#but that doesn't mean that men and non binary people don't face them as well

[nobodybelivesimstraight]

SAIKI K WITH A CRUSH HEADCANNONS

Genre: Fluff, Friends to lovers vibe, saikis awkward ngl.

Wordcount: 1090

Warnings: talk of food(Bullet 12,13,15,16 and 17,) slight implication(but not intended) over-achievement issues(Bullet 18 and 21) btw /j means joke.

E N J O Y:)

Intended for: it's intended for NBLM(Non binary loving men) but no pronouns are used so anyone can read but be respectful and understand this is meant for NON BINARY people. Cause there are also a couple implications that it's for non-binarys so don't be mad.

First and foremost this man could care less about gender heck it's not like he can even see it.

Listen bro we got to start this off by bro never thought he'd ever be even remotely attracted to somebody let alone wanna be in a relationship.

Man would have no clue what to do with himself he's never even thought about liking somebody how could he ever date them.

Never been In a relationship before so like 88% of his knowledge Is from what he's seen in shojo mangas and shows.

No he would not take ANY advice from his friends cause he knows they'd come up with the stupidest things known to man kind.

Thought about asking Teruhashi but decided against it since she would probably think it's a plan to ask her out.

He would probably first developed interest in you because of how normal you are and than after......

I feel like he'd be some what nervous talking to you and would definitely read your mind to see how you feel about him before making any moves Whatsoever.

He will use your mind against you.

But not in a bad way he'll use it to see what you like what you don't and what type of gifts to maybe get you.

Anonymously ofc.

For examples on Valentine's day he'll get you candy he knows you like cause he read your mind.

And on white day since you don't know who gave you the candy you'll put then on your desk hoping the person whom there for gets them. 🔫🤭

Which he does.

Even if he doesn't like the candy he'll still take it.

May even still eat it.

Will leave you little notes saying "thanks for the candy" and/or "I got them thank you".

Sometimes if he notices your having a bad day or nervous for/failed a test he'll go up to you a try to comfort you.

Keyword: Try.

And If you didn't get a good score on a test he'll change for you.

He loves the way your face brightness up when you see you didn't end up being the reason Mrs Chonyun hates her job. (Even though we all know it's nendou).

Will compliment you.

Wether it be about your outfits your intelligence or just random quirks of yours hell compliment it if he feels like it.

Extremely attentive you can't hide anything from this kid(and I mean anything).

If your friends with his friends he'd go to group hang outs with them just to see you(as if he doesn't already get dragged along any ways).

If not he'd probably use clairvoyance to "coincidentally" run into you in the hallways.

Would make the slightest attempt at socialism with you.

He's never been one to initiate conversations so he would be kinda awkward but trys his best.

Would either split or buy coffee jelly with/for you but no he'd never fully give you his. (he doesn’t love you that much/j)

He wouldn't make any moves on you in public cause well..... Privacy.

But In private that's a different story, he'd try all the body languages if man had led lights he'd turn them slightly red you know?

He wouldn't use any pick up lines tho because he thinks there cringy and dumb.

Hes not really the type to shy away from his feelings but he his the type to be completely obvious to what's happening to him.

But dw once he finds out and/or understands he'll make some moves(maybe even say oh wow to you/j yournotTeruhashi)

He'd confess....................Eventually.

Scratch that he'd read your mind and depending on how you think about him and your likeness chart toward him he'd confess(if you don't know it's the chart that was mentioned in the volleyball episode and valentines day episode show how much a person likes you thing).

Again this guy has never been on contact with any romantic feelings for anyone before so he lowkey as no idea what he's doing.

The way he confesses to you is probably by giving you a note to meet him behind the school.

He's blunt.

Like super blunt (it's saiki what did you expect🤨).

The way he confesses is Litterally just a "I like you" in the most monotone voice known to man kind.

And no, against popular belief (apparently) my man saiki here isn't that expressionful.

He's deadarse looking directly into your soul while he confesses his feelings to you.

You say yes cause you love him obviously🔫🙂.

And he hold his hand out for you to hold for a little bit.

He thinks things that require physical contact Ex: holding hands, hugging, hand around shoulder. Things like that are intimate and romantic.

He just wants to touch you tbh.

He then pulls away and offers to walk you home.

You say yes🔫😊.

He walks you home and you two talk about swaggy things like school, cyborg cider man number 2, the kid next door, how dumb his friends can be, how you both are like the only two people in the school who aren't head over heels for Teruhashi.

You know just chillin with each other.

You guys get your house and he waves good bye to you giving you one of his very rare smiles.

He waits till you get inside your house to walk away because there are crazy people out here.

All in all he's happy you like him.

your happy he likes you🔫😃.

You two are a power duo.

◡̈⋆🄷🄴🅈(●’◡’●)ﾉ it's me this wasn't a request I just wanted to to this. I'll probably do a continuation to this about my head-cannons of what dating saiki would be like. Until then have a good day and stay cool bro😎.

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)ᵇᵗʷ thank you for 33 likes on my last post it's highly appreciated. Also this is quite a colorful one cause I like color some kid saw me working on this in a coffee shop and asked if I was gay. I'm not btw I just like✨c O l O r✨

#saiki headcanons #kusuo saiki #saiki x reader #nonbinary #gay gay homosexual gay #gay #saiki x nonbinary reader #lgbtq #nendou riki #anime #crush tag #fluff #saiki fluff #nblm post #kaido #saiki x you #x reader #fandom #fanfic #gn reader #male x gn reader #gender neutral pronouns #gender neutral s/o #gender neutral fanfic #character x reader #stay strapped #:))))) help

[madtomedgar]

Why do so many JGY stans see him as “female-coded”? I get that he’s associated with his mother Meng Shi a lot in the narrative but to me it’s more like he embodies what she could’ve been if she had male privilege.

It's complicated and due to a lot of reasons and, I think, depends on what you mean.

