#aspec anon

[crying-in-converse]

How can you be aro/ace and bi?

Not trying to be rude btw just curious

ohh yess good question. and there are actually multiple answers.

so the definition of aroace is little to no romantic or sexual attraction. so you can be bi with that little attraction.

there are also a label oriented aroace which is where someone doesnt experience ANY romantic or sexual attraction but experiences other attraction that is significant enough to label. so you can label yourself as bi oriented, lesbian oriented, gay oriented, pan oriented, etc.

aroace is an umbrella term for anyone under the spectrum of aroace. so demiromantic/demisexual, grayromantic/graysexual, etc. if you fall under the spectrum of aroace you can use the label aroace. (only if u are on both spectrums though!) so you can be bi and demiromantic/demisexual, etc

#noromo35 talks #anon asks #asks #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual #oriented aroace #demiromantic #demisexual #graysexual #grayromantic #aspec #aro spec #ace spec #queer #bisexual #bi #bi aroace #acespec #arospec #aromanticism #asexuality #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum

[roachemoji]

I said it in the early 2010s and I'll say it again. I don't understand aphobia at all especially from within the queer community like we've all faught to EXIST and date and fuck who we want, but some of yall can't accept there are people out there who don't wanna fuck at all? or don't feel sexually attraction? or don't wanna date? or don't feel romantic attraction? get your head out of your ass???

we're all here to date and fuck unless we're not. it's that easy

#bo posting #talky #do i tag this or do i just set it free to my majority ace followers #specifically mutuals #like most of yall are aspec too and ilu #acespec #asexual #aromantic #if i get one stupid comment btw im shutting it down #wont argue with anons either hfjfjd #block on sight babeyyy dont test me

[knifearo]

ultimately i will always be fine being the mean nasty problematic aro cause guess what. you bitches wouldn't like me if i was the sweetest most niceys guy on earth either. so i think i will just make posts about my frustration with allo people without censoring myself for the sake of mollifying some bitter losers on an ego trip with nothing better to do

#for real if you're on the internet pushing ace exclusionism in the year of our lord 2023 i am laughing SO hard at you #this long and you STILL haven't gotten a life? jesus christ. what a pathetic tragedy #anyway tee hee i love receiving hate anons negative attention is still attention #talking #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aspec

[altijd-november]

ASPEC PEOPLE ARE BEAUTIFUL <2

#targetted at that one anon #i hope you fall off ten chairs #echo rambles #aspec #aspec pride #aroace #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #ace pride #aro pride

[darkcircles4lyfe]

This doesn't have anything to do with anything, but i had a talk with a friend a few days ago, about shonen biasis and the way this shapes our expectations, and mha came up so i remembered how so many people apply those biasis HEAVILY into the manga, to the point that they sound like they're looking for a different story.

And one of those things that it seemed to be MOST talked about is exactly bkdk's relationship.

I have seen many times people from the fandom (sometimes really angrily) point out how in most cases Katsuki seems to basically take up not one, but four roles in Izuku's life and this includes putting him in situations that people associate with the MC's love interest, and it is weird that, despite Izuku "having a girl" for people to make assumptions about, he seems to completely repulse any female character that could be the counter part to Izuku's.

And this made us wonder if Katsuki's placement in those roles and lack of interest was made specifically because the author precisely did not want the actions that both do for each other as romantic but a whole another thing entirely, as a subversion for the these classic tropes, as he did by making the conflict between Ochako and Himiko not a "rivals fighting for the affection of a boy" but something that is connected to the plot of these characters instead.

Oh you bet! I am always down to talk about this, because I think about it a lotttt.

This reminds me, recently I remembered a funny habit I used to have with books I read. Like, back in middle school. I used to start by flipping directly to the last page and reading the final sentence. Usually this did not spoil anything whatsoever, but sure enough, by the time I read through the whole book, that sentence would take on new meaning.

So I started musing about what it would be like if only I could do this with bnha, if everything was already out. It made me feel so nostalgic…

Will the last panel be something grand, or something small? Hopeful or sad? Distant? Intimate? A parting message to the reader? Will it look like almost nothing of consequence to the unknowing eye—yet burst with hard-hitting subtext?

Of course I wonder about all the twists and reveals that might be still ahead of us, but it’s kinda soothing to think about how the whole thing could be put to rest. Because then I realize I’m not worried.

