#blaming

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

#toxic parents #emotional abuse #narcissism #aftermath #scapegoating #black sheep #blaming #deflection #darvo #estranged #no contact #maternal narcissism

[worte-mitohne-sinn]

Niemand sieht die Anstrengung die es mich kostet aufzustehen

Sie sehen nur wie ich letztendlich aufstehe und fragen mich warum erst jetzt

#aufstehen #depression #angst #antriebslos #gesellschaft #selbsthass #blaming #not okay #familie #vorwurf #hass #broken

[shaniacsboogara]

living on four hours of sleep and a dream

#average boog post #blaming #twf

[cat-eye-nebula]

Traits of (an) Emotionally Immature Parent(s)

● Highly defensive/reactive - low frustration tolerance, emotional outbursts, unpredictable behaviour, blame other for feelings. ● Emotionally unavailable - ignore childs feelings, dismiss childs interests, expact the child to raise him/herself, show no affection. ● All focus was on them - expact the child to never upset the parent, blaming the child, childs thoughts and feelings don't matter. ● They're obsessed with appearance - praising the child in public and critical in private, no interest in childs feelings.

#psychology #emotionally immature parents #emotional abuse #parentification #dr nicole lepera #immature #frustration #emotional #unpredictable #blaming #dismissive #attachment styles #Youtube #childhood trauma #repeated micro traumas #emotional well being #feelings #parents

[stoicmike]

There’s no need to blame yourself for things that aren’t your fault -- when the things that are will suffice. -- Michael Lipsey

#blame #blaming #guilt #guilt. #guilt..

[bunnybuns-art]

Day 3:

*responsibility*

"The responsibility of being a manager... A leader of your dreams, those might be impossible to others,but not for you... "

We back on the road baby . Gotta say love this demonth thing stuff are going dark now

(Explanations for the drawing)

Joey's good side blaming him in all what he have done to those poor souls...

#joey #comics #artwork #artists on tumblr #art #image comics #bendy #batim bendy #batim comics #batim #ask bendy #joey drew #joey drew studios #ink demon #demonth #the ink demonth #2022 #art challenge #blaming #responsibility #artist #help

[eric-sadahire]

Did you hear that joke about gaslighting?

No.

Yes, you have.

#gaslighting #didyou hear this joke #yesyouhave #blaming #victim #yousoundcrazy #maybeyoudreamedit #notcool #acrylic #painting #artoftheday #dailyartwork #artwork #artists on tumblr #flomm #flommist #kunst #outsiderart #lowbrowart #beermat #beercoaster #bierdeckel #handpaintedbeercoaster #perspective #irony

[ablackwomansurvivingrape]

Verbal Abuse: 10 Signs and How to Get Help

1. Degrading your self worth

It's common for verbal abusers to try to make you feel bad about yourself. Zrenchik says they may use statements such as: 

"You're worthless."

"You're an embarrassment."

"You are not important to me or anyone."

"You are disgusting."

"You're crazy."

They may say things like this to lower your self-worth, in hopes of keeping you trapped in an abusive relationship. "When you have low self-esteem, you are easier to control and will tolerate intolerable behavior," Zrenchik says.

2. Making you believe you're not liked by others

Zrenchik says verbal abuse is all about using power to control someone. If an abuser can keep you isolated from others, they'll have even more control and influence over you. 

They may criticize your words or behaviors, saying something like, "This is why no one likes you." This has the potential to put a greater distance between you and your loved ones, since your abuser's attempts may cause you to believe that you're unliked or unloved by others, says Zrenchik.

3. Manipulating you

An abuser may use manipulative statements to coerce or guilt you into doing something that you do otherwise, says Christie Kederian, licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice.

For example, they might say, "If you really loved me, you would stay home with me tonight instead of going out with your friends," or "If you really loved me, you would keep the details of our relationship private."

4. Any kind of name-calling

Zrenchik says name-calling is designed to harass or make fun of someone, so you can be sure when your partner is calling you these things, they're trying to put you down and hurt your self-esteem. 

If your partner calls you names like "dumb," "fat," "stupid," or any other type of insult, they are engaging in a primary form of verbal abuse, says Kederian. This is degrading to you and makes your partner feel more in control. 

5. Threatening to leave 

Verbal abusers may threaten to leave the relationship if things don't go exactly the way they want. 

For instance, a threat such as "If you don't do this, I'll leave you," can cause a victim to cater to the abuser's wishes. Threats and if/then statements are meant to scare the victim into staying with the abuser and under their control, Kederian says. 

6. Condescending comments and put-downs

An abuser might make snide, condescending remarks to put you down and try to make you feel bad about yourself so that you question your abilities and self-worth. 

For example, Kederian says they might tell you, "No wonder you can never get a promotion, you're always behind on your work and you can never get anything done." Again, this goes back to lowering your self-esteem so you're easier to control.

7. Gaslighting

A major tactic of verbal abusers is gaslighting, where an abuser says things that make you question reality and second guess yourself. 

Elizabeth Jarquin, a licenced marriage and family therapist in private practice and adjunct professor at Northcentral University, says a few types of gaslighting are:

When the abuser tries to convince you that your feelings or thoughts are wrong.

When the abuser straight up tells you that your emotions or feelings are wrong.

When the abuser undermines you, saying something like, "Are you sure? What you're saying doesn't sound true."

8. Ignoring you

An abuser may use their words (or no words at all) by either not acknowledging your existence, says Jarquin.  This is an attempt by the abuser to keep the power in their hands and cause you to feel belittled. 

A 2018 study found that this is a common method of emotional abuse. The majority of study participants (61%) said their romantic partner refused to talk to them in an attempt to punish or hurt them. 