Part of it is generic fandom nonsense that has been around since forever where the smaller/younger guy in any ship is the bottom/girl, and his actual personality gets overwritten to fit into fandom tropes. The narrative makes a big deal out of jgy being smaller and less physically powerful than the other members of his triad, people latch onto this with yaoi goggles, and it gets stupid fast.

Part of it is racism. There's been a trend lately, which i think started with kpop people and has breached containment, of (white, western) tumblr users seeing slim East Asian men with pop star makeup or long hair or purple lighting and deciding they must be feminine, gender non conforming, trans, non binary, ~gender~ or whatever. It's even worse if the guy is shorter and/or has a cute face. Zhu Zanjin has a cute face, his character is small, you see where this is going. And seeing East Asian men as feminine has a long history in anti-asian racism.

Part of it is ignorance/racism. Chinese masculine archetypes are not the same as western ones, and Chinese masculinity doesn't look like western masculinity. The scholar-official is a Chinese masculine archetype (I believe. I may be wrong about this, as I am not Chinese, so please take what Chinese bloggers have to say about this more seriously than what I am saying) and Jin Guangyao seems, to me, to be very much a scholar-official. His hat is extremely masculine/professional (like a necktie) but western audiences just think it's silly or related to his mom. His elegance, delicacy, lack of physical prowess compared to the others around him, read as effeminate to a western audience, but are absolutely masculine in his own context. This happens with nie huaisang a lot too, where because of his flightiness and artyness and specifically his fan, he gets read as effeminate. Fans, however, were a masculine accessory, specifically for the scholar or the artist, which, again, are masculine types. Feels very similar to how bookish Jewish men get read as effeminate by white gentiles, meanwhile The Pinacle of Manhood in Ashkenazi culture has, historically, been the Rabbi or the scholar. But yeah, a lot of it is people not thinking about him in context.

Part of it is that the way he is overlooked, forced to be So Polite to people who are approaching him with violence in order to survive, the people-pleasing, the deference, and, specifically, the way other characters read malicious sexuality into everything he does, when he is doing everything he can to not suggest that and how uncomfortable he is with that, the hypercompetence being taken for granted and overlooked, the working his ass off and getting no credit and then getting chastised when he points that out, the way he's subject to violence by people larger and stronger than him and told "well just don't make them mad," the way he has to be so careful about any hint of sex surrounding his public persona because that is all it will take for people to tear him apart, while not being an experience exclusive to women by any means, is extremely familiar to a lot of women, and so a lot of women and people who caucus with women relate to him in a very particular "oh same hat" kind of way. It's worth noting that none of the other male characters in the story really have this kind of thing going on. It's only him. Some have pieces of this but not the whole thing, so it starts to look specific to something inherent in the character, so.

Part of it is that his character gets a certain shitty treatment from a lot of fandom that you usually only see applied to female characters. Like. People really love to make him a Vamp, a Seductress, a Femme Fatale, a Manipulative Gone Girl Type, a Bitchy Sassy type, and read everything he does in this way. So many """"fix-its""" for him are some variation on "just keep him barefoot pregnant and in the kitchen," but it's "this time he is too busy getting dicked down to scheme," and like... it's weird? This is where you get people talking about the "jin guangyao specific misogyny." because like. He's not a woman, but fandom treats him like a Despised Female Character and it's very weird.

Hope that answers your question.

#untamed stuff #long post #shameless jiggy apologism

[onlyonewoman]

"Either we share a land, or we share a graveyard." I do realise that since I have no ties to the region in any way, I'm an outsider who simply sees both sides and doesn't have a generational trauma reaching back to way before I was conceived, BUT: As someone who was in my late teens during the Al Aqsa Intifada (also called the Second Intifada), starting in 28th September 2000, I really encourage especially YOUNG people who know little or nothing about one of the most drawn out, sore and disgraceful conflicts in modern times. John Oliver does a comedy news show, yes, but he is so INCREDIBLY RESPECTFUL about this topic, showing the way in how we can condemn Hamas without lumping them together with Palestinian civilians and how we can call out the Israeli rightwing extremists without equalising them to Israeli civilians. And one important thing we can do, is to TRY and put us in both side's shoes. To be an Israeli civilian, living with the constant threat of attacks AND the historic, completely horrifying decease of antisemitism, I would assume it being quite difficult to sympathize much with Palestinians due to the Hamas attack. Or, to be a Palestinian civilian, where you and everyone you know, are treated like prisoners in your own land, oppressed by your own government while being bombed and deprived of the most basic needs by the Israeli government. All I can say for certain, is that I wouldn't bet I'd have much sympathy left for the other side, no matter which side was mine. It's the people in power on BOTH SIDES, who out of fanatism, pride, lack of empathy, blood thirst etc. are rolling dice with CIVILIANS on both sides. I applaud the Isralii civilians protesting relentlessly against their corrupt government - and I understand exactly WHY the Palestinians can't do the same. I've heard people asking why Palestinians don't rise and protest like the Israelic people does. It's very, very simple: as an Israeli citizen, you are not risking your literal life for critizising your government. If Netanyahu started killing Israelic protesters, it would be a whole other thing. But a Palestinian who speaks out? Against HAMAS??? I'm sorry, but that's not how a terror organisation works - and both Palestinian AND Israelic leaders are responsible for Hamas taking power. Corrupt, power hungry fanatics on both sides are to blame for the current situation but that doesn't mean we should shrug and turn our backs against the suffering on both sides. Every single civilian who hasn't been a part of any sort of attack on either side in Israel and Palestine, are innocent here. Men, women, non-binary, children. Old, young, rich, poor. The victims in the Kibbutz and festival attacks, as well as the victims in Gaza, WERE INNOCENT. They were people trying to live their lives. And the ones who are left to mourn, hate, despair, hope, long, suffer... they are ALSO INNOCENT. And I want to finish this sad rant with a song from Sabaton, a Swedish heavy metal band who made a record in 2012 with the theme "the great power era", another name for those almost 100 years of more or less constant wars. This song is about the Thirty Years War fought between Protestants and Catholics (and of course, for power and wealth) and the horrors and despair people suffered:

"Two ways to view the world So similar at times Two ways to rule the world To justify their crimes

By kings and queens young men Are sent to die in war Their propaganda speaks Those words been heard before

Two ways to view the world Brought Europe down in flames Two ways to rule...

