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Bumping My Head Into U So Cutely Until Blood

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#oh fuck yes

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(≈ㅇᆽㅇ≈)♡ﾟ+*:ꔫ:*﹤

#omg i love her #shes so cute

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We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

#i read a deranged amount #this is a slow month for me and ive read like 6 ? books?

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one important thing that Must be understood about interpersonal relationships is that you have to stop interacting with people who love you like they’re one slip-up away from leaving you. you have to trust that the ppl you love mean what they say. you have to believe that when they say “this hurt my feelings,” that they’re also saying, “can you please love me this other way next time?” and you have to wrap your head around the fact that even if you don’t understand Why someone loves you, you can accept that that they do. true, honest, & open love does not function like hp in a video game !!!!!!

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A constant thing I run into with the "actually everyone is a victim of transmisogyny" crowd is this vague argument of "what if a tme person is confused for a trans woman" and I'm like. Well that's misgendering. Transphobia likely. Kinda depends the situation, but what exactly happened in the situation that makes it transmisogyny? "They think they're a trans woman" again, that's just misgendering. And it becomes this loop. They can never tell me what specifically in the interaction was transmisogyny. "I get mistaken as a trans woman all the time!" Ok but what are they saying? What are they doing? Misgendering alone isn't transmisogyny. Just being perceived as a trans woman in a scenario doesn't mean transmisogyny is happening. It doesn't overwrite who you are. I used to get mistaken as a trans man on this site pretty often back in the day, am I suddenly not a trans woman? Of course not. So why would such a thing change your interaction with transmisogyny? What are you claiming to experience?

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Not to harp on about the "would you tell your friend they could be a trans woman" poll more but another result of it we saw that I don't think has been mentioned as much is how bio essentialist ideals are really prominent in those transandrophobia/transmisandry/"everyone is affected by transmisogyny" groups. Trans women consistently got hit with "I wonder why afab people would be afraid to tell a cis man he's acting like a woman" from transmascs and it's like 1) it's declaring that men are inherently violent, a talking point you'd think these people who are so anti misandry wouldn't want to support 2) it's grouping cis women with transmascs and vice versa, the implication is trans women are violent "cis men" before coming out and 3) the hard push for that friend definitely being a cis man, as if that's how gender works. If that friend is someone you consider a friend and think might be a trans woman (again this is the premise of the poll, it's not random cis men in the wild) why are you pushing so hard they're a cis man. It feels like you're deciding their gender for them, not the people saying "hey transfems do this."

It's just very clear these groups have foundational terf talking points. All men (read: trans women) are inherently bad and inherently violent and you can never try to tell someone they can choose to get a woman.

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Reblogging would be a great help, but don’t feel pressured to

#1 or 3

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I really deeply hate how the correct statement "using man-hating as a cover for transmisogyny is awful and you need to be able to recognize when that's being used as a dogwhistle" has somehow evolved into "misandry is real and that's why terfs are wrong" like no I don't think it is. Can we please retire Not All Men I can't do this

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NEWJEANS BUBBLE GUM

#this was soooo cutem

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"Playboy's idea of woman was a naked fairy-tale princess: a young, dumb, defenseless, trusting, easily manipulated woodland creature. She gave herself entirely because she was too inexperienced to know any better. She was a fresh animal, well-washed with soap and water. She could not learn, grow, or change. She could not really exist in a temporal sense. All she could do was to try to preserve and display herself. Experience made her difficult. It got her banished to her witchy cottage in the forest. She had to remain a dumb bunny, an unconscious body, frozen in time and preserved in amber, for as long as she could in order to survive. The 'sexy lady' is the only kind of lady that openly exists in the sunshine of the symbolic realm. She is the only kind of lady that warrants being looked at, paid attention to, or acknowledged. In order to be listened to, a lady should be nice to look at. There should be no doubt as to her sexual desirability, but this will undermine her argument, no matter how sophisticated. We are not interested in sadness, sophistication, or experience. We secretly believe that female subjectivity is filth."

-You Play the Girl by Carina Chocano

#reading

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"'The girl' was the adult version of 'the princess'. As a kid, I'd believed the princess was the protagonist, because she'd seemed most central to the story. The word protagonist comes from the Greek for 'the leading actor in a contest or cause', and a protagonist is a person who wants something and does something to get it. 'The girl' doesn't act, though-- she behaves. She has no cause, but a plight. She doesn't want anything, she is wanted. She isn't a winner, she's won. She doesn't self-actualize but aids the hero in self-actualization."