9. Not letting you speak

A verbal abuser may not allow you to speak. "Essentially, they are not allowing the other person to communicate with them. By doing this, they are exerting control over the individual's voice," says Jarquin. 

When you don't even have a chance to say your piece or stand up for yourself, there is a clear power imbalance in the relationship.

10. Blaming you

Verbal abusers may blame you for their own toxic behavior. For example, Jarquin says an abuser might yell, "It's your fault I screamed at you. You pissed me off." This is because abusers often refuse to take ownership for their own actions.

11. Pushing you to hurt yourself

"There is no more dangerous and damaging act a verbal abuser can take than trying to push you to the point of self-harm or suicide. If your partner is telling you to harm yourself, this is a clear sign of danger," Zrenchik says. 

For example, they might explicitly say something like, "Why don't you just go kill yourself?" 

This language is explicitly used to attempt to hurt you and put you at risk — especially if you have a history of mental illness or suicide attempts. 

#verbal abuse #signs #gaslighting #manipulation #blaming #condescending #put downs #name calling

[loveandthepsyche]

#John gottman #take responsibility #conscious communication #defensive #empathy #blaming #unity #communion #together

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

Of the 19 hijackers who carried out the Sept 11 attacks:

15 were from Saudi Arabia (a powerful/oil-rich country the U.S. works hard to maintain diplomatic relations with)

2 were from the United Arab Emirates (also a powerful/oil-rich country the U.S. works hard to maintain diplomatic relations with)

1 was from Egypt, 1 from Lebanon.

None of the hijackers were from Iraq.

None of the Sept 11 hijackers were Iraqi.

None of the 9/11 hijackers were from Iraq.

#9/11 #serious post #not a shitpost #this should be one of the first things kids learn when they learn about the 9/11 attacks #politics #this is just...it's such an essential and brazen fact and i rarely see basic outrage over it #i want outrage. i want fury. i want disgust over the way fundamental facts are disguised and discarded and downplayed #because there are things we should KNOW. basic fact we should ALL KNOW. and they are tucked away in the footnotes. #and no this is NOT to put the blame on other middle eastern countries #we know this was carried out by a specific terrorist organization not a national government #but King George the Second decided (and was encouraged by his cabinet!) to invade a nation! #a nation that was not at all related or responsible!!! #a dictatorship to be sure--but a dictatorship that King George the First had been happy to support #so what changed? why did we go in guns blazing to DEMOLISH a country *we had NO PLANS OF REPAIRING*??? #well. because they wanted a villain didn't they. a nice clean war. clarity of purpose. us the heroes against them the villains #and when you're in that mindframe--truth is irrelevant. you can pick your villain (your victim) by rolling a roulette wheel #truth is irrelevant #worse: to the people in charge #truth is a HINDRANCE #'Alternative facts' existed long before it became a catchphrase #facts don't matter. truth doesn't matter. the impulses of a handful of volatile & rich & power-high people--that's History. congratulations

[xmybipolarmindx]

Hard On Myself by Jea

As I delve more into counseling I am starting to explore and better understand my emotions. Looking at one of the biggest things that is a major hurdle for me. I guess being hard on myself is something I struggle with because growing up all I knew was negativity, anger, and resentment. Though in reality, the process is not linear, it might be helpful for us to break down what ‘forgiveness’, or…

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#Abuse #Anxiety #Bipolar #Bipolar Disorder #Blaming #Childhood Trauma #Depression #Emotional Healing #Faith #Family #Forgiveness #Jessica Ward #Mental Health #Mental Health Awareness #Mental Health Blog #Mental Health Recovery #Mental Illness #My Bipolar Mind #Resentment #Trauma

[thebestestdancers]

why should palestinians have to leave behind their land because israel wont stop killing them. why should anyone have to leave behind their life and memories and sentimental value just because an aggressor is left unchallenged. please think this sentiment through and delete it from your thoughts. instead of blaming an oppressed people for living in a hostile land, ask who is making that land hostile to live in.

#this is vaguely worded except the first part because ive seen thsi sentiment time and time again #when the trans genocide began everyoen started blaming trans peopel for living in florida isntead of the people making it unlivable #every timw a cop kills a person of color everyones told to just move somewehre w better cops (doesnt exist) > #< rather rhan examine who gave the cops such pwoer and what use the cops are anyways #i know its rasier to blame the victims of this kind of thing. the oppressors deisgn it taht way and encourage that sentiment #but oleeeeeease im begging u. navajo peopel should not just give up their reservation bc it sucks. whyd the us put them there?

[ohnoidontexist]

#you're #not #grown #until #you #know #how #to #communicate #apologize #be #truthful #and #accept #accountability #without #blaming #someone #else

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

I can still FEEL this day…

We were at a family party so she wasn’t going to do anything, but all the discomfort is apparent in this photo. My parents were notorious for walking away from events like these and then complaining later, usually making it all my fault. This was like 15 years ago.

#toxic parents #dysfunctional family #nmom #emotional abuse #black sheep #judgemental #blaming #complaining

[nipuni]

Archangel Aziraphale and Archdemon Crowley 😌

A step by step process of this will be available at my Patreon on october 1st!

#good omens #aziraphale #anthony j crowley #crowley #ineffable husbands #my art #I will level up every character I lay my hands on I can't help it #I blame my mmorpg history

[gideonisms]

I LOVE being alive so I can be mediocre at SO many different hobbies

#this isn't sarcasm at all i love to try different tasks i get mediocre at a new thing every year #i love to learn about other people's hobbies!! #i am having a great time #there are so many things to do who can blame me for getting distracted from life tasks that are boring when there are all these fun ones