Has man gone insane? A few will remain Who'll find a way To live one more day Through decades of war? It spreads like disease There's no sign of peace Religion and greed Cause millions to bleed Three decades of war...

When they face death they're all alike: No right or wrong Rich or poor... No matter who they served before Good or bad... They're all the same Rest side by side now..." Listen to it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvdbDw5bXnQ

#israel palestine conflict #last week with john oliver #sabaton #a lifetime of war #Youtube

[xxxjarchiexxx]

trans mras using terms like sex based oppression and socialization with nuance and inclusion of transfems explicitly while calling the basic idea that men oppress women as classes terfy is so insane. like ur right there is nuance when it comes to nonbinary and trans people in the basic man/woman class structure bcuz trans men generally don't assimilate into the man class and multigender people usually are sorted in thr woman class regardless etc* but. that is still how oppressive class structures work!

yes, all trans and nb people are impacted by misogyny/sexism as a group, that doesn't mean men don't benefit YES EVEN TRANS MEN!

like, trans inclusive misogynists exist this sounds bonkers but i have met them in more liberal areas. there's more of a closet afforded to trans men than trans women. the rates of abuse and assault are lower when compared to trans women. in general, socially, trans women are more likely to be ousted from spaces with resources they need for nonreasons, especially when you see how kinks and sex work that are more common among trans women are more likely to lead to social rejection. not to mention, trans women face gendered violence REGARDLESS of if someone views them as their gender. whether they pass or not, they are either seen as a faggot or a woman neither of which is treated well.

trans men are targeted by misogyny and sexism, absolutely, any association with womanhood even a bioessentialist one, is punished systemically. i wonder why. i wonder if it could be due to.... women and other gender minorities being oppressed by a narrow definition of men... almost like men benefit from misogyny.....

*racial hierarchy has a similar nuance for certain groups, like white-presenting mixed people or assimilated MENA people or ethnically jewish people. most of these people wouldn't argue against the idea that white people oppress non-white people though (even if some of them don't act like they believe this, they at least generally wouldn't consciously say this and believe it). this also applies to trans vs cis with cispresenting nonbinary people and nontransitioning people. also queerness in general with closeted people. also any class binary because there will always be things outside a binary but the basic idea of a benefitting class is still true. cruelty alone ISNT the point, there is a benefit to oppressing others

[emeraldspiral]

So I've seen a number of people using different labels to describe what Zim and the rest of the Irken race could be categorized as given that they have no reproductive organs. I've heard people refer to them as trans, non-binary, agender, and genderfluid based on the idea that any gender identity for them would be "an arbitrary choice", particularly since Jhonen claims the only Irken gender is "ASSHOLE" (all caps), yet they still use he/she/they pronouns.

Personally, I feel like intersex describes them pretty well because the definition is not necessarily "having both male and female reproductive organs" but rather "not fitting typical binary notions of male or female bodies". But I've never heard anyone else use that term for Irkens.

I think it's worth noting that reproductive organs aren't the only sex characteristics a person can have and aren't the sole determining factor in whether a person's gender identity can be considered cis or trans. There's also chromosomes and hormones to consider. Even if we take at face value that there's only one Irken gender, that doesn't necessarily mean that all Irkens have XX chromosomes or all XY chromosomes, or XXY, or something else. As far as we know, they have the same amount of chromosome variation as we do. We also know nothing about the T and E levels of any Irkens or if those hormones are even present at all in any of them.

Being intersex doesn't automatically make someone not cis. There are cis women born without vaginas and cis men born without penises just like there are cis and trans people born with missing/extra digits or limbs. So just because Tak and Zim don't have reproductive organs doesn't automatically make any gender they present as non-cis, "arbitrary", or "a choice", anymore than a hysterectomy makes a cis woman no longer cis. Zim could have XY chromosomes and Tak could have XX chromosomes, or Zim could be XX and Tak could be XY. Whether their gender presentation does or doesn't match social expectations could depend on which planet they're on, and even if there really is only one Irken gender, they could still experience dysphoria and take T or E to alleviate it.

So yeah, I'd say as far as canon goes, Irkens are intersex but intersex ≠ trans/nb/agender/genderfluid/other non-cis identity by default.

I do think Commander Poki could be trans though, given that she appears to appears to present as female, yet has the straight antenna associated with male Irkens rather than the curly antenna seen on every other female Irken.

#invader zim #happy pride month

[shellsinadune]

feeling some type of way about my gender presentation and how people perceive me.

bc like. i don't shave, i don't wear makeup, i don't paint my nails - in fact, i bite them. on paper i present more masculine than feminine. my haircut is based off 60s boybands and 70s mens fashion, my outfits have an oxbridge law school boys club vibe mixed with small town grocer or fisherman, beyond basic hygiene - which i struggle with - i only really have a stripped down skincare routine (2 steps) and i take care of my hair 'like that' (perceived femininely, but is actually really basic) because it's curly. the only thing i choose that can be called traditionally feminine about me is that i wear skirts and dresses (and interesting silhouettes that Manly Men have decided are Banned). which i wear because trousers cause issues with my kneecaps when i sit and i'm sitting all the time.

so why the FUCK am i constantly called feminine. whether it's cis people always misgendering me femininely, my own fucking parents deciding not to use my pronouns because they 'thought [i'd] grown out of it', people online calling me and people like me theyfabs, or well meaning people within the community calling me fem-aligning. it's inevitable.

and what's frustrating is i know why. it's because it's on my body. it doesn't matter, i could be the most masculine masc to ever masc but this would all still happen to me. because it's my body, and my body reads as feminine. because i have a large enough chest that the fairisle patterns i love wearing bulge in a way that makes people think 'woman'. because my jawline is small and my eyes are large, my hair that was unique and cute when mickey dolenz did it or rugged and cool when mick jagger did it (depending on how much i need a haircut) looks girlish on me. i just don't have the face or the body for masculinity. it can't read as anything other than soft butch, if i really tried with all my might to be masculine enough, or neutral-feminine if i want to be comfortable physically.