For once, this is not because the story is following so many tropes so predictably that I know exactly, in so many words, how it will end. It’s more like the story is a close friend who I’ve gotten to know well enough that everything they do is so “them” it makes me smirk. I'm often marveling at how Horikoshi has managed to pull all this off. How is it that (at least here in the west) people who aren't really paying attention call it basic and cookie-cutter. Even a Japanese animator called it "classic," and this interview shows such obvious dissonance between Hori and the interviewer, just... wow. But it's so clear that bnha has broken just about every rule in the book at this point, so much so that I struggle to condense it into words. I'm like--*gestures broadly at everything*--why haven't more people picked up on it??

Yet we still get bombarded with people saying "it's a shonen, c'mon, we all know how this will end." Um. No you don't. I KNOW there has to be a bunch of people who are secretly frustrated by Kacchan taking up all the roles and getting all the moments. It's not even in a mysogynistic way, because Kacchan is the most anti-dudebro character imaginable. Bkdk's relationship isn't intended for them and they know it... and you know what, I'm starting to ramble. You've heard all this before. The thing I should really be focusing on in your ask is the part where you mentioned how you and your friend were speculating about bkdk ending up as "a whole other thing entirely" rather than simply romantic.

Well, fuck it, I've been biting my tongue, but now might as well be the time I talk about this. I got into a bit of a disagreement with someone over it once and then I shut up. Because it's very difficult to approach the subject without being lumped in with those people who see bkdk as "brotherly" (ew) or otherwise try to push some "crisis of male friendship" agenda, or at the very least without being accused of enabling people to make excuses against bkdk being canon ad infinitum. So let me be clear that I do NOT want bkdk to have an ambiguous or open ending. I want their complexity and importance to be acknowledged. I want them to use their words. I think we may have created a bit of a false dichotomy there.

I am aromantic, and to suggest romantic relationships are inherently the most important and intimate goes against every fiber of my being. I also reject the idea that cut-and-dry gay representation is more desirable just because it is more easily understood by the masses than aspec representation or representation of relationships "beyond" both romantic and platonic. We recognize how ridiculous it is for people to expect Izu*cha at this point, right? Well, the reason they're so confident anyway isn't just because of heteronormativity. It's also because of amatonormativity, the assumption that romantic attraction trumps all: no matter how much focus bkdk get, Izuku blushed at Ochako, so that automatically makes them more "important." THAT is the notion that I want to challenge most. More than anything, I want bkdk's relationship to be fully acknowledged because they have so much more going for them than just attraction.

You and your friend make an excellent point, that it would be very much in line with Horikoshi's taste and the patterns of his writing so far if he chose to subvert the shonen romance trope not just by giving it to two boys, but also by disregarding its premise entirely. It's unlikely he'd try to stuff them into such a copy-paste ending right at the end.

So maybe they won't get the blushy confession, the obligatory kiss, the wedding, the 2.5 kids and a white picket fence. That's fine, we shouldn't pretend those tired tropes are suddenly revolutionary just because they're gay. But don't be disappointed! Without them, we have more room for things that are actually personally meaningful to bkdk to stand out and receive the nuance they deserve: talking through their feelings openly, building each other up like no one else can, understanding each other like no one else can, smiling at each other, embracing, holding hands, rushing to the other in the hospital, being glued at the hip (or even closer), healing mutual trauma, putting each other first in all things. Maybe we'll also get confirmation on Ochako's side as she moves on from her crush on Izuku. You know what other shonen manga took this exact angle as a way of subverting tropes and presenting genuine complexity? Blue Flag! There are so many ways to do bkdk justice.

Even a kiss isn't out of the question, if the right opportunity comes along. A perfect example of what I'm talking about is Good Omens (major season 2 spoilers) because the kiss between Crowley and Aziraphale was not at all about canonizing them. It was an expression of pain and desperation that just made sense at that particular moment. Neil Gaiman was adamant that if it took that kiss to understand the context of their relationship, you really weren't paying attention. I respect the hell out of that.

Recently I was even daydreaming about bkdk getting something similar to the sort of uh, shall we say tasteful nudity, that togachako got, because of how Izuku appears in the vestige realm.

Ya know like not in an nsfw way but in like a "this is so deeply intimate and soft that I feel like I'm intruding" kind of way... yeah. Because it represents vulnerability and openness and acceptance of someone as they are. And I don't care if people call that bait. It's not. It's beautiful. It’s honest.

