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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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#christmasclapback For years some of my in-laws campaigned for lineage and questioned me about when we were going to start a family, despite our repeated joint explanations that we weren’t ready yet (for numerous, clearly defined reasons). So, if this is resonating with you now, and you’re dreading a similar inquisition imminently, here is the Christmas clap-back I wish I’d thought of all those years ago. “Thank you for your concern about my readiness to continue your family line, but that’s really a decision for me to make about my own uterus, and I’d appreciate you staying out of it and keeping your opinions to yourself.” Don’t be pressured, because these people may want you to pop out kids to suit their own agenda, but it doesn’t guarantee they’ll love and care for them once they’re born. Check out the horrors my long awaited children endured in Too Relieved To Grieve | The Alternative Heartbreak Handbook: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) Your uterus, your choice, your readiness. The end. #christmas #clapback #youruterus #yourchoice #theend #familypressure #familyexpectations #expectations #startingafamily #havingbabies #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #authors #writer #writersofinstagram #writersmemoir https://www.instagram.com/p/CmjBSx3AOu8/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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zackfare-moved · 10 years

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I GOT TAGGED

By none other than charmingviking one of the first blogs i followed

Do you know any other languages? Are there any you want to learn?

What’s your favorite Christmas movie?

If you were in a RPG game, what type of combat/weapon would your character use?

What’s your favorite type of weather?

Are there any songs you really like that you’d be embarrassed if other people knew you liked them?

Who is your favorite Disney Heroine?

Have you got a New Year’s resolution for 2014?

If you were a Pokémon, which one would you be? If you can’t decide, just pick a type

Did you get anything really awesome for Christmas this year? Did you give anything awesome?

If you could have any superpower, what would you pick?

What’s your opinion on tattoos/piercings/other body modifications?

1: I speak Irish, english and I'm learning german. I'd love to learn italian

2. Arthur Christmas or Rise of the Guardians

3. Most likely a sword or crossbow

4. Snow or sun because Ireland gets none of that

5. Well, all of my friends know about all of my disney songs on my iPod but I guess I'd be embarrased if some of them found out how often I listened to some of the sillier ones I'd be mortified

6. Esmerelda, Kida or Giselle

7. To be nicer

8. OH GOD! I've always loved Gyarados

9. I got a really cool book about all of the marvel superheros and I gave my friend a stetchpad so she can draw her battenberg opession

10. Flying or telekinesis are pretty awesome

11. I haven't really got an opinion

MY QUESTIONS

1. If you could be anything you want what would you be?

2. If the world was ending who would you want to spend your last moments as you battle the zombies/swim through lava?

3. Last movie you saw?

4. Favourite disney/dreamworks/animated character?

5. If you could live in any fandome universe (i.edemigod, sherlock's neighbor, Doctor Who...), what would you pick.

6. If you could swap places with a celebrity, who?

7. Celebrity man crush

8, Celebrity woman crush

9. favourite article of clothing?

10. Favourite quote?

and

11. Favourite things about you <3

#xxfireuserxx #afuckingcastleintheclouds #toorelievedtogrieve #chibinico #ging-ler #bransturk #toinfinityanbeyond1913

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lokihelas · 10 years

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[Hangs up a mistletoe in your inbox] Hope y'don't mind -- Kiss the next 10 people on your dash! [Kisses you]

Aw, this is so cute!

Thank you so much, dear!

#toorelievedtogrieve #asks #nice things #this is freaking adorable

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karanscottcoaching · 2 years

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The Narcissist’s Pattern: sad, hollow and tragic as it is… Phase 1: Idealisation and ‘Love Bombing’ Phase 2: Devaluing and controlling Phase 3: Discarding and fresh meat Rinse and repeat More: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #sleepnomore #ladymacbeth #narcissist #narcissisticpatterns #narcawareness #narcsurvivor #narcissism #narcissists #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents #lovebombing #lovebombingphase #lovebombingisnotlove #devaluingphase #discardingphase #authorsofinstagram #authorlife #authorgram #writersofinstagram #writerlife https://www.instagram.com/p/CfqhoF9IGU6/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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People don’t realise how much strength it takes to pull your own self out of a dark place, mentally. So, if you’ve done that today, I’m proud of you! Well done, keep growing. Karan 💕 Author | https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #iamproudofyou #proud #strength #courage #darkplace #pullyourselfoutofadarkplace #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #beentheredonethat #empathy #ihavebeeninyourshoes #sameboat #beenthere #welldone #goodjob #proudofyou https://www.instagram.com/p/CoVSq7NgAIF/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#iamproudofyou #proud #strength #courage #darkplace #pullyourselfoutofadarkplace #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #beentheredonethat #empathy #ihavebeeninyourshoes #sameboat #beenthere #welldone #goodjob #proudofyou