ofc, being disabled affects this. i'm infantilised constantly, which doesn't help. many of my mannerisms and ways of existing (posture being hunched, movements often elegant-looking*, comfort items i carry with me, my higher pitched humming tics, my instability when i walk, the way i defer to the person with me, the fact that i care about fashion at all given how visibly disabled i am, my voice - both aac and throat) read as 'young girl trying to be grown up' more than adult non binary person trying not to be misgendered again.

i can't bind because of my disabilities (i've tried everything). packing is literally useless because i'm sitting down anyways. the only hope for things to change is surgery, and i can't organise appointments or get the insurance to pay for it, and i obviously can't save the money myself because i don't have a job.

i just wish more people took into account that like. sometimes features do actually make certain things impossible. for me, dressing the way i want is more important than not getting misgendered. because that happens to me anyway and i would prefer to be happy in myself than wear a hoodie and jeans (nothing wrong w that, just not for me) just to make people see me masculinely and have people still not respect me.

im just conflicted because the 'clothes don't have genders' people will say 'it's ok to present femininely' and that's true and cool but i literally DON'T????? i dress neutrally and everyone else has decided that wearing a skirt, even a brown tweed skirt with a pleat down the middle that looks like trousers, is inherently high femme. i'm barely even gnc, it's just that masculine clothes don't read as masculine on my body because it's my body. it curves in a way that is only ever read as feminine.

*by this i mean that my wrist weakness looks like i'm gesturing gracefully, my pinkie finger mcp joints hyperextend in a way that looks like i'm always drinking tea in a posh way, i normally cross my legs below the knee, etc.

#/not about anyone here #sorry just needed to get that out #negative #disability tag #?? sort of

[fictofaggot]

Hi! im assuming you're trying to learn as well, so here a trans man in your inbox re:transmisandry. it's Actually A Real Thing, people just hate the words we use and that's a big part of it. One of the biggest issue trans men face is our invisibility and non-trans people don't Get that, this also includes debating whether or not we Should use the words we use and if we even suffer from oppression at all. They don't want us to have words to define our struggles, just like when they didn't want ace or nonbinary people to not have theirs, because it's not real enough/we're privileged/etc.

People often forget that our "trans" comes before our "men" BUT that we suffer from transphobia SPECIFICALLY because we're men because if we weren't men we wouldn't be trans, duh! Also we aren't in the same space of power as cis men because no matter how well we pass, we're always one slip up alway from losing our "man" status so you REALLY can't say we're at the same level or privileged for Becoming Men. We aren't part of the oppressors and we don't benefit from the system as much as people think we do. The moment we decide to transition we Lose whatever "privileges" we had from our agab and we never quite gain full access to the perks of the other binary one.

Surprisingly enough, we also suffer from misogyny (although people ignore that we do) because society mostly thinks we're just Women Who Are Wrong, but we accept that we can't really use the term transmisogyny for ourselves. So we can't use that one. So what can we use to talk about our own specific struggles then? We need our words, even if people don't like them. There's too many people speaking for us. Listen to US (trans men) when we say we suffer, not to Other people with Opinions.

I don't mean any ill intent with this btw, just that you seen like a nice person who reblogged some misinformation. That's all.

just putting it out there that i am a trans man. so. i don't really need to be treated as what you say is "Other people with Opinions", cause this comes from like, my own experience

i don't claim to think that trans men don't experience specific types of transphobia at all. clearly they do, and it would be more than a little stupid to claim otherwise.

most of the issue i have is just... the word itself. again, transmisogyny as a term describes an intersection between two types of oppression, misogyny and transphobia. transmisandry, on the other hand, says that there's an intersection between transphobia and... misandry. which is widely agreed to be something that does not exist? as far as i'm aware?

and so if something does not exist, how can there be an intersection with it? i struggle to understand the reasoning.

the fact that i dislike the term as it is does not mean i think trans men are "privileged for Becoming Men". i don't think that at all. you do not suddenly become an oppressor once you transition into manhood... that doesn't make any sense whatsoever. trans men are still oppressed on the basis of being trans. trans men still face specific forms of oppression. just... maybe it's not best described as transphobia interacting with something that isn't real, once again.

i really think you should've just read the post you claim is misinformation.. it explains basically the same thoughts i have? like, even down to the example of the term misogynoir not having a white woman counterpart. it's the same concept in my mind.

but, all in all, i don't really care. love and light and peace on earth. i love trans people

#discourse #<- for blacklisting purposes iguess #ilike how it was just immediately assumed iwasnr a trans man just because idont like the term lol

[gettin-bi-bi-bi]

Hi, sorry idk where else to send this but…. I resent transmasculine people and idk what to do about it. I dont want to be TERF and I was hoping that you could help me “deconstruct” the things that make me resent them. I am aware that most of the mods of this blog are transmasculine and im sorry, I don’t want to offend either of you.

Anyway, I resent them because i feel “betrayed” by them, like they’re leaving women to deal with misogyny alone (and no, it doesn’t help if they’re also “feminists” because they still ran away from the problems women have to face, like catcalling and being more likely to get r*ped). I don’t like that most of them get away with adquiring male privilege just because they’re trans. I know being trans is not easy and not a choice by anyone of any gender identity but it still feels unfair that they get all the benefits cis men get while women still have to deal with being women all their lives.

They also make me feel bad about being a woman (well, i’m nonbinary…. A nonbinary woman, or demigirl. These are all labels i use for myself, but at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter since I don’t plan on transitioning or changing my pronouns. I’m basically just a weird cis woman). Like, reading posts about them having to deal with dysphoria makes me feel offended. I know it’s not about *me* but I can’t help it. This is my biggest issue actually, rather than being bitter about the potential privileges they might have for being men (or wanting to pass as men, in the case of many transmasculine people). I feel i can get over the other things easier because the disadvantages of being trans are more than the possible perks of it (for cis people ofc. For trans people it’s not the case obviously). Like, posts about dysphoria or happiness because they don’t longer look like women makes me *extremely sad* and also bitter because they have the liberty to be something else that what they were born as.