#asks #anon #lin answers #bnha manga #mha #boku no hero academia #my hero academia #bakugou katsuki #midoriya izuku #bakudaku #bkdk #dekubaku #dkbk #aspec #queerplatonic

[aroace-spec-empire]

You were given the mental capacity of a peanut.

WHAT THE HECK IS THIS ASK-

This is so random fellas I can't even... 💀

I can't tell if this is trying to insult aroacespecs, trying to be funny, or if this is just a random unhinged anon who felt like leaving an unhinged ask 💀⚰️✌️

#aroace spec empire #asexual #acespec mafia #acespec #aromantic #arospec mafia #aroace #arospec #aroace spec #aromantism #aroacespec #aroacespec mafia #aspec mafia #unhinged anon alert fellas #queer country verse #queer countryverse #gimmick blog/side blog #main blog is crystalsandbubbletea #incoming telegram

[klavierpanda]

Bro...aroaces are literally the most represented everywhere. And you're still complaining. Go ask aroallos and aceallos about being recognised lol

The post wasn't even about representation, it's about the fact that even in aspec spaces there is a tendency to leave out the aro part of aroace and just viewing those people as asexual where being aro is an afterthought. Do you not see how that is also harmful for both aroallos and alloaces?

In the case of aroallos it's the fact that they're forgotten about because they aren't asexual and therefore their identity isn't even at the forefront of most people's minds when discussing aspec stuff. Their aroness is erased because it is not accompanied by asexuality.

In the case of alloaces there is the underlying assumption that romantic attraction isn't felt because there is still the assumption that aroace and asexual are the same thing. The fact they do feel romantic attraction is erased by the fact they're asexual.

The underlying issue here is that there isn't a great understanding of how different attractions interact with each other and the different labels we have to describe different experiences, even within the aspec community.

I made the post because an irl aspec group that I'm in were talking about the aroace character in the new series of Heartstopper and almost all of them referred to him as asexual. I have not watched Heartstopper (romance stuff doesn't interest me) but I was informed that there's actually a stronger focus on romantic attraction, i.e. the aro part in his aroace identity. As well as a consistent feeling that my aroness was erased when I identified as aroace and is ultimately one of the reasons I dropped the ace part of the label.

#this really isn't the slam dunk you think it is anon #for one you didn't even get the right take away from the post #(but what can I expect on the awful reading comprehension website) #and for another I have spent years in the aspec community and I am pretty seasoned when it comes to this sort of discourse #it's literally just a distraction tactic so that ultimately nothing gets done #the only reason I've answered is because it provides a nice opportunity for me to explain things in more detail #aro #arospec #aroace #ace #acespec #aromantic #asexual #aspec #ask panda

[kiwinatorwaffles]

I'm curious, if an romantic person were to drink a love potion would their aromanticism cancel the effects?

considering that love potions aren't a real thing, i can't give you a live example and tell you the results. however if they were real i think they would just make an aro person hyperfixate really hard on a task or a media because apparently falling in love is like hyperfixating on a person

#birdhouse inquiries #anon tag #aromantic #kiwi’s aspec posting

[bloggingboutburgers]

I know you probably hear this a lot but as a fellow aroace, I'm super glad I came across this blog! I love how you talk about the various aro/ace spectrum and how romance could be portrayed differently in media. I occasionally come back here for references since I plan to have one of my future stories have my main cast within the aro/ace spectrum :D

Thank you so much for writing us some rep hehe èwé

I'm glad I can help, honestly I'm just grateful I can share my experience and be listened to at all, let alone with genuine interest to learn! Didn't use to be like that just even a couple years ago, so I'm grateful TwT

#anon #aspec #asexual #aromantic #aroace

[mojo-chojo]

Me opening your new scarian animatipn with „be prepared for a suggestive jumpscare, it’s mojo’s stuff after all” and yet being jumpscared with the first scene anyway

[dont get me wrong i really aprecciate your artwork teehee]

sdhgfskjdhgfjkd okay yeah fair i mean i kinda forgot thats there but like its not THAT...suggestive? i made way worse stuff? i mean no...yeah....okay no nevermind i dont have any excuse ahahaahahahah

you know you unlocked an achievement when your name is used for the dead dove meme