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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To the newly brokenhearted who need to hear this: This is your reminder to stop looking at them through the lens of who you want them to be, and to instead start looking at them for who they truly are and what they’ve actually done. This is how you can free yourself by letting them go. Don’t cling to a mistake just because you’ve spent a long time making it, your life is waiting. Trust me I know — I’ve been there, done that and clawed back more than I lost. Finding yourself with a person who self sabotages in relationships is a truly painful experience, but please keep in mind they’re re-enacting their past traumas, and it was never about you. Be kind to yourself and let your heart heal. Karan 💕 Author | Too Relieved To Grieve Available now | https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #brokenhearted #rosetintedglasses #mistakes #divorce #breakup #divorcecoaching #divorcecoach #breakupcoach #breakupcoaching #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscott #authorlife #memoir #whattoreadnext #selfhelpbook #heartbreak https://www.instagram.com/p/CoIIfxegOVT/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#brokenhearted #rosetintedglasses #mistakes #divorce #breakup #divorcecoaching #divorcecoach #breakupcoach #breakupcoaching #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscott #authorlife #memoir #whattoreadnext #selfhelpbook #heartbreak

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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Seemingly, my body is not designed for pregnancy and structurally it would appear that I’m held together with Pritt Stick glue. My joints are hyper mobile which resulted in SPD (Symphysis Pubis Disfunction) - an incredibly painful condition ‘down there’ due to the weight and positioning of the baby. This meant from months 4-9 of my pregnancies I was in excruciating agony almost all of the time, including at night, so I barely slept. Then there was labour and the joys of natural childbirth, plus an optional extra of a migraine on top. Yay, go me! Thankfully, the only perk of SPD (for me at least) was hastened 7 hour births, and then all I wanted was to sleep. I had months of painful sleeplessness and exhaustion to recover from, but do you suppose Steve let me sleep? Did he hell… because *he* was tired too. He even held my hand during my daughter’s birth and told me earnestly and emotionally “I’m really going to look after you Karan” - which didn’t ever materialise - as he insisted we took it in shifts (one night on, one night off) to get up and look after the baby; he needed his sleep too you understand. It was cruel and unusual to be sure and felt tortuous at the time, as I was never allowed to fully recover or restore. After a couple of weeks, he went back to work and I was expected to start from where I’d left off, supporting him in his business, like nothing had happened. Whilst the world often stopped for man-flu, I couldn’t dare be ill, or have any time off after e.g.: miscarriages, treatment/surgery or following the death of my dad and more recently my mum. In fact, he left me for Helen three weeks after mum died, and two days after her funeral. So you see why I’m Too Relieved To Grieve now the trash took itself out? Because a catch he ain’t! Oh sure, he’s other c-words I can think of, but none of them are “catch”. Read how this how saga started, progressed and ended in my long awaited memoir Too Relieved To Grieve | The Alternative Heartbreak Handbook, available from Amazon and on Kindle now: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscott #karanscottcoaching #memoir https://www.instagram.com/p/Cn9sCnQNxot/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscott #karanscottcoaching #memoir

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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‘Tis but a flesh wound. Admittedly, only some will get this, but my point is this: resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it's less good than the one you had before. https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #tisbutafleshwound #montypython #montypythonandtheholygrail #blackknight #resilience #mindsetiseverything #mindsetmatters #mindsetcoaching #mindsetcoach #karanscottcoaching #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #author https://www.instagram.com/p/CnIOD7zAR4Q/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#tisbutafleshwound #montypython #montypythonandtheholygrail #blackknight #resilience #mindsetiseverything #mindsetmatters #mindsetcoaching #mindsetcoach #karanscottcoaching #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #author