I hope all of this makes sense and i hope i didnt offend anyone. I don’t know where else to write this that i wont be insulted :(

You know... what you say is offensive but I am glad you are daring to write it somewhere because this is something that you absolutely have to deal with if you don't want to be an asshole!

You have definitely internalised a loooot of transphobic bullshit and though that's maybe not all your fault, it is certainly your responsibility to work through that and change your mindset. You are doing transmasc people a huge disservice AND yourself, too, because to me it sounds a lot like you are speaking from a place of jealousy and insecurity about your own gender.

Other trans people living their lives and talking about their experiences, their gender dysphoria and euphoria, their transition process and whatever does not take anything away from you. If transmasc stories offend you then ask yourself "what is it in those stories that makes me feel so personally attacked? why does this feel like it is about me?" - maybe that's a good way to star, to be honest. You say you "know it's not about me but I can't help it". Well, maybe some of it is about you and you need to work out what it is and find out what that means for you and your gender.

The fact you say you're "just a weird cis woman" when you also say you are non-binary is a huge indicator to me that you struggle immensely with your own gender identity and the whole coming-out process about that. So advice number 1 would be to get help for that. Talk to other non-binary people, try to get gender counselling if that's available where you are, work through these issues of internalised transphobia that you are very clearly also directing at yourself.

And then you have some big ass unlearning to do about the transphobia you have sucked up. A lot of things you are saying are 100% coming from TERF and radfem circles. Point number 1 is that being a man (cis or trans, doesn't matter) is not a bad thing. Men are not inherently bad people, whether they have been assigned male at birth and always identify as a man or they realised later that they are men. This is an immovable fact that you have to accept. Men are not bad (and by extension: women aren't inherently good and innocent.) If you believe that men are somehow worse people than women by nature then you have bought fully into radfem ideology and gender essentialism and you need to keep shutting that voice down.

And the whole idea that trans men somehow magically have male privilege only works under a very simplistic idea of how privilege works. Do you really think that a trans man is holding the same power in a patriarchal society as cis men? When trans men are also often victims of "corrective rape", in many places don't have access to HRT or gender-affirmative surgery or can only legally change their name and gender if they get sterilised. Do you genuinely think this is what privilege looks like? Educate yourself about the struggles that transmasculine people go through. And not just all the negative shit. Also learn about how they understand gender and masculinity. Read their stories and learn what manhood means to them. Learn about ways to be masculine outside of toxic masculinity and see that being a man has just as much potential to be good and beautiful as being a woman.

Trans men don't "betray" anyone by "leaving womanhood". I, as a cis woman, don't feel betrayed by people living their true self and being, living, expressing the gender that they truly are. Trans men are men. And like any person of any gender they have the ability to be feminists or allies, they can be great people or they can be assholes. Every human has the ability to be a misogynist and every human can try their best not to be. This isn't different for any gender. It's a myth (again, created and perpetuated by radfems) that trans men are just ~confused weak lesbians who take the easy way out by becoming men~. If you find yourself believing that narrative then again: you have fallen for radfem talking points.

You need to seriously reflect on where you got all of these ideas about transmasculinity from in the first place. You have got to have picked it up somewhere. I'd take a wild guess and say a lot of that was online (Twitter? Tumblr? tiktok?). Maybe it's time for a radical clear-out of the accounts you follow. Algorithms tend to keep showing you similar things to the content you've already consumed and it's dangerously easy to get radicalised that way. So if you really want to break out of this bigotry - for transmasc people's sake and your own - then think long and good about where the sources are for those beliefs and cut them out! Educate yourself, reflect, reflect, reflect, work on your own gender issues and learn to love yourself and not blame transmascs for your own insecurity.

Maddie

P.S.: I am the only cis person on this blog and of course if any of the other mods want to say something then I'd be happy to hear your thoughts. I also understand if you do not want to chime in though.

#transphobia

[levihantrash]

levihan | queer headcanon (happy pride month!)

CW: mild queerphobia / misgendering but it's mostly just levihan being wholesome

most people assume Levi to be gay, because he hasn't expressed interest in women, so he must be gay. because apparently, no other terms exist that could possibly label him.

Levi, regardless of many of the survey corps' needless speculations, has not expressed interest in men either.

most people assume that Hange is too invested in titans to want to date anyone, so they must be titan-sexual.

people often just call Hange "she" (hange doesn't mind), or "he" if they're trying to be funny, and "they" if they actually just asked what pronouns Hange prefers.

Hange attracts more attention in terms of their gender because they're more gender non-conforming than what "women" are supposed to look like. what looking like a "woman" really means, nobody really knows or has the answers to.

someone once said to Hange, "you look too manly."

Hange responded quickly and deftly, "manly enough to hit you in the face?"

Hange gets tired of the questions so they ask Levi why people are so bothered.

Levi shrugs and says that people must be really eager to know what goes into their pants at night.

Hange would much prefer if people would just ask them about their titan research.

Levi, sensing Hange's growing frustration, asks them if they ever felt uncomfortable with the questions.

Hange simply says that they didn't even know that there was a problem with how they looked until people kept bugging them

Levi doesn't get questions about his masculinity, but he does get the occasional jokes about height. but because he's deemed as humanity's strongest soldier, nobody dares to make (too much) fun of his stature. he cares a little about the comments (he's human, after all). Hange never calls him a shorty, and for that, he is kind of grateful.

Levi insults Hange a lot (nobody taught him to say nice things), but it's always about their messy, disorganised, whimsical nature. other than their short-sightedness, Levi says nothing about Hange's appearance. for that, Hange is grateful.

Levi has no qualms putting on an apron and bandana and gloves to clean. all the men who brag about groveling in dirt and having their wives clean after them can shit themselves.