-You Play the Girl by Carina Chocano

#reading

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"The 'cult of true womanhood' was the capitalist answer to the 'woman question'-- as in, What is to be done about them and their infernal demands? It was the trope versus women of the Victorian era, the original backlash against liberal reforms that played out in the press, popular media, and advertising, and it dominated the popular media in overt and covert, pandering and hectoring, polemical and service-oriented ways, as it does now. It sold papers and magazines, inspired sermons, launched letters to the editor, and moved a lot of soap. It provided a materialist answer to an existential question, filling the void left by the end of the old, 'divine' feudal social order and replaced it with the 'natural' social order based in 'science'. The 'cult of true womanhood' split the symbolic world in two, sorting everything into categories. To men went the 'public sphere' of commerce, politics, law, culture, reason, and science; and to women-- 'true women'-- went the 'private sphere' of the home, the children, morals, and feeling. From here sprang the notion of wifehood and motherhood as a 'job', and not just any job but a calling so noble and exalted that it could be done only for love, not for anything as corrupting as money or status. The 'true woman' was tasked with creating a serene, restorative refuge for her husband, far removed from the filthy, corrupting world of capital where he went out to stalk his prey. In compensation for her complete civic and financial disenfranchisement, the upper-middle-class wife was given the run of the house-- assuming she was fortunate enough to acquire one in marriage. The job included managing the servants, administrating the household budget, overseeing the social, moral, and spiritual development of her husband and children, and devoting herself to accurately telegraphing her husband's status through 'the ladylike consumption of luxury goods'. Safe at home in her 'walled garden', she stoked and quelled her social and status anxieties at once by heeding the counsel of magazines such as Godey's Lady's Book (1830-1878), which offered fashion tips, hints on practical housekeeping, advice on social-etiquette questions, intimate glimpses into the lives of aristocrats and socialites, and advertisements featuring all the latest must-haves. The stuff that made a lady a lady. That few could afford the lifestyles portrayed here, or keep to all the contradictory advice, was entirely beside the point. (Working-class women, with their labor for wages, were always too 'real' to be 'true'.) 'True womanhood' was nothing if not aspirational anyway, because there's nothing like trying to live up to an impossible standard to keep a woman in her place."

-You Play the Girl by Carina Chocano

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I know white people especially struggle with this concept but like when a Palestinian, or any other group of Black or brown people are calling you in and making a general statement about the state of the allyship for our causes, and making criticism of common behaviours or whatever else, that is NOT an invitation for you to confess your own shortcomings or your journey of self-improvement. Especially not under our posts. Make your own post if you really feel like it. But we don't need to hear your personal story of how you ignored our long-standing genocide until you saw enough people doing the right thing and you decided to follow. Keep that to yourself.

These posts are meant for you to REFLECT ON YOURSELF! BY YOURSELF! QUIETLY! And decide on your OWN what part of your behaviours you can identify being criticized in these posts and fix them!! And if you need help you can ask a question without necessarily giving us all the details of how you used to be ignorant or whatever. We're not here to hand out forgiveness we're trying to help coordinate and organize people to be more cohesive and we're giving you tips to be better allies. We're not giving you counciling for white guilt!!!

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By 昌夜

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"A pregnant Palestinian woman, among other Palestinians, was detained on Friday by Israeli occupation forces that carried out multiple raids across the occupied West Bank, Al Mayadeen's correspondent reported.

Local sources reported that the Israeli forces raided the Jalazone camp north of Ramallah at dawn, storming several homes and vandalizing them. The Jalazone Media Center reported that Israeli forces detained Jihad Obeidat Nakhla, a 33-year-old teacher, in addition to a three-month pregnant mother of four, and two young men, Ahmed Mustafa al-Nawash and Muath Mamoun al-Ramahi.

The town of Qabatiya in south Jenin was stormed again this morning by Israeli forces, just a few hours after their withdrawal. Occupation soldiers besieged and raided the Zakarna cemetery, before raiding the homes of Palestinian youth Ahmed Jassim Awad Nazal and Asid al-Zaghloul and detaining them.

Israeli forces also raided the towns of Azzun and Jayus east of Qalqilya and raided several houses. In Azzun an Israeli special force besieged the house of Ashraf Salim before raiding and vandalizing it. Afterward, the occupation forces withdrew toward the neighboring town of Jayus and raided another house.

Furthermore, Israeli forces arrested the brothers Ayman and Anas Saber al-Zaru after raiding their family home in the southern area of al-Khalil city.

In the Balata camp in Nablus, Palestinian youth forced an Israeli unit to withdraw following hours of confrontations.

On Thursday, our correspondent reported that Palestinian teenager Khaled Arqawi was shot by Israeli occupation forces during their raid on Ramallah.

This unfolds amid ongoing confrontations in the West Bank, especially since the beginning of Israeli aggression on the Gaza Strip. Towns and cities in the West Bank endure daily raids, alongside extensive arrest campaigns, resulting in an increase in the number of martyrs and injuries from confrontations with the occupation forces."

26 April 24

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How do I write to everyone who has left their signature on my heart? I fall in love every day…]

ODDITIES can be found here, and is a 23 page compilation of various poems, prose, journal entries and featuring a memoir-prose hybrid style piece; totaling 16 entries. Check it out!

#ref #omg imma pick this up and maybe read some at poetry sharing night #gna make my friends who are in their tumblr renaissance era rn follow u