and monotony. We power through the monotony so we can do what we want, which is to figure out how to inspire people and be creative. So, think about the worth of a small life. Isn't it worth living? Is there beauty to be found in small things? In intimate relationships instead of grand platforms? In being there for your family when wonderful things happen, or when sad things happen?
Why do you feel you need to make a huge impact? Ponder that. Sit with it. Is it pride? A belief that if you don't contribute, you are not worth anything? Can you help the world be better? If so, how are you going to do it? A blog? a video blog? by writing articles? by doing a podcast? writing books? launching a creative space for artists? by standing up for someone? volunteering in an animal shelter? Turn on your sensing function. What can you do here and now that makes a positive difference for someone? Does it have to be huge, or can you just do a random act of kindness for someone, or send them a card in the mail to surprise them? life is often in the minute details.
i read healthy fe use for Infj requires they contribute to the world and feel universally connected in a sense.
Healthy Fe in an INFJ means caring about what other people are thinking or feeling, showing them empathy and sympathy when they open up to you, being aware of what you are doing having an impact on them, and attuning yourself to their needs and feelings. You don't have to have a grand contribution; you can be just as happy and worthwhile being a Star Trek-loving nerd who reads books all the time and just works so she can afford to go to Comic Con, while her real passion is her blog or her cats.
Stop thinking and pondering and spinning your wheels. Start doing.
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wait how are you listening to fics?? like you can listen to the audio of ao3 fics?
Yeah, there are softwares that can read them to you! ive got this one which is unfortunately not cheap but it's worth it imo because I use it all the time and it means I can do chores and read fic at the same time instead of procrastinating my chores or other hobbies by reading. There are free ones out there as well but this worked better imo because most of the free ones were either really difficult to use or the voices were awkward/too slow/too robotic. It does occasionally get confused and fuck up but for the most part it's pretty good
#how can she pronounce verstappen but not pronounce grimaced???#i will never know#i used to have an extension that was a screen reader but i prefer this over that#it would start reading random web pages sometimes without prompting#and again very creepy robot voice#anyway its helped my productivity a lot with knitting and things like that
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Hey, so I have a question about my natal chart. My 12th and 6th houses are HUGE, how do I interpret that?
Thank you @a-deadbird for your ask!!
This is what we call intercepted houses. (I have the same exact ones!) Typically or in Whole Sign/Equal Sign House Systems, each sign has one house cusp it corresponds to but since in our charts there is are sister signs that has two cusps (for you it is Gemini/Sag) it means one sign duo is intercepted (Libra/Aries for the both of us).
The way I interpret it for myself is that I struggle to access these energies (Aries being in the 12h does not help). That I do not assert myself enough and that hurts me in reaching harmony and forming equal relationships in my life. In more 6h/12h terms, I do not take initiative in the matters of my mental health so it kind of erratically erupts in ways that is detrimental to peace in my day-to-day and doing things for my physical health in a balanced way. I am very all or nothing type of person (although there is a different place where that shows up in my chart). Doing the chore-like things very Virgo-ey, bordering on obsession or procrastination due to fear of never reaching perfection and in my 12h problems I pretend they do not exist or make myself the martyr instead of looking out for myself first.
But to live a balanced life we all need to access all 12 energies. The signs as each follows the previous all have a certain corrective function to them. Aries brings a cure for the Piscean haze, a rude awakening but you do have to start things, break barriers, put yourself first to do anything in this life. Libra says to Virgo that it does not have to be perfect, it has to be balanced. Perfection sucks the life out of art and neurosis makes people uncomfortable.
The challenge is integrating these two approaches. Using the Piscean empathy to heal your 12h wounds but moving past it into the natural progression of Aries. Using the gifts of Virgo organization and chiseling to your advantage but reaching through it to the wisdom your Jupiter in Libra holds, finding luck through balance in 6h themes.
Thank you for your ask! I hope it was helpful! Have a stunning day.
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I sometimes find it hard to get into a new habit, even if it benefits me in the long run! I can't even count how many examples of this I can give, because they all and the same way: I do it for a few days but it almost never lasts! I personally believe that it will become an issue in adulthood. Usually, the human brain develops until the age of 25. And that age is fast approaching, even though I'm almost 18. It might only be a matter of time for these habits are ingrained in my brain permanently, and will therefore be much harder to solve. I have tried many ways to combat this procrastination issue, but finding a solution is quite difficult. I always seem to find some way to snap out of it and continue doing the things I have been doing instead of the things that I should be doing.