Hange doesn't expect Levi to clean their space but he does it anyway. some corps call it simp behaviour, but to him it's one of the few ways he knows how to extend care and concern to someone important to him. besides, Hange remembers to get him tea every time they go out. one time is a coincidence, but every time is a solid friendship move.

some of the corps ask if they'll ever date each other, and before either of them can respond, the corps decide that both of them probably aren't attracted to anyone.

the truth is, Levi really doesn't care. Hange could be a really tall man, a non-binary disaster, or a big-breasted woman, and he'll probably still find time of the day to spend time with them. what else could he do but find himself drawn to a brilliant, kind creature? plus, it's cute when they smile. not that that's important.

for Hange, Levi is just a really grumpy person filled with unexpected loyalty and emotion, and thinks that the best part of him is his unwavering belief in helping humanity. undoubtedly, he is the most stable presence in their life. in the overdrive that is Hange's mind, that is the highest compliment. plus, it's cute when he smiles, but they always end up teasing him instead of well, kissing him.

in the end, the corps agree that they're both so abnormal (you mean, non judgemental, awkward queer beans) that they belong together.

A/N: in this head canon, Levi and Hange are both queer. i use "queer" because i personally identify with the term, as someone who is quite content with the ambiguity of queerness and also because i don't really want to define exactly what sexuality / gender identity Levi and Hange are. all i know in this head canon is that they're not str8s! i know many people also give Hange other pronouns and that is cool too! isayama said anything goes so we all win´ ▽ ` )ﾉ

gentle reminder that a straight-presenting relationship doesn't mean the people are straight (✿◠‿◠)

happy pride everyone!

#aot #my writing #levi and hange #levihan #just fulfilling my own fantasy don't mind me #aot headcanons #im sure there are homophobes in the military #happy pride 🌈 #levi x hange #levi x hanji #hange x levi #levi #hange #levi ackerman #hange zoe #head canon #snk #shingeki no kyojin #attack on titan #queer #lgbtq

[livebloggingmydescentintomadness]

OK but what you said about pronouns is..... Me lmao like she/her is just what I've been called and they/them doesn't feel right and neither does he/him like maybe they/them could work but like.... The amount of effort involved with they/them pronouns is insane like and its such a small amount of people with those pronouns so not only have I gotta deal with my own stuff to do with they/them and how that still doesn't feel actually right I've also gotta deal with others?????? Like honestly people who go by they/them are so brave and have more patience than I've ever possessed in my entire life.

I've honestly thought I was cis but maybe I'm non binary??? Like I've not for as long as I can remember (which is since I was like 13??) properly felt like I'm female I just didn't know what it was I felt??? Like sometimes I feel male sometimes female sometimes I'm like gender sucks it's weird but yeah I just never really thought maybe I'm non binary until I read your post and went.... Fuck that's me

Honestly tho when anyone calls me woman or girl or lady I'm like ew inside tbh and idk maybe I am non binary but idk and I won't be changing pronouns as I don't have that kinda patience with others or myself tbh

i understand you completely, hon. i don’t really feel like a she, but i also have zero drive to be referred to as ‘they’, so the effort just doesn’t wouldn’t have much reward to it. apparently it means a lot to those who put so much energy and work into telling others to call them ‘they’, and i respect that completely but i just don’t feel it myself.

and yes, i had much the same experience. i was a ‘tom girl’ as a child because i hated wearing skirts or being given dolls, i liked dinosaurs and whales and bugs and lots of other things that were more ‘boy’ things. thank god my mom never forced me to do anything except wear dresses for formal occasions. 

when i was teenager, some well-meaning ladies at my church basically forced a ‘makeover’ on me and put me in makeup and a skirt and heels and i really tried to go with it for a while because everyone was so complimentary, but inside i just hated it. makeup feels unnatural on my face, like it’s wrong for it to be there. i mean, a touch of eyebrow pencil is fine, but lipstick and mascara? i viscerally hate them. they feel wrong. and women’s clothes are so fucking uncomfortable. i hate wearing shoes that pinch, i hate low-cut tops, i hate skirts, and i still don’t like pink. even long before i knew i was queer, i remember looking at the way ellen degeneres dresses and thinking i’d like to wear clothes like that - nice but relaxed pants, shirts, vests, flat shoes.

eventually i just said fuck it, even before i knew i was nonbinary. i went back to men’s clothes and shoes, i shaved my head into a mohawk, i don’t care what anyone thinks. i honestly feel zero attachment to any ‘female’ parts of my body; if it was cheap and easy, i’d just as soon get rid of my breasts and uterus, they just cause me trouble. being called a ‘girl’ never bothered me too much, but when i reached adulthood and suddenly it was woman... yeesh. i don’t like that. feels really uncomfortable.

it took me ages of wrestling around with concepts, but finally the way i managed to describe it is that i feel like a genderless being that was issued a female ‘suit’ to wear, but i don’t feel like it has anything to do with ME. by living in the suit and being grouped with women and subjected to a lot of female experiences, i feel more female than male, but not like that gender is actually me, the soul inside this flesh.

i also have a masculine aspect, which i largely chalk up to the fact that the meat suit has elevated levels of testosterone. i’ve said that if the feminine is the suit i wear, then the masculine is like a hat on top of it. it’s not dominant, but it’s there. it’s pretty common that i have dreams where i’m a man (even that i have a penis, which is a weird experience), and sometimes i’m more comfortable around men just because of how excessively gendered femininity is. like when people make being female all about makeup and hair and clothes and shoes, i’m really like... i think i’m just gonna go hang out with the guys. i can relate more to them than whatever the hell this is.

for ages i thought i was a “bad” girl, because femininity just felt so alien to me. i tried to force myself in the mold but i didn’t fit, so there must be something wrong with me. even when i learned about being trans and nonbinary, i didn’t get it, because i didn’t want to be a man either, and i couldn’t connect with the drive to be a totally androgynous ‘they’. none of the labels i saw described me exactly.

eventually i figured out that i didn’t have to find an exact label or fit an exact mold, i could just be whatever i am and that’s okay. i go by ‘nonbinary’ because it’s nonspecific, and use ‘she/her’ cause i don’t really care and nothing else fits better. i don’t have to follow any other pre-set rules, i can just be as androgynous as makes me comfortable, and i can sit with the guys or the girls depending on who i relate to more at any one time.

so yeah, i’d say you’re probably nonbinary, but i also don’t think you need to stress about it too much if you’re comfortable the way you are. sometimes the most important thing is just knowing there isn’t anything wrong with you.

