#childrenofdivorce

[mergefamily]

The importance of divorce family relationships how to cope !

Divorce can be a painful and difficult experience for everyone involved, and it can have a significant impact on family relationships. It can be particularly challenging for children, who may feel confused, hurt, and uncertain about the future.

One of the most important things to remember is that divorce is not the fault of the children. Parents should avoid blaming each other in front of their children and focus on providing emotional support and stability during this difficult time.

It's also essential to communicate openly and honestly with your children about what's happening and what to expect. This can help them feel more secure and less anxious about the future. Encourage your children to express their feelings and emotions, and provide them with opportunities to ask questions.

While divorce can be emotionally challenging, it's important to try to maintain a positive relationship with your ex-spouse, particularly when it comes to co-parenting. This can help minimize conflict and stress for everyone involved, and it can also help your children feel more comfortable and secure.

Finally, seek support from family and friends, or consider talking to a therapist or counselor. Divorce can be a traumatic experience, and it's essential to take care of yourself and your emotional well-being during this time.

In summary, the impact of divorce on family relationships can be significant, but it's possible to cope and move forward in a positive way. By focusing on open communication, providing emotional support, and seeking help when needed, you can help your family navigate this difficult transition and emerge stronger on the other side.

#divorce #coparenting #familyrelationships #emotionalwellbeing #counseling #communication #support #childrenofdivorce #separation #healing #mentalhealth #qualitytime #kitty #interiors #kittens #kitchen #plants #familybonding

[mysublimelife]

What Cruel Irony

I wasn’t conceived out of love.

I was a calculated risk.

A desperate attempt

to fan the dimming flames of love

between two stupidly young humans,

who had not realized the flames were dull embers.

Why should I dream of love when

I’m a product of failure?

#love #recovery #life #art #original poem #my poetry #prose poetry #poem #divorce #childrenofdivorce #child of divorce

[karanscottcoaching]

The time has finally come for me to introduce my new book: Too Relieved To Grieve | The Alternative Heartbreak Handbook. This painful account of my own true story is a call to arms for anyone who’s had their hearts shattered by those who said they’d love you to the moon and back. My life, and the lives of my two young children, were smashed in 2013, but I was able to claw back more than I lost. This is how I did it. Available now via Amazon and Kindle: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1089337868/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_X9GCDb5R8JY25 (or via link in bio) #booklaunch #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscott #karanscottauthor #newauthor #authorsofinstagram #writersofinstagram #writer #newbookrelease #relationship #telationships #breakup #breakupbooks #divorcehelp #divorce #separation #childrenofdivorce #heartbroken #brokenhearted #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #karanscottcoaching #karanscottmentoring #life #lifecoaching #success #strongwomen #strong https://www.instagram.com/p/B2ER4DwD6RM/?igshid=1lpr4bfslqh3h

#booklaunch #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscott #karanscottauthor #newauthor #authorsofinstagram #writersofinstagram #writer #newbookrelease #relationship #telationships #breakup #breakupbooks #divorcehelp #divorce #separation #childrenofdivorce #heartbroken #brokenhearted #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #karanscottcoaching #karanscottmentoring #life #lifecoaching #success #strongwomen #strong

[theartofmft]

Happy New Year! With a new year comes new goals, even for children. Goal setting isn't just for adults! Goal setting is an important part of any child’s development for many reasons. [stay tuned for a full blog post that goes more into details, give examples depending on age, plus some bonus success tips] * Let’s first understand the difference between goals and resolutions. Resolutions are firm, sometimes unrealistic, decisions made that enable people to believe they must follow them, which may cause a lot of stress. Goals are more realistic choices set in a continuum and can be edited or changed as you wish throughout the year. * Here’s how to start the conversation and how to set, track, and reach goals effectively: 1) Get the idea across and introduce the idea of a goal with examples and fun questions. 2) Start SMART. Kids will have fun reaching and remembering to set Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely goals with this acronym. Goals should not be vague. 3) Let them choose. Allow them to pick their “big goal” then discuss its purpose (the "why"). Purpose gives kids a “buy-in” to learn and perform better. 4) Take small steps and break the "big goal" down into doable steps. 5) Brainstorm obstacles and how they’ll get addressed. If needed, come up with a plan B for achieving that same goal. Remember, goals are flexible and can be tweaked or revised. Let them know it takes time and steps to achieve a goal. 6) Track progress. Make it fun and visual. Tracking in a visible way not only creates interest, keeps the child motivated, helps them own it and recognize their own progress, but will also remind adults to check in/monitor the progress of their goal. 7) Show them, join them. Don't just tell them to set goals, create/set with them. The process of creating goals is a parenting opportunity and provides moments for connection while instilling hope for success. * #newyear #newgoals #newyearnewgoals #goalsettingforkids #goalsettingforchildren #arttherapist #arttherapy #childtherapist #childtherapy #childrenofdivorce #childrenofabuse #childrenofdomesticviolence #woodlandhillstherapy #woodlandhillstherapist #lmft #mft #atr #ginabalit #theartofmft https://www.instagram.com/p/CJhtoMdjnfm/?igshid=x3hig07o5zvx