That isn't to say that it never works, however. I have managed to maintain a month-long streak by learning Japanese on Duolingo and continue to rely on other sources to get the job done, so obviously I am capable of building some sort of habit. Another example of this is how I've managed to become fluent in another keyboard layout. But there are so many other things that I wish to do going forward, especially when it comes to YouTube. I have been very on and off about video production, which has resulted in months and months between videos, which I don't think the audience would appreciate if this continues. I need to find some sort of way to continue work on them more often than how I'm approaching them at the moment. It would have to be in a way that is most comfortable for me whilst also getting quality work done. Over the past year or so, this has been the greatest challenge I have ever confronted, and continues to be to this day. I figure writing about it will jump start me finding a process to this madness.
Perhaps I can always come back to old ideas and give them another try. One of these old ideas is putting something at stake and acting on it depending on the outcome. Like for example, I wanted to prevent myself from doing something I wanted to if I didn't get something done first. I think I want to try this again, because it sounds like something that would be very effective. Looking back at my childhood, this was very effective in getting my chores done, because I couldn't access my video games until then. Even though this was years ago, that does not mean that this could still apply to present me. Another old idea that comes from my childhood is scheduling. When I was in around 4th grade, I was often supervised by another teacher because I had pervasive developmental disorder, and one of the things that they found that ended up helping me was having a second schedule on my desk that laid out the things that happened during that day. I also have a friend that schedules things 30 minutes ahead of time. (He even calls these things "keyterms.") Using that sort of way of scheduling, it is easier to keep track of what you want to do at that specific time. It seems to be very effective on him, and have been thinking about doing something similar for a while. The reason why I think this will work better than some other methods I've tried is because I tend to jump to the next thing kind of quickly. There are times where my mind is more in a "hyperactive" state rather than completely focused on one thing, whereas other times, the opposite is the case.
I hope to solve this mystery within the next year so it will not be an issue when I become an adult. This would end up helping me in a lot of areas, especially things with deadlines because I have seem to have a little bit of trouble with that. Maybe instead of deadlines, I can focus on getting a little bit at a time each session. But maybe I can't do this with everything, because school assignments rely very heavily on deadlines, so there will be exceptions. Other than that, I think there are ways to solve it, but I have been all over the place in terms of how I'm going about solving it, but I hope I find it one day.
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Weird Shifting Tips/Advice
Here are some weird shifting tips that I like. As always, take what resonates and leave what doesn't.
1. The Music Method
Okay, so it's not a method for shifting - it's a method for connection and distinction. I just enjoy alliteration.
Essentially, listen to music that you would listen to in your DR that is different than music you would listen to in your CR (maybe even script that you have different music taste in your DR). Depending on who you are and your DRs, this could be easier or harder.
For example, if you have a DR that is set during a certain time period, then listen to music from that time period to connect to your DR. This would be more difficult in a DR that is in the same year/time as your CR.
Another example is that in one of my DRs I play classical piano. To connect to this DR, I listen to classical piano music. I even imagine myself playing and try to feel the keys under my fingers!
Listening to different music also helps to "keep your realities straight." It can ground you in your DR when you get there, but it can ground you in your CR too!
2. Plan my CR day for after I shift
Hold on... aren't you supposed to plan your DR day? How does planning for your CR day help?
Shifting can be mentally fatiguing - this is one thing shifttok got right. Knowing that I have a plan for when I get back reduces shifting procrastination. For my fellow neurodivergent shifters, I have also noticed that it makes the idea of shifting far less overwhelming. It also helps me know that everything in my CR is "in place" so I can focus on my DR.
3. Naping with intention
When I take naps I don't set an alarm. Instead, I say "I will wake up at/before XYZ time" and then I take a nap or try to.
As long as I have full faith in myself, I have always been spot on. This built up my confidence and belief in myself so much! I get better sleep when I do it too. Seriously, this has been a game changer for me.
If you aren't a nap person, try doing it with other tasks like chores, homework, etc. Anything where you would normally time yourself, don't. Instead, put the time in your mind and go for it! (Also true not to check the clock... that defeats the purpose! Have some trust in yourself and your abilities)
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Day 23
12:05a, Sunday, May 21, 2023
I did a post for yesterday! But I saved it as private. Because I think it may be best if I take time to proof it before I post it. And I am ready for bed...I have to sleep before I can have the rest of today ahead of me :)
I do not think there are any plans and I have conquered already many of my chores! I may make a wander to the mall to return some cloth! Maybe I can sort through, catalog, and post for sale the tupper full of clothes I pulled from the closet?
Meh...that's a bit ambitious metinks.
newho...
Ni ni!
-12:08a
02:09p -
I should eat lunch, but here I am...procrastinating ^_^ Good news! I woke up and no part of me feels burnt or uncomfortable from yesterday's beach adventure! This is wonderful news! I have successfully returned the cloth to the mall, the cataloging of the tupper cloth does not seem appealing...instead, I've returned to goatlings and have enjoyed click click clicking around there for most of the morning. Behb's done work at 4p so I have a couple hours to do something that should probably be a lil more productive than goat game. I did stumble across some good tunes...who knew Acid Jazz was a thing and why did no one tell me?! I very much enjoy this genre!
I also got sent some good stuffs as well...it is seemingly discordant but, and IDK how, it all works together and it's a hella fun vibe IMO
at the very least, vibin' to old school shit is always time well spent.
I guess I'll go figure out some lunch now...
-02:24p
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tired
why do things feel so tiring now?
what happened to the younger me?
what happened to:
springing out of bed in mornings
preparing breakfast for my family
writing notes for their lunches
joyfully laughing with classmates
completing schoolwork diligently
finishing chores and work and favors
high marks and high hopes for the future
productive evenings full of tasks
completing to-do lists, instead of letting them
pile up
high
higher
like how it's been lately:
procrastination
laziness
exhaustion
never ending things to do
a never ending chase that i
gave up
in despair
for where else does life go?
why do i try so hard?
why am i so tired?
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Hello! It's been a while since my last "ask" to you. I hope you're doing well and that 2023 is treating you kindly. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong but I think I saw that you only have editing left for part two of your new Sangyeon fic? That's amazing! I hope editing is smooth-sailing for you - I know that, oftentimes, it can be a bore or even just very tedious. But I can tell you that when/if you start, it will have been worth it 🩷
(I have just realised that I did not label the first part, I'm so sorry) With that said, I hope you aren't feeling too much pressure to write or get this story done as soon as possible. Take your time with it because, I know I've said this before but, the most important thing is that you're enjoying it. And that you're happy with what you're putting out there. 🩷 I really wish that writing never becomes a chore for you-you deserve to have a fun, creative outlet. (2)
However, on the off-chance that it does, and you find yourself forcing your way through ideas, I hope that you're able to find something that you can be equally or more passionate about soon after. Not as a replacement but moreso as a "next step". I'm looking forward to see what direction you choose to go in - not just with 'Business or Pleasure'. Though I must say, you were very right: a CEO/fake-dating/dominant (correct me if I recalled incorrectly) is needed. (3)
And who better to start it off than you? And you have started so there's not much I can ask for. Especially not when you write so beautiful and coherently. So thank you for always making it a pleasure. I wish you joy, not just in writing, but in everything you do, and in life. Take care! 🩷 I'm going to have to apologise for, not only making this message so long, but also forgetting to number the first part. Wishing you the best 🩷 (4)
Hello, dear!! I'm sorry its taken me so long to respond to this... I saw it when you sent it and kept telling myself I'd respond, but pure laziness and procrastination has stopped me lol
Editing is always my least favorite part of the writing process lol. I don't put much effort into it, because I find that I just hate everything I write when I read it so many times. I'm pretty much in the same boat as I was when you sent this ask, only with part 3 now lmao
I'm not feeling too much pressure about getting it out fast, but I think I'll always feel pressure about getting a new piece out eventually haha. I know if I enjoyed the story more, I would be kicking them out much faster. I was so in love with this concept before but executing it hasn't been what I imagined. Also, going from my most popular fic to nearly zero engagement has been very humbling lol. I've somewhat shifted my focus to an original piece instead...
Thank you so much for always sending in these wonderful and thoughtful pieces. It's like talking to a friend that I've told all of my worries too, and I feel very peaceful after I respond. I hope you have someone like that for you, as well. You deserve to feel the way you make me (and I'm assuming others) feel!!
Hope you're doing well and that the new year is treating you great!! ❤️❤️❤️
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