#personal #gender #nonbinary #anonymous #ask

[trashcatsnark]

Trivia about my V~!

Saw this going around and wanted to join in, I believe this was first done by @neonsamurai !!~

🌼 Her full name is Aidan Violetta Becker

🌼 The gif is of her face claim and the picture is of the look i use for her in game. Her face claim is more of what I imagine but probably a bit of an amalgamation of the two.

🌼 Birthday is November 13th, scorpio girl. She's also twenty years old at the start of the game events, because idk I liked that CDPR nearly made V a fetus and just went with it. She turns twenty-one with Johnny in her brain though.

🌼 Bisexual/Pansexual, she doesn't really have a preference for one term over the other. They both mean the same to her, she's attracted to men, women, non-binary people; really anyone who catches her eye.

🌼 That being said, she has never had a real romantic relationship and insists she isn't interested in one, feeling she just isn't emotionally functional enough or plain good enough to have a deeper relationship than sex.

🌼Though she's also enamored with the idea of romance and love, she just doesn't think she could ever have it.

🌼She is a nomad...technically, born into a Raffen Shiv "clan" that called itself The Herd.

🌼She ran away when she was 17, following her mother's death.

🌼She is profoundly deaf. She has an autoimmune disease that went untreated and completely destroyed her inner ears by the time she was nine.

🌼She communicates predominantly in sign language, only people very close to her get to hear her talk verbally on a regular basis.

🌼She uses hearings aids as well as various tech items to get across barriers with communication. Hearings aids, devices to translate her signing into an AI voice, and optical contacts or devices to help with lip reading and giving the world subtitles. (she sometimes doesn't like to wear her hearing aids, cause they can get irritating and she actually does prefer the quiet/silence)

🌼Is very squeamish regarding cyberware, her nomad family didn't believe in using it, she doesn't end up with any until Night City. And went into a panic attack the first time Vik tried to you know, remove her eyes. They settled for optic contacts, functions very similarly, but with some limited capacities.

🌼The Konpeki Heist actually is what pushes her to get her first weapon oriented cyberware, not wanting to be stuck without a weapon if something went wrong.

🌼Has major guards up, always, struggles to let people get close for a lack of trust and fear of them not liking what they see. She just doesn't feel like she's worth a whole hell of a lot.

🌼Stubborn as all hell.

🌼Multiple piercings in her ears, tongue piercing, nipple piercings, and belly button piercing.

🌼No tattoos until Johnny's night out.

🌼Has a lot of freckles and moles, she blames years of being under the sun in The Badlands. She's a little insecure about her moles specifically.

🌼 Hair is bleached, her hair is naturally a very dark brown. Blonde is her favorite look right now, but she's tried out many different ones over the years.

🌼Mostly wears black and has an "edgy" look but she loves bright electric blue, the color she paints her nails usually, (she does switch it up occasionally)

🌼She loves some very cute things despite her aesthetic. When she's just vibing in her apartment she'll wear like cute cat socks and silly things like that. Or has a sunny yellow daisy bedspread, little unexpected things like that.

🌼She would die for any animal and will get entirely too excited when she sees one.

🌼Still gets shocked by some of the more raunchy ads and sexual displays in Night City or how open and vulgarly some folks (Johnny) talk about their sex life. While not chaste and a very sexual person, she's very much a don't kiss and tell type.

🌼Textbook definition of "looks like she could kill you, but is actually a cinnamon roll." (if you ignore the murdering she does do)

#cyberpunk 2077 #cp2077 #aidan becker #aidan v becker #there is probaby way too much stuff here

[bisexualdiaries]

On Relationships - The Bisexual Experience

"While I don't often use the word, the technically precise term for my orientation is bisexual. I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have 'chosen' is to be in a gay relationship." ~ Cynthia Nixon

Something I've noticed in learning about the spectrum that is sexuality, is how differently individuals are perceived as opposed to couples. Of course, the sexuality of others isn't necessarily our business and isn't something we should wonder about for too long - be it a stranger or a partner - but it's a given that there's straight-passing couples: couples that consist one man and one woman - looks very in-the-norm and don't get stares, however one or both partners might belong in the LGBT community. It's easy to not get many questions asked about your sexuality if you're a girl in a relationship with a boy or vice versa, and in a way there's people that see that as an edge or a flex, while others see it as a privilege bisexual, pansexual and even some asexual people get unduly. It makes many question whether bisexuality is a legitimate inclusion in the LGBT community, since we not only get to "choose," but because of how common bi-curiosity is.

It's not unheard of for straight and gay people to explore relationships with other genders. Besides homosexual people navigating their way out of heterosexual relationships earlier on in their discoveries, there's also straight people that try options, love to mess around and experience new things. And this leaves for a huge crowded area that bisexuals have to learn to weave through in discovering themselves. It feels almost like you share a home with what acts as a rest stop/transition area for others. As an individual, this can be very intimidating, especially if you're shy and insecure - when I was still learning to accept myself I used to have this constant thought that "everyone can be bisexual, it doesn't mean anything, you just have to pick a side," and I found myself thinking repeatedly that it was okay as long as I pick hetero - yah right, like that changes anything. Not only were those thoughts self-depreciating, they also pushed this heteronormative agenda, like you can escape telling your parents and friends about your sexuality as long as you "act normal," which... is invalidating to the struggles of an entire community of people.