#newyear #newgoals #newyearnewgoals #goalsettingforkids #goalsettingforchildren #arttherapist #arttherapy #childtherapist #childtherapy #childrenofdivorce #childrenofabuse #childrenofdomesticviolence #woodlandhillstherapy #woodlandhillstherapist #lmft #mft #atr #ginabalit #theartofmft

[noodlenuts]

Another one for the Passover Roundup! While holidays are generally times of celebration, a chance to enjoy special foods and gather with family, and take part in traditions that bind us together with our loved ones and our forebears, they can also occasionally be times of stress. There's always a lot of preparation, there may be travel or visiting friends and family we don't usually see, and often there are different "rules" and expectations from the everyday. This year in particular, a lot of things are going to be VERY different for upcoming holidays such as Passover and Easter. The usual big family gatherings have been canceled, and lots of traditions will have to be celebrated differently, if at all. Today's book, "A Tale of Two Seders" (2010) by Mindy Avra Portnoy and artist Valeria Cis, while technically about celebrating Passover in the midst of divorce, is a great book for addressing some of those changes just generally. It looks at holidays during personal upheaval for kids, gently addresses tge anxiety of change when it comes to beloved celebrations, and reminds us that we can love the old ways of doing things and still find pleasure in new paradigms. Available as an e-book (I borrowed my copy from the Toronto Public Library), this is a lovely book for those looking to address kids' anxiety around changing holiday practices this year. ⚫ ⚫ ⚫ #noodlenutskidsbooks #JewishNoodlenuts #noodlenutspassover #ataleoftwoseders #mindyavraportnoy #valeriacis #passover2020 #pesach2020 #stayathomechallenge #divorce #coparenting #coparentingdoneright #childrenofdivorce #coronavirusholiday #covid_19 #isolationholiday #seder2020 #passoverseder2020 #anxiouskids #holidayanxiety #jewishfamilies #pjlibrary #jewishkidlit https://www.instagram.com/p/B-NhHd1HXeo/?igshid=1uc2x44uceiqc

#noodlenutskidsbooks #jewishnoodlenuts #noodlenutspassover #ataleoftwoseders #mindyavraportnoy #valeriacis #passover2020 #pesach2020 #stayathomechallenge #divorce #coparenting #coparentingdoneright #childrenofdivorce #coronavirusholiday #covid_19 #isolationholiday #seder2020 #passoverseder2020 #anxiouskids #holidayanxiety #jewishfamilies #pjlibrary #jewishkidlit

[risarambles]

My parents always fought, always threw hateful words at each other. For 16 years, I thought that was normal. I thought that when I found my forever in someone, we would be the same as them. That fights would be filled with tears and end when the man's fist went through the wall. I felt so alone and confused, but I had a little brother looking to me. For him, I kept a smile on my face. For him, we ran away to the playground during a fight my parents were having. For him, I was grounded for weeks for doing said act of running away with him. When my mom told me they were getting a divorce, I broke. I honestly didn't know that divorce was an option. It had been 16 years, after all. I blamed myself."I shouldn't have run away, I shouldn't have cried, I shouldn't have...I shouldn't have..." Then I found out that my mom was pregnant. Another little person to protect from the tears, from the words, from the hurt. Again, I put on my mask. I smile when others ask how I'm handling it. I laugh when they say, "It's for the best." When holidays come around, I wear my mask and say thanks when I'm given a gift. Usually a gift that shows exactly how little my own parents know about me. I am thankful, and grateful that they try, but when a nerdy/sports loving tom-boy is given a make-up kit by their dad's new girl friend...it's hard not to throw it. It's hard not to cry and ask why your dad didn't tell them something about you. Yet, because of that mask, that smile, and that false acceptance, the next year she gives you more make-up, scented lotions, things you will never use...and you just take it and shut down a little more. They don't seem to care that the gift from the previous year still sits unopened on your dresser...they don't try to get to know you, because all they see is that mask.