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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This time ten years ago I was on the cusp of a life changing year, where everything would implode in a haze of pain, betrayal and cruelty. What I didn’t see then, but can see now with the passing of time, is how this was all a heavily disguised golden ticket to a better life… but only if I was prepared to grow through what I went through. Here are just 10 things I’ve learnt in the past 10 years, but #toorelievedtogrieve will tell you everything: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) Here’s to the new decade 🥂 #newyear #newdecade #newmindset #newlife #newbeginnings #goldenticket #betterlife #blessings #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #memoir #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #truestory #reallifeevents #divorcerecovery #divorcesupport #divorcecoach #badbreakup #brokenhearted #acrimoniousband #cruelbastard #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #newauthor #indieauthor https://www.instagram.com/p/Cm6IAt-AIap/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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I couldn’t agree more, and shudder to imagine my world without those whom I’ve met from having written #toorelievedtogrieve. My love of books is epic and, I’m not ashamed to say, bordering on a little weird — but I’m okay with that. How about you? Do you love books a normal amount (whatever “normal” is, please advise), or are you a bit of a weirdo too? Inside my mind, come on in: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #carlsagan #carlsaganquotes #books #bookstagram #bookstagrammer #booksbooksbooks #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscott #knowledge #wisdom #generationalwisdom #selfhelp #selfhelpbooks #bibliophile #reading #readingaddict #readinglist #loveofreading https://www.instagram.com/p/CmROc_jtC_c/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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Sometimes people must be escorted from the VIP section of your life to the cheap seats… or beyond. #relegatethem #cheapseats #vipsection #dontbeafraid #makethechange #boundaries #boundarysetting #boundarymaintenance #selfrespect #selflove #handbookfortheheartbroken #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscott #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist https://www.instagram.com/p/CmHleDgjhEJ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#relegatethem #cheapseats #vipsection #dontbeafraid #makethechange #boundaries #boundarysetting #boundarymaintenance #selfrespect #selflove #handbookfortheheartbroken #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscott #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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Something I’ve come to realise with age, experience and professional training is that in a toxic (in-law) family system, it’s usually the healthiest person who causes friction, because they create resistance within the familiar familial dynamic; leading other members of the dysfunctional herd to feel uncomfortable and triggered. So let’s reframe it, especially if this is resonating with you now. Pause for a moment and consider that the problem may not be there’s something wrong with you, but rather something is finally right with you. And that realisation is an eye-opening game changer. Karan 💕 Author | TooRelievedToGrieve.com KaranScott.com | Cognitive Behavioural Coaching #familydynamics #familymeals #familymatters #inlaws #inlawsfromhell #inlawsfamily #inlawsvisiting #reframe #familyfriction #triggered #familyproblems #familysolutions #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist #cbtcoaching #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscott #selfcare #mindsetshift https://www.instagram.com/p/CldrPzeNZIJ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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FWIW: I don’t distance myself from anyone to teach them a lesson. I distance myself because I’ve finally learnt mine. Read all about it: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #lessons #distance #creatingdistance #selfworth #lifessons #hardlessons #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents #amazonseries #manifesting #success #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #author #newauthor #newauthors https://www.instagram.com/p/ClDp8AwAa4U/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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I saw this flat tyre recently, and it surprised me by eliciting a profound response, from depths unknown, because the only thing that came to mind was “...like marriage to Steve!” — immediately followed by the sound of an imaginary record scratch: wait, what? Think about it. This tyre was once brand new, highly effective and fit for purpose. It did its job well until the wear and tear of life and work took its toll. But clearly the tyre was never rejuvenated or replaced, and so continued to degrade and risk. Now the gamble of peril was being flirted with, because it was only a matter of time before the situation got worse. And things truly did get a lot worse… https://www.toorelievedtogrieve.com/post/our-marriage-was-flat-and-a-fraud-and-we-perpetrated-it-on-ourselves (link in bio) #marriagestory #marriage #marriageproblems #marriage #marriedlife #marriagebreakdown #divorce #midlifecrisis #truestory #memoir #karanscottauthor #blogpost #toorelievedtogrieve #reallifeevents #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #divorcecoach #breakupcoach #lifecoach #divorcecoaching #authorsofinstagram #authorlife #authorgram #authorofig https://www.instagram.com/p/Ck75HRnANUp/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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Always remember who’s watching and being directly affected by what we do. #heal #children #wemustheal #family #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #heartbreak #divorce #breakup #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents https://www.instagram.com/p/Ckyq_OKgZOv/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#heal #children #wemustheal #family #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #heartbreak #divorce #breakup #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents

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karanscottcoaching · 2 years

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It’s taken many years of healing and many hours of professional training to realise that my relationship with Steve was an honest and well-intentioned sham, but it’s incredibly liberating now I’m here because our co-dependent trauma bond was too heavy to carry for much longer. A trauma bond relates to the deep emotional attachment people can feel towards those being abusive and/or negligent, and it's something more likely to evolve in those who have already experienced abuse, exploitation or emotional co-dependency in past relationships. Trauma bonds are commonly misidentified as feelings of love, so here are eight signs for you to consider to suggest that it's not love but a trauma bond you’re dealing with: https://www.toorelievedtogrieve.com/post/it-wasn-t-love-it-was-a-co-dependent-trauma-bond (link in bio) #blog #blogarticle #newblog #blogger #relationshipblogger #codependency #codependencyrecovery #codependenttraumabonds #traumabond #traumabonding #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscott #karanscottauthor #memoir #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottcoaching #lifecoaching #newbookpublished #selfhelpbook #selfhelptips #selfhelptools #nlp #cbtcoach https://www.instagram.com/p/CjfIwloAUfX/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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