More and more you see bisexual people trying to make a claim for themselves in the LGBT community or escape the biphobia faced not only from straight people but also queer peers, there was the introduction of the term "bi-lesbian" that basically means that, as a woman, you are sexually attracted to two or more genders but only see yourself in a romantic relationship with a woman, which is very inconsiderate to the lesbian community and something I can get into in another post. But the way I see it, I won't blame someone for trying to define their sexuality in a more solid way, especially in fear of how you would be viewed in a relationship. In a homosexual relationship, it is not odd to find one or two homosexual people that would turn down a romantic partner solely on the basis of them being bisexual. There's this idea that they may be a straight person simply "trying out the lifestyle" or "following a trend," and so homosexual people may not feel comfortable confiding in such a person (which, technically speaking, is a genuine fear, but should never be discouraged). Imagine, even worse, coming out while in a homosexual relationship. There's the fear that your partner, if they come out as bisexual, may use that as a means to escape a gay relationship or an excuse to cheat.

On the other end of the spectrum, navigating heterosexual relationships is definitely not easy. Bisexual people aren't fully accepted in the straight world as well, as their identity is constantly being invalidated, being referred to as a "phase," being looked at as irresponsible. promiscuous or simply lackadaisical. There are many people in long-term romantic/sexual relationships that wonder if there's even a point of saying anything. Why bother entertaining the thoughts if they just cause you distress, like there's nothing you can do about it? Well I'm happy to tell you that there is. While I am also struggling with seeing the need to come out of my shell, I know that there is some importance that reaches out beyond you as an individual. Firstly it helps with bi-visibility and tackling bi-erasure and in helping to represent an entire community of individuals. There are many bisexual icons that are not regarded as "good enough" icons for the LGBT community, despite those being the only icons disposable for bisexuals. This very actively contributes to bi-exclusivity, something Lady Gaga touched on in her WorldPride address at Stonewall. There's hardly people to look up to and hardly any advice to follow in navigating your sexuality. It also helps tackle heteronormativity. No, you are not "more normal" because you are in a relationship with a man, you are still attracted to women, and there are people just like you that end up in a relationship with women or a non-binary person, and trying to rule those out as possibilities is homophobic at best.

I'd like to quickly add that while I used mainly men and women as basic examples in this, bisexuality is not limited to the attraction to those two genders in particular, but spans across other genders/sexes. Navigating this is important for building a sense of self, because it means not all bisexuals have the same experience or are attracted to the same community of people - and even when they are, it may not be to the same proportions. In other words, the only person responsible for defining your experience is yourself, not the media or biphobic queer people or biphobic straight people or other bisexual people or your friends or even your romantic partner. It's left to you. Hope this helps.

- a struggling bisexual

#lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtpride #lgbt couple #biseuxal #bisexuality #bisexual couple #cis #straight passing #asexual #lgbt history #pansexuel

[witchshork]

Who I am

So discovering who you are as a person is hard if you're not a straight cis white dude which I'm not. I've been raised in a very femistic household, in the most positive way. My family always empowered me and my sister. We were always encouraged to form our own opinions. But there's one thing that I struggle with and that's that all members of my family are cis and straight.

I knew for a long time that "heterosexual' wasn't me. But not because of the 'hetero' that wasn't difficult for me to find "yeah no I dont care". But what I was struggling with for a long time was "sexual".

I never connected with my classmates over that one hot boy, or over several people talking about their first time. I always thought everything that had to do with sex was just either lies or way over dramatised. When I finally discovered that there were others who felt like me I had just started dating my first person.

I was so happy I had a word "Asexual". Later on I changed from bi-sexual to panromantic. I felt so happy.

So my family is sweet and loving but also super hetero. The only person who I had a nice coming out with was my mother. I told after I broke up with my first person. She told me "I'm glad you found something that makes you feel comfortable." but in the same breath she talked to me how I could change and she wished that I didn't dislike or shame myself if I ever changed. So it wasn't a sort of "it's just a phase or you haven't met the tge right person thing" she just knew about my history of self hatred and didn't want me to go back.

But the rest of my family don't know, I mean they do but they don't. If you'd ask them what I was they'd probably say "bi". It's frustrating.

And now I've discovered something more. I've been thinking for so long. But again it's not something people will get. It won't change anything. And then there's the gate-keeping and general problems when you're not fitting neatly into a well known box.

So I've never thought that female was wrong for me. I've never thought that I'm not a girl, but I've also thought how I don't like to think of myself as a male either. Case closed, is probably what my family thinks or others.

I've said to others whom I treasure that I wouldn't call myself trans, because I respect and want to support everyone who's not accepted by society, I'm there with you. I'm an ace-pan on the autistic spectrum people have been ignoring me and treating me like I'm a lesser since I was small. I don't want anyone to feel like who they are is wrong. I hate the idea that trans people have to pass. And that's exactly why I've always just been like "my feelings aren't important"

I met a non-binary person last year, they became my best friend and roommate. I love them so much. And slowly the knot in my chest was loosening. I talked to them of how I was dsgusted with my chest. I've had this for a long time but always talked it down like "my hatred of my chest obviously isn't as bad as (other trans men/ non-binary people I know who have chest disphoria) because I was scared. I'm not saying that anyone's feelings about anything measure up to eachother. Measuring ypur feelings against others is just wrong. I was invalidating myself. That's not a good thing to do.

I discovered that I would like to use "they" as well as "she" but it's not like I can tell my family. Not that I'm scared, it's more like it would not make a difference to them. I'm still a girl and I'm not a boy so this doesn't change anything and they'd probably go like "what even is that" at me like they said when i came out as asexual.

So I don't want to put a box around me, though I like 'demi-girl' or bi-gender. I've been wishing for years to have a flat chest, and I've liked it when people mistook my gender. I liked that I confused others. That they couldn't bunch me in a box.

But to the people i love the most there's no point in telling them.

I absolutely hate the idea of a beard in my face (because of cosplay) I hate the idea. I have cosplayed both gandalf and cullen Rutherford and I just will not glue a beard to my face or paint it on me.

So I guess this was to say. I won't say I'm trans. But I'm also not cis.