#its kinda funny bein on aspec and being known as one of the horniest person in the fandom #my art #anon ask answer #mcyt fanart #hermitshipping

[aroallo-culture-is]

this inspired me to write a bit of a prose poem. It’s not a vent, but it is longer than most of your other submissions

Aroallo culture is when you’re standing at the stove in your tiny laminate box of an apartment, simmering pasta with beef and tomato sauce, and playing lofi from your glitchy Bluetooth speaker, when you hear a knock at your door. Your Tinder hookup comes in, sporting cargo shorts and crocs, and you have a home cooked meal to offer her — after all, it was 2 hours of public transit for her to get here. Aroallo culture is when, after a rambling bouncing rubber-ball path of a conversation, you begin to touch each other. (Trans culture is when neither of you need to focus overmuch on what’s between your thighs.) The light powers down outside the window as she teaches you how to bite and suck at her skin to leave a proper mark. You learn how to let her teeth go deep into you, too. Aroallo culture is when you lay there and look softly into her eyes, stroking her hair into place behind her ear, like they do in the movies, feeling like a colorblind painter dipping your brush into the most brilliant crimson pigment, hoping you’re making something beautiful for her. You listen to her talk about the one time she might have fallen in love, but it’s only a sentence or two before she trails off. She listens to you about the sincere simplicity of a one-night-stand, how it makes you believe in strangers beyond the label ‘stranger’, and she agrees with you that there’s something big and mysterious about how neither of you will see the other again after this.

Aroallo culture is when, a few weeks later, she comes back for another night in order to catch a morning dentist appointment near your place  — super convenient.

#aro #aromantic #lgbtq #lgbtqia #alloaro #aroallo #aroallo culture is #anonymous #submission #aromantic allosexual #aspec #very cool anon!!

[aroaceconfessions]

I have 0 interest in sex irl but online I write the filthiest, kinkiest monsterfucker porn you could imagine. Tired of the expectation that I have to have the attitude of a nun in order to be a 'good ace'.

Also it's really funny when people call people who write erotic fanfiction of ace/ace-coded characters acephobic. Like lol I'm the one doing it (it's about the themes, those sexy, sexy themes). Not even god can stop me from making the barbies kiss so why would I stop for some mean-spirited killjoy online?

Submitted April 16, 2023

#you're so real for that anon #asexual #ace #aspec #acespec #representation #fandom #fanfiction #fandom discourse #shipping discourse

[garbagechocolate]

sams/laes gameplay videos are just for the silly. it doesn't mean that moon is aroace just because he said something relating to that in a gameplay video. plus it sounded like he was just joking so...

you know me reblogging tsams confessions i agree with isn't a invitation for you to come into my inbox and start stuff right

#trashlate #ask #anon #textpost #text post #also anon you're on lethal levels of copium #More than me tbh #I get ONE aspec character a year and they killed him let me believe in this

[ocprompts]

this blog made me realize that i accidentally wrote one of my top fav oc's so autistic coded and i dont know how i managed that. like. he has a special interest and everything. how did i do that Accidentally?? lmao

(the special interest is biblical angels if u were wondering. the way he is ab the bible is so heretical and it's SO fun to write)

thats so funny lol, i make my ocs autistic all the time, it just. happens

#and aspec too #like. i dont plan on it happening it just clicks for me at some point #anon #not a prompt #asks

[ask-prismaknight]

*shamelessly flirts with Dark Matter Blade*

Strike two for the poor loveless anon 😔

#anon #kirby #waddle dee #dark matter #dark matter blade #dark matter swordsman #not aspec this time hes just dumb as hell (affectionate) #he doesnt know what flirting is. or really love in general

[nonbinarydva]

Can you elaborate on what acephobic bits are being said in the aro tags cos I can't see them at all. Like it's more likely to be Terfs invading the tags (that I've blocked this can't see) than anything.

I just wanna know so I know what to look out for /gen

To simplify-

Also, you might be right abt it being predominantly terfs invading our communities in an attempt to cause infighting.

#ive just been seeing a lot of like. sepratist things trying to divide the aspec community #as an aroallo it seems unnecessary #ask #anon #idk if i explained that well 😅 #mine #no id #ace #aro #aro allo #aspec #i follow the aro tag and theres just been a lot of ppl really mad abt being associated with aces and it just aint it #also in hindsight its mostly been in the aroallo tags