Just know, children of divorced parents, you are not alone. You don't have to wear a mask. At age 25 I am finally taking mine off.

#takingoffthemask #sound of silence #childrenofdivorce #speakout

[measuringlife]

Damn this time of year is hard. 350 days of the year I can convince myself that everyone grew up with nightmare holidays like mine. But seeing pictures of family holiday hat walks or multigenerational family gingerbread house contests is really hard to see. . My holidays were full of yelling, judging others, trying to buy people’s love, putting in a show, crying, being split between families, forced pleasantries, and more. . Spending some time with the ACA red book today. 18 years of daily trauma growing up when I lived at home and now 18 years on my own trying to make sense of all. . Really only the last 2.5 have been spent trying to heal myself. I’ve found the best way to heal is to share and realize the value of my story and experiences. . Right now I’m home with the dog wrapping presents for my mom because God forbid I don’t go through the motions. I’ve called her twice now to see if she has any requests for dinner and she has rushed me off the phone both times. I will never make her happy, yet I still find myself trying and then beating myself up for failing. . I wish the year didn’t always end with such pain. I wish I had the distraction of work as opposed to the time off to strew and pay attention to the holidays of others which seen so foreign. I feel alone in my annual sadness, but I also now know I am not alone and I hope if this resonates with you that you know you are not alone. . #adultchildrenofalcoholics #adultchildrenofnarcissists #grief #deaddadsclub #fatherlessdaughters #childrenofdivorce #dysfunctionalfamily #holidaypain #bluechristmas https://www.instagram.com/p/B6bc0syB-To/?igshid=6kg8rkrptfcl

#adultchildrenofalcoholics #adultchildrenofnarcissists #grief #deaddadsclub #fatherlessdaughters #childrenofdivorce #dysfunctionalfamily #holidaypain #bluechristmas

[amlitlover]

First ice cream cone scooped today in 1904

Arnaba Saha: “Hello son. I hope you know why you are here?” I nodded and he continued. “Then tell me with whom you want to be: your mother or your father?” https://americanliterature.com/author/arnaba-saha/short-story/the-choice

#arnabasaha #thechoice #childrenofdivorce #shortstoriesaboutdivorce #americanliterature #divorcestories #firsticecreamcone #worldsfair

[thegreatdivorce]

Silent films are kind of hit and miss for me. Some have aged unbelievably well (Metropolis, The General, The Cabinet of Dr. Caligari... It's hard to miss with Garbo's silent work). but others have become relics of a time gone by and almost become a parody of themselves. 1927's Children of Divorce was somewhere in the middle. It wasn't awful, but it's not really remarkable either. The costumes are beautiful, Clara Bow is great and Esther Ralston beautiful, but what I'll probably remember the most is the performance of Joyce Coad. She's plays the younger version of Clara Bow's character and I thought she was an amazing lil actor. Actually wish the storyline focused more on Bow's childhood so there could be more Coad screen-time. Oh well. #childrenofdivorce #1927 #silentfilm #starring #clarabow #estherralston #thebeautiful #garycooper #whoreally #hamsitup #inthisrole #directedby #franklloyd https://www.instagram.com/p/BizO1MPh8K7/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=8dn77n5cfsr2

#childrenofdivorce #1927 #silentfilm #starring #clarabow #estherralston #thebeautiful #garycooper #whoreally #hamsitup #inthisrole #directedby #franklloyd

[marypickfords]

Clara Bow in Children of Divorce (1927)

#clara bow #children of divorce #mine #childrenofdivorce*

[karanscottcoaching]

