#emotionally immature mother

[seasonofthewitch06]

As a woman, I empathize and grieve with my mother.

But as a daughter, I have a deep seated resentment and fear towards her.

And the resentment and fear has won.

Nothing is ever her fault. I’m always too sensitive and too ungrateful. Fuck me and my feelings.

Let’s ignore how I’m so scared of her that I would rather avoid her than talk to her about how she’s hurt me.

No, I’m just a child and I ALWAYS have to apologize for reacting to her emotional immaturity.

She never remembers telling me nasty things or how I DID explain myself to her. That’s obviously not enough so I MUST beg her for forgiveness and always apologize for things I’ve never said.

Idk. I feel like I’m going crazy. She always twists things around to make it seem like I’M the bad one.

I can count with my hands how many times she’s ever apologized to me.

Once.

#06 speaks #mother wound #mothers and daughters #i feel so drained #emotionally immature mother

[ariarirs-blog]

My mother thought it would be appropriate to bring up something that is emotionally, mentally and financially exhausting me because I had simply asked her (politely) to turn down her music. It turned into a full blown argument where she gaslighted me and berated me. She wouldn’t listen to what I have to say and completely changed the subject of the argument to fit her victimhood narrative. I can’t see myself talking to her after this. We have arguments a lot but she’d never weaponised something that she knows hurts me.

#emotionally immature parents #emotionally immature mother #narcissistic mum #narcissistic mother #depression

[witchyykitten]

little miss will never be good enough for her mother

no matter how hard she tries

#strict mommy #mommy issues #mommyissues #toxic mom #mom issues #toxic mother #emotionally unstable mother #narcissistic mother #mother issues #mother #emotionally immature parents #dysfunctional parents #toxic parents #parental issues #parental abuse #narcissistic abuse #mental abuse #child abuse #emotional abuse #abuse survivor #childhood trauma #trauma #childhood #why my family don't love me? #family issues #i hate my family #dysfunctional family #toxic family

[machineryangel]

Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters, Susan Forward with Donna Frazier

#mothers who can't love: a healing guide for daughters #finished this at last! i liked the adult children of emotionally immature parents better but this one was okay ! #susan forward #cr #words #wretched mirrors

[raeiyyn]

1 & 2. Lindsay C. Gibson, "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents" // 3. // 4. Katherine Fabrizio, Our Heart // 5. albertlaw's picture via flickr // 6. Father John Misty, I love you, Honeybear // 7. bojack horseman (02 x 1) // 8. Karen Thompson Walker, The Age of Miracles

#being haunted #web weaves #web weaving #compilations #parallels* #mb #lindsay c gibson #adult children of emotionally immature parents #katherize fabrrizio #our heart #father john misty #bojack horseman #karen thompson #on mothers and daughters #emotional loneliness #inherited loneliness #literature #art #words* #quotes #dark academia #dark acadamia aesthetic #mitski

[tenebrius-excellium]

Thinking about Httyd...hot and perhaps too personal take: To me, Httyd was more than anything else a movie about emotional starvation. And Forbidden Friendship was the sweetest, briefest celebration of relief from that.

Afterwards, everybody basically told Hiccup to man up “because that’s just life” and I will never forgive Httyd2 and Httyd3 for that.

#httyd #wherethekiteflies #y'all keep forgetting that Hiccup grew up without a Mom. #In the same day he finds his mother; he loses his Dad. #and the third movie has nothing better to do than to make Hiccup let go of his friend because it's clingy or whatever #to keep the only stable; emotionally available being around that he has ever known. #he's painted as selfish and immature for wanting that. #Neither Astrid; nor Valka; nor Gobber understand Hiccup in the way Toothless did. #Hiccup is simply expected to go without emotional validation or the praise and intimacy he desires for his entire life #because taking responsibility is more important than feeling understood. or whatever. #this boy was granted Forbidden Friendship as the only real hug he ever received... from a dragon who chose him; who stayed with him; #who loved him; who didn't leave or bully or disappoint him. this dragon was the healthiest relationship Hiccup ever had. #and it was judged to be weak. to weaken him as a Chief. when his passion and compassion for Toothless and others were in fact #Hiccup's greatest strengths as Chief. it were those qualities; this sensitivity that made him amazing. #but the plot decided that he needed to become just like Stoick and Astrid and like the Valka who abandoned her dreams & hopes for "reality #how is desiring and needing emotional backup in life void of reality; weak; delusional and too idealistic? #shame on you httyd sequels for never granting this boy what he desired most. and that was honest; unconditional support. #analysis #httyd analysis #rant #hiccup

[cooki3face]

I’m naturally a very vulnerable and emotional person in absolutely almost every aspect of my life except one. With my mother and in familial relationships and connections. I always said that I am not family oriented and I probably won’t be until I create and start my own family. I find that I have trouble when it comes to tolerating my mother and other members of my family when they start behaving badly or exuding toxic behaviors and ideas. I cannot even watch my mother cry about anything without becoming aggravated or annoyed, I cannot accept affection from my mother without becoming aggravated or annoyed and in the event that she starts trying to “parent” me or be a mother to me or demand my respect or obedience I’ve always become annoyed and aggravated. I fall into a spectrum really of having an anxious attachment style whilst having an avoidant dismissive attachment style in matters of family and within the home. Even throughout my mothers mistreatment, I don’t respond to it with sadness or crying I’m more likely to be angry and immediately be on the defense. But, I’m likely to respond with sadness and crying in other areas of my life that are equally as painful/frustrating or emotionally draining if not “more”.

I think that I am more closely anxiously attached in romantic relationships and connections within my life or I have been in the past and I am more avoidant dismissive avoidant in familial relationships.

