Hiiiii how have you been love bug? (Please tell me if your uncomfortable with that term since you are non-binary and they/them I’m not sure what nicknames you are uncomfortable with it’s just what I call my friends and just a nickname I have for people in general🫶🏻🫶🏻 ) so I’d like to to request farah with a adhd reader who is hyper forgetful and sometimes has meltdowns ( as someone with adhd)🧡🧡🧡
Hey! I'm fine! Bought some more yarn for my leftover blanket today, which I'm excited to work on! And don't worry, I think love bug is really cute! I don't mind most nicknames, but thank you for being considerate, I really do appreciate it! Hope you're doing well as well ^^
I don't have ADHD, so I don't know at all what it's like for someone with it! I had to do some research on it, so I don't know if these are actually viable methods of helping, but I tried! Please do correct me with something that might help and I'll add it in this post afterwards! I hope this is enjoyable to you regardless! Thank you for the request!
Farah with a Reader with ADHD
Farah doesn’t particularly know a lot about mental illnesses. She may be traumatized, yes, but that doesn’t mean she ever had the time to research any of them. So she’s definitely not the best person to go to when it comes to things like these, but she tries, even if she can’t always understand everything that’s going on. You’re suffering, and that’s enough for her to know she should do something to help you.
You being this forgetful may be a cause of concern for her, though. It’s not every day she meets someone who forgot what they did five minutes prior. It’s especially concerning when it’s something important, though, like seeing a doctor. Although she may be worried for you potentially developing something as severe as dementia eventually, she’ll try to push her worries aside and help you to the best of her abilities. If you ever need reminders, she can help you. Farah remembers and retains things very well, she’s never had any issues with it since she had to in order to get by. If you need to remember something, she’ll remind you a few times a day. You have an appointment? Don’t forget about it tomorrow, I’ll tell you again then. However, she’s also a big fan of post its and will write down whatever it is you may need and place it somewhere she knows you’re going to see it. I know, out of sight, out of mind, but she’ll also text you and have you make reminders on your phone for important things so you don’t forget. Won’t get mad at you for forgetting your anniversary, she can see that it’s hard for you to remember things and won’t yell at you or anything either. However, she will mention that it was your anniversary, or maybe her birthday. For the most part she just wants to spend those days with you, if she can, and will thus remind you. Again, you don’t need to feel ashamed for forgetting, she’ll tell you that it’s quite alright and that you shouldn’t worry. She’s patient like that.
If you have a meltdown in front of her, she definitely would not know what to do at first. Depending on what kind of meltdown it is, she’ll react differently. If it creeps up on you, slowly making you irritated, then she’ll ask you what’s wrong. Regardless of your answer, she’ll ask you how she can help you, if you would like to be left alone or if you would like to take a small break in any way. She gets it and she’ll get you away from whatever is stressing you out so you can slowly recharge. If you really do want to be left alone for a while, she will comply, but will knock on your door to check up on you every once in a while and will bring you some food as well. Farah just wants you to be well, so she’ll take care of you how she thinks might help. Food is always good, food usually helps her, so she hopes it’ll do the same for you as well.
If it’s a sudden meltdown where you don’t know where left and right are anymore, then she’ll get you away from everyone else at first. While she can’t imagine what it’s like for you, it likely isn’t very pleasant for you to be crying and screaming in front of other people. Hoping that you trust her, she’ll try to ground you, asking you how you’re feeling, what you’re feeling and how she could help you. What happened is also another question she would ask you. Again, she won’t really know what to do on her own, but she tries her best. Farah will talk to you in a soothing tone and try to distract you at first so you can calm down a bit. Whether it be cracking a joke or asking you about your top five favorite reptiles. Even if you can’t answer her properly, she’ll just reassure you that it’s okay, that everything is just bad in this moment and that it’ll pass. She’s with you this entire time and won’t leave you unless you want her to. Asks you to breathe a bit with her. In all your time being together, she’s likely learned a breathing technique or two that might help you.
Once your meltdown is over, she’ll be very gentle with you, especially if she can see you’re beating yourself up over it. You really shouldn’t feel ashamed for something that you can’t help, it’s not your fault. If you feel especially down, she’ll give you a kiss on the forehead and get some ice cream with you. Something like a meltdown seems exhausting to her. While she doesn’t want to seem like she’s rewarding you for having a meltdown, she does want you to be kind to yourself afterwards, that’s what the ice cream is for. And if you don’t want ice cream, then some berries, fruits or a small snack will suffice as well. Either way, she’s there for you the entire time until you feel better.
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Hm .. and now for the real questions tonight ~ !! 🤍
♡ Pink sugar cookie or toasted marshmallow body lotion?
♡ ‘A Little Princess’ by Frances Hodgson Burnett or ‘Anne of Green Gables’ by L. M. Montgomery?
♡ Ballet bun or french braids?
♡ Aaaand of course — bunny grahams or cinnamon cake as my snack ???
Yes it’s silly, but I take my little nighttime rituals very seriously ok !! Why not though ?? Life is too short !!
I just want to be happy for small blessings and get excited over little things hehe c:
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🤍 . ˚🧸 ·̩͙ 🎀 . ˚ * . 🤍
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I hate when people in the upper middle or upper class say “eat the rich” and then someone chimes in like “you’re the rich”. Yes! I acknowledge my position of privilege! I do not face any of the struggles that come from a position of financial instability, and I never have! I know that I do not have an intimate knowledge of what being poor is like, and for that I am eternally grateful. However, we aren’t TALKING about people who get to live comfortable lives. Most of us (and by that, I mean people who say “eat the rich”) aren’t even talking about the families who have a vacation home, or bought their kid a pony, or the ones with a backyard pool, or even the ones who have like five TVs or a huge house! I, at least personally, am not talking about people who have enough money that they can live in luxury, go to expensive restaurants for special occasions, or spend a year abroad. Yes, that is wealth! Extreme wealth! But that kind of wealth isn’t inherently harmful, because that is the kind of wealth that could have been made without completely fucking everyone else over, or inherited. I still think people in these positions should make donations to charity every so often, and so on. Of course, I think that anyone who has the means to help others should. But frankly, to say that these are the people we need to be burning at the stake, is just idiotic. Eat the rich is a saying most effective when applied to those with excessive wealth. Billionaires- people who can buy companies, people who could own hundreds of vacation homes without making a dent in their wealth. People who can comfortably spend 250,000 big ones a piece to go on a suicide mission to see some wet metal at the bottom of the sea. People like Bezos and Musk who have screwed countless people over, and will continue to do so without batting an eye until the day that they die. And somehow, manage to keep doing so after, as well. There is ABSOLUTELY no way to obtain that amount of money without stepping all over innumerable people, ruining lives, and damaging our planet. People with that much money could never even BEGIN to spend it all. Yes, there are rich people with big houses and swimming pools! There are also rich people who stockpile the amount of money that could end the homelessness crisis and choose to never touch a penny of it. I think that you can live comfortably and acknowledge that the ultra-rich need to be taken down. I think that you can live INDULGENTLY and acknowledge that the ultra-rich need to be taken down. The billions that they hoard aren’t a rainy-day fund, or in case of emergency, or them saving up so they can go to Spain during spring break. They’re just there. They could EASILY change millions of lives and barely make a dent in their wealth. That’s what sets them apart. “The Rich” in “eat The Rich” aren’t just rich people. They are people with enough money to change the world for the better, who choose not to.
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