This is my boy, the purest soul in the world, who’s been hurt beyond measure, and just wants to help others not feel as bad as he has in the past. 💖 #myson #myboy #specialboy #lightifmylife #oneandonly #bekind #kindness #kindnessmatters #trauma #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottcoaching #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscott #memoir #heartbreak #childrenofdivorce #author #authorsofinstagram #authorlife https://www.instagram.com/p/CaAoyBWIfdv/?utm_medium=tumblr

#myson #myboy #specialboy #lightifmylife #oneandonly #bekind #kindness #kindnessmatters #trauma #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottcoaching #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscott #memoir #heartbreak #childrenofdivorce #author #authorsofinstagram #authorlife

[allformsofdomesticviolence]

I joined a group where I mentioned Parental Alienation and was immediately blocked from the group, because the admin believed Gardner used this term, and it applied to only sexual predators. Parental Alienation is used inside the courts, by narcissistic abusers to do whatever it takes to force a judge to look at the other parent (the victim), as the issue. A lot of times, child custody shifts over to the narcissistic abuser, where there sole intent is to alienate the child away from the victim/parent, and family members of the victim. Check out our bio on Instagram and sign the petition concerning parenting alienation. . . . #parentalalienation #abuseddaily #toxicman #childrenofdivorce #childabuseawareness #ifmywoundswerevisible #psychologicalabuse #parenting #parentsupport https://www.instagram.com/p/CaskjYCLQPZ/?utm_medium=tumblr

#parentalalienation #abuseddaily #toxicman #childrenofdivorce #childabuseawareness #ifmywoundswerevisible #psychologicalabuse #parenting #parentsupport

[theartofmft]

Happy New Year! With a new year comes new goals, even for children. Goal setting isn’t just for adults! Goal setting is an important part of any child’s development for many reasons. [stay tuned for a full blog post that goes more into details, give examples depending on age, plus some bonus success tips] * Let’s first understand the difference between goals and resolutions. Resolutions are firm, sometimes unrealistic, decisions made that enable people to believe they must follow them, which may cause a lot of stress. Goals are more realistic choices set in a continuum and can be edited or changed as you wish throughout the year. * Here’s how to start the conversation and how to set, track, and reach goals effectively: 1) Get the idea across and introduce the idea of a goal with examples and fun questions. 2) Start SMART. Kids will have fun reaching and remembering to set Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely goals with this acronym. Goals should not be vague. 3) Let them choose. Allow them to pick their “big goal” then discuss its purpose (the “why”). Purpose gives kids a “buy-in” to learn and perform better. 4) Take small steps and break the “big goal” down into doable steps. 5) Brainstorm obstacles and how they’ll get addressed. If needed, come up with a plan B for achieving that same goal. Remember, goals are flexible and can be tweaked or revised. Let them know it takes time and steps to achieve a goal. 6) Track progress. Make it fun and visual. Tracking in a visible way not only creates interest, keeps the child motivated, helps them own it and recognize their own progress, but will also remind adults to check in/monitor the progress of their goal. 7) Show them, join them. Don’t just tell them to set goals, create/set with them. The process of creating goals is a parenting opportunity and provides moments for connection while instilling hope for success. * #newyear #newgoals #newyearnewgoals #goalsettingforkids #goalsettingforchildren #arttherapist #arttherapy #childtherapist #childtherapy #childrenofdivorce #childrenofabuse #childrenofdomesticviolence #woodlandhillstherapy #woodlandhillstherapist #lmft #mft #atr #ginabalit #theartofmft * https://www.instagram.com/p/CJhtoMdjnfm/?igshid=x3hig07o5zvx

#newyear #newgoals #newyearnewgoals #goalsettingforkids #goalsettingforchildren #arttherapist #arttherapy #childtherapist #childtherapy #childrenofdivorce #childrenofabuse #childrenofdomesticviolence #woodlandhillstherapy #woodlandhillstherapist #lmft #mft #atr #ginabalit #theartofmft

[charlottan]

r/swans similar subreddits list r/cigarettes r/childrenofdivorce r/politicalhumor

[whatamidoinggggg]

#2

I miss the way my family got along but I’m also happy my family expanded

#families #childrenofdivorce #parents #divorce #happy

[midwestnihilist]

I just don’t even know how to function anymore. I’m sick af and my life is falling apart. I thought being 24 meant people would start to like me again, boy I was wrong.

#childrenofdivorce