I believe that, some of this is a result of me having an emotionally immature parent as well, I’ve been put in the position of an adult or a parent for a long time for someone who was supposed to be an adult/parent to me. So, to see vulnerability or emotional instability within my parent, or to feel affection from my parent, does not go over well with me at all and triggers me.

I’ve also noticed that it is extremely difficult for me to build profound relationships with members of my family. Even those that I love or admire, I’m not as moved by them as I would be people who are apart of other aspects of my life who aren’t related to me. I have siblings, and people always tell me that I hive off only child energy and I’ve always remained unattached to them and am not tolerant or patient of any of their behaviors that are harmful or toxic to me or others. Deaths in the family don’t necessarily shake me either, even if I love and admire you in my own way.

#anxious attachment #avoidant dismissive #dismissive avoidant #attatchment styles #self love #self care #self improvement #self discovery #self expression #healingjourney #self healing #maternal line #mother trauma #childhood healing #self awareness #emotionally immature parents

[something2believe]

also my mom is currently giving me the silent treatment and has completely avoided me for two days lolll

#psa dont confront your emotionally immature mother w any trauma she may have caused you in your childhood #genuinely dumb of me i shouldve known better

[iblamethenubbins]

Ana: wow I don't feel like kissing this random woman I just met, I just keep thinking about Mariana. Guess that means I'm not a lesbian.

No Ana, it's not that you're not lesbian. It's that you're still in love with Mariana.

#madre solo hay dos #madre solo hay dos spoilers #daughter from another mother spoilers #daughter from another mother #how can this very accomplished smart adult woman be so emotionally immature

[hiding-in-my-blanket-fort]

TW: eating disorders

There is something so unique about the flavòr of disordered eating that daughters inherit from the mothers who use them as a personal therapist, dumping heedless complaints about their own body image struggles, diet attempts, “don’t ever get fat, remember that, you’ll never be able to lose it again,” and “I’m so desperate to lose weight” and “when you get fat, no one loves you anymore.”

Never paying any thought to how it impacts the daughter. 🙃

#toxic mothers #emotionally immature parents #narcissistic mother #ace talks to herself #mother was complaining about her weight gain again this morning #*i’m walking every day! it’s not fair!!!* #she’s not walking very much #and she eats a phenomenal amount of food #*i’m getting so desperate!!!* #while she changes nothing about her eating habits whatsoever #and my old eating struggles are flaring up again #but she’s too wrapped up in herself #to ever notice that anyone else has problems outside of herself

[escapism1515]

Why is the only way boomers know how to interact with their adult children is to “joke” by making fun of everything they say or do? Especially in front of other people. You wonder why I don’t want to hang out with you. You make me feel like shit every time I see you.

#boomers #narcissistic father #narcissistic mother #emotionally immature parents

[witchyykitten]

#toxicmommy #toxic mom #toxic mother #toxic parents #toxic family #toxic household #toxic dad #toxic father #strict mommy #mommy issues #mommyissues #daddy issues #why my family don't love me? #family issues #dysfunctional family #dysfunctional parents #dysfunctional household #ptsd #emotionally unstable mother #emotionally immature parents #emotional abuse #narcissistic mother #narcissistic abuse #child abuse #childhood trauma

[daughterearth]

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#came home after a month #and its.only me my mum and my brother #and my mum tells us about how my dad is still emotionally abusing her #and i thought it had stopped and i thought it had changed #and she said she's only telling right now because none of her finances #and her earning from her job are in her hand #and none of the properties #and i know she hasnt ever told my grandparents #and my heart has been so broken since yesterday #and im so angry and tired. #i wish they had divorced #i wish all the shit that she went through was put an end to #my dad constantly accuses her of cheating when he a pn user and i hate everything #i hate that i was ever born and ever brought pain to my mum #its such an immature reaction but this is the legacy im born into #my grandpa was abusive to my grandma #my mother is abused vy my dad #and still they want me to go through all that shit #fuck all #ill get a job and get these women out #fuck men fuck all men #my brother had no reactuon to this #they really dont care #they really never cared #i have lnown this but its fresh pain every single fucking day #i hate everything #my body starts reacting so violently when i come back home but i need to get out and get others out #fuck this life man

[traumatizedjaguar]

Parental and sibling abuse ment. F-cked relatives ment. Siblings gf.

My parents are always talking about weird shit in the other rooms. Like “her parents were crazy omg” so were you??? Lmao you guys are pedophile protectors, kind of pedos yourselves, abused children, pathological liars, and hate everyone who isn’t some white straight conservative. I think they were talking about my brothers girlfriend bc they mentioned her name after in the same conversation. My brothers abusive toward her in minor ways I see it. My parents are probably like “it’s JuStIFiED” but like yall projecting you’re the abusers. My brother is a pedo protector too. They all protect each other. My aunt raped her son. Nobody cares I mentioned that years ago.

#my text #lmfao #funny stories #tw abuse mention #parental abuse #emotionally immature parents #SA mention #tw sa mention #sibling abuse #Andrew #abusive father #abusive relatives #abusive mother #exploitation #fuck boy days #Leonora #Andrew j #hi Jason

[techtechonmymind]

genuinely need min heejin to be kept away from kids for so many damn reasons

#why are these CHILDREN calling you and comforting you and crying with you are you their creepy emotionally immature mother or their boss

[ratgirlcopia]

the first, like, two ghost chapters are so psychically damaging. i'm convinced there has never been a better cinematic representation of your parents debating whether you're incompetent or not while you're literally in the room with them.

#copiaposting #in the same way you can tell ari aster was a man with a mother. tf definitely had parents. you understand me. #the chapters are so good. they're so good. #i'm taking copia to the library and getting